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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please

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Speaker 1: letter on the air live. Yes, that's always for you, Jay,

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Speaker 1: just like this one. Okay, you never know it might

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Speaker 1: be your letter. Buggle up and hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. It's gonna be me and the guys today, Jay,

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Speaker 1: Junior and Tommy will give their response after I give mine,

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Speaker 1: and they're gonna love this. They already love the subject.

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Speaker 1: She had all my passwords. Here we go, Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm at thirty four year old male

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Speaker 1: and my fiance is thirty one years old. Our wedding

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Speaker 1: is planned for this November, but I may have to

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Speaker 1: call it off. The problem started over a direct message

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Speaker 1: I got on Instagram from a female I used to

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Speaker 1: have sex with but we never dated. Her message was, hey,

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Speaker 1: it's been a minute, how have you been. I responded

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Speaker 1: that I was doing great, and I asked how she's been.

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Speaker 1: I told her it was a nice hearing from her,

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Speaker 1: and then ended with be safe, take care. The next day,

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Speaker 1: my fiance asked me if I told all the women

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Speaker 1: I'll be fine having sex with the same person for

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Speaker 1: the rest of my life. I had to remind her

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Speaker 1: women from my past. At that point, I knew she

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Speaker 1: had been snooping. She finally admitted that she's had all

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Speaker 1: of my passwords from my phone, email, bank bank account app,

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Speaker 1: my credit monitoring app, my social media account, and the

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Speaker 1: code to my small safe I keep my gun locked in.

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Speaker 1: She's had them since twenty nineteen, and she's been able

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Speaker 1: to get the new ones when I update them. She

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Speaker 1: I ignored her for a while, and by the third

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Speaker 1: day she had changed my phone and email code, so

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Speaker 1: I can't get my messages. What do I do with

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Speaker 1: this crazy woman? Well, this is who you fell in

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Speaker 1: love with, now, isn't it. I want to marry her

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Speaker 1: and all of that. Well, is she out of line

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Speaker 1: for all this? Is she violating your privacy? Does she

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Speaker 1: go too far? Yeah, of course she did. I think

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Speaker 1: she did. You know, she's in everything. She doesn't have

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Speaker 1: to be in everything. But here's why she is. She

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Speaker 1: did it because she doesn't trust you. She doesn't. She's

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Speaker 1: just she's not a person who trusts very easily. She

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Speaker 1: doesn't trust anything about you, any part of you. She

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Speaker 1: hasn't for quite a while. You said, since twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 1: That's like a couple of years. And this is a problem,

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Speaker 1: and I think you should. I do think you should

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Speaker 1: but you can try. You've never had trust, and there's

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Speaker 1: no need of you know, trying to move forward. If

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Speaker 1: to be easy because although you didn't come right out

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Speaker 1: And that's how you knew she'd been snooping, because that's

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Speaker 1: this is a one sided letter. It's just your side.

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Speaker 1: What she did is crazy. I got all of that

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Speaker 1: divorce if you don't try to fix this problem, if

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Speaker 1: This is a lot. This is a lot. Jay dude, dude, dude, dude,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it one more damn dude. You have

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Speaker 1: damned time. If you shower, the phones are now waterproof.

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Speaker 1: at all times. You leave the house, you forgot your lunch.

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Speaker 1: You leave the house, you don't have your phone. Damn it.

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Speaker 1: We're going back to get that. You're not a man.

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Speaker 1: I'm disgusted at you as a man that would let

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Speaker 1: a man. Men, don't let this happen. Real, real, damn men.

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Speaker 1: Don't go out like this of you. Man. We need

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Speaker 1: to We need to come get your brotherhood card right away.

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Speaker 1: This is you've lost it. You've lost it. You lost it, dude.

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Speaker 1: this And wait, what you're man? Whatever? Are you quite done?

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Speaker 1: The subject up today's letter? She had all my passwords.

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Speaker 1: That's where those cust of shy Anthony Brown. You're here

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Speaker 1: in the background, all right. I would tell anybody this happened.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't even I would. Well, here's my thing. Share

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Speaker 1: right for you, Thank you, Jay. We'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of this Strawberry letter coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. The subject is she had all my passwords.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: to all right, guys, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The

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Speaker 1: sub she had all my passwords? A young man wrote

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Speaker 1: think I'm a stupid fool. So now what she's done

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Junior, and then we'll hear from

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Speaker 1: the nephew. Go. You know you know Jay, you were

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Speaker 1: right earlier, Jay, this is a horror movie. This is

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what this is. This is a horror movie.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't who gets this much stuff from

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Speaker 1: one man? The password for your phone, email, bank account,

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Speaker 1: app yo, bank, a credit monerate. Okay, how does she

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Speaker 1: get all this? First of all, why would you get

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Speaker 1: engaged to someone who worked down at the FBA? Why

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Speaker 1: would you do that? Exactly when she said fettering you

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Speaker 1: him investigations, you got on a knee. How else she

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Speaker 1: gonna get all this stuff? She got to work somewhere. So, brother,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, like, we can't help you,

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Speaker 1: but but but you are to help us. Oh yes

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Speaker 1: you are, Oh yes you are. So fellas, Uh take

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Speaker 1: note of this. So today I'm calling today's code changing day,

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Speaker 1: colde changing Day. All fellas change codes today. Alert alert

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Speaker 1: April twenty third, a code changing day all of us today,

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Speaker 1: when you're buy yourself changing code on your phone. Also,

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Speaker 1: it's new phone day, everybody. Just go by and get

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Speaker 1: your upbraide from your car right now, all side, It's

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Speaker 1: email exchange day. Go ahead, get you a new email account.

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Speaker 1: a heartbeat, you will, all right, Come on, Tommy, this

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Speaker 1: of fact, she got so security, she got credit card,

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Speaker 1: It is time to leave. Yeah, she's a little crazy.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't trust you at all. That's not a little crazy.

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Speaker 1: but it ain't worth dealing with that. Quit that Quit that.

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Speaker 1: I know you're doing that. Man, this is one more time.

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Speaker 1: How she hijack your facial recognition? How she get that? Boy?

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Speaker 1: I got my phone? My phone is programed? What I die?

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Speaker 1: It's gonna self destruct. I'm just telling you right now,

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Speaker 1: I'm with you. I just I don't bring I don't

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Speaker 1: even bring my phone in the house, Tommy, they don't

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Speaker 1: Jay and Junior if I leave you for y'all, make

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Speaker 1: shore my phone in my casket. Please make show my

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Speaker 1: phone got you? I got you. I take my call.

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Speaker 1: be Wait what, Temmy, Why do you want your phone

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Speaker 1: so I could still take my call if I can

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