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Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just fonts Amy

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Speaker 3: We just follow the spirit where it's tell us O

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Speaker 2: Just stop you feel things.

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Speaker 4: This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.

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Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Cat,

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Speaker 1: and we have a little something special for everybody today.

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Speaker 1: We've never done this before, never, never, first time. No,

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Speaker 1: we have a hybrid situation fusion. Ah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't really know what.

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Speaker 1: We're calling it, but it's when it's like if Feeling

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Speaker 3: That's what we're doing.

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Speaker 1: And we don't know how to combine the songs, so

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Speaker 1: we're just going to sing them both. So get ready

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Speaker 1: for our feeling of a day mixed with our Email

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Speaker 1: of the day. Okay, the reason why our feeling of

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Speaker 1: she is responding to a couch talk. So that with

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Speaker 1: sin in we already aired it from McKenzie. She's pregnant

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Speaker 1: and she's just feeling a little like um, not as

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Speaker 1: before too. It's not just with Autumn and McKenzie, but

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Speaker 1: other people have emailed in to give advice or feedback

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Speaker 1: or thoughts to other couch Talks things which couch Talks

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Speaker 4: This is feeling things we do. This is our big show.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Big Show on Tuesdays. And I love

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Speaker 1: the emails that we get that are supporting our other listeners,

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Speaker 1: and that for Kat and myself just helps it feel

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Speaker 1: more like a community, which is what we're trying to build.

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Speaker 1: We want y'all to all feel connected, even though you're

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Speaker 1: listening in different places all over the world.

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Speaker 3: All over the world.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say country, but then I feel like

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Speaker 1: we do have one listener in Nigeria. Really, I think

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Speaker 2: Wait, could that just be like a listener from Oklahoma

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Speaker 1: Yes likely Yes, maybe they were just there on a

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Speaker 1: This a three or five? All right? So, uh, the

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Speaker 1: Amy and kat I listened to the couch talks about

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Speaker 1: McKenzie navigating feelings around a new pregnancy. I related to

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Speaker 1: was the following quote, what's the best that could happen?

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Speaker 1: My brain often jumps straight to the worst case scenarios

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Speaker 1: That quote, which I guess is also a question, is

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Speaker 1: a nice reminder that things can also go right. Love y'all,

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Speaker 1: So what's the best that could happen? I love it,

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Speaker 1: Hopefully Mackenzie hears that and she feels supported. I feel supported.

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Speaker 3: Is anything and there's a finesse to it?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 4: It's a finesse.

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Speaker 3: A finesse.

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Speaker 1: Finesse means no, finesse like yeah, like a smoothness to it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, okay, but there's a finesse.

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Speaker 1: It start word of the day.

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Speaker 4: Also, I want to know what commercial it's been in.

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Speaker 2: But this, but this is reminding me how I think

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So this is where the finesse comes in.

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Speaker 1: Guess what finesse Finish and strengthen Extra Hold Hairspray nine

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Speaker 3: Like those dates had a finesse to them in my salade.

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Speaker 3: I have a challenge for you, Okay, on the Bobby

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Speaker 2: You should have to work in finesse once, no problem,

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Speaker 3: How could we forget?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and that was cool.

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Speaker 1: It's just a little fruity Fridian slip for Fredian Freudian.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I did that this morning.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just saft launched my marriage.

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Speaker 2: So I've been going to the gym with this guy

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Speaker 3: You mean by no? We're not engaged?

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Speaker 3: Yes you do. I'm like, oh my gosh, that never

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Speaker 2: I think he just like he no, he said, he

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Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. I was dating for like three months.

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Speaker 1: Maybe Okay, well I look it's fine. He just answered

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Speaker 1: Gosh, no, finesse about him at all. The definition of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, straight, like it's you know, like straight fire, that's straight.

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Speaker 2: So I wonder if we start saying finess and you

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Speaker 4: No, no, have you?

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Speaker 3: But I don't think I did, Like I think I

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Speaker 2: Now everybody's saying it.

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Speaker 4: Well, you got me saying sick.

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Speaker 1: Okay, circle, because I definitely want to know.

444
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Speaker 2: Okay, but okay, Also I want people to hear me

445
00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:03,680
Speaker 2: saying I don't think I really did start it.

446
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:05,919
Speaker 1: Just but you haven't even said what it is, so

447
00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:07,880
Speaker 1: you don't have to clarify. It's not like you're taking

448
00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 1: credit for anything. You can said what it is. You're like,

449
00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:13,840
Speaker 1: for the record. I just don't want to, you know,

450
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:15,919
Speaker 1: act like I'm taking credit for this, saying that I

451
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,679
Speaker 1: haven't even said yet because I don't remember what it is.

452
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Speaker 3: I get you heart be misunderstood.

453
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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, don't worry.

454
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Speaker 1: Was it?

455
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Speaker 4: What are some sayings like I.

456
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 3: Don't even know things that I say.

457
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Speaker 2: It's a problem, like no, cap okay, I didn't start that,

458
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 2: nor do I say it. Dope, don't say that fire fireflame?

459
00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:43,920
Speaker 2: I say fireflame?

460
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Speaker 4: What is that?

461
00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:45,159
Speaker 6: Like?

462
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,440
Speaker 3: If something's sick? Sometimes I'll say that's fireflame.

463
00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:48,600
Speaker 1: Who says that?

464
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:52,600
Speaker 2: Well, two of my friends started saying it too, and

465
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Speaker 2: then we made it our group chat name.

466
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Speaker 3: But because is that the emojia you know when people

467
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Speaker 3: send a fireflame?

468
00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, well I just call it fire button.

469
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Speaker 2: Well, so then I say no fireflame because that's the emoji,

470
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 2: is the fireflame.

471
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 3: So there's fire.

472
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 2: What if we say, like, please start saying fire flames

473
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Speaker 2: like a match? Cool because that's like strike a match fire. Yeah,

474
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 2: that's straight strike a match because it's about to be

475
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Speaker 2: straight fire.

476
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: That's a lighter lit. A litle lit lit was one.

477
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 3: I know, but I didn't start that.

478
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:25,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I don't have anything. I'm like trying to

479
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,640
Speaker 1: think of more cool saying that I've gotten nothing. Okay,

480
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Speaker 1: I have like you know, back in the day, we

481
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Speaker 1: would say like psych like when I was in junior high.

482
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Speaker 2: That cycles through because that started we started saying that

483
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Speaker 2: when I was in high school.

484
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Speaker 1: And I, eh, anyways, eh, I cauld do that. Yes

485
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:51,360
Speaker 1: you do that? People who know no somebody. Girls who

486
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Speaker 1: get it get it, and girls who don't don't.

487
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Speaker 4: I don't get that club anyway.

488
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Speaker 3: That is mean girl.

489
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Speaker 4: Ash probably was.

490
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Speaker 3: It was like and you did it as you like

491
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Speaker 3: curled your hair.

492
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Speaker 1: You go anyways, that feels mean I like it.

493
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Speaker 4: I don't know that. I don't.

494
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Speaker 1: I think I had it done to me a lot.

495
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Speaker 1: It was when I went to It was in sixth grade.

496
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Speaker 1: I went to Fullmore.

497
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Speaker 2: Did you say that when like somebody you were tired

498
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Speaker 2: of what they were saying and you're like, anyways.

499
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Speaker 1: No, I just said I didn't really say it, Okay, Max,

500
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Speaker 1: it was just popular at my school. Okay, we had

501
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 1: no finex anyways. Okay, I have a little some something,

502
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:32,280
Speaker 1: and then I know you have a little some something

503
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Speaker 1: like I'm going to share things we can say to

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Speaker 1: ourselves to feel calm.

505
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Speaker 4: Before we go to sleep.

506
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Speaker 1: Okay, And I'm very very very very very very excited

507
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 1: about you telling your thing because we have had air

508
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:52,880
Speaker 1: bats on our schedule on our Google doc for weeks now.

509
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 1: If we haven't gotten to it for whatever reason, I

510
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:56,679
Speaker 1: don't know why, we just haven't gotten to it. And

511
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Speaker 1: I want to know all that airbats because I love baths.

512
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:04,359
Speaker 1: I love a forest bath, you know. I love cold

513
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: plunge baths. I like warm plunge baths, like hot baths,

514
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 1: cold bats.

515
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Speaker 2: So stay tuned, don't stop listening now, because we're going

516
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 2: to say that a sound bats.

517
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 4: I love a sound bath.

518
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 3: What have you heard of air baths? I haven't.

519
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: That's why I'm eager for you to tell me about it.

520
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna knock mine out real quick because we

521
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,560
Speaker 1: can get tears. So these are things that we should

522
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: be saying to ourselves before we sleep. I saw this

523
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 1: list thought it could be helpful if you're having trouble

524
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Speaker 1: falling asleep. Okay, so you lay down, picture it.

525
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 3: First step is still lay down, first.

526
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,119
Speaker 1: Up, lay down? Although, can I share something about how

527
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 1: I've been sleeping sitting up?

528
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Speaker 3: Elevated? How elevated?

529
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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I have a thing that I got through

530
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 1: work from mattress firm at like like a hospital bed.

531
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Speaker 4: So is it very thankful to sides?

532
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 3: So your partner could be a different.

533
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Speaker 4: No, it's the whole. We're all together.

534
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Speaker 1: I think way back when've been in a whole, we

535
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: had the whole. We had the two different sides. He

536
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: maybe got that in the divorces. So anyways, I just

537
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,679
Speaker 1: had the regular. However, like if you don't have that,

538
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 1: or you go to a hotel, but you can stack

539
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: your pillows and kind of just sleep a little bit elevated,

540
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 1: and I feel like my face. I've been waking up

541
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 1: less puffy when I'm sleeping elevated, okay, and something, it's

542
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,920
Speaker 1: like better about circulation. And even if you can raise

543
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:26,680
Speaker 1: your feet up a little bit, like it's like good

544
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,399
Speaker 1: for the the blood from your feet to go towards

545
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: your abs and the blood from your head to go

546
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: down towards your ebs. You know. So you're almost like

547
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: at this. It's like zero gravity whatever they call zero

548
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: google it.

549
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 3: I thought zero gravity was like when you're in space.

550
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 1: No, but it's what they call It's like an elevated

551
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,199
Speaker 1: state of like your hips are at one hundred and

552
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Speaker 1: twenty degree angle or something.

553
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 3: This is getting too complicated.

554
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 4: Well sorry, I'm easy too. This is I've gone on

555
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 4: a drink.

556
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 2: You have to be one hundred and twenty degrees elevated

557
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 2: in zero gravity, which you go to space to sleep.

558
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 1: Now okay, Well I was originally telling you that, and

559
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,919
Speaker 1: then my ADHD brain took us on a journey to

560
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: zero gravity sleeping, which is a thing.

561
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 4: Okay, So don't hate I'm.

562
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:15,119
Speaker 3: Not hating you. I just feel I feel.

563
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,880
Speaker 1: Like you've been taken down a rabbit hole.

564
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: I feel overwhelmed. Now I want to feel underwhelmed with

565
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 2: my sleep. I want to feel whelmed.

566
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,119
Speaker 4: Okay, well that was just a side note.

567
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 1: Okay, like whatever, sleep elevated, don't sleep elevated, no pressure.

568
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 3: Sleep under your bed.

569
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, back to the original feeling of calm. This

570
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:36,199
Speaker 1: is what you're gonna say to yourself.

571
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 3: Okay? Is this one long mantra or different things?

572
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: Pick which ones you need, okay, or write them all down.

573
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 3: Okay.

574
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 1: I released the day with gratitude. I don't need all

575
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 1: the answers tonight. I am proud of how far I've come.

576
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: I did my best today and that's enough. I forgive

577
00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 1: myself and others asterisk, because like you may be heaven

578
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: forgiven the others. I am safe.

579
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 3: You can choose your own adventure.

580
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 4: There, I added the asterisk.

581
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 2: You were like, I forget myself, but not them. Yeah

582
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 2: yet yet.

583
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: I am safe to let go. I will wake up

584
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 1: with greater clarity. I can start again tomorrow. I am

585
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: ready to drift into peace now. I don't want to

586
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: throw you. I know I just went over that list.

587
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: I'm in a detour real quick because I just thought

588
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 1: of something else that I used to do that I

589
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 1: stopped doing, and I don't know.

590
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Speaker 3: Why I stopped about sleeping.

591
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,120
Speaker 4: I used to listen to like.

592
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Speaker 1: Sleep talk down audio on YouTube from Jason Stevenson. Do

593
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: you remember telling you about him? He has an accent.

594
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 1: I don't know where he's from. Maybe Australia.

595
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 3: Is just the guy that says the money one.

596
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's something that's vibrations, that's subliminal that I

597
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: ast to. I can't really hear the person saying it,

598
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 1: but I'm listening to like bees buzzing, and then underneath

599
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 1: they're going, you are good with money. Circulating money brings

600
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:11,479
Speaker 1: you towards You're responsible for large sum of money, and

601
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 1: you know what to do with it.

602
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 4: You handle money with ease. Yeah, I handle money with

603
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 4: e That's that's a different.

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00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:20,879
Speaker 1: Those are my subliminals that help me with my finances

605
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 1: because money used to always stress me out.

606
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 4: So that's what I do to stay calm with.

607
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: You are a money magnet.

608
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 3: That's the one that I need.

609
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, give me five hundred dollars right now. Well, no

610
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 1: you're not.

611
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 4: I mean, you're not talking to anybody else.

612
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 3: I know, but the name it would help me ask

613
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: for it better.

614
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,200
Speaker 1: But it's like imagine you're just but I don't hear that.

615
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: I mean it's under there because towards the end you

616
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: can kind of hear it because the maybe the ocean's

617
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: crashing or the bees buzzing or the birds chirping, they

618
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: sort of die out and then you hear the But

619
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:53,879
Speaker 1: they're talking Relie really fast. It looks like a recorded

620
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,119
Speaker 1: it's on fast feed, and it's like you are a

621
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: money magnet. You're really good when you attract money, and

622
00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:59,679
Speaker 1: money comes too easily, and people just want to give

623
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 1: you money. It's like that, but you're hearing it under

624
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:09,200
Speaker 1: Who gave you this idea? I came across it on Instagram.

625
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: Cry Okat came across some posts that she saw, and

626
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 1: then my cousin has talked to me about subliminals before.

627
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: And then I went to this one link that the

628
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: person posted about and then I clicked on the link

629
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,239
Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, I'll get that app. So

630
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: I get the app and then I just listened to it.

631
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 3: Wait a second, did you have to pay for a subscription?

632
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: I pay for it, not a lot, though you're good

633
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: with money.

634
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 2: You will pay twenty nine ninety nine a month to

635
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 2: have this subliminal message.

636
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: That there's a that's the money one. I can listen

637
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: to nobody.

638
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 4: It is hilarious.

639
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 3: You're like, oh so funny.

640
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I'm a sucker who knows if

641
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: these even work. Maybe we should make our own, like

642
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: I do it. Yes, I do it morning and do it,

643
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: and I try to do it when I'm going to sleep,

644
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: when I'm waking up, because your your brain is in

645
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: like I don't know, the state delta maybe or something,

646
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: which is good at receiving subliminals because you have different

647
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: wavelengths where you're more susceptible to absorb. Okay, okay, so

648
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 1: because on a subconscious level, like I had convinced myself

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00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,719
Speaker 1: that I was horrible with money, and now on a

650
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 1: subconscious level, I'm I'm subliminally telling myself or whoever this

651
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 1: lady is that recorded these things really fast, she totally

652
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: you're really good at mone You're making mad.

653
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 3: What if in it? You don't know what they're like?

654
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 3: You will give me all of.

655
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 4: Your mind, but I'm not.

656
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: I haven't given her anything else, like I'm not giving

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00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: any other money. Like I also listened to the your

658
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 1: creative genius, there's a creative genius, aren't really creative though,

659
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: thank you. I almost didn't accept that compliment. But I

660
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: am working on that. So she'd be like, you know,

661
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: you you have ideas they are flowing out of you

662
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: or an idea.

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00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 4: I'm an idea magnet.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so subliminals back to that. Jason Stevenson is different.

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Speaker 1: He does sleep talk down videos works much as for

666
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Speaker 1: his free and he's got like millions of lessons, sort

667
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Speaker 1: of like us. We're millions of views on YouTube.

668
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Speaker 4: We're the same.

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Speaker 1: So Jason Stevenson and he just talks down. It's like

670
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: a sleep it's like a talking that's talking you down

671
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: to go to sleep. So I think they're called sleep

672
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 1: talk down.

673
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 3: Okay, then you stopped doing it because you didn't need it.

674
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: Don't know. I guess I was getting better, but I

675
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: was really into it for a while, probably because I

676
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: replaced it with my subliminals. You know.

677
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, but this is nice. You can just say these

678
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 2: instead of have your sleep talk down. Yeah, you could

679
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 2: just say this to yourself. I release the day with gratitude.

680
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 1: I don't need all the answers right now.

681
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: That's my favorite one.

682
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: I know that one's good for me because you know,

683
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: one thing I was wearing on therapy for sure late

684
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: last year. Was trying to figure everything out, and my

685
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 1: therapist kept saying, what if there's nothing to figure out?

686
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 4: And I'm like, are you kidding me?

687
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 3: Who do you think you are?

688
00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: There's so much to figure out. I have to figure

689
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: out what How are you doing with that?

690
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 3: Now?

691
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 5: Better?

692
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 3: Okay?

693
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: I got better with that after my ketamine sort of

694
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: release some of that, I mean obviously, and then talking

695
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:14,959
Speaker 1: through it with her afterwards, and then you know, that

696
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: helps the way to worry also helps that in my relationship,

697
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 1: like there's nothing to figure out. Wtw Yeah, I don't

698
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: need all the answers tonight tomorrow.

699
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 5: That's a different story.

700
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 1: Okay, real quick before we get into air bathing, Shannon

701
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: found us some things about sleeping elevated. Sleeping with an

702
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 1: elevated head, such as using an extra pillow or a wedge,

703
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: can be beneficial for your face, particularly and reducing puffiness

704
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,959
Speaker 1: and improving skin health. Elevating your head helps reduce fluid

705
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 1: build up, which can lead to morning puffiness, especially around

706
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: the eyes. Boom, sick, take it, and subliminals. You're generally

707
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: more susceptible to subliminal messages when your brain isn't actively

708
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 1: engaged in demanding tasks, allowing it to filter and process

709
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: subliminal stimuli more easily.

710
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 2: Wait, so you shouldn't be doing things when you listen

711
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 2: to your subliminals. You should like be lying down. Yeah,

712
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,239
Speaker 2: well you don't, do you do that?

713
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 3: Kat?

714
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: What I just told you when I listened to my subliminals?

715
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: When do I listen to my subliminals?

716
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: I thought you did it while you were like doing

717
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 2: dishes or something. No, were you lying down?

718
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: I just said I listened to it before I go

719
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: to bed and when I wake up, because my brain.

720
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 2: Is still in Like, I'm sorry, Delta, It's not that

721
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 2: I wasn't listening, It's just that I wasn't paying attention.

722
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: I have compassion for your kind of brain because I

723
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: too have the brain that you have, which I could

724
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 1: easily do that same exact thing to you, which is

725
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: I think one of the beautiful things about our friendship

726
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: is because we have similar brains. So I'm not even offended.

727
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 2: It's also you've given me a lot of grace. I've

728
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 2: forgotten what day your birthday is for the past five years. Yeah,

729
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: it's in my calendar. It's just in my calendar. It's

730
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 2: the wrong day. And you think, after the first year

731
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 2: that I said happy birthday and the wrong day, I

732
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 2: would have changed it. But guess what still been there

733
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 2: on the wrong day.

734
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 4: Yours is December fourth. It's fine.

735
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 3: Yours is the nineteenth eighteen. My calendar on the seventeenth,

736
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 3: so I knew it wasn't the seventeenth. It's okay.

737
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: My best friend from high school. From high school, so

738
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: I've been friends with her since we were thirteen, and I

739
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 1: still get the days flipped, and it's crazy.

740
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Speaker 3: Why can you remember mine? Then I don't know. It's

741
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 3: jay Zy's birthday.

742
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: Too, probably, and Cryocats is December tenth. I don't know, Yeah,

743
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 1: thirteenth of December.

744
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, I don't like her. Shannon's birthday is right

745
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 2: after my birthday. No, after your birthday, it's after yours, right,

746
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 2: it's four.

747
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 3: I knew that.

748
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, hers seventeenth.

749
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 3: Okay.

750
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 1: So yeah, now we've got everybody in the room. Birthdays

751
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: are covered, listeners are informed, they know. But I will

752
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 1: say this because I have had friends where I have

753
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: missed their birthday and I don't even think I understood

754
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: how my brain worked around birthdays. And I would carry

755
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 1: a lot of shame and guilt, and I felt terrible,

756
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 1: but I was like, how did I just go this

757
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 1: whole day? Now I have had to try to implement

758
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: things like calendar. Shannon helps me, like all the things

759
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 1: like and I still will mess up and get things wrong,

760
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 1: but as an adult, I try now now that I'm

761
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 1: an aware adult, I've been an adult for a while,

762
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 1: but with my ADHD, part of my awareness is like

763
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:41,919
Speaker 1: making sure that we've got our tools in place. That said,

764
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: I still will mess up. But before I had a calendar,

765
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: which was not that long ago, I do not like calendars.

766
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,320
Speaker 1: I hated calendar sometimes. Let's say this was probably twenty eighteen,

767
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 1: I forgot a friend's birthday and I felt terrible and

768
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: I also did not understand my brain, nor did she,

769
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: and it just did not go well. And it's something

770
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:04,959
Speaker 1: that came up even later, remember later in the day, Yeah,

771
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: in the evening, and and then I immediately sent a gift.

772
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 2: And you had already talked to her that day, Bil, Yeah, yeah,

773
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 2: it's some form of communication.

774
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 1: And it just was I when I was in bed

775
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: and I sat up and realized it, like I was like, oh,

776
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm a horrible human.

777
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 4: I don't think we can use our.

778
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 3: Our ADHD people.

779
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: We can't just use it as an excuse. But also

780
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 1: I think that, like, if you have a friend that

781
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: has ADHD and that were to happen, like, don't take

782
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: it personally, because yeah, it's not.

783
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 3: An excuse, but it's not a reason.

784
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,880
Speaker 2: To question your friendship, right, And that's not a reflection

785
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 2: on how much I care about you exactly. Interest is

786
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 2: part of my brain and I need to work on

787
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:47,720
Speaker 2: that better. I did that to my mom in college.

788
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 2: I I'll never forget this. I called her because I

789
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 2: really needed a pair of new shoes because I had

790
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 2: formal that night on her I called her and I said, no,

791
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,240
Speaker 2: I can't find any shoes to wear with my dress.

792
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,919
Speaker 2: So I don't have any money, and almost probably I'm sure.

793
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 2: She said, like, you can go get some I'll put

794
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 2: some money on your account. She was so nice. And

795
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 2: then maybe four hours later, I was like, oh, it's

796
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 2: my mom's birthday, April twenty third. I knew when her

797
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 2: birthday was, I just didn't know it's April twenty third,

798
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: And so I caught her and I said, Mom, I'm

799
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 2: so sorry, happy birthday, and she said, it's okay, you

800
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 2: were just worried about your shoes.

801
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, yeah.

802
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was. I also forgot my dad's birthday I

803
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 3: think last year.

804
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 4: But it's but I guess it's not a self absorbed thing.

805
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 2: Well, it's like I'll tell her happy birthday later, and

806
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 2: then you cause you like, see it too early in

807
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 2: the morning, and then you forget and you put it later,

808
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 2: and then it's too late, and then like.

809
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:41,879
Speaker 4: Well, now you can schedule texts.

810
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: What did I know this? Did you already tell me this?

811
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 4: I don't think so.

812
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: I knew you could schedule emails, you can schedule text now.

813
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm got to just schedule text for all the

814
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 2: birthdays the next year.

815
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 4: Sick, sick, fire, the neess or something like that. Yeah.

816
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:01,919
Speaker 1: So, well, you know, we did went down a few

817
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: rabbit holes there air baths.

818
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 3: Okay.

819
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 2: So I was reading an article about I think I

820
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 2: was talking about embracing your uniqueness or your quirks. I

821
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 2: didn't get through much of the article because I was

822
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 2: stopped in my tracks when they brought up Benjamin Franklin

823
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 2: and his quirks. Do you know much about him?

824
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 4: I mean, he found electricity and bifocals.

825
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 3: Pretty sure.

826
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:29,959
Speaker 2: Apparently he was a really quirky, interesting guy, and which

827
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 2: makes sense because if he did all these like inventions,

828
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 2: he had to be a little He was a progressive thinker.

829
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 3: I guess like us.

830
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:41,720
Speaker 1: Just like us, we invent words, saying sphrases, they go viral.

831
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 2: And he did something called air bathing, and I was like,

832
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 2: what is air bathing? So I looked they just like

833
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 2: mentioned his air bass as if like everybody knew that

834
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 2: Benjamin Franklin took air baths and what they were, so

835
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 2: obviously you think of them and you're like, he's probably

836
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 2: basking in the air. Well, know what he would do,

837
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 2: is he for like an hour and a half or

838
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 2: so in the morning. The first thing he would do,

839
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 2: or one of the first things he would do, is

840
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 2: go into a room, open the windows, get completely nude

841
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: and bathe the air. And he thought it was literally cleansing.

842
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 2: He said it was more cleansing than actual baths.

843
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 1: Okay, Benjamin, his air bathing is not.

844
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 2: He said, cleaner than a bath, he said, I mean

845
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 2: maybe back then he would advocate for air baths, a

846
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: practice where he would sit naked in a room with

847
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 2: open windows, to expose his.

848
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 3: Body to fresh air.

849
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 2: He believed this practice, which he referred to as bracing

850
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 2: or a tonic bath, was beneficial for his health and

851
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 2: helped him maintain good health. He liked to practice with

852
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 2: cool morning air to energize himself and love the warm

853
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 2: afternoon sun to relax.

854
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 1: Okay, so I get that. I mean, so he's a

855
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 1: little bit of ahead of his time. Yeah, oh yeah,

856
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:46,839
Speaker 1: because we do stuff like well, because it's kind of

857
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 1: like a cold plunge, right, there are probably benefits to it.

858
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: But the thing that got me is he said it

859
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 1: says Franklin preferred air baths to actual water baths, believing

860
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 1: they were a more effective and agreeable way to cleanse

861
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: the body. That's where I like, Yeah, soap like maybe

862
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 1: cleansing mentally because you can get still and clear and calm.

863
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 2: But like, but what was the like hygiene back then?

864
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:14,800
Speaker 2: You know, I don't think they had the best hygiene, right,

865
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 2: So maybe they just weren't up on the times of

866
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 2: soap and water was probably more of a harded resource.

867
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: To get I think about that when I like, when

868
00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: I was watching Gilded Age, you know, did you watch that?

869
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 3: No, you've talked about it before. So good. You watched

870
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 3: when is the Gilded.

871
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 4: Age late eighteen hundreds?

872
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 3: When was Benjamin Franklin alive?

873
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 4: Shannon, That's one of those things.

874
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: I know that Thomas Edison was in the Gilded Age,

875
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: Like he invented the light bulb around then, So I

876
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 1: don't know if the light bulb and electricity.

877
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:46,760
Speaker 4: Came at the same ish.

878
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 2: Because Benjamin was the kite with the lightning, yes, right,

879
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 2: and the bifocal and bifocals.

880
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 3: So we'll figure out seventeen hundreds.

881
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: Oh wow, so he's Wow. He lived till eighty four,

882
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 1: so maybe he's onto something. Oh my god, that's old

883
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: for back then.

884
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Speaker 3: Maybe he was lucky sort no, I mean.

885
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: Maybe he's his air baths, like he probably did his

886
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 1: life better care.

887
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 2: He probably was doing things that were really good for

888
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:20,359
Speaker 2: your men going outside's understand. Oh, while I was gonna say,

889
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 2: he probably was doing things that were really good for

890
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 2: his mental health that impact his overall health. And he

891
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 2: didn't even know it, like if he went outside and

892
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 2: I mean now it's like, duh, the sun helps our health.

893
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 3: But he was and that's hard for us to do now.

894
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 3: He was getting feuish here. Yeah, he naked he was

895
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 3: getting air baths. The wind was just cleansing his whole buddy.

896
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 1: Well in the so the Gilded Age was about one

897
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 1: hundred years after he died. And they had these beautiful dresses,

898
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: you know, and they're like corsets and they're all what's

899
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:56,720
Speaker 1: under the dress the like really the the white stuff

900
00:40:56,719 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: that like makes a tool, Oh, thank you, the tool, just.

901
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 3: Say it like you would say a hammer tool tool. Yeah, okay, So.

902
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 4: That stuff under their dress that's white and fluffy.

903
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: All that I'm trying to say is when it comes

904
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 1: to hygiene, and they would it would be so hot

905
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 1: out and they have on these dresses. Like what did

906
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 1: they do to smell? Like did they have do you wonder?

907
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I use all natural deodas, so maybe that's

908
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: what they were doing. Did they do coconut oil and

909
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: you know vanilla?

910
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 3: What's that?

911
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 4: Some essential oil with a little baking wait.

912
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 3: A second, or soda? I never thought about that, well

913
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 3: we were, Yeah.

914
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 4: I don't.

915
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: I did. When I watch the show, I'm like, well,

916
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: they've got to be so hot, and I wonder if

917
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 1: they smell, and then they'll start like making out and

918
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 1: then do it and I'm like, oh, what am I doing.

919
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 2: Also, if it was normal, then they probably would be like, oh,

920
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 2: it's the smell, that's what people smell like.

921
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 1: Oh, they would use okay, Shannon to the rescue. In

922
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 1: the seventeenth centuries, people use variety of fragrant materials to

923
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: smell good, floral sense like roses, orange blossoms, jasmine, as

924
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 1: well as musky sense. Potpourrie was also popular for homes

925
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 1: and who they had gumback then perfumed gloves. Interesting do

926
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 1: you put gloves on and then to stick your gloves

927
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 1: under your arms?

928
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 2: But also I see here Shannon's helping us out in

929
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:16,320
Speaker 2: multiple different ways.

930
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 3: Bats where we're for the rich.

931
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:22,839
Speaker 2: Bathing was for the availabity of water depending on your

932
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 2: social standing. So I don't know what Benjamin's social standing was.

933
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 2: I would assume it would have been high. He could

934
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 2: have been bathing. Maybe he was saving the baths for

935
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:31,240
Speaker 2: the other people.

936
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh my gosh, they used to bathe me. We're

937
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:40,320
Speaker 1: bathing too much. That's what my boyfriend says, I shower

938
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:40,839
Speaker 1: too much.

939
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:41,439
Speaker 3: I don't.

940
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:47,360
Speaker 2: I think he said it's bad for my skin, well,

941
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 2: my microbiome.

942
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 3: I like to feel clean.

943
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, same, I'll incorporate an air bath into my routine.

944
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 2: But also like depending on where can you we could

945
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:01,360
Speaker 2: just open all the windows in my home and get naked.

946
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 3: People can see through my windows.

947
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 4: I don't know.

948
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 1: I picture Benjamin. He's probably on like a little like

949
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: house on a hill. No one's bothering him, Like, yeah,

950
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: neighbors right next door.

951
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 3: That's Benjamin. He's air bathing, don't mind him.

952
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, air bats we did it. The more you

953
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: got it, now we cross that off. Every y'all try

954
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: it out. Let us know, but don't get busted for

955
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 1: like decent. What'ssure?

956
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 3: You could just sit in a bathing suit.

957
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 1: No, it has to be air baby to get it

958
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:37,359
Speaker 1: all through the orifices. Some of this is making me

959
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 1: think of a story about cryocat which we need to

960
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 1: get her a mic so that she could speak on it,

961
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 1: so she doesn't have it. I'm just gonna throw this

962
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,000
Speaker 1: out there for listeners in case any of them have

963
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 1: had this experience.

964
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 4: And they know, like maybe what could be going on.

965
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: But she's waking up smelling weird, like this never happened

966
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 1: o before. Like she could take a shower and go

967
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: to bed and in the morning she'll wake up and

968
00:43:56,280 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 1: she smells like Indian food, not even bo Indian food.

969
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 3: Is there Indian food in her bath?

970
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,399
Speaker 1: That's what I said, Or like maybe in her water

971
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 1: shower like her neighbors.

972
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 4: Are they cooking?

973
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: No?

974
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 3: Does that have to do with some of the supplements

975
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 3: you're taking?

976
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 1: She thinks maybe, But I don't know if anybody else

977
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 1: has had this experience, just let us know. She thinks

978
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: it could potentially be too much testosterone or stress, like

979
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: any just has anybody else had an issue where they

980
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 1: wake up suddenly out of nowhere, smelling like Indian food

981
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 1: and they haven't eaten in any food, same diet all

982
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 1: the time she stacked her meals. But okay, maybe it

983
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: could be certain pepsil. Maybe it's on We don't know.

984
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 2: I wish she was still having this problem because then

985
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:41,240
Speaker 2: we could have her air bathe and see if it helped.

986
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:43,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, because she would do.

987
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:46,359
Speaker 1: That too much, soap, No problem there, all right?

988
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 3: Kat?

989
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: Where can people find us?

990
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 2: On Instagram at you need it not you need therapy?

991
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 2: I keep doing that, that's okay? On Instagram at Feeling

992
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 2: Things podcast.

993
00:44:55,920 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: Yes, and on YouTube TikTok all the things, and we

994
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: hope that you will email us. Hey, there at Feelingthings

995
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: podcast dot com and you can call and leave us

996
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 1: a voicemail eight seven seven two oh seven two oh

997
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: seven seven. All this stuff is in the show notes

998
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 1: as well. And lastly, have the day you need to have.

999
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Speaker 3: Bye Bye,