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Speaker 1: Hi, Good morning, Catherine, Hello morning. Does everybody want to

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Speaker 1: hear me sing? I don't think so. But I have

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Speaker 1: learned how to dance a little bit. What I've learned

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Speaker 1: is to just side step to the beat, like just

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Speaker 1: to do that just for everything, and I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to try to get anything more complicated than that. You

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Speaker 1: know what, Chelsea, I'm just sorry, Catherine. I just want

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Speaker 1: everyone to know that I'm drinking room temperature water right now.

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Speaker 1: It's actually got a little bit of a coolness to it,

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Speaker 1: so it's palatable. But this is a real tough pill

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Speaker 1: for me to swallow.

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Speaker 2: She does not like the water.

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Speaker 1: I love my thermis in my car. I love my thermiss.

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Speaker 1: By the way, shout out to Wellie. They make the

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Speaker 1: best thermoces. I could put ice in my Wellie bottle

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Speaker 1: and it's ice three days later.

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Speaker 3: Yes, can I tell you something. I have made yogurt

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Speaker 3: in my Wellie bottle.

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Speaker 1: Before you know what, Catherine, this is not something I

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Speaker 1: want to hear about. I says, right up, I'm surprised

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Speaker 1: you didn't say cottage cheese.

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Speaker 2: I have made my own cheese.

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Speaker 1: Actually, I mean fucking Brad, you're way to bury the lead.

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Speaker 1: Being married to Catherine, She's.

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Speaker 4: Up to no good.

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Speaker 2: I love fermented foods.

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Speaker 1: I had a military death on one of my planes

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Speaker 1: a military bottle body and there were those a whole

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Speaker 1: ceremony outside the plane with like the military and their family,

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Speaker 1: which was sad because they were all crying, but it

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Speaker 1: was really sweet to see that. How they do that. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I was like, well, wait, I guess the airports aren't

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Speaker 1: that fucked up if they can swing this like you

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Speaker 1: know what. I mean. That really had some decorum and

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Speaker 1: some respect because I don't know what's happening with flights lately,

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Speaker 3: Of One of my girlfriends got stuck at Burbank Airport

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Speaker 3: for like all of Christmas Day.

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Speaker 1: Oh everyone did canceled all their flights. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I have to tell you, Chelsea, we have not had

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Speaker 3: a question in a long time that's had as much

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Speaker 3: totally varied feedback as Jesse from a weeks ago. She

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Speaker 3: called in and remember we talked to her like all

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Speaker 3: like the entire episode with Brookshields about her in laws

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Speaker 3: yelling at her on the rafting trip, and then we

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Speaker 1: We discovered that out of the calls she seemed to be

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Speaker 1: she needed to do some work. Yeah, well we discovered

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Speaker 1: that early on, but we were trying to be respectful before,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so the dishwashing. But we had people emailing and

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Speaker 3: being like, go get her girls, she did wrong, other

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Speaker 3: people being like, no, it was totally her in law's

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you've gotten damns about this, but

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Speaker 2: I've gotten a lot.

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Speaker 1: Of noot this I haven't. Yeah, that is interesting, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Well it's very relatable situation, right, Yeah, it's tough with

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Speaker 2: I think nobody doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Get married you don't have to deal with that's another reason, okay,

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Speaker 1: to put another perk to not being married.

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Speaker 3: I think, you know, her family's got some shit to

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Speaker 3: work out too, because if somebody's screaming at you about

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Speaker 5: Know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that's a really kind of icky thing

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Speaker 1: to do. If you're at someone's house and you make

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Speaker 1: a habit of nobody's supposed to ask you to help

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Speaker 1: at someone else's house, Like, it's not the onus is

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Speaker 2: You jump in.

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Speaker 1: You got it? Even I do it, and not even I,

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Speaker 1: because like I'm someone special, even I who doesn't know

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Speaker 1: how to wash dishes, I shouldn't be washing dishes. It's

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Speaker 1: worse when I do it. Yeah, I always get up

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But people were up in arms about Jesse.

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Speaker 1: Real people were up in arms once when I did

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Speaker 1: some poll about toilet paper whether it should be upside

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Speaker 1: I was on the Drew Barrymore Show and we were

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Speaker 1: doing something and it was the biggest thing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: there were like fifteen thousand comments about people's opinions. And

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Speaker 1: I finally figured out that I prefer, because I had

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Speaker 1: never thought about it before, prefer it from the bottom,

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Speaker 2: I don't want it from the top, top down?

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Speaker 1: Oh you do.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, We're just different in every way, Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, so far, we have not found one similarity

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Speaker 1: except that we both are on this podcast. It's accurate,

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Speaker 1: that's what we all in common.

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Speaker 3: Well, Chelsea, today we have some really exciting guests.

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Speaker 1: Okay, great, I can't wait. I can't wait to find

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Speaker 1: out who they are today. Yeah, we have my two

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Speaker 1: Canadian mom friends, Kat and Nat. These girls are two

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Speaker 1: hot fucking messes and I'm excited to have them on

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Speaker 1: because they're besties. And then they tore around well, they

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Speaker 1: tour around America too, at Canada, and they both have

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Speaker 1: to them, but we're buddies now.

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Speaker 2: They have seven kids between them.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's better than me having them. Are you guys

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Speaker 4: Yeah? You know, we always. She doesn't drive. She has

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Speaker 4: a car and a license, but she won't drive. I

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Speaker 4: No, we're in the city.

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Speaker 5: I like the city because it's short streets, lots of lights,

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Speaker 5: like everything's really fast and quick. But if you go

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is Cat, I mean, this is sorry, this

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Speaker 1: is Catherine. Hi, and this is Cat and this is no.

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Speaker 1: Well wait you Cat, Nat and.

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Speaker 4: Nat doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I basically just call them both Cat.

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Speaker 2: We can all three be Cat today.

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Speaker 6: When they meet us, they're say your Cat and Nat,

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Speaker 6: even if we're not together.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Oh, I love you Cat and Nat. That's it.

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Speaker 6: So it's literally, it's it's totally fine. I mean, look

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Speaker 1: I know it is very confusing because you guys do

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she loves to vertically. I am no, horizontally.

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Speaker 1: They don't want to. They went on tour. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: I want Catherine to be as familiar with me because

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Speaker 1: just know that we are friends now. But explain to Catherine,

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Speaker 1: explain the genesis of everything that you two do. You

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Speaker 4: First of all, it was a joke.

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Speaker 6: We decided to do a show as a joke because

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Speaker 6: We threw for free, gave free drinks and free appetizers

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Speaker 5: That was like, we just need an excuse to get

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Speaker 5: And now we've seen Chelsea three times this year. One

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Speaker 5: we came to your show in Toronto. Two you met

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Speaker 6: She emailed every person at WME and just said, you

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Speaker 4: Weird, but we did. We were doing like we were

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Speaker 5: We were doing the mom Troops videos and those were

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Speaker 1: they's all about how hard it is to be a mom,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and that's exactly how we felt when we first

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Speaker 6: And I feel like we fuck up constantly, but we

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Speaker 4: And I think that our friendship is really.

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Speaker 5: And the young people are on TikTok, like if this

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Speaker 4: Don't want to be.

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Speaker 6: You know, you don't have to give up your best

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Speaker 4: You have to grow up and lose your friendship.

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Speaker 1: No, you just have to time your babies and families

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Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, that's right. Yeah, we have separate friendships.

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Speaker 6: I mean, Like you're not pulling friends, but it's like.

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Speaker 4: You are staying in there. We planned the babies before

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Speaker 1: It's almost like your husbands are both just so inconsequential

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Speaker 4: They travel, they take care of the kids, they're not one.

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Speaker 6: Yeah it's pick up time right now, and they check

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Speaker 4: So they are also a huge reason.

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Speaker 6: They support our friendship and what we do, so we

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Speaker 1: Okay, well sure, sure we'll agree on that. Also, they

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Speaker 1: But that's more NAT than KAT right from what I remember.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I prefer well not if we're sleeping together.

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Speaker 1: You won't this one over here, Fuck, you're gonna snuggle me?

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Speaker 4: Well, honestly, we always say, like, we have tried to

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Speaker 4: and then you get your relationship, and now you're supposed

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Speaker 5: Between our husbands of pillows, and I don't want like,

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Speaker 6: Have my own bed, I haven't had in my own

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Speaker 6: So you're like when you get your own bed, it's

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Speaker 6: like that's amazing.

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Speaker 4: Sare heaven.

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Speaker 3: So you want like Lucy and Ricky style, like two

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Speaker 6: So sometimes people will fly us out and we'll get

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Speaker 6: where like can we only use one room with two beds?

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Speaker 4: Like can we change that king to too?

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Speaker 1: That's the ultimate for all sleeping is to be in

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Speaker 6: Catherine, Why did Lucy and Ricky sleep in separate beds?

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Speaker 2: Well, I think it wasn't allowed for them to have

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Speaker 1: Well, no, that was in that time era, like people

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Speaker 4: I guess why did that change?

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: They were married, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, they made little

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Speaker 1: I mean that's what that's what needs to come back

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Speaker 4: Is your dog with you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I want them to, but they even reject me.

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Speaker 1: You know, she thinks I'm like assaulting her, so she

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Speaker 4: With your insecurity.

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Speaker 1: more abuse, even though he's probably got that way from

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Speaker 1: my abuse anyway. So let's talk a little bit about

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Speaker 1: your friendship. Okay, we've talked about it before when you

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Speaker 1: why don't you start?

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Speaker 4: I think for us it will.

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Speaker 6: Number one, It allows you to take sort of more

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Speaker 6: it's a lot, it's funnier and it's a lot easier

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Speaker 6: when you're both in it together, there's no everything feels

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Speaker 6: It's fun like it just the stakes just feel different

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Speaker 6: at the same time, or when your relationship's not great

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Speaker 4: We're not transactional.

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Speaker 6: We're so tight that when you know when someone's going

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Speaker 6: I think we get double done because there's two of

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Speaker 6: And I think that's the coolest thing about our friendship.

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Speaker 6: It's friendship first and then fun and then work.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and what about you, Nat, I want you to

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Speaker 4: This is going to be hard for her. She doesn't

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Speaker 8: I know.

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Speaker 1: That's why you're going second, she got inspired.

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Speaker 4: She told me recently why I love her.

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Speaker 5: We were on a plane and we were talking about

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Speaker 4: Does things for me like drive me around and like.

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Speaker 6: Sure she stays book her plane tickets you know her life.

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Speaker 4: But I was like, I think it's more than that.

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Speaker 4: But maybe that's all it is.

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Speaker 5: It's been fourteen years of being moms together, and there

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Speaker 4: It hasn't all been like he ty keen.

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Speaker 5: We've had a post part of anxiety, We've had sickness,

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Speaker 5: on your friend too, like she said, pick up when

444
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Speaker 5: the other one can't.

445
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Speaker 4: But also, like my kids say to me, you are

446
00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:45,960
Speaker 4: so lucky.

447
00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,240
Speaker 5: You get to go to work every day with your

448
00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:51,639
Speaker 5: best friend and there's no boss, right, we're equal bosses,

449
00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:53,840
Speaker 5: so we don't have to go into work, have a boss,

450
00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:55,679
Speaker 5: go to work all day with a bunch of like

451
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Speaker 5: weirdos or strangers.

452
00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,240
Speaker 4: It's just us and everything we get to do is fun.

453
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Speaker 5: I do remind them that what we do is work,

454
00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:03,680
Speaker 5: and we work hard together, but we work together really

455
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Speaker 5: well because we know each other so well.

456
00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:07,480
Speaker 4: But yeah, we get to just have fun.

457
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Speaker 5: And also it's really great that our children get to

458
00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:12,080
Speaker 5: have sort of like a second mother so that when

459
00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:15,679
Speaker 5: like our siblings, our seventh which is my baby, my

460
00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:19,640
Speaker 5: baby's the seventh, but our seventh is so ferocious because

461
00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:21,360
Speaker 5: she's had to have like seven.

462
00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,720
Speaker 4: Above her, like she's grown up with six siblings. Essentially,

463
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Speaker 4: she's ferocious.

464
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Speaker 1: I'm the youngest of six, so I know exactly what

465
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Speaker 1: you're talking.

466
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Speaker 4: Ferious.

467
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Speaker 6: Our two babies are ferocious, and I just think they're

468
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Speaker 6: so lucky that they always have a built in tribe.

469
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Speaker 6: Like you know, I'm sure you feel it like when

470
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Speaker 6: you have a lot of people around you. It's like

471
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Speaker 6: this built in little thing that you get bumpers around you.

472
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Speaker 5: And we take them on vacation together and we spend

473
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Speaker 5: summers together.

474
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Speaker 6: And us walking on the plane, eleven of us, seven

475
00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:51,440
Speaker 6: children and the two of us walking onto a plane, Everyone's.

476
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Speaker 5: Like, oh, my daughter has billed a hot cup of

477
00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:58,920
Speaker 5: noodles on two different men on two different planes their pants.

478
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Speaker 1: Oh god, oh how humiliating.

479
00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:04,200
Speaker 5: She offered him candy as like an apology, and we

480
00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:06,280
Speaker 5: left the two girls like, mom, we still I don't

481
00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:06,879
Speaker 5: know who you are.

482
00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,359
Speaker 1: You deal with this man, and that's when you fan out,

483
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,640
Speaker 1: fan out to get away from your children. You don't

484
00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:13,480
Speaker 1: want to be seen with them. And do you guys

485
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Speaker 1: have similar parenting styles? Are you guys like agree on

486
00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:18,920
Speaker 1: the way you parent or you do differ in that way.

487
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Speaker 6: We like parent each other's children differently, Like her kids

488
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,280
Speaker 6: will come to me for some things, and my kids will.

489
00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:28,320
Speaker 4: Go to her for things. Like we definitely have different personalities.

490
00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 5: Our mothers mothered us differently, but overall I respect totally

491
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Speaker 5: the way that she does it, and she respects the

492
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Speaker 5: way that I do it.

493
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Speaker 6: We go to each other for different devices, like she

494
00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,520
Speaker 6: has experts and I have expertise, and then we blend.

495
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Speaker 1: And what do you think your strong suit is? Your

496
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Speaker 1: strong parenting suit is?

497
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Speaker 2: Kat?

498
00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:46,400
Speaker 9: Oh?

499
00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:48,600
Speaker 4: God, that's so serious. You know. I'm like the talker.

500
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,960
Speaker 6: So they'll call me, like yesterday, she's like, Mom, we're

501
00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:52,960
Speaker 6: going through some anxiety.

502
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:54,159
Speaker 4: Can you walk us through these.

503
00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:55,600
Speaker 6: Feelings that we're in the car and we are kids

504
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Speaker 6: in the car. I'm like, yeah, let's go here we go?

505
00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:59,960
Speaker 6: Oh Kat, I'm like, I don't know where we go

506
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,920
Speaker 6: when we die? Like I do the sex like I'm

507
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,960
Speaker 6: the sex conversation. I land the plane. You know, I'm like,

508
00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 6: if you don't know about a boner by grade two,

509
00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:11,440
Speaker 6: we're screwed. So like, I'm like boner penis vagina. People

510
00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:14,119
Speaker 6: do it for fun and for babies. We sit them

511
00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:18,199
Speaker 6: all down and lay it out and not as strong suits.

512
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:19,879
Speaker 6: She's the one who's like, let's get up on the

513
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Speaker 6: couch and the tables and dance. We bring the fun

514
00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 6: and I'm the combo. She's the person who's like the

515
00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,240
Speaker 6: party starter, like always yes, can we have a bag

516
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:29,760
Speaker 6: of candy?

517
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Speaker 4: Yes? Can we go here? Yes? Yeah?

518
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Speaker 6: But I'm not I'm not there to talk talk about No,

519
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:36,560
Speaker 6: They'll all call me and I'm like, let's talk.

520
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Speaker 1: Okay, I see, I see, yeah, I understand that. I

521
00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:40,400
Speaker 1: get that from you too.

522
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Speaker 6: And then I have to because we share a bank

523
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Speaker 6: account and a credit card, so we all all of

524
00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,160
Speaker 6: our money goes into one account, the two of us.

525
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Speaker 1: You are married, you guys, you guys co mingle your funds.

526
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Speaker 5: Yes, but like we have other like the funds with

527
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Speaker 5: the husbands and that's where everything's in. No look at

528
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Speaker 5: the budget. But with us that we didn't even know

529
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Speaker 5: for the first few years, and we had to pay taxes.

530
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Speaker 5: We had the most amazing first couple of years until

531
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Speaker 5: we found out about all that. They're basically like, you're

532
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:13,199
Speaker 5: broke and you start fresh, and we're like shit, but

533
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 5: we always just like we like to spend money, and

534
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 5: you want something, I'm like, let's go get it, and

535
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Speaker 5: then we just go buy it out of the time.

536
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that you have a bank

537
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Speaker 1: account together. That is so ridiculous.

538
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Speaker 4: We changed our.

539
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Speaker 5: Wedding and our engagement rings to different styles together.

540
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Speaker 1: I just told you ten minutes ago that your husbands

541
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Speaker 1: are inconsequential and you disagree with me, and you're just

542
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Speaker 1: proving my point. Everything you're saying is supporting what I

543
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Speaker 1: said ten minutes earlier. So yeah, they're very valuable. Thank

544
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Speaker 1: God for those times, Thank God for them. Well, we

545
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Speaker 1: tried to curate your episode today, ladies. Yes, Catherine is

546
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Speaker 1: very good at curating towards you know, the guests that

547
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Speaker 1: we have on to the callers, so that you're going

548
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Speaker 1: to be of some help since I know that Nat

549
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Speaker 1: is into talk therapy and she's going to be really

550
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Speaker 1: valuable in conversations. Yeah, no, kay not we'll not go

551
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: to therapy, but you probably still have some good advice

552
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:06,680
Speaker 1: that you can show with a.

553
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Speaker 4: Social worker to this long show, like yeah.

554
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Speaker 1: You were not social worker before you.

555
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Speaker 3: Yes, Well, we're gonna take a quick break and then

556
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Speaker 3: we'll be back and we'll take some callers and some emails.

557
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Speaker 1: Okay, we're taking a break and we're back. We're back,

558
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Speaker 1: We're back.

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Speaker 7: Well.

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Speaker 3: Our first email comes from a mom who is going

561
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Speaker 3: by tired af Dear Chelsea. I'm a twenty six year

562
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Speaker 3: old mom of four, two of which I had eight

563
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Speaker 3: months ago, twin girls. One of them is so chill,

564
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Speaker 3: only cries when she needs something, and an all around

565
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Speaker 3: normal baby. The other one is exhausting. In her defense,

566
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Speaker 3: she does have collics, some stomach problems, and she's currently teething,

567
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Speaker 3: but she literally never stops crying since she was born.

568
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Speaker 3: She's crying like fifty percent of every day. I have

569
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Speaker 3: a four year old and a two year old who

570
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Speaker 3: also do their fair share of crying, and it gets

571
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Speaker 3: to me. I find myself thinking about how nice it

572
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Speaker 3: would be if she could be more like her twin sister.

573
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Speaker 3: She's the easiest baby I've ever cared for, and I'm

574
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Speaker 3: the oldest of ten, so I've had my fair share

575
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Speaker 3: of experiences with babies. My question to you is, how

576
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Speaker 3: do I not play favorites with the twins when they're

577
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Speaker 3: so obviously is one. I of course love them both equally,

578
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Speaker 3: but let's be honest, I'm scared this might carry into

579
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Speaker 3: the future and become a problem when they get older

580
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Speaker 3: and start to realize the vibe. But it's so hard

581
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Speaker 3: to keep it together with everything going on? What do

582
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Speaker 3: I do about having a favorite? Sincerely tired AF.

583
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Speaker 4: I can't even believe that she had the time to

584
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Speaker 4: write that.

585
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 5: Like that sounds like such a shit show over there.

586
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 4: I mean, she's twenty six years old, like her brain

587
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 4: just got fully developed a year ago.

588
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 5: Yet that just now, that is crazy And the only

589
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 5: thing I could think of is I have four kids

590
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 5: as well. I did not have four kids at twenty six.

591
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 5: I did not have nine siblings. But there is times

592
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Speaker 5: in the cycle of our children that there is a favorite.

593
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Speaker 5: And absolutely that quiet baby is going to be the

594
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Speaker 5: favorite because it's giving the least problems. But my quietest

595
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Speaker 5: ones a year later are the hardest ones. And people

596
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 5: always ask us, do you have a favorite? I'm like,

597
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 5: it depends on the day. So I'm pretty sure that

598
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 5: quiet little one isn't going to be your favorite forever.

599
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 5: That one's a terrible teenager, that one's going to come

600
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Speaker 5: out of nowhere.

601
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Speaker 6: Yeah, you never get nothing, nothing, Scott Free, No one's

602
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 6: good for life.

603
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Speaker 5: You know, your quiet baby's going to be a pregnant,

604
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Speaker 5: pregnant drug addict by fourteen.

605
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I so enjoy the time that you have

606
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Speaker 1: them as your favorite. Because I've talked to a lot

607
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Speaker 1: of men about this, because I know women's answer is

608
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Speaker 1: pretty kind of what you guys are saying. I always

609
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 1: get an interesting answer. Men have consistently said, whichever child

610
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,239
Speaker 1: needs me the most is their favorite. Huh. And that

611
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: changes all the time too, So it's kind of like

612
00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 1: the opposite of what this woman is going through. So

613
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Speaker 1: I think I don't think it's a new sure to

614
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Speaker 1: have a favorite. My mom said the same thing all

615
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: the time. It's just like depends on what day of

616
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Speaker 1: the week you ask me, totally. Yeah, And whoever's the

617
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: easiest to deal with is obviously, So don't feel guilty

618
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: about that. You're not alone at all, No.

619
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Speaker 5: And just you know, I'm just thinking about Kat's family

620
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 5: and my family, and we both know who our mom's

621
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Speaker 5: favorite is.

622
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Speaker 4: And it's your brother. Yeah, I guess, And I'm fine

623
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Speaker 4: with that. And she does.

624
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Speaker 6: Natalie here does happen to have one child blown up

625
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 6: in giant Life's like giant on the wall for many years,

626
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 6: just one of them and she has four kids, but

627
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Speaker 6: one made the wall.

628
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Speaker 4: He's so big. He's honestly the most photochemic, so it

629
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 4: was huge.

630
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Speaker 5: You walked in, it was a portrait of him. Everyone's like,

631
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Speaker 5: isn't that wrong? And I'm like, listen, we had a

632
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Speaker 5: photo shoot and one kid nailed it. He's a huge

633
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Speaker 5: picture on the wall.

634
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Speaker 4: That was it. He got good luck next time.

635
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Speaker 1: That's funny. I always say that's my family. I'm like,

636
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 1: it's just because I'm the best looking one. You guys,

637
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 1: I mean, that's why everything's working out the way it has.

638
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 1: This was about this world's about looks, and I got

639
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 1: them so back up and I asked, how that's.

640
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 4: How she feels. Oh my gosh.

641
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 5: Everybody although he is a little on the short side

642
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 5: compared to everybody else, so.

643
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Speaker 4: He needed the wall, if you will, we needed to

644
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 4: start early.

645
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, I like all the reasoning behind the big

646
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: picture on the wall. So far, I'm totally on board

647
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: with this. That's actually a good way to keep kids

648
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: in check. If you have three or more, totally blow

649
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 1: one up and put it on the wall and be like,

650
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: guess who the favorite of the month is. Everybody needs

651
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 1: to step their fucking game up.

652
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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, yay, you are you are onto something favorite.

653
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 4: It's like the employee of the month.

654
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: Yes, you are. Needs incentivization children. You know how when

655
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Speaker 1: you went to sleep away camp. I went to the

656
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: sleep away camp. Well, no, my parents couldn't afford sleepway camp,

657
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: so they sent me to this day camp. And every

658
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 1: day as somebody would get like best swimmer or best

659
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 1: finger blaster or whatever you do. And it felt even

660
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Speaker 1: though I saw everyone every day get an award as

661
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 1: a kid, it felt so good to get the ord.

662
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 1: You know, it feels so good. And that's I mean,

663
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: who doesn't like that that Pavlovian you know response and record? Yeah,

664
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 1: so yeah, I think everybody listening I just gave you.

665
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 1: I mean it just came out and I think it's awesome. Yeah,

666
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,119
Speaker 1: it's a great way to take everybody together.

667
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

668
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 5: And if you have braces, you just have to wait

669
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 5: to get those off to hit the wall.

670
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 1: No, I think it. I disagree, Nat, I disagree. I

671
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 1: think sometimes just like kids with braces are the best,

672
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: and they should be given they're due right, not just

673
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 1: based It shouldn't be based on looks. It should be

674
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: based on who's the best kid that month, who had

675
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 1: the best behavior, you know what I mean? Okay, fair

676
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 1: or best grades or whatever. However you want to categorize,

677
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 1: it is up to you.

678
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 4: I love it.

679
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it.

680
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 3: And then when they're teenagers and they hate you and

681
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 3: they're embarrassed by everything, you put their picture on the

682
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: wall until they're good, and then you can take it down.

683
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh my gosh, I love that.

684
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 2: Yes, humiliation.

685
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: There's probably gonna be an age where they don't want

686
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 1: their picture on the wall, So then you have to

687
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: like restrategize.

688
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:55,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know.

689
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 6: Then you put yourself up, but you put a nude up,

690
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,520
Speaker 6: you know, you don't embarrass Yeah.

691
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 4: Going out, you know, mommy and daddy in their boudoir shop.

692
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, or you just make it. Yeah, that's good to

693
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 1: threaten them with. Like you're going to do a lot

694
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: of public displays of affection with your husband. That's also

695
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 1: a good threat. Yeah, write that book hot parenting tips.

696
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 2: So our next caller, and this was her telling it.

697
00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 3: They're going to be on a zoom So girls, okay, yes,

698
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 3: be ready. It's a little juicy, Veronica says, dear Chelsea.

699
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 3: The situation I'm in is quite a doozy for the

700
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 3: last six months. I was really unhappy in my relationship

701
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 3: of five years, and after talking to my therapist a

702
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 3: few months ago, I decided that it would be best

703
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 3: to end the relationship. As I started emotionally checking out,

704
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 3: I started flirting with his cousin that also happened to

705
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: be our roommate. For reference, I'm twenty five, my axes

706
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 3: twenty six, and his cousin is twenty nine. The three

707
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 3: of us were very close and would do a lot together,

708
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 3: and I saw the cousin as a really good friend.

709
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 3: After flirting, sneaking some kisses, and can professing love to

710
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,719
Speaker 3: each other at the house, I couldn't take the guilt

711
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 3: and ended my relationship, then promptly moved out. After giving

712
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 3: myself some time to adjust and making sure my feelings

713
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 3: for his cousin were real, we decided to start seeing

714
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 3: each other. Things were going really well, but now he's

715
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 3: started to get very upset about how much this would

716
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 3: hurt his cousin and how he hates having to keep

717
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 3: our relationship a secret. I've told him multiple times that

718
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 3: you can't help who you fall for, and that together

719
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 3: we can make it work. But I still have the

720
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 3: fear that this is all going to blow up. I

721
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 3: don't know if just coming clean about everything would be

722
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 3: a good idea, or if we should wait a few

723
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 3: more months to give their family more time to get

724
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 3: over the breakup. My biggest concern is his family hating

725
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 3: him and exiling him over me. But I'm truly so

726
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 3: in love with him, and if he says we can

727
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 3: make it work, I want to believe him.

728
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 2: Help. I don't even know where to start. Veronica, Hi there.

729
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: Hi, Hi, hiiio. How are you guys? Good? Our special

730
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: guest today, our cat and Nat and so they're here today,

731
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: and you have Catherine, so you have four of us.

732
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 2: Yes, I need all the advice I can get.

733
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 1: I know, I know you do need advice. So you

734
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: were dating your previous boyfriend for how long?

735
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 2: Five years?

736
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 1: And you've been broken up for how long?

737
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 4: Going on close at ten months?

738
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: Now, Okay, okay, So this is going to be a

739
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: problem for a lot of people. But yeah, yeah, so

740
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 1: I get it. I mean it's pretty tricky. Their family

741
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: is going to be upset. Somebody is going to be upset.

742
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 4: I think. So, yeah, I would say that's a safe bet.

743
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: And is your boyfriend, your current boyfriend, who is your

744
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend's cousin. Is he contemplating your relationship at all

745
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: or is he committed?

746
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,959
Speaker 4: No, he has committed one hundred percent.

747
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: Okay, so you're both done, You're going to be together,

748
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: and you're going to tell his family at some.

749
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 4: Point, right, Yeah, it's just a matter of when.

750
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I guess I'll go first, and then you

751
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 1: girls can to hop on and give your opinion. I

752
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 1: would just say, the sooner you come clean, the sooner

753
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 1: everybody can acclimate to the new situation, and the sooner

754
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: everybody has to stop hiding. But be prepared for a

755
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: big thunderstorm that's gonna last for a long time, possibly potentially.

756
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: But I think you should probably try and get the

757
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: truth out sooner than later, and then, you know, the

758
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: sooner everyone can get over it.

759
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 9: Yeah.

760
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: And it should be you.

761
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it should be the boyfriend, It should be your family, Yeah,

762
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 3: you should be your boyfriend.

763
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 1: I don't know who should tell the boyfriend. Maybe who

764
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 1: should tell the boyfriend?

765
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 10: Yeah?

766
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: I mean who are you going to tell first? The boyfriend?

767
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 5: Right?

768
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: Your ex?

769
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 9: Yeah?

770
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's pretty tricky. What do you girls think? What

771
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 1: does everyone think?

772
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 4: Do they have to know that you work together when

773
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 4: they all were together?

774
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 11: Does that all have to come out? So that's another topic.

775
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 11: We kind of agreed to never say that anything started

776
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 11: while the previous relationship was going on, but we think

777
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 11: that it would be really obvious that things would start

778
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 11: to click once the truth came out.

779
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 5: So yeah, like my initial lie, like, wait a few

780
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 5: months and then act like you guys ran into each

781
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 5: other and it was so nice to see each other

782
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:19,800
Speaker 5: again and things started.

783
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 4: But that's when people always see. The truth always.

784
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 5: Freaking comes out, and then you're gonna have to not

785
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 5: only face that you're dating him, but now the lies

786
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 5: and all of the tears thing.

787
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 6: Vernica, it's never going to get easier, So waiting longer

788
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 6: is not gonna make it easier. So freaking rip it

789
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 6: and just be like, we're dating, we're in love, we're happy.

790
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 5: Is the family understanding people? Are they wild? Are we

791
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 5: gonna flip tables?

792
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 4: Pretty understanding people?

793
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 5: Oh well, it's a good start, right, I mean, did

794
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:50,959
Speaker 5: you break up?

795
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 4: Was he heartbroken? Does he have your act and heartbroken?

796
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 11: I would say yes, he was very shocked and surprised.

797
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 4: Does he have new lady? Not yet? Hook him up.

798
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 4: We got to get him a new lady, and you

799
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 4: want that.

800
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 5: He's completely over you and so in love that he

801
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 5: doesn't care what's going on.

802
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 1: It would be great if you could wait until he

803
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: has a girlfriend.

804
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 4: That would be good.

805
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 1: Serious, then you won't care as much because it's just

806
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 1: going to be a shit show. You're It's exactly right.

807
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 1: The truth is gonna come out. They're gonna piece it

808
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: all together. And if you admit that you guys how

809
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 1: are flirting while you were with him, then that he's

810
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: never going to forgive you. He's going to hold on

811
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: to that for years, and that's just such bad news. Like,

812
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: I wish you could just find a lie.

813
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 2: Was there kind of some overlap there?

814
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 3: I know you said there were some stolen kisses, but like,

815
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 3: was there like sex overlap?

816
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 4: No?

817
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 1: No, no, no no, no, that's ken Yeah, good for you.

818
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 1: Don't say it, Yeah, just say there was flirting. Yeah, flirted,

819
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: and we knew that was wrong and I that's why

820
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: I broke up with you and the cousin, and I

821
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 1: knew it was wrong. And obviously, don't volunteer that there

822
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 1: were any kisses. If he asked anything happen? What you

823
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: take that as sex. No, No, we didn't have sex.

824
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 1: I didn't want to do that while we were dating.

825
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: I don't think you should admit the kissing behind the

826
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: sneaking kisses. I don't like that, and I'm advocating for

827
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 1: you to lie.

828
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 2: I am.

829
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, those details might just hurt more than I to.

830
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 2: Know everything exactly.

831
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 3: You guys can play it off like you've been dating

832
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 3: for a few months because you I mean what you

833
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: said you did, which is moving out, giving yourself some

834
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 3: space to like figure out if this was really real.

835
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 3: Turns out it was ten months, you know what I mean.

836
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:30,360
Speaker 3: You did a lot of the right things. You stopped

837
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 3: it when it was going a certain direction. And I think,

838
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 3: you know, having some white lives in there about not

839
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,879
Speaker 3: having physical intimacy, I think that's just fine too.

840
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so nice that you're so in love.

841
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 11: Yeah, it's very refreshing compared to the last five years.

842
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: So well, don't fucking say that.

843
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 7: I don't tell him that, no, yeah, yeah, yeah, But

844
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:57,399
Speaker 7: you know, you and your new boyfriend, if you can

845
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 7: weather this storm that you're going to about to get

846
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 7: into and listen, maybe it's not going to be a

847
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 7: big deal that would be ideal.

848
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 1: But I mean, it probably will be a big deal.

849
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,320
Speaker 1: You know, people like to get.

850
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 4: His brother, you know, it could have been his brother.

851
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 4: At least it's just a cousin.

852
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's a good thing to bring up. Say,

853
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 1: at least I wasn't fucking your father, right, See how

854
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: he likes that.

855
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 4: I just say, it's you know better or your mother.

856
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 1: What if I was fucking your mother, that would be

857
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: a real shocker, you know, that would be a double whammy.

858
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, you really got to see that. This is the

859
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 4: best case scenario. I feel like it is a bit

860
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 4: removed from your family. Yeah, not immediate I didn't go

861
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:35,720
Speaker 4: for immediate family.

862
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. And I think also you have to be

863
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 1: very once this is out, be very sensitive to the

864
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,479
Speaker 1: fact that people are going to have like their little

865
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 1: feelings about it, and then that will just eventually fade out. Yeah.

866
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 6: Just the family probably doesn't like the cousin that much.

867
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 6: You always talks about cousins, you know.

868
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:52,879
Speaker 1: What I mean.

869
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,359
Speaker 4: It might not even be that close. So maybe you're

870
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 4: in a great place.

871
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 1: And get a dan a test. Maybe they're not even cousins,

872
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: you know, Oh my gosh. A lot of surprises at

873
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 1: them something that really is true. It is. Yeah, I

874
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: get your twenty three and me, I bet you who knows?

875
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 1: Who knows?

876
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 4: Wow, things really took a churn for a positive here. Yeah.

877
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 3: But also like it's been ten months, hopefully it won't

878
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 3: be a big deal, right, it's been a while.

879
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a while. Yeah, make sure you let

880
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: us know what happens. Okay, I'm very I'm very still,

881
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: and let us know when it happens. What happens, Yeah,

882
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: call us back.

883
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll give you all the juicy details.

884
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 1: Thank you, Yes, perfect, Okay, good luck with that.

885
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 4: Thank you.

886
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: That's right, that's awesome. That's gonna be one fucked up situation.

887
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 4: Holy shit, I'm sorry heal.

888
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: The vibes from that family. Just by talking to her.

889
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 1: I know it's going to go badly.

890
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 3: The ancestors are gonna be pissed. We have another caller, gals.

891
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 3: This is Emily. Emily is forty six, She says, HI,

892
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 3: favorite podcast. I left an abusive marriage in two thousand

893
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 3: and seven. In two thousand and eight, I met a

894
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 3: guy who, fourteen years later, is still around. When we

895
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 3: got together, we bonded over our terrible marriages, and we

896
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 3: had kids, so our relationship became our private island. We

897
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 3: communicate well and became great travel buddies. We don't live

898
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 3: together and our kids are grown. I love my me time,

899
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 3: and so I'm on the fence about living together. When

900
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 3: I think about getting older and having a partner to

901
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 3: help me with things that happen when you get old,

902
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:34,399
Speaker 3: like falling or getting sick, it seems like a good idea.

903
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 3: He just says maybe someday. Someday is fine. I'm a

904
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 3: weed smoker and super happy just to be living and

905
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 3: somewhat successful. I was once anxious and now moved to

906
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 3: a secure attachment style person, been in therapy since I

907
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,919
Speaker 3: was a teen. I have so much life left to live,

908
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 3: and it would be easy to let another fifteen years

909
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: pass just as we are. He's still in my life,

910
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 3: but recently the relationship's been sort of fizzling. We're still

911
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 3: in contact, but not really together. Is it worth sticking

912
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 3: it out another couple of years or have we peaked

913
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 3: already and it's time to move on. I'm such an

914
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: easy going person. I'm worried I'm going to let life

915
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 3: pass me by. I find myself asking after fourteen years

916
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 3: together and not cohabitating. Should I be asking for more? Sincerely, Emily.

917
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: Hi, Emily, Hey, this is Kat and nat Are who

918
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 1: are special guests today. They're from Canada.

919
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 6: Hey, put is very legal here.

920
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 9: Oh nice? Perfect?

921
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,800
Speaker 1: And you know Catherine because you probably spoke to her already.

922
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 9: She's amazing.

923
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: Okay, So you've been with your partner for fourteen years

924
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,839
Speaker 1: and you say you're independent, but then you say that

925
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 1: you want to move in together. So it's a little confusing.

926
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: Which one do you want?

927
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 10: Okay, So it's a little confusing of a situation. We

928
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 10: did break up. It's sort of run its course. This

929
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 10: has been going on for a long time. But I

930
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 10: kind of like I'm growing up. I guess I think

931
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 10: I finally became an adult share kind of thing where

932
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 10: the same things we used to do, like he would

933
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 10: come over and we would hang out, we'd smoke, we

934
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 10: were you know, this great, perfect private island situation. And

935
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 10: then after it got old, it just, you know, it

936
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 10: kind of I got busy.

937
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 9: I like to do things outside.

938
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 10: He doesn't, and so I stopped doing all the things

939
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 10: that I would do to get ready to hang out

940
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 10: with him. And to me, that was a sign that

941
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 10: I shouldn't continue this. I should at least think about

942
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 10: what I need at this.

943
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 9: Point in my life. Now, I love him, we get

944
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 9: along great.

945
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: Sounds like you're describing your brother or your best friend.

946
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,879
Speaker 1: Like it's the excitement is gone. It's over, so move

947
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 1: on and you need to find something else. You have

948
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 1: to be excited about the person that you are fucking.

949
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 1: You have to be excited and want to look good

950
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: from when they come over and look in the mirror

951
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: and actually care about what you look like. I know

952
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 1: that after fourteen years that's not typical, but so great.

953
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 1: You're not married to him, you have no reason to

954
00:39:58,320 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: hang on to this. You can move on and use

955
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: him as like you know, hows to have him in

956
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 1: your life as a friendship. It's so easy to see. Yeah,

957
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 1: for sure, it's that.

958
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 10: Appropriate to be friends. I guess I'm a little unclear

959
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 10: on what as long as you.

960
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 1: Don't have expectations from him, you know, if you can

961
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: transition into a friendship or you're not having sex with him,

962
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: because I think that's confusing and that muddies the waters.

963
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 10: We're not having sex, we haven't had sex, and like

964
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 10: you're yeah, I.

965
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: Mean, if it's okay to be friends with him. But

966
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes when we have somebody old in our life,

967
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: it kind of prevents us from moving on to the

968
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 1: new person. So I don't know if that's happening, but

969
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: it sounds like what you're describing is pretty stale.

970
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 5: And I'm thinking, like when you said, you're forty six,

971
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 5: and you're already looking at a time where you get

972
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 5: old and all down.

973
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 4: You have, you are still so young.

974
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 1: There's a forty seven. I'm don't fight my jam up, Like,

975
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:52,280
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? Forty is the new twenty five?

976
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't matter?

977
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, No. The whole point of that was, so

978
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:57,440
Speaker 9: we do.

979
00:40:57,640 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 10: He has some stomach issues and he was in the

980
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 10: hot I didn't get a call for three days.

981
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 9: So that's the story there.

982
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 10: It's like we are getting older and like these are

983
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 10: things I should be thinking about.

984
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 9: But don't.

985
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 1: I disagree. You're sick? Why do you have to think

986
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 1: about that?

987
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, men are going south before women too, So don't

988
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 6: hook up with the guy thinking he's taking care of you,

989
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 6: because you were definitely taking care of him before he

990
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 6: takes care of you.

991
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 4: You know what I mean? You got to look out

992
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 4: for you go younger yes.

993
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, genius.

994
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's go younger. And also you want your vibration here,

995
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: not settling. Like vibration when you settle it just is

996
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:35,760
Speaker 1: like olymp biscuit.

997
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, hire a nanny to babysit you when you get older,

998
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 6: you know what I mean.

999
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 4: Don't get married.

1000
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: I would rather pay somebody to take care of me

1001
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: in my life dying days than have any fucking child

1002
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: or niece or nephew. And my nieces and nephews love

1003
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 1: me and they would take care of me, but I

1004
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: would rather pay somebody to do it so that when

1005
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 1: I say, get me a velvetere on the rocks with

1006
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 1: a splash of fucking soda on my deathbed, they're going

1007
00:41:58,640 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: to do that.

1008
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:01,800
Speaker 2: Chelsea, Can I tell you where you can do that? Really? Well?

1009
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 3: My sister works an elder law and she said that

1010
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 3: what a lot of people are doing these days is

1011
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,879
Speaker 3: rather than going into assisted living, which is like ten

1012
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 3: grand a month, they just go on cruises, cruise after

1013
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 3: cruise after cruise, because there's more doctors per capita on

1014
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 3: a cruise than at the nursing home.

1015
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, but saying you have to go on a fucking cruise, captine,

1016
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,880
Speaker 1: Fuck I'm not doing that. I would go on a

1017
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: limited edition cruise, like there has to be less than

1018
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 1: fifty people, and then I'll go great, and I have

1019
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:29,720
Speaker 1: to be able to throw each one of them overboard.

1020
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: But anyway, you're fucking forty six, You're not. Everything's great,

1021
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: have yeah.

1022
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:36,760
Speaker 9: Yeah, But can I ask you a question, Chelsea?

1023
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 10: So I know you really love your alone time, and

1024
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 10: I really identified with that. My kid went back to

1025
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 10: school and I had the best day yesterday just by myself.

1026
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 10: And so do you ever think about in that situation

1027
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 10: being very comfortable?

1028
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 9: Are you too comfortable? Or like, do you think that

1029
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 9: you should?

1030
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: You don't figure you don't need to overanalyze yourself. Whatever

1031
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,399
Speaker 1: feels good to you is the right thing. We are all.

1032
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 1: We live in a society where it's a good thing

1033
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 1: to like have introspection. But you don't have to be

1034
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 1: overly analytical about every little move you make. There's no

1035
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 1: such thing as I spend too much time AMers. The

1036
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,760
Speaker 1: other night, I went to bed at five nineteen pm. Okay,

1037
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 1: anyone else would be like, are you depressed? I don't

1038
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 1: give a fuck. I wanted. All I could think about

1039
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: was going to bed. I looked at my sleep number

1040
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 1: in the morning, my stats on my phone and it

1041
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 1: said you fell asleep at five nineteen pm, And I

1042
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: was like, what a victory lap, you know, like, yeah,

1043
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 1: it's whatever, jealous, whatever you feel that you need is

1044
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: what you need. Stop judging yourself.

1045
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 2: And also it's okay if that changes.

1046
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 1: Yes, as as it does. It changes all the time,

1047
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 1: So whatever you're feeling is never gonna last forever. Like

1048
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 1: you know, you're just in this mood right now, and

1049
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 1: then you're gonna get out of that mood. But I

1050
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: would say, you know, take a little separation from that

1051
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 1: guy and his stomach.

1052
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1053
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 3: My one question I think is why it's been such

1054
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 3: a slow burn for you to make the change. Like

1055
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 3: it's been like a year and a half of this

1056
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:06,280
Speaker 3: relationship dissolving and no sex, and you know you're still wondering,

1057
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 3: like do I give it two more years?

1058
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 2: What is that there?

1059
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: Like everybody know that's a big silent gap. We're just

1060
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 1: all waiting and while you figure out what your answer

1061
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 1: is mm hmm.

1062
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,840
Speaker 9: The answer is I'm not waiting. I just this situation

1063
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 9: is here.

1064
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 10: I've moved on with my life and I think that

1065
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 10: I need to put a cap on that relationship and

1066
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 10: say like, look, we had a good run.

1067
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 4: And you know, is he gonna feel the same way?

1068
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,760
Speaker 4: Just how does he feel he knows about this call?

1069
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 4: Like he's caring.

1070
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 6: Oh you know your answer, and we all know you

1071
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 6: know your answer. You just wanted to tell you what

1072
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 6: to do, but you know what to do. You just

1073
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 6: said it. We didn't have to say anything. You just

1074
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:56,359
Speaker 6: wanted someone else to tell you. We want to cap

1075
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 6: that off.

1076
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, right, I think you should write Dad, I

1077
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 1: should like, you should write that on your refrigerator. Who cares?

1078
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: And that is applied to you? And what anyone else

1079
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 1: might that possibly think of? You start with that mantra

1080
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 1: every single day.

1081
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 9: I love it.

1082
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you have a whole world, Like you're gonna

1083
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 1: have a lot of men in your life. We just

1084
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 1: sometimes have to clean out the garbage in our lives.

1085
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,399
Speaker 1: And not that you know any person is garbage, That's

1086
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,280
Speaker 1: not what I'm saying. It's just some people aren't adding

1087
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 1: to our value, and some people are only there for

1088
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: a short period of time and in your case, a

1089
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 1: long period of time. But it's time to dust out

1090
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: those cobwebs and get going with the rest of your life.

1091
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, this could be such an exciting time for you.

1092
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1093
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 4: I actually it just became a grown up and you

1094
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 4: just found yourself. Yeah, it's gonna be a good time.

1095
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 10: I have a couple of people have hit me up

1096
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 10: over the past year that I just haven't been ready

1097
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 10: to date.

1098
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,919
Speaker 2: But yeah, you know, do it.

1099
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 9: Yeah, I like being by myself right now, I gotta then.

1100
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 4: Don't do it now.

1101
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:55,720
Speaker 2: You don't have to move in with them right away

1102
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 2: right now, I don't want to.

1103
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, just go with the flow. I remember

1104
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 1: once I was hanging out with this group of people.

1105
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 1: This is a long time ago, and I remember looking

1106
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: around going this isn't going to cut it. These people

1107
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: are not going to cut it. I'm too cool to

1108
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: be in this group. And you have to remember that

1109
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 1: about yourself. When you're too cool for a situation, go

1110
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 1: and find people that are on your vibe, not people

1111
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 1: that are on your like lower than your totally.

1112
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 9: Yeah.

1113
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 6: And if I could go back and dry hump people,

1114
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 6: I would just dry hump like I would if I

1115
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 6: were you. I would just dry hump and make out

1116
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 6: with them. It would just send them thank you for

1117
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 6: the night and move on.

1118
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 2: I love that advice.

1119
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: Try hamp is all that bad. Actually, dry humping is

1120
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: going to probably make a comeback at some point.

1121
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:37,760
Speaker 4: It's ly fun.

1122
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because you could actually a woman could come

1123
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: or climax from dry humping. Yeah, and to go yeah

1124
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: or monkey a set of monkey bars.

1125
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 10: I can't believe you put that in your book, by

1126
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 10: the way, because like I think every woman was like,

1127
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 10: that's okay that we did that.

1128
00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:59,919
Speaker 1: What were oh yeah you girls. I used to master

1129
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: over my pants when it was called the feeling when

1130
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 1: I was growing up. I was so excited. I had

1131
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 1: no idea because I didn't think you would never touch

1132
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: your Pikachu directly. It would be over the jeans. But

1133
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: if the seam of the jeans were the right seam,

1134
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: a fixed seam, you could make yourself come even faster.

1135
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 1: So I would lie down behind an automan. I'd get

1136
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: home after school and I would just be just rubbing myself,

1137
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 1: but I'd have my vagina covered by the automan in

1138
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: case anyone walked into the living room and they would

1139
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:27,319
Speaker 1: just see me face down on the floor while I

1140
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,360
Speaker 1: had like rug burns on my chin. I was so

1141
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: into myself. I could not get enough of myself. All

1142
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: I would do was jerk off all the time, and

1143
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 1: I didn't know I was masturbating. I mean, I knew

1144
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 1: it was like a secret, but I was just like, oh,

1145
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:40,919
Speaker 1: all my girlfriends were doing it, and so I would

1146
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: just be sitting there rubbing my vagina, rubbing my vagina.

1147
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 1: And then finally we were at dinner one night and

1148
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 1: I had a ladle and it was a whole family

1149
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 1: dinner and I couldn't like, I couldn't even take a

1150
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,239
Speaker 1: break for dinner. If only fans were alive, then I

1151
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 1: would have been on it. And so I had this

1152
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: spoon in between my legs and I was rubbing myself

1153
00:47:56,239 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: at the dinner table, and I obviously became red or

1154
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: sweaty or something, and my mom goes, Chelsea, what you're

1155
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:05,839
Speaker 1: doing needs to be done in the privacy of your

1156
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 1: own room. And then my brother Roy yells, she does

1157
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: it all the time. And I looked around the table

1158
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, everyone's known this

1159
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 1: whole time that I've been fucking jerking off. Like I

1160
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 1: thought I was sleuth, you know, Like I was like,

1161
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: oh my god. And I was so devastated that I

1162
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: did not masturbabeuntil I was in my forties because I

1163
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: was so shamed about it.

1164
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 2: I hate that, for you.

1165
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 1: I hated that my brothers knew that I was jerking off.

1166
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:35,959
Speaker 4: Very common, it's very common.

1167
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 1: Of course, it is, of course it is. I mean, yeah,

1168
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:39,439
Speaker 1: they're jerking off.

1169
00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know the show Young Sheldon. I want Young

1170
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 4: chel Oh.

1171
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know I need to make an I know

1172
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,919
Speaker 1: we were working on that once. Anyway, did you get

1173
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,480
Speaker 1: your advice that you came here for?

1174
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 4: I did?

1175
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 9: I love you so much?

1176
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 4: Okay, ditching him?

1177
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 1: All right? Good? Well, when you get a new boyfriend

1178
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 1: or girlfriend or whatever you're in too obviously men right now,

1179
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 1: but that can always change. Also, be open minded and

1180
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: when you're in a new situation and you're feeling really

1181
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 1: positive about your life, please send us a line and

1182
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: let us know.

1183
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 9: Yes, of course we'll do Hi. Thanks ladies.

1184
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 4: Oh my god, didn't you even take a break for dinner?

1185
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: No, what a productive call that was. That was great,

1186
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 1: she needs. Isn't it funny that you can just talk

1187
00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 1: to someone and you can feel their energy just by

1188
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 1: talking to them, like if it's high or low. I

1189
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:32,960
Speaker 1: wish that was more like measurable. You know, when people

1190
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 1: talk about energy. I wish somebody could say, oh, you're

1191
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: at an eighty, so that people would take it more seriously,

1192
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: because like, the high vibes are so important, and there

1193
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 1: are people that just bring you down. Yeah, you know,

1194
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: and it's not their fault or that they're a bad person,

1195
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 1: You're just not on the same frequency.

1196
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 5: Yeah, you should have like a little thing above our

1197
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 5: head that says like, well, like a halo, yeah thing.

1198
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1199
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 3: I have one more quick question from Brittany. Brittany Britney

1200
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 3: spears a.

1201
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 2: Spellbo so maybe not a little different.

1202
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea, I have a situation I've been wrestling with

1203
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 3: for about a year. I'm thirty six years old and

1204
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 3: never wanted kids until this last year. I married my

1205
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 3: husband last year and we've been together for eight years total.

1206
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 3: I really love him. We mostly have a great relationship.

1207
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 3: We have three cats we adore. But the thing is

1208
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 3: he does not want to have kids. We always agreed

1209
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 3: about this until a year ago. I kept thinking that

1210
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 3: the desire to have kids would just be a phase

1211
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:32,280
Speaker 3: and go away, but it keeps getting stronger. I'm really

1212
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 3: confused and torn on what to do. The thought of

1213
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 3: leaving makes me sad, and the fear of trying to

1214
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 3: find a partner and have kids at my age seems scary.

1215
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,400
Speaker 3: I'm freezing my eggs so that helps take some of

1216
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:45,799
Speaker 3: the pressure off, but it's still a huge undertaking. I'm

1217
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 3: worried that later on I'll have some regret about not

1218
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 3: taking a chance on having a family of my own.

1219
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 3: I'm also worried that I'll regret leaving a good marriage

1220
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:55,960
Speaker 3: and potentially fucking up my life with a crappy partner,

1221
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:59,320
Speaker 3: or the challenges of parenthood. How can I make this decision.

1222
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: I'm going to therapy, but I feel stuck. The clock

1223
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 3: is ticking, which is so stressful. Thanks for your help, Brittany.

1224
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 1: So the husband decided he didn't want to have kids.

1225
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:10,320
Speaker 2: I think neither of him did. And then she just

1226
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 2: like changed her mind.

1227
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 5: Oh okay, and hit her and she just she felt

1228
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 5: like she was maternal and she needed to have a baby.

1229
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 4: Oh wow.

1230
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 5: If she really has to decide what does she want

1231
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 5: more him or the baby, because she actually doesn't.

1232
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 4: She doesn't need him to make the baby. No, she

1233
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 4: could do it alone.

1234
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:25,880
Speaker 3: But she doesn't need to find another partner to have

1235
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 3: a baby either. If they did fizzle, like if they

1236
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 3: broke up, like she can't have a baby on her own.

1237
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:30,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1238
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's not gonna make her feel good. She

1239
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: wants to have a husband and that baby. Yeah, so

1240
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 1: you guys are parents, so you need to handle this.

1241
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 6: It's happened to a lot of our friends actually, and

1242
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 6: they broke up with the partner to have the baby.

1243
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 6: Because you're gonna end up if you can't let it go.

1244
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 6: You're gonna hate them, You're gonna resent them that they

1245
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 6: never did it, and you will just find problems even

1246
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:58,399
Speaker 6: if there isn't a problem, you'll create problems. So it's

1247
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 6: rather be honest and be like, I've changed my mind,

1248
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 6: and maybe he doesn't know how. She's nervous to say

1249
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 6: I really really want this, this is what he might

1250
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:07,359
Speaker 6: be like. Then I can get on board. You never

1251
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 6: know if you're really honest with it.

1252
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, like maybe eight years ago when they started together,

1253
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 5: they totally agreed on that, but he really wasn't as like,

1254
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 5: he wasn't as determined to not have them as she was.

1255
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:18,919
Speaker 4: Now she's changed her mind. Who knows, maybe he has too.

1256
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, I don't know.

1257
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 6: Oh God, my husband did a one a third really

1258
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 6: and it was a big conversation, and.

1259
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,280
Speaker 1: I was like, that's different.

1260
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 6: I know, but I was a very big conversation. I

1261
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 6: think for some people we have to be like this

1262
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 6: is this is so important to me. I don't know

1263
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,720
Speaker 6: if I can keep being with you if I can't

1264
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:40,280
Speaker 6: do this, And then he might be like I never knew.

1265
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 5: Let's maybe let's talk about it. I think about what

1266
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:44,399
Speaker 5: we're gonna do here.

1267
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's so much more than do I leave him

1268
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 6: or do I get a baby? Because she might not

1269
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 6: even be able to have a baby. You know, like

1270
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,959
Speaker 6: there's so many ex factors. It's so hard to say

1271
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 6: leave them and go get a new partner and a baby.

1272
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:00,600
Speaker 6: Maybe there's wiggle room in two years.

1273
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 4: Or you know, if she's.

1274
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 6: Freezing his eggs, does he not know something's coming up?

1275
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:06,440
Speaker 6: Or is she doing it in secret?

1276
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: Well, she's freezing her eggs. Yeah, I think you should know.

1277
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 8: Well, man don't have eggs. FYI, I did you know that?

1278
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 8: I mean her her egg Yeah, and she may be

1279
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 8: doing it alone. It's expensive to do that too, yeah,

1280
00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:20,960
Speaker 8: Canada it is.

1281
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1282
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: I think you have to be like, if you really

1283
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:25,920
Speaker 1: are thinking about this, a you have to wanted to

1284
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 1: have that baby one hundred and fifty percent. You have

1285
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 1: to be committed to that. And if you are that

1286
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: committed to that baby and that's more important to you

1287
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,560
Speaker 1: than your husband is right now, then yeah, you've got

1288
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:38,879
Speaker 1: to leave him and go pursue that. But I mean

1289
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 1: you have to really know that you want to do that,

1290
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: not just be curious about being a mother. I think,

1291
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:47,280
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes I know how strong a maternal instinct

1292
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,400
Speaker 1: can be, at least I hear about it. But uh,

1293
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: I think you have to examine really how important that

1294
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:54,239
Speaker 1: is to you, and then that's your decision right there.

1295
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 6: You know, Yeah, did you have like a whoopsie, like

1296
00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 6: you know, get unofficially inciminated and then be like, oh

1297
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:00,839
Speaker 6: my no bad.

1298
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: Well yeah, but also we're also married. Yeah, I mean

1299
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 1: I'm not against that, like.

1300
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 2: Them into a baby, Okay we did?

1301
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:17,240
Speaker 1: Okay, Well that's yeah, that's your advice. What's her name name?

1302
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 4: I think that's a good idea. That's just that I

1303
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 4: would do that.

1304
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:23,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, if I was a manipulative person, that was something

1305
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:24,479
Speaker 6: I would think about.

1306
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 2: Or just you know, is that how you wand up

1307
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 2: with baby number three?

1308
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: No?

1309
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 4: Locked them in? You know, wrap my legs, you're not

1310
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:33,399
Speaker 4: leaving Squeeze.

1311
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 3: Well, let's take a quick break and we'll come back

1312
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 3: to wrap up with caten At and Chelsea, and we're back.

1313
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 1: We're back.

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Speaker 3: Well, Caten, this is the part of the show. I

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Speaker 3: want to know if you'd like any advice from Chelsea.

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Speaker 6: Well, we have an ongoing argument that maybe the two

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Speaker 6: of you and Chelsea could settle for us. We have

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Speaker 6: an argument on whether of you and Chelsea. Yeah, whatever,

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Speaker 6: you know, I'm saying, Okay, I think.

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Speaker 4: We just we've never really agreed.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if we have a misunderstanding and we

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Speaker 5: actually have to show each other what we mean. But

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Speaker 5: I take soap and I wash underneath and all over

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Speaker 5: my vagina, like I actually take the soap in my hands,

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Speaker 5: and not in like not in the hole of course,

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Speaker 5: not the hole in the oven, in like, all underneath.

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Speaker 5: And she says that you shouldn't put she read, and

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Speaker 5: you don't put soap there because it's self.

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Speaker 4: Inside, not in the hole in the lip.

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Speaker 1: Yes, all in this in the list. And I don't

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Speaker 1: think you're I'm pretty rough. When I wash my beaver

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Speaker 1: in the shower, that's obviously the first spot I liked it,

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Speaker 1: but I don't put the soap bar like I guess

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Speaker 1: I probably do with something similar. I do know that

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Speaker 1: you're not supposed to do that. You're not supposed to

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Speaker 1: put soap inside the lips any of that. Your vagina

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Speaker 1: is a self cleaning mechanism. It means itself. Yes, are

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Speaker 1: you serious? Yeah, so you've been raped soap around it,

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Speaker 1: But like, I don't think it's gonna hurt you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's supposed to affect your p H balance, is what

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Speaker 1: I know. Yeah, yeah, but I'm not But I don't

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Speaker 1: use a bar of soap. I used pump soap, right,

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Speaker 1: is that what you use? So you're not okay? So,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I just don't think it's that big of

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Speaker 1: a deal. I think if you actually put it inside you,

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Speaker 1: then it's a big deal. But maso manos, as they

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Speaker 1: say in it' Spana.

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Speaker 3: If you're not getting any East infections, you're probably doing

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Speaker 3: it fine.

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Speaker 5: Yeah right, Yeah, everything's been fine so far. I just

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Speaker 5: like all dark moist places need to be. I also

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Speaker 5: have ibs, so that would be different. You know ibs

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Speaker 5: down there.

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Speaker 1: You do definitely stuck my finger in my butthole to

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Speaker 1: wash it. Really, Yeah, if there's a situation that needs cleansing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, inside the hole.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just to make sure like everything's there that is

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Speaker 1: supposed to be there and nothing extra. Great. Yeah, only

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Speaker 1: when I've had an incident.

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, if I even go anywhere near that thing,

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Speaker 5: it's just gonna be a disaster.

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Speaker 1: Really with soap, I mean, don't you want it to

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Speaker 1: be cleaned your butthole?

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Speaker 4: You can't have any butt play whatsoever.

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Speaker 6: Her bowels live on the whole, like you know.

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Speaker 1: I saw a video the other day about anal sex

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Speaker 1: and it says when men go into other men there's

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Speaker 1: three sphincter holes. I had learned that there were two

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Speaker 1: sphincter holes. So when you have anal sex, there's one

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Speaker 1: entryway and then there's a second entryway, and if they're

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Speaker 1: really well endowed, there is a third entryway. But I

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Speaker 1: think that's only applicable for men because they have a

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Speaker 1: scrotum and we do not, so, but for us, there

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Speaker 1: are two anal entries one and then boom boom, depending

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Speaker 1: on how big the pino is. I didn't either, So

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Speaker 1: there's ship wait, there's there's comes out of one. No,

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Speaker 1: there's like as deep as it goes then there's like another.

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Speaker 1: It's like being in like a labyrinth. There's one one

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Speaker 1: that's the entryway, and then if you have a big

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Speaker 1: enough penis, there is a second anal opening in the

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Speaker 1: same tunnel.

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Speaker 6: I think she has one, and that's the problem because

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Speaker 6: I feel like it just drops and with like where

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Speaker 6: we have to run the red like there's no time.

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Speaker 5: It's like where she's sh pants or like I have

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Speaker 5: a birth effect. And my mom never told me I

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Speaker 5: only have one laveryway.

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Speaker 1: Ye should not travel with a thermoss in case you

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Speaker 1: need to take a shy in it. Okay, Well, on

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Speaker 1: that note, you guys, I just want to thank you

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Speaker 1: guys for being here all the way from Canada. I

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Speaker 1: can't wait to see you guys again in person. I

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Speaker 1: hope that happens sooner than later. Thank you for being

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Speaker 1: on the podcast. You were very entertaining.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having us. It was so

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Speaker 4: nice to meet you, Catherine. I can't wait to see

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Speaker 4: you guys again.

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Speaker 2: I'm your biggest fan now, yay.

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Speaker 4: Thank you guys, really truly have a great day.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye, And for those of you who haven't seen

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Speaker 1: my special on Netflix, it's out. Revolution is out and

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Speaker 1: it's streaming, and I am announcing a new tour called

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Speaker 1: the Little Big Bitch Tour. I am starting again in April.

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Speaker 1: I announced a bunch of cities, so it's on my

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Speaker 1: Instagram and my website and whatever. But yes, I'm going

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Speaker 1: back on the road in four months, amazing or whatever.

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Speaker 1: I have a whole new show and a whole new

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Speaker 1: thing and I'm gonna go to our again.

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Speaker 2: You're just a busy woman, I am.

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Speaker 1: I am. There's a lot going on.

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Speaker 3: So if you'd like advice from Chelsea, just send us

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Speaker 3: an email at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea is.

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Speaker 3: A production of iHeartRadio, executive produced by Nick Stuff, produced

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Speaker 3: by Catherine Law, and edited and engineered by Brad Dickert.