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Speaker 2: You've filthy horse, your husband's gone, and we've got books

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Speaker 1: I'm shook. It's memoirs Martini.

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Speaker 3: Celebrity Puff Club, Read it while it's hot. Celebrity Puff Club.

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Speaker 4: Tell your secrets.

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Speaker 1: We won't talk celebrity books.

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Speaker 2: No boys are a loud celet book say it loud

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Speaker 1: Celebrity Book Club.

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Speaker 3: Buzz me in. I brought the queer foe. Hey, best friend?

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Speaker 5: Are you?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 4: I'm so good.

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Speaker 1: I'm so wet and dry. It won'ts a web. I'm

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so chopped. Why don't you moisturize me everywhere?

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Speaker 3: Heavy use for drying cracks.

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Speaker 1: Actually so funny because I just put on a moisturizer.

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Speaker 1: I was in the steam room at the gym. Then

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Speaker 1: this is so crazy. I brought my own moisturizer to

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Speaker 1: Have like it does have, but it's like kind of

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? It's not for face.

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Speaker 3: Well that's also so this is when you're like randomly

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not trying to. I don't want to put

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Speaker 3: A woman with a bun splashing your face being like ola.

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Speaker 1: I am feeling you look.

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Speaker 3: Like you're glowing.

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Speaker 3: It's pretty and I guess you thought I'd be embarrassed

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, And I told that to my dad and

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Speaker 1: He just assumed that it was marinery Yeah, because I'm

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Speaker 1: always stuffing my face pizzas. In his defense, you were

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Speaker 3: Raw have you Valentine in the Red Rooms?

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Speaker 3: I haven't really made any any arrangements. I got invited.

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Speaker 3: And so I don't know. I was invited to a

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Speaker 3: Meal and seriously, but then I also was thinking of

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Speaker 3: It's like I'm walking through I'm like red. Why do

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Speaker 1: So have this memory of this bloody Mira had once

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Speaker 3: No, I would say the best bloodies have beef stock, horseradish, tomato.

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Speaker 1: At the movies, that is so fun. And you all

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Speaker 1: That's so fun. Let's go do that right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, but let's get into our sexy so question.

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Speaker 1: You guys called in. You left us so many smells.

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Speaker 1: We have our brilliant and international, glamorous producer on the

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Speaker 1: line with us right now, Darby Masters. Well, hello, Derby,

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Speaker 1: you've pre screened screen Yes, I have.

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Speaker 8: I have pre screened everything. Every time that we do this,

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Speaker 8: I know I said this last time. It was really tough,

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Speaker 3: It's all appreciated.

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Speaker 1: It was all appreciated. It all listened to and loved.

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Speaker 1: And you need to know that you are being heard

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Speaker 3: And that doesn't mean like who's as better if it's

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Speaker 1: It's not a qualitative analysis.

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Speaker 3: It's just what happens.

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Speaker 1: Evere readier? Okay, let's do it. O. Wait, sorry, Okay, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I'm in.

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Speaker 9: Tast Stephen and Lily, I'm the squirter who called into

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Speaker 9: your very first loved Line episode, calling again because my

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Speaker 3: this squirter call. Whenever I think when we do this episode,

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Speaker 1: It's really insane to be like, Hi, I'm the squirter.

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Speaker 3: We're looking to have family. That is the craziest sense

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Speaker 1: And yet it makes a sense, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Yes, because what is a baby if not an expression

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Speaker 1: of your erotic success? So you're looking for come head

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Speaker 1: over to the steam room.

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Speaker 3: And ye fly come here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get a cup and get a broom, get a room,

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Speaker 3: Where is it if you do want someone? You know?

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Speaker 3: I mean these are lesbians. Who is squirting? What do

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Speaker 1: BCZ email to just like all the guys you know,

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Speaker 3: Our child friends. It's more about like expanding the network,

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Speaker 3: being like do you guys know of anyone like super random?

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Speaker 1: Like they need to be random.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like super random.

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Speaker 1: Cousins coworker is interesting. It's so unvetted. It's a little

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Speaker 1: binder of metal? Well, it's free, Oh, because your paying

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Speaker 1: for the binder cost a lot? Is it like a thousand?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if not more? And it depends obviously there's cheaper ones.

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Speaker 3: Don't get too hung up on it, Like, think about

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Speaker 3: And like how much involvement you want this man to have?

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Speaker 3: Me or find a random pregnant woman.

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Speaker 1: Oh, just like on the street. Just be like you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, keep us updated.

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Speaker 1: Squirter is no squirter. I hope your kid is also

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Speaker 11: Best friends, huge, huge, huge fan here you inspired me

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Speaker 1: Long story.

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Speaker 11: My sister's boyfriend I really really don't like. I think

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Speaker 1: All been there.

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Speaker 10: Let me know what you think.

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Speaker 3: EXO, Hey, best friend, just to let it lie, let

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Speaker 1: People have to make their own mistakes.

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Speaker 3: Just be the ear when she wants to make fun

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Speaker 1: If they deal with it sounds.

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Speaker 3: Good, I mean it sounds like you want to hang

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like you know, your sister's always going

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Speaker 3: Blood is everything.

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Speaker 1: And I think for that reason, it's actually probably more

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Speaker 3: You have to see this guy.

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Speaker 1: Think about all your friends and all their partners, You

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Speaker 3: Again, Like and then you can be so like if

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Speaker 3: this party burning his clothes. Yeah, it sounds like your

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Speaker 3: use of dweve just means like he's I'm just like

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Speaker 1: Interesting. I want to lock into that because we to

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Speaker 3: That asshole's not jerk.

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Speaker 1: It just means like, yeah, I'm hearing nerd, I'm hearing legos,

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Speaker 3: I'm also hearing maybe like he's not even nerdy enough.

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Speaker 3: It's just kind of like.

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Speaker 1: He's not smart enough. Maybe he's just a little bit meepy.

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Speaker 3: Bad jokes, meepy, like even trivia.

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Speaker 1: And yet perhaps her use of dewep is her way

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing. You always want to be an open ear.

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Speaker 3: If your sister knows that you don't like him, then

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Speaker 3: she's not going to complain about him to you, yes,

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Speaker 3: because she's gonna be like, oh, I know, she's just

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Speaker 3: going to keep it private. Yeah, which is not good

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Speaker 1: No, it's not. You don't want tonipulate her away from

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Speaker 1: even like seeing you. As Lily says an open ear,

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Speaker 1: I will say, like if do we mean something like

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Speaker 3: Also, watch the show Bad Sisters, Bad Sisters. Yeah, the

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Speaker 3: Utter Show with se Horgan. I'm starting Sharon Horgan.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I love her.

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Speaker 3: It's about like sisters who hate one of their sister's

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I let it ride, Sis, and like sorry,

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Speaker 1: like start picking out your bomb ass wedding dress now

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Speaker 1: that you're gonna go in and you're gonna like kill

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Speaker 3: Used to be like I'm bringing my craziest gay friend

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, good luck.

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Speaker 3: Next Darby Blues, Hey, best friend.

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Speaker 12: Just a quick question about off grid living.

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Speaker 5: How do I.

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Speaker 12: Make it sexy?

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Speaker 3: We're the express You.

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Speaker 12: Have a composting toilet. I live in the woods, and

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Speaker 12: I do have a composting toilet, which essentially is just

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Speaker 12: dates over here because my place wasn't. That is like

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Speaker 12: so cute, but like, how do you make it sexy

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Speaker 12: for the girls? How do you tell them about it?

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Speaker 6: Is that first date and knowledge?

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Speaker 12: I wait?

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Speaker 5: Anyways, Thanks Beth composting off grid toilet.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for listening. Yeah, if you're off grid and

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Speaker 1: Our grid, I love that you're getting reception out there.

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Speaker 3: My question is because I've done business and some.

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Speaker 1: Lesbians composting toilets.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was an outdoor toilet. Oh yeah, so

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Speaker 3: you still had to walk to it and it's like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's nothing about it. It was sexy. This sounds

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Speaker 3: And it's composting toilet and then she has to leave

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Speaker 3: and take the bucket.

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Speaker 1: Are you taking the bucket out every time?

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Speaker 3: I don't think you do, because you still flush with

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Speaker 3: composting toilets of I'm correct? Or is it just bucket

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Speaker 3: more porter body?

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Speaker 1: She said the word bucket, I don't know what you're flushing.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, you're taking this like dumping prospect park. You're taking

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Speaker 3: Look, I think have the date. I guess the date

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Speaker 1: She's trying to take a date home, So maybe they're

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Speaker 1: going to a cool non alcoholic local bar and wyoming

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Speaker 3: They get on the truck and come to the home.

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Speaker 1: She's trying to take a bit home. But then like

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Speaker 3: First too, like you're off GrITT and that's cool, and

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Speaker 1: It's too far.

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Speaker 1: she goes and uses the bathroom because I think ideally

447
00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: she just doesn't have to use the bathroom on the

448
00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,240
Speaker 1: first night, because I think my second night, then you

449
00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:46,159
Speaker 1: can have that conversation be like, so, this is so

450
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 1: funny and I don't even know if you use my bathroom,

451
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 1: not that I would have checked or whatever, but I

452
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:51,639
Speaker 1: actually have a composing toilet. It's like this weird thing

453
00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:53,440
Speaker 1: about it, but like you'll figure it out, like you'll see,

454
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 1: you get it, and that by the time she's already

455
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,240
Speaker 1: bought in a little bit, so she'll be like a

456
00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 1: little bit more okay with it.

457
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 3: That's an amazing shit before you come back, I mean,

458
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:04,520
Speaker 3: and most likely, like I've never like shit at someone's

459
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 3: house on the first night.

460
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,159
Speaker 1: That's so Kate Hudson of you.

461
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:13,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, like most aphabs are not shitting at someone's house

462
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 3: on the first night.

463
00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean.

464
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:20,160
Speaker 3: You since you're like laying down.

465
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 1: Just like I having like diarrhea. Ina Barnes and Noble like,

466
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 1: you know, when it happens, it happens. I don't have

467
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:25,960
Speaker 1: any control over it.

468
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 3: Control. Yeah, I just think you can bank on that

469
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:33,639
Speaker 3: and then just talk about your tale of home ownership

470
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 3: off grid as a way to mention it. Possibly too,

471
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:39,719
Speaker 3: you could be like, it's crazy living off grid, you know,

472
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 3: between you know, the boiler and having to have a

473
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,280
Speaker 3: composting toilet, but bury that under like and then I

474
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 3: refinished the floors.

475
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 1: Yes, So in critique we always talk about the compliment sandwich,

476
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 1: where you do compliment and then a criticism and then

477
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 1: another compliment. And so I think you could kind of

478
00:21:55,920 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 1: adapt that to like positive thing twilight, the positive thing

479
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,640
Speaker 1: low bed composentory let refinished four, and then you.

480
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 3: Could double down with the you should check out this bathroom.

481
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 3: There's vintage Playboy posters.

482
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: Now, yes, And that's actually this is a great ancillary

483
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 1: point here, which is I think she's also asking a

484
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,720
Speaker 1: little bit like, is there any way touge up the

485
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: toilet room the water closet itself that kind of minimizes

486
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 1: the grossness of the compost pill it So, but I

487
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 1: think like the vintage Playboy's cool anything that's sexy, right,

488
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,119
Speaker 1: So instead of like having it be so dead flowers

489
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 1: and like candles or whatever, candles maybe, but like I

490
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: think like let's actually like bump up the sex appill

491
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 1: a little.

492
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 3: Bit, n like maybe like a deep kind of pink.

493
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: Yes, any warm collars, red orange paint like salmon, like

494
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,879
Speaker 1: those just like are really flattering on skin tones like

495
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 1: those are great things to have in a bathroom. But like,

496
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 1: stay away from Grandma, stay away from popa ree, stay

497
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 1: away from like little old framed like you know, lithographs

498
00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,360
Speaker 1: and paintings of.

499
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 3: Cows lithograss only interlus and get like maybe do.

500
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 1: Like Marilyn Monroe smoking stick.

501
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 3: So basically it's gonna be so barlice designed by Mattie Fenny. Yes,

502
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 3: And then I think, get tobacco kind of musky scented candle.

503
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 1: That's more wood, yeah, woody, woody.

504
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 3: Scent wood, tobacco, whiskey.

505
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 1: You can do some palaceand I keep palisando in my bathroom.

506
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 1: If you do that too, and people know how to

507
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:30,720
Speaker 1: use it.

508
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 3: Certainly you do too.

509
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: Be the lighter there. I think you'll figure it out.

510
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 3: Mini fridge, tons of celsius.

511
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: Flat screen. Oh good luck. We salute you and the

512
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:47,120
Speaker 1: work you're doing.

513
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,199
Speaker 3: I would love to just to stand a photo of

514
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 3: the washroom.

515
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 1: Yeah with the bucket knights and full let's.

516
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 3: See it full bucket bucket picks celebrity.

517
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 13: Okay, next one, hey, best friend, second time caller. I

518
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 13: called in to profess my love for Lily, and I

519
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 13: think we can all see where that went mad atop

520
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 13: on your engagement. I am a bisexual woman. Sorry, I

521
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 13: don't know that either of you long term relationship. Haven't

522
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 13: asked bitches will have any insight on this question. But

523
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:44,679
Speaker 13: recently I got involved in two dating situations sort of

524
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 13: concurrently with two different CIS men who both are interested

525
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:55,800
Speaker 13: in E M M. I am neurospicy and can't bring

526
00:24:55,840 --> 00:25:00,040
Speaker 13: myself to even finish the first chapter poly secure and

527
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 13: like it's all chill, but I don't really know, Like

528
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 13: what are we supposed to do? Disgusting to.

529
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 6: My parents are Catholic? Like I don't understand it's gonna work.

530
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 6: I don't. It's fine, it isn't a problem. So like,

531
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 6: how do you just dive into ethical non monogamy from

532
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:25,919
Speaker 6: the jump? I thought that you were supposed to be

533
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 6: in a monogamous relationship. Get bored and seek something to

534
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 6: distract you from the inevitable end of your first relationship.

535
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 10: Yeah, I'm thirty six.

536
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 6: Does that help?

537
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: I love I'm thirty Does that help? It usually doesn't. Unfortunately, Listen,

538
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 1: do you even like these guys? That's what I'm I'm

539
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 1: hearing this, and I'm seeing this kind of like this

540
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: frustration over the whole concept of ethical monogamy and it's

541
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 1: culture we're living in now, and how am I supposed

542
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 1: to like date multiple guys and keep it sexy? But

543
00:25:59,920 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: I just think it's just about being in touch with

544
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: your desire. I think all noomonogamy at its best is

545
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: a way of allowing for a multiplicity of desires. So

546
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 1: do you have the desire or you into both these guys?

547
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: Do you find them attractive? Do you have this sexy,

548
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: firtatious romance? Is that there? If it's there with both

549
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: of them, then I think you just need to, you know,

550
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: tap into your French side and get into playing the

551
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: field a bit. And I would really highly suggest avoiding

552
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,679
Speaker 1: the kind of classic pitfalls about the glomnomy as much

553
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 1: as possible, with the scheduling and the spreadsheets and like,

554
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:39,400
Speaker 1: you know, getting too into scheduling as kink and like

555
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: keeping them all separate or whatever. It's like, if you

556
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: have like two boyfriends and you want to be so

557
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 1: till to swinton about it, then I think.

558
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 3: See what in Scotland, see one in Frank.

559
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, like get into it, but really interroor get your

560
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: own desire in this circumstance.

561
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 3: First off, thank you for your love bisexual and catholic.

562
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 3: You know, we've never met me in this color, so

563
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 3: you know in another life.

564
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 1: She definitely seems like you're type bial. No I know.

565
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 3: I was like, well, yeah, if this is any comfort,

566
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 3: you sound like my type, but no, I am betrothed.

567
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 3: The guys saying E and M. This to me is

568
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 3: like I think kind of just also like new lazy

569
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:17,719
Speaker 3: guy stuff.

570
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: They just don't want to commit.

571
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 3: They don't want to commit, and they know like that's

572
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 3: only the nineties to not want to commit, so they

573
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: think it makes them see so progressive and cool to

574
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 3: be like I'm actually ethically normenogamist and that's my thing,

575
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 3: And it's like, no, you just want to be able

576
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 3: to like throw some therapy language when you actually just

577
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 3: like are kind of probably also thirty six and don't

578
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 3: want to commit. That's what I think. So if you're

579
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 3: also not even attracted to these guys, then screw both

580
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:45,959
Speaker 3: of them period.

581
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 1: Like you are young, yay, thank you. Thirty six is

582
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: so young. You're not thirty seven yet. Yeah, I still

583
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: have a few months left.

584
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 3: But if you are into one of these E and ms,

585
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 3: also like maybe be like buying Catholic and fab and

586
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 3: be like, look, fuck your E and M. That's not

587
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 3: my thing.

588
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: You are thinking, maybe she doesn't want to be Polly.

589
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,919
Speaker 1: It's just the guys who like have this poly energy.

590
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, or she would be if there was like reason

591
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 3: to it.

592
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: Doesn't E and M just mean that you're dating and

593
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 1: just aren't exclusive to start out?

594
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 3: E and M is so annoying, but it's like everyone everybody, Yeah,

595
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 3: it's like that's what I'm saying. Why don't you say, Tom,

596
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,479
Speaker 3: be like, let's date and then we can get to

597
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 3: your E and M wishes later?

598
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 5: Right?

599
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: Because E and M is almost saying like, uh, we're

600
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: going to be exclusively non exclusive. It's like, so what

601
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 1: is the point date?

602
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 3: But it's almost even more serious because you have to

603
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 3: be Yeah, yeah, so I'm actually E and M.

604
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have three partners.

605
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 3: And it's also a way so like this guy doesn't

606
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 3: have to like break it off with like some girl

607
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 3: he met in Santa Fe.

608
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's still santafane well, trying to get your

609
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: delicious Albuquerque. I think your suspicion is well founded. But

610
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,719
Speaker 1: I also think that you, if you are into it,

611
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: then you need to kind of push past that suspicion

612
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: and follow your desire and let your desire run rampant,

613
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: let it ribble down your chin.

614
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 3: Like be so I I'm about it, and be like,

615
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 3: okay for number one, meet me in a church parking

616
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 3: lot at one pm.

617
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting you bring up the Catholicism. I think

618
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: there's something there. I think there's some hidden arrows there.

619
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: So it's mine that.

620
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:28,959
Speaker 3: Let's mine the arrows.

621
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: Let's get your deacon on. Dicking down with the deacon,

622
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 1: make him wear a robe on. Fry me up, fry

623
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: fry me up.

624
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 3: Friar, would I say in bed?

625
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: I think yeah, even for a neurospicy individual such as yourself,

626
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: I think there's hope. I think there's a lot of

627
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: I mean, she's already bagged two guys.

628
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you already have them brag right, So it's like.

629
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: She's still trying to bag you. She's trying to let

630
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: you know.

631
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 3: Look, I have like these two guys.

632
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, do you want to do this or not?

633
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 3: It's on. I'm here.

634
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 1: Good luck, best of luck, stay horny, stay catholic.

635
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 5: Okay, next call hi, Stephen. And really that's an honor

636
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 5: to talk at you on a long time Nashvillian. And firstly,

637
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 5: just want to say, we've got to get you away

638
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 5: from Broadway and the gults next time you come. You

639
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 5: really need to go to East Nashville or the Nations.

640
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 5: There's so many other little burrows for you to check out. Yeah,

641
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 5: and my question is I've been invited to a kink

642
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 5: club and I really want to go with my partner,

643
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 5: but I'm nervous to bring it up or definitely a

644
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 5: vanilla couple, but I would like to, you know, insert

645
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 5: some excitement into.

646
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: Our second you'd like to insert something.

647
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 5: But I'm just nervous to bring it up to them,

648
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 5: And I would like your advice on how to broach

649
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 5: that topic. Love, y'all.

650
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: Like a sex party club sounds like there's a membership

651
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: with regular meetings.

652
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: I feel like it is like probably a kink.

653
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: But she's referring to it's a venue and it's a

654
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: night out of venue.

655
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 3: It's a night out of venue. That's a kink knight.

656
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 3: Or it's like maybe at you know, like a space

657
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 3: and you get an invite it's a kink club. Okay,

658
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 3: this is what I think.

659
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 1: You have a lot of experience in this. I'm curious.

660
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: I'm curious what you think.

661
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 3: You first go to Costa Rosa.

662
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: Okay, to Miranda riding downtown Nashville.

663
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 3: The king club is the hostess stand at Jason Alten's.

664
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 3: I honestly think you should start with a conversation of

665
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 3: what are your desires?

666
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 5: Right?

667
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 3: And he says his and then you're like, oh my god,

668
00:31:58,120 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 3: you could be fun to get a club.

669
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 1: He's like, might love to have a nice massage by

670
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 1: the fire. Well we watch Pretty Woman and she's like,

671
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,479
Speaker 1: oh my god, wait, we should totally do that. Also,

672
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: what about a kink club, Like we go to this

673
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 1: night at this kink club.

674
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: So random I just thought of that.

675
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I don't know, like my good fingered

676
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: by like two guys while you watch, like just thinking,

677
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's the fantasy that I have. Anyway,

678
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: let's do both of our fantasies. Yeah. Done?

679
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 3: You know he wants to please you?

680
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, let us not forget the partner aims to

681
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: please listen. I think that you can have a conversation.

682
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: If it's a little awkward, it's totally okay because relationships

683
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: crave honesty. A relationship thrives on honesty. And when your

684
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 1: partner can see that you're being like genuinely in your realness,

685
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: like they respond with comfort and joy and acceptances, you

686
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: can be so real And so I think that yes,

687
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: they may not be into it a little bit, or

688
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: you can say, I don't know, it's just I think

689
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: it could be cool, and they might be like, oh

690
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: maybe I don't know.

691
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 3: Oh no, if I want to see, like fucking dude, yes,

692
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 3: their swords and you don't.

693
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,479
Speaker 1: Have to push it so much, but just kind of

694
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: like get it out there and then like bring it

695
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 1: up and then like maybe he can, like you know,

696
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: playfully jab you about it, or like you guys are

697
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 1: making love one night and he like you know, pulls

698
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: the stuffed animal off the shelf. He's like, oh, is

699
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: this what you want? Like another person in the room

700
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: and then you guys do something really naughty with your

701
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: stuffed animal.

702
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and it's a really like high grade beautiful

703
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 3: stuffed animal.

704
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 1: Yeah.

705
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 3: I think also, you know, when you're talking of this fantasy,

706
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 3: like it's not like the first time, you can be like, oh,

707
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 3: and we're gonna go and I'm I'm gonna get like

708
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 3: fucked by it too.

709
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it can just be explorative.

710
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 3: Literally you're like, I just want to be with you, yes,

711
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 3: and go.

712
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: I'll say this now as someone who has had some

713
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: experience at a cank club at Nashville kink clubs, I think,

714
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 1: like you know, when you're in a sort of somewhat

715
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:09,760
Speaker 1: group public space with the partner and there's sexual things happening,

716
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: partners can react in all sorts of different ways that

717
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 1: you might not anticipate, and that might seem a little

718
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: bit odd to you at the time, and they can

719
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 1: be nervous or insecure, and that might not have anything

720
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: to do with you, it might partly have stuff to

721
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 1: do with you, And I think you just need to

722
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 1: like allow for that to happen. Like I'm saying, if

723
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: you actually do go to this kin club, don't be like, wait,

724
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 1: let's go here, let's do this. Why aren't you doing this?

725
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 1: Be just a little bit like whatever happens happens, be

726
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 1: like open to everyone's level of comfort or discomfort, and

727
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: then you just lesbian processed it afterwards and it'll be fine.

728
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 1: And I think, like, I just like, you know, I've

729
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 1: been circumstances where the other person or maybe we're both

730
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 1: being kind of like, ooh, we're being a little bit

731
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: jealous and weird and like we feel weird together, we

732
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 1: want to be apart. But then other circumstances, sometimes you're like, oh,

733
00:34:57,960 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 1: I feel weird apart. I only want to be together.

734
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 1: It varies, and it depends on a lot of different

735
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: like other factors. Don't have in your head, like the

736
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 1: kind of idealized version of how this is gonna go,

737
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: and you're both gonna like be so sexy and like

738
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 1: into each other, but also and everyone else. I think

739
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: just see, and I will say, over time, if you

740
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: continue to engage in like sort of like, it gets

741
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: better group sex activities with your partner, it does get

742
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 1: better and easier and hotter and sexier and more fun.

743
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 3: You know, your first kink club, you're gonna be calling

744
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 3: us back in three years being liked.

745
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: Be like, oh, I'm actually a dungeon master.

746
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 3: I just watched this episode of the OC where Sandy

747
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 3: and Kristen go to a swinger's party, the parents and

748
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 3: the OC, and.

749
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: They're being like, oh, like, we're too old for this.

750
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 3: No, And then they do go and they're both like

751
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 3: flirting with other like sexy parents.

752
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 1: And forgot it. This is like season three.

753
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:56,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's such a good episode. And then ultimately they

754
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,400
Speaker 3: like just go home with each other, but you know

755
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 3: the thrill, Yeah, just testing it out.

756
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, so watch that episode. God speed.

757
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 3: That's why I always say when I leave Nashville the

758
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 3: two times i've been is I still have so much

759
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 3: to do here, have so.

760
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: Much a lot of kinks.

761
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so yeah, just send us an invite and

762
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 3: signal to the kink club that you and your partner

763
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 3: will be attending and we will be there just mostly

764
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:26,399
Speaker 3: doing desk kind of front.

765
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: Stuff, administrative think work, wristbands, et cetera. Which is your

766
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: good luck?

767
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 10: Next call Hi and Lily, Happy Valentine's Day. I am

768
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 10: a gay man of transgender experience. I'm like post top surgery,

769
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 10: I'm a few years on hormones, and I'm like starting

770
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 10: to have my kind of gay sex renaissance amazing, and

771
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,320
Speaker 10: I hook up with mainly this gay guys. I'm also

772
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 10: in Los Angeles, which I think is crucial information. Well,

773
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 10: my question for you guys, I hope you're doing and

774
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 10: maybe specifically Stephen, but I won't leave Lily on this.

775
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 10: What basically is crucial that I should know about fifty

776
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 10: gay guys when having this.

777
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 5: Like flat phase.

778
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 10: What are the stumbling blocks that you guys have run

779
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 10: into when sleeping or trying to sleep with gay men?

780
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,760
Speaker 10: Up gay guys in real life is thrown the apps,

781
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 10: which feels like kind of the serious to me on

782
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 10: a train guy especially, I can't imagine the only transfag

783
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 10: club kid either. So we have a lot appreciate it

784
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 10: if you do it for all of us.

785
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 1: What are the stumbling on?

786
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: Congrats that you're in your gay sex renaissance.

787
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like you're already sleeping with guys, so

788
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: you're kind of figuring it out.

789
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 3: Maybe I've had a lot of roadblocks sleeping with gay men.

790
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

791
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 3: For instance, once we were at a hotel once and

792
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 3: I wanted to go in the sauna and they said no.

793
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: That was at the gathering. Yeah, I mean, I don't

794
00:37:56,280 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: know gay guys are sluty. I guess I would say,

795
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 1: you know, in terms of the apps, I mean, listen,

796
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: you know, I'm in such a long term relationship. I

797
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: don't even go on the apps anymore. If I ever,

798
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: like engage in any sort of flirtation with another man,

799
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: it's only in real life. Because I'm such a romantic

800
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 1: and I have such sort of a European kind of lifestyle,

801
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: I do feel like it's good to kind of figure

802
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: out how to present yourself, especially in the apps, in

803
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: like a top versus bottom way. I think that like

804
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: the more like clearly that comes across, I just feel

805
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: like the more bites you get.

806
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 3: And honestly, I think because even though I.

807
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 1: Do think like should more, yeah, and because I think, like,

808
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:39,959
Speaker 1: you know, most people are like some level of verse

809
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,279
Speaker 1: or whatever, but it's like nobody wants that in that

810
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: moment when they're on the app, like they want a

811
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: certain thing they want to like fuck or get fucked,

812
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,479
Speaker 1: And so I think it gets important to decide every

813
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: time you log on what you want to be, who

814
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: you want to be, and like what you're looking for,

815
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 1: and that will like get you definitely more action. I

816
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: think on that level. If you say I'm a bottom,

817
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:06,280
Speaker 1: I'm a trans guy bottom, You're gonna get a lot

818
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 1: of n la. Oh my god, my god, I'm like

819
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 1: so many like tops. If you say, like I'm a

820
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: top and I want to fuck you, like honey, there's

821
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 1: bottoms everywhere and they'll be very down to serve. So

822
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: I think like, yeah, I don't know. I mean, that

823
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,840
Speaker 1: might sound unromantic, but it sounds like you're not looking

824
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: for romantic No, it.

825
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 3: Sounds like the phrase gay sex renaissance. Yeah, you're more

826
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 3: just like, what are roadblocks on the apps?

827
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: Yes? And I think that being versus a roadblock. So

828
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: go top or bottom.

829
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 3: And first then I have this huge little pot of

830
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 3: men to decide from. Yeah, but actually you should decide

831
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 3: and you can always. That's way think about a profile.

832
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 3: You can change it all the time. I wonder if

833
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 3: I'll ever turn gay.

834
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: Maybe one night, when we're asleep, I'll just stick some

835
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: sort of fouls in your mouth and see how you

836
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: respond to it.

837
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 3: My small mouth, that's the problem.

838
00:39:55,800 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 1: In your mouth's too small to be gay. Yeah, So

839
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:02,239
Speaker 1: that's my one big o device on the apps. I

840
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:04,800
Speaker 1: think in person.

841
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 3: Housewives.

842
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know that the Housewives.

843
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 3: It's huge to that culture.

844
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 1: Frankly, like me not knowing enough about The Housewives is

845
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,760
Speaker 1: probably the biggest tumbling block in my kind of social

846
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,359
Speaker 1: life in terms of gay men. It's like every day

847
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: I'm talking to a Giger who's like, oh, yeah, but

848
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: like the like Deandres said that, and I'm like who,

849
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: and they're just like.

850
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 3: No, they actually get like upset. They're a little bit

851
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 3: like get into the homework.

852
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like the whole class is upset that they're

853
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 1: like feeling like you're bringing in the class. So I

854
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: guess you need to really know who to read is

855
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:39,919
Speaker 1: and really be aware of her RICKA Jane, Marrika Jane

856
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 1: and know all about them. And it's kind of like

857
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:44,800
Speaker 1: do the work. Do the work. I guess you want.

858
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 3: To be in this season, top or bottom.

859
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:49,280
Speaker 1: It seems like it's way more important than drag Race. Honestly,

860
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 1: at this point, yes, smother, even though I think both

861
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 1: franchises are frankly kind of like on the wing in

862
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: a major way.

863
00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 3: They are, But I'm saying, like past seasons it's not

864
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,479
Speaker 3: been about like kind of even what's going on currently. Yeah,

865
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 3: it's about like season two Garcel.

866
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, knowing the backstory. But I also feel like

867
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 1: they are always talking like okay, but like did you

868
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 1: see when Lisa Barlow did this? And I'm like, no,

869
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: I didn't, and then they're like also knowing all the

870
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: backstory of everybody.

871
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 3: Saying backstory and this is your roadblock.

872
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 1: Thank god, I'm not in the dating pool anymore. It's awful. Also,

873
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: learn a language, go to the gym, get a haircut,

874
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 1: get a really good job, make a ton of money, travel, travel,

875
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:37,360
Speaker 1: get lasa.

876
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 3: And yeah, it's basically like work, but don't work, go

877
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 3: on vacations.

878
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, those are the main things that gig guys like,

879
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 1: is working, not working, vacationing.

880
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: And wondering how you vacation with no work.

881
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: I heard this gig idea. That's just all I heard

882
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 1: was I'm a stylist at Sacks. It's just like who isn't.

883
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 3: No When I heard these gig guys the other day,

884
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 3: going do you like train travel in Europe? These are

885
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 3: something question you can ask your new lovers.

886
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 1: Yes, styline attacks, housewives, tream travel on Europe. Good luck,

887
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 1: good luck, slut bitch as slave, Okay, next.

888
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Speaker 14: Call hi, Lily, and Stephen, thank you so much for

889
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 14: an amazing podcast. It's a lovely safe queer space for me.

890
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 14: I want to ask basically, how to get over a

891
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:20,360
Speaker 14: massive crush.

892
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:21,919
Speaker 6: But I've had on this person.

893
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 14: I'm not at a party, and I've never felt that

894
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 14: way for someone.

895
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 6: I guess like.

896
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 14: I was thinking about them constantly and like imagining our

897
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 14: future together and stuff. They're friends of a friends, so

898
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 14: I found out that they're in kind of two situationships

899
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:42,839
Speaker 14: right now sound a bit toxic and also they're kind

900
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 14: of a very chaotic and messy person, so I don't

901
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 14: actually think it's like what I want. And also they

902
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:52,799
Speaker 14: don't seem to be interested in me romantically. But at

903
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 14: the same time, they're like the hottest person I've ever seen,

904
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 14: And yeah, I just can't seem to like star like

905
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 14: thinking about them. So, yeah, do you have any advice

906
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 14: on how to get over the biggest crush I've ever had.

907
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: I'm picturing this kind of very.

908
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 3: I'm picturing old, but it's like older and as a

909
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 3: gallerist photographer or something like that, and has of course

910
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,919
Speaker 3: like two lovers, and it's so messy. Can I say

911
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 3: something radical? Here is my answer? Don't get over this crush.

912
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:35,919
Speaker 3: I think if in the crush, it's like so rare,

913
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 3: like you to feel like, actually that obsessed with someone

914
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 3: and you know what, I think you're gonna be putting

915
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 3: out sexual Of course, don't get too obsessed putting out

916
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 3: sexual energy that someone might come along and you'll be

917
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 3: putting out this kind of sexy energy and someone might

918
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 3: come along and that will be your new lever.

919
00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you can direct that energy somewhere else. I

920
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 1: have had this realization recently that I always forget to

921
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 1: realize again. But it's good. This might kind of go

922
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:11,320
Speaker 1: against what you said, Well, Bet, I do think beauty

923
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 1: can be just appreciated and loved without needing to be

924
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: conquered or competed against. Sometimes I'll have a feeling, you know,

925
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:27,080
Speaker 1: I see a hot guy and I'm like, oh, he's

926
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: so hot, and I'm like, there's part of me that's

927
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: like jealous that I don't look like that. There's part

928
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 1: of me that really wants to fuck him or wants

929
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 1: him to fuck me. What's me feel desired by that?

930
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 1: And then there's a third part of me that says,

931
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 1: wait a minute, what if he's just a beautiful thing

932
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:44,840
Speaker 1: that you could admire and say that's really cool. But

933
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: he looks like that that he has this energy, and

934
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,840
Speaker 1: I can just sit in the beauty of God's creation

935
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: and say nature gives us beautiful things, and how lucky

936
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 1: are we that we have to wear with to appreciate it,

937
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 1: to see it, to know that it's beautiful.

938
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,320
Speaker 3: I don't think that it's only so different from what

939
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 3: I'm saying, because it's almost like it happens rarely that

940
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 3: maybe you are so taken by someone unless you because

941
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 3: the way she's talking about it sounds like she doesn't

942
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 3: get like obsessed with people all the time. Okay, well

943
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 3: and maybe she does, but it's just like, yeah, I

944
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: don't know, be obsessed for a while, see the beauty.

945
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 3: I'm also gathering that it's not just hot guy. You know,

946
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 3: when you have a crush like that, there's an X factor.

947
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, But the fact that she saw them at a party,

948
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: I think that it's clear. It's like when you see

949
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: someone out.

950
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 3: Of it's like the fantasy.

951
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 1: Interesting. They're talking to multiple people, they are engaging, they're clothes,

952
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: it's intimate, they seem you know, somewhat attainable.

953
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 3: Be inspired, right, Yes, us this that as a chance

954
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 3: to create write love letters songs. Yeah, let it be passionate.

955
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: And I do think writing will actually also help you

956
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: get over them, because like you'll push it out there

957
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: and then.

958
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 3: Push it out and it'll become less this And honestly,

959
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:02,359
Speaker 3: it's like your friend or friend, You're probably gonna see

960
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 3: this person at a party again and maybe it will

961
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 3: die down.

962
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: But you could also kind of slowly Taylor Swift has

963
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 1: this great song mastermind that's about kind of putting all

964
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,399
Speaker 1: the pieces in place for romance before he even knows

965
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 1: it's happening, And you could do that. You could kind

966
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: of like slowly pursue this person and like figure out

967
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: how to run into them here and there of the

968
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 1: course of several months and talk to them under an

969
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,919
Speaker 1: alias on Instagram and like figure out their likes and dislikes,

970
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 1: and like somehow you get your number and then you

971
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 1: start like texting, but it's all non sexual little jokes,

972
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 1: and then eventually you see that in another party and

973
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 1: you're looking really hot and you're like, we should get

974
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,360
Speaker 1: a burrito sometime or sorry, we should get to like

975
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: some clussion staffer or whatever does they have in your country? Yes,

976
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 1: And then you've masterminded and it all comes into place.

977
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 1: So I think either or, But yeah, I think I

978
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: think that kind of.

979
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 3: Like I'm also a little bit like if it sound

980
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 3: like this person's quote unquote chaotic and in multiple relationships,

981
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 3: also sounds like you.

982
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,479
Speaker 1: Have a chance, Yeah, you have a chance. But here's

983
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen. It's like she'll sleep with her and

984
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: like it'll happen once and maybe twice. But this other

985
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 1: toxic Timothy Chalomee Kristen Stewart is gonna be a little

986
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: bit just like okay, bye, like cool.

987
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 3: Go seeing you, like maybe see you again.

988
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then she's gonna be like, oh my god,

989
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: I ruined it. It's over. And then Timothy Shallome like

990
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 1: DM sir a week later in responsible story, just being

991
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 1: like haha, and then she gets all this hope up again.

992
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 1: So I can't see this being like a toxic cycle.

993
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: So I do think that you just need to kind

994
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:38,439
Speaker 1: of write it out and appreciate their beauty and keep

995
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 1: moving and write a song a song in a poem.

996
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,839
Speaker 1: I know that's a lot of conflicting advice. I think

997
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: you're right that it's not gonna work out and be

998
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 1: like your next great love. No, but I think it's

999
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 1: possible you could could hook up and have like, you know,

1000
00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 1: a pretty hot sex that they forget about.

1001
00:47:56,880 --> 00:48:01,320
Speaker 3: And you think about, yeah, and then it happened.

1002
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:03,399
Speaker 1: Good luck.

1003
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 3: We're like, have a crush. Don't have a crush as sex,

1004
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 3: it will be bad.

1005
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 1: I'm just like thinking of this guy that I kind

1006
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: of had this thing with.

1007
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about honestly, like how obsessive. I feel like

1008
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 3: I had crushes in like high school in middle school

1009
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 3: and but always like hope to like run into like

1010
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 3: this girl, like literally just like on the street and

1011
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:26,799
Speaker 3: she'd be like, wait, do you want to like come

1012
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 3: to my house? And we're fifteen, do you like come

1013
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 3: over in the fuck And.

1014
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:33,760
Speaker 1: It never happened. Never happened, but you appreciate it from afar.

1015
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I feel like, looking back, I'm just like, I.

1016
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 1: Don't know, that was cool and it's okay, it's okay,

1017
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: But did you like channel your appreciation to art?

1018
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1019
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 3: I feel like I was colladging so much journal and

1020
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 3: writing song lyrics and being so torture and.

1021
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: Now you're like so much wiser because of this. See,

1022
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 1: there was this guy that I like so briefly had

1023
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: this romance with in France and we like, you know,

1024
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: we're like man, you know, like we're both living in

1025
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 1: or say, and you know, it was kind of like

1026
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: he was super hot and like we went on a

1027
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 1: road trip together and it was and like part of

1028
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: me was being like, oh my god, like husband, this

1029
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 1: is so romantic, but I think he was just kind

1030
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 1: of that kind of a person. He was like spontaneous

1031
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 1: and like that's what attracted me to him.

1032
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,760
Speaker 3: Right, right, so that he would go on a road trip, right.

1033
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: And so it's like we did this and then it

1034
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: was like, you know, a couple days later, I was

1035
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 1: going to a biza and then I was like wait

1036
00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 1: a minute, like is it all over? Like do you

1037
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,879
Speaker 1: not care about me anymore? And like he was kind

1038
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 1: of like what, like it doesn't matter to me, and

1039
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 1: I was so like distraught, and I was just like

1040
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: wait a minute, like I thought this could be something,

1041
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 1: but now I realized like he was just like that's

1042
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:41,920
Speaker 1: just him, that was just him, and it was a

1043
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 1: beautiful thing. And and one way I got what I wanted,

1044
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 1: but another way I didn't get what I had fantasized about.

1045
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 1: But I also realized that my fantasy was it.

1046
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 3: Was not him. No, that's the thing. What you're thinking

1047
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 3: of this dark chalom May, Danish photographer is not what

1048
00:49:58,480 --> 00:49:58,799
Speaker 3: she is.

1049
00:49:59,000 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 5: Right.

1050
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 1: But I wrote about it and I got it out

1051
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: of my system and then I ended up.

1052
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 3: Having now a major emotion picture. Thank you for the

1053
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 3: sun Dance. Actually in a few weeks it's called the

1054
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: Girl who took the Train. Okay, next call.

1055
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 15: Hey club kids, so hi, my friend will call her.

1056
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 15: Julie has been dating her boyfriend James for about a year,

1057
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:39,399
Speaker 15: and in James's previous relationship, his ex girlfriend cheated on him.

1058
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 14: That's where they broke up.

1059
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 15: And this is non information. Jumped back to about two

1060
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 15: years ago. James is dating his ex and Julie hooks

1061
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:52,240
Speaker 15: up with Tom. Tom is like a friend of a friend.

1062
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 15: You only see him like twice a year, like when

1063
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 15: everyone's back home for the holidays and we're all like

1064
00:50:57,760 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 15: feeling out, very.

1065
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 14: Like Massachusetts town type beat. James and Tom have never met. Okay,

1066
00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 14: so fast present day.

1067
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,720
Speaker 15: A couple of months ago, Julie comes to find out

1068
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 15: that James's ex cheated on him with Tom. Now, if

1069
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:21,240
Speaker 15: you're a Julie, so your boyfriend James that you hooked

1070
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 15: up with the man that his ex girlfriend.

1071
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:24,719
Speaker 14: Used to seat on him.

1072
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:25,439
Speaker 2: Right.

1073
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 15: I hope that makes sense.

1074
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 14: Of you guys buy.

1075
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 15: Us.

1076
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:35,399
Speaker 3: If you're Julie, do you tell or like, if you're

1077
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 3: a Julie, I'm a Julie. That's Tom.

1078
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:40,280
Speaker 1: I'm such a James.

1079
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:43,720
Speaker 3: I'm definitely our caller. Okay.

1080
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 1: I love that she's not involved.

1081
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 3: I was waiting for her to be like, I'm now

1082
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 3: dating Tom.

1083
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,880
Speaker 1: Oh, she's just like like the nosiest neighbors.

1084
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 3: Body Like, Sorry, I don't think Julie asked you. No,

1085
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:02,319
Speaker 3: I don't call us and tell us, but I'm glad

1086
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:02,799
Speaker 3: you did.

1087
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: I'm glad you've brought this to our attention. Okay, So

1088
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: let's lay down the characters for a second so as

1089
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 1: I understand it, if we're getting this correctly, Julie's just

1090
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:14,399
Speaker 1: a girl. Julie's a girl and she's dating this guy.

1091
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:18,720
Speaker 1: This guy she's dating has this trauma from getting cheated

1092
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: on by his ex. It turns out that the guy

1093
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:27,399
Speaker 1: she cheated on him with is someone that Julie's also

1094
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 1: slept with. Yes, so basically he has this nemesis in

1095
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:33,399
Speaker 1: his head and now is he going to find out

1096
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 1: that his current girlfriend slept with his nemesis, and every

1097
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,720
Speaker 1: time they fuck, he's like, oh, was it better when.

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Speaker 3: It was Tom.

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Speaker 1: It's funny because Okay, I feel like I have a

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Speaker 1: lot of experience with this well.

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Speaker 3: Because it's more gay guy in lesbian Rold, I was like,

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Speaker 3: if this was all like queer, awesome folk, I feel

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Speaker 3: like maybe the James would just find it kind of

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Speaker 3: like funny a little bit and be so the chart.

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Speaker 3: But because it's Boston, I do think this guy might

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00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:00,839
Speaker 3: get like a little sensitive angry and he will kind

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Speaker 3: of just keep it in the.

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Speaker 1: Back of his head. Yes, but I also think tail

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Speaker 1: if the relationship is strong enough, then it will be

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Speaker 1: funny and he should know.

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Speaker 3: Writing a map thank you.

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Speaker 1: Julie's with James, and James's ex cheated on him, and

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Speaker 1: it was always this big deal that she cheated on

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00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 1: him with Tom with this guy Tom now also dated Tom.

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00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 1: Now it's no Julie just slept with Tom once or

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Speaker 1: maybe dated him. But Tom is like so James's enemy

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00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 1: that if he knew his current girlfriend had slept with Tom,

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Speaker 1: he would be really upset. We think, we think.

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Speaker 3: I guess the question friend club kid miss busybody. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: is Julie getting anything out of this?

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Speaker 1: But she's getting us that it gets off her chest

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Speaker 1: and she's not carrying around this secret. Well, right, but

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Speaker 1: it happened.

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Speaker 3: We always have to think is honesty the best answer?

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Speaker 3: I think in this case, she didn't cheat on James

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Speaker 3: with Tom, so it's not such a burden.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's that's something that she's thinking of, and

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Speaker 1: I think it could like be worse if you found

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Speaker 1: out someone from someone else.

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Speaker 3: Just tell the worst part about it. Yeah, you freaking

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00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 3: kept this from me. And then she's like, oh, I

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00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 3: thought it didn't met. He's like all those times I

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00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 3: told you.

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Speaker 1: About about this guy Tom that ruined my life and

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00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 1: you wouldn't think it mad to me.

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Speaker 3: Sitting here, Lottie freaking dah.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you're fucking diddling your clit thinking about Tom. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep you happy. I'm trying to put

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Speaker 1: food on this table. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Now, it is like, if Julie sees a future with James, right,

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00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:49,840
Speaker 3: I think she should tell him so then it doesn't

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00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 3: get like weird later if he does find out. I

1143
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 3: think that he should just know and it'll be weird

1144
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 3: you're gonna think that, like the longer you keep it.

1145
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,240
Speaker 3: If he does find out, then he's gonna be like, oh,

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00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:02,680
Speaker 3: so you were in love with Tom, Like this was

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00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:04,800
Speaker 3: such an insane secret. You were so into him that

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00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 3: you couldn't even tell me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that you should tell and I think

1150
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: it's fine. It's like, I feel like this happened multiple

1151
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: times to me in multiple different ways, and it's kind

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00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 1: of just like it's just good to know.

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00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:17,959
Speaker 3: Yeah, because you're gonna be at a party.

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Speaker 1: If I found out like, okay, you know my ex, yeah,

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00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:23,439
Speaker 1: who kind of like left me for his coworker, I'm

1156
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:26,920
Speaker 1: aware Like if I found out that my current boyfriend

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00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 1: had slept with that person.

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00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, that you would go postal, but I would

1159
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Speaker 3: call the armed Guard.

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Speaker 1: But I would also I feel like at this point

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Speaker 1: a relationship, I would just be like, you know what,

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00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 1: that's the past, and like it's fine because I've also

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00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 1: slept with that guy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But you would also still just be like, I'm

1165
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 3: a crazy girl and I'm gonna go crazy.

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00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: And I would, I know, and I would have my

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00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 1: like night of craziness, and that.

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00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 3: Would be be like, oh yeah, but I sat with

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00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 3: him and I said, with your ex.

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00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:55,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that'd be like, okay, now I get to

1171
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 1: choose one of brekfast and sleep.

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Speaker 3: By friends, gay guys and they're like suburban Bostonians, she said,

1173
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Speaker 3: suburban Boston.

1174
00:56:03,239 --> 00:56:07,600
Speaker 1: Stuff, the pea coat of it, all this angry folice.

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00:56:08,000 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 1: Oh god, it's going to be such a thing. I

1176
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,279
Speaker 1: just feel like it's already such a thing where it's

1177
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: like if she doesn't tell him, then it's really.

1178
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 3: Oh no, I was first disagreeing and now I'm agreeing

1179
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 3: with you.

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00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:19,279
Speaker 1: I think she just needs to tell him, but she

1181
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 1: needs to make it also compliment sandwich. She needs to

1182
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 1: just be like it was bad.

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00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 3: You know, this is how she alt needs to be,

1184
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 3: so like, yeah, do you know.

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00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 1: What I just realized, Yeah, oh yeah, pretend.

1186
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, like over runs right, Oh, I actually need to

1187
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 3: take a shower.

1188
00:56:38,800 --> 00:56:42,240
Speaker 1: No, it's actually so gross because I totally like, wait.

1189
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:46,399
Speaker 3: Hold on, I'm just realizing that your ex, that guy

1190
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 3: that she cheated on you with, like I dated him too,

1191
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 3: and he was so.

1192
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 1: Like gross, such a weird place.

1193
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 3: I'm like so happy to be with you.

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Speaker 1: Right, Oh my god, Oh she's sood Oh sushi tonight,

1195
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 1: just aren't talking about sushi.

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Speaker 3: I'm so glad that part of my life is over.

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00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 3: That was like when I was hanging out with those

1198
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:12,960
Speaker 3: just like fucking sloppy Quincy sluts.

1199
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Speaker 1: It's like, literally go back to Quincy, have no lives. No,

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00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 1: it's actually so really sad. Yeah, I think just to

1201
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 1: the casual reveal.

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00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 3: Brunch to sushi, and I'm sure you're gonna be fucking

1203
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 3: that brunch with your little popcorn over there collar watching

1204
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 3: this all go down.

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Speaker 1: Nosy, nosy neighbor. I love this girl. Yeah, I love

1206
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Speaker 1: this up and everyone's visiness.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, literally give us the chart.

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Speaker 1: Great chart, Good for you, Thank you, thank you for

1209
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Speaker 1: your call. You luck to your friend of me.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, Pervail, that was an amazing call to end it on. Wow,

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Speaker 3: you guys, thank you so much for being honest, for

1212
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Speaker 3: being vulnerable, for opening up your porter potties, your out house.

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Speaker 1: What an incredible gammange of questions. Yes, just a plethora

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Speaker 1: and a smorgath board. We heard from.

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Speaker 2: Lovers, friends, gossipers want to be lovers, people exploring their sexuality,

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Speaker 2: people afraid to explore their pectuality, people wanting.

1217
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 1: To explore their sexuality.

1218
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 3: People in Nashville. People off the grid, people in Boston.

1219
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:31,439
Speaker 1: People on the grid, people on other people's grids.

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Speaker 3: Kink clubs, East Nashville.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, if I can draw a conclusion, it's

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Speaker 1: that like, twenty twenty five is the.

1223
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Speaker 3: Year of giving yourself permission.

1224
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 1: Yes, to be radically honest and interrogate your desire and divulge.

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00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 3: What secrets you're keeping, yes and why?

1226
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Speaker 1: And play roles and wear hats and don't be afraid

1227
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Speaker 1: to put a hat on and take it off.

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Speaker 3: And I think, also, will we learned from the end

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00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 3: of this, like it's not gonna be the end of

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00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:05,320
Speaker 3: the world. Usually, Yes, A lot of these questions what

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Speaker 3: if you know, what if I tell my birthfriend kink club?

1232
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Speaker 3: What if I told my future lover that, yes, we're

1233
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 3: gonna shit in buckets?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? And I think like, if you approach it with

1235
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:17,439
Speaker 1: confidence that it's not the end of the world, then

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00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:20,200
Speaker 1: it won't be that devastating. They will receive and if

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00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 1: they don't, then that's also okay. Yeah, you'll move on.

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00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 3: You'll get a new crush on like a shallow May photographer.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, I'm horny, I'm super super harded.

1240
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Speaker 3: I want a huge heartship box of taz reces and

1241
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Speaker 3: I want to feed them to multiple lovers at a

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna head over to East Nashville with my lover

1244
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Speaker 1: and many other lovers that we've all cheated on each

1245
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 1: other with in the past and we're moving through that

1246
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:50,040
Speaker 1: trauma together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm going to head over to Greater Boston just

1248
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 3: with a group of awesome friends and just kind of

1249
00:59:56,040 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 3: ask what secrets they have.

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Speaker 1: We love you guys so much. If your call was

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