WEBVTT - Closure Call: The Web Date That Got Away 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:03.240 What a wild ride we went on on yesterday's podcast. 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:06.120 Yeah, there's been a lot of female body parts this weekend, 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:06.800 some things. 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:07.920 Yeah. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:10.680 Okay, so we're gonna get to your brand new closure 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:14.240 call here in just a second, but let's review what 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.680 we learned after our sushi fun yesterday. 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:18.959 I don't know why. 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:22.000 I was surprised more people were on Sophia's side than 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:22.440 I thought. 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:24.599 Oh yeah, we got a lot of people seeing she 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:25.959 just needs someone more fun. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:29.320 Okay, okay, Sophia, you're definitely my type. That was awesome. 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:30.880 Oh, Sophia needs. 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:32.800 Someone more daring and on her level. I like how 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:35.959 she doesn't care what anyone thinks. You guys areld spicy. 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.159 She thought she got an uber ride home and it 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:39.040 was the cops. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:39.320 Right. 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:41.880 People love that too. Oh oh yeah, lots of laughs 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:42.159 on that. 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:45.120 Oh I don't know, Team Sophia, I guess do you, 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:49.440 Sophia prove us wrong? All right, well, let's figure out 0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:52.320 what's going on today. The brand new episode starts right now. 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:56.840 What if you met exactly the right person for you 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:01.880 at exactly the wrong time. That's what one of our 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:05.399 listeners can't stop thinking about because she went on a 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:09.560 first date two decades ago, and she still can't get 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.959 it out of her mind. It might be because her 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:16.959 date was interrupted halfway through in the weirdest way possible, 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:20.199 which is why all these years later she's reaching out 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:24.160 asking us if we can somehow track that guy down 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:28.120 for a special edition of Closure Call. We're doing it 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:34.440 coming up next. What's that famous phrase ancient scholars used 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:38.319 to say? First the worst, second the best. Third's the 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:39.520 one with the hairy chest. 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.240 Yes, I think that was Aristotle, wasn't it. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:45.520 Yeah? I think it was in the Dead Sea scrolls. Well, 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:50.880 sometimes first isn't the worst. In fact, sometimes first is 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:53.080 the best thing you almost ever had. 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:55.680 I think it usually is. It's the jealous people that 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:56.800 say first is the worst. 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:00.280 Well, first being almost the best is definitely the case 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:03.400 for our listener Liz, who apparently has spent years thinking 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:06.280 about one of her firsts, to the point that she 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.239 asked us for a closure call today. Oh I love 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:11.520 a good closure if you don't know. That's the segment 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:14.120 where we help listeners track down someone from their past 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:17.840 so they can ask those long, lingering questions that have 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:21.519 been hanging around in their minds to finally, hopefully get 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:25.239 some closure. So Liz is our caller today. Liz, Welcome 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:25.720 to the show. 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:27.360 I thank you. 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:31.160 I'm so curious what first we're talking about. There's a 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:32.760 lot of firsts in life. 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:34.880 Which first is occupying your mind? 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.639 Well, I've always wondered about what happened to my very 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:43.200 first website date website. Oh, his name is Thomas, and 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:44.080 I can't forget him. 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:46.880 First guy that you met online? 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:49.560 So it was like, yeah, match dot com or something. 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:51.120 Wasn't that always everybody's first? 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.720 Honestly, Yeah, it was one of those. I don't remember 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:56.280 which one. It was so long ago, but he was 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:59.720 so cute and I whoa, Oh I screwed it up? 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:00.640 Though? What happened? 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:01.760 Yeah, why didn't work out? 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:06.400 Well, what really happened is we went on a great 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:09.200 date with a dinner restaurant kind of thing, and we 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:11.799 were going out and had a great time. But then 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.360 my ex, who I had just sort of kind of 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:18.200 recently broken up with, kept calling me in the middle 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:22.280 of dinner, and I, you know, I listened. Hindsight, probably 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:25.239 should have just turned the stupid phone off, but it 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:26.959 kept ringing and I would like answer it, and I 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:28.120 would hang up on him. 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.680 And oh, you were you were answering the phone in 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.320 front of your new guy, Thomas Well. 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:35.720 I kept like hitting the ringer to turn it off, 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:36.760 but then he kept calling back. 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:41.160 I was like, maybe it's an emergency. Can I ask 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:42.320 how long ago is this? 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:45.000 Twenty years ago? 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:49.160 You know, if they're even single? 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:55.240 I know, but listen, I'm like recently divorced. So you 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.960 just you sort of reflect on your life. I was like, 0:03:58.000 --> 0:03:59.760 does it really hurt to try and reach out to 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.600 this cause I just god, he was so perfect. 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.960 I ask how why did this man make such an 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:06.800 impact on you? 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:09.800 You went on one date and you were totally distracted 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:11.240 by your ex the entire time. 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.160 I know, your ex sounds like the one that really 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.520 liked you. 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:18.719 Yeah, this guy, he was like a saint. So like 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:20.120 at the end of this because he, you know, my 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:21.719 ex kept calling me and I was just like so 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.840 upset I had to go home and he's like, no, no, 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.560 you can't drive home in the state. Let me drive 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:27.080 you home. 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:28.000 Oh my god. 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:30.839 You were visibly upset about your ex at dinner, so 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:33.160 much so that you weren't able to drive, and this. 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:35.080 Man took care of you. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.320 No, listen, it gets better. So, like I got to 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:41.200 my apartment and lo and behold, my stupid ex was there. O. 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:42.799 God, he's the worst. 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.680 This guy's talking. Well, hold on, I must get the 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.080 guy a chance. Maybe he had something really sweet to say. 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:50.479 Maybe there was flowers. 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:53.560 I'm sure he did. Toxic people are great at love bombing, and. 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:54.839 Some people love those people. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:56.960 No a good idea. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.240 Well, what happened? So he's waiting your ex boyfriend is 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:02.920 waiting for you in the parking lot when you arrived 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:06.520 there with you and Thomas, Like, how does that auction go? 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.560 I mean, they weren't like fighting or anything, but Thomas 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:11.120 did try to go out and like talk to him 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:14.080 a little bit, but I kind of freaked out. I 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:15.599 mean it was only twenty two at the time, so 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:17.920 I like, I basically just sort of kind of ran 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:20.080 inside and I had to get away from it all. 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:22.479 And then like twenty minutes later or something that came 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:24.599 down and they were both gone, and I have no 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:25.680 idea what happened. 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:28.160 If you had to, like guess what do you think 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:30.120 happened between the two of them and that time you 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:30.599 weren't there. 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:33.520 In my head, I was like, he totally told some 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:37.120 lie about whatever. And because he's still my ex Stell 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.080 wanted to get back together with me, and he like 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:42.479 wouldn't give up. But I asked him what happened and 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:44.720 he didn't answer. He's like, oh, I don't know. I 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:46.200 was too drunk. I don't remember. 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.400 I was like, what the hell your ex was too drunk? 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:49.239 Yeah? 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:54.320 Oh god, drunk? You didn't end up dating that guy again? 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:55.400 Oh no? 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.359 No, Well, by the time I went back on the 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:59.159 dating app, I mean, he'd already blocked me. 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:01.680 No, he's asking me about your ax. You didn't end 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:04.120 up dating your No? 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.760 No, wait a minute, though, did you just say Thomas 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:08.600 blocked you? Yeah? 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:12.520 Oh no. What do you think happened that night that 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:13.240 turned him off? 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:14.920 I don't know. 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:18.600 I guess that makes sense. She's trying so badly about 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.120 her exit. Did her answering the phone, they go back, 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:21.680 he's still there. 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:22.719 Yeah, it's blocked. 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.760 There may have been like one or two red flags 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:28.159 game that's blockable. Blame all that on her crazy exit 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:29.000 showed up drunk. 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.440 Yeah, but why twenty years later do you want closure 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:31.760 on this? 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:32.000 Like? 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:33.480 What is the closure you need? 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.320 I just felt such a connection with him, and I 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:41.440 really I'm sort of just hoping that maybe she's single, 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:43.880 because it was just in my eyes, there was nothing 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:45.919 wrong with him. He was like a great catch, and 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:51.680 it just was the circumstances that I feel so nervous 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:54.080 about doing this, and I really just hope you guys 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:54.599 can help me. 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:59.080 Yeah, wow, well we can. Such a wild request, Liz. 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.480 You've been working with a producer on the four questions 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:05.800 that you wanted to send his way. Yeah, okay, and 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.159 all that you're waiting for now is to hear what 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:13.360 answers he wrote back. And that's what we're gonna find out. 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.560 But wait, this is your first time on our show, right, Yeah, 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:18.320 you already said first is the worst. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.520 Yes, this is not gonna go well Jack, but. 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:25.280 For her, first is always the best. Yeah, okay, I'm 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:30.600 pretending like I guess. Yes, We're gonna ride this positive 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:33.440 energy and when we come back, we will read the 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:37.880 responses from Thomas, Oh, the guy you met online almost 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:41.000 twenty years ago, to hear what he has to say 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:45.320 in your closure call coming up right after this for 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:47.360 just joining us. We're in the middle of a closure 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:51.600 call seeking answers for our listener, Liz, who has spent 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:56.600 years wondering whatever happened to the very first guy she 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:58.640 ever met on the dating sites. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:02.120 Oh man, we definitely know why he stopped talking to her. 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:05.800 Yeah. Even Brooke was shocked by the story because it 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:09.200 takes a lot to rattle this grizzled old radio vet. 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.600 But I get it though I've had exes like she had. 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:17.120 Oh yeah, but you were right that this is a 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.360 bold move for her to want to reach back out 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:22.520 to somebody she met one time about twenty years ago. 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:24.400 It's so crazy to me, but. 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.120 This guy's name was Thomas. Their first date was going 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:30.560 pretty well until her ex boyfriend started blowing up her 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:33.319 phone in the middle of dinner. And not only that, 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.000 he was waiting for her in the parking lot of 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:40.120 her apartments while drunk, yes, not in a sober state. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.640 So Thomas went to go talk to him while Liz 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.640 went inside to escape the drama. But when she came out, 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.600 Thomas and her ex were both gone. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.120 Yeah, and she even went to search for Thomas on 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.880 the dating apps and she was blocked. 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.000 Blocked on the wraps, blocked on the phone. It's her 0:08:57.040 --> 0:09:00.600 biggest regret by far, and she's always wondered what if, 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.559 which is why she's come to us. And we've helped 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.520 track down Thomas and sent him four questions. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:07.480 It's so crazy. 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.760 Did you ever get a chance to apologize to him 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:10.880 after that had happened? 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:13.680 No, I never heard from him again. It was that 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:15.040 night and that was it. 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:16.320 The first time. 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.920 Oh my god, this is crazy. I can't wait to 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:20.079 hear what he says. 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:26.200 Let's find out, because right now he's responded to all 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.680 four of your questions. Liz, are you ready to hear these? 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.560 Yeah? 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:37.400 Well, let's get started. Your first question you sent said, Hi, Thomas, 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:41.480 this is Liz from two decades ago. I know it's 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:44.640 been a long time and you probably don't remember me, 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.920 but you were my first online date ever. Can you 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:49.679 believe it? 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:50.800 Oh? 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:56.400 Anyway, sounds like a diary entry, Like. 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:58.960 Oh my god, I'm like, so blessing. 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:03.120 You're genuine. It's a cute thing. We're gonna remind him 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:03.679 of who you are. 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:06.199 We're writing an old school letter here, so this makes sense. 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:10.080 But she goes on, anyway, I recently got divorced, and 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.240 I know this is a long shot, but are you single? 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:15.720 Oh that's our first question. We're just jumping right in. 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:17.280 Yes or no. 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:21.760 I'm guessing there's no way you were so cute and 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.920 nice back then. If so, who's the lucky lady? 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:25.600 Oh? 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:28.200 I like that approach. You're complimentary to him. 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.440 Oh he was so nice. Like it's only deserving that 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:34.040 you know you're famouth respect. I mean he was a 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:35.040 great guy that night. 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:38.439 You know that this opening question is kind of also 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:41.559 reflecting what your ex did, like not letting things go. 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.160 Well, Brooks, she's not drunk like her ex was. She's 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.520 only buzz ah. 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.120 Give her some credit here. 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:55.600 No, here's the thing. Thomas did right back and responded. 0:10:55.640 --> 0:11:00.200 He said, Hi, Liz, Wow, blast from the past. Oh, 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.880 I actually do remember you very well. 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:07.720 Huh it's well, it's good, No, it's not. 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:10.480 It could be he remembers her because it was an 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:13.600 infamous night of her crying over her ex and the guy. 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.000 Let's find out. He says, kind of hard to forget 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:20.040 a night like that. Yassie, I'm sorry to hear about 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:24.120 your divorce. Hope things get better, and yes I am 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:31.000 also single. Oh, divorce really does suck. Also, thanks for 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:35.160 the flattery, However, I'm not interested in us rekindling anything. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:44.600 Just shut you down. Y How shocked are you that 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:45.640 he's not interested? 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:49.040 List, I'm well listen. I mean, it's a long shot, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:52.080 but it was something I just I want a closure to. 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:56.600 You don't know. Unless you try, you can't win the lottery. 0:11:56.880 --> 0:11:59.680 I wonder what his reasoning would be. And that's just 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.680 the first question. Maybe he'll change his mind by question 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:06.680 three number two? Will you be my new wife? I 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.440 don't know, because for those who don't know or who 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:12.040 have never heard this segment before, we send all four 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:13.120 questions all at once. 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.360 Yeah, we shot our shot on the very first question. 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.400 So what are we doing for two? Three, four? 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.680 Let's find out what happens in question two because Liz's 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:25.240 second question says, our one and only date we had 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:28.160 was a long time ago, and I remember it ending 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:31.720 way sooner than what I hoped for. I think that's 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.120 my fault. Okay, what do you remember from that night? 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:39.080 I can't believe you put this it, Liz. It says 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:42.840 in parentheses, And it's okay to say I looked good too. 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:44.679 That's cute. 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:50.360 That's okay, Yeah, I like that, Liza. Okay. Yeah, So 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:54.160 Thomas writes back. He says, from what I remember, I 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:55.960 believe it started off pretty good. 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:56.560 Okay. 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:57.880 We were laughing a lot. 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.400 So that's the same as you. We're on the same page. Still, 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:00.959 that's good. 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.800 And we barely put in our dinner order when your 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:05.199 phone started blowing up. 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:07.440 Oh he does remember. How could he forget? 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:11.120 Apparently your ex was drunk and causing a scene outside 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:15.480 your apartment. He kept calling, Then your roommates started calling. Oh, 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:19.360 and then your landlord threatened to call the police. Oh 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:23.480 my god, what we heard dot dot not the most 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:24.840 ideal first date. 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.120 Yeah. Should have let that landlord call the police. 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:29.640 Then it would have been taken care of by the 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:31.160 time you got back to your place. 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.400 Oh my god, I don't even remember all this stuff. 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.760 O God, I guess I should have let the landlord 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:37.400 call the call. 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:40.480 Well, in your defense, it was a long time ago, 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:42.240 and there was a lot of stress that night. I'm 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:44.560 sure you tried to block some of that out right. Yeah, 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:46.640 and you were twenty two years old at the time. 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:48.800 I mean, we were all stupid at twenty two years old. 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:53.360 Yeah, some of us stupider than others, most of us 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.520 in this room. Question three. I can't figure out who 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:59.120 he's talking about. Yeah, I know, you keep thinking about it, 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:04.760 says I know my ex parentheses back then messed it up. 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:08.200 For me, and I regret it. Did he say something 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:09.520 to you to scare you away? 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:09.960 Oh? 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.679 Yes, it's one of my biggest regrets. Yes, that's what 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:14.400 we all want to know. Here's what we wanted, because 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:16.920 here's the one piece of information that we didn't have, 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.440 is what happened between the two of them while Liz 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:20.640 was inside the apartment. 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:23.400 It's like kind of like a murder mystery right now. 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.960 This is the one question that really has been bothering 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:28.640 me all these years that I really want to know 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:29.280 the answer to. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.440 Yeah, well he did answer it. So let's get you 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:36.240 some closure here, he says. After we took our food 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:39.040 to go, we got to your apartment and both you 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:41.160 and your ex were crying messes. 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:44.160 Oh oh no, she was crying. 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:46.080 Well, remember she was crying at the restaurant. That's why 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:47.680 he wouldn't let her drive home. O O. 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.120 Yes, this is a fun segment because she's remembering and 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.680 jose is remembering what happened ten minutes ago. I'm trying 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.360 to focus on one thing at a time. Okay, it's good, 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:01.440 we're still in it. He he continues. In fact, you 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:04.880 went inside and left me outside with him. 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.120 Ah, Okay, it was it that he was trying to 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.000 take one for the team you abandoned. 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:17.000 This is such a messy night, he continues. He says, 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:20.600 I think his name was Matt or Max. Can't remember, 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.840 but I do know he was really drunk and ugly crying. 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:29.080 Oh man, he started telling me all about how he 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:30.560 messed up the relationship. 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:31.160 Uh huh. 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.600 That's nice for him to take accountability. Yes, sounds like 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:36.760 a great guy. And I'm sure, he says. Dude was 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:40.800 way too drunk to drive. I ended up driving him 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:45.400 in his car back to his place. Took a cab 0:15:45.480 --> 0:15:48.520 back to my car and realized you took all the 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:53.520 food inside with you, so I just left. He couldn't 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:55.320 even eat you. 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.000 Putting it in my refrigerator. Oh my god. 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:01.480 Wow. 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:06.360 Okay, no, wonder not interested on that first question. 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:10.360 Oh girl, All right, well we have one more question 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:12.960 to go through. We'll just wrap this up. Well, we 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:16.560 should just get the final closure. Question four says this 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:18.440 may be a long shot, but what do you think 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.240 about getting a cup of coffee and catching up? Well, 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.920 she wrote that before she had Well she asked if 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:27.480 he was single before and yeah, yeah, okay, okay, so 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:29.880 she says, or we could go out and have another 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.880 crazy night together. No, I promise, I promised this time 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:35.200 my ex won't show up. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:38.400 Ha ha ha oh I bet he's laughing so hard. 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:43.200 So he writes back once again. No, thank you fool 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:47.280 me once. Shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Yeah. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:47.840 I know. 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:52.040 What do you feel? Is you feel like you got 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:52.920 some closure there? 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:56.080 Yeah, like amusement park. I just got off all the rides. 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:56.640 I'm done. 0:16:56.760 --> 0:17:00.680 Yeah yeah, But I am curious. Whatever did happen to 0:17:00.720 --> 0:17:03.280 your ex boyfriend after he got home that night? 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:06.760 Oh god? I think he came over the next morning, Betty, 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.600 Oh god, and we ended up eating all the food 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:10.840 that we had from dinner. 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:19.160 Lu gosh, that is not his food. Thomas's leftovers so perfect. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:24.639 That is the perfect. And to the story, Brook and 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:25.639 Jeffrey in the morning. 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:29.440 Brook, if we ever did this for you and went 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:33.040 back to find your first ever online. 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.440 Date, I've never been on an online date. 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:38.040 Oh that's right. Computers weren't invented yet when we were dating. 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:41.359 You were all on sundows at the time. My bad. 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.720 I'm sorry. You know what I do think we should 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:46.919 give her credit because she's putting herself out there, taking 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:50.439 a huge risk, trying something to find if true can 0:17:50.520 --> 0:17:51.360 still existence. 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:53.520 What I think we've put all the blame on our 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:56.760 producer set up those questions very wrongly. 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:00.520 Okay, yeah, he doesn't do that. No, that it might 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:01.679 get a weird response. 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.680 I mean we could have apologized, We could have ended 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:06.080 with them. 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:07.159 You want to hang out with me? 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:08.880 Not good radio. 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:10.560 Exactly. 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:14.040 And it was twenty years ago. She didn't remember. The 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:17.560 landlord threatened to call the cops. Things were hazy. I 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:20.480 am glad that she got closure, though, even if Thomas 0:18:20.560 --> 0:18:23.440 is still judging her for her twenty two year old mistakes. 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:25.359 You know, I don't think he's judging her. He just 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:27.120 doesn't want to be any part of it, exactly. 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:30.520 That just shows that he never matured. So screw that guy. 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:33.119 Either that or when someone shows you who they are, 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:33.760 believe them. 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:37.040