WEBVTT - The Karol Markowicz Show: Taking Responsibility for Your Life with Adam Coleman 0:00:06.280 --> 0:00:10.080 Hello, and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:13.360 I mentioned in the last episode that I went to 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:17.120 Asia this summer. It was my first time, I mean 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:20.240 really going to Asia. I've been to Israel, I've into Turkey, 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.400 but I think people know what I mean when I 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:26.400 say that. We landed in Bangkok and ate our way 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:32.280 through the busy, noisy, crowded city. The food was just outstanding. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:35.720 The street food you always hear about was better than 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:39.480 you could imagine. The next stop was Hanoi, another carnival 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:44.040 of crowds and food, really chaotic city. And the last 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:48.440 stop was Singapore, which I thoroughly enjoyed. We have a 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:52.080 family member who lives there and who we hope will 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:55.200 come back to the US sooner rather than later. But 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:59.520 after this trip, we totally understood why he hasn't. Singapore 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:04.280 is a beautiful city, old parts and new parts, clean, orderly, 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:10.000 super safe, with just amazing restaurants all around, amazing food. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:14.520 When you're there, you definitely get to thinking why aren't 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.960 our cities more like this? And of course they have 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:21.600 less freedom than we do. You can't really speak out 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:25.600 against the government. Porn is illegal, pod is illegal. A 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:29.000 lot of things are regulated there that aren't here, but 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:34.039 that doesn't really explain the cleanliness or the orderliness of 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:36.600 the city. And the thing I kept coming back to 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:41.240 is we have all the same laws about that kind 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:45.400 of stuff that they do. Littering is illegal in most 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:49.840 probably all US cities, Sleeping on the street is illegal, 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:54.520 theft is illegal, eating on public transportation is illegal in 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:58.040 lots of places, including New York. But these things are 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:02.280 rarely to never punish in the US. It's not that 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:06.800 Singapore has more laws about the kind of things that 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.200 make society function, it's that they enforce the laws that 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:13.560 they have. In a lot of places in America, we've 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:18.920 come to associate disarray with freedom. We don't have more 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:23.520 freedom because society is in chaos, We probably have less. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:28.600 I thought New York was particularly dysfunctional, so I moved 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:32.520 to Florida, and it's a far more normal, more functioning state, 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:37.080 in part because like Singapore, we can count on laws 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:40.400 being enforced in Florida. But I worry about the state 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:44.960 of mind. That whole thing about chaos being the price 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:49.760 that we pay for freedom. I worry about that perspective spreading. 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:54.080 It's hard to preserve an oasis of sanity. In Florida 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:57.440 and in other Red states, people worry that outsiders will 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.359 move in and vote for Democrats and Ruins, and they're 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:04.000 a good thing. It makes sense, but I fear the 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:08.880 problem isn't just political. Apathy creates the kind of disorder 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:13.200 I fear, and I feel that apathy spreading. I feel 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.280 it spreading through our culture, and I'm not sure what 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.240 to do about it. I'm going to spend some time 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.200 thinking about this, and I'd love to hear your thoughts 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:25.160 on it too. Also, thank you for the fiction book recommendations. 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.400 I really love hearing from you. Guys. Hit me up 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:32.120 on Twitter or My email is Carol Markowitz Show at 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:36.200 gmail dot com. Coming up next and interview with Adam Coleman. 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:42.000 Join us after the break. Welcome back to the Carol 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:46.480 Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My guest today is Adam Coleman, 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:50.720 founder of Wrong Speak Publishing and host of Breaking Bread. Hi, Adam, 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.280 how you doing so Last I saw you, I was 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.320 on Breaking Bread, which was a really good time. It's 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:01.720 funny because your concept is that we have lunch while 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.800 we chat, so like in the videos of it, I'm 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:09.880 like I'm chewing and trying to make you know, interesting 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.520 points at the same time. Do people find that to 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:13.840 be a challenge or just me? 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:20.760 I'm sure other people at the very start have a 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:22.800 little bit of challenge. But I think the nature of 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:26.359 the conversation is so relaxed because I don't want people 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.200 to recognize the cameras, Like, don't look at the cameras. 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:29.760 They're not here. 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.200 We're just you go out with your friends, you're eating 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.839 and you're talking. It's the same type of vibe. So 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:37.200 I think in the beginning it's normal for people to 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:39.680 kind of be like, I don't want to smack too hard, 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:41.920 but then after a while they just like just go 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:42.320 with it. 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.800 I also, I chose Vietnamese food for our lunch, and 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:49.000 you know that involves using chopsticks. I mean, I just 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:51.400 I feel like I didn't think it through, like, you know, 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.800 in retrospect, I should have done like something that was like, 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:56.280 you know, one bite, not like, oh, I have this 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.560 noodle dish with like chicken, and like. 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.960 I eat noodles all time, but. 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:05.560 On camera while trying to have a conversation and while 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:06.840 trying to you know, look good. 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:10.440 Yeah, because the whole thing is like when you go 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.520 out with your friends, you're not worried about like, oh 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:13.640 do I look this? 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:13.800 What? 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:14.120 Right? 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.520 That's what I'm saying, Like it goes with being casual. 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:19.719 I think the people who watch it understand, like we're 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:24.440 eating like it's okay, you know. So I don't want 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.159 you to worry about it. I don't think the audience 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:26.880 worries about it. 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:28.720 I don't. I don't really get people complaining. 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.800 If anything, it gives them something to look at, like 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:33.200 that looks good, you know, and they want to watch 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:36.040 or they want to or if they're in the audio version. 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:38.080 They're like what are they eating? Like I want to 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:39.440 see what it looks like. Then they might want to 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:40.040 actually look. 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:43.679 Yeah, So what was the why did you start breaking bread? 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:45.080 What was your purpose with it? 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.240 That's a good question because for a long time, or 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:53.480 resisted doing any any video content. And I give credit 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:56.960 to Ed Lattimore for telling me, for like the fifth time, 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:00.360 you need to do video content. You know, there was 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.440 an opportunity. I was supposed to work with a different 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:05.960 company and they were looking for video content. They're open 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:08.560 to ideas, and so the idea kind of came to 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:12.080 me because it's something that I had been doing the 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:16.600 aspect of traveling to different countries or just traveling in general. 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:19.279 Sitting down with people and talking politics with something I 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:23.359 was doing for a number of years. I started traveling abroad, 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:26.760 especially in twenty sixteen, and every time I would travel, 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.080 I would sit down with people. Sometimes it would be 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.400 other Americans, but most of the time it'd be people 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:35.000 from various countries and we would sit and talk about 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:38.760 where we're from the politics. But a lot of people 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.160 are interested in American politics and do a lot, so 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:45.040 then we would have a discussion about American politics, but 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:47.159 they can actually talk to an American to gain an 0:06:47.200 --> 0:06:51.560 American perspective, and then wherever they're from, I would ask 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.919 them questions. So I remember one time I was in 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.880 a hostel with a guy from Sweden, a girl from Korea, 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.760 and I think a girl from China just asking each 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.479 other questions. I was like, you're here with an American, 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:05.120 you want to ask me any questions? And we just 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:08.839 had an open cannon conversation. So it was something that 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:13.080 I was used to doing, and especially like having a 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:16.280 meal and discussing these things. I remember one time I 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:19.480 had a conversation for about an hour or so with 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:22.160 a girl from Australia when I was in Barcelona, well 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:25.320 having taught us and it was one of the better 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:29.040 conversations that I had, So, you know, I just wanted 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:30.480 to kind of bring that to. 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:32.600 Video. 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.240 And from the very beginning, I didn't know anything about 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.240 creating videos. So over the past year it's been a 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:44.000 lot of learning, which has actually been something that I've 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:46.840 been very excited about, learning about cinematography or i should 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:50.960 say videography, how this works, how to improve the quality 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:53.720 of this and that. And it's been a lot of 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:57.360 money invested and a lot of mistakes and learning from 0:07:57.360 --> 0:08:00.440 those mistakes and getting better at the craft excellent. 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:02.480 So what kind of questions do they ask you at 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.680 the hostel about being an American. 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:09.360 That's a good question because I'm trying to remember offhand. 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.760 Because I lived in Scotland for a few years during 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:16.080 college and I traveled around and the Europeans they would 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:20.880 ask such like, it's it's not like American cultures very 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:25.400 in their face. They're they're constantly, you know, getting our 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.840 culture mixed into their culture, but there's there's still kind 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:32.240 of one dimensional about what we actually are, Like they 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.360 think we are all these you know, you know the 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:38.360 picture of like what Europeans think Americans eat for breakfast 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:40.400 and it's like a giant stack of bacon with like 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:44.480 a gun like right next to it, and like it's 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:47.080 not totally wrong, but it's it's a little, you know, 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.839 a little far fetched. But they would ask me things 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:52.400 like it was during the Clinton era, and they, you know, 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:54.400 they'd want to know, like why do Americans care so 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.200 much about a blowjob? And you know, I'd be like, well, 0:08:57.320 --> 0:09:00.880 it's not really the blow job that they care that here, 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:04.080 but you know because especially in places like friends, they're like, 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.560 what like cheating on your spouse is like, you know, 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:10.640 something obviously all the politicians do. So what kind of 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:11.679 things did you get asked? 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.880 Well, in that particular conversation, I don't I remember asking 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:20.360 questions about China and censorship and their opinion on it, 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:23.440 and it was kind of an interesting answer that they 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:26.800 gave me. But I can't remember all the questions they 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:28.560 were asking me in that particular moment. But if I 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.560 was to summarized the different conversations that I have with people, 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:37.160 a lot of it was very it was all in 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.640 good faith. So I'll say that it was all in 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.240 good faith, and they were actually curious, and I was 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:45.040 showing that I'm open to whatever. There's no bad question 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.480 you can ask, right, I won't take any offense, and 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:50.679 so I think that opened them up to ask, like, well, 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:51.280 what about this? 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:52.080 What about that? 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:56.560 But what I found was that a lot of the stuff. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:10:01.679 And mind you, at the time, I was a Democrat. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.120 So now that I've I've left the Democrat bubble and 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:07.800 I've kind of just I look at everything as an independent, 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:11.400 I realize and I kind of realized while I was there, 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:14.439 much of the media is very much so left leaning 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:18.439 in Europe, and it is very much one narrative. 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:20.520 And I remember being. 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:24.360 In Germany and I saw like this spoof video I 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.520 might have recorded at the time, some spoof video of 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:32.240 like some of Donald Trump, like some like making an 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.719 ugly face, kind of weird looking thing on TV and 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:40.360 they were making fun of Donald Trump. And I thought like, like, 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.880 it's kind of like this everywhere, Like every narrative that 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:46.200 they would talk about is very much so from a 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:52.400 left wing perspective, and so their concept of what's going 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:54.720 on in America is very much so one sided. And 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.079 that's what I realized personally later on, is that the information. 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.080 Even though I was very analytical about the information that 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:04.439 I had, I didn't have the entire source of information 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:06.880 to really give a fair assessment as to what was 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:11.560 going on. But yeah, I found that much of the 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:14.719 stuff that they were hearing is basically stuff that you 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:19.240 would see on CNN or you would see CNN International, 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:23.400 and they're watching it from there. So it was very 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:24.840 much so one sided. 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.480 Yeah, do you have like a particular beat that you 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:30.760 like to cover? Is there something that you like to 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:32.199 write about more than anything else. 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:35.320 I would say the most important thing I like writing 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:41.720 about is families, especially the impact of family separation. But 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:45.920 I also put like slash fatherhood, the importance of fatherhood 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:49.000 and how it impacted me growing up without my father, 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.000 but also being a father to my son who's now 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.160 eighteen and now he's in the stage of being an 0:11:56.200 --> 0:12:01.360 adult and watching him flourish. So yeah, I would say 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:05.320 those things are far more important to me to talk 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:08.839 about because I think it's the greatest issue facing all 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:09.600 of Americans. 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:12.079 It's not just a black issue. 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:13.640 Well, so I was going to ask, what do you 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:16.600 think is our largest cultural problem? And I guess it 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:18.480 might be something related to this. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:22.400 Yeah, family separation. Family separation. 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.199 We are number one in the world when it comes 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:26.800 to children growing up in separate homes from their parents. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:30.520 The United Kingdom is number two, nearly a quarter of children, 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:35.800 and so it's a much bigger issue than I think 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:36.520 people led on. 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:40.440 Nearly a quarter of children in America grow up living 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:43.319 separately from both parents or from one parent, or what. 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:45.680 Is it, separately from at least one. 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:46.960 Parent, at least one parent? Wow? 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.720 Yeah, ok, yeah, So there's either a children who grow 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:52.720 up in single parent homes where they never live with 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:55.920 their it's usually they live with their mother, another father 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:59.600 where they never grow up with their father, or children 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:04.040 of the four, but somewhere in that spectrum. And then 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.440 if we were to go out even further, right, so 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:11.160 what's the impact of that. I've talked about how the 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:14.480 statistics are ridiculously crazy when it comes to children being 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:19.920 harmed growing up in an environment with an adult figure 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:24.640 who's not their biological parent. And it's not to say 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.760 that there aren't good stepfathers, good step mothers out there, 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:31.120 but if we were to look at what's the greatest 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:35.160 danger facing a child, one of those greatest dangers is 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:39.200 growing up in that environment because predators look for single 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:44.079 mothers all the time. And I've had these conversations, especially 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:48.040 in another podcasts. One particular podcast, after I made this 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:51.120 very point, he admitted that was his childhood. You know, 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.880 he was molested by his stepfather for years. So I mean, 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:58.560 this really exists, but we just don't. We don't like 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:01.120 to talk about it. And I think there are many 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:02.280 reasons as to why. 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:05.840 So do you think it's something that's solvable. Do you 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:10.080 think we can make any progress on this or is 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.160 it sort of only going to get worse. I'm pretty 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.360 pessimistic on stuff like this. I don't know how we 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:15.120 turn it around. 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.480 I think we can turn I'm one of those people. 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:19.680 I have a model that I tell my friends just 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:24.000 let it fail, because sometimes you have to fail in 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.360 order to find success. You know, my life, there's so 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.280 many areas where I failed, but I found success later 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.720 on because of those phase and I learned from those lessons. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:37.120 And even for me raising my son, I learned from 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:40.280 my father's failure to be involved in my son's life 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.160 right and not to be like my father. Now, did 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:45.720 I need that to be a good father? Maybe I didn't, 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:49.360 but I still use that as a source. And I 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.000 think there are a lot of children who are becoming 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:56.480 let's say the gen Z crowd, who are becoming adults, 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.840 and they have the Internet, and they have all this 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:02.160 information at their fingers tips, and they're asking questions and 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.760 good questions about the world around them. But their parents 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:08.600 taught them. What their parents are leaving them. Are they 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:11.600 set up for the future? Does this work? And I 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:13.880 think some of them are asking the right questions as 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.840 far as I get it, Like I didn't grow up 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:20.400 in this environment, but was this the best environment for 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:21.160 me to grow up in? 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.920 In how I was raised? And I think it's good 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:28.040 to ask these particular questions. So I am. 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:33.600 I am relatively optimistic that we will make a turn 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:34.840 for the better. 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:39.640 Is that going to look like more people getting married 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:43.800 or how like? How do we how does that turn happen? 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.720 What is the what's the picture you have of a 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.840 positive change in this way where more kids, you know, 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:52.360 don't live separately from a parent. 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.160 Part of it is, like I was saying, I think 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:57.400 part of it is the internet. We have we have 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:01.880 more voices talking about family separation, So that's one I'll 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.400 throw my voice out there. I'm talking about family separation, 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:09.320 the impact on children. We have more reflection that is happening. 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.120 We have people who not only just take selfies, but 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:15.240 they're making videos talking about their emotional state and how 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.920 they are affected by whatever happened in their life, including 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:21.480 their childhood and what they experienced. The fact that I 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:23.520 was on a podcast and a guy was willing and 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.240 open enough to share how he was molested and how 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:29.080 it affected his life, and it just takes one person 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:32.080 to hear that and you're like, you know what, maybe 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.760 I should change how he's doing, or maybe when I 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:38.160 do go to have children, maybe this would be very important. 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:41.600 I think part of the culture war that's happening, especially 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:44.480 the battle between the sexes, has a lot to do 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:49.040 with frustration with wanting to create that, and I think 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:51.280 from the male perspective, I think there are a lot 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:54.080 of men who feel like it is harder to create 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:57.720 that scenario where they are married, where they are in 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.480 that situation where they can raise their child ldren like 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:04.000 they're fearful of it. Some of that fear is legitimate, 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.320 some illegitimate, some of its propaganda, but I think it 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:09.960 some of that comes from a good place where they 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:13.200 want to have these things. The young men want to 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:15.400 get married, they want to have a wife, they want 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:18.960 to rise children in that household, especially because I think 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.120 many of these men who liked this content didn't grow 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:25.880 up in that particular environment, so they see the bad 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:31.000 of it, and I think that is something that's good 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:36.480 because they're recognizing there's a problem, and so you can't 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:39.080 change what you don't acknowledge, and by them acknowledge that 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:41.680 there's a problem, they're more willing to try to seek 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:42.280 out a solution. 0:17:43.560 --> 0:17:46.040 Interesting, we're going to take a quick break and be 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:52.119 right back on the Carol Marcowitch Show. You've written how 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:52.919 many books? 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:54.280 Just one so fast? One? 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:55.720 I thought it was two. 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:58.720 The second edition. That's okay. 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:02.080 To tell us a little bit about your book. 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:05.800 Yeah, Black Victim of Black Victor. I started writing it 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:08.720 in twenty twenty. I think it was like a few 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:15.000 months after George Floyd. I wrote it because I wanted 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.520 to express myself. I thought there were narratives that are 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:20.639 out there. Some I agreed with, some I disagreed with. 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:24.119 Mostly I disagreed with. But even the narratives that I 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:27.879 agreed with, I didn't like how it was stated and 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:31.320 it didn't sound like my voice. And you know, I 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:33.560 had an idea about writing a book a year prior, 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:35.960 but I had no idea what I wanted to write about. 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:41.080 And I actually got encouragement from free speech forums like 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:43.040 you should write more often because of how I was 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:46.720 explaining how I felt. And so I was like, maybe 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:49.679 this is the idea, Maybe this is it, and I 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:50.480 started writing it. 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:51.600 It took me about I. 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:56.119 Think eight to nine months, and I self published it 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:59.159 and had no idea if anybody would like it or 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:01.520 care to read it or anything. But I wanted to 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:05.720 give it a try. But my main goal was two 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:08.640 main goals. I wanted to express myself into. I wanted 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:11.320 to leave something behind for my son to be proud of, 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:16.680 and you know, with God's blessing, like all these you know, 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:19.640 I'm sitting here talking to you. You know, all these 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.879 different things have happened that I didn't come close to 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:26.600 ever seeing. And I like to joke about when I 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:29.399 was writing my book, one friend told me that, like, 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:31.480 you should send an article to the New York Posts. 0:19:31.480 --> 0:19:33.320 I'm like, they would never publish my stuff. 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:36.240 Now you're right there. All the time. 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:39.840 It's exactly yeah, So you never know. 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:42.360 You never know. Do you feel like you've made it? 0:19:42.640 --> 0:19:43.600 I don't know what it is. 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:48.840 All I know is that if I can be a 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:55.200 little bit deep. A couple of years prior to writing 0:19:55.240 --> 0:19:58.720 the book, I was on it. I specifically wanted to 0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:02.240 think about that. I was on a train in Germany 0:20:03.200 --> 0:20:07.159 and i was by myself and my headphones on, and 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.600 I'm just thinking. I wanted to think about what is 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:13.040 my purpose in life? And there was one way they 0:20:13.080 --> 0:20:16.520 came to mind was to serve. Everything I've done is 0:20:16.880 --> 0:20:19.600 in my life, and the most important thing and the 0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:22.760 thing I really enjoyed was serving helping people. All of 0:20:22.760 --> 0:20:26.000 my jobs were customer service related. You know, my background's 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:30.920 in it, but it's dealing with technical issues in person. 0:20:31.200 --> 0:20:33.840 Let me help you fix that over the phone support, 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:34.720 let me help. 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:35.120 You fix that. 0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:39.280 And I love helping people, and I'm like, I am 0:20:39.440 --> 0:20:42.760 built to serve. I'm built to be here to help people. 0:20:44.200 --> 0:20:46.640 You know, when my friendships with people, I go out 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:49.919 of my way to help people because I feel like 0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:52.080 that is my purpose. My purpose is here to serve 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:56.560 in any capacity that I'm doing anything in and so 0:20:57.800 --> 0:21:00.600 for me, I don't know if I I've made it 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.760 because I feel like it's a never ending journey of serving, 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:08.800 and now, especially with me being baptized, I fully fully 0:21:08.840 --> 0:21:09.720 understand who I'm. 0:21:09.560 --> 0:21:10.400 Here to serve for. 0:21:11.359 --> 0:21:13.040 I'm here to serve for the Lord. I'm here to 0:21:13.040 --> 0:21:16.399 help mankind as much as I can. It's why I 0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:20.760 don't engage in negative things. I try to stay, stay 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:23.639 really really hard away from all the negativity that can 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:27.240 come to politics, and talk about the issue, talk about 0:21:27.240 --> 0:21:30.480 it from a realistic standpoint, be critical when you see 0:21:30.520 --> 0:21:33.919 evil things, we see bad ideas by trying not to 0:21:33.960 --> 0:21:37.239 go after people unless they're people in power, which they 0:21:37.280 --> 0:21:42.320