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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. All right. Subject my husband likes racks

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Speaker 1: and rumps. Okay, now, Steve, I'm gonna read the letter,

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Speaker 1: and you're gonna let Junior respond, right, and then you're

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Speaker 1: just junior dated. Take a shot at it, all right, Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, I'll be here in something. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go. You can do. We gotta

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Speaker 1: see what we need first time. Yeah, all right. Subject

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Speaker 1: my husband likes rax and rumps. Hello, Stephen Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: need your advice on an issue between my husband and I.

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Speaker 1: We've been married for a year and he's a wonderful husband,

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Speaker 1: but we are not seeing eye to eye on how

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Speaker 1: he reacts to well endowed women. When we were dating,

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Speaker 1: he always had a thing for admiring women in my presence.

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Speaker 1: He didn't care if they had two heads, but if

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Speaker 1: they had big boobs and a big old but his

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Speaker 1: head was on the swivel and he would just stare.

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Speaker 1: Lucky for him. I'm not insecure, and I've never made

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Speaker 1: a big deal of it. I have noticed recently that

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Speaker 1: he is on social media more and when I speak

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Speaker 1: up on him, when I sneak up on him, excuse me.

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Speaker 1: He always is looking at bikini pictures of women. He

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Speaker 1: doesn't like the pictures or comment on them, so it's

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Speaker 1: pretty harmless, or is it. I'm beginning to think that

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Speaker 1: his attraction to big boobs and behinds may cause a

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Speaker 1: problem in our marriage. I asked my male friend what

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Speaker 1: he thinks about it, and he said, my husband should

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Speaker 1: use a little more discretion when he's gawking at other

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Speaker 1: women if I'm around. I had a serious talk with

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Speaker 1: my husband and he said it's no different than me

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Speaker 1: going crazy whenever I see ghost with his shirt off

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Speaker 1: on power. I told him that I begged different because

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Speaker 1: I don't do it in public with real people that

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Speaker 1: I see. Our sex life is great and he still

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Speaker 1: treats me like a queen. But I'm afraid that he

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Speaker 1: will want to do more than look at the racks

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Speaker 1: and runs, and he might end up having an affair.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Charlie, I need your opinion. Why can't he stop

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Speaker 1: disrespecting me? Please tell me how to handle this big problem. Well,

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Speaker 1: you're right, this is a big problem. This is major

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Speaker 1: because it is disrespectful. It's especially if it makes you

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Speaker 1: feel some kind of way. I'm really surprised that you

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Speaker 1: have ever put up with this behavior for any length

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Speaker 1: of time. And he's been doing this since you guys

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Speaker 1: were dating, oogling and googling and gawking and all of this.

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Speaker 1: Your your friend, your male friend, is right. He should

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Speaker 1: use more discretion. And I gotta chide you a little

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Speaker 1: bit here too. You need to use some discretion too

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Speaker 1: when you're googling and gawking at ghost on Power with

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Speaker 1: his shirt off. It doesn't matter if you're doing it

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Speaker 1: at home where no one can see you. You don't

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Speaker 1: do that sort of thing, Okay. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: make your man feel any kind of way, and he

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Speaker 1: should feel the same way about not making you feel

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Speaker 1: some kind of way when he's looking at other women.

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Speaker 1: But he's been doing this since you guys were dating.

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Speaker 1: I mean you said you're not insecure. It has nothing

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Speaker 1: to do with insecurity. It's more a respect thing. Okay,

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Speaker 1: did you think he was going to change? I think

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Speaker 1: you thought he was going to change after you guys

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Speaker 1: got married, and he did, and did he how you

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Speaker 1: got them is usually how they are. And you said

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Speaker 1: you didn't make a big deal about it. You should have.

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Speaker 1: You should have really let him know how you feel

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Speaker 1: would have respected you more and tried to, you know,

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Speaker 1: change a little bit for you. But you going in

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Speaker 1: thinking they're going to change and all of that and

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Speaker 1: not getting all of this stuff straight while you're dating,

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Speaker 1: it's just gonna carry over into your marriage. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: need to really sit down and tell him exactly how

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Speaker 1: you feel about him disrespecting you, tell him that it's disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he'll get the message and stop doing this. But

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Speaker 1: if he doesn't, you got a major problem on your

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Speaker 1: getting any better. It's getting worse this situation. If he's

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Speaker 1: all on you know, social media and everything, this is

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Speaker 1: a major problem and you need to let him know

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Speaker 1: how you really feel, not just act like it doesn't

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Speaker 1: bother you. Junior in for Steve, Well yeah, Junior, go ahead,

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Speaker 1: I'm here for you, little brother. Okay, miss anything, all right, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I would like to start by saying, the book a

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Speaker 1: sir mix a lot. I like big butts and I

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Speaker 1: cannot laugh. I got to give it to him. Man

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Speaker 1: like big butts and he cannot lie. No, I just

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Speaker 1: have one question for this lady to start off. I

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Speaker 1: just want to ask her a question, how much do

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Speaker 1: you love this man? Because you don't have to get

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Speaker 1: you a big butt. You're gonna have to get something. Okay,

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Speaker 1: You're gonna have to go down now and just get

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Speaker 1: you like a forty five behind. You don't have it?

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Speaker 1: She don't you know what? She never mentioned what type

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Speaker 1: of body type she had. She ain't got it. But

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Speaker 1: I know if it he liked big butts, you must

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Speaker 1: not have one. If he liked big rats, you must

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Speaker 1: not have this something you're missing. And see he's so

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Speaker 1: through with you. He don't mind looking in front of you.

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Speaker 1: How is that possible? I don't know a black woman

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Speaker 1: I can help, but look another black woman in front

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Speaker 1: of I swear to God, you used to look over

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Speaker 1: with another woman. With your woman, you get your head

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Speaker 1: doct off unless you know how to do it. You

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Speaker 1: need to learn angle, saying he need to learn some angles.

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Speaker 1: He need to learn how to look left and let

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Speaker 1: you walk left and you turn right. You check. Huh,

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Speaker 1: you don't even know. Listen to the question. When she talking,

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Speaker 1: be like yeah, then shift your head right and then

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Speaker 1: look follow them back left behind her back. You can

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Speaker 1: always the rule for me in his alway, I can't

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Speaker 1: sit but by back to the door. You're gonna mess around,

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Speaker 1: lady and lose your husband to a big button. You

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Speaker 1: better get busy. You're gonna have to get busy, start

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Speaker 1: making your appointment to date. All right, hang on, we

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Speaker 1: still have part two. You're gonna have to get one.

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Speaker 1: All right, Look, we gotta go to break hold on.

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Speaker 1: We have part two coming up. Uh. Title of this

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Speaker 1: letter is my husband likes racks and and rumps. That's it.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back at twenty three minutes after the hour

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Speaker 1: with part two of this Strawberry letter. Right after this

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Speaker 1: you're listening to. All right, we're gonna recap the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter right now. Subject my husband likes racks and rumps.

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Speaker 1: We just heard from me. We just heard from Junior,

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Speaker 1: who's in for Steve. See if you have anything to say.

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Speaker 1: I just want to add this one thing. Both of

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Speaker 1: you have touched on it or in various ways, but

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to say this about this letter and

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Speaker 1: this man who does is googling with women with butts

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Speaker 1: and breasts in front of his girl. Y'all been married

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Speaker 1: one year. This has been going on since y'all started dating. Well,

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Speaker 1: the reason he does this is because you allow it,

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Speaker 1: and you've allowed it since the beginning, and now you

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Speaker 1: want to stop it. And then you want to try

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Speaker 1: to say you not envus or what's the word she used, insecure?

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Speaker 1: Insecure lady. This has nothing to do with insecurity. This

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Speaker 1: is about respect and he doesn't have it for you.

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Speaker 1: But he did it in the beginning just that way,

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Speaker 1: and you didn't think nothing wrong. So he has continued it,

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Speaker 1: and it's now it's gotten worse. Now you want to

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Speaker 1: do something, you want to have talks with Now you

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Speaker 1: don't went to your male friend. You see where it's going.

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Speaker 1: He keeps looking at booties and stuff going by Oogland

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Speaker 1: and all is hell. He gonna have some on his mind.

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Speaker 1: And now you and your man run into a problem

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Speaker 1: where you run to your male friend. Yeah, then what

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Speaker 1: he gonna do probably had to hold you, you know,

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Speaker 1: then he gonna have to console you. Then you know

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Speaker 1: you next thing, you know, you're looking upside his head,

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Speaker 1: going I wish my husband was more like you, And

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Speaker 1: then he gonna say, I wish you was my wife

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Speaker 1: m any more junior. Yeah, well, all, I just want

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Speaker 1: to let her know some things. She can go down

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Speaker 1: to Brazil. You got the Brazilian booty left. You need

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Speaker 1: to get down that. That's by the play ticket at

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Speaker 1: three grands. Come on back. Well all you can go

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Speaker 1: to Atlanta after the quarter. They'd be lined up in

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Speaker 1: this fake doctor's room. Yeah. Down for five hundred. You

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Speaker 1: can get pretty much much answer as you want. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: On your way in, stop at the X pick up

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Speaker 1: a can of fix a flat that right there, self

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Speaker 1: installation right there. You can do that to smell. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, because we can't do that. Yeah that that's crazy,

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Speaker 1: right that he has a healthy You can't. Yeah, seriously,

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Speaker 1: because people are doing that and that's not cool. It's

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Speaker 1: not but they over asking. A lot of people are

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Speaker 1: over asking you just gotta know when to stop. There's

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Speaker 1: a limit, you know, is that a word? It is

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Speaker 1: over as you didn't ain't you didn't seen something you

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Speaker 1: do here? Who talking, don't you? Yeah? Yeah, when clearly

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Speaker 1: I asked Junior too do this letter. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: You can't talk about no romp and act like I

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get anything. Oh okay, yeah, okay, but next

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Speaker 1: time you do a prank, we in on that, Junior

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Speaker 1: single time. Let me let me ask you this. They're

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Speaker 1: sneaking up with the phone. That is even a problem

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Speaker 1: she had. I mean for him, he don't even jump,

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Speaker 1: He don't throw the phone off. He just keep looking.

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Speaker 1: He just keeps looking at booties and bikinis. He's disrespectful. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's very dispectful. And like I said, he she never

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Speaker 1: checked him in the beginning, right, And the behavior is

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Speaker 1: gonna continue, that's all, and that's all it is. And

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Speaker 1: she but she thought it was funny at first. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and she thought he was gonna change, that's true. She married. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she thought he was gonna change. And she thought because

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Speaker 1: he was married, he stopped. Yeah, no, not the case. No, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: no he's not, she said, he's a wonderful husband. What

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Speaker 1: he treats me like a queen? Huh? And why do

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Speaker 1: you think he does that so he can keep looking

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Speaker 1: at food? Why do you think you getting treated like queen? Yeah, baby,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, I love you too. You can't keep staring

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Speaker 1: at it and don't want it? No, exactly, And that's

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Speaker 1: what she's afraid of, that he may go ahead and

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Speaker 1: act on it. And a man, don't you like? No,

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Speaker 1: go yeah, go act on it first, big booty, that's say, Hi,

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Speaker 1: he don't And he don't care what she looked like.

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Speaker 1: Now that's not a good sign. No, you just want

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Speaker 1: big booties and racks. You don't care how she sound,

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Speaker 1: what she looked like. He said they had two heads.

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Speaker 1: But if they had big booties and a big old butt,

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Speaker 1: two heads, you think. But what woman is gonna be

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Speaker 1: okay with this? That's what that's that's where I am

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Speaker 1: with it. What woman? No woman, I no one, no

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Speaker 1: one that wrote his lips. Yeah, this guy has no

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Speaker 1: respect for his wife. She never demanded exactly, And it's

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Speaker 1: on her. It's on her. But she and the house

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