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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie and this is Keon, your favorite

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime host, and we've got great stories coming right up.

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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show alive. The man

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Speaker 2: I dated gave me a fake name.

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Speaker 3: But I discovered his real life. Hmmm, I don't like you,

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Speaker 3: That's all I'm gonna say. A few days ago, I

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Speaker 3: found out that a guy I used to date last

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Speaker 3: winter had given me a fake last name, got married

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Speaker 3: in early spring, and had been engaged living with this

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Speaker 3: fiance the entire time we were dating, and as we

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Speaker 3: continue to hook up every now and then in the

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Speaker 3: months following us no longer dating.

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Speaker 2: Wow, way to ruin the whole story spoilers?

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Speaker 1: Was his name Doe? John Doe.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from boombix And if you

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Speaker 2: Soubrett, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 1: Off Sabana, I'm Keon, and we're.

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Speaker 3: Here to give good advice Youoflee, But we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

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Speaker 3: let us know what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 2: And Opie says he was able to.

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Speaker 3: Hide his wife from me in a variety of ways

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Speaker 3: that all added up to be a perfect scenario for

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Speaker 3: him to continue to lead me on and without me

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Speaker 3: seeing a reason to ask many questions. For example, he

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Speaker 3: was a coach and had weird work hours, like very

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Speaker 3: early warnings and evenings after normal work hours, so many

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Speaker 3: of our dates were lunch dates. He was also going

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Speaker 3: through a messy custody hearing for his son that was

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Speaker 3: scheduled for March twenty twenty two, So when he started

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Speaker 3: to be busy a lot, I understood and didn't ask questions.

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Speaker 3: Was he going through a custody hearing though if he

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Speaker 3: still had a wife. He had told me he didn't

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Speaker 3: have social media to avoid giving his ex any fuel

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Speaker 3: at all for the hearings, So when I couldn't find

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Speaker 3: him online, well, he had already told me why these

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Speaker 3: are Like, Wow, the scams he's scamming.

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Speaker 2: This is brilliant.

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Speaker 3: At the time, there was no solid reason for me

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Speaker 3: to distrust him, even if things sometimes felt a little

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Speaker 3: off in my gun. At one point I did question

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Speaker 3: few days and he told me sorry, busy weekend with

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Speaker 3: my son. He would reassure me and apologize, so he

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Speaker 3: had many chances to set me free even without coming clean.

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Speaker 2: He could have just.

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Speaker 3: Said, yeah, I'm not feeling anymore, wish you the best,

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Speaker 3: and I feel so stupid for thinking that he.

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Speaker 2: Was such a great father for being focused.

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Speaker 3: On his son when he had his weekends with him,

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Speaker 3: or perhaps he was being focused on his.

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Speaker 2: Other family and other wife that he had. Oo boy,

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Speaker 3: He eventually was honest with me as the custody hearing

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Speaker 3: got closer and told me that he needed to be

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Speaker 3: focused on that and that he couldn't give me what

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Speaker 3: I deserved in a relationship right now. When we stopped

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Speaker 2: So I thought, oh no, yeah, you were wrong about that.

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Speaker 2: That's tough.

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Speaker 3: I even looked back through my calendar and we saw

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Speaker 3: each other two days after his wedding weekend. Dick, Oh wait,

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Speaker 3: I oh oh oh.

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Speaker 2: I oh no, he just got married. He just got me,

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Speaker 2: just got married? Yeah, what is wrong with him?

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Speaker 1: Congratulations?

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Speaker 3: I found out that he was married when I mentioned

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Speaker 3: him out of business and someone who worked there said

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Speaker 3: they think he was their coach. I am purposely keeping

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Speaker 3: that big because when I confronted him, he tried to

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Speaker 2: Who told me who snitched?

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Speaker 4: Who the little rat who said I was married?

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Speaker 3: Oh, he's never gonna he's gonna be on the bench

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Speaker 2: Who's that red? That kid's never getting a scholarship to college?

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Speaker 5: Tell you that that he's.

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Speaker 2: Done, you're sitting on the bench.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna play that game. So we looked up

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Speaker 3: his coaching profile to see if we were talking about

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Speaker 3: the same person, and there he was, smiling, with a

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Speaker 2: More.

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Speaker 3: Googling at home brought up a wedding registry for a

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Speaker 3: wedding in April twenty twenty two, both of their Facebook

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Speaker 3: I feel so disgusted, deceived, targeted, hurt, mad, sad, shocked.

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Speaker 2: There is a lot.

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Speaker 3: You're feeling a lot, So ladies and supporters of ladies,

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Speaker 3: Do I tell the wife?

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Speaker 2: Yes, part of.

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Speaker 3: Me wants to so that she isn't also being deceived

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Speaker 3: But I also want to just be done with it,

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Speaker 3: move on and never think about him again. I'm afraid

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Speaker 3: his reaction if I tell him, like my own safety

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Speaker 3: or that of my property since he knows where I live,

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Speaker 3: or if there's any other way a cruel and cunning

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Speaker 3: person would get revenge that. I'm not thinking of any

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Speaker 3: advice or similar experiences, and we've got relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: What do you think should uh? What should op you do?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I think you should definitely tell the wife because this

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Speaker 2: is like a brand new thing that just emerged. And

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Speaker 2: also screw him and he's ruining every relationship he has

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Speaker 2: with his You know why why lives like many fine son, dog.

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Speaker 6: It's the good old. If you were in her shoes,

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Speaker 6: you would want to be told.

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Speaker 2: Oh for sure you in a way you are in

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Speaker 2: her shoes? Are you not glad that you know this information?

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Speaker 1: Now you know is OPI be like, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to ruin that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we.

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Speaker 3: Get more relevant comments. When I was married, I got

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Speaker 3: a phone call from the husband of the woman my

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Speaker 3: but I'm grateful he did that. I had a lot

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Speaker 3: my husband's infidelity that his call led me to find

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Speaker 3: phone records ultimately helped me end a terrible marriage.

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Speaker 2: And we've got an update.

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Speaker 3: I think that's got to be a comment that helps opee,

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Speaker 3: you know, make the right decision, hopefully, which is telling

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Speaker 3: the wife. After protecting myself and my identity in what

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Speaker 3: number and texted her a brief, factual message that her

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Speaker 3: husband cheated on her, the date we matched on bumble,

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Speaker 3: how I had no idea he was engaged or married,

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Speaker 3: her a few screenshots to demonstrate that it went on

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Speaker 3: over a series of months. She replied the next day,

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Speaker 3: as soon as possible. She had been suspicious after testing

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Speaker 3: positive for HPV about a month ago, as I and

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Speaker 3: you guys suspected from the house being only in her name.

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Speaker 3: Apparently he is completely financially dependent on her, and everything

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Speaker 3: a lie. Oh boy, uh, I got two big things.

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Speaker 2: But what do you think? He's just in a world

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Speaker 2: of trouble. This man, it is all going to come

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Speaker 2: back to bite you viciously. Yeah, get tested, Get tested.

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Speaker 3: And also if she has HPV and you do not,

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Speaker 3: then he was probably seeing other people or you did not,

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Speaker 3: you know, be prior then he was probably seeing other

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Speaker 2: But I'm glad you told her. Yeah tough, Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: I also found out that, in addition to a fake

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Speaker 3: She cautioned that he may try to retaliate once she

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Speaker 3: feel the need. It's been a stressful and emotional past

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Speaker 3: few days. I'm upset that men like this exist. Proud

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Speaker 3: of myself for telling her. Thankful to my friends and

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Speaker 3: to all of you who encouraged me.

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Speaker 5: To tell her.

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Speaker 2: Proud of her for leaving them. And that's the end

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Speaker 2: of the story. Good job, girl. I mean you had

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Speaker 2: already kind of left him.

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Speaker 3: You were just talking out with him, yeah at that point,

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Speaker 3: but still but still good job.

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Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're going to

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Speaker 7: go on to the next one.

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Speaker 2: A coworker asked me out, then reported himself to his boss.

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Speaker 2: I just felt so bad. I started a new job

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Speaker 2: absolutely love it. Without saying too much, my job supports

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Speaker 2: a number of different executive leaders for different productions within

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Speaker 2: been asked to lunch by several executives as a means

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Speaker 5: Me to the team.

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Speaker 2: It's been great. By the way, this comes from I

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Speaker 2: just like lunch. Sorry, and if you want to submit

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Speaker 2: sound Breda. I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia, and we're here to

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Speaker 2: talk about some stuff and give our opinion, and you

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Speaker 2: know you're here to comment about it, so let's keep

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Speaker 2: it going, as op says. Well, anyway, So there's this

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Speaker 2: guy who will call Gary, who also started on the

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Speaker 2: same day as me. He's nice and sits relatively close

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Speaker 2: to me. Our past rarely cross for work. We're never

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Speaker 2: I'll go when you go same way. Okay, I'll go left,

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Speaker 2: you go No, wait, I'll go left, you go right. No.

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Speaker 2: The other day he asked if I wanted to go

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Speaker 2: gone on to lunch with a number of coworkers and

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Speaker 2: it was fine. I also wear a wedding ring, and

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Speaker 2: each new employees, it included that I was married and

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Speaker 2: have a two year old. Oh, I don't even want

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Speaker 2: to read it anymore. You're telling me that this isn't

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Speaker 2: a really cute little meet, cute, how we get together story. God,

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Speaker 2: I also have picks of my family up on my desk.

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Speaker 2: So we go out to lunch and he asks about

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Speaker 2: he gets a very confused look on his face and

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Speaker 2: he asks if we have an open marriage, because he

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Speaker 2: doesn't want to be that guy, bestie, my guy. He said,

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Speaker 2: I'm a little confused, like we're on a date right now. Buddy.

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Speaker 2: At least he's respectful, I mean nice. Sure, I realize

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Speaker 2: What is this company? Because they seem really smart and

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Speaker 2: it daylous. They're Swedish. She also said that if I

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Speaker 2: She also said I could forward her the email I

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Speaker 2: and even though I'm still a young, twenty six year

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Speaker 2: I am somewhat shy and was eager to make a

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Speaker 2: She's really trying, and it's not Oh darn, there's a

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Speaker 5: I think you did the right thing.

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Speaker 5: Company's great company knows how to cover.

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Speaker 2: Please for the folks that thought going out to lunch

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Speaker 2: Some of the comments were blaming Ope and said she

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Speaker 2: it's interesting how in my first post the general response was,

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Speaker 2: idiot for doing what exactly. I didn't go to HR

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Speaker 2: and I didn't even bring it up to my boss

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Speaker 2: I was looking for advice on how to handle this

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Speaker 2: and made it a big thing, not me. Oh, and

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Speaker 2: that's it, that's all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, No one read that story if they thought if

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Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 2: My wife kept denying a message from her coworker, so

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Speaker 3: I am an attorney mail thirty three, and my wife,

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, but we're here to

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Speaker 2: give good advice. Goofully.

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Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers, and we don't

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Speaker 3: remember all the numbers. We just know what we would do,

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Speaker 3: So let us know what you would.

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Speaker 2: Do in the commons.

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Speaker 3: And Opie says, she followed me all through college in

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Speaker 3: She and I have always been head over heels in love.

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Speaker 3: Our honeymoon phase never really ended. Let something happened last

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Speaker 3: He's a decent looking guy. Perhaps you could say he's

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Speaker 4: Ah yes, Chris oOoOO.

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Speaker 3: I always had somewhat weird feelings, but because I always

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Speaker 3: Last night, she left her phone on the couch to

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Speaker 3: I had no idea she had downloaded it. It was

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Speaker 9: Oh no, we are Oh no, literally see no evil.

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Speaker 4: Oh they're deep in it.

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Speaker 3: I said, I don't know you Snapchat coworker. Let's give

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Speaker 3: She responded that she snaps all of her coworkers line

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Speaker 3: to see it. She reluctantly hands it over, and I

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Speaker 3: I start asking questions very calmly, I may add.

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Speaker 2: She responds to everything with that I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I say, how often do you snap him?

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Speaker 9: Looks at Snapchat history, Well only one coworker in there.

439
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 2: Where are you pushing that?

440
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 4: Like immediately that should be like, hey, so you.

441
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 2: Just was a lie?

442
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 3: Why you said do you snapchat your other coworkers yet

443
00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 3: they aren't here?

444
00:21:57,640 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 2: What's going on? I don't know.

445
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 3: She's being evasive lies, lies, lies? How do you not

446
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 3: know these answers? After more prodding, she says he hit

447
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,879
Speaker 3: on her a month ago, and that she shut it

448
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,400
Speaker 3: down and didn't tell me because she loves her job

449
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 3: and didn't want to jeopardize it. None of these explanations

450
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 3: satisfy me.

451
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 2: I'm not a fool.

452
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 3: I mean, even if we take everything she says as true,

453
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 3: the way I see it is that she continued to

454
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:30,399
Speaker 3: snap a guy who once hit on her on a

455
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:36,680
Speaker 3: medium designed to disappear your komunicashones. I left the house

456
00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 3: and she called me crying and said she was scared

457
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,119
Speaker 3: and that nothing happened and she should have told me,

458
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 3: and that she deleted snapchat. She said she loved me

459
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Speaker 3: with all her heart. She said she would I love

460
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Speaker 3: you with all my heart.

461
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 9: I love you with all my heart except for the

462
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 9: hearts that I send to him in snapchat, which I deleted,

463
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,360
Speaker 9: and I will have no way to redownload.

464
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,199
Speaker 3: That I'm her puzzle piece and that she would do

465
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 3: absolutely any thing and everything to make this better. That

466
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 3: she's lost without our love better.

467
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 9: Right, so he must be the side piece. So we

468
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 9: got pieces in here.

469
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 8: Huh.

470
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 3: I can't get over this. Please offer help and advice.

471
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 3: I never thought I would experience this. A thanks, and

472
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 3: we've got an update.

473
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 4: Let me hear a break up with your go.

474
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:26,120
Speaker 9: Friends, break up with your coup friends, your wife.

475
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 2: Oo ooh yeah yeah, break up with your wife because

476
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 2: she's cheating on you or wants to oh boy, yeah.

477
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 9: At the very least one lied right to your face

478
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 9: about it, like you're some kind of idiots.

479
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 2: And as emotionally cheating on you as she is texting

480
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 2: this guy on snapchant.

481
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:48,360
Speaker 3: We've been talking and I've illustrated some new boundaries. Even

482
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,479
Speaker 3: though I won't babysitter, she volunteered access to all of

483
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 3: her accounts and social media, et cetera. I highly doubt

484
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 3: I'll look, and I know that if she really was

485
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 3: engaging in something, she could have deleted stuff.

486
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 2: But it's a start.

487
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 3: Second, she reached out to him, and I saw a

488
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 3: text exchange with him. Again, I realized this all could

489
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 3: have been orchestrated. But here's how it went down. Why'd

490
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 3: you send the monkey? I was replying to your story

491
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:16,239
Speaker 3: making the class do fifty burupies. My husband send it

492
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 3: and started asking questions. He's upset, Tom.

493
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I won't snap you anymore. He's liked that guy.

494
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 2: That wasn't planned at all.

495
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:31,919
Speaker 9: Hey, Alex, give me a planned conversations for five hundred.

496
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 2: I think you shouldn't talk to me on social media anymore.

497
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 2: I agree. I apologize if I've caused any problems. Nos,

498
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 2: if I could tressed this or not? Dude, what do

499
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,439
Speaker 2: you mean? Who knows? I know that was a fake conversation.

500
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Speaker 4: I know you can't trust your wife because she said

501
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 4: a lie to you.

502
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 2: That's a lie. She lied to you.

503
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:56,160
Speaker 9: That was all a lion to lie about the things

504
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 9: she lied about.

505
00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 2: She's a cheater.

506
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 10: She's a cheetah. She's a cheetah. She's a cheetah cheating.

507
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 10: We've got relevant comments context. The claim is that the

508
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 10: emoji is a response to a story she posted that

509
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 10: everyone can see. That story was her posting a video

510
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 10: of making the class do fifty burpies. She claims she's

511
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 10: active on Snapchat stories regarding her workout classes.

512
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Speaker 3: This is a question for anybody. I'm not really sure

513
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 3: how snapchat works, but if he responded to her story,

514
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:29,439
Speaker 3: then he would be at the top of her list.

515
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 2: Right.

516
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: Like I said, the history showed him her sister, a friend.

517
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 3: Then it was snaps from weeks and weeks ago. This

518
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: is not denial, This is me giving you the audience

519
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 3: all information. I'm still not okay with what is happening

520
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 3: with her. Red Spectrum Ray says their commos aut scripted.

521
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,919
Speaker 2: Af to me. Opie says, I wish I could disagree

522
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 2: with you, but it can't.

523
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 3: Opie added in the comments, Ohpi says, I'm leaning towards

524
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 3: a trust but verify approach. Right now, this girl really

525
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 3: does love me, and if you see my responses to

526
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 3: people's questions, you'll see that aside from this, we have

527
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 3: a very affectionate and strong relationship. My trust is shaken,

528
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 3: and I'm not dumb. I'm going to proceed with sharp

529
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 3: eyes and extra caution. Divorce is not easy for legal

530
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: and emotional reasons, and I'm just not ready to go

531
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,679
Speaker 3: there over this, Especially at this point. Opie says, I

532
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: saw what she claims was the story. It was a

533
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 3: video of her making a class to do a bunch

534
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,640
Speaker 3: of burpies. It was also recorded and posted like an

535
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,640
Speaker 3: hour before his emoji. But I'm still not one hundred

536
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 3: percent convinced she deleted the app, so I'm not sure

537
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 3: what can be done unless she redownloads it and it

538
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 3: keeps that information.

539
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 4: Yeah. Also, the monkey eyes were probably because like her

540
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 4: butt looked good in it or something. No one's sending

541
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 4: monkey eyes because it's like, oh, oh, oh my god,

542
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 4: I can't believe you made me do that.

543
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 9: Sneaky monkey eyes specifically means you're monkey in around monkey

544
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 9: never cramp.

545
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 2: If what you say is true, and redownloading it keeps

546
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 2: that info, than.

547
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 5: This could all be resolved quite easily.

548
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 3: And we've got a second update, folks, second update right now.

549
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 2: But what do you think? What do you think?

550
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,199
Speaker 3: Oh P seems to be leaning towards not breaking and

551
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 3: not divorcing his wife.

552
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 9: Well, i'd say this, I'd say, you have one opportunity

553
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 9: to have an honest conversation with me about whatever's going

554
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 9: on with this guy and what it means for us.

555
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 9: And if you're gonna sit here and you know and

556
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 9: then leave it to that. And if she sits there

557
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 9: and tries to tell you it's not thing, it's not,

558
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 9: then it's.

559
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 4: Over because there's clearly something. Does it mean you have

560
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 4: to divorce? I don't know. Can you talk through it?

561
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 4: Can you get through it?

562
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 3: Update too tonight. I'm going to have her put her

563
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 3: money where her mouth is. I have complete access to

564
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: your stuff.

565
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna ask her to re download Snapchat. People

566
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 2: keep telling me there are lots of emoji types that

567
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 2: show up if you frequently snap someone. I'll open the

568
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: app and see if any of these appear by his name.

569
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 2: Hopefully that are resolved some of this crap. If there

570
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: are fire or heart emojis or whatever, then divorce is

571
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 2: probably the answer.

572
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 3: Counseling whatever. If there are no emojis, I can definitely

573
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 3: move forward or at least start to. And we've got

574
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 3: update three.

575
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:17,119
Speaker 2: What do we think? Okay, heart emoji if you think heart,

576
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 2: fire emoji if you think fire, and then just type

577
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 2: I don't know. Type nothing if you think nothing.

578
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 9: Hammer if you think she's gonna smash your phoam with

579
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 9: a hammer, I put the hammer.

580
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 2: Put it in the chat. Put in the chat. Update three.

581
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 2: She came home last night and I asked her to

582
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 2: redownload Snapchat and show me his name. She did, and

583
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 2: there were no emojis by his name, but there were

584
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 2: emojis by her sister's name. This means she.

585
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 3: And coworker don't snap frequently. This issue is not fixed.

586
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: But that is the update right now, and we have

587
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 3: an update four.

588
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 4: It keep the mother of God man, just have her

589
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 4: be real with you.

590
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 9: Yeah, there's no I don't buinyd that she's lying because

591
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 9: she was afraid that her job would be in jeopardy

592
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 9: because he was hitting on her. And yeah, that's a lie,

593
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 9: that's a full lie. Makes zero sense.

594
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 3: Because like, why would you be worried that your job

595
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 3: is in jeopardy because someone's hitting on you, and then

596
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 3: you continue to talk.

597
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 2: To them on Snapchat. Snapchat is like the one platform

598
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 2: that you have to seek out first off, thanks to

599
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 2: those that gave thoughtful of responses, and thanks to those

600
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 2: who educated me about Snapchat and getting the data exported.

601
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 3: I exported the data and it checks out with her story.

602
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 3: She and m At barely had contact. Also, I had

603
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 3: her redownload twenty hours after his original snap the app

604
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: and there were no emojis by his name. I also

605
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 3: checked the phone records and she has never called him.

606
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 3: We have talked extensively, and I'm pretty convinced she felt

607
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 3: like something looked bad and sort of shut down when

608
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 3: I started asking questions and getting nervous.

609
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 2: Hence the parade of others. Her cheating just doesn't add up.

610
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 2: She was always affectionate and loving. Plus and this might

611
00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: be TMI. She had Harrie's f.

612
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Speaker 1: Le Oh oh no.

613
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 2: Why would you tell us about a leg at too much?

614
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 4: I'm going to be writing in my journal about this.

615
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 2: People when they're cheating or sleeping with someone new tend

616
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 2: to exhibit behavior like grooming or making themselves up more

617
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 2: than they used to.

618
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:22,719
Speaker 4: You're like, hey, my wife's been looking ugly. Is she's idious?

619
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Speaker 5: She's gross?

620
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 4: Oh, I don't think she's cheating around no body.

621
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Speaker 3: I seriously doubt she would be sleeping with someone new

622
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 3: yet not shave her legs for like a while.

623
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Speaker 1: That's that's it. That's your one thing.

624
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 2: He said, Folks. I know a thing or two, Folks.

625
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Speaker 6: I'm a modern day Sherlock Holmes. And if I see

626
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 6: leg hair on my girl, she not cheating on me.

627
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 3: We are both so busy recently and we have just

628
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 3: been go, go go. She works two jobs and I

629
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 3: started work as an attorney just a couple months ago.

630
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,760
Speaker 3: It's been hard, and we've been romantic, but spicy sleep

631
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 3: has been less than normal. We are going on a

632
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: romantic date this week to respice things up. Also to

633
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 3: those being wieners about me being an attorney, I'm a

634
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:07,479
Speaker 3: corporate lawyer.

635
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: I don't make a living cross examining people.

636
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 9: I make a living defending the worst entities on the planet.

637
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 9: H I mean, maybe we don't know what corporations he

638
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 9: works for.

639
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 3: Still, I think I handled things quite logically. The main

640
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 3: advice I do wish I took from commentars is that

641
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 3: I should not have acted immediately when I saw the

642
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 3: snap no, I think maybe you do.

643
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 9: And then, based on her literally the most suspicious way

644
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 9: she could have ever answered that, you were justified in

645
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 9: being like, well, what's not adding up here?

646
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 4: Is your girlfriend afraid of you being like an attorney?

647
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 9: So she like started freaking out like, uh uh no,

648
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 9: I snapchat all my coworkers.

649
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: Your honor, I asked my case, your honor.

650
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 4: I don't know why I said that.

651
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 2: I swear I don't.

652
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 3: Know a hearsay, please, it would have been more beneficial,

653
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 3: especially if there was cheating, for me to watch and

654
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 3: wait and not let her know I noticed something.

655
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 2: Sometimes emotions get the better of judgment.

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00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 3: Again, thank you to those that gave thoughtful and helpful

657
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 3: comments about how to proceed. I'm grateful. It was much

658
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 3: ado about nothing. Obviously, she should have told me the

659
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: guy hit on her in the past, but we are

660
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 3: working past that. I think if she hadn't shut down

661
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 3: and been elusive with I don't know, this would have

662
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 3: been resolved pretty easily. It's not like I became angry

663
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 3: or super interrogative. I asked some questions and her elusiveness

664
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 3: caused things to accelerate. It was a spark that kindled

665
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 3: the fire of suspicion, and we've got some relevant comments.

666
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 3: Ohp continues. We've been together for seven years. We don't

667
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 3: just hide crap. Being open books with one another is

668
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 3: why my trust was so shaken.

669
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 2: In the moment. We just don't hide stuff. That's why.

670
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 3: The very fact she read, downloaded the app and was

671
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: messaging him raised questions. Her failure in the ability to

672
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 3: answer them made suspicions greater. That's how things escalated. The

673
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 3: whole reason for this was that in seven years, I've

674
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 3: never once suspected anything. Ever, this was the first time,

675
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 3: and considering I never yelled or lost control says magnitudes

676
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 3: that I'm not the psycho, controlling, jealous type. The fact

677
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,959
Speaker 3: that she was offering to do anything to alleviate the issue,

678
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 3: I think speaks volumes for the relationship.

679
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 2: Don't be so quick to judge. Also, I was very calm.

680
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 2: She got nervous and kind of weird, which prompted more questions.

681
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 2: I've never been the jealous type.

682
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 3: Ever, the fact that my internal red flags went off

683
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 3: made me ask more questions, and we've got a fit

684
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 3: that date.

685
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 2: They just keep coming in.

686
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 4: Oh boy, were we wrong?

687
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 2: Wrong.

688
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 4: Perhaps maybe are we right?

689
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 9: Definitely? Look, I can't help it that she reacted the

690
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 9: most suspicious way possible.

691
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:55,959
Speaker 4: I still don't know why she would do that.

692
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 9: I would need to know why she lied to me

693
00:33:58,080 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 9: for no reason, no reason.

694
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 4: Why did she need to do that?

695
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 9: She lied about some things, why did she lie about

696
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 9: the one thing that would make me go?

697
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 4: Hey, are you cheating on me?

698
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 2: Update five jays.

699
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 3: You guys keep calling either my wife a liar or

700
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 3: me a psychopath.

701
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 9: Well, depending on what corporation you litigate for, I would agree.

702
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 3: I came to redd it for clarity bog mistake. Maybe

703
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 3: five percent of the responses were actually responding to and

704
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 3: read the actual post. Most probably read parts of it

705
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 3: and injected their own stories. I became some weird, controlling brute.

706
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 3: We are not teens dating. When you're married and it's life,

707
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 3: certain things change. For one, privacy is still respected, but

708
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:42,839
Speaker 3: you don't get a complete free pass on every single thing.

709
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 3: You want your spouse to feel comfortable. If she wants

710
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 3: to see my social media or as questions, she could

711
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:51,879
Speaker 3: ask and I'll answer them. You take vows, and if

712
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 3: you mean them, you devote yourself to making the other

713
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 3: spouse comfortable. Like I said in the original, this guy

714
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 3: has always given me a weird feeling, but it was fleeting.

715
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 3: Now I realize it's probably because my gut knew he

716
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 3: was hitting on my wife, so I was right. Secondly,

717
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:11,479
Speaker 3: if you've actually read, you'd see that I have never

718
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 3: once in seven years questioned my wife about men or

719
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: asked to see your stuff. So I get a red

720
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 3: flag feeling based on snapchot, and I asked some questions

721
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: and boom, my mi psycho with raging trust issues.

722
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 2: Oh jeez, that's Reddit. Yes, I verified, but she sucks.

723
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: Not only did she offer to show me her stuff,

724
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 2: but the previous thread was all comments about how the

725
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 2: monkey emoji means something more and that she's cheating blah

726
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 2: blah blah. Of course I'm gonna check to be sure

727
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 2: marriage is serious. You can't just break up. There are

728
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 2: so many things that go into leaving a marriage.

729
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 3: You have legal, emotional, and social consequences, and it's much

730
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 3: harder and more serious than just breaking off relationship.

731
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 9: Kim Fine says super glad Opie's mansplaining marriage for us

732
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 9: really clear some things up there.

733
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's an attorney. I didn't know how am I

734
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 3: supposed to know what marriage is. I'm just a little woman.

735
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 3: He's a big man attorney.

736
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 4: Just a dumb slob without a law degree.

737
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 3: I'm just a stupid idiot. And this guy knows about marriage.

738
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 9: This guy knows about legal documents. I'm sorry, what do

739
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 9: you get after you get married?

740
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 2: Legal documents?

741
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 3: We are glad we went through this conundrum because it

742
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 3: reinforced how much we love one another. Because she thought

743
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 3: she was going to lose an I her, even if

744
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 3: it was only for a period of hours. I'm glad

745
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 3: I was wrong, But I'm also glad I verified I

746
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 3: was wrong.

747
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:40,760
Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story.

748
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,399
Speaker 4: I'd be glad to verify what corporation you litigate for?

749
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 2: Who do you work for?

750
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 9: I feel like this guy definitely works as a lawyer

751
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:52,720
Speaker 9: for like Monsanto or Blackrock or something.

752
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 2: We'll never know though, And that's the end of this story.

753
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 4: Let's head to the next one.

754
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Keon, your favorite Filipino. Here.

755
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:03,359
Speaker 6: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

756
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 6: three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

757
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:10,720
Speaker 2: My girlfriend's best friend crashed every date, so I walked away.

758
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 5: Why am I dating her?

759
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 8: Me?

760
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 2: Twenty six male and my girlfriend twenty eight female and

761
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 2: I have been dating for four months now and everything

762
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,280
Speaker 2: has been great except for one thing. Her bff thirty

763
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 2: two male dude is clearly in love with her, but

764
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:29,720
Speaker 2: she refuses to see it. Oh no, he's always joking

765
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: about how he is the one who will make her

766
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 2: the happiest, that she should be with him because they

767
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,439
Speaker 2: are so mates, etc. By the way, this comes from

768
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: a throwaway new WGFF and if you want to submit

769
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the our slash okay storytime

770
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 2: Separated and I'm Savannah.

771
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 11: I'm Kurtly.

772
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 1: Hello there, I'm Keon, and we are here to.

773
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 2: Give some good advice in a little goofy way, but we.

774
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 5: Don't have all the answers.

775
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 2: We don't want to let you know what we would do,

776
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 2: but you should let us know what you would do

777
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 2: down in the comments. She has known the dude for

778
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 2: close to eight years now and has never dated him

779
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 2: because he has been her BFF for a very long time.

780
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 2: It didn't bother me till she started bringing him on

781
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 2: our dates as he was feeling lonely and he has

782
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 2: no other friends.

783
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 11: Oh boohoom, maybe he should made some friends.

784
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: Yeah what as a thirty two year old male, I

785
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:15,439
Speaker 1: asked her, it is hard.

786
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, seriously, dude is thirty two, but I have

787
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 2: never seen him with any friends. In fact, our first

788
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:27,319
Speaker 2: fight was also about him, as she was asking me

789
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 2: to take him with me when I was going to

790
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 2: hang out with my friends. But I drew a clear

791
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 2: red line not happening. Yeah, what, he's your friend, Why

792
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 2: do I have to bring him along?

793
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:38,320
Speaker 5: That's weird.

794
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:42,280
Speaker 2: Also, around one month ago, her ex contacted me via Facebook.

795
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 2: We attended the same college and asked me to be

796
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:46,240
Speaker 2: careful about the BFF.

797
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:47,280
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

798
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: That's like the way you should have led with buddy.

799
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 8: I was on your side already, but oh.

800
00:38:55,320 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 6: It's it's her own personal Like, this is my my friend.

801
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 6: But he gives me all the attention that I want.

802
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 6: I you know, give him breadcrumbs, but he always is

803
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 6: behind me, giving me what I want, and he's ready

804
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 6: to be there for me whenever I want.

805
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 2: At that time, I thought it was just something a

806
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 2: jealous X would say, but now I agree with him

807
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 2: one hundred percent. Dude calls her regularly when she is

808
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 2: out with me, always tries to come with us on

809
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:27,840
Speaker 2: our dates and generally makes demands on her time so

810
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 2: much that sometimes I feel like a third whale.

811
00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 8: This would like already be bad as is, but it's

812
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 8: the fact that he was fully just like no, like,

813
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 8: ultimately I'm the perfect one for her. Yeah, Like it's

814
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 8: like okay, fine, he like maybe texts her a lot

815
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 8: if they're like actually patonic friends whatever, Like they're answering,

816
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 8: going on dates, crossing it.

817
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna date her forever. I can understand if maybe

818
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 2: he's gay, but it doesn't seem like he is in

819
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 2: this situation. He's not like he'd very much as a

820
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 2: crush on for the last eight years. Now, I should

821
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 2: make it clear that my girlfriend never crosses any boundaries

822
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 2: with him, but at the same time, she doesn't shut

823
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 2: him down forcefully. At first, I thought about giving her

824
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,399
Speaker 2: an ultimatum, but ours is a four month old relationship

825
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 2: and they go back eight years. There's no point in

826
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 2: giving an ultimatum. So the only other way is to

827
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 2: break up with her, which is a shame because she

828
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 2: is an awesome girlfriend apart from this, But this is

829
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 2: pretty big, dude. Yeah, is there any other way, reddit

830
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: anything I can do so that our relationship doesn't break down,

831
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: I would really like to hear any and all plans. Please, guys,

832
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 2: thank you. There's an update on the same day a

833
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:39,919
Speaker 2: few hours later.

834
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 8: I think the only thing you can do is like

835
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 8: redouble down, like this is how I feel.

836
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 5: This is the way that this upsets me.

837
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 8: Like if things were to keep going like this, I

838
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,439
Speaker 8: don't know how much more I can do. And then

839
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 8: it's her decision on like if she wants to put

840
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 8: up boundaries with him or.

841
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 2: Not, and she has to understand like this has already

842
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 2: happened one, so if it's happening again, then it, you know, one,

843
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 2: shame on me, sham or something. I don't know.

844
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 8: I hope that the ex that reached out to him,

845
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 8: I hope that he had flat out told the girlfriend,

846
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 8: this is why I'm breaking up with you said, if

847
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 8: it came up again, it's not her first time hearing it.

848
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, you date me, you also date my bff.

849
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 5: Can you imagine?

850
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 2: Oh god, I'm not doing a throuple or like a

851
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 2: weird like throule. That's like competitive in a way. I

852
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 2: don't know. I'm not going to compete for some guy's

853
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,280
Speaker 2: attention when there's already another.

854
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 6: Girls, it's giving I need double the attention. Yeah, I

855
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 6: want you to fight for me. Yeah, it's like I

856
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 6: want you to fight for me.

857
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 8: Me and Sophia just read the same story as this upstairs,

858
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 8: but like genders reversed.

859
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 2: Oh, I have decided to break up with her. Oh, sure,

860
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,760
Speaker 2: I can talk with her again, but I have already

861
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 2: talked to her five times with nothing to show for it. Okay,

862
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 2: so I will do it tonight when I get off work.

863
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 2: Doing it over text doesn't seem to be nice. Thank

864
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 2: you for helping me reach a conclusion. I appreciate it.

865
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 2: Update two the next.

866
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 8: Day, and like fully, I hope you were so blunt

867
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 8: with it of like, yeah, obviously you love her, being

868
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 8: nice for her feelings, but like you will keep getting

869
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 8: broken up with if you're bff who literally talk, Like,

870
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 8: just go date him if this is what we're gonna

871
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 8: do at this point.

872
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 2: Update number two. I woke up chapter three, I woke

873
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 2: up chapter four next day. Next so good. I'd love this.

874
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 2: So I broke up with her. It was difficult to do,

875
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 2: but I knew it was the right thing to do.

876
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 2: I went to her apartment and basically told her that

877
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 2: this relationship is not working for me. She was surprised

878
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 2: if as we had just watched a movie on the weekend.

879
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 2: So I took that opportunity and explained to her that

880
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 2: it was supposed to be a date with just us

881
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,759
Speaker 2: two and instead she brought her BFF there. I told

882
00:42:50,760 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 2: her that I have no issues with her friendship with

883
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 2: her BFF, but he has been regularly infringing on our

884
00:42:56,120 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 2: time and that is something which has always overshadowed our relationship.

885
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 2: But I have absolutely no interest in competing for her

886
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 2: attention with her bff. Also, the dude openly flirts with

887
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: you right in front of me, and I have absolutely

888
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 2: no desire to be this kind of dysfunctional relationship. So

889
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 2: do you think she gets it? Or do I think

890
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:22,440
Speaker 2: she gets it? Not at first, but before her next relationship.

891
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 2: I think she would.

892
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 8: I know we won't ever get that information, but I

893
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:27,720
Speaker 8: think it's gonna take some time to reflect.

894
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that it's just weird. You don't need

895
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 2: to be nobody needs to be competing in a relationship

896
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 2: against best friends. Like there's a place for friends, there's

897
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 2: a place for more than friends, and you can't just

898
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 2: tap your best friend. Come on, every single date with you,

899
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 2: every single like hangout session, Like it's like when are

900
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 2: you gonna get time? Is he gonna just like stare

901
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 2: at you in the bedroom, like what's gonna happen? And

902
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: if he's not on the date, he's calling you the

903
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 2: whole time. Yeah, Like that's so annoying, Like how much

904
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: attention do you need? Yeah, I'd get really really pissed.

905
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,919
Speaker 8: I also OPI you better update us if she gets

906
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 8: with him.

907
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 2: True, So this is goodbye. Hopefully you were able to

908
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 2: put boundaries with your bff before moving on with someone else.

909
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 2: And if you don't, then it's not my headache anymore.

910
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 2: And then I walked away as she was trying to

911
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 2: say it's not like that she has no feelings for

912
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 2: the BFF and he.

913
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 5: Was just lonely boo hoo.

914
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: I honestly didn't want to hear anything at that point,

915
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 2: so I walked away. I am sad right now, but

916
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 2: I will be okay eventually. Thank you for the support, guys,

917
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 2: It was appreciated. Can we look and see if there

918
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 2: are any updates.

919
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 11: I'll check or comments that were yeah or.

920
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: Something like I will check one second time. Oh no, momento,

921
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: Oh no. The account has been banned.

922
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 2: Oh it's been banned.

923
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: It was five years ago.

924
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 2: Oh okay, they're probably over and done with and that's

925
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 2: the end of the story.

926
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,240
Speaker 7: We're gonna go on to the next one.

927
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 8: I wanted to quit my job and travel for a year,

928
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 8: but my boyfriend is against it.

929
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 2: Let me be free.

930
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 8: At the risk of sounding like a hashtag wanderlust Instagram influencer,

931
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 8: I love to travel more than anything else. Exploring new

932
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 8: cities for the first time, immersing myself in new cultures,

933
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 8: and meeting new people and trying new food. It all

934
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:23,320
Speaker 8: makes me happier than I can describe.

935
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 1: Nice.

936
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 8: By the way, this comes from Baker Banner, and if

937
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 8: you want to submit your own stories, go to the

938
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 8: r slash okay storytime subreddit.

939
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, I'm Savannah, and we're.

940
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 8: Here to give good advice goofully, But we don't have

941
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 8: all the answers.

942
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 5: We only know what we would do. Let us know

943
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 5: what you would do in the comments.

944
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:39,439
Speaker 2: I know, he says.

945
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 8: At the very top of my bucket list has always

946
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 8: been to take a gap year and travel the world.

947
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 8: I've been saving diligently for the past five years and

948
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 8: have finally reached my savings goal for the trip. Three

949
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 8: years ago, I started dating my boyfriend, a wonderful man

950
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 8: that I now live with. He also makes me ridiculously

951
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 8: happy and is the man I have every intention of

952
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 8: spending the rest of my life with. But he doesn't

953
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 8: exactly agree with my gap year plan. He says long

954
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 8: distance never works and a year is a long time

955
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 8: to be apart, even if he manages to join me

956
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 8: for a week or two.

957
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 5: He's also worried about.

958
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 8: The dangers of a woman traveling by herself, though I've

959
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 8: traveled alone multiple times before and I'm no stranger to it.

960
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 8: He says he loves me more than anything, but he

961
00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 8: thinks the strain of us being apart for so long

962
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 8: and him constantly worrying about me could break even the

963
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 8: strongest relationship.

964
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 5: He also says the money I.

965
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:36,320
Speaker 8: Saved could be used to buy a house or wedding

966
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 8: and start our life together. Well, that's not what it

967
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 8: was saved for, buddy. I'm just so torn. This trip

968
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 8: has been my dream for so long now, but now

969
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 8: that dream involves returning home to him, and I'm just

970
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:49,320
Speaker 8: not sure if that's possible.

971
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 5: I feel like if I don't go.

972
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:52,959
Speaker 8: This will be one of those things I look back

973
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 8: on from my dad and regret the most. Then again,

974
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 8: the same could be said for losing him at it.

975
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 8: For what it's worth, this plan is no surprise, and

976
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 8: I've always been vocal about it. He's never encouraged it.

977
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 8: But he didn't tell me I shouldn't go until it

978
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 8: was time.

979
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 5: To buy the tickets. I assume he always thought I.

980
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 8: Wouldn't go through with it. And we have some relevant comments.

981
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:18,480
Speaker 8: I don't like this, Yeah, I could understand the bummer

982
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 8: of like, oh, like, you're gonna be gone a whole year,

983
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 8: but you knew this was her dream.

984
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 2: You knew she was always gonna do this exactly.

985
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 8: I think there's totally a possibility for you guys to

986
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 8: like purposely and tactically plan certain spread out weeks to

987
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 8: see each other over that year.

988
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 2: It's called insecurity, and he is insecure within himself because

989
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 2: he does not trust her enough to go and enjoy

990
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 2: herself without him.

991
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 8: I also could see just like a fear of loneliness.

992
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the parteople are not meant to do long distance.

993
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, very weird that he's like, mmmm, that sounds dangerous

994
00:47:55,200 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 6: for you when she's done it, she's traveled so much.

995
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 5: Exactly.

996
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 2: I hate when you're doing something and then you get

997
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 2: like a partner and then you have to They're like,

998
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 2: you should stop doing that. Excuse me, I was doing

999
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 2: it way before you. I'm gonna continue for you.

1000
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 1: You like doing that, you like that?

1001
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, stop doing it.

1002
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 8: I think they should try to plan it together, like

1003
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 8: he can spread out his vacation time as well as

1004
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:19,479
Speaker 8: he can.

1005
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 5: Maybe don't take the whole two weeks at.

1006
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 8: Once, like try to maybe do like if she's a

1007
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:27,959
Speaker 8: little closer, just do like long weekends places if you can.

1008
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,359
Speaker 8: Relevant comments Hidden Turtle says, are you quitting your job

1009
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:34,960
Speaker 8: to travel? What is more important to you traveling or

1010
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 8: your relationship? I don't She doesn't have to pick. He says, yes,

1011
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 8: I will be quitting my job. However, I have marketable skills,

1012
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 8: certifications and networks in my field. I work in it,

1013
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 8: and although I know a year off will put my

1014
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:50,959
Speaker 8: career behind, I also know I'll find a new job

1015
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 8: when I get back. I've been taking smaller trips, but

1016
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 8: my vacation days don't allow me to really take more

1017
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 8: than two weeks at a time. It can't be compared

1018
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 8: with a whole year of traveling, the freedom that time

1019
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 8: would give me and the number of places I would

1020
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:04,600
Speaker 8: be able.

1021
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 5: To see haha.

1022
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 8: Sad Face says, can you take a shorter trip as

1023
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:12,279
Speaker 8: a compromise six months instead? Opie says, I've actually been

1024
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:14,239
Speaker 8: considering that a lot. I would be fine with a

1025
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,400
Speaker 8: six month trip. I could still see a ton with

1026
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:19,440
Speaker 8: that much time. So oh, he's wanting to compromise some stuff.

1027
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,759
Speaker 8: Six months, come back for a while, maybe do another

1028
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 8: six months, like a little bit later.

1029
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 5: He can take some vacation time in the middle.

1030
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 2: It's just the fact that, like, this has nothing to

1031
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 2: do with the boyfriend, but he's making it about himself.

1032
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 8: I don't want to completely knock his feelings though, because

1033
00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 8: I do get it. But it's just the fact that

1034
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 8: he's not been supportive at all. Yeah, like he should

1035
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 8: still be excited and then also still be like I'm a.

1036
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 5: Little nervous, like I'm gonna really miss you, but I

1037
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 5: do feel bad.

1038
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, they've been dating for three years.

1039
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 8: Banana Pancake says, Also, Opie, are you living with your

1040
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 8: boyfriend right now? Do you have any pets or any slack?

1041
00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 8: He'd have to pick up while you're gone, Opie says,

1042
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 8: we live together, no pets. I would still pay for

1043
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 8: my share of the rent, which is actually more than

1044
00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:07,880
Speaker 8: half of it because we split bills as a percentage

1045
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 8: of incomes instead of right down the middle. I already

1046
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:12,760
Speaker 8: have that money set aside and we have an update

1047
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:13,920
Speaker 8: five days later.

1048
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 7: Hmmmm.

1049
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. I I think I just have a

1050
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:21,799
Speaker 2: bad taste in my mouth from like my past like

1051
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 2: relationships and just like they've never been like fully on

1052
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 2: board with whatever, like with like my career or whatever

1053
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 2: it needs to be on board. Yeah, it's just like

1054
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 2: like that just makes me feel so bad that my

1055
00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 2: partner can't, like, you know, actually be happy for me

1056
00:50:39,080 --> 00:50:40,879
Speaker 2: if I can't do what I love. Like why I'm

1057
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 2: gonna switch perspectives here. If I was the boyfriend and Opi.

1058
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:48,919
Speaker 8: Is like, or okay, your day, have someone for three

1059
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:50,919
Speaker 8: year days, someone can live with them.

1060
00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:51,719
Speaker 2: I love with them.

1061
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 8: You assume that you're gonna be with them forever, because

1062
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 8: that seems like the plan. But the whole time you

1063
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,319
Speaker 8: have been telling them I'm gonna take a gap, you're

1064
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 8: in save they haven't said you shouldn't. But then when

1065
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 8: it's time to book it. They're like, I'm just really worried,

1066
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 8: Like that's a long time away. I think it'll strain us.

1067
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 8: And well, it's really dangerous for you to travel alone

1068
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:12,760
Speaker 8: you're a woman.

1069
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 2: I mean like if if I was Opie, I'd be like,

1070
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 2: you're annoying, like let me do what I want. But

1071
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 2: if I was, if it was the other way around,

1072
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 2: I honestly see. The thing is, I'm just very confident.

1073
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 2: I wouldn't worry, like anything would happen. I'd be like,

1074
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: oh my god, that's so cool, and I like tell

1075
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 2: me where you're gonna go, and I would visit you.

1076
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 2: That's like the same thing like my my friend did,

1077
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 2: Like what a semester in Italy. Yeah, and like she's

1078
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:43,919
Speaker 2: been in like an eight year relationship. They just got

1079
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 2: engaged and like like he could have broken up with her,

1080
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,360
Speaker 2: but instead he visited her, like I think twice.

1081
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 5: That's the thing that I think as long as they plan.

1082
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:54,959
Speaker 2: Their in like the five months, five or six months,

1083
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 2: she was like there, you know, for like the semester,

1084
00:51:57,120 --> 00:52:00,080
Speaker 2: so like, but he also knows that she wants to

1085
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 2: like live there. She want like that's her whole thing

1086
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 2: is about, Like Italy her. You know, our famili's from there,

1087
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 2: blah blah blah this stuff. So it's like, that's what

1088
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:11,279
Speaker 2: she wants to do. So if you're not into that,

1089
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: then you weren't compatible. Yeah.

1090
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 8: I had a long conversation with him the night after

1091
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:17,880
Speaker 8: this post and tried to come to a compromise. I

1092
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 8: offered to cut my trip down to six months, with

1093
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 8: the plan of him joining me for the first two

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00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 8: and a half weeks, and then I would fly home

1095
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 8: to visit every three to four weeks after that, and

1096
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:27,319
Speaker 8: you should just do.

1097
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 5: The you're at that point like that sounds so often.

1098
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:32,959
Speaker 8: He asked if I would cut it down to two

1099
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,439
Speaker 8: though I felt that quitting my job wasn't worth only

1100
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 8: two months of travel, and he agreed with that. We

1101
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 8: both admitted that we had been inconsiderate. I expected him

1102
00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:43,760
Speaker 8: to be okay with essentially putting our relationship on hold

1103
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 8: for a year, and he apologized for never bringing up

1104
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:48,839
Speaker 8: his feelings sooner and just assuming that I would never

1105
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 8: go through with my plans. In the end, it wasn't

1106
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:55,439
Speaker 8: this trip that broke us up. It was all of them.

1107
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 8: He admitted to me that as much as he loves

1108
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 8: our travels, in the past, traveling itself is starting to

1109
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 8: lose its shine for him. He wanted to focus on

1110
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:08,279
Speaker 8: building his career and starting a family. He said he

1111
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 8: would love to still take an international trip every other

1112
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,400
Speaker 8: year or so, but to places like the Caribbean or Europe,

1113
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 8: not the place is still on my list, like Argentina,

1114
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 8: Vietnam and Kenya. I tried to convince myself that I

1115
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 8: would be okay with that, but I had seen enough

1116
00:53:22,719 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 8: of the world and would be happier with him at

1117
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 8: home than abroad by myself. But it wasn't true. I

1118
00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 8: know a lot of people won't understand choosing what they

1119
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 8: see as trips and vacations over a relationship with someone

1120
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 8: they love, but traveling is something I just can't give up.

1121
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:40,879
Speaker 8: I would be restless and miserable without it.

1122
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 11: Yeah, it feels like you guys just want different things.

1123
00:53:43,680 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that you have both. You maybe started

1124
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 2: growing together, but now you're growing in opposite directions. He

1125
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 2: At the end of the day, you don't want the

1126
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 2: same things, And that was honestly kind of the same

1127
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 2: with me and my eggs. He like, he's like I

1128
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 2: very much like his dream is to be In his words,

1129
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:03,839
Speaker 2: what his dad never was for him.

1130
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 8: Jesus.

1131
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like that is your purpose.

1132
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 2: So like I'm not gonna try to take that away

1133
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 2: from you, But like I don't see that for my future.

1134
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 2: I don't see myself being a stay at home mom.

1135
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 2: I don't see it. And like, no, but I think

1136
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:18,879
Speaker 2: stay at home my mom is a stay at home

1137
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 2: Well she was not now.

1138
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 5: It's one of those things you just want a different things.

1139
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 2: Some people are meant to be, Like their dreams are

1140
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 2: to be moms, their dreams are to have children, grow

1141
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 2: family whatever, blah blah blah. That has never once been

1142
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 2: in my mind. Like I've never once been like, oh yeah,

1143
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 2: I can sit here and have kids and be happy

1144
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,320
Speaker 2: about it. Uh huh. I want to go out and

1145
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 2: do things. And the thing is, I'm not choosing to

1146
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 2: sit down and have a family either, Like it would

1147
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 2: be a thing where I'm like, oh, I feel like

1148
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,840
Speaker 2: I should, you know what. But like I'm actively not

1149
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 2: choosing to do it, and I'm going to actively not

1150
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 2: choose to do it until I feel I am ready

1151
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 2: to do it, you know. Yeah, Like maybe Opie just

1152
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:58,719
Speaker 2: doesn't feel like she's ready to do that yet, and

1153
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 2: especially if he wants sit down and have children. She's like,

1154
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna travel.

1155
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 5: Oh, we got a little bit left.

1156
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 8: Neither of us is wrong in this, we're just incompatible.

1157
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 8: After a long weekend of crying to my mom, I'm

1158
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 8: beginning to feel better about the decision. I know it's

1159
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 8: gonna hurt for a long time, but I honestly believe

1160
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 8: this is what's best for us. And even though I

1161
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 8: don't plan on flirting and kissing my way across the world,

1162
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 8: I also feel lighter going on this trip without a

1163
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 8: boyfriend to constantly worry about and to try to.

1164
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:28,719
Speaker 5: Stay connected with. Yeah, dude, it wasn't gonna work. Yeah,

1165
00:55:28,760 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 5: I agree.

1166
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 8: He was probably right that it was just gonna be

1167
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 8: like a weird tension. Thanks to everyone for your advice.

1168
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:38,399
Speaker 8: Now we've got a flight to book, and at least

1169
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:39,439
Speaker 8: you don't have to pay rent either.

1170
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 5: Final comments A Mumoo ninety four.

1171
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 8: What the f dude? What kind of job allowed you

1172
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 8: the savings to be able to travel for an entire year?

1173
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:49,160
Speaker 7: Op?

1174
00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:50,320
Speaker 5: He said, cybersecurity.

1175
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:52,760
Speaker 8: It took years of saving though, and living well below

1176
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 8: my means that big portion of my travels will also

1177
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:58,239
Speaker 8: be through Southeast Asia, where a dollar goes a long way.

1178
00:55:58,960 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 8: Deleted says, I I thought you wrote he wanted to

1179
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 8: travel in the Caribbean and Europe. Have you visited these

1180
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 8: places a lot and are not looking for new adventures?

1181
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 8: I mean, Europe's a pretty pretty big place. Oh, he says,

1182
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 8: I've been all over Europe. I loved it and I'd

1183
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:14,719
Speaker 8: love to go back. But he made it clear that

1184
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 8: he wants his future travels to be a little less adventurous,

1185
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 8: more along the tourist path and resorts in the tropics.

1186
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 8: If I had stayed with him, I would have limited

1187
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:27,320
Speaker 8: my future travels to only a few select comfortable countries

1188
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 8: once every few years. And that's not for me at least,

1189
00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 8: you know that's not for you.

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00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:34,360
Speaker 2: Are some people know what they want and some people

1191
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:38,919
Speaker 2: think that they want this, you know, like, and there's

1192
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 2: no there's no right or wrong way. Everyone's different. And like,

1193
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 2: if you know you're calling and you enjoy it and

1194
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 2: that's what you want to do, freaking go for it.

1195
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:50,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, go watch Lala Way.

1196
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:52,880
Speaker 5: Horror movie.

1197
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:55,800
Speaker 1: Is it a horror movie or is it inspiration? Because

1198
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 1: they did both their dreams.

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00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 2: It sucks that people, like some people have to give

1200
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 2: up their hopes and dreams in order to be in

1201
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:04,239
Speaker 2: a relationship, and other people have to give up a

1202
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:06,399
Speaker 2: relationship to do their homes and dreams. It's like some

1203
00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:10,160
Speaker 2: people can't have both and it sucks. But not at

1204
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 2: times it lines up perfectly and it's like, oh, like

1205
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 2: we both you know, do the same thing, or like

1206
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 2: do something similar to where we can make it work,

1207
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 2: have kids, do it, blah blah blah, have a good life.

1208
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 2: But then other people is just like this is way

1209
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 2: too much, and that's the end.

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Speaker 2: I told my girlfriend to see her ex. Then I

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Speaker 5: Why did you do that?

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Speaker 2: I twenty five female and my girlfriend, Claire twenty seven female,

1218
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:52,600
Speaker 2: have been dating for two years. She told me a

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Speaker 2: bit about her past relationships, but never really delved into

1220
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1224
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Speaker 2: I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we already got some good

1225
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Speaker 2: advice in a goofy way, but we don't have all

1226
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 2: the answers. We don't'll let you know what we would do,

1227
00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 2: but you should tell us what you would do down

1228
00:58:15,040 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 2: in the comments. Kate and my girlfriend were longtime best friends.

1229
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 2: They were friends for about six years before they got together.

1230
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:25,360
Speaker 2: Claire told me how Kate saved her from an awful

1231
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 2: relationship where she owed her a debt that she didn't

1232
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:31,440
Speaker 2: know how to repay. Because of it, Kate and Claire

1233
00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 2: were engaged quickly after officially dating and ended up not

1234
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 2: working out as they weren't compatible and they ended up

1235
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 2: having a massive fight and never spoke again. Oh this

1236
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 2: happened about eight months before me and Claire met. About

1237
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 2: six months ago, Claire got a message from Kate. Kate

1238
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 2: apologized for all the awful stuff she said and asked

1239
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:51,959
Speaker 2: if they could meet up. I was there and saw

1240
00:58:52,000 --> 00:58:55,440
Speaker 2: the messages as Claire showed me she was so angry

1241
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:58,440
Speaker 2: and sad. She told me how she does not know

1242
00:58:58,640 --> 00:59:02,240
Speaker 2: if she could forgive Kate. Claire is the most kind

1243
00:59:02,280 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 2: person I know she would never hurt anyone and could

1244
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 2: practically forgive you for just about anything. It's just how

1245
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:11,920
Speaker 2: she is. She asked me what I think she should do,

1246
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 2: and I told her to do what's best for her.

1247
00:59:14,320 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 2: I wanted to tell her to block Kate, but I didn't.

1248
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 2: She agonized over it for weeks. Eventually she told me

1249
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 2: that she's going to meet up with Kate. She said

1250
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 2: it was so she could close that chapter of her

1251
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 2: life and gain closure, and that the debt she owed

1252
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 2: Kate would be repaid. She said they had been best

1253
00:59:33,520 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 2: friends for a long time before they dated, and whilst

1254
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 2: she missed her best friend, she wasn't going to allow

1255
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 2: them back into her life. I was uneasy and asked

1256
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 2: if she was sure, and she could tell I was

1257
00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:49,200
Speaker 2: feeling weird and asked if it would make me feel

1258
00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 2: better if I.

1259
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 5: Came with her.

1260
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:54,880
Speaker 2: She asked if she could not go, and I said

1261
00:59:55,000 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 2: she should go, and I told her I didn't want

1262
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:58,840
Speaker 2: to come with her, but it would make me feel

1263
00:59:58,840 --> 01:00:03,040
Speaker 2: better if someone did, so she took her brother. She

1264
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 2: went and kept me updated the entire time. When I

1265
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 2: messaged her, she responded right away. She reassured me, and

1266
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 2: then after it was over, filled me in on everything

1267
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 2: they talked about. When she told me, I didn't realize

1268
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 2: how how much it upset me that she met up

1269
01:00:19,960 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 2: with her ex until after I told her, I was

1270
01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:26,040
Speaker 2: really upset that she went through with meeting up with

1271
01:00:26,080 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 2: her ex and that I didn't understand why she did that.

1272
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 2: Is this guy?

1273
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 5: Actually for real?

1274
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 2: You said yeah, like, if you do what's best for you,

1275
01:00:35,080 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 2: I hate this.

1276
01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 5: You needed to voice your opinion right then and there.

1277
01:00:39,120 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 8: And the fact that you like kind of said it

1278
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:43,160
Speaker 8: was okay and then retroactively realized you weren't okay with

1279
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 8: it isn't her fault.

1280
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 2: The thing is you. If you didn't want her to go,

1281
01:00:48,280 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 2: then you should have said, actually, I don't really feel

1282
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 2: comfortable with you going like yeah, please, all right, you know,

1283
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 2: having that conversation.

1284
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 5: But instead you were like, you know, you do what's

1285
01:00:57,400 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 5: best for you.

1286
01:00:58,400 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 2: Already thinking like.

1287
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,400
Speaker 3: If she did, there's write a wrong answer here, like

1288
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:03,960
Speaker 3: whatever she chooses, you know, is up to her, but

1289
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make a big deal out of it if

1290
01:01:05,640 --> 01:01:06,040
Speaker 3: it's wrong.

1291
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:10,640
Speaker 2: That's a healthy relationship. She asked me why didn't tell

1292
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 2: her it upset me? And I told her that any

1293
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 2: reasonable person would be upset with their girlfriend meeting up

1294
01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 2: with their ex. It's disrespectful and you clearly don't care

1295
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 2: about me if you think i'd be okay with it?

1296
01:01:20,680 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 2: What are you like? Is he for real? You didn't

1297
01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 2: tell me what you wanted, right? You did not say that,

1298
01:01:28,440 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 2: And then all of a sudden, it's like, oh, like

1299
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 2: you met with an ex. Also, it wasn't even by herself.

1300
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:35,160
Speaker 2: Her brother was there. Yeah, so it's not like she

1301
01:01:35,200 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 2: was like meeting up secretly. She told you about it,

1302
01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 2: She asked how you felt about it, She asked for

1303
01:01:39,440 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 2: your opinion. You didn't give it, and then now you're

1304
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 2: mad that you didn't, that she didn't do what you

1305
01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 2: didn't tell her.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, Like, Opie's totally allowed to change her mind and

1307
01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 8: start to feel uncomfortable about it, But you can't get

1308
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 8: mad at her exactly.

1309
01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 2: You can't say, oh, well, no normal person would, Oh okay, cool.

1310
01:01:57,680 --> 01:02:00,400
Speaker 8: Great, This is why I thought of about it for

1311
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 8: literal weeks and was so torn and confused on what

1312
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 8: I wanted to do, and I was asking for your advice.

1313
01:02:06,200 --> 01:02:10,160
Speaker 2: I mean whatever, I'd be so pissed. She got upset

1314
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:12,920
Speaker 2: and said I should have communicated better and that she

1315
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:15,440
Speaker 2: couldn't undo meeting up with her ex, and she showed

1316
01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:18,720
Speaker 2: me she blocked her after meeting up. I was still upset,

1317
01:02:18,800 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 2: so I told a few work friends about what happened,

1318
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,480
Speaker 2: and they all agreed with me that it was disrespectful. Yeah,

1319
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 2: I'm sure you told them your side of the story. Yeah,

1320
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 2: But we eventually moved past it. Six months later, it

1321
01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:32,160
Speaker 2: came up again with my work friends when they asked

1322
01:02:32,160 --> 01:02:35,040
Speaker 2: how our relationship is going, and they said they couldn't

1323
01:02:35,040 --> 01:02:37,520
Speaker 2: believe I'd stay with Claire after she met up with

1324
01:02:37,560 --> 01:02:40,920
Speaker 2: her ex and they would have dumped her cool, and

1325
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:44,240
Speaker 2: they also aren't in the relationship and don't know the

1326
01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:47,520
Speaker 2: full story. It upset me all over again. So when

1327
01:02:47,560 --> 01:02:49,880
Speaker 2: I got home, I called and told Claire that there

1328
01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 2: was some unresolved feelings about that situation, and I just

1329
01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:57,080
Speaker 2: word vomited out how I resent her for doing that,

1330
01:02:57,160 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 2: and that everyone thinks I should dump her, and that

1331
01:02:59,440 --> 01:03:02,640
Speaker 2: I would never do something so disrespectful and that she

1332
01:03:02,680 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 2: doesn't care about our relationship if she did that, and

1333
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 2: I don't know if I can forgive her.

1334
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 5: Well, then I don't know break up with her.

1335
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:13,200
Speaker 8: At this point, I don't care literally, yeah, we're gossiping

1336
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:13,600
Speaker 8: about this?

1337
01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 5: How many months after the.

1338
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 11: Fat six cometh six?

1339
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 2: But like half a year went by and now it's

1340
01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:23,320
Speaker 2: bothering you again? Or girl, give it a rest, you're annoying.

1341
01:03:23,720 --> 01:03:26,960
Speaker 2: She didn't say anything and hung up after I was done,

1342
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 2: and texted me saying that she'll give me space and

1343
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:31,000
Speaker 2: to let her know what I wanted to do about

1344
01:03:31,000 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 2: our relationship. I messaged back saying I feel she should

1345
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 2: be trying harder to save our relationship and this just

1346
01:03:36,960 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 2: proved my point that she doesn't care. And she just

1347
01:03:39,440 --> 01:03:42,360
Speaker 2: said she's here when I want to talk properly. So

1348
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 2: am I overreacting?

1349
01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:45,120
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1350
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:45,880
Speaker 4: You are?

1351
01:03:46,880 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 2: You really are, Like oh my god, you literally could

1352
01:03:51,080 --> 01:03:54,560
Speaker 2: have just expressed your concerns, that's all you had to do,

1353
01:03:54,640 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 2: but instead you are a coward. Now you're making her

1354
01:03:57,400 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 2: feel bad and manipulating her and gasolating her, And I

1355
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 2: feel like, oh, you shouldn't have gotten you know, you

1356
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:05,480
Speaker 2: shouldn't have gone to this meeting with your ex. You

1357
01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 2: know if like, even if they weren't an ex, I

1358
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:10,200
Speaker 2: feel like you would still find some way to be

1359
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 2: pissed about it, just because you're you. And that's pissed

1360
01:04:13,360 --> 01:04:14,920
Speaker 2: me off. I don't like this. I don't like that

1361
01:04:14,920 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 2: I'm getting heated. I'm getting heated. It's pissing me off.

1362
01:04:18,680 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 2: Don't play mine games with me. We have some relevant replies.

1363
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:28,160
Speaker 2: Coleetics says, well, I mean to be fair, you did

1364
01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:31,000
Speaker 2: say she should go. If you knew it was going

1365
01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 2: to upset you, then maybe you should have said no.

1366
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 2: She assured you and everything. I'm just a little confused

1367
01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 2: on what you may be upset about. I'd assume you

1368
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:43,920
Speaker 2: feel like she'll get back with her, which Ope responds to,

1369
01:04:44,960 --> 01:04:47,480
Speaker 2: I know she won't get back with her. I think

1370
01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:49,640
Speaker 2: it's more than she did it in the first place.

1371
01:04:49,720 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 11: She asked you about it so much.

1372
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:56,000
Speaker 2: It's pissing me off that you didn't even give an answer,

1373
01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 2: and you had an answer in your head but didn't

1374
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 2: say it out loud. Cho's wrong, So now you're angry

1375
01:05:02,880 --> 01:05:05,600
Speaker 2: with her and she did absolutely nothing wrong. I know

1376
01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:07,280
Speaker 2: she won't get back with her. I think it's more

1377
01:05:07,440 --> 01:05:09,680
Speaker 2: that she did it in the first place. I know

1378
01:05:09,880 --> 01:05:12,320
Speaker 2: I said she should go, but she didn't even think

1379
01:05:12,360 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 2: about not going or how that would affect our relationship.

1380
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:16,680
Speaker 2: Did you ask her?

1381
01:05:17,120 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 5: She also did? She debated it for a week.

1382
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:23,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you got your facts wrong. Ope, go

1383
01:05:23,520 --> 01:05:25,880
Speaker 2: back and read what you said before. If the tables

1384
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:28,840
Speaker 2: were turned, I wouldn't have even thought about going and

1385
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 2: would have just blocked them. When asked why OP told

1386
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:35,600
Speaker 2: their co workers, I told my coworkers because a few

1387
01:05:35,640 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 2: of them I was very close with and they knew

1388
01:05:38,200 --> 01:05:40,960
Speaker 2: about me and Claire dating. They saw I was down,

1389
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:43,240
Speaker 2: and so I told them the truth. I wanted to

1390
01:05:43,240 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 2: be okay with Claire meeting up with her ex, but

1391
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,840
Speaker 2: I don't understand how she doesn't see a problem with

1392
01:05:47,920 --> 01:05:50,400
Speaker 2: even going in the first place. And there is an

1393
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:53,480
Speaker 2: update two days later, let's hear I got a load

1394
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 2: of comments saying I was overreacting about the issue with

1395
01:05:56,160 --> 01:05:57,000
Speaker 2: my girlfriend Claire.

1396
01:05:58,400 --> 01:05:58,720
Speaker 5: Great.

1397
01:05:58,920 --> 01:06:01,439
Speaker 2: I read every comment and waited until I calmed down

1398
01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 2: to talk to Claire. She came over yesterday and we

1399
01:06:04,320 --> 01:06:06,400
Speaker 2: talked it out. She said she understood where I was

1400
01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 2: coming from, but that she couldn't undo what she did

1401
01:06:09,200 --> 01:06:10,960
Speaker 2: and that I needed to decide whether or not I

1402
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 2: could live with the choice she made. She said she

1403
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:16,440
Speaker 2: loved me, but she said she was exhausted from having

1404
01:06:16,440 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 2: to explain her point of view in different ways in

1405
01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 2: me not accepting it exactly, Like, how many times do

1406
01:06:22,200 --> 01:06:24,120
Speaker 2: I have to like rack my brain trying to come

1407
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:26,600
Speaker 2: up with a good enough answer for you. We talked

1408
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:29,880
Speaker 2: some more about our relationship and expectations. I asked if

1409
01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:32,480
Speaker 2: she would be willing to change her number so her

1410
01:06:32,520 --> 01:06:35,560
Speaker 2: ex could not reach out again. She adamantly said no,

1411
01:06:35,880 --> 01:06:38,040
Speaker 2: and that she's had this number her whole life and

1412
01:06:38,040 --> 01:06:41,520
Speaker 2: that changing it would be too much of an inconvenience. Honestly,

1413
01:06:41,560 --> 01:06:42,600
Speaker 2: I kind of agree, and.

1414
01:06:42,520 --> 01:06:44,520
Speaker 5: I think I wouldn't want to change my numbers. Yeah,

1415
01:06:44,680 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 5: just block her.

1416
01:06:45,400 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 2: You're being controlled. She is blocked exactly, She's blocked on everything.

1417
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,680
Speaker 8: So then it's fine. Yeah, then you just don't trust

1418
01:06:51,720 --> 01:06:55,280
Speaker 8: your girlfriend, like she again showed me she blocked her ex.

1419
01:06:56,680 --> 01:06:58,640
Speaker 8: I agreed with her that it would be a hassle,

1420
01:06:58,760 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 8: but I said that if she wanted to rebuild trust

1421
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,680
Speaker 8: with me, that was what I wanted her to think

1422
01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:05,840
Speaker 8: about doing, and she said she would.

1423
01:07:05,640 --> 01:07:06,240
Speaker 5: Think about it.

1424
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:10,800
Speaker 2: The conversation after that ended up being me more talking

1425
01:07:10,840 --> 01:07:13,400
Speaker 2: at her and she was just nodding along. She's done

1426
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 2: with you it literally, yeah, She's like m m m m, yeah,

1427
01:07:16,440 --> 01:07:18,800
Speaker 2: keep going, you keep going because there's nothing there is

1428
01:07:18,960 --> 01:07:22,040
Speaker 2: nothing that she can say because you're not gonna accept

1429
01:07:22,040 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 2: any answer. You've already made up your mind. You just

1430
01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:25,840
Speaker 2: want her to do it for some reason. You want

1431
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:27,840
Speaker 2: her to pull the trigger. And she's like, no, this

1432
01:07:27,880 --> 01:07:30,360
Speaker 2: is your deal. You have to decide, and it's like, uh,

1433
01:07:30,360 --> 01:07:34,360
Speaker 2: what this is triggering me. In the end, I asked

1434
01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:36,840
Speaker 2: if she had something to add and she said she

1435
01:07:36,920 --> 01:07:39,840
Speaker 2: just needs to think, but nothing to add at the moment.

1436
01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:43,200
Speaker 2: I asked if we were okay and she said yes,

1437
01:07:43,480 --> 01:07:47,680
Speaker 2: everything seemed good, re resolved everything. I was happy that

1438
01:07:47,720 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 2: we talked it out and she seemed happy. I'm in

1439
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:52,360
Speaker 2: a barely used group chat with all of our friends

1440
01:07:52,360 --> 01:07:55,280
Speaker 2: plus Claire. No one really talks except to share photos

1441
01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:59,080
Speaker 2: of their babies, lash partners, or make plans. I wrote

1442
01:07:59,080 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 2: in the group whilst wills Claire was making dinner and

1443
01:08:02,680 --> 01:08:05,520
Speaker 2: took a picture of Claire and just said that it

1444
01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:07,880
Speaker 2: was sweet she was making dinner and that we are

1445
01:08:07,920 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 2: doing so well and I'm so happy. I made a

1446
01:08:11,040 --> 01:08:13,080
Speaker 2: joke in the group chat that even if Claire cheated

1447
01:08:13,120 --> 01:08:15,560
Speaker 2: on me with her ex, that I would miss her

1448
01:08:15,560 --> 01:08:18,799
Speaker 2: cooking and would probably win the friends in the divorce

1449
01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:25,960
Speaker 2: Jesus are you stupid. That is the worst thing to

1450
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:28,920
Speaker 2: do in this situation. You just made up, You just

1451
01:08:29,080 --> 01:08:32,400
Speaker 2: made up, made up. I told Claire what I wrote,

1452
01:08:32,439 --> 01:08:34,640
Speaker 2: and she shut down and I told her it was

1453
01:08:34,640 --> 01:08:37,360
Speaker 2: a silly joke and tried explaining, but she still wouldn't

1454
01:08:37,400 --> 01:08:40,960
Speaker 2: talk to me. Yeah, because now I'm just gonna say

1455
01:08:41,040 --> 01:08:46,000
Speaker 2: you're tall, Yeah, you are lot. She cooked and we

1456
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:48,840
Speaker 2: ate in silence. I asked if we were okay again,

1457
01:08:49,760 --> 01:08:53,439
Speaker 2: and she said yes. She then made up a very

1458
01:08:53,600 --> 01:08:56,479
Speaker 2: obvious lie to leave. She said she forgot that she

1459
01:08:56,560 --> 01:08:58,760
Speaker 2: had stuff to do tomorrow and that it's easier from

1460
01:08:58,840 --> 01:09:01,280
Speaker 2: her house. I texted her after she left, saying that

1461
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:03,719
Speaker 2: she didn't have to lie to me, and she said

1462
01:09:03,760 --> 01:09:05,880
Speaker 2: she's not lying, that she actually has stuff to do,

1463
01:09:05,920 --> 01:09:09,479
Speaker 2: and she's sorry for leaving all of this to say

1464
01:09:09,560 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 2: that this morning she broke up with me. Everyone who

1465
01:09:13,000 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 2: is saying that she would dump me was right. She

1466
01:09:15,560 --> 01:09:17,840
Speaker 2: said that I needed more than she could give me

1467
01:09:18,000 --> 01:09:21,120
Speaker 2: and that we weren't compatible. I asked if we could

1468
01:09:21,160 --> 01:09:23,840
Speaker 2: call about it, and she said sure. We spoke on

1469
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:26,120
Speaker 2: the phone for an hour. I told her I wouldn't

1470
01:09:26,120 --> 01:09:28,240
Speaker 2: make her change her phone number, and then I trust

1471
01:09:28,240 --> 01:09:31,479
Speaker 2: her completely. I was just hurt and it was a

1472
01:09:31,560 --> 01:09:36,920
Speaker 2: joke to lighten the mood, and I love her. She

1473
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:39,280
Speaker 2: just kept saying the same thing, that we aren't compatible

1474
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:41,400
Speaker 2: and that I'll find someone who will match what I need.

1475
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:43,640
Speaker 2: And I don't want to find anyone else or go

1476
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:46,960
Speaker 2: on dates again. I wanted to be with her. I

1477
01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 2: asked her to think about it some more before making

1478
01:09:49,920 --> 01:09:52,559
Speaker 2: a decision, and she said that she doesn't need to

1479
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:54,680
Speaker 2: and that she hopes I find what I'm looking for.

1480
01:09:56,400 --> 01:09:58,280
Speaker 2: I reached out to a few of her friends from

1481
01:09:58,280 --> 01:10:00,400
Speaker 2: the group chat and told them what happened and asked

1482
01:10:00,400 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 2: if we could stay friends. Oh my god, I hate you.

1483
01:10:04,680 --> 01:10:07,679
Speaker 2: I hate you, lovey I hate you. God.

1484
01:10:08,120 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 5: I don't know that I've seen Savannah crush out yet.

1485
01:10:10,960 --> 01:10:16,160
Speaker 2: This is just so stupid. It is so dumb. I mean, like,

1486
01:10:16,240 --> 01:10:18,360
Speaker 2: you gave her every single reason to leave and then

1487
01:10:18,360 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 2: she leaves, and it's like, oh darn, why, But I

1488
01:10:22,280 --> 01:10:25,680
Speaker 2: love you. I don't understand my actions to make you

1489
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:28,599
Speaker 2: feel manipulated and gat I didn't have made you leave

1490
01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:33,320
Speaker 2: and see the truth behind my weird self. Yeah, Claire

1491
01:10:33,360 --> 01:10:36,320
Speaker 2: messaged me, saying she hasn't even had a chance to

1492
01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 2: tell her friends yet, and if I could give her

1493
01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:41,600
Speaker 2: ten minutes to tell them, I told her who I

1494
01:10:41,680 --> 01:10:44,920
Speaker 2: message is none of her concern anymore. Now you're gonna

1495
01:10:44,920 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 2: be rude because you didn't get your way. Baby doesn't

1496
01:10:47,960 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 2: get her way. She has to go cry and be like,

1497
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:52,680
Speaker 2: oh my god, she broke up with me. Oh no,

1498
01:10:53,080 --> 01:10:56,840
Speaker 2: I'm such a victim. Oh my goodness. She And why

1499
01:10:56,960 --> 01:11:00,920
Speaker 2: why does she break up with you? Oh? Oh uh,

1500
01:11:01,000 --> 01:11:03,280
Speaker 2: I don't know, because she's crazy. She wanted to go

1501
01:11:03,320 --> 01:11:06,080
Speaker 2: get with her ex. Oh right right. It wasn't because

1502
01:11:06,120 --> 01:11:08,639
Speaker 2: of anything you did, none of the jokes you made,

1503
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:11,360
Speaker 2: none of the like unresolved issues that you can't seem

1504
01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:15,920
Speaker 2: to get past. Dude, are you actually kidding me? Out

1505
01:11:15,960 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 2: of the six friends I messaged, only one has replied

1506
01:11:19,200 --> 01:11:21,599
Speaker 2: saying that they would be happy to stay friends.

1507
01:11:22,680 --> 01:11:24,600
Speaker 5: That's a lie. Yeah, I'm not gonna talk to you.

1508
01:11:25,040 --> 01:11:28,040
Speaker 2: Claire blocked me after my last message, But maybe it's

1509
01:11:28,080 --> 01:11:33,160
Speaker 2: for the best. No freaking wonder. Nobody freaking wants to

1510
01:11:33,160 --> 01:11:36,040
Speaker 2: be your friend, and no one likes you because you

1511
01:11:36,120 --> 01:11:39,479
Speaker 2: act like this, You piece of crap, you waste of

1512
01:11:39,520 --> 01:11:40,200
Speaker 2: a human being.

1513
01:11:40,280 --> 01:11:42,479
Speaker 5: I hate you, scrow you.

1514
01:11:42,680 --> 01:11:47,240
Speaker 2: I hate I don't know why she's a freak.

1515
01:11:47,920 --> 01:11:51,080
Speaker 11: This girl's a freak that blocked the sound pretty well?

1516
01:11:52,120 --> 01:11:52,679
Speaker 7: Oh good.

1517
01:11:52,920 --> 01:11:55,360
Speaker 2: I wanted to update because I was wondering if what

1518
01:11:55,479 --> 01:11:58,200
Speaker 2: I said in the group chat was okay. Some of

1519
01:11:58,200 --> 01:12:01,679
Speaker 2: my friends said that the message I sent came off

1520
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:04,760
Speaker 2: like a threat, but I told them that Claire found

1521
01:12:04,800 --> 01:12:08,200
Speaker 2: it funny. But now I'm wondering if maybe she overreacted

1522
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:11,719
Speaker 2: to my joke. Did I overreact by what I did

1523
01:12:11,760 --> 01:12:12,960
Speaker 2: after she broke up with me?

1524
01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:13,599
Speaker 7: Yep?

1525
01:12:15,439 --> 01:12:20,120
Speaker 2: There are some comments. MANA chopsis films why the f

1526
01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:23,240
Speaker 2: would you joke about her cheating in a group chat

1527
01:12:23,280 --> 01:12:27,280
Speaker 2: with her and her friends? OPI responds, I've said a

1528
01:12:27,320 --> 01:12:30,000
Speaker 2: similar joke in the past to Claire and she laughed.

1529
01:12:31,160 --> 01:12:33,800
Speaker 2: I thought that because of similar jokes that we had

1530
01:12:33,840 --> 01:12:37,599
Speaker 2: resolved everything. She keep going, you got this, she would

1531
01:12:37,680 --> 01:12:40,840
Speaker 2: see the funny side. I didn't realize how much it

1532
01:12:40,880 --> 01:12:44,320
Speaker 2: would hurt her. The similar joke I made before to

1533
01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:47,160
Speaker 2: her was that if she cheated on me, I would

1534
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:50,759
Speaker 2: take the house, which she found funny as she doesn't

1535
01:12:50,800 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 2: own her place. She laughed then about it. She knows

1536
01:12:58,439 --> 01:13:01,000
Speaker 2: I don't think she would actually cheat on me, but

1537
01:13:01,080 --> 01:13:03,920
Speaker 2: our friends have similar humor to us, so I thought

1538
01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:08,040
Speaker 2: it would lighten the mood after the serious conversation we had.

1539
01:13:09,400 --> 01:13:11,720
Speaker 2: I never realized how much it would hurt her or

1540
01:13:11,800 --> 01:13:18,439
Speaker 2: make it seem to her friends. And that's the end. No, literally,

1541
01:13:18,520 --> 01:13:21,599
Speaker 2: Rosie the posy, all the talk and all this talk

1542
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:25,320
Speaker 2: just to act like a wuss in the end, It's true,

1543
01:13:25,479 --> 01:13:30,719
Speaker 2: that's insane. Literally literally, you talk a big freaking game. Op,

1544
01:13:30,920 --> 01:13:33,760
Speaker 2: you talk such a good freaking game, and guess what,

1545
01:13:34,240 --> 01:13:36,800
Speaker 2: you're alone again. You know why, because you're a piece

1546
01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:40,160
Speaker 2: of crap. You're a piece of freaking crap. Screw you,

1547
01:13:40,680 --> 01:13:41,120
Speaker 2: screw you.

1548
01:13:41,520 --> 01:13:41,640
Speaker 8: Uh.

1549
01:13:41,720 --> 01:13:44,439
Speaker 2: And I hope that you find nothing in this world.

1550
01:13:44,560 --> 01:13:46,360
Speaker 2: I hope that you sit there in a corner and

1551
01:13:46,479 --> 01:13:48,800
Speaker 2: just keep going over in your mind, what did I

1552
01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:50,280
Speaker 2: do wrong? What I do wrong? And I hope it

1553
01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:51,839
Speaker 2: drives you absolutely insane.

1554
01:13:52,600 --> 01:13:55,240
Speaker 8: On a different note, I hope you go to therapy

1555
01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:59,200
Speaker 8: and heal yourself and have a successful relationship in the

1556
01:13:59,240 --> 01:14:01,879
Speaker 8: future and can find something.

1557
01:14:03,520 --> 01:14:06,240
Speaker 1: But good for Claire, Good for Claire, Good for Clare.

1558
01:14:07,040 --> 01:14:08,280
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story.