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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in scrub.

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Speaker 3: Dub Dum.

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Speaker 4: And we have a Dear Bonya episode.

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Speaker 5: Yes we do.

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Speaker 4: Wait before we.

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Speaker 2: Get into that. The people were asking the food that

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Speaker 2: you had in Chicago. Oh wow, if there were any standouts?

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Speaker 4: And I like a Chicago dog off the street.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Yes, I tried to eat as much Chicago food

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Speaker 6: as I could when we were there in the Serning

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Speaker 6: Metropolitan Areas had I had a Chicago dog from Devil

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Speaker 6: Dogs that I did not like. I did not like it.

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Speaker 3: Why too much junk on it?

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Speaker 6: Too much junk and whatever. There was some kind of

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Speaker 6: seasoning or relish. It tasted like minnestrone soup.

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Speaker 3: Nothing like that.

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Speaker 4: Was it recommended to you that it was?

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Speaker 6: That came. I asked scrubbers for advice, and Devil Dogs

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Speaker 6: came up a lot and they led me astray.

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Speaker 3: I think it a celery salt. They put on a

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Speaker 3: Chicago dog.

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Speaker 6: That would do it.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 6: I was not happy with that Chicago dog. I had

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Speaker 6: two pizzas. I went to Luma Hotti's and I went

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Speaker 6: to Pea Quads.

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Speaker 3: Man, I love Chicago pizza.

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, I loved it. I had pea quads.

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Speaker 6: That's the one they went to in the Bear. Sam

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Speaker 6: and I went to the same location they went to

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Speaker 6: in the Bear.

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Speaker 3: In the bedroom where they went and got it for

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Speaker 3: the celebrating anniversary or something.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that was good salmon. I went and got in

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Speaker 6: order to go, and then we satted a close down

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Speaker 6: cafe outdoor seating and had some pizza. It was delicious.

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Speaker 5: You love pizza.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you, I'm gonna have something this weekend

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Speaker 1: for it.

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Speaker 6: Popcorn I did. I did have Garrets popcorn I got

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Speaker 6: at the airport and it was delicious. I was eating

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Speaker 6: it yesterday to get the Chicago style I did. I

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Speaker 6: got Garrett's mix. It's half caramel corn, half cheddar cheese, which.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't think would go together, but man, oh man.

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Speaker 4: Does something about that makes sense.

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Speaker 6: Works it rules. I bought it from the airport and

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Speaker 6: the total price came out to six dollars and sixty

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Speaker 6: six cents, and I got superstitious about that, so I

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Speaker 6: did not open it on the plane. Wow, I thought

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Speaker 6: that would be summoning the devil to our flight. So

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Speaker 6: I wait until I got home.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna say I respect that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but it was delicious. I think if you're going

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Speaker 6: to Chicago, you gotta go to Peaquad's. That's that was

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Speaker 6: the standout by far of all those places that I went.

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Speaker 4: I am so impressed with Easton's.

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Speaker 2: Like, I know, I talk about this all this time

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Speaker 2: all the time, but his lack of sleep slash stamina

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Speaker 4: On those short trips.

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Speaker 2: It's like, I admire it so much because I will

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Speaker 2: never be that person.

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Speaker 5: But I'm like, barely what because we drink?

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Speaker 4: I don't drink that much? Oh really Yeah, no, I

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Speaker 4: think I'm just lazy.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, god, this is sureka moment, I'm like, it's

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Speaker 1: because he doesn't drink, so he's never hung over.

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Speaker 6: This one was rough because I stayed out really late

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Speaker 6: and then I got up early and I did not

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Speaker 6: eat like the pickle on my Chicago dog I think

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Speaker 6: was the only vegetab like the whole time I was there,

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Speaker 6: So that was I was pushing it. But uh, but

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Speaker 6: I had a lot of fun and uh and I

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Speaker 6: did my work. I did a great job of my

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Speaker 6: work and uh, and I got to see a bunch

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Speaker 6: of coolteff and hung out with a good friend of mine.

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Speaker 6: I went to some tiki bars while I was there too.

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Speaker 6: That was a lot of fun. Yeah, yeah, I made

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Speaker 6: a good time.

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Speaker 4: You saw that. You saw the sites.

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Speaker 6: I saw all the sites. I saw the bridge where

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Speaker 6: the Dave Matthews band had the incident. If you don't

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Speaker 6: know what I'm talking about, I'm not gonna say it

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Speaker 6: on the look it up. They had an issue with

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Speaker 6: the the septic tank on their tour bus. Oh not

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Speaker 6: familiar with that, Well, look at Dave Matthews band the incident.

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Speaker 6: I saw the site of that happening. I went to

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Speaker 6: the rock and roll McDonald's. I saw all the sites

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Speaker 6: Chicago had to offer.

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Speaker 4: It's like he was there longer than we were, but

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Speaker 4: he wasn't you know.

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Speaker 7: Yeah that the bus had to empty that thing and

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Speaker 7: they added it in the wrong place and there was

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Speaker 7: a sight seeing bod underneath where they have did.

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Speaker 4: It, and people got then, oh my god, I bridge.

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Speaker 3: There are plenty of lawsuits involved.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, yeah it was it was a tour bus

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Speaker 6: driver that made the mistake.

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Speaker 4: I have like chills.

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Speaker 2: We were getting on our flight back from uh Chicago,

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Speaker 2: and Tanya opted out of getting snacks because she was anticipating,

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Speaker 2: you know, having something on the plane. And so I

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Speaker 2: had all my snacks, guardettos, nerd clusters, cheese and cracker,

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Speaker 2: little tarcutery situation.

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Speaker 4: Snack pack.

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Speaker 5: Creases, peanut butter cups, cookie dough bites.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, cookie dough bites. I just had a collection.

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Speaker 2: You know, guess who had her paws and everything the

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Speaker 2: whole flight home.

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Speaker 1: In my defense, I got really nauseous when I got

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Speaker 1: on the flight for some reason, Like I was feeling

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Speaker 1: really nauseous, so I was like, I really do need

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Speaker 1: one of those crackers.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I was giving her crackers and cheese, trying

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Speaker 2: to settle her stomach, and then she just kept going.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't need to go for the nerds clusters,

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Speaker 1: but I but I did.

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Speaker 5: I did go for the nerds clusters.

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Speaker 4: That was fun.

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Speaker 1: Though.

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Speaker 2: I enjoy when you eat my like I enjoy when

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Speaker 2: you eat the food with me, because I love that

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Speaker 2: you enjoy it, even though you try to pretend that

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Speaker 4: It's so satisfied.

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Speaker 5: Kale chip, Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: But you sure finished the bag. When I was going

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Speaker 2: to try and throw them away, I was like are

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Speaker 2: you done? And you're like, are there more in there?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: A nerds clustered let me tell you, but let me

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Speaker 1: I forgot to mention the other day because I was

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Speaker 1: in my bubble about Chris Martin.

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Speaker 5: I am so obsessed with Chris Martin. It does not.

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Speaker 1: Every experience have had with that man has been life altering.

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Speaker 4: Tell me about it.

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Speaker 1: He's so kind, he looks you in the eye, he

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Speaker 1: remembers your name. He's so humble, he has no ego.

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Speaker 1: And I saw him at the festival. I didn't like

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Speaker 1: to see him in person. I saw him perform, but

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Speaker 1: like it was so otherworldly, Like he makes you feel

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Speaker 1: like you're the only person in the audience. And he's

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Speaker 1: so calm and cool and collected, and I just love

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Speaker 1: him like I love him.

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Speaker 2: It's like, oh, my bucket, let's just see a cold

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Speaker 2: Play concert.

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Speaker 4: I've never been.

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Speaker 2: I saw them perform at the halftime in the super

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Speaker 2: Bowl when and went with Amy.

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Speaker 8: Okay, oh my gosh, I'll never Okay, Like a cold

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Speaker 8: Play concert is a different It is like singing sky

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Speaker 8: full of Stars with like all.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but yeah, let's want to come to New York

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Speaker 5: this weekend. I think he's going to be a global citizen.

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Speaker 2: I'm okay, thank you, Okay, we do have Dear Bonya.

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Speaker 2: So I think they're all they're not all anonymous today.

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Speaker 3: No they're not. But here's the thing, and this is,

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Speaker 3: by the way, if you are a more praise for

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Speaker 3: our producer, Sam, if you're a young aspiring podcast producer

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Speaker 3: out there, write this down. So last time we did

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Speaker 3: Dear Bonia, we're trying to figure out which ones to do,

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Speaker 3: you know, we're looking ahead. Look, that's interesting. That's the thing.

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Speaker 3: We're like, Oh, which one do you want to they're

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Speaker 3: all anonymous? Do you want to the one this anonymous?

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Speaker 3: You wanted the other one? The anonymous? On page six, Sam,

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Speaker 3: without being asked, thanks to herself. Oh, they're having trouble

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Speaker 3: describing which ones they're talking about. I'm going to give

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Speaker 3: refer to them. And specifically, let's give it up for Sam.

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Speaker 3: Who did you ask her to do that? She said

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Speaker 3: filled it. Yeah, that's what a good producer does.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, honestly, thank you guys, love you.

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Speaker 3: Ah. You want to start with the one title new

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Speaker 3: husband's life.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it feels like a new book.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I married my husband in April after three years

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Speaker 3: My husband confessed that, yes, he and the friend they

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Speaker 3: hooked up a few months before we met, and he

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Speaker 3: this information despite our openness about past flings. This is

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Speaker 3: the second time he's hitting something from his past with

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Speaker 3: another girl, and I'm struggling with how to trust him

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Speaker 3: now as a twenty six year old newly what I

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Speaker 3: feel hurt, confused, and unsure about what to do next.

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Speaker 4: Here's the thing. I don't like.

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Speaker 2: Something like this not being shared or disclosed up front,

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Speaker 2: and I understand that if he's immature and doesn't have

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Speaker 2: I'm going to this doesn't matter to me because it's

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Speaker 4: It causes a huge fight.

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Speaker 2: But what he's done is now he's betrayed your trust,

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Speaker 2: and it does feel it is going to turn into

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Speaker 2: a big fight because he omitted the truth out of

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Speaker 2: an argument with you about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, None of this bothers me, aside

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Speaker 1: from the fact that he told his friends not to

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Speaker 1: tell you about it. That to me is the problem.

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Speaker 1: The fact that he's hooked up with people before he

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Speaker 1: met you, Like, to me, it's.

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Speaker 5: Like, don't like I don't want someone they both know.

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Speaker 1: Right, But like, I'm just like, that's in his past

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Speaker 1: is before he met you. Don't go in the past.

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Speaker 1: You're his present and his future. It's like, what's in

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Speaker 1: the past is in the past. But what I don't

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Speaker 1: which I don't like.

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Speaker 2: Right, And I think that's just I think it's just

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Speaker 2: emotional immaturity of being like, I'm scared. I don't want

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Speaker 2: to own up to it. I told him I don't

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Speaker 3: I started listening to scrubbing in after the second People's

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Speaker 3: Oh well, thank you very much, thank you for keeping

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Speaker 4: But I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I never felt any sort of expectation to go back

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Speaker 5: Like there's nobody to vouch for them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, cast out of why men ask everybody that you

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Speaker 2: I think that's valid. And I think you're very being

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Speaker 1: I would share my location with everybody that would accept it,

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Speaker 2: No, I think that's just being smart about it, like

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Speaker 5: I'll leave it there. Wow dexter vibes.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well, I'm not helping Cassidy at all.

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Speaker 5: No, That's what I'm saying. You had to be very

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, Where were going next? Becca? What strikes

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Speaker 3: Yeah? We talked about the drinking one. Do you want to

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Speaker 3: Uh, I know, Anonymous, I know that you both enjoyed

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Speaker 3: So you've been trying to drink less. Moderation is the

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Speaker 2: But I'm very happy to either not drink or stop

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Speaker 2: And it's like helped so much with her getting on

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it just happens. Life comes at you fast.

446
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Speaker 2: And I also think it's different when you have a

447
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Speaker 2: part if you have like Haley does not drink. Like

448
00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:22,840
Speaker 2: she'll have a drink if we're on vacation, but she

449
00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:26,960
Speaker 2: very rarely is drinking. She will take an edible or something,

450
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,480
Speaker 2: but she is not a drinker. So it's very easy

451
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Speaker 2: for me to not drink because I don't have my

452
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Speaker 2: partner and the person that I'm doing, you know, right.

453
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Speaker 1: But my partner is like on the same page as me,

454
00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:38,440
Speaker 1: Like we're both like, let's stop drinking as much.

455
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Speaker 5: And then we go to sit down to have dinner

456
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Speaker 5: and then.

457
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Speaker 1: We're like, hmmm, or it's a taco Tuesday, We're like,

458
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Speaker 1: should we open a bottle of wine?

459
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Speaker 5: I'm good with this red meat?

460
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

461
00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:56,040
Speaker 2: I think the maybe you just if you want to

462
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Speaker 2: have one drink, then switch over to a mockdale or

463
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Speaker 2: water or something and see if you can do the

464
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,080
Speaker 2: balance and if you can't. I don't think not drinking

465
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Speaker 2: is a negative thing at all. It's poison.

466
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Speaker 3: It really is.

467
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Speaker 5: Literally drinking is bad either. I let me tell you something.

468
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Speaker 2: I'm saying, if you don't feel like you can do

469
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Speaker 2: it in moderation and like you feel bad and like

470
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,680
Speaker 2: don't feel good when you're doing it, then I think

471
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Speaker 2: I don't think it's a bad thing to not do it.

472
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Speaker 4: I think if you can balance it.

473
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Speaker 6: Of the two options, I think it's probably better to

474
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Speaker 6: air on the set, right.

475
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Speaker 5: That's so fun when you're drunk, Yeah, it is.

476
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 2: Life comes at you fast, and then that next morning

477
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,960
Speaker 2: comes and you're like, never again.

478
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Speaker 5: Never again, have you been drunk.

479
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Speaker 6: I've never ever had a sip of alcohol?

480
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Speaker 3: Yeah?

481
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Speaker 4: I tried. I well, I did. I felt that fear pressure,

482
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Speaker 4: fear pressured. I didn't. It wasn't that though I wanted.

483
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Speaker 2: We did the shot game where we had five pores

484
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:55,639
Speaker 2: of yeah, and I was like I just wanted him

485
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Speaker 2: to be a part of it. But he was like,

486
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Speaker 2: I'm not doing it. I'm not taking the risk. And

487
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Speaker 2: I was like, how do I involve themselves? Like okay,

488
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 2: you pour them and you know that's the way perfect.

489
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 2: And then I felt guilty because I didn't know he

490
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Speaker 2: had literally never had him a little bit.

491
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Speaker 6: How about this is the time everyone think you're so

492
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Speaker 6: cool if you do it.

493
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Speaker 2: But I do think I may have said something like

494
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Speaker 2: this is why not now you get that.

495
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Speaker 3: I get that from a lot of people like oh,

496
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Speaker 3: I'm going to do it, I'm going to get you drunk, or.

497
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Speaker 5: Have annoying that.

498
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Speaker 6: I've had a lot of people be like, when you

499
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Speaker 6: decided to do it, I want to be there.

500
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Speaker 3: I forget that too.

501
00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm sorry if I did that.

502
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Speaker 6: I did not feel believe me. I'm almost forty years

503
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Speaker 6: old adult to be.

504
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Speaker 4: Involved in the game.

505
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Speaker 6: I did, and I appreciate you.

506
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Speaker 2: I was hoping you were going to get water is

507
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Speaker 2: what I was hoping. But I thought what's meant to

508
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Speaker 2: be will always be.

509
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Speaker 4: Said Alison got it who also rarely.

510
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Speaker 6: Yeah, my family is very very into why And every

511
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,359
Speaker 6: time I go to like Christmas or something, still they

512
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 6: offer like you said, can't wear your glass. I'm like

513
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 6: I'm good and like okay, they still offer it to me,

514
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 6: and I appreciate that. I appreciate being included in like

515
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:10,400
Speaker 6: the ritual of it, but also straightage for life.

516
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Speaker 8: Baby.

517
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

518
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 1: The people that are like I'm gonna get you drunk, Yeah,

519
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: it's so weird. We all just like, as a society,

520
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,520
Speaker 1: we all do these things where we like pushy push

521
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 1: other people to do things that they don't want to do.

522
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 5: It's so weird. I'm sure I do it all the time.

523
00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:30,920
Speaker 1: Too, So I'm including myself in this annoyingness.

524
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 5: But it's very annoying. Like I will never ask another

525
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Speaker 5: bride when her wedding date is ever.

526
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Speaker 4: Speaking of, I'll never do that. I'm on our lot

527
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 4: of episode.

528
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Speaker 5: I'll never do it.

529
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Speaker 3: We're narrowing it down. I know that, Yeah, we may

530
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Speaker 3: have a.

531
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Speaker 1: Month when I know I'll let every everybody in my circle,

532
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Speaker 1: everybody in my circle, everybody that's invited will know.

533
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Speaker 2: That's interesting. It's interesting that that bugs you. And yet

534
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 2: I'm asked on a regular basis when I'm getting married

535
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:10,400
Speaker 2: by you, Well, so, or do I ever think about

536
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:11,879
Speaker 2: my wedding? Or what would it look like? Am I

537
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 2: going to get engaged? Say what kind of ring do

538
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,520
Speaker 2: I want? Interesting, I've made it clear where I stand

539
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:16,880
Speaker 2: on that.

540
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 5: Well, so.

541
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 1: That was just because you said that you're not going

542
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 1: to tell anybody. So I feel like I need to

543
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 1: ask because you said you weren't going to tell me

544
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 1: do you get what I'm saying? Where it's different where

545
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 1: I will you will be the first person to.

546
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Speaker 5: Know when I walk in a date. Why are you

547
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 5: laughing at that?

548
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 6: Watch your mind like clicking. It's I love it.

549
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 3: The rationalization is so difficult here, but you're finding a

550
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 3: way to do it.

551
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: So if you are, if you're telling me you're not

552
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,159
Speaker 1: going to tell me, then I need to ask no.

553
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 3: But she's telling you she's not going to tell you

554
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 3: because she wants it to be a surprise, So you

555
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 3: asking doesn't help.

556
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Speaker 1: Wellading she's loading. But then she's like, oh, we should

557
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,679
Speaker 1: look at wedding bands, and I'm like, oh, yeah, are

558
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 1: we thinking about wedding bands?

559
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 2: So I was going to a jewelry opening event for

560
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 2: Ring Concierge and I Tanya will eventually be looking for

561
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 2: wedding bands, and I was like, would you want to

562
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 2: be my plus one if you want to look at

563
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 2: wedding man's while we're there. I didn't say anything about

564
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 2: me looking at wedding man's talking about you as the

565
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 2: bride to be.

566
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 1: Then you posted the photo saying I do be browsing

567
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: Hailey Kyoko, which got a lot of traction in the Facebook.

568
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 5: So you know what you're doing, is Rebecca Tilly.

569
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 2: I didn't say I'm dumb and didn't sam dumb content.

570
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: I am a content creator.

571
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 5: She do be browsing.

572
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 2: So that was a big old rock dude, Haley goes,

573
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Speaker 2: are you sure you like it that big? That up?

574
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Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

575
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Speaker 5: I like the round on you though.

576
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Speaker 4: It was pretty hard.

577
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Speaker 5: It was very pretty.

578
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 2: Yeah that I only don't tried on two though.

579
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Speaker 1: I know, but the round is like hard. I tried

580
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Speaker 1: it on a round and it did not look pretty

581
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Speaker 1: on me.

582
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 2: Well, Ali has a round and I've I've tried that

583
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 2: on and I've always been like, oh, I like how

584
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 2: that looks.

585
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 5: Yeah.

586
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 2: So yeah, but anyways, shall we get back to Bonnia questions?

587
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 3: I think we should take a break and then get

588
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 3: back to Oh my gosh.

589
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 4: One thing we do is we take breaks. Let's go.

590
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 2: All right, we are back and we have time for

591
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 2: one more dear Bonnia question.

592
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 3: I like it when they send in this cute stuff

593
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 3: like this. This is Caitlin who came up with this.

594
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: Hi friends Legit feels like we're best friends, so just

595
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,919
Speaker 3: go with it. Okay, So it's a fun one. Can

596
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 3: you guys categorize the original Gray's interns, that being Magic Meredith, Alex, George, Izzy,

597
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 3: and Christina. But whether you feel like each one is

598
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: a Becca or a Tanya? My best friend and I

599
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 3: love the pod. It is the one thing we always

600
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 3: share everyone and Thursday morning, even if we can't see

601
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 3: each other often ps between the two of us, I'm

602
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 3: Tanya you all right? So should we go one at

603
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 3: a time? Meredith Gray? Is she a Becca or a Tanya?

604
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 4: Alex Becca?

605
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 3: Correct?

606
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 4: Yes?

607
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 5: How so?

608
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:25,159
Speaker 2: I feel like he's just very to himself and is

609
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 2: just like quiet and does this thing and doesn't need.

610
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 4: Or want attention.

611
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 5: Interesting?

612
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:33,479
Speaker 4: What about him makes him a Tanya?

613
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Speaker 1: I feel like he was very much like in the

614
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 1: dating game, like dated a lot. I was like out

615
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: and about dating. That's really it. Yeah, no, all right, fine,

616
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 1: we'll give you him.

617
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think he's a Becca George.

618
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 2: Tanya oh soo, just very willing to please and very

619
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: you know, wanting to be a part teacher's pet.

620
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right?

621
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Speaker 3: Is heya? Okay? And Christina Becka?

622
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 2: Oh how is Christina Tanya?

623
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 5: How is she a Becca? She's like emotionally shut off.

624
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 4: Yeah.

625
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 2: I don't think I'm emotionally shut off. But I do

626
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:19,360
Speaker 2: feel like I keep my cards a little closer than you.

627
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess I could see that.

628
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 4: I think she.

629
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 2: Would craft a text way more like me than she

630
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 2: would not be sending dms of trying to continue the

631
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 2: drink conversation.

632
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 5: That's true, that's fair, that's fair.

633
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 4: What about her makes her a Tania Tea.

634
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 5: Pipe very Type A?

635
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 4: You are not type.

636
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 2: What I've realized traveling with you is you are not

637
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 2: Type SO. I don't think you're as organized and prepared

638
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 2: as you. I think being prepared and stuff is Type A.

639
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 2: How I see Type A.

640
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 4: I don't think.

641
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 2: I'm not saying this is a negative thing too. I'm

642
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 2: I'm pleased to see the cracks in the the cracks

643
00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 2: in the floor.

644
00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 4: Yah, it's good. I feel like Robbie's like relaxed you

645
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 4: what not emotionally.

646
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 5: But I'm so Type A doesn't get more Type A

647
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:09,359
Speaker 5: than me.

648
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 4: Really, I think you.

649
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,959
Speaker 2: Envision yourself as Type A, and I think at one

650
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 2: point in your life you were more Type A. But

651
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 2: I don't think you are as much Type A anymore.

652
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 2: I'm not I again, this is not a negative thing

653
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 2: saying this as a complimented.

654
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 3: What traits do you have that are Type A.

655
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: I like to go to bed at the same time.

656
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 1: I like to eat the same things. I like to

657
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: have my routine. I like to be clean.

658
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: I like type is defined by ambition, drive, and competitiveness.

659
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 5: Oh interesting, Wow, you like routine. Yeah.

660
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, and I'm not that I've had that wrong

661
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: my whole life.

662
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 5: Read me it again.

663
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 3: A Type A personality is defined by ambition, drive, and competitiveness,

664
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 3: which can lead to a high level of success. They

665
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 3: can also be impatient, hostile, and have trouble relaxing.

666
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, all those things. I'm all those things, except not

667
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 5: super competitive.

668
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 3: Yes, one of the main thing. I think aggressive, ambitious, controlling.

669
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 5: All those things.

670
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 6: Type B is easy going, relaxed, and highly flexible.

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Speaker 4: No me, I think you're an in between. I think

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Speaker 4: you're like a B B plus A minus.

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Speaker 5: Thank you Type A minus you thinking.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm saying I don't think you. I don't think

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Speaker 2: you hit B. I think you're A minus whatever. The

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Speaker 2: lowest grade of A is ninety three your B Type B.

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 3: In relationships, type as take the lead. They want to

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Speaker 3: be dominant. They take the lead, planning days, deciding on activities,

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Speaker 3: that sort of thing.

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Speaker 5: You're not that, No, I'm not that, although they're.

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Speaker 3: Calling the family meetings every month. Seems kind of a

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Speaker 3: type a personality.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, c c, No, you have traits.

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Speaker 2: I just I said, at one point you were way

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Speaker 2: more type, and I feel like you've.

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Speaker 5: Relaxed a lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 1: Pre Robbie was a time she was meticulous, meticulous.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think a lot more people think they're

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Speaker 3: type than actually are type. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I agree. Yeah, my apartment used to look like a museum.

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Speaker 4: But Christina, her whole thing was dirty.

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Speaker 5: It was my gosh, you're right, even worse than me. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: she's such a Becca, you're right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 4: And that's all for now.

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Speaker 2: scrubbing into iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 1: You know, it was a fun little fact that I

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Speaker 1: realized after the crossover episode, because I always thought that

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Speaker 1: Camilla Luddington was more of a Becca and Jessica Capshaw

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Speaker 1: was more of a ton Yet, but it's actually opposite. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Jessica Capshaw's the Becca and Camilla is the tone.

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Speaker 3: I can see that now that I've listened to call

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Speaker 3: it what it is.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's a little fun fact. I'm going to

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Speaker 5: put that in my bike.

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Speaker 4: Just what that Camilla is a Tania, just her first name,

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Speaker 4: You're just c L.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well that's all for now, but we will

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Speaker 2: be back next week with more riveting content for you all,

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Speaker 2: and we can't wait.

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Speaker 5: Can't wait.

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Speaker 4: Love you so much.

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Speaker 6: Bite