Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is that life is cyclical. If you are
Speaker 1: in what you recognize is a low patch, the odds
Speaker 1: are good that you will experience happier times in the future.
Speaker 1: This is really just a matter of probability it will
Speaker 1: get better, which can be comforting to know in the present.
Speaker 1: I read a fascinating study recently about marital happiness. Many
Speaker 1: thousands of people were interviewed about twenty years ago, and
Speaker 1: we're asked to rate their marriages on a seven point
Speaker 1: scale from hellish to heavenly. In these subjects were reinterviewed
Speaker 1: five years later. As you might imagine, some portion of
Speaker 1: those who rated their marriages as hellish had divorced, but
Speaker 1: interestingly most hadn't, and of those who stayed with their spouses,
Speaker 1: the majority now said that they were very happy with
Speaker 1: their lives. In other words, things got better now. This
Speaker 1: wisdom obviously doesn't apply to relationships that are abusive, but
Speaker 1: it seems that most normal long term partnerships go through
Speaker 1: some serious ups and downs. The researchers had caught some
Speaker 1: chunk of couples at an obvious dip in their life satisfaction,
Speaker 1: but five years later the dip was over. They had
Speaker 1: climbed out of it. Life got better. I think this
Speaker 1: is true for lots of aspects of life. Maybe you've
Speaker 1: recently lost a job or feel like you're going to
Speaker 1: need to leave one that had been great in the past.
Speaker 1: Maybe a much anticipated project hasn't panned out. These career
Speaker 1: low points can feel terrible when we are in them,
Speaker 1: but when we recognize them as low points, we can
Speaker 1: see that most likely, in a few years the situation
Speaker 1: will be different. Most likely you will be earning good
Speaker 1: money doing something that you like. Or maybe a family
Speaker 1: relationship is strained, but with some patience, the current stressor
Speaker 1: might become less painful. Over time, we put one foot
Speaker 1: in front of the other and just keep going. I
Speaker 1: have been trying to remember this lately as I deal
Speaker 1: with my toddler's sleep woes. Several of my kids have
Speaker 1: had a rocky relationship with sleep. But since I have
Speaker 1: chronicled my life on my time logs, and since I
Speaker 1: can observe my older children, I know that it does
Speaker 1: get better. I mean, they sometimes still do have sleep woes,
Speaker 1: but they're sleep woes no longer ruin my nights. Children
Speaker 1: do grow up. This too shall pass. The key is
Speaker 1: to recognize when something is a true low moment and
Speaker 1: to acknowledge it as such. The nature of low moments
Speaker 1: is that they are well low, definitely lower than other moments.
Speaker 1: That means that the odds are good, that good stuff
Speaker 1: is coming up. So if you recognize that you are
Speaker 1: dealing with very negative circumstances, knowing that this is most
Speaker 1: likely a low moment, can offer hope. If people who
Speaker 1: rated their marriages as hellish can wind up very happy
Speaker 1: five years later, then it is quite possible that almost
Speaker 1: anything can get better. It just takes a little time.
Speaker 1: In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and
Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,
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