1 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:10,880 Speaker 1: Brooking Jubiles second date update. Persistence usually pays off. That's 2 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: why if you want a second date update, I have 3 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: to do just email us a bunch and basically beg 4 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: and will eventually do it. So persistence pays off or 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: gets your restraining order one of the two. Yeah, that's 6 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: what happened with Matthew. Matthew pretty much emailed us NonStop, 7 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: begging us to do a second date update. Matthew, begging 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: isn't a very you know, attractive thing. What's going on? 9 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: Fair enough, but this is really important to me. I've 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: met an absolutely stunning and wonderful, wonderful woman. What did 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: you like about her? So much? Everything? Ever since we 12 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: met we actually, I mean it's twenty thirteen, so say 13 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: what you will. But we met online, Yeah, and every 14 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: single message just got better and better. Was like having 15 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: a common interest and our plans for the future and 16 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: where our careers are headed and with children and everything. 17 00:00:55,640 --> 00:01:00,279 Speaker 1: And I just could feel my heart growing, you know, 18 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: with each interaction, and I just was kind of fallen 19 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: in love with this chick. What's her name, by the way, 20 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: her name is Elizabeth. Elizabeth, So obviously I had to 21 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: meet her and we set up a date. Where'd you 22 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: guys go on your date? I invited her over to 23 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: my place and I set up a really really romantic 24 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: rooftop dinner. I had the tux, why hired a chef. 25 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: There was music playing the whole nines, And when she 26 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: walked up and saw everything set up, she kind of 27 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: took a nice deep breath, just seemed shocked by it, 28 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: and it was wonderful. Bachelor. What was she was she 29 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: wearing a full gown? No? No, I mean she was 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: dressed very nicely, but I was certainly to the nines. Okay, 31 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,320 Speaker 1: how dressed his date? Did you warn her that you 32 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: were going to wear a tux? No? No, it's all surprised. 33 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: What was her reaction to all of this craziness. She 34 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: seemed to really enjoy it and be appreciative. I mean 35 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: she was a little bit kind of like, wow, this 36 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 1: was a lot of planning and everything. But after she 37 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: kind of got acclimated to the space and everything. Um, 38 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: it sounds like you just took a puppy home. After 39 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: I got used to say, all right, sorry, continue, well, 40 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, it's it's a lot to take in. 41 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: It was. I thought it was really lovely. But what 42 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: was your line? I feel like you probably had some 43 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: lines planned out for this girl, since you had such 44 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:23,760 Speaker 1: high expectations. I didn't have any lines planned out, but well, 45 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: I wrote some lines. I wrote her a poem. Oh really, yeah, 46 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 1: why not? Let's hear the poem? Oh? You gotta want 47 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: to hear the poem? Yeah? Absolutely? Well, all right, it's 48 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: pretty simple, but I think it's nice. All right, um, 49 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 1: all right, here we go. L is for the last 50 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: we will always share. Oh, it is for the options 51 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: to show you I care. V is for the visions 52 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: of hope stirring in my head. And E is for 53 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: everything we'll do to ether before we're both dead. I 54 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: am sold. When did you deliver the poem to her? 55 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: I delivered the poem right after we had dessert. You 56 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: don't think Maybe that's a little much, dude. It's always 57 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: good to talk about death in your first date. You know? 58 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: What did she say? I just know saying my poem. 59 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 1: I think that you guys just don't understand what it's 60 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: like to be in love with somebody. What did she say? 61 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: What was her response? She said thank you, and she 62 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: seemed to enjoy it. She was smiling and then she 63 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,119 Speaker 1: hugged me and said that she'd be in touch and 64 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: that the whole evening was really romantic and she was 65 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: appreciative of it. But no kiss. No, no kiss. But 66 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean anything at After you go through the 67 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: trouble of doing all that and a poem and everything 68 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: and you don't get a kiss, it might mean it 69 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: kind of rubbed her the wrong way a little bit. Well, 70 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: I'm not playing for the moment. I'm playing for the future. 71 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: You are the most optimistic man I think we have 72 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: ever come across. Yeah, what are you What are you 73 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: hoping to tell her? Would we? Would we if we 74 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: get it told of her? I guess I just want 75 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: to tell her that I'm still thinking about her and 76 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: that I would like to have another date with her. Okay, 77 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: all right, You ready to give her a call? Then? Yeah? Yeah, 78 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:16,919 Speaker 1: I would love to. I would love that. All right, 79 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,599 Speaker 1: here's my little poem. H is for hold, oh is 80 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 1: for on and then on anything else to go with 81 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: for like three and a half minutes, So hold on 82 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: for like three and a half minutes, and then we'll 83 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 1: call her and see we get your second day update. Okay, Okay, 84 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to it thanks brooking jubil in the 85 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: morning date. You know, a lot of women would love 86 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 1: a date like Matthew planned for Elizabeth, maybe like four 87 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: or five months into the relationship, though not on a 88 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: first date. If you missed the first part of the 89 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: second day update, what we know about Matthew's date is 90 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: he invited Elizabeth up to his rooftop deck, hired a 91 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: chef dressed in a tuxedo. What else did you do, Matthew? 92 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 1: I had music playing, and I had the sunset timed 93 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: out perfectly with dinner. It was all your Yeah, what's 94 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: the main thing that you did? Though at the end 95 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: of it I write her a poem? He wrote a 96 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: poem or at the end of the day I forgot 97 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: to ask did you drop the L bomb? Well in 98 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: the poem? Yes, remember els four oh is four yelled 99 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: out love? Have you done this before for girls? Do you? 100 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,039 Speaker 1: Is this your thing? I mean, like I said before, 101 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 1: I'm looking for someone for the future and this person 102 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 1: seems to be on the same lines of planning and everything. 103 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 1: Can't argue with a man that knows what it wants. 104 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:41,480 Speaker 1: All right, You ready to give her a call? Yes? Absolutely? 105 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: Before I do the session to make sure I'm not 106 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 1: like violating any kind of restraining order by doing this. No, No, 107 00:05:47,760 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: all right, okay, all right, is Elizabeth there? Hey? How 108 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in 109 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 1: the morning. I'm moving ninety two point five. Okay, Hi, 110 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: Any idea why I might be calling you? No? Do 111 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: you remember going on a very elaborate first date on 112 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: a rooftop deck with a guy in a tuxedo, a 113 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: personal chef, music, a poem at the end. Yeah. I 114 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: wouldn't think you'd forget that. Yeah. So Matthew emailed us 115 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:34,039 Speaker 1: to ask why you're not calling him back. He really 116 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: wants to go out with you again, and wonders if 117 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 1: he did something wrong or if maybe the date was 118 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: too much. I mean, it was the craziest date I've 119 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: so over the top? Were you surprising a good way? 120 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,720 Speaker 1: What were you feeling? I mean, I'm not used to that, 121 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: and it felt a little like I was being set 122 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:56,840 Speaker 1: up for something. I don't know. It felt weird, it 123 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: felt not real. Right. Did you hear that them? Yeah? 124 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: I was just about to ask you what you thought 125 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: of that. I don't know if you made it up 126 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:09,039 Speaker 1: or he just recited it. But that part freaked me out. 127 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: Women just don't appreciate romance anymore. It's so upsetting. Yeah, 128 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: it's weird how we get freaked out when you tell 129 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: us you love us. On the first day, he had 130 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: duct tape somewhere. I was exactly. I was like, oh 131 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: my god, is there going to be like a priest 132 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: that pops up and perform the marriage cream like? He 133 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: was like, what are you from me to move in 134 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: with him? Hey, Elizabeth, yeah, I should let you know 135 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: that Matthew is actually on the phone with us and 136 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: heard everything you just said. I Elizabeth, how are you? Uh? 137 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: I shocked? I guess well, based on your description of 138 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: the overtopness of the date, I guess you're probably not 139 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: surprised that this is happening either. Huh. You were listening? 140 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: Oh god, I'm so. I'm just I'm embarrassed wild You 141 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: don't need to be embarrassed. I'm not trying to embarrass you. 142 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: I'm just wondering listening. And now you said that people 143 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: don't normally do this kind of thing. And my whole 144 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 1: motivation was to make the evening special, indifferent and out 145 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: of the realm of normality. Roll. It was different. This 146 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: is the kind of a person I am, and I 147 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: guess that through all of the talking online, I felt 148 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: that we have made a really great connection. I really 149 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,839 Speaker 1: appreciate like the effort you put into it. It was 150 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,719 Speaker 1: just too much. I just feel so. I don't know. 151 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:40,440 Speaker 1: So what would you like to do when we when 152 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: we get together next, you make the suggestion and we'll 153 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: do it. We'll do it your style, but positive thinking 154 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 1: to slow down a little bit. I don't know what 155 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: to do or say right now. I don't know, Matthew. 156 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 1: Do do you feel like you're maybe pressuring her a 157 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: little bit too much? The goal is not to pressure anyone, 158 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: of course, But you know, you guys are talking about 159 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: positive thinking like it's a negative thing. Yeah, but you're 160 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 1: in my mind you're telling her that you're going on 161 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: a date again instead of even asking her. Like you said, 162 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: it's positive thinking. I speak in a way that leads 163 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:19,679 Speaker 1: towards what I hope to achieve. You know what you're direct, man, 164 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: and when you want something to go after it. You 165 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: never take no for an answer. Matthew as a go getter, 166 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: and Elizabeth Matthew wants you. That didn't help, did it? 167 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: I think I would prefer to be funds. Well, I mean, 168 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 1: you know, friendship is the basis of any relationship, right Elizabeth, 169 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:44,679 Speaker 1: don't lie. You do not want to be friends with him. 170 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 1: You were just afraid to be mean Right now now 171 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: you're just leading the poor man on be honest with him. Okay, 172 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:54,439 Speaker 1: Oh that's not fair. See, this is this is where 173 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: I feel bad for I feel bad for you, Matthew, 174 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 1: because you guys can't win either way. Like you can 175 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: either be too much, like not show that you're interested 176 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 1: in Then girls are like, he didn't even seem interested 177 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: in me. Then when you actually go, hey, I like 178 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:07,839 Speaker 1: you so much that I'm gonna hire a chef, I'm 179 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: gonna write a little poem, I'm gonna do a big 180 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: And then a girl's like that's way too much. There's 181 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 1: some sort of happy median in between the two you 182 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 1: realize that, well, you know, I don't know, Brooke. You 183 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,839 Speaker 1: tell me, what is your typical date being taken out 184 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: to the sports bar to sit next to a guy 185 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: who's going to be yelling at the television screen or 186 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: do you want somebody who's going to be focusing on 187 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: you and learning about who you are? Okay, but he 188 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: ask Elizabeth. Ask Elizabeth, because Elizabeth, do you feel like 189 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,079 Speaker 1: he learned anything about you? Or did you feel like 190 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: he was just trying to plan a future with you 191 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:41,240 Speaker 1: the entire time? No, I don't feel like Matthew, don't 192 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: you even know me at all? And not everything is 193 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:47,839 Speaker 1: like a tuxedo night. Okay, Well, this point, I'd like 194 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: to say that you're going to go out on a 195 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 1: second date with Matthew. We're gonna pay for it. What 196 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:57,079 Speaker 1: do you think? What do you guys think? I think 197 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: that you're going out on the second date with Matthew. 198 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 1: You'll pay for it. Really need to give him another shot. 199 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: I'm on jewil side. Yeah, of course you are, Matthew. Matthew, 200 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: do you understand that you were too over the top? Yes? Absolutely, 201 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: I understand. I've learned a lot from this experience, for sure, Elizabeth. 202 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:20,559 Speaker 1: He's learned from his mistakes and he's ready to take 203 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:22,599 Speaker 1: you out on a normal date. We'll pay for it, 204 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 1: do it? I Oh, he just makes me, I know, 205 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: he makes me sound like to say, he makes me squirm. Sorry, Matthew, No, 206 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 1: all right, I guess that I guess that I'm learning 207 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 1: that the ladies just want to be treated super regular. Yeah, 208 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: they do. And that's what I've been trying to tell 209 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:49,360 Speaker 1: dudes forever. Why do you just treat them regular? All right? 210 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: Make it easy on yourself everything, keep everything as average 211 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 1: as possible. Oh my gosh, did something nice, but don't 212 00:11:57,600 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 1: go so far. If the poem was better, you'd probably 213 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: go out with him again. Right, let's just face at 214 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 1: the palm, stuck a broken jupil. In the morning, I'll 215 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 1: just something to a bigger because you shine.