WEBVTT - Control what comes in

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about how to make far fewer small

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<v Speaker 1>choices control what comes in. If you are intentional about

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<v Speaker 1>what comes into your home, then you can relax knowing

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<v Speaker 1>anything that's there, We'll be fine. As Before Breakfast listeners

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<v Speaker 1>who also listened to my Best of Both Worlds podcast

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<v Speaker 1>may remember I had my kids pack their own lunches

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<v Speaker 1>for camp this summer. What do they eat? I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really know. For any particular day, they had a rule

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<v Speaker 1>that they had to pack one fruit or vegetable, but

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<v Speaker 1>that was it. My daughter mentioned a cream, cheese, sand

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<v Speaker 1>much and watermelon lunch as one particular culinary adventure. There

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<v Speaker 1>may have been cold liftover pasta some other day. Not

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<v Speaker 1>my thing, but it doesn't need to be my thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what they put in their lunch boxes,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do know what is in our pantry, in

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<v Speaker 1>our fridge. If we don't have big batches of candy

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<v Speaker 1>bars available, then they can't create lunches of all candy

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<v Speaker 1>bars with a single grape to meet the fruit rule.

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<v Speaker 1>We control what comes in, and yes, There is plenty

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<v Speaker 1>of snack food in my house, but it's all within

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<v Speaker 1>an acceptable range. So as long as the adults are

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<v Speaker 1>controlling what comes into the kitchen and pantry, the kids

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<v Speaker 1>can choose what makes it into their lunch boxes without

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<v Speaker 1>hovering supervision. I think this is important for kids. You

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<v Speaker 1>can give them freedom while limiting the downside. But we

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<v Speaker 1>can think about controlling what comes in with adults as well,

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<v Speaker 1>including ourselves. If you want to cut down on drinking soda,

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<v Speaker 1>then don't buy soda at the grocery store. If you

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<v Speaker 1>have to go out into the world to purchase a

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<v Speaker 1>soda whenever you want one, nine times out of ten

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<v Speaker 1>you will rethink that. If you do purchase it while

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<v Speaker 1>out and about, well, great, it's a special treat. You

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<v Speaker 1>can savor it knowing there aren't six more cans at

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<v Speaker 1>home waiting for you. Some people who decide they only

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<v Speaker 1>want to drink alcohol on social occasions make this easier

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<v Speaker 1>by just not keeping alcohol in the house. If you

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<v Speaker 1>are at a bar or a restaurant with friends, great,

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<v Speaker 1>that probably doesn't happen every night, and so it is

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<v Speaker 1>naturally going to be more limited then losing track of

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<v Speaker 1>wine pores while watching TV solo. I have been learning

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<v Speaker 1>to control what comes in the hard way with toys.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my children, in particular, has an absolute explosion

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<v Speaker 1>of small parts everywhere. Sometimes this is inevitable. We all

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<v Speaker 1>love legos, me included, and making complex sets with my

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<v Speaker 1>older kids is really fun. But if a child is

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<v Speaker 1>neutral between different kinds of presents for Christmas, sets with

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<v Speaker 1>fewer small pieces have some distinct advantages over sets with

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<v Speaker 1>hundreds of small pieces. A single doll or truck can

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<v Speaker 1>only create so much clutter. One hundred scented erasers shaped

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<v Speaker 1>like food, Oh my goodness. Control what comes in, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can limit the clean up after the fact. You

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<v Speaker 1>can even apply this mindset to social media. A friend

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<v Speaker 1>of mine recently minted that she was massively behind on

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<v Speaker 1>direct messages on social media. Someone else suggested simply turning

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<v Speaker 1>them off and directing people to a particular email address

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<v Speaker 1>from all the different sites. Control what comes in, and

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<v Speaker 1>there's just less random stuff to deal with and a

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<v Speaker 1>greater chance that the people who do reach out to

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<v Speaker 1>you have something worthwhile to listen to. Making spot decisions

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<v Speaker 1>on many things can be draining. When you control what

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<v Speaker 1>comes into your house or even into your inbox or

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<v Speaker 1>into your life in general. You can limit the number

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<v Speaker 1>of decisions you need to make. You know that everything

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<v Speaker 1>has met a certain standard or four teen clothes, let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't terribly offensive. So within that people can make their

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<v Speaker 1>own choices. Everything is decent and not covered in holes.

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<v Speaker 1>So fashion is up to the individual. Camo pants and

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<v Speaker 1>camo shirt awesome. There are no such things as clashing colors.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all good. In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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