WEBVTT - It will get better

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that life is cyclical. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>in what you recognize is a low patch, the odds

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<v Speaker 1>are good that you will experience happier times in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>This is really just a matter of probability it will

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<v Speaker 1>get better, which can be comforting to know in the present.

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<v Speaker 1>I read a fascinating study recently about marital happiness. Many

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<v Speaker 1>thousands of people were interviewed about twenty years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're asked to rate their marriages on a seven point

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<v Speaker 1>scale from hellish to heavenly. In these subjects were reinterviewed

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<v Speaker 1>five years later. As you might imagine, some portion of

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<v Speaker 1>those who rated their marriages as hellish had divorced, but

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<v Speaker 1>interestingly most hadn't, and of those who stayed with their spouses,

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<v Speaker 1>the majority now said that they were very happy with

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<v Speaker 1>their lives. In other words, things got better now. This

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<v Speaker 1>wisdom obviously doesn't apply to relationships that are abusive, but

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<v Speaker 1>it seems that most normal long term partnerships go through

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<v Speaker 1>some serious ups and downs. The researchers had caught some

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<v Speaker 1>chunk of couples at an obvious dip in their life satisfaction,

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<v Speaker 1>but five years later the dip was over. They had

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<v Speaker 1>climbed out of it. Life got better. I think this

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<v Speaker 1>is true for lots of aspects of life. Maybe you've

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<v Speaker 1>recently lost a job or feel like you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>need to leave one that had been great in the past.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe a much anticipated project hasn't panned out. These career

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<v Speaker 1>low points can feel terrible when we are in them,

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<v Speaker 1>but when we recognize them as low points, we can

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<v Speaker 1>see that most likely, in a few years the situation

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<v Speaker 1>will be different. Most likely you will be earning good

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<v Speaker 1>money doing something that you like. Or maybe a family

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<v Speaker 1>relationship is strained, but with some patience, the current stressor

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<v Speaker 1>might become less painful. Over time, we put one foot

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<v Speaker 1>in front of the other and just keep going. I

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<v Speaker 1>have been trying to remember this lately as I deal

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<v Speaker 1>with my toddler's sleep woes. Several of my kids have

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<v Speaker 1>had a rocky relationship with sleep. But since I have

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<v Speaker 1>chronicled my life on my time logs, and since I

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<v Speaker 1>can observe my older children, I know that it does

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<v Speaker 1>get better. I mean, they sometimes still do have sleep woes,

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<v Speaker 1>but they're sleep woes no longer ruin my nights. Children

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<v Speaker 1>do grow up. This too shall pass. The key is

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<v Speaker 1>to recognize when something is a true low moment and

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<v Speaker 1>to acknowledge it as such. The nature of low moments

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<v Speaker 1>is that they are well low, definitely lower than other moments.

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<v Speaker 1>That means that the odds are good, that good stuff

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<v Speaker 1>is coming up. So if you recognize that you are

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with very negative circumstances, knowing that this is most

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<v Speaker 1>likely a low moment, can offer hope. If people who

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<v Speaker 1>rated their marriages as hellish can wind up very happy

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<v Speaker 1>five years later, then it is quite possible that almost

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<v Speaker 1>anything can get better. It just takes a little time.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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