WEBVTT - Getting Open with Tyler Conklin

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, everybody. My name is Lindsay Young and I am

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<v Speaker 1>a writer and assistant editor here with the Minnesota Vikings.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for joining us for our third

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<v Speaker 1>installment of the Getting Open series that focuses on all

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<v Speaker 1>things mental health. We kicked off this series by talking

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<v Speaker 1>to Vikings defensive lineman jail And Holmes, and last week

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<v Speaker 1>we chatted with All Pro linebacker Eric Kendricks and his

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<v Speaker 1>fiance Ali Cortnall. Over the next several weeks, you will

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<v Speaker 1>continue to hear personal player stories, organizational initiatives, and also

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<v Speaker 1>more about foundations that support this area of mental health. Today,

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<v Speaker 1>we're sitting down with Vikings tight end Tyler Conklin. The

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty season marked Tyler's third with Minnesota, and there's

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<v Speaker 1>no denying the impact that he had on the field.

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<v Speaker 1>But what fans might not know is the difference he

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<v Speaker 1>also makes off the field with an organization called No Resolve.

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<v Speaker 1>For Tyler and his family, mental health and suicide awareness

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<v Speaker 1>are topics close to their heart. In twenty eighteen and

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<v Speaker 1>twenty nineteen, you know, for the Vikings might cause my

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<v Speaker 1>cleats game, you wrapped No Resolve. Can you just tell

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<v Speaker 1>us a little bit about that organization and its mission. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so No Resolve was created by Dennis Leggio. He started

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<v Speaker 1>because his dad committed suicide. So No Resolve is a

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<v Speaker 1>nonprofit as dedicated to promoting mental health, preventing you, and

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<v Speaker 1>preventing youth suicide throughout through reaching, advocacy and education. So

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<v Speaker 1>can you tell us a little bit about the personal

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<v Speaker 1>connection that your family has with No Resolve. I know

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<v Speaker 1>that you've had some involvement with them and as well

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<v Speaker 1>as your mom. Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I had an involvement with them through because they

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<v Speaker 1>came and they did an event at our school. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom has no DNIS for a long time. They

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<v Speaker 1>met at a conference in the nineties and they realized

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<v Speaker 1>they had similar plans, and because of their experiences with suicide,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom got Dennis to come and do his first

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<v Speaker 1>ever event at middle school Central where she worked at

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<v Speaker 1>and he did that in nineteen ninety nine, which was

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<v Speaker 1>two years after my mom's brother committed suicide. And since then,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom and Dennis had done a ton of the

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<v Speaker 1>community together. No Resolve is not nationwide and they travel

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<v Speaker 1>the country. I'm telling his story and helping raise awareness

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<v Speaker 1>and he does it in a pretty neat way with

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<v Speaker 1>his musician, so he does it like singing songs and

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<v Speaker 1>with his guitar and stuff. So their events are usually awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>And they recently just opened a teen center and Shelby

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<v Speaker 1>Township and the Team centers kind of a place where

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<v Speaker 1>youth and people who can just go kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>a safe place where they have people that you can

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<v Speaker 1>talk to, or just a video game room and all

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<v Speaker 1>these different things where you can just go. And it

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<v Speaker 1>TOLDO just be a safe place for kids in the areas,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, for having a hard time or really dealing

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<v Speaker 1>with some stuff where they can kind of go and

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<v Speaker 1>get away and either get help or kind of just

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<v Speaker 1>get away and have some time to theirselves. You mentioned

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<v Speaker 1>that your mom's brother committed suicide. How old were you

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<v Speaker 1>when that happened and what impact has that had on you.

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<v Speaker 1>I was too year old when he committed suicide. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>and obviously I don't really remember too much about it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've got to watch my mom and see how

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<v Speaker 1>it's affecting my mom throughout her life. And you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a little brother and a little sister, so to

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<v Speaker 1>think about losing two of the most important people in

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<v Speaker 1>my life, and I can't even fathom the pain that

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<v Speaker 1>that that would bring. And I've really watched my mom

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<v Speaker 1>kind of take that pain and the struggle and turn

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<v Speaker 1>into something really positive for her community and and herself.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I didn't really get to see her or

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember like how she was when, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when it just happened or whatnot, but you know the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that she's done with creating. Uh. So, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>community Action Coalition in our community. It was just called

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<v Speaker 1>what's called something different before, but it's like ten people

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<v Speaker 1>on a panel and they it just came in and

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<v Speaker 1>they did stel to prevent you know, George, substance abuse, suicide, prevention,

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<v Speaker 1>bullying and prevention. And they come together every month and

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<v Speaker 1>they you know, Matt and talked about the community and

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<v Speaker 1>different things going on and how could they could prevent

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<v Speaker 1>some of these things. So my mom took over and

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<v Speaker 1>became the chair in nineteen ninety nine with David Brown,

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<v Speaker 1>and like I said, there's only ten people in the committee,

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<v Speaker 1>and by the time she retired, it was there's eleven

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<v Speaker 1>coalitions in our in our county and MCCO and ours

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<v Speaker 1>was top three. The coalition was top three and they

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<v Speaker 1>did just a ton of work, you know, every year

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<v Speaker 1>and every monthly. Man, I was a part of it

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<v Speaker 1>from seventh grade to my senior year high school. And um,

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<v Speaker 1>something just like the fire and the motivation that created

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<v Speaker 1>and the way my mom kind of turned that pain

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<v Speaker 1>in a hard time into something positive for other people

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<v Speaker 1>was you know, huge for me to see. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever had any experiences where people approach you or your

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<v Speaker 1>mom who have been able to share how her efforts

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<v Speaker 1>have made a difference in their life or in a

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<v Speaker 1>loved one's life. I guess have you been able to

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<v Speaker 1>see those personal those personal stories of change. I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>it a little bit. Um. You know, my mom, she's

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<v Speaker 1>a private counselor on the side too, and she works

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<v Speaker 1>with all types of people. But I see a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of it because I mean sometimes I'll stop in on

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<v Speaker 1>maybe one of her clients as a younger kid or

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<v Speaker 1>a middle school creator Derek Kay wants to see me,

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<v Speaker 1>or I'll stop in and you know, sign something for

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<v Speaker 1>him or hang out, and you know, I can just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'll talk to them for a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>and I can obviously see you no when I sit

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<v Speaker 1>there and talk to them, how much you know it

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<v Speaker 1>helps them, and how much it means to them that

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<v Speaker 1>she's there for him. So, like I've seen in a different,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, spots like that, whether I'm kind of just

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<v Speaker 1>or like that coalition where you know, just hearing kids

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<v Speaker 1>talk about her, whether it's previous or present, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a good feeling to all to see how much

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<v Speaker 1>she's helping too. So you've talked a little bit about

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<v Speaker 1>how mental health obviously has impacted your family. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>personally been impacted by any mental health challenges? If so,

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<v Speaker 1>what does that look like in your daily life. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a hard thing for me to talk about, it

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<v Speaker 1>feel like because I'm something I haven't really talked about

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<v Speaker 1>a lot, and I feel like that's kind of kind

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<v Speaker 1>of a sta stigma of men is. You know, we

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<v Speaker 1>don't we bottle stuff up, we don't talk about things.

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<v Speaker 1>So it kind of took me a while to ever

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<v Speaker 1>realize if I did deal with mental health battles, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think the main thing that I really deal

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<v Speaker 1>with that I've really kind of been going to acknowledge

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<v Speaker 1>is anxiety. Anxiety is something I feel like I did

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<v Speaker 1>with a lot um sometimes obviously worse than others, and

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<v Speaker 1>it could be you know, sometimes it's just the fact that, um,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm always thinking about what I have to do,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how big or little the task is. You

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta do this, I got to do that, And

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<v Speaker 1>to do that kind of can take away take away

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of joy and fun and doing things sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>they're just living life because you can't. I can't just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, sit down and relax, and I'm always think, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta do this, I gotta do that, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>do this, and it can just be overwhelming, you know

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<v Speaker 1>it to never really let your brain rest or never

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you get that feeling in your stomach, and

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<v Speaker 1>the longest time, I never really understood, like I just

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<v Speaker 1>know my stomach feels funny here, you know, when you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of learn about it and you realize, like that

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<v Speaker 1>pin in your stomach is you know a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of anxiety. And so I feel like I've done to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of cope with that. Is you know, I'm really big,

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<v Speaker 1>I really got big into you know, making lists, and

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<v Speaker 1>it makes me really task oriented. But it really helps

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<v Speaker 1>me a lot to just you know, I'm constantly making

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<v Speaker 1>a list on my phone, or writing it down to

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<v Speaker 1>just you know, make my after I get it down

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<v Speaker 1>on paper, right down, it kind of makes me build

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<v Speaker 1>to relax a little bits. And now I know where said.

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<v Speaker 1>I know when I got to do it. Instead of

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<v Speaker 1>just constantly thinking about, Okay, I gotta do this, I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta do this, I'll just start repeating stuff in my head,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, until it gets done. So writing stuff down

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<v Speaker 1>has really helped me. And you know, obviously working out

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<v Speaker 1>and doing different things always is always beneficial for me

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of get my mind off of things and

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<v Speaker 1>being clean, you know, whether it's cleaning my car, my locker,

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<v Speaker 1>or the house. You know, whenever I'm if I have anxiety,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't have anxiety, don't have nothing to do,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and I don't know what to do with myself,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'll just you know, clean up. And accomplishing a

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<v Speaker 1>productive task or something always kind of seems to benefit me.

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<v Speaker 1>Are there any people in your life specifically that have

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<v Speaker 1>been like a great support system or just kind of understanding,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when you do go through these times that

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<v Speaker 1>are maybe a higher anxiety moments. I'm not blessed. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a really good family and we're extremely open. We

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<v Speaker 1>talked about everything, and I mean, that's that's beneficial. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think the biggest person that probably gets to see

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<v Speaker 1>it now with my girlfriend because she lives with me,

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<v Speaker 1>so she's a lot probably she's a lot more carefree

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<v Speaker 1>and kind of just goes with the flow. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty you know, because of my anxiety, I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>task boring it and you know, get this done, get

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<v Speaker 1>this done, get that done. So I know for a

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<v Speaker 1>fact she can tell, you know, when I have anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>or or whatnot, because I'm always turning to help repeating

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<v Speaker 1>the list of things I need to do, or I'm

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<v Speaker 1>asking her how can you do this and do that

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<v Speaker 1>and um, And she does a really good job, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>helping me or either accomplish a task so I can

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<v Speaker 1>kind of relax a little bit or um, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>not get annoyed with me because I'm over here trying

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<v Speaker 1>to ask her to get stuff done and for me

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<v Speaker 1>to get stuff done and whatnot. So she's probably the

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<v Speaker 1>person that sees it the most, and she has a

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<v Speaker 1>great job helping me kind of navigate it. So a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of Vikings fans this past season read about your

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<v Speaker 1>two pups, Alaska and Luna. Does having pets help at

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<v Speaker 1>all with anxiety? Yeah, I think it does. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it helps a lot, whether it's just you know, laying

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<v Speaker 1>around cuddling them, talking to them even though they can't

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<v Speaker 1>understand what the heck you're saying. But I think it

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<v Speaker 1>helps a little bit, a little bit of pet therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>We're in the up right now and market and actually

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<v Speaker 1>Laska got out and ran away for a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>the other day, so that didn't help my anxiety very much,

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<v Speaker 1>but we got him back, So I think it definitely

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<v Speaker 1>has his benefits, unless they just had to run away

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<v Speaker 1>for a little a little bit. In the NFL in general,

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<v Speaker 1>there are so many ups and downs, right and then

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<v Speaker 1>this past season twenty twenty has just been crazy. Whether

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<v Speaker 1>it's the pandemic, whether it's racial injustices going on. So

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<v Speaker 1>much to think about and so much to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>be concerned about. When you're in the middle of a

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<v Speaker 1>football season, which is obviously extra busy for you, how

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<v Speaker 1>do you prioritize your mental health as well as your

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<v Speaker 1>physical health, you know, obviously with the pandemic and COVID

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<v Speaker 1>or what now. We had an off season last year

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<v Speaker 1>and no, I think that was really beneficial to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the physical part of things, I've always really

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<v Speaker 1>been pretty good about and it's always been such a

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<v Speaker 1>release for me. And so we're somewhere and get my

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<v Speaker 1>mind off of that. That's always kind of been the

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<v Speaker 1>first thing I've always gone to. So, you know, before

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<v Speaker 1>I even realized I had anxiety or you know, dealing

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<v Speaker 1>with some stuff that you know, working, I was always

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<v Speaker 1>that made me feel better. So I think during the

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<v Speaker 1>pandemic this year, you know, being able to have the

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<v Speaker 1>time to sit back and reflect and not be able

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<v Speaker 1>to do anything you're stuck in the house with your family,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, just finding different outlets that way. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like greeting has been really big for me

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<v Speaker 1>before March and everything kind of happened. I haven't read

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<v Speaker 1>a book since Magic Treehouse when I was a little kid,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I started reading during UH when the

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<v Speaker 1>pandemic and everything got shut down, And that's helped me

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<v Speaker 1>a lot, no matter what it was, whether it was

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<v Speaker 1>just reading for luxure or you know, for fun, or

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<v Speaker 1>if it was reading to try to learn something. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's been beneficial and some different things, trying to

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<v Speaker 1>become a little more you know, and tuling myself and

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<v Speaker 1>spiritual and trying to just you know, think a little

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<v Speaker 1>more about you know the world and other people and

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<v Speaker 1>doing yoga and just cleflic as men were so used

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<v Speaker 1>to just bottling everything up or a thought comes. Especially

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<v Speaker 1>in this world, we're desensitized to everything. You know, we

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<v Speaker 1>got constant from nation and constant news, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you go on Twitter and you learn about this, and

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<v Speaker 1>you just five seconds later you see something else, So

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of become desensitized the stuff. So, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to stay off my phone and digest information more.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, when we get desensitized the stuff, I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of it takes away our ability to you know,

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<v Speaker 1>be empathetic about situations. So, you know, really trying to

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<v Speaker 1>slow myself down and feel more. I guess it's probably

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<v Speaker 1>the easiest way to put it into words. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>feel more for yourself and for others. I really like

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<v Speaker 1>that point about empathy and just how helpful that can be,

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's with yourself or with other people. And something

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<v Speaker 1>that you mentioned earlier was kind of this stigma around

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<v Speaker 1>mental illness, and I think that that permeates throughout society

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<v Speaker 1>as a whole. But you even mentioned as well, specifically

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<v Speaker 1>with men, and maybe even more so within athletics or

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<v Speaker 1>within professional athletics. I guess why, just personally, why do

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<v Speaker 1>you think that is that there's such a stigma around

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<v Speaker 1>this topic with men within athletics. I mean, it all starts, obviously.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's just that's the way I was, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean not that I was my mental well being

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<v Speaker 1>was neglected, but just you know, you know, my dad

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<v Speaker 1>was looked Dad. I looked at my dad is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some big tough guy that you know, I've never seen

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<v Speaker 1>him cry, and um, you know, handled everything I needed

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<v Speaker 1>to be handled, and you know, to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>see that. You know, I grew up wanting to be,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the person. I never wanted to put my

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<v Speaker 1>problems on anybody or um, you know, something bad is

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<v Speaker 1>going on or something's happening. I always want to be

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<v Speaker 1>the person that's like, you know, I can I can

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<v Speaker 1>take it, I can put it on my shoulders. And

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of men grew up like that. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people just grow up like that man or a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think it's just something that society's kind of created.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do think it's something that we've kind of

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<v Speaker 1>as a society. I've got better at talking about a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. Obviously we're doing it now, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's improved over the years. The main thing that I

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<v Speaker 1>think is acknowledging that there is stuff going on, because

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<v Speaker 1>I've got so good at just handling stuff and internalizing things,

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, I'll be all right kind of idea.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I've got so good at that that you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>You forget to acknowledge when stuff is going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>that can be a rabbit hole, and that could be

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<v Speaker 1>can be bad because then it affects you in your

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<v Speaker 1>daily life, whether it's just talking to you know, a

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<v Speaker 1>significant other family member or a friend and you take

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<v Speaker 1>it out on them without even noticing it. Why did

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be a part of this series then

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<v Speaker 1>and share your story with more people? Kind of going

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<v Speaker 1>back on the pandemic and everything. I think it was

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<v Speaker 1>a great time for everybody kind of work on getting

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<v Speaker 1>better as a person. I think there's always stuff you

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<v Speaker 1>can get better on, and you know, whether it's mentally, physically, spiritually,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, anything that you want to get better. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a good time to get better at it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to get better at stuff when you're not

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<v Speaker 1>in a good place mentally or when you're struggling with things,

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<v Speaker 1>and the only way to kind of get better, to

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<v Speaker 1>improve your your mental well being, or to get through

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<v Speaker 1>a tough time, I really think is to not just

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<v Speaker 1>get healthier physically. I think that helps, but to open

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<v Speaker 1>up and talk to people. And whether you get a

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<v Speaker 1>counselor you talk to a family member, however, you got

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<v Speaker 1>to do everybody's different, you know, that's the first step

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<v Speaker 1>is acknowledging it and then find it and find something

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<v Speaker 1>to talk to to get better so that you can't

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<v Speaker 1>improve all the things you want to improve it. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to kind of be that. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be one of people where it's like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he's deal with mych oldest shoes, he's in the NFL,

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<v Speaker 1>he's done thinks. I want to build me on the

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<v Speaker 1>forefront of that, just like I know some of other

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<v Speaker 1>people that are talking to want to be on because

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<v Speaker 1>it's important to show kids younger than us, or show

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<v Speaker 1>people that are you know, our age or older, that know,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how big and bad you think you are,

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<v Speaker 1>or no matter what you do for a living, that

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<v Speaker 1>you know you can deal with mental health. In an

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<v Speaker 1>earlier segment of this series, we talked to Jalen Holmes

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<v Speaker 1>and he mentioned that if he helps just one person

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<v Speaker 1>with sharing his story, that he finds that to be

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<v Speaker 1>worth it. You know, So if there's if there's one

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<v Speaker 1>thing that even one person could take out of your

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<v Speaker 1>story and listening to this interview, what would you hope

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<v Speaker 1>that to be. Jane was one of my good friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and uh, you know, I've talked to him about a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of this stuff and he's he's I think he's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly right. Like, if I could help one person or

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<v Speaker 1>you know, help one person get through a really tough

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<v Speaker 1>time that they might not think they're going to get through,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is definitely worth it. If there's any if

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<v Speaker 1>there's any advice I could I could give, And it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard for me to give it sometimes because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not that good at, you know, listening to my own advice.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm not great at opening up and talking

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<v Speaker 1>to people yet or you know, going and finding help.

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<v Speaker 1>But um, you know, I just I just want everybody

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<v Speaker 1>that hears this or that's listening to know that it's

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<v Speaker 1>okay to struggle with things, no matter how big or

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<v Speaker 1>small you think they are, and you know to to

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<v Speaker 1>never give up and to attack that problem and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>find help if they needed. And um, you know, talking

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<v Speaker 1>to talk. I think I really believe that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's writing something down or just talking finding someone

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<v Speaker 1>to talk to, it can be the you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>change that that someone needs. I just want to extend

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<v Speaker 1>a huge thank you to Tyler, not only for sharing

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<v Speaker 1>more about a great organization like No Resolve, but for

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<v Speaker 1>also being willing to delve into his personal experiences around

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<v Speaker 1>anxiety and how that has impacted him. Thanks again for

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<v Speaker 1>tuning in, and we invite you to keep an eye

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