WEBVTT - Best Bits: Listener Q&A With Morgan and Scuba Steve 0:00:01.200 --> 0:00:02.960 Best bits of the week with Morgan. 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:04.640 It's a listener, Q and daytime. 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:08.840 We're Morgan in a show member answer almost all your questions. 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:11.799 Believe in you. That's what's right. 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:14.320 I'm gonna leave that at the beginning. 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:18.880 Good morning everybody, it's Morgan and. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:22.599 See here on the listener Q and A. Yeah, Scuba, 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:23.880 thank you for that introduction. 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:24.600 It was lovely. 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:26.599 Yeah, basically saying I don't think I can get it 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:27.800 in twenty minutes, but we'll see. 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.920 I believe in us, but that means us starting right away. 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:33.920 And we do have a lot of compliments. Every time 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:35.639 you come on, we get lots of compliments. 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:36.640 Oh that's nice, Okay, cool. 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:37.760 So that's what we're gonna start with. 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:41.120 Aaron from Nebraska said, you are just awesome, both of you. 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:44.040 Thank you for doing the job you do. Are you 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:44.480 gonna cry? 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:45.120 What's her name? 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.040 Aaron from Nebraska, Aaron, And she said where she's from? 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:48.279 Aarin. 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:50.480 I'm gonna cry. Just because you put where you're from. 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:52.440 That means the world to mean that you listened and 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:53.840 you told us where you listen to till. 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:54.360 He gets sassy. 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:55.120 I love it though. 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:58.720 Cayleab from Virginia said, you're doing a great job on 0:00:58.840 --> 0:00:59.960 nineties iHeartRadio. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:01.800 Oh, thank you, Cayle. I appreciate it. 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:03.920 My favorite part of the show is when Scuba is 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:07.000 laughing in the background. Cara from Iowa and Alyssa from 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:08.240 Louisiana both sent. 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:10.520 Double take from two different sides of the country feeling 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:11.000 the same thing. 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:12.440 Okay, right, we love it. 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:12.760 Okay. 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:15.560 Pass in Rhode Island really really loves the vibe between 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:16.880 us on the best bits. 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:19.080 Okay, all right, cool, So we appreciate that. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.199 And lastly, Hayley from Iowa City, you are her favorite guest. 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.160 You have the most entertaining stories and always bring unique perspective. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:27.479 She appreciates your realness. 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.480 Thank you. I really appreciate that. Thank you so much 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:32.040 for showering me with compliments as we begin. 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.480 You're welcome, and thank you for listening to positivity in 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:34.760 the world. 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:36.400 Yeah heck yeah. And then thank you for listening and 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.559 taking the time to do that and comment. So that's 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:39.080 really cool. 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:43.080 Yeah, lots of effort this morning. All right. 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:46.120 Tyler from Kentucky wants to know when you're getting when 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:49.000 we are not you, when we are getting more scream 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:51.680 o content whenever. 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.320 They want it. 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:54.040 That people want it. 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:56.840 Entucky is a yes, So it sounds like they want it. 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.200 There's one I guess you got to be a little 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:01.040 more vocal about it and let them know by then 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:02.400 me and the show, and you want more of it 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.760 because I'm down to bring it like a scream o game, 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:07.080 like where like we'd scream lyrics and you have to 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:10.280 guess it. Me just doing more scream of songs? I 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:10.880 could do that too. 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:11.200 Yeah. 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:13.120 I was gonna say, do you have any interest in 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:15.480 pursuing like a scream of song kind of like we 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:17.720 have Abby who just did her original song? 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.440 Yeah, do you have any interest. 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.480 In doing an original scream of song and putting it out? 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.280 It'd be fun. Again, it comes down to I think 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:28.520 this is my overarching theme, is my schedule and time 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.919 and trying to fit everything in, and I would love 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.880 to do my own original song. At the moment, It's 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:36.280 much easier to take something that already exists and it 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:39.480 exactly or amplify would already like with the Hardy song, 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.080 for example, like it already had the elements of a 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:44.160 harder part at the end right there, and I'm like, oh, 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:46.160 it just add a little screaming to it to kind 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:48.440 of amplify it. That's much easier than having to like 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:51.360 start from ground one and write the music and write 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.919 the lyrics and then go record it and record it 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:55.720 and then I'm a perfectionist, so I'll be in there 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.160 all day long, all week long, all month long on 0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:00.720 one damn thing. So it's like I would to do it, yes, 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:02.800 but this is like I guess my dipping my toes 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.000 in the water off starting it by doing this version 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:05.200 of it. 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:09.040 That's fair, and it doesn't probably rank very high on 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:11.440 your important list at this moment in your life. 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.320 No, because it's really fun and I enjoy it, but 0:03:13.360 --> 0:03:14.880 it's not something, yes that I would. I need to 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:17.040 focus on so much right now. I will probably do 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:19.160 another one before the end of the year. I was 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:23.160 thinking about doing something with Jelly Roll or like Brandley Gilbert, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:27.240 something of that already that space, Oh yeah, we're going, 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:29.720 we're going really weird and finding something like Landy Wilson 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:30.920 and the screaming with Laney Wilson. 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:33.639 That could be strange, but I love it. 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:36.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I guess anyone has any suggestions too, 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:37.559 I guess let Morgan. 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:38.360 Know, Yeah, let me know. 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:41.080 Scoop up in the DMS, not that he's probably very 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:41.960 great about checking. 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:47.480 Him wow, Not that he's pretty great at checking him. 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.119 He basically said he sucks at checking his DM more. 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:52.080 I imagine that you're not because your dad. 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.720 Yes, that's where myside thousand percent correct. 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:56.240 But I don't know if like someone had also told you, 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.960 and the question answers like Stephen never responds to his DMS. 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:01.880 That's more of an a sumption of being someone who 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:03.560 utilizes social media. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.320 It's my job to understand. 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:07.120 That you know what demographics are. My demographic doesn't check 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:07.880 DMS very often. 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.440 Yeah, I guess, yeah, yeah, yeah, hit either one. 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.080 Yeah, hit me with your best shot. 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:15.640 Ashley from Tennessee do you regret the vosectomy? 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:19.400 I do have some moments when I see larger families 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.240 and I'm like, oh, it'd be so cool to at 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:24.880 least have the option to have the fourth child. I 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:26.760 guess that's the one thing is you you take away 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:29.240 an option, it's always the grasses greener type effect, and 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:31.560 it never is greener. So that's how I've coped with it. 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:33.400 I'm like, you always take you on more. You think 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:35.880 you want something different than everything, but whatever you have, right, 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:38.560 now in front of you. Is in that aspect. I 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.279 guess it's just fine. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.159 I think his answer is yes, and he's scared to 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:45.600 say it. 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:50.240 Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I mean I guess like 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:51.880 with any decision you make, there's parts of you that 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:53.880 look back on and go, crap, Yeah, I wish what 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:55.520 would have been like if I didn't go through it, 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:57.080 or I did, or I went the other route or 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.719 the other direction. So there's always going to be that 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:01.440 loom being thing of like what if I wanted a 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.400 fourth kid, or like whenever one of my kids is 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.560 like oh, you know, they'll make a comment about another 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.720 sibling or a brother or something, and I go, oh, 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.440 that's never gonna happen because because it just can't happen 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:11.279 anymore right now. 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:15.640 The dreaded what ifs. Although technically can't you reverse the pcomy? 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:19.680 You can, but it's not successful like the percentage of 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.320 the success rate, and also with how much pain you'll 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:25.880 go through reversing it. For me, it's just not worth it, 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.120 got it? They would tell me that it's especially the 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:31.839 longer you wait, the less likely the factory. As you 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:34.440 put it, my doctor will restart back up. He goes, 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.000 if you do within the first six months or so, 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.800 there's a pretty good chance you'll the surgery won't hurt 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.680 as much. You can get it back in gear. He's like, 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.640 but you hit a year, two years, three years, he goes, 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:46.839 it's almost like you can't do it. But it's like 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:48.560 ten percent, fifteen percent odds. 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.400 What about a possibility of adoption? Is there any of 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:52.000 that conversation? 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:53.280 There is, Yeah, because I even thought about that a 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.919 long time ago, when when we were first getting together 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:57.800 of like, hey, there's so many kids here in America 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:02.240 that are like just don't have a support they don't 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.560 have the family. Something happens like with Eddie for example. 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:06.159 You know he had that I don't know if it 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:07.479 was a friend of his or someone he knew. I 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.640 forget the connection because I wasn't here during that process, 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:11.320 but I know that he had someone that he knew, 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.359 or there was a connection, or or they got involved 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.360 in a foster Do you know what it was? 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:20.240 His wife was the one who really wanted them to foster. No, 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:23.320 I'm not sure where that came from for her, but 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:25.320 she was the reason that they started fostering. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:27.880 Gotcha, Okay, So and it turned into what they have 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:29.360 now where they adopted the kids. But yeah, it was 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:30.720 one of those things where you know, the kids had 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:32.640 a mother that was hooked on something, and we have 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.800 that's a huge problem in America, especially with what's the. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:38.000 One that I was on now, ozempic. 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:42.719 No, no zempic. That's where you lose weight or diabeas now, 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:45.400 so the thing's super dangerous. If you're on the zebic 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:48.920 right now, I'm not judging you, but please consider stopping 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:54.320 it because it is a huge effing problem. I'm worried 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:56.080 about the long term effects that we don't know about 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:58.960 because it's so short. That's a product that I guarantee 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.200 you in three to four years, a lawyer will pop 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:02.680 up on your screen and say, did you take a 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:06.240 zembic in twenty twenty four? Call now to get your 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:10.800 law Morgan and Morgan for the people circle back, I know, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.800 I know, circle back. So we were talking about oh, 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.120 oh oh, what's it called? Not profofol, Well, it's not 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:19.760 that Mac Miller died from and a lot of Jilly 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.360 Roll's friends died and Struggle Jennings friends died from it. 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.920 Oh my god, are you ef FFing kidding me? 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:26.240 I mean, I don't know. 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.680 I'm not super familiar with Struggus, fentanylt. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.280 It got fentanyl. There's a huge fentanyl epidemic, so there's 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:32.920 a lot of people that are now being affected by that. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:34.720 There's going to be a ripple effect from it. There 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.640 are like Jelly Rolls, Jilly Rowl, and Struggle Jennings I 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:41.200 think alone have lost thirty forty people from fentanyl. So 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.840 think about all those people and if they had kids, 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.160 and if their family is also addicted. So that makes 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.840 my point is the foster system is probably flooded with 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.840 kids with this most recent epidemic, and then you had 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:54.880 the pandemic people dying from that or getting sick or 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:57.760 can't afford children anymore. So to answer your question in 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:00.840 a very long form answer, not keeping us. 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:06.040 The twenty minutes from to ozimpic to fentanyl and I'm 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.520 not sure what's happening anymore. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:09.920 I know where I'm following the circle. We just came 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.120 right back around to. I bet the foster system is 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:16.000 probably flooded. To answer question about adopting children, I. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:17.760 Had to give you a hard time because we were 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:19.520 on a we did. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.000 We did, we did, But you know, I'm really good 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:24.480 at I can bring it right, bring it around. 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:29.520 Answer your question. 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:35.360 Actually he does regret them. 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:38.480 Yes, I could see myself fostering children a long source short. 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:39.040 Yes, love it. 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:42.160 Okay, we're going to break and we'll be right back. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:47.439 All right, Brandy, she did not put where she's from. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:48.640 I'm sorry, but she did put her name. 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:50.160 That's fine, Brandy, least put your name. 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:50.600 She did. 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:52.600 She wants to know your best parenting advice. 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:58.480 Wow, I think it's what I've learned, is I guess? 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:01.200 I'll give you two answers. One answer is not to 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.720 be judgmental against other parents unless they're doing something that's 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:05.559 completely unsafe. Then you're like, oh, then you need to 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.120 be judgmental and probably step in in some way. But 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:12.079 if like, but parenting styles in the way some things 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.200 are or what they let some kids get away with 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.160 and some kids and how certain kids act. I've noticed 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:21.520 with having kids in three different personalities that having perspective 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:26.760 on it, you can you should never judge another parent 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:28.199 where someone's like, oh I could never do that, or 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:30.080 I would never do that, or they shouldn't do like 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:32.240 the whole thing of judging parents like it is what 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:33.880 you don't know what they're going through, and you don't 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:37.559 know how that kid is like or what their things take. 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:40.240 You just don't know. So my point is, never judge 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:40.839 another parent. 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:42.679 Love that great advice. 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:43.840 Disclamor less are being dangerous. 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.000 Okay, yes that was your part one. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:48.679 Was part one too. Then my part two would be 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.839 my advice about parenting, like with the kids that side. 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:54.400 So when I want to give advice to parents, don't 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.719 judge with the parents. It's not cool because we've all 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.240 been there where we're like, we have the best day 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:01.079 and then someone catches you on day seven and it's 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:02.640 the worst day and they're like, Wow, what a terrible parent, 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.480 they can't get their kids in line whatever. It's like, no, no, 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:06.040 they were good for six days, and so are we. 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.400 You just caught the worst moment, like either they're hungry 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:11.559 or they have to go pee, or they're tired or whatever. 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:16.200 The situation is. Never judge another parent, super important. It's 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:16.880 not worth it. 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:18.640 Yeah. I don't think you should judge other people in 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:19.720 general in general. 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:23.359 But parenting I've noticed in that space they are judgmental 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:24.880 on another level. 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.679 Yeah, I think that's the time we're at in society. 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:29.920 We're just judgmental across the board. 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:33.040 Yes, so get people grace. Give people grace, you know, 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:34.959 I like it. Give people grace. You don't know what 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:37.480 they're going through, and if anything, help them out. I 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.200 feel like they need some help help them versus hurt them. 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:40.880 Love it. 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.520 Yes. Part two, Yes, And I did that one first 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:46.000 to try to stall and give me an idea of 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:49.600 part two. Part two. I just put myself up for 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:51.640 a part two that's okay, well no, but not I 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:54.959 have one now because I challenge myself within a conversation. 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:57.040 I then came up with a part two. And actually, 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:58.640 to be honest with you, I didn't have a part two, 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:00.440 and I said I had a Part two was lying. 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:02.320 I was stalling even more to figure out all My 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:02.840 Part two. 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.600 Was you're hurt my brain and now I haven't. 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:07.120 Are we sure? 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:09.760 No? So what's gonna happen is I'm just gonna say 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.000 something and that's gonna be my advice. 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:13.800 Why we go, Honger, It's been the twenty minute threshold. 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:14.480 I know, I know. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:16.360 So if you don't have something, just say IM porkin. 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:17.920 No, I don't have another thing, but. 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.280 Morgan, I want to say thank you so much for 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.320 buying me more time to think of another idea that 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:26.040 I still haven't come up. He is also give your 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:29.559 kids grace because leading into like not knowing what they're doing. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.080 I've noticed that my kids are usually one of three things. 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.120 They have to go pee, they're hungry, or they're tired. 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:39.080 And one thing that I've noticed when trying to get 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.400 their attention, yelling never works. It didn't work for me. 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:43.720 It always put a pit in my stomach. Here my 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:45.599 parents yell because they argued a lot, so it's a 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:46.960 different kind of yelling. And when they yelled at me, 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:50.800 it was like an angry from the depths of their soul, 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:52.640 I hate you kind of yell and you're like, oh 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.280 my god. So when you yell, you're not going to 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.520 get the attention of your kid. Never. It ain't gonna happen. 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:58.160 So what I have to do is I have to 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.520 get on my knee and get at their level so 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:03.600 they're not infuriated of me. Because when you stand there, 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.440 you're six foot tall. They're looking at but you they're like, 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:08.040 you know, three feet tall, and they just feel no 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:10.760 matter what if your voice changes to a stern tone, 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:11.520 that's how. 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:13.000 I feel all the time, but go on, oh. 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.559 Yeah, I get you're short. Yeah, maybe actually get that 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.440 on my knee. I'm not gonna propose you, but I'm 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:18.760 just gonna be getting to eye to eye to you 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:20.800 so we can have a conversation. You don't feel inferior. 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:24.040 Yeah that's weird, but yeah I can. 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:25.440 I can relate to the kiddos. 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:27.920 So I get on a knee or get at their level, 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:29.480 like crouch on whatever, and then i have the eye 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.760 to eye conversation and I'm like, yo, look what's wrong 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:32.760 with you? Are you okay? I'm like, do you have 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:34.800 to go potty? No? Are you hungry? 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:35.199 No? 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:36.640 Are you tired? And then I get my hug and 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:38.240 you're like, yeah, I'm tired. And I get my hug, 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:39.880 and I'll pick them up and I'll hold them and 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.559 I'll kind of like just like rock with them a 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:43.440 little bit and like try to console them and just 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.920 I've noticed that that is as much as my parenting 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:48.960 and the parenting before that would be like you're a woos, 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:52.520 but I've noticed that actually works better with humans is 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:57.600 the connectivity and the touch and the communication. It's huge. 0:12:57.679 --> 0:12:59.320 You'll see such a and then you'll see a difference 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.079 in your kids life because then they become more secure 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:05.720 in their relationship with you and other relationships because because 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:07.960 you were more hands on with them and you broke 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:10.480 down the barrier and didn't do what your parents and 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:13.320 previous generations did, and you kind of just treated them 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:15.840 like another human because you wouldn't want to be streamed 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.760 and yelled at or or talk to or whatever. It's 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:21.120 better to just grab that attention that way. So I 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:22.679 get on the knee and talk to them, and if 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:23.880 I have to compee, I'm like, oh, it's a good 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:25.839 potti right now, Like it's all good. Just next time, 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:27.320 trying to use your words and let me know what's wrong. 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:29.280 They're still not going to every time, but when you 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:31.720 get on that level, then they're more willing to open 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.000 up and speak to you and give you what you want. 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:36.040 And then you do whatever one of those three things 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:37.959 in or the wildcard four. They're like, well, I want 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:41.120 gummy beers. You're all right, whatever, gummy bears. Who cares 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.320 like it doesn't really matter. Give a pack of gummy bears. 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:45.360 So you have that sanity for the next two to 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:46.920 three hours. And once you do whatever one of those 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:49.640 three or four things is then you're completely fine, then 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:51.040 life is easier, and then you go on with the 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.160 rest of your day and then you tackle the next problem. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.440 So that'd be my advice. I like it, so I 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:57.040 came up with it. I knew I just had. 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:59.280 To find something, give grace and be on your knees. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:06.560 Got it exactly? From California. Wow, that sounds at all furnace. 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:07.839 If I summed it up, that. 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.080 Would be that'd be it. Yeah, totally get down on one knee. 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:12.840 And intentional will be taken another way that you were going. 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:14.920 No, you were going that way. I wasn't you left? 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:16.079 I left your laugh. 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.280 I giggled as it came out of my mouth. As 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:22.520 I was summarized, I realized, yeah, m hmm. Anyways, from California. 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:25.440 I would like to know how you proposed to your wife. 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:28.960 How Emily from California? Ship were in California. It's a 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:32.520 pretty big state. Oh sorry, Emi, what city girl? All right? 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.440 But anyways, I didn't know they needed to have city. 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.560 Now, we'd be nice that they would tell me geographically 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:38.280 where they're at. The State's fine, but I want to 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:39.520 know where from the state, because then we may have 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:40.320 a connection. 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:41.800 Here told you guys. He was sassy, like. 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:43.560 She's like, oh, San Francisco, Oh my god, I can 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:45.640 tell you about this and you'll know, Emily because you 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.200 live in San Francisco, or like, oh, I'm in Baker's Field. 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:50.400 Oh the story I'm going to tell you it's actually anyways, 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.000 so it happened in San Francisco. The first date that 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:54.640 my wife and I had was at this place called 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:57.440 Tunnel Top Bar. It was like two blocks from my apartment. 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.000 It's on the corner of Stockton, right at the end 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.880 into the Stockton Tunnel and I think it's I forget 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:06.520 post maybe maybe Anyways, Tunnel Top Bar. That was where 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:08.080 our first day was, where we first met, where we 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:10.480 had like a six hour conversation and like three or 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:12.240 four drinks and just kind of laid our hearts out 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.080 and explained everything. He fell in love, fell in love 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.720 almost immediately. I did, at least, but her maybe it 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:20.760 took a couple of dates. But so when I went 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:22.200 to propose to her, what I did was, of course, 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.440 I went to her family, went to her mom and 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:26.840 her sister and her brother. That's like her immediate family, 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:28.960 doesn't her father's not here. If you want to know 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.400 about that. Listen to other episodes. 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:32.600 Yeah, we've talked about it before. 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.240 Yeah. So so I went to them and I was like, hey, 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:38.400 here's my plan. I want to propose to your daughter 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:41.440