WEBVTT - Are ‘Cougars’ in Again? | Golden Hour

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Golden Hour.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Kathy, and Susan's here as well. How are you girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? I am great. I am loving World Cup, all

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<v Speaker 1>things World Cup. I've never watched so much TV in

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<v Speaker 1>my life. But I just have to say real quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been caught in an elevator? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>I panic.

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<v Speaker 1>I got caught in one last night. I was pounding

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<v Speaker 1>on the door trying to get out. I was at

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<v Speaker 1>Cindy's place in downtown Austin in the W Hotel. W Hotel.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're listening, get your damn elevators fixed. It was

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<v Speaker 1>the worst thing, Susan. I started panicking and then all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden I couldn't get outok.

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<v Speaker 2>Enough to see if there was a trap door. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>then you think I'm alone? How am I getting up there?

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<v Speaker 1>No? And then I hit the help button and it

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<v Speaker 1>kept dialing and going please hold, please hold, and like

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<v Speaker 1>the fifth time it said, I'm sorry, there is no

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<v Speaker 1>one to answer your call. I started wedding. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to die in an elevator, and then the

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<v Speaker 1>thing shot up like like a jet. It just shot up,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, oh my god, now I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>go through the roof of the building. It stops at

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<v Speaker 1>floor twenty and mister Adonis eric is his name, walks

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<v Speaker 1>out and he walks into the elevator on the other side.

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<v Speaker 1>It has, you know, two sides to get in and

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<v Speaker 1>out of. He saw the panic in my eyes. He goes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take you up, and he literally got in there.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally thought, I've never been caught in an elevator before.

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<v Speaker 2>It was scaryc It's scary. And then I keep thinking, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I have to have snacks. There's always snacks

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<v Speaker 2>in my purse. What if I'm here for hours? What

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<v Speaker 2>if I have to pee? I got to peel on

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<v Speaker 2>the floor. I mean, what goes through your mind you're inside.

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<v Speaker 1>It was brutal. Anyway, I'm fine today here.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just dealing with a lot of storms. My pool

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<v Speaker 2>is at the very tippity top. I'm waiting for Dicky

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<v Speaker 2>to come over and help me out and put the

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<v Speaker 2>dream thing on. I don't even know how to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>The pump it's about to overflow. We had so much

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<v Speaker 2>rain in the last two days. It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what World Cup takes, takes precedents of your.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, yes, yes, and fourth of July. How was

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<v Speaker 2>your fourth?

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<v Speaker 1>It was great. I had my son, Susan, don't fall

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<v Speaker 1>over to dead thing. Guess what I did on July fourth?

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<v Speaker 2>I already know you made food, Kathy. He called me

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<v Speaker 2>about the Brussels sprouts.

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<v Speaker 3>Out.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all I need to I mean they were edible

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<v Speaker 1>and for me, that's coming out I made. I made

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<v Speaker 1>homemade brownies and Brussels sprouts and sweet potatoes. And then

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<v Speaker 1>my son, wait, and my son who was a firefighter,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not. I don't know if I told you this.

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<v Speaker 1>The grill caught on fire, like flames, and my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>in laws looking at me and she's like, she said, Kathy,

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<v Speaker 1>usually that panic you. I said, you kidd me. He's

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<v Speaker 1>a firefighter. He'll figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally, grills do that though. That's not your fault. You

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<v Speaker 2>are excused, not your fault.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I did clean the grill yesterday top to bottom.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like it's like all brand new again. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>So what are we going? What do we do now?

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<v Speaker 2>Moving right along, let's get into Bachelor Nation news. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we had a really big week. First and foremost, let's

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<v Speaker 2>talk about Katie Thurston. I mean, she's opening up talking

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<v Speaker 2>about her cancer battle. What that girl has been through, Kathy, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean Mark goes out.

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta say for cancer. Yeah, I mean, well, her newest,

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<v Speaker 1>her newest interview that she did, she talks about turning

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<v Speaker 1>pain into purpose. Yes, and you know, here's my thought

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<v Speaker 1>on this life. I have not had cancer, but my

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<v Speaker 1>my very good friend, my neighbor beat breast cancer. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that her helping other women to get early detection. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>uh is a gift. It's It's one of those She's

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<v Speaker 1>a public personality because of Bachelor. She's fighting her own battle,

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<v Speaker 1>and yet she is saying how grateful she is to

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<v Speaker 1>be helping to save others lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that's what she said. I saved somebody's life because

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<v Speaker 2>people have actually DMed her and said without you saying

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<v Speaker 2>these things, I would have never checked. It's the same

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<v Speaker 2>when we came not the same, we're not talking cancer.

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<v Speaker 2>But when we came off the show, how many people,

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<v Speaker 2>how many women in this world that we spoke to

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<v Speaker 2>saying that life is not over over sixty, like, you

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<v Speaker 2>still have a lot more life to live. Sharing a

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<v Speaker 2>message because we were given that platform is so important

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<v Speaker 2>and everyone I know is still praying for Katie and

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<v Speaker 2>she's still going along with this battle, and our hearts are.

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<v Speaker 1>Our hearts with her. And let me tell you, if

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<v Speaker 1>the more advocates we have to fight this dreaded disease,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, my hat is off to you, Katie, keep

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<v Speaker 1>fighting the good fight, and really thank you for being

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<v Speaker 1>a voice for all the people that don't have a voice. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Our next one is my Michael Alio. He discusses overcoming

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<v Speaker 1>addiction after his late wife's passing. He said I was

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<v Speaker 1>lost and he so. I have interviewed him on another podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>He wrote a children's book. I did not know in

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<v Speaker 1>the interview I did with him. I didn't know this

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<v Speaker 1>until I read this article about him. He he talks

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<v Speaker 1>about being a caregiver twenty four to seven and that

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<v Speaker 1>he had to be the strong person. And then his

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<v Speaker 1>wife Laura dies and he's kind this spot boy thirty three,

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<v Speaker 1>he was thirty four. He's got this vast void and

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<v Speaker 1>a two year old, and you know, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what it's like, but I know you go from constantly

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<v Speaker 1>carying like Joan, same thing with her Nancy. You go

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<v Speaker 1>from constantly caring for your spouse taking him to a

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<v Speaker 1>doctor's appointments to nothing, and so he got addicted to painkillers.

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<v Speaker 1>And and he said it was a well kept secret.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what blows my mind, Susan. He sent his

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<v Speaker 1>son to a relative's house, locked himself in a room

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<v Speaker 1>for a week, and went through the whatever you call

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<v Speaker 1>DT's the detox by himself. He said he couldn't imagine

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<v Speaker 1>that he would be a good father like that is

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<v Speaker 1>a strong person. Yes, right, so I mean I can't

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<v Speaker 1>even imagine, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>The depression. I mean I could see it leading to

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<v Speaker 2>other things and then realizing she's gone. I'm addicted to pills.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a two year old I have to raise.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, Yeah. The other thing he said that blew

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<v Speaker 1>my mind was that he was completely And I get

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<v Speaker 1>this because the first year after my husband died, I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't tell you what time it was. Literally I lost

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<v Speaker 1>a year of my life. And he says the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>The first year he was numb and he doesn't remember anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And he said actually having the pain come back made

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<v Speaker 1>him feel alive. And I thought, you know, in a

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<v Speaker 1>twisted way, that made total sense to me. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, you know, we're glad that he has overcome that

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<v Speaker 1>and his two year old son is now ten.

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<v Speaker 2>And we're actually going to have him on a podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, it's going to be a lot more.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to know a whole lot more. Okay, we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to move on into talking about one of my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite topics, Susan, age gap relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>Here we go, people.

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<v Speaker 1>Ready, and so we're going to be talking about you

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<v Speaker 1>know the right person if you know they are the

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<v Speaker 1>right person. And one of those things in determining is age.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, an age gap relationship. You know, Susan, this,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been very vocal about this. Yes, when we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about age gap relationships, it's usually correct me if I'm wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>An older man dating a much younger woman, do you agree?

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<v Speaker 2>And nobody has a problem with it. Nobody, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>unless it's like, excuse me, ridiculous, like it could be

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<v Speaker 2>his daughterw some but nobody says too much. But when

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<v Speaker 2>a woman dates ten fifteen years younger, I mean, they

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<v Speaker 2>used to call them cougars. It wasn't cougar twenty years.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't that the I don't know, I don't I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 2>sure it was twenty I don't even know if they

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<v Speaker 2>used the name cougars anymore. But everybody has something to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Why? Listen, I'd love to be a cougar at that's

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<v Speaker 1>something I have to I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying, more power to her.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, here's here is one of the things I think

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<v Speaker 1>everyone has has an opinion, right, And I think when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to men, if you ask a man what's

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<v Speaker 1>his age range?

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<v Speaker 2>And I've seen it, if he's what sixty sixty five?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I'm talking about our generation. If you say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your age range? Susan, I will buy you a

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<v Speaker 1>house at the beach. If I'm wrong, the answer you

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<v Speaker 1>to the answer, but I'll be standing there with you.

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<v Speaker 1>The answer always is, oh, you know, I'll go to

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<v Speaker 1>fifty years old. If he's sixty five, you know, fifty

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<v Speaker 1>is about his young As all date, they never say

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<v Speaker 1>what the oldest woman they will date.

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<v Speaker 2>They won't even say my age, right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right. But when you ask a woman, this has

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<v Speaker 1>been my experience, when you ask a woman, they'll say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>i'll date a guy five years younger or five years older,

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<v Speaker 1>like women will put a number around it. I think

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<v Speaker 1>have you noticed that too or not?

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<v Speaker 2>No? No, I haven't, Okay, we have it. I think

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<v Speaker 2>most people would say, yeah, I'll date younger, but never

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<v Speaker 2>give an exact and like you, if it were you,

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<v Speaker 2>you'd say, well, how much younger?

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<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>And I used to think ten years, But I think

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<v Speaker 2>when you're in your six or at least sixty five,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think it matters as much as like if

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<v Speaker 2>you were younger, like when you're real young. Obviously we

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<v Speaker 2>weren't allowed out with guys five years our senior, but

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<v Speaker 2>after fifty even then that doesn't become as important. After

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<v Speaker 2>sixty or sixty five, I don't think it matters.

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<v Speaker 1>But well, I don't think it matters. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>I'm standing on this one, and your house at the

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<v Speaker 1>beach depends on it that men will date younger always

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<v Speaker 1>if I and women will look at the guy like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like dating men my age, not because I

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<v Speaker 1>have a problem with their age. I have a problem

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<v Speaker 1>with their mobility. You know, I don't care if they

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<v Speaker 1>have gray hair. I don't care if they're bald. I

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<v Speaker 1>care that they can only walk from the couch to

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<v Speaker 1>the refrigerator to get a beer and move back to

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<v Speaker 1>the couch. Again, that's my.

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<v Speaker 2>Problem, but I will sorry, go ahead no, you go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's funny because if it's somebody on TV,

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<v Speaker 2>like a star and they're dating a younger, no, oh, everybody,

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<v Speaker 2>that's cool. But if it's your next door neighbor, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna have a lot to say about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so not cool. You're right, and it's so funny.

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<v Speaker 1>You said that because I did you know me? Kathy

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<v Speaker 1>loves to research. Prianna Chopra. Chopra and Nick Jonas are married.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh huh, guess who's older? She is by ten years? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>by ten years. And then how about Alec Baldwin there

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<v Speaker 1>and Hillary Hillary, they're twenty six years apart, happily married.

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<v Speaker 1>And then my favorite French president, Macrone with Bridgete. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's how you pronounce your name. They're twenty four

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<v Speaker 1>years apart. Although I thought they got separated, but maybe

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>And they've been together. So what do you what's your

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<v Speaker 2>thought on whether it lasts?

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<v Speaker 1>My thought is I have to be famous and then

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<v Speaker 1>I can find a younger guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Or how much money there is involved?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean I do think large age gaps can work,

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<v Speaker 1>I truly do. But I think I think at our age,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want I don't want to data guy. I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to date a guy in their fifties if

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<v Speaker 1>he's retired, even though that would be a big age difference.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't want to data guy who's working nine

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<v Speaker 1>to five because I want to be able to travel

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<v Speaker 1>and do stuff. That's where the age comes in for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>And also I've always said if you go too young,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't share the same values or the same you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when you talk about your past, whether it's music. I

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<v Speaker 2>think I've said that before, you don't have the same

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<v Speaker 2>likes because it was a different error. Yeah, okay, So however,

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<v Speaker 2>the younger is a good thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We agree. Younger can be good. Age gap relationships can work.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm going to hit you with another one, Susan

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<v Speaker 1>double standards. Why is it? Tell me why when an

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<v Speaker 1>older man is with a younger woman, the guys give

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<v Speaker 1>them a high five? You go, you know, you go, guy,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's different than an older woman. What is the

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<v Speaker 1>what's that doubley?

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you? Okay, I don't think it's as much today.

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<v Speaker 2>In twenty twenty six, give me ten, twelve, fifteen years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>it was taboo. You were like we said, the cougar

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<v Speaker 2>and everybody's going to chat about it today. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think it matters as much. I mean, this world has

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<v Speaker 2>changed so much, so.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't disagree with you, but I feel like the

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<v Speaker 1>double standard is still out there. Maybe it's a little less, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a little less, okay, I mean maybe because me personally,

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<v Speaker 2>I have dated younger and nobody had anything to say

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<v Speaker 2>about it, or at least I didn't hear it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I know people that you know what I will say, friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're right. And I've had a couple of younger guys,

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<v Speaker 1>significantly young.

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<v Speaker 2>Reach out to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, reach out to me, and you actually have encouraged

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<v Speaker 1>me to date them, and I've said, are you kidding?

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<v Speaker 1>Even though I was interested. They have kids at home, and.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why that's the whole another. Yes, we can't be

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<v Speaker 2>raising somebody else's kids in our sixties or seventies.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. But I do think women over sixty, to

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<v Speaker 1>your points is and are are more interested now than

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<v Speaker 1>they were ten fifteen years ago in dating younger men.

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<v Speaker 2>And I love the person that says, well, I would

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<v Speaker 2>never do that. You don't know, Darling, until either your

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<v Speaker 2>spouse passes or say you get a divorce until you're

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<v Speaker 2>looking again. That's only then are you allowed to make

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<v Speaker 2>that statement. Do you know what I'm saying? Because you're

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<v Speaker 2>not out there, you're not trying to meet somebody, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's not that easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? So do you think I agree with you? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think there is an age gap that you would

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<v Speaker 1>raise your eyebrows and go, oh, come on, this is

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<v Speaker 1>over the top?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean yes, when you get the little sugar mama,

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<v Speaker 2>the sugar daddy thing, when they're girl's twenty seven and

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<v Speaker 2>he's seventy seven. That's when.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you mean like Bill Belichick, who is my age?

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<v Speaker 1>Who's dating a twenty four year old? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that I'd raise an eyebrow too. But you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>you know who I am Kay's.

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<v Speaker 1>Granddaughter, You do you? I don't care if I'm being

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<v Speaker 1>honest here, and you know I is m How do

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<v Speaker 1>you think that makes women like me feel? What chance

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<v Speaker 1>do we do I have.

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<v Speaker 2>Since for somebody to look your way? Because going after

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<v Speaker 2>all the young girls also though when they're getting older

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<v Speaker 2>and more tired and slowing down, they're the young girl

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<v Speaker 2>still in her prime and she might not want that.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that you have to think a long term.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe that's they're not thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>They either are thinking long term or they're looking at

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<v Speaker 1>the last checkbook number in the chats.

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<v Speaker 2>But moving right along it. We'll be lucky. Look, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>be happy if anybody comes you know of us, Amen, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to get into the Golden hotline.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Each week, everybody we do answer questions from our listeners

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<v Speaker 2>and we try to give them our expert golden advice. Kathy,

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<v Speaker 2>would you like to start with the first one?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I'll go with the first one. This is

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<v Speaker 1>from anonymous. Hi, ladies, please keep this anonymous. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>living with my boyfriend for almost two years, now together

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<v Speaker 1>almost four He makes I guess they've been together for

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<v Speaker 1>four years, but living together for two years. Okay, he

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<v Speaker 1>makes significantly more than I do. We are both in

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<v Speaker 1>our fifties. Every summer he pays for a weekly beach

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<v Speaker 1>rental for his kids, and always in fight my kids

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<v Speaker 1>as well. I brought up recently how we may want

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<v Speaker 1>to look at another week next summer as my best

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<v Speaker 1>friends and is getting married and it will be the

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<v Speaker 1>time he usually books a rental for his beach week.

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<v Speaker 1>He likes doing the same week every year. He was appalled,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I would ask to change his weeks. He

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<v Speaker 1>said that he pays for the vacation and I should

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<v Speaker 1>not have a say in changing the weeks. I felt

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<v Speaker 1>money shamed, as if I can't speak up about our

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<v Speaker 1>vacations because he pays for it. Am I being too sensitive?

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<v Speaker 1>Should I sit back and not bring this up again?

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<v Speaker 1>He actually said that I should go to the wedding

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<v Speaker 1>by myself and to come to the vacation rental after

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<v Speaker 1>the wedding. I'm hurt. I feel unheard. What would you

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<v Speaker 1>do in this situation? Susan's mouth is wide open, and

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<v Speaker 1>while she's thinking, I'm gonna say, dearie, two years you've

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<v Speaker 1>been with this man. Two years too long living with him?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait to boot him to the curb.

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<v Speaker 2>For her to say I feel unheard. Scratch that off

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<v Speaker 2>and erased that you were heard?

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<v Speaker 1>Man, you were honey.

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<v Speaker 2>What I want to know? Is it one of her

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<v Speaker 2>friends or their friends that's say it's a mass son?

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<v Speaker 2>Well no, but I'm going I'm trying here. This is

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<v Speaker 2>me trying. Okay, this is me trying because my first

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<v Speaker 2>thought you don't want to know, but my glass is

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<v Speaker 2>on for this one, because I cannot freaking believe that

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<v Speaker 2>this dude, if it's not I mean, if they were

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<v Speaker 2>friends together, all of them, let's reread that. Go back

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<v Speaker 2>to where.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me make this really simple.

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<v Speaker 3>He has my.

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<v Speaker 2>Best friend's son. It's her best friend, so he could

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<v Speaker 2>give a shit less because it's her best friend and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like to day to that. No problem, honey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to rent a place a different week. Well

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<v Speaker 2>that's not that's not cool at all.

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<v Speaker 1>She said. He makes significantly more money. Here's my take

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<v Speaker 1>on this.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously, he he.

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<v Speaker 1>Earns a lot of money. He brings this kid for

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<v Speaker 1>the same week. This is why I'm single. This would

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<v Speaker 1>I would see red. I would be like a bull

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<v Speaker 1>on it's running the you know, running the pemplone in pemplone.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just be going for the friend. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter who the friend is. He rents it for his

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<v Speaker 1>children to come and invites her children to come. He

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like a guy who is rigid beyond belief and

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<v Speaker 1>an anonymous. What I would tell you is you, as

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<v Speaker 1>Susan said, you were well heard and you really got

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<v Speaker 1>to look at Are you willing to put up and

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<v Speaker 1>shut up? Or do you want to make a big

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<v Speaker 1>thing about it, I personally would not would would make

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<v Speaker 1>a big thing of it because.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have the discussion again. Yeah, but if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't win, I look so hot when I left that

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<v Speaker 2>beach house for that wedding, and I might have to

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<v Speaker 2>get a room because I'm not driving all the way back.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but understand that this sounds to me like she

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<v Speaker 1>said she was money shame, Susan.

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<v Speaker 2>He sounds like an asshole.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, Anonymous. The OZ has spoken. It is time

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<v Speaker 1>to get back on the yellow brick road and move

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<v Speaker 1>away from Emerald City.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry, Anonymous. But yeah, good And if you

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<v Speaker 2>put up with that, you're gonna put up with a

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<v Speaker 2>lot more.

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<v Speaker 1>What did I say to you when I said why

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<v Speaker 1>you had your mouth hanging? I said, here's the answer, Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 1>Kick him to the curb. But here's what I'm guessing, Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>before we move on real quickly, this is typical of

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<v Speaker 1>many women, many couples at different ages. One and it's

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<v Speaker 1>usually the man. It's you know, the old the old

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<v Speaker 1>it's glass ceiling for women. The man earns the money

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<v Speaker 1>and she I'm guessing I'm reading between the lines. She's

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<v Speaker 1>got to stick around because she can't make it on

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<v Speaker 1>her own.

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<v Speaker 2>That I'm saying. She can't make the vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. He earns significantly more so living

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<v Speaker 1>together with him, they have a comfortable life.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe pants.

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<v Speaker 1>He wears the pants because he earns more money. And

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<v Speaker 1>just say, know what, what about the babe? Seriously, this

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<v Speaker 1>is my best friend. Honey, have a little.

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<v Speaker 2>We could go the week before the week after, please, babe.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Susan, I don't care if it's the postman's

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<v Speaker 1>cousin getting married. If you're invited to a wedding as

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<v Speaker 1>a couple, and he won't change the week a year out,

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<v Speaker 1>give me a break. You have to move on. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting I right here.

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<v Speaker 2>I wish you luck, honey. Let us know how you

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<v Speaker 2>made up, all right. The next one is from Hailey. Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>Susan and Kathy. My name is Haley and I am

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<v Speaker 2>twenty one. I have a thing that I need some

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<v Speaker 2>advice on. So there is this guy who in the

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<v Speaker 2>past I have talked to and liked being around, but

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<v Speaker 2>I had to break it off twice. Nonetheless, I felt

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<v Speaker 2>like we didn't have a connection, liked the same things whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was also overly religious, which I am not

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<v Speaker 2>bad mouthing that. I mean, it's normally a good thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And now all of a sudden he reached back out

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<v Speaker 2>to me asking how am I doing and wants to

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<v Speaker 2>reconnect with me again, And I feel like I want to,

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<v Speaker 2>but then again, I am afraid if something goes wrong again,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to have to feel like I'm hurting him.

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<v Speaker 2>I love your podcast so much. This is greatly appreciated.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what do you think, Susan?

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<v Speaker 2>First? My first thought is is she's sitting home alone

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<v Speaker 2>and didn't meet anybody else. Is that why she's giving

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<v Speaker 2>this another chance? Like, don't do it for the wrong reasons.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you think he changed, I don't think that's

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<v Speaker 2>the case because I'm learning and it took me sixty

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<v Speaker 2>nine years to know they don't change, right, trust me?

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<v Speaker 1>And Haley. Let me just add on to Susan's wisdom

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<v Speaker 1>here by telling you that when a man, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care if you're twenty one, forty one, sixty one, or

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<v Speaker 1>eighty one plus, when a man shows you who he is,

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<v Speaker 1>believe him the first time. So you I love you, Haley. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure, you're a beautiful twenty one year old, but

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<v Speaker 1>I would say you might be slightly delusional if you

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<v Speaker 1>think that he is, you're going to go back for

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<v Speaker 1>the third time and it's going to be the charm

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<v Speaker 1>it isn't he is who he is. I think you're

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<v Speaker 1>Susan's right that you guys don't share the same values.

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<v Speaker 1>The religion bit, that that you're not connecting with him.

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<v Speaker 1>I think Susan's right. I think maybe Haley, you need.

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<v Speaker 2>To love hearing that. By the way, do you hear that?

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<v Speaker 1>Say it again, Susan, you're so right today, right his rain.

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<v Speaker 1>But I honestly think that you're right Susan that, Haley,

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<v Speaker 1>I think you're probably lonely because why would you go

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<v Speaker 1>back with the guy where you don't share values, You

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<v Speaker 1>don't connect. He's overly religious, which, as you said, not

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<v Speaker 1>a bad thing, but it's it doesn't match up with

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<v Speaker 1>what you want. So I would say to you, something

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<v Speaker 1>goes wrong again. Yeah, if something goes wrong again, it

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<v Speaker 1>will go wrong again, Haley. So why don't you take

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<v Speaker 1>your adorable twenty one year old personality and get out

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<v Speaker 1>and find some activities and move on. And you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>write him and say I'm really sorry whatever your name is,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've moved on and I wish you only the best,

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<v Speaker 1>and then block his number, block him on social mem

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<v Speaker 1>Yes you do that, but oh I.

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<v Speaker 2>Do unless he's harassing because you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>Happened, Susan. You get drunk one night and you go

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<v Speaker 1>help maybe because called drunk Hilly.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for enjoying our podcast number one

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<v Speaker 2>and sharing that with us.

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<v Speaker 1>And thank you so much for allowing Susan to be

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<v Speaker 1>right on one.

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<v Speaker 2>Of these Okay, moving almost a time.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know I'm hurrying. I'm all hurry. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a story and no advice. Okay, people will totally

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<v Speaker 1>know this is me. But whatever. One ex who broke

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<v Speaker 1>up with me right before we were supposed to move

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<v Speaker 1>to an island together during the pandemic, I still moved

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<v Speaker 1>into the place we rented because I needed to quarantine,

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<v Speaker 1>but then found my own much smaller apartment a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of blocks away, thinking he would just change his plans

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<v Speaker 1>and not move there, but instead he still moved there

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<v Speaker 1>with his new girlfriend that he got immediately after we

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<v Speaker 1>broke up, moved her into the place we had rented together. Then,

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<v Speaker 1>after dating her for about a year and seeing me

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<v Speaker 1>daily on this small island. He planned to move with

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<v Speaker 1>her to Europe, and a couple of days before their move,

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<v Speaker 1>he broke up with her to date her now ex friend,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she still went to Europe like I had

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<v Speaker 1>gone to the island, and he went to Europe with

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<v Speaker 1>his new girl. This man has a crazy pattern. And

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<v Speaker 1>now me and the first girlfriend after me are friends.

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<v Speaker 1>So all worked out great for us. And the story

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<v Speaker 1>she has shared with me about what he told her

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<v Speaker 1>about me are crazy?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, isn't that so typical?

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<v Speaker 1>Though? You know what this sounds like to me, Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>it's happen. It sounds like an episode of Bachelor and

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<v Speaker 1>Paradise Gone Awry gone absolutely?

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<v Speaker 2>How about the two girls remaining friends? That that's what

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<v Speaker 2>happens because there was nothing wrong with the women. It's

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<v Speaker 2>that man and the poor one that went to Europe

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<v Speaker 2>with the ex ex girlfriend. Good luck, baby, Now you

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<v Speaker 2>got to move from Europe.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and you know what you're gonna be out the

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<v Speaker 1>door next to. So good for you girls for being friends,

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for sharing that story.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, thank you and you know everybody how to do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Submit your burning questions to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're going to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>Them, okay, and we love hearing from you, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>please do Okay, Susan, Yeah boy, we're back this week.

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<v Speaker 1>We are the gals, the Mimi and Kiki of the world. Googling.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the slang word of the week we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. Okay. The first one is and really are

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<v Speaker 1>people using? This would be my question? But the first

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<v Speaker 1>one is called standing on business, which means following through

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<v Speaker 1>on what you say. Well, hell, I've been standing on

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<v Speaker 1>business since my kids were You don't eat your dinner,

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<v Speaker 1>you get no TV boy. I followed through with what

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<v Speaker 1>I said.

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<v Speaker 2>What you see is what you get. If I say

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing it, I'm doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, But I have to give you can I just

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<v Speaker 1>give you the best example as an adult?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I want to hear yours. I stood on

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<v Speaker 1>business when Keith and I were on Bachelor in Paradise

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<v Speaker 1>last summer and money got introduced, and do you remember

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<v Speaker 1>because I showed it on TV. Keith and I sat

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<v Speaker 1>and talked and we were like, we are not taking

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<v Speaker 1>money out of these kids' hands now. I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>wish they did. By the way, I see them money,

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<v Speaker 1>I see them traveling to the hell all over Europe,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, what that was I thinking? But that's

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<v Speaker 1>neither here nor there. I stood on business, meaning I

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<v Speaker 1>followed through. We said we weren't going to take the

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<v Speaker 1>money out of those kids' hands, and we didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>We start to the same thing as keeping your word,

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<v Speaker 2>you're standing on business.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's it's just it's pop culture, Susan. We can't.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to change things that mean the same thing,

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<v Speaker 1>but give it a new word.

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<v Speaker 2>Show me some kids that stand on business. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if they got that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Who can you think of anybody in the reality world.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>No Brown when she moved the podium, huh did you

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<v Speaker 3>ever see that, Hannah Brown moving the podium?

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<v Speaker 2>No, moving the podium to adjust her.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. Okay, We're going to circle back on

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<v Speaker 1>this later.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, because I do want to know that

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the best example I can think of reality

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<v Speaker 1>TV is like Dotton and Charity getting engaged. Katie and

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<v Speaker 1>Zach they said, and and uh.

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<v Speaker 2>Joey and they say.

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<v Speaker 1>They're getting married, and they're getting married. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, I can't. That doesn't hold true for the Goldens.

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, well, why don't you try this one? That's

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<v Speaker 2>my Roman Empire? Oh, something that you're constantly thinking about?

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<v Speaker 1>Kathy? No, I actually haven't. But you know what came

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<v Speaker 1>to my mind when you read that Rome was not

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<v Speaker 1>built in the day and and you know I always

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<v Speaker 1>the cutest men in Rome, and that could be my

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<v Speaker 1>Roman Empire. Yikes, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think about constantly. Would be food? Food be my

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<v Speaker 2>Roman Empire.

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<v Speaker 1>Food? What would mind be?

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<v Speaker 2>Yours would be non food? You're walking getting five miles

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<v Speaker 2>in that. She thinks about it constantly, about her weight,

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<v Speaker 2>about her size, about her strength.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's not forget my horrible hair. Oh I've never heard that.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever heard of Susan?

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<v Speaker 2>I really haven't.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's my Roman Empire. I mean all I can

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<v Speaker 1>think of is with I think about constantly, like i'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to have a date with a nice guy. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think about it constantly, but I think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>They're saying a few years ago they found out men

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<v Speaker 2>think about Roman Empire all the time. So men have

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<v Speaker 2>a one track mine is.

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<v Speaker 3>That I'm going to give you a little lore on

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<v Speaker 3>the Roman Empire. So it was all over social media

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<v Speaker 3>because girls would ask guys like what they think about

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<v Speaker 3>all the time. Most of the time a man will

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<v Speaker 3>respond with the Roman Empire. I don't know why they

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<v Speaker 3>do that, but I think a lot of women have

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<v Speaker 3>responded that, and things that they thought about online were

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<v Speaker 3>like Princess Diana, they think about the Titanic, they think

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<v Speaker 3>about you know, all of those types of things are

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<v Speaker 3>like their big Roman Empire that they consistently think about

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<v Speaker 3>from the past or in general. But men have like

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<v Speaker 3>a track record of only thinking about the Roman Empire.

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<v Speaker 2>Men think about one thing and one thing only sex

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<v Speaker 2>now themselves. Women are softer, strong, but softer and more emotional.

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<v Speaker 2>We lead with emotion. Men lead with I don't think. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So on air, with that being said, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>tell everyone thank you so much for joining us today,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think this is going to be a wrap.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to say that I need to go

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<v Speaker 1>because I need to go build my Roman Empire. But

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<v Speaker 1>in the meantime, make sure to rate, review and subscribe

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<v Speaker 2>And you can follow Golden Hour on social media, at

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<v Speaker 1>Until our Roman Empire is built.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be thinking about the Titanic now. I'm gonna want

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<v Speaker 2>to watch it again.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a good week, everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye bye,