Speaker 1: All right, break it down.
Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just fonts Amy
Speaker 2: and Cat gotcha Cob and locking them brother ladies and felts.
Speaker 3: We just follow the spirit where it's tell us O
Speaker 3: real stuff to the chill stuff and the m but Swayne,
Speaker 3: sometimes the best thing you can do it.
Speaker 2: Just stop you feel things.
Speaker 4: This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Cat,
Speaker 1: and we have a little something special for everybody today.
Speaker 1: We've never done this before, never, never, first time. No,
Speaker 1: we have a hybrid situation fusion. Ah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't really know what.
Speaker 1: We're calling it, but it's when it's like if Feeling
Speaker 1: of the day and Email of.
Speaker 4: The Day had a baby.
Speaker 3: That's what we're doing.
Speaker 1: And we don't know how to combine the songs, so
Speaker 1: we're just going to sing them both. So get ready
Speaker 1: for our feeling of a day mixed with our Email
Speaker 1: of the day. Okay, the reason why our feeling of
Speaker 1: the day and our Email the day had a little
Speaker 1: baby is because we got this email from Autumn and
Speaker 1: she is responding to a couch talk. So that with
Speaker 1: sin in we already aired it from McKenzie. She's pregnant
Speaker 1: and she's just feeling a little like um, not as
Speaker 1: excited as she thought she would feel, and she was
Speaker 1: feeling a little weird about that. And this has happened
Speaker 1: before too. It's not just with Autumn and McKenzie, but
Speaker 1: other people have emailed in to give advice or feedback
Speaker 1: or thoughts to other couch Talks things which couch Talks
Speaker 1: airs on Thursday.
Speaker 4: This is feeling things we do. This is our big show.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Big Show on Tuesdays. And I love
Speaker 1: the emails that we get that are supporting our other listeners,
Speaker 1: and that for Kat and myself just helps it feel
Speaker 1: more like a community, which is what we're trying to build.
Speaker 1: We want y'all to all feel connected, even though you're
Speaker 1: listening in different places all over the world.
Speaker 3: All over the world.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say country, but then I feel like
Speaker 1: we do have one listener in Nigeria. Really, I think
Speaker 1: I saw that probably one in the UK, or we
Speaker 1: had yeah, we have Canada, we have UK, we have
Speaker 1: more obvious countries. But when I saw a listener in Nigeria,
Speaker 1: I was like, interesting.
Speaker 2: Wait, could that just be like a listener from Oklahoma
Speaker 2: that traveled to Nigeria.
Speaker 1: Yes likely Yes, maybe they were just there on a
Speaker 1: trip and they downloaded it, or this they moved there
Speaker 1: on their missionary or they're deployed somewhere in Africa worldwide.
Speaker 1: This a three or five? All right? So, uh, the
Speaker 1: feeling of the day is supported and it's because of
Speaker 1: this email we got from autumn.
Speaker 4: So do you see how we just had.
Speaker 1: A baby we merged? Here's the email that Auto sent in. Hey,
Speaker 1: Amy and kat I listened to the couch talks about
Speaker 1: McKenzie navigating feelings around a new pregnancy. I related to
Speaker 1: many of those feelings in her circumstances. I'm also a
Speaker 1: military family and a mom with a busy career. Something
Speaker 1: that helped me get through my fears early in pregnancy
Speaker 1: was the following quote, what's the best that could happen?
Speaker 1: My brain often jumps straight to the worst case scenarios
Speaker 1: and all the things.
Speaker 4: That could go wrong.
Speaker 1: That quote, which I guess is also a question, is
Speaker 1: a nice reminder that things can also go right. Love y'all,
Speaker 1: So what's the best that could happen? I love it,
Speaker 1: and I love that she sent that in for Mackenzie.
Speaker 1: And I love that we get to share it here
Speaker 1: on the big show and that we're all feeling supported.
Speaker 1: Hopefully Mackenzie hears that and she feels supported. I feel supported.
Speaker 3: I feel supported.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we all feel supported.
Speaker 2: And this reminds me and made me think about how
Speaker 2: even in training as a therapist, we're taught to ask
Speaker 2: what's the worst that can happen? When somebody's struggling with something,
Speaker 2: we help them, Well, what's the worst that can happen? Like,
Speaker 2: let's go through that, versus framing their mind more towards
Speaker 2: the things that could go right. And that's something I've
Speaker 2: had to work on as a therapist. Maybe in like
Speaker 2: twenty seventeen, I had a client who she was younger,
Speaker 2: maybe like sixteen seventeen, and she would come in every
Speaker 2: single week and she had a hard life. She had
Speaker 2: a really rough home situation, struggling in school with some things,
Speaker 2: struggling with some body image stuff. And every week when
Speaker 2: she would come in, I would ask her like, how
Speaker 2: are these things going that she was struggling with? And
Speaker 2: it would always be really negative, and she would always
Speaker 2: be really solemn and very depressed, And I noticed myself
Speaker 2: getting frustrated as a therapist, which for me was a
Speaker 2: red flag of I'm supposed I have this positive regard
Speaker 2: for my clients and I shouldn't have this dread when
Speaker 2: I see a client on my schedule because she's not
Speaker 2: getting better or not getting sick of hearing what she's saying.
Speaker 3: But I'm just like, oh, frustrated.
Speaker 2: So I was like, Okay, what are you doing over
Speaker 2: and over and again that's not working and kind of
Speaker 2: how can you shift them? So one day she came
Speaker 2: in before I asked her like, how are things going?
Speaker 2: And we did our thing where I was like, how
Speaker 2: are things with your dad? And she was like, I
Speaker 2: hate them. I said, I'm not going to ask you
Speaker 2: about any of those things. I have a different question.
Speaker 2: She said, okay. I said, is anything going well for you?
Speaker 2: Is there anything about your life that you like? And
Speaker 2: she kind of just like looked at me funny, and
Speaker 2: I was like, shit, okay and she was actually yes,
Speaker 2: and I said okay.
Speaker 3: And she did a lot of art.
Speaker 2: She was an artist, and a lot of things that
Speaker 2: we talked about she would ask to draw them or
Speaker 2: paint and so she said can I show you instead
Speaker 2: of tell you?
Speaker 3: And I said okay.
Speaker 2: So She got out my butcher paper and all like
Speaker 2: that art supplies, and she had me turn my back
Speaker 2: so I couldn't see it until she was done, so
Speaker 2: I couldn't be peeking. So I turned my back for
Speaker 2: like twenty minutes, and then she said, okay, I'm done,
Speaker 2: and I turned around and I still have this. I
Speaker 2: kept it this like mural. It was on like big
Speaker 2: butcher paper. It was this mural of this girl and
Speaker 2: then all of these things around her that she liked
Speaker 2: about herself, and I just kind of dropped.
Speaker 3: My job kind of just dropped. I was like, what
Speaker 3: is this?
Speaker 2: And then she started telling me about all these things.
Speaker 2: If I like this, and I like this, and this
Speaker 2: is going really well, and this is part of even
Speaker 2: there are even parts of her body which she was
Speaker 2: struggling with body image, and she had an eating disorder,
Speaker 2: and there are parts of her own body that I
Speaker 2: had no idea that she really liked. And so she
Speaker 2: told me all about it. And then I looked at
Speaker 2: her and I said, why have you never told me
Speaker 2: about any of.
Speaker 3: This stuff in your life? And she.
Speaker 2: Kind of paused. I wish I knew more about what
Speaker 2: she was thinking, but she just paused. And she said, well,
Speaker 2: because you've never asked me oh, And I.
Speaker 3: Was like wow, yeah, I said, okay, you are right,
Speaker 3: I have never asked you about what you like about it.
Speaker 3: That was eye opening for me as a therapist.
Speaker 4: I'll probably changed you.
Speaker 2: Yes, I never asked her once what she liked about
Speaker 2: her life. I only focused on the things that weren't
Speaker 2: going well, and a lot of those things were out
Speaker 2: of her control, like she can't control her mom, she
Speaker 2: can't control her dad, she can't control people at school,
Speaker 2: versus what do you like? And what would happen if
Speaker 2: we started focusing on those things? And it made me think, yeah,
Speaker 2: the questions we ask are going to impact how we
Speaker 2: view things.
Speaker 3: And where we go.
Speaker 2: So rather than always asking, well, what's the worst that
Speaker 2: can happen, what's the best that could happen in this situation?
Speaker 1: And I also just a remind her too of how
Speaker 1: we're interacting with people of like the questions we're asking them,
Speaker 1: because like, yeah, whatever y'all were focusing on in therapy,
Speaker 1: that was the version of her. You were gettings and
Speaker 1: you were starting to be like, oh, yeah, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of dreading this. So even in our relationships because Not
Speaker 1: all of us are therapists, right, most of us aren't.
Speaker 1: But in our friendships or our partnerships or our work relationships,
Speaker 1: like what are we doing to kind of lead conversation
Speaker 1: and things we may be frustrated with when it comes
Speaker 1: to other people, it's like, oh, wait, how have we
Speaker 1: contributed to that? Yeah, by the questions we're asking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we get stuck in the same routine, the same stuff,
Speaker 2: and I still have to I love that that story
Speaker 2: is embedded in my brain forever because that still happens
Speaker 2: where I get stuck in kind of a cycle with
Speaker 2: a client or a friend or somebody, Like, wait a second,
Speaker 2: I keep doing the same thing. So part of this
Speaker 2: is on me. If I keep asking somebody the same
Speaker 2: question about the same thing that they don't have control over,
Speaker 2: I'm probably going to keep getting the same answer. So
Speaker 2: if we shift star vision a little bit, this might
Speaker 2: still be going on. But other things are happening too,
Speaker 2: And it's not to like because I think sometimes bad, Yes,
Speaker 2: bad things are happening, and it's fair to be able
Speaker 2: to process that and feel that. But it's being able
Speaker 2: to hold both of those things. I didn't change her
Speaker 2: relationship with her dad but we did spend more time
Speaker 2: focusing on the relationships in her life that were really good,
Speaker 2: and that shifted the way she felt walking around.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it reminds me of a conversation I just had
Speaker 1: with my boyfriend. It's a little different, but it reminds
Speaker 1: me of it. So he was traveling and going to
Speaker 1: the airport and I was on the phone with him,
Speaker 1: and right when he got to where he parks and
Speaker 1: like takes the shuttle, he was like, oh.
Speaker 4: The shuttle isn't here.
Speaker 1: And then once the shuttle got there and he got
Speaker 1: to there, but he's like, oh my gosh, remind me
Speaker 1: to never travel on this day at this time again
Speaker 1: because it is just crazy. And then he's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god. Like it was like four things.
Speaker 4: In a row.
Speaker 1: And he's not a negative person, but I happened to
Speaker 1: be in a very like positive mood, and so I
Speaker 1: just I didn't want to be impacted by his negativeness.
Speaker 1: Which I can do that too. I mean I can
Speaker 1: rattle off four things that I'm annoyed about in a row.
Speaker 1: So it wasn't about me being better. It's just like,
Speaker 1: in that moment, I realized, like, whoa you're being that way,
Speaker 1: and I don't. I don't want to soak up any
Speaker 1: of that type of energy, so let's reset. I was like, so,
Speaker 1: tell me, is there anything that's going right this morning,
Speaker 1: like before you're traveling?
Speaker 4: And he was like, oh, well, I didn't feel like
Speaker 4: that stuff was really bad.
Speaker 1: I said, I know it doesn't seem that way, but
Speaker 1: I'm over here with this different energy and you're just
Speaker 1: like ping ping ping ping, which I know you're getting
Speaker 1: ready to leave the country and this is a lot
Speaker 1: and it can be overwhelming, but let's can we focus on, like,
Speaker 1: just tell me something that's going right for you right now?
Speaker 3: And then that.
Speaker 1: Helped sort of reset us. And I would want him
Speaker 1: to do the same thing for me, like if I
Speaker 1: was the one noticing negative things around me, Like could
Speaker 1: he pause and say, okay, can you tell me something
Speaker 1: that's going right?
Speaker 3: Is anything and there's a finesse to it?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 4: It's a finesse.
Speaker 3: A finesse.
Speaker 4: Oh I like that word.
Speaker 1: I don't know that I mean, because remember how I
Speaker 1: don't know that I've ever used finesse other than like,
Speaker 1: isn't that a hairspray finesse?
Speaker 5: Is it?
Speaker 3: Trust? Trust?
Speaker 1: Finesse is that different? Maybe it's part of a tagline.
Speaker 1: Finesse means no, finesse like yeah, like a smoothness to it.
Speaker 1: There's a dance to it. There's a way to do it.
Speaker 1: It's got to be a tagline for a hair product.
Speaker 1: I don't know, okay, but there's a finesse.
Speaker 3: I like it.
Speaker 4: I'm going to start using it.
Speaker 1: It start word of the day.
Speaker 3: Shannon will find us the definition.
Speaker 4: Also, I want to know what commercial it's been in.
Speaker 2: But this, but this is reminding me how I think
Speaker 2: it was it your kids or who who was it
Speaker 2: Adeline that told you that?
Speaker 3: You asked the question, what does this make possible? Too fast? Oh?
Speaker 4: Adeline ads to share both of them together.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So this is where the finesse comes in.
Speaker 2: Where we have space for the frustration, and we have
Speaker 2: space for the things that are going wrong, and we
Speaker 2: are mindful to not let somebody linger there too long.
Speaker 2: We're helping them see the other side, versus saying don't
Speaker 2: look at that. Okay, I'm gonna help you see both
Speaker 2: versus don't look at that.
Speaker 1: Guess what finesse Finish and strengthen Extra Hold Hairspray nine
Speaker 1: nine on.
Speaker 3: Amazon something brand finesse finish.
Speaker 4: I don't know, Yeah it is finesse.
Speaker 1: Also, is that how you spell finess because it looks
Speaker 1: like finis.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I have to say finesse in like soccer,
Speaker 2: We're like, oh, they had a finesse to it, like
Speaker 2: when you did like a really cool move, like and
Speaker 2: it was like smooth, Like oh.
Speaker 1: Oh, this is gonna be my new word. You know
Speaker 1: how dates are my new food.
Speaker 3: Like those dates had a finesse to them in my salade.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just gonna start using it all the time,
Speaker 1: like dates, I want dates and everything.
Speaker 3: I love dates.
Speaker 1: And now I feel like I'm going to fall in
Speaker 1: love with the word finess.
Speaker 3: I have a challenge for you, Okay, on the Bobby
Speaker 3: Bones Show.
Speaker 2: You should have to work in finesse once, no problem,
Speaker 2: in the next twice in the next week.
Speaker 3: How about that. Yeah, see if somebody picks up of
Speaker 3: like you've said that twice.
Speaker 1: So my boyfriend's son gave me that challenge on the
Speaker 1: Bobby Bone Show once because he listens on his way
Speaker 1: to school and he's twelve, and he was like, and
Speaker 1: you do just say the word donut. And I was like, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: we'll see, because Bobby was doing the news and so
Speaker 1: I'm like, how am I going to work donut into
Speaker 1: the news? And I feel like maybe. Then Bobby brought
Speaker 1: up some story about UFOs or some identify unidentified objects
Speaker 1: aliens like something with the government, and I'm like, how
Speaker 1: in the world am I gonna work in donut? And
Speaker 1: I just remember saying something like, well, do we have
Speaker 1: the the whole picture, like the whole, like the whole shebang,
Speaker 1: the whole donut, because you know, you know, there's the
Speaker 1: full donut and then you have the cutout donut and
Speaker 1: that's how you get the donut hole.
Speaker 3: We just have the donut hole? Or do we have
Speaker 3: the whole donut?
Speaker 1: Yeah, the whole shebang? I think, I go, do we
Speaker 1: have the whole donut? Is this the whole donut?
Speaker 4: The whole shebang?
Speaker 1: And that was the way that I worked at it,
Speaker 1: and he thought it was the coolest thing ever.
Speaker 6: Like he's on his way to school and he's like,
Speaker 6: she just doesn't do that, like this is crazy, which
Speaker 6: speaking of my boyfriend, you know how that reminds me
Speaker 6: because Autumn was talking about the Couch Talk's email from
Speaker 6: Mackenzie and It was on that episode that I called
Speaker 6: my boyfriend my husband.
Speaker 3: How could we forget?
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that was cool.
Speaker 1: It's just a little fruity Fridian slip for Fredian Freudian.
Speaker 3: It's not like you're saying fruity.
Speaker 1: Freudianian Freudian Fredian slip.
Speaker 6: Yep.
Speaker 4: And it has been haunting me ever since.
Speaker 1: So it made a funny you know, real about it
Speaker 1: that we put on social at Feeling Things podcast. If
Speaker 1: you're not already following, follow TikTok Instagram, I'll subscribe, like subscribe, follow, reshare, save, comment, save, save,
Speaker 1: save our posts. Apparently saving posts helps engagement because that.
Speaker 3: Know, that means people really like this.
Speaker 1: I want to come back to it, saving and sharing,
Speaker 1: like if you share it to your stories.
Speaker 4: Share it to her friend, share it too. Yeah, that's
Speaker 4: what I started doing.
Speaker 1: You know they did that. I went in, I posted
Speaker 1: something and I started sending it out to everybody we know,
Speaker 1: and I was like, my sister. But it worked because
Speaker 1: my sister went to Our Feeling Things and she commented,
Speaker 1: and I don't know that she comments that often, but
Speaker 1: because I put it straight into her DMS, she was like, ah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go leave a comment I sent it to.
Speaker 2: But you didn't say anything to people when you did it,
Speaker 2: because I I just smired it off.
Speaker 3: Okay, I did that this morning.
Speaker 2: I sent it to one of my friends and I
Speaker 2: texted her, you can ignore that DM I sent you,
Speaker 2: and she goes, oh, dang it.
Speaker 3: I thought I was special when you were setting I
Speaker 3: should have just let her.
Speaker 1: Let it be, okay, just start firing it off to
Speaker 1: all your people. I sent it to your husband, send
Speaker 1: it to my boyfriend, like ha, look at this reel
Speaker 1: when I called you my husband, because then the.
Speaker 4: The caption on it was, uh, what was you soft launch?
Speaker 3: Husband?
Speaker 4: Yeah, just saft launched my marriage.
Speaker 3: He doesn't know it yet, So what did he think
Speaker 3: of it?
Speaker 4: He thought it was hilarious.
Speaker 1: Okay, he thought it was funny, Thank goodness. But when
Speaker 1: I say it is haunting me, it's like his dad
Speaker 1: sent me a text and he was like, your quote
Speaker 1: unquote husband, just sent me the video because you know,
Speaker 1: also in the video we talked about wait to Worry WTW,
Speaker 1: which was an acronym or saying from his dad, and
Speaker 1: so he thought sharing his dad would be special, and
Speaker 1: of course his dad loved it. But his dad was like, oh,
Speaker 1: Alex sent me this. He was like, your husband sent it.
Speaker 1: And then you saw some guy at the gym that
Speaker 1: also said something and then which you can tell that story.
Speaker 2: So I've been going to the gym with this guy
Speaker 2: for probably nine months and we've said high and stuff
Speaker 2: to each other, but never introduced each other.
Speaker 3: So thank you. You helped me make a friend.
Speaker 2: He came up to me, he was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: you came up on my Instagram and I wanted to
Speaker 2: tell you. He was like, I don't know Amy, but
Speaker 2: I know her husband because he's a great guy.
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, yeah, So it turns out, yes,
Speaker 1: they do know each other and the kids know each other.
Speaker 1: And then my boyfriend got a text from one of
Speaker 1: his neighbors that said, are you getting married?
Speaker 3: Stop it?
Speaker 1: Yes, and I was like, make it stop, stop stop.
Speaker 1: So he really thought, who knows what the neighbors saw
Speaker 1: or what that because sometimes you're just scrolling real quick
Speaker 1: and it could say be like my face soft launch
Speaker 1: of my marriage, Like he doesn't know yet, and maybe
Speaker 1: they don't. I don't know, do they get it? Did
Speaker 1: they not understand what really happened? And then they're texting
Speaker 1: him are you getting married? Are you getting engaged? And
Speaker 1: I said, well, what did you reply? He goes, I
Speaker 1: just sent back no, And I was like, well, what do.
Speaker 3: You mean by no? We're not engaged?
Speaker 1: Right? I know it was a very normal answer, but
Speaker 1: somehow I was offended by it.
Speaker 2: You wanted him to be like, not yet, right, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: that makes sense. Do you remember you might not remember
Speaker 2: this when early when Patrick and I were dating, he
Speaker 2: posted it was like maybe the first picture he posted
Speaker 2: of me, I think it was, and I had a
Speaker 2: ring on my ring finger and he posted it and
Speaker 2: he got multiple people, including his cousin, called him and asked,
Speaker 2: are you engaged? I was like, first of all, if
Speaker 2: that was our engagement post, we would have some issues.
Speaker 2: I think we're a house of cards or something.
Speaker 3: Yes you do. I'm like, oh my gosh, that never
Speaker 3: will wear I never wore a ring on that finger. Point.
Speaker 4: Did he just reply no?
Speaker 2: I think he just like he no, he said, he
Speaker 2: said no, but we're looking into it.
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. I was dating for like three months.
Speaker 1: Maybe Okay, well I look it's fine. He just answered
Speaker 1: no straight.
Speaker 4: To the point.
Speaker 1: Gosh, no, finesse about him at all. The definition of
Speaker 1: finesse to do something in a subtle and delicate manner,
Speaker 1: intricate and refined delicacy finesse.
Speaker 3: So if somebody does something really smooth, be like, oh
Speaker 3: I like that finesse.
Speaker 4: Yeah, straight, like it's you know, like straight fire, that's straight.
Speaker 4: You know, we made sick a thing.
Speaker 3: What if we make finesse?
Speaker 2: So I wonder if we start saying finess and you
Speaker 2: start saying around your boyfriend's kids, I must just said
Speaker 2: your husband's kids. You say it around your boyfriend's kids,
Speaker 2: if they'll be like, oh that sounds kind of cool.
Speaker 2: They bring it to school, we get the whole town
Speaker 2: saying it, okay.
Speaker 1: Oh actually yeah, the whole town, the whole world.
Speaker 2: Have you ever said it had a saying that you
Speaker 2: started saying and then you heard other people started saying it,
Speaker 2: And you're.
Speaker 3: Like, wait, I think I started that?
Speaker 4: No, no, have you?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: But I don't think I did, Like I think I
Speaker 3: probably heard it.
Speaker 1: I don't want to put money on that you didn't
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, I had no finesse with that, But what
Speaker 1: was the saying?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: There's been multiple things, and I'm like, wait, I said that.
Speaker 2: Now everybody's saying it.
Speaker 4: Well, you got me saying sick.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I know I didn't start that. I'll think
Speaker 3: of it because I know.
Speaker 1: If you remember what it was, then.
Speaker 3: I'm nervous right now. I feel like I'm put on
Speaker 3: the spot.
Speaker 1: Okay, circle, because I definitely want to know.
Speaker 2: Okay, but okay, Also I want people to hear me
Speaker 2: saying I don't think I really did start it.
Speaker 1: Just but you haven't even said what it is, so
Speaker 1: you don't have to clarify. It's not like you're taking
Speaker 1: credit for anything. You can said what it is. You're like,
Speaker 1: for the record. I just don't want to, you know,
Speaker 1: act like I'm taking credit for this, saying that I
Speaker 1: haven't even said yet because I don't remember what it is.
Speaker 3: I get you heart be misunderstood.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, don't worry.
Speaker 1: Was it?
Speaker 4: What are some sayings like I.
Speaker 3: Don't even know things that I say.
Speaker 2: It's a problem, like no, cap okay, I didn't start that,
Speaker 2: nor do I say it. Dope, don't say that fire fireflame?
Speaker 2: I say fireflame?
Speaker 4: What is that?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: If something's sick? Sometimes I'll say that's fireflame.
Speaker 1: Who says that?
Speaker 2: Well, two of my friends started saying it too, and
Speaker 2: then we made it our group chat name.
Speaker 3: But because is that the emojia you know when people
Speaker 3: send a fireflame?
Speaker 4: Yeah, well I just call it fire button.
Speaker 2: Well, so then I say no fireflame because that's the emoji,
Speaker 2: is the fireflame.
Speaker 3: So there's fire.
Speaker 2: What if we say, like, please start saying fire flames
Speaker 2: like a match? Cool because that's like strike a match fire. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's straight strike a match because it's about to be
Speaker 2: straight fire.
Speaker 1: That's a lighter lit. A litle lit lit was one.
Speaker 3: I know, but I didn't start that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I don't have anything. I'm like trying to
Speaker 1: think of more cool saying that I've gotten nothing. Okay,
Speaker 1: I have like you know, back in the day, we
Speaker 1: would say like psych like when I was in junior high.
Speaker 2: That cycles through because that started we started saying that
Speaker 2: when I was in high school.
Speaker 1: And I, eh, anyways, eh, I cauld do that. Yes
Speaker 1: you do that? People who know no somebody. Girls who
Speaker 1: get it get it, and girls who don't don't.
Speaker 4: I don't get that club anyway.
Speaker 3: That is mean girl.
Speaker 4: Ash probably was.
Speaker 3: It was like and you did it as you like
Speaker 3: curled your hair.
Speaker 1: You go anyways, that feels mean I like it.
Speaker 4: I don't know that. I don't.
Speaker 1: I think I had it done to me a lot.
Speaker 1: It was when I went to It was in sixth grade.
Speaker 1: I went to Fullmore.
Speaker 2: Did you say that when like somebody you were tired
Speaker 2: of what they were saying and you're like, anyways.
Speaker 1: No, I just said I didn't really say it, Okay, Max,
Speaker 1: it was just popular at my school. Okay, we had
Speaker 1: no finex anyways. Okay, I have a little some something,
Speaker 1: and then I know you have a little some something
Speaker 1: like I'm going to share things we can say to
Speaker 1: ourselves to feel calm.
Speaker 4: Before we go to sleep.
Speaker 1: Okay, And I'm very very very very very very excited
Speaker 1: about you telling your thing because we have had air
Speaker 1: bats on our schedule on our Google doc for weeks now.
Speaker 1: If we haven't gotten to it for whatever reason, I
Speaker 1: don't know why, we just haven't gotten to it. And
Speaker 1: I want to know all that airbats because I love baths.
Speaker 1: I love a forest bath, you know. I love cold
Speaker 1: plunge baths. I like warm plunge baths, like hot baths,
Speaker 1: cold bats.
Speaker 2: So stay tuned, don't stop listening now, because we're going
Speaker 2: to say that a sound bats.
Speaker 4: I love a sound bath.
Speaker 3: What have you heard of air baths? I haven't.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm eager for you to tell me about it.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna knock mine out real quick because we
Speaker 1: can get tears. So these are things that we should
Speaker 1: be saying to ourselves before we sleep. I saw this
Speaker 1: list thought it could be helpful if you're having trouble
Speaker 1: falling asleep. Okay, so you lay down, picture it.
Speaker 3: First step is still lay down, first.
Speaker 1: Up, lay down? Although, can I share something about how
Speaker 1: I've been sleeping sitting up?
Speaker 3: Elevated? How elevated?
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I have a thing that I got through
Speaker 1: work from mattress firm at like like a hospital bed.
Speaker 4: So is it very thankful to sides?
Speaker 3: So your partner could be a different.
Speaker 4: No, it's the whole. We're all together.
Speaker 1: I think way back when've been in a whole, we
Speaker 1: had the whole. We had the two different sides. He
Speaker 1: maybe got that in the divorces. So anyways, I just
Speaker 1: had the regular. However, like if you don't have that,
Speaker 1: or you go to a hotel, but you can stack
Speaker 1: your pillows and kind of just sleep a little bit elevated,
Speaker 1: and I feel like my face. I've been waking up
Speaker 1: less puffy when I'm sleeping elevated, okay, and something, it's
Speaker 1: like better about circulation. And even if you can raise
Speaker 1: your feet up a little bit, like it's like good
Speaker 1: for the the blood from your feet to go towards
Speaker 1: your abs and the blood from your head to go
Speaker 1: down towards your ebs. You know. So you're almost like
Speaker 1: at this. It's like zero gravity whatever they call zero
Speaker 1: google it.
Speaker 3: I thought zero gravity was like when you're in space.
Speaker 1: No, but it's what they call It's like an elevated
Speaker 1: state of like your hips are at one hundred and
Speaker 1: twenty degree angle or something.
Speaker 3: This is getting too complicated.
Speaker 4: Well sorry, I'm easy too. This is I've gone on
Speaker 4: a drink.
Speaker 2: You have to be one hundred and twenty degrees elevated
Speaker 2: in zero gravity, which you go to space to sleep.
Speaker 1: Now okay, Well I was originally telling you that, and
Speaker 1: then my ADHD brain took us on a journey to
Speaker 1: zero gravity sleeping, which is a thing.
Speaker 4: Okay, So don't hate I'm.
Speaker 3: Not hating you. I just feel I feel.
Speaker 1: Like you've been taken down a rabbit hole.
Speaker 2: I feel overwhelmed. Now I want to feel underwhelmed with
Speaker 2: my sleep. I want to feel whelmed.
Speaker 4: Okay, well that was just a side note.
Speaker 1: Okay, like whatever, sleep elevated, don't sleep elevated, no pressure.
Speaker 3: Sleep under your bed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, back to the original feeling of calm. This
Speaker 1: is what you're gonna say to yourself.
Speaker 3: Okay? Is this one long mantra or different things?
Speaker 1: Pick which ones you need, okay, or write them all down.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: I released the day with gratitude. I don't need all
Speaker 1: the answers tonight. I am proud of how far I've come.
Speaker 1: I did my best today and that's enough. I forgive
Speaker 1: myself and others asterisk, because like you may be heaven
Speaker 1: forgiven the others. I am safe.
Speaker 3: You can choose your own adventure.
Speaker 4: There, I added the asterisk.
Speaker 2: You were like, I forget myself, but not them. Yeah
Speaker 2: yet yet.
Speaker 1: I am safe to let go. I will wake up
Speaker 1: with greater clarity. I can start again tomorrow. I am
Speaker 1: ready to drift into peace now. I don't want to
Speaker 1: throw you. I know I just went over that list.
Speaker 1: I'm in a detour real quick because I just thought
Speaker 1: of something else that I used to do that I
Speaker 1: stopped doing, and I don't know.
Speaker 3: Why I stopped about sleeping.
Speaker 4: I used to listen to like.
Speaker 1: Sleep talk down audio on YouTube from Jason Stevenson. Do
Speaker 1: you remember telling you about him? He has an accent.
Speaker 1: I don't know where he's from. Maybe Australia.
Speaker 3: Is just the guy that says the money one.
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's something that's vibrations, that's subliminal that I
Speaker 1: ast to. I can't really hear the person saying it,
Speaker 1: but I'm listening to like bees buzzing, and then underneath
Speaker 1: they're going, you are good with money. Circulating money brings
Speaker 1: you towards You're responsible for large sum of money, and
Speaker 1: you know what to do with it.
Speaker 4: You handle money with ease. Yeah, I handle money with
Speaker 4: e That's that's a different.
Speaker 1: Those are my subliminals that help me with my finances
Speaker 1: because money used to always stress me out.
Speaker 4: So that's what I do to stay calm with.
Speaker 1: You are a money magnet.
Speaker 3: That's the one that I need.
Speaker 1: Yeah, give me five hundred dollars right now. Well, no
Speaker 1: you're not.
Speaker 4: I mean, you're not talking to anybody else.
Speaker 3: I know, but the name it would help me ask
Speaker 3: for it better.
Speaker 1: But it's like imagine you're just but I don't hear that.
Speaker 1: I mean it's under there because towards the end you
Speaker 1: can kind of hear it because the maybe the ocean's
Speaker 1: crashing or the bees buzzing or the birds chirping, they
Speaker 1: sort of die out and then you hear the But
Speaker 1: they're talking Relie really fast. It looks like a recorded
Speaker 1: it's on fast feed, and it's like you are a
Speaker 1: money magnet. You're really good when you attract money, and
Speaker 1: money comes too easily, and people just want to give
Speaker 1: you money. It's like that, but you're hearing it under
Speaker 1: Who gave you this idea? I came across it on Instagram.
Speaker 1: Cry Okat came across some posts that she saw, and
Speaker 1: then my cousin has talked to me about subliminals before.
Speaker 1: And then I went to this one link that the
Speaker 1: person posted about and then I clicked on the link
Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, I'll get that app. So
Speaker 1: I get the app and then I just listened to it.
Speaker 3: Wait a second, did you have to pay for a subscription?
Speaker 1: I pay for it, not a lot, though you're good
Speaker 1: with money.
Speaker 2: You will pay twenty nine ninety nine a month to
Speaker 2: have this subliminal message.
Speaker 1: That there's a that's the money one. I can listen
Speaker 1: to nobody.
Speaker 4: It is hilarious.
Speaker 3: You're like, oh so funny.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I'm a sucker who knows if
Speaker 1: these even work. Maybe we should make our own, like
Speaker 1: I do it. Yes, I do it morning and do it,
Speaker 1: and I try to do it when I'm going to sleep,
Speaker 1: when I'm waking up, because your your brain is in
Speaker 1: like I don't know, the state delta maybe or something,
Speaker 1: which is good at receiving subliminals because you have different
Speaker 1: wavelengths where you're more susceptible to absorb. Okay, okay, so
Speaker 1: because on a subconscious level, like I had convinced myself
Speaker 1: that I was horrible with money, and now on a
Speaker 1: subconscious level, I'm I'm subliminally telling myself or whoever this
Speaker 1: lady is that recorded these things really fast, she totally
Speaker 1: you're really good at mone You're making mad.
Speaker 3: What if in it? You don't know what they're like?
Speaker 3: You will give me all of.
Speaker 4: Your mind, but I'm not.
Speaker 1: I haven't given her anything else, like I'm not giving
Speaker 1: any other money. Like I also listened to the your
Speaker 1: creative genius, there's a creative genius, aren't really creative though,
Speaker 1: thank you. I almost didn't accept that compliment. But I
Speaker 1: am working on that. So she'd be like, you know,
Speaker 1: you you have ideas they are flowing out of you
Speaker 1: or an idea.
Speaker 4: I'm an idea magnet.
Speaker 1: Okay, so subliminals back to that. Jason Stevenson is different.
Speaker 1: He does sleep talk down videos works much as for
Speaker 1: his free and he's got like millions of lessons, sort
Speaker 1: of like us. We're millions of views on YouTube.
Speaker 4: We're the same.
Speaker 1: So Jason Stevenson and he just talks down. It's like
Speaker 1: a sleep it's like a talking that's talking you down
Speaker 1: to go to sleep. So I think they're called sleep
Speaker 1: talk down.
Speaker 3: Okay, then you stopped doing it because you didn't need it.
Speaker 1: Don't know. I guess I was getting better, but I
Speaker 1: was really into it for a while, probably because I
Speaker 1: replaced it with my subliminals. You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but this is nice. You can just say these
Speaker 2: instead of have your sleep talk down. Yeah, you could
Speaker 2: just say this to yourself. I release the day with gratitude.
Speaker 1: I don't need all the answers right now.
Speaker 3: That's my favorite one.
Speaker 1: I know that one's good for me because you know,
Speaker 1: one thing I was wearing on therapy for sure late
Speaker 1: last year. Was trying to figure everything out, and my
Speaker 1: therapist kept saying, what if there's nothing to figure out?
Speaker 4: And I'm like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 3: Who do you think you are?
Speaker 1: There's so much to figure out. I have to figure
Speaker 1: out what How are you doing with that?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 5: Better?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: I got better with that after my ketamine sort of
Speaker 1: release some of that, I mean obviously, and then talking
Speaker 1: through it with her afterwards, and then you know, that
Speaker 1: helps the way to worry also helps that in my relationship,
Speaker 1: like there's nothing to figure out. Wtw Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: need all the answers tonight tomorrow.
Speaker 5: That's a different story.
Speaker 1: Okay, real quick before we get into air bathing, Shannon
Speaker 1: found us some things about sleeping elevated. Sleeping with an
Speaker 1: elevated head, such as using an extra pillow or a wedge,
Speaker 1: can be beneficial for your face, particularly and reducing puffiness
Speaker 1: and improving skin health. Elevating your head helps reduce fluid
Speaker 1: build up, which can lead to morning puffiness, especially around
Speaker 1: the eyes. Boom, sick, take it, and subliminals. You're generally
Speaker 1: more susceptible to subliminal messages when your brain isn't actively
Speaker 1: engaged in demanding tasks, allowing it to filter and process
Speaker 1: subliminal stimuli more easily.
Speaker 2: Wait, so you shouldn't be doing things when you listen
Speaker 2: to your subliminals. You should like be lying down. Yeah,
Speaker 2: well you don't, do you do that?
Speaker 3: Kat?
Speaker 1: What I just told you when I listened to my subliminals?
Speaker 1: When do I listen to my subliminals?
Speaker 2: I thought you did it while you were like doing
Speaker 2: dishes or something. No, were you lying down?
Speaker 1: I just said I listened to it before I go
Speaker 1: to bed and when I wake up, because my brain.
Speaker 2: Is still in Like, I'm sorry, Delta, It's not that
Speaker 2: I wasn't listening, It's just that I wasn't paying attention.
Speaker 1: I have compassion for your kind of brain because I
Speaker 1: too have the brain that you have, which I could
Speaker 1: easily do that same exact thing to you, which is
Speaker 1: I think one of the beautiful things about our friendship
Speaker 1: is because we have similar brains. So I'm not even offended.
Speaker 2: It's also you've given me a lot of grace. I've
Speaker 2: forgotten what day your birthday is for the past five years. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's in my calendar. It's just in my calendar. It's
Speaker 2: the wrong day. And you think, after the first year
Speaker 2: that I said happy birthday and the wrong day, I
Speaker 2: would have changed it. But guess what still been there
Speaker 2: on the wrong day.
Speaker 4: Yours is December fourth. It's fine.
Speaker 3: Yours is the nineteenth eighteen. My calendar on the seventeenth,
Speaker 3: so I knew it wasn't the seventeenth. It's okay.
Speaker 1: My best friend from high school. From high school, so
Speaker 1: I've been friends with her since we were thirteen, and I
Speaker 1: still get the days flipped, and it's crazy.
Speaker 3: Why can you remember mine? Then I don't know. It's
Speaker 3: jay Zy's birthday.
Speaker 1: Too, probably, and Cryocats is December tenth. I don't know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: thirteenth of December.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, I don't like her. Shannon's birthday is right
Speaker 2: after my birthday. No, after your birthday, it's after yours, right,
Speaker 2: it's four.
Speaker 3: I knew that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hers seventeenth.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: So yeah, now we've got everybody in the room. Birthdays
Speaker 1: are covered, listeners are informed, they know. But I will
Speaker 1: say this because I have had friends where I have
Speaker 1: missed their birthday and I don't even think I understood
Speaker 1: how my brain worked around birthdays. And I would carry
Speaker 1: a lot of shame and guilt, and I felt terrible,
Speaker 1: but I was like, how did I just go this
Speaker 1: whole day? Now I have had to try to implement
Speaker 1: things like calendar. Shannon helps me, like all the things
Speaker 1: like and I still will mess up and get things wrong,
Speaker 1: but as an adult, I try now now that I'm
Speaker 1: an aware adult, I've been an adult for a while,
Speaker 1: but with my ADHD, part of my awareness is like
Speaker 1: making sure that we've got our tools in place. That said,
Speaker 1: I still will mess up. But before I had a calendar,
Speaker 1: which was not that long ago, I do not like calendars.
Speaker 1: I hated calendar sometimes. Let's say this was probably twenty eighteen,
Speaker 1: I forgot a friend's birthday and I felt terrible and
Speaker 1: I also did not understand my brain, nor did she,
Speaker 1: and it just did not go well. And it's something
Speaker 1: that came up even later, remember later in the day, Yeah,
Speaker 1: in the evening, and and then I immediately sent a gift.
Speaker 2: And you had already talked to her that day, Bil, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's some form of communication.
Speaker 1: And it just was I when I was in bed
Speaker 1: and I sat up and realized it, like I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm a horrible human.
Speaker 4: I don't think we can use our.
Speaker 3: Our ADHD people.
Speaker 1: We can't just use it as an excuse. But also
Speaker 1: I think that, like, if you have a friend that
Speaker 1: has ADHD and that were to happen, like, don't take
Speaker 1: it personally, because yeah, it's not.
Speaker 3: An excuse, but it's not a reason.
Speaker 2: To question your friendship, right, And that's not a reflection
Speaker 2: on how much I care about you exactly. Interest is
Speaker 2: part of my brain and I need to work on
Speaker 2: that better. I did that to my mom in college.
Speaker 2: I I'll never forget this. I called her because I
Speaker 2: really needed a pair of new shoes because I had
Speaker 2: formal that night on her I called her and I said, no,
Speaker 2: I can't find any shoes to wear with my dress.
Speaker 2: So I don't have any money, and almost probably I'm sure.
Speaker 2: She said, like, you can go get some I'll put
Speaker 2: some money on your account. She was so nice. And
Speaker 2: then maybe four hours later, I was like, oh, it's
Speaker 2: my mom's birthday, April twenty third. I knew when her
Speaker 2: birthday was, I just didn't know it's April twenty third,
Speaker 2: And so I caught her and I said, Mom, I'm
Speaker 2: so sorry, happy birthday, and she said, it's okay, you
Speaker 2: were just worried about your shoes.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was. I also forgot my dad's birthday I
Speaker 3: think last year.
Speaker 4: But it's but I guess it's not a self absorbed thing.
Speaker 2: Well, it's like I'll tell her happy birthday later, and
Speaker 2: then you cause you like, see it too early in
Speaker 2: the morning, and then you forget and you put it later,
Speaker 2: and then it's too late, and then like.
Speaker 4: Well, now you can schedule texts.
Speaker 3: What did I know this? Did you already tell me this?
Speaker 4: I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I knew you could schedule emails, you can schedule text now.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm got to just schedule text for all the
Speaker 2: birthdays the next year.
Speaker 4: Sick, sick, fire, the neess or something like that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So, well, you know, we did went down a few
Speaker 1: rabbit holes there air baths.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: So I was reading an article about I think I
Speaker 2: was talking about embracing your uniqueness or your quirks. I
Speaker 2: didn't get through much of the article because I was
Speaker 2: stopped in my tracks when they brought up Benjamin Franklin
Speaker 2: and his quirks. Do you know much about him?
Speaker 4: I mean, he found electricity and bifocals.
Speaker 3: Pretty sure.
Speaker 2: Apparently he was a really quirky, interesting guy, and which
Speaker 2: makes sense because if he did all these like inventions,
Speaker 2: he had to be a little He was a progressive thinker.
Speaker 3: I guess like us.
Speaker 1: Just like us, we invent words, saying sphrases, they go viral.
Speaker 2: And he did something called air bathing, and I was like,
Speaker 2: what is air bathing? So I looked they just like
Speaker 2: mentioned his air bass as if like everybody knew that
Speaker 2: Benjamin Franklin took air baths and what they were, so
Speaker 2: obviously you think of them and you're like, he's probably
Speaker 2: basking in the air. Well, know what he would do,
Speaker 2: is he for like an hour and a half or
Speaker 2: so in the morning. The first thing he would do,
Speaker 2: or one of the first things he would do, is
Speaker 2: go into a room, open the windows, get completely nude
Speaker 2: and bathe the air. And he thought it was literally cleansing.
Speaker 2: He said it was more cleansing than actual baths.
Speaker 1: Okay, Benjamin, his air bathing is not.
Speaker 2: He said, cleaner than a bath, he said, I mean
Speaker 2: maybe back then he would advocate for air baths, a
Speaker 2: practice where he would sit naked in a room with
Speaker 2: open windows, to expose his.
Speaker 3: Body to fresh air.
Speaker 2: He believed this practice, which he referred to as bracing
Speaker 2: or a tonic bath, was beneficial for his health and
Speaker 2: helped him maintain good health. He liked to practice with
Speaker 2: cool morning air to energize himself and love the warm
Speaker 2: afternoon sun to relax.
Speaker 1: Okay, so I get that. I mean, so he's a
Speaker 1: little bit of ahead of his time. Yeah, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: because we do stuff like well, because it's kind of
Speaker 1: like a cold plunge, right, there are probably benefits to it.
Speaker 1: But the thing that got me is he said it
Speaker 1: says Franklin preferred air baths to actual water baths, believing
Speaker 1: they were a more effective and agreeable way to cleanse
Speaker 1: the body. That's where I like, Yeah, soap like maybe
Speaker 1: cleansing mentally because you can get still and clear and calm.
Speaker 2: But like, but what was the like hygiene back then?
Speaker 2: You know, I don't think they had the best hygiene, right,
Speaker 2: So maybe they just weren't up on the times of
Speaker 2: soap and water was probably more of a harded resource.
Speaker 1: To get I think about that when I like, when
Speaker 1: I was watching Gilded Age, you know, did you watch that?
Speaker 3: No, you've talked about it before. So good. You watched
Speaker 3: when is the Gilded.
Speaker 4: Age late eighteen hundreds?
Speaker 3: When was Benjamin Franklin alive?
Speaker 4: Shannon, That's one of those things.
Speaker 1: I know that Thomas Edison was in the Gilded Age,
Speaker 1: Like he invented the light bulb around then, So I
Speaker 1: don't know if the light bulb and electricity.
Speaker 4: Came at the same ish.
Speaker 2: Because Benjamin was the kite with the lightning, yes, right,
Speaker 2: and the bifocal and bifocals.
Speaker 3: So we'll figure out seventeen hundreds.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, so he's Wow. He lived till eighty four,
Speaker 1: so maybe he's onto something. Oh my god, that's old
Speaker 1: for back then.
Speaker 3: Maybe he was lucky sort no, I mean.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's his air baths, like he probably did his
Speaker 1: life better care.
Speaker 2: He probably was doing things that were really good for
Speaker 2: your men going outside's understand. Oh, while I was gonna say,
Speaker 2: he probably was doing things that were really good for
Speaker 2: his mental health that impact his overall health. And he
Speaker 2: didn't even know it, like if he went outside and
Speaker 2: I mean now it's like, duh, the sun helps our health.
Speaker 3: But he was and that's hard for us to do now.
Speaker 3: He was getting feuish here. Yeah, he naked he was
Speaker 3: getting air baths. The wind was just cleansing his whole buddy.
Speaker 1: Well in the so the Gilded Age was about one
Speaker 1: hundred years after he died. And they had these beautiful dresses,
Speaker 1: you know, and they're like corsets and they're all what's
Speaker 1: under the dress the like really the the white stuff
Speaker 1: that like makes a tool, Oh, thank you, the tool, just.
Speaker 3: Say it like you would say a hammer tool tool. Yeah, okay, So.
Speaker 4: That stuff under their dress that's white and fluffy.
Speaker 1: All that I'm trying to say is when it comes
Speaker 1: to hygiene, and they would it would be so hot
Speaker 1: out and they have on these dresses. Like what did
Speaker 1: they do to smell? Like did they have do you wonder?
Speaker 1: I mean, I use all natural deodas, so maybe that's
Speaker 1: what they were doing. Did they do coconut oil and
Speaker 1: you know vanilla?
Speaker 3: What's that?
Speaker 4: Some essential oil with a little baking wait.
Speaker 3: A second, or soda? I never thought about that, well
Speaker 3: we were, Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 1: I did. When I watch the show, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: they've got to be so hot, and I wonder if
Speaker 1: they smell, and then they'll start like making out and
Speaker 1: then do it and I'm like, oh, what am I doing.
Speaker 2: Also, if it was normal, then they probably would be like, oh,
Speaker 2: it's the smell, that's what people smell like.
Speaker 1: Oh, they would use okay, Shannon to the rescue. In
Speaker 1: the seventeenth centuries, people use variety of fragrant materials to
Speaker 1: smell good, floral sense like roses, orange blossoms, jasmine, as
Speaker 1: well as musky sense. Potpourrie was also popular for homes
Speaker 1: and who they had gumback then perfumed gloves. Interesting do
Speaker 1: you put gloves on and then to stick your gloves
Speaker 1: under your arms?
Speaker 2: But also I see here Shannon's helping us out in
Speaker 2: multiple different ways.
Speaker 3: Bats where we're for the rich.
Speaker 2: Bathing was for the availabity of water depending on your
Speaker 2: social standing. So I don't know what Benjamin's social standing was.
Speaker 2: I would assume it would have been high. He could
Speaker 2: have been bathing. Maybe he was saving the baths for
Speaker 2: the other people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh my gosh, they used to bathe me. We're
Speaker 1: bathing too much. That's what my boyfriend says, I shower
Speaker 1: too much.
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 2: I think he said it's bad for my skin, well,
Speaker 2: my microbiome.
Speaker 3: I like to feel clean.
Speaker 1: Yeah, same, I'll incorporate an air bath into my routine.
Speaker 2: But also like depending on where can you we could
Speaker 2: just open all the windows in my home and get naked.
Speaker 3: People can see through my windows.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I picture Benjamin. He's probably on like a little like
Speaker 1: house on a hill. No one's bothering him, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: neighbors right next door.
Speaker 3: That's Benjamin. He's air bathing, don't mind him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, air bats we did it. The more you
Speaker 1: got it, now we cross that off. Every y'all try
Speaker 1: it out. Let us know, but don't get busted for
Speaker 1: like decent. What'ssure?
Speaker 3: You could just sit in a bathing suit.
Speaker 1: No, it has to be air baby to get it
Speaker 1: all through the orifices. Some of this is making me
Speaker 1: think of a story about cryocat which we need to
Speaker 1: get her a mic so that she could speak on it,
Speaker 1: so she doesn't have it. I'm just gonna throw this
Speaker 1: out there for listeners in case any of them have
Speaker 1: had this experience.
Speaker 4: And they know, like maybe what could be going on.
Speaker 1: But she's waking up smelling weird, like this never happened
Speaker 1: o before. Like she could take a shower and go
Speaker 1: to bed and in the morning she'll wake up and
Speaker 1: she smells like Indian food, not even bo Indian food.
Speaker 3: Is there Indian food in her bath?
Speaker 1: That's what I said, Or like maybe in her water
Speaker 1: shower like her neighbors.
Speaker 4: Are they cooking?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Does that have to do with some of the supplements
Speaker 3: you're taking?
Speaker 1: She thinks maybe, But I don't know if anybody else
Speaker 1: has had this experience, just let us know. She thinks
Speaker 1: it could potentially be too much testosterone or stress, like
Speaker 1: any just has anybody else had an issue where they
Speaker 1: wake up suddenly out of nowhere, smelling like Indian food
Speaker 1: and they haven't eaten in any food, same diet all
Speaker 1: the time she stacked her meals. But okay, maybe it
Speaker 1: could be certain pepsil. Maybe it's on We don't know.
Speaker 2: I wish she was still having this problem because then
Speaker 2: we could have her air bathe and see if it helped.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because she would do.
Speaker 1: That too much, soap, No problem there, all right?
Speaker 3: Kat?
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Speaker 2: On Instagram at you need it not you need therapy?
Speaker 2: I keep doing that, that's okay? On Instagram at Feeling
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Speaker 3: Bye Bye,