WEBVTT - Peter Weber is Ready to Take Flight at the NYC Marathon! 0:00:01.760 --> 0:00:04.600 Hey, they're folks. In this episode of Amy and TJ. 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:09.080 He can fly a commercial airliner, he can run a marathon, 0:00:09.360 --> 0:00:12.840 but for some reason, the brother King find love. Welcome 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:17.639 to this episode of Amy DJ. Yes, Robes, Now those things. 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:20.240 I listed a lot of people who are certainly fans 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:24.400 of the Bachelor. Bachelor Nation folks will immediately know who 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:26.840 we're talking about. But before we get into Piley, Pete, 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:29.639 what do you think about that idea? The idea of 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:33.479 flying a commercial airliner is wild to me and for 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:36.640 most people they think that running a marathon is impossible. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.720 Finding love? What has been the most difficult for you? 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:44.440 Wow, you really know how to tee it up. That 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:48.199 is a tough question. Are you a journalist? Yes, that 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.680 I think is the hardest of the three. I really 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.400 actually do think that really well. I do think my 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:55.520 parents will tell you they got lucky in love, and 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:58.200 I do think some people do, and kudos to them. 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:00.040 But I think for a lot of us that it 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.040 might be the hardest thing. I figured out my career 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:07.520 pretty quickly. I fell in love. I actually feel like 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:12.080 climbing mountains and running marathons is far easier than navigating 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:16.479 a lasting and true relationship really nice. I do think that. 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:18.440 So it's not just the finding of the love, it's 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:20.880 the maintaining of the relationship that's the difficult part. 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:23.160 I think we can all find love in the honeymoon 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:26.840 phase of things, things great. Aren't all of those habits 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:31.720 just sweet and cute and not annoying? And then time 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:36.440 starts to weigh on you and things get i don't know, 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:42.119 uninteresting or not exciting, and things actually become serious. And 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.440 that's the hardest part of it, right, I don't know. 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:46.759 But I've only been a relationship with you for two 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.760 years now. It sounds like you expect a very short 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:50.640 honeymoon period. 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:54.600 No, no, no no, but it is inevitable, just like death, 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:58.880 and just like taxes, that kind of intensity cannot last. 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:01.480 And I think we all get hooked on the excitement 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:04.520 and the feeling of it. But the actuality of a 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:08.520 relationship that last, a partnership that lasts, isn't that the 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:09.400 hardest thing to find? 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:12.560 And with that, Peter wanh wah wah, I mean, what 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:13.880 the hell? Yeah? 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.840 I think I think Peter feels validated, validate all right, 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.560 Peter Webber in the studio, my man, good to have you. 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:22.840 Of course, uh, pilot Pete as he's been known as 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.119 for so long, but of course a big, big part 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.639 of Bachelor Nation for so many years. And yes, an 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:30.880 actual pilot who is still flying planes. He might be 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:33.040 you might hear his voice at some point on one 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:36.360 of your planes. That is actually possible. He's also running 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.959 the New York City Marathon, his second one, that's coming 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.200 up here in a couple of days. My man, good 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:43.079 to have you a studio. How are you brother so much? 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:45.840 Yes, it's good to be here. I'm excited. It's fun. 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.200 If you guys have any love advice, I could definitely. 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.160 Use it, because, oh you want advice from us? 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:52.200 Yeah, I would love it what you guys got. 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:56.280 Actually, oh, I will say, Oh, no, I will. I 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.360 will say I have fallen in love and my first 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.720 love was fine. I'll be oh, yeah, I was lucky 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:04.840 to find it from a very early age. You know, 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.280 the love with another person. The aspects still work on that. 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.520 But do you think it's so funny you say that 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:12.600 because I have actually said the same thing. I fell 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:16.919 in love with my career. I loved my job. I 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.160 loved what I did in a way it allowed me 0:03:20.320 --> 0:03:25.040 to have relationships that didn't need to rise to that 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:29.079 same intensity because I had that isn't that isn't that. 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:32.040 I know, I've done some major therapy and some analyzing 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:36.200 of myself, But I wonder if you compare the feeling 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:38.839 that you get from flying and the feeling you get 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:42.320 from your career to what you may expect from someone 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.320 in a relationship, and if that is attainable. 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.840 That's a great question. I mean, yeah, I would definitely 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:49.840 say that I feel. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:50.640 I really do. 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:52.840 I feel extremely fulfilled from what I do and from 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:56.360 flying and just the passion that I feel that's been 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:58.960 instant for me from you know, the first day that 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.240 I saw an airplane and going on my dad's first flight. 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:04.720 You know, it's it's actually kind of interesting because you 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:06.800 guys are just talking about the honeymoon phase and it 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:08.720 kind of like fading out naturally. And I've you know, 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:10.960 obviously I've had relationships in the past, and I know 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:13.480 what you're talking about with that. But one really cool 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:15.440 thing about my career and I tell people this all 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.680 the time, and I think why, I just am so 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:19.640 in love with it and who knows. Now, now you're 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:21.719 getting me to think, really like, maybe this is my 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:24.039 struggle and why I'm comparing too much the love I 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:26.120 feel for flying in my career so with another person. 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:28.520 But when I'm flying, every single time I take a runway, 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.159 I swear to God and I put my hands on 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.720 the throttle when we get our takeoff clearance, and I 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:34.839 feel that power go up and the throttles go up, 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:36.560 and you just feel the roar of the engines. It 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.599 is a high that never diminishes, and it's the exact 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.119 same high every single time. There is no honeymoon phase 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:44.760 that like has ever ended for me, and you know, 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.599 throughout the flight there's just amazing you know, sequences and 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:51.480 the approaches and the landings. It's actually interesting how to think. 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.520 I am so used to the honeymoon phase, not ever 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.359 fading with that. And it's different though with a you know, 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:57.240 a personal relationship. 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.120 You know what's interesting, Pete, I just heard you describe 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.280 everything that was in you your control. It was in 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.479 your hands, and when you're in love or you actually 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:09.679 are vulnerable, you have no control. And maybe that's what's scary. 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:11.640 I don't know why too deep. 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:12.760 This is groundbreaking here. 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:14.680 I know we're going to get here at this and 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:16.400 you didn't know you were being charged three to fifteen 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:18.320 hour for this. 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.599 This is some good advice. No, but you know what, 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:22.080 that's a good point though, not. 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.240 Yeah, but do you make And she's always made this 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:27.640 point about folks in our industry in journalism, like you're 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:31.560 chasing some type of high a thrill and if you 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:34.920 get it here and this other thing doesn't live up 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:37.640 to that in some way. So what is your expect 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.400 How have you found in your relationship then that honeymoon phase, 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.200 the hand on the throttle, that rush, that that never 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:48.440 goes away there in your experience? How how long has 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:52.040 it taken for it to go away in your personal relationships? 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:58.479 Really, I would say probably, I don't know, probably around 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.440 that that year year and a half I think naturally 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.440 for me is one I've I've kind of noticed that. 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.400 But again, I'll be honest that, you know, maybe this 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:07.760 is just a fault of my own, but I haven't 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.600 really had too many relationships that have gone past that. 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.840 Like I would say my longest relationship with ever having 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:15.280 a break or a split has maybe been a year 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.039 and a half, like approaching two years. Not necessarily something 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:19.520 like I'm proud of it. That's just like the truth 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.840 and don't I guess really know exactly why that is. 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.960 But you really do have my wheels turning here because 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.760 I think maybe that's some internal work that I could 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:31.039 do on myself, and no, seriously apply that to my life, 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:34.040 because I think, yeah, maybe I have expectations that aren't 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:38.279 necessarily obtainable, and maybe that comes from a place weird enough, 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:39.000 from a career. 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.039 A lot of people can't see, but they can't see 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.040 you right now. Your wheels are spinning. I can see it. 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:45.960 Everybody in this room can see. Oh yeah, I'm not 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:49.120 kidding this. Yeah, your wheels are spinning. As your wheels 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:52.279 are spinning. Is it possible to go back and now 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:55.000 look at those relationships you're on the spot here, some 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:58.479 previous relationships through a different lens. Is there any chance 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.400 that some of those previous relationships could have another shot 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.440 if you started to look at and think about those 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:05.560 relationships differently. 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:09.359 No, No, I don't. 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.200 Think that's a good answer. That's a good answer for me. 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:14.600 The ones that have ended, those are done. 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:17.320 But I can definitely take this moving forward and just 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:19.280 you know, keep that mindset and keep it in the 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:20.120 back of my head for sure. 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:21.360 But yeah, not looking back. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.880 And you're all just want to make it clear. You're 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:26.840 talking to two people who have four divorces between them, 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:30.520 so we know what it's like to have believed and 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:32.880 then realized and then made a mistake and had to 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.040 own up to it and then say, what can I 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:37.560 learn from it? I actually am somebody who believes that 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.240 there is no thing there's no such thing as a mistake, 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.800 because if you learn something from it, you could apply 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:44.760 it to the next phase of your life. Then that's 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:47.600 what needed to happen, because you were on a different 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:49.880 playing field than maybe someone else. 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:50.960 Is necessary you could be. 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:54.040 And I do, like we do, relate to loving a 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:58.760 career and to finding your passion there and then comparing 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:01.640 everything else to it. And actually, but I believed at 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.120 a certain point that nothing else could live up to it. 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:07.400 So I'm curious, what are you looking for when you're 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.360 looking for love? Like what would be? Could you describe 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:11.240 the perfect mate? 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:17.760 M That's a great question, you know, actually, real quick 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:19.880 you just had me thinking here something also with with 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:22.560 you know, my career and relationships too, And I think 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:25.920 the expectations I've kind of put on myself, I've also 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.000 like compared myself with also you know, lots of my parents, 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.200 my parents being a pilot flight attendant, having that. 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:31.680 Relationship and the way that all grew up. 0:08:31.840 --> 0:08:33.720 I've almost like wanted to like kind of mirror that 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.080 in a way, and I like thought, just like the 0:08:35.120 --> 0:08:36.880 world of it, and you know, what a beautiful story 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.080 and all that, And I think, maybe you know, that's 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:41.360 some pressure I've put on myself that you know wasn't 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:45.400 necessarily fair. But you know, in regards to what I'm 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.640 looking for with someone, honestly, the biggest thing is someone 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:51.559 that I could just be completely one hundred percent comfortable 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:53.559 in myself with and someone that I can have fun with, 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.199 someone that I you know, obviously they share the same 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:58.480 values and you know, a lot of the same beliefs 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.320 and all that. But at the end of the day, 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.680 it's it's not not this crazy answer that I have 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:03.959 like fabricated in my mind. 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.400 Just like that that level of peace that you get. 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:10.080 From another human being and that comfort and just being 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:11.880 able to wake up every single day and just be 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:13.920 so grateful and thankful to have them in your lives. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.199 Just looking for that feeling and I and I'm confident 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:18.400 and I know that I'll find it, and I'm never 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.800 gonna like rush it or pressure that at all. But 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:24.800 I think if they're if I you know, obviously we 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.400 all have flaws. I definitely think a flaw of mind 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:30.559 could be relinquishing that that sense of control. I've always 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:32.800 you know, felt that obviously being a captain for an airliner, 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.800 everything's in your hands and like you make all the calls. Obviously, 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:39.200 crew resource management, working with your team is is important, 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:42.360 and you know no one person is perfect all the time. 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:43.400 You need to rely on people. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:47.960 But relinquishing that control and not feeling that need is 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:50.000 definitely I think something that could apply in my personal 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.200 life with relationships and something I could work on. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:54.840 Yeah, and. 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:04.800 What do you think about the idea of finding love 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:05.720 on a reality show? 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.560 Well, you want to know why I did it the 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:10.320 first time? Sure, for the first time, I. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:13.400 Guess we love to know you did it twice? Right? 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:14.040 Or yeah I did that? 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:18.000 Yeah, technically two shows, but I remember so I had 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:19.240 seen an episode or a season. 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:21.000 Actually, it's funny going back to career. 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.880 My freshman year of college at Baylor University, and I 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:27.319 me and my roommate we had just made friends with 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.240 these two girls who were really like, you know, Bachelor 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.880 Nation really into the show. And Jake Pavelka, he's an 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.839 airline pilot ten years prior to when I was gonna 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:38.840 then do it, you know, ten years later, his season 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.680 was airing, and so they had invited us over to 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.880 watch the season with them. We do every Monday night 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.480 in the dorm rooms watching the whole season, and I 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:47.520 thought it was so cool. This guy's like living my dream. 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:49.480 He's an airline pilot and he's on the Bachelor. I've 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.080 never seen this show and I get introduced to it. 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:54.000 I'm like, oh my god, that's so freaking cool. Never 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:55.440 in a million years thought that would be me ten 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.080 years later, but it was a really cool introduction. And 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:00.760 then I think I was like twenty six. Twenty seven 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:02.880 is when I had gotten like a DM from a 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:06.079 producer for the show to like apply, and it kind 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:07.520 of just like went with it. I'd just gotten out 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:09.040 of a relationship and I'm like, all, this could be 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:11.800 kind of perfect time. And the main reason though that 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:13.880 I decided to say yes and I wanted. 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:14.800 To do it. 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.000 This may sound crazy, but I just thought that it 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.040 would have been such a like obviously reality TV can 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:21.959 be odd and can be tough, and there's a lot 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:24.080 of behind the scenes stuff that maybe isn't super super 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.800 organic like a normal relationship. But I thought, how cool 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:28.600 would be Like the hopeless romantic to me was like, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.520 how cool it be to have your love story? Hopefully 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:33.440 it works out and it's successful, but if it is, 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:35.880 how cool would it be to have that entire story 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:39.400 documented and now have for you know, long after I'm 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:42.040 gone and generations way after me and everything be able 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:45.000 to look back and watch that love story, how it developed, 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.640 how it progressed, and what it became from that one moment, 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:50.360 and you know, all the generations after me could be 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:52.080 able to like enjoy that and appreciate that. 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:52.760 That's really sweet. 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:53.600 It didn't happen. 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:55.760 You did it for the grandkids that never happened. 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:57.120 I kind of thought it'd be something cool to do, 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.920 and yeah, sweet, that was That was honestly the main reason. 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.680 It's not like I was like completely convinced of his 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.560 reality TV that's how it's gonna find my person. But 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.920 I'm like, that's a really unique kind of cool opportunity, 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:08.120 and I wanted to take advantage of it. 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.319 I'm curious, and I'm you sound like you're really good 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:14.679 at giving honest answers. So I love this knowing what 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.360 you know now. You did it twice. You saw the good, 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:21.319 the bad, all the headlines, all the fodder. People love 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:23.960 when you put yourself out there to take their shots 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:28.280 and have their opinions, and they're not always nice or kind. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:29.720 Would you do it again? 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:41.320 I like, meaning like currently another season in the future now, No. 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.920 If you could go back, would you enter and be 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:47.200 a bachelor, be a bachelorette contestant, and then be the bachelor? 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.559 Yes? Yes, why I would go back. I wouldn't do 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:50.480 anything moving forward. 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.240 I won't do any like love type reality show moving forward, 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:56.959 but just going back if I could, if I had 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:00.360 my entire memory or race of what it happened or 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:03.840 everything and the outcome. I'm just the eternal optimist kind 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:06.120 of person and always just expecting the best thing to 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.240 happen tomorrow kind of thing. And so if I would 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.040 have gotten that opportunity to present it to me again 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.200 with never having done it one hundred percent, I would 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:13.800 have jumped on it just the excitement and I just 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.000 would have been convinced that this is gonna work for me, 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:17.920 and I can't wait. It's gonna be the adventure of 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:21.040 a lifetime type of thing. And I'm never scared of 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:23.400 putting myself out there and taking chances, and I never 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:27.040 will be. So Yeah, I definitely would do it again 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:28.520 if I had the opportunity. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.800 Is reality TV reality. 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:36.400 You're gonna get me in trouble here? I mean, it is, 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:36.880 it is. 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.520 There's Listen, there's obviously a certain level of production that 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.400 goes into it, and that's just the nature of the 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:45.679 show and being produced and all that. But no, for truly, 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:48.120 like there is, I can't put any type of blame 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:50.439 or anything on anyone for how stuff may or may 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:54.360 not have happened. You know, I'm insanely grateful for, honestly, 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.080 the whole experience, the good and the bad and the bad. Honestly, 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.280 maybe even more than the good, I'm grateful for just 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:02.080 because I think the strength that I've gained from that, 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:04.480 the growth that I've been able to gain from that. 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:06.520 I think one of the biggest things for me going 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:08.839 into the show that I didn't really realize it was 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:11.000 like the biggest just mirror for me and like reflection 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:14.280 point was I was such a people pleaser going in 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:17.000 and I don't think I really understood it until kind 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.440 of like the end of this whole part of my 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:22.640 life you know, came to be. But it like it 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:26.200 was just insanely just draining and exhausting and like just 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:28.360 definitely like was a wake up call for me that 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:30.760 I you know, you got to be able to say, now, 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:32.840 you got to be able to like really just you know, 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:35.720 do put yourself first in a lot of these situations 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.600 and and and not just people please so much. That 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:41.640 was like probably the biggest, biggest piece of growth that 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:42.720 I took from the entire thing. 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.080 You talked about the reasons you've signed up for the show, 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.880 but in your experience, I know you talk to plenty 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:50.160 of people who've been on the show, not just your seasons. Yeah, 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:53.640 you are certainly a community. What what are some of 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:54.600 their reasons are? 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:54.840 Are? 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:57.280 What are the reasons sometimes people go on shows because 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:01.520 it doesn't seem to be authenticicularly trying to find love, 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:03.640 that it's an opportunity. Now, I mean a lot of 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:06.000 people jump around. I can't believe I'm watching love al 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:07.640 and this dude was on that show, and this girl 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.160 was on that show, and you know what I mean. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:11.120 So it's almost a career for some of these folks. 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.680 So what what were some of them? I'm curious as 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:15.720 an insider, what are some of the reasons you heard 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:16.960 for why people were there? 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:20.680 I mean, you're, yeah, you're, you're, you're spot on For 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:24.000 me specifically, obviously it was it wasn't the career move. 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:25.760 I was never gonna leave flying. It was just going 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:26.520 to be an addition. 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.520 But a lot of people they were cool leaving their job, 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:31.680 and they were cool seeing where this jump and this 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:33.680 leap of faith would kind of take them. Hopefully, maybe 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:36.160 it would work out in a lasting relationship and you know, 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:40.080 everlasting happiness with your person. But if it didn't, obviously, 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:43.040 you know, the benefits and the rewards that can kind 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.120 of come from putting yourself out there on reality TV 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:48.880 and the opportunities that come about are are pretty incredible 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:49.280 for sure. 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:51.600 Doesn't it feel like that now? It seems like everybody's 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.240 there for themselves and an opportunity versus love. I'll root 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.720 for love all day long, but I'm watching these shows 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:59.160 and really, folks don't seem to be in it for 0:15:59.200 --> 0:15:59.640 that reason. 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:01.080 I wish. I wish social media. 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:04.480 I know, I think social media kind of ruined it. Unfortunately, 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:07.960 if I'm just being one hundred percent honest, it definitely 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.880 I think was a lot more authentic before this whole thing, 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:12.920 you know, the whole influencer world, and it's great, and 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:14.720 you know a lot of people are very successful on it, 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:16.680 and you know, I'd partake in that as well, you know, 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:20.720 kind of like as a side hustle. But unfortunately, I 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:25.200 don't think it's possible to. I think we're just too 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:26.760 far down in the whole social media out in the 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.720 rabbit hole to kind of ever get back to true 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:33.840 authentic just looking purely for love and no other ulterior motives. 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.720 And instead at the beginning here how difficult it is. Right, 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:41.720 you can fly a commercial airliner, you can run a marathon, 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.560 but the love might be the hardest. But still go 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:46.920 for me and explain just how hard is it to 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:47.600 run a marathon. 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.560 It's very hard, extremely hard. 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.400 I ran my first marathon three years ago when I 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:58.640 first moved to the city, and I've never been a runner. 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:00.560 Like before I've moved to the city, I was never 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:02.440 a runner. I you know, swim in high school. I 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:05.119 was probably the best sport. Football is my favorite. That 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:07.440 was what I enjoyed the most, but it was never 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:09.520 really into like long distance running. And so I moved 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.480 to the city looking for friends. I know too many 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.840 people here and one of the guys became my first, 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:19.840 one of my good friends. He had challenged I'm very competitive, right, 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:22.119 and so he had challenged me to America. He's a firefighter, 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:24.480 and he had challenged me to a race, and I 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.160 was like, Okay, hell yeah, I can do that, for sure, 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:31.600 You're on. Meanwhile, I wasn't training at all. I took 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:34.119 this on this bet, and I just said, I'm going 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:35.200 to show up race day. 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:39.280 Wait, I'm sorry. What can you explain for those of 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:42.640 us who spend five months training and sometimes still don't 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:46.360 complete marathons? How what was your plan? What did you think? 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:47.280 I didn't have a plan? 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:48.480 You show uperic. 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:50.520