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Speaker 1: Every American male has learned, like in the last ten

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Speaker 1: years that when a woman says no, she means no,

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean maybe, it means no. Right will pay attention, folks.

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Speaker 1: On Sunday, the News Analysis section of The New York

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Speaker 1: Times featured an article titled when saying yes he is

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Speaker 1: Easier than saying no. It's by Jessica Bennett, the Gender

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Speaker 1: editor of The New York Times. That is her actual title. Now.

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Speaker 1: She and her female friends have spoken with knowing nods

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Speaker 1: about the nuances of sexual interactions. Sometimes they say there's

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Speaker 1: a place of no return where having sex is easier

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Speaker 1: than bailing out. And she says that there are names

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Speaker 1: for this like gray zone sex, or begrudging consensual sex,

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Speaker 1: or lukewarm sex sex you're kind of about, meaning board apathetic,

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Speaker 1: and then there's bad sex because of how you feel afterwards.

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Speaker 1: But there's one passage I want to quote verbatim, She writes,

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Speaker 1: Consent isn't always black and white. Sometimes no means yes

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Speaker 1: because you actually do want to do it, but you

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Speaker 1: know you're not supposed to lest you be labeled a slut.

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Speaker 1: And if you're a man, that no often means just

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Speaker 1: try harder because you know, persuasion is part of the game.

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Speaker 1: This woman doesn't know it, but she's a throwback because

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Speaker 1: she's exactly right. In the old days, no, more often

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Speaker 1: than not did mean yes. It's called seduction, and you

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Speaker 1: might want to look it up in the dictionary if

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Speaker 1: you're offended right now. M