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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to the pod cast. I'm Caroline and

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Speaker 1: I'm Kristin Kristin. The other day we talked about masturbation

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Speaker 1: by the numbers, Who does it? How often? Everybody? All

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Speaker 1: the time? UM, But today we're going to talk more

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Speaker 1: about the health and relationship aspect of masturbation and how

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Speaker 1: it can be involved in those things. You know, is

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Speaker 1: it possible to masturbate too often and to hurt yourself

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Speaker 1: and hurt your relationships? Or can masturbation be more of

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Speaker 1: a vitamin a shot to the arm for a relationship. Yeah. Um,

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Speaker 1: And since since we want to, we like to end

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Speaker 1: things on high notes and stuff momentary told you, so

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Speaker 1: let's start with the bad news, such as specifically men

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Speaker 1: masturbating face down, face down right, Um, yeah, you can

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Speaker 1: masturbates face down by um, maybe thrusting too hard and

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Speaker 1: two sheets, pillows or even the floor. I actually ran

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Speaker 1: this by a couple of friends of mine, and a

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Speaker 1: had not even crossed their mind. They could not really comprehend.

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Speaker 1: I had one who was like, really had to think

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Speaker 1: we're in publicly stop you have to stop that. So well,

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Speaker 1: that's good to know, because since they had not been

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Speaker 1: habitually masturating face down, lowered their chances therefore of injuring

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Speaker 1: yearn to exit the penis not in a stream, but

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Speaker 1: in a hard to control spray. And Dr Barbara Bartlett,

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Speaker 1: City UH talked about men who have done this, like

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Speaker 1: could make using a urinal difficult. Um, It's not the

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Speaker 1: dysfunction possibly brought on by over simulation, which one doctor

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Speaker 1: And they recommend if this becomes a problem in your

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Speaker 1: Mayo Clinic three things, masturbation does not reduce your sperm count,

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Speaker 1: It does not affect your ability to achieve an erection,

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Speaker 1: And on top of all of this, masturbation is the

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Speaker 1: right right, And speaking of you mentioned toys, Caroline, and

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Speaker 1: this would be an excellent time to talk about vibrators

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Speaker 1: Alice at Columbia University. It's an excellent sex health resource online.

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Speaker 1: Using vibrators causes no long term risk of clitoral desensitization none. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: for sure. It also can relieve stress, tension, and in

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