WEBVTT - Crushing Hard with Annaliese Puccini 0:00:01.440 --> 0:00:04.960 I Suck At Dating with de Nungler, Jared Haven, and 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:11.960 I Heart Radio podcast. What's going on? Everyone? Welcome to 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:16.880 an all new episode of Help I Suck At Podcasting 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:19.920 with Dean Ungler, Jared Haven, and our new co host 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.360 this week, Analyze Puccini. She's been around for a while, 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:25.239 but we haven't heard from me in a while. Analyze, 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:27.440 how are you? I'm good. I think the last time 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:29.400 I talked to you, guys, I was in Maui, so 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:32.160 a lot's changed. Well, are you not in Hawaii anymore? 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.559 I'm not back in San Francisco. I have a new 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:39.280 puppy who you may hear in the background, little baby. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:45.400 What's the dog's name? Posey posy? Why posey? Uh? Like 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:47.240 pocket full of posies? I want to kind of like 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.520 an old fashioned name, and I don't know just fit. 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:52.239 I guess it's probably like I don't know if you 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:54.840 if you will, you guys found a name already, But 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:57.360 do you? Did you try out names for a while? 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:59.920 Like with the baby coming, were you like walking our 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.000 the house trying different names? Because I feel like that's 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:03.520 what I was doing. I was kind of like, oh, 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.960 maybe it's this today, and I'd try it for a 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:07.959 day and I'm like, that doesn't like fit. No, in 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:11.199 the most Ashley fashioned ever, She's had this name picked 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:13.160 out for a long time and I either was with 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.080 it or I was going to get with it, and 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:19.520 I was with it, luckily, So Dawson was like heard. 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:23.000 She wanted to Dawson boy, girl didn't matter, and I said, 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.119 I'd like it for a boy, and if it's a girl, 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:27.119 we might have to talk more. And it was a boy, 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:29.759 so it was Dawson, um And at least to your credit, 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:31.440 That's what Caitlin and I did when we got our 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:35.040 new puppy, Alistair. I knew right away I wanted him 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.520 name Alister. I knew like the second I saw him 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.640 that his name was Alistair. And Caitlin, for some reason, 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:43.479 wasn't really sold on the idea. So she would walk 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:46.240 around the house calling different names, and then she would 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:48.040 be like, all right, let's name him Alister. And then 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:49.880 like a day later she'd be like, no, let's name 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:52.880 him Lester, or let's name him Martin or something like. 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:54.400 Every day she would change your mind on it, and 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.160 then eventually I was like, look, we don't have to 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.240 name Alister, but we have to decide on the name 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:00.520 pretty soon, because we can't just go around every single 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:02.360 day of the dog's life calling him a different name, 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.800 and then eventually we settle on alistair. But so posey 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:07.480 is a good. Possy is good. It reminds me of 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:10.359 James Posey, who was a great basketball player for the 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.360 Denver Nuggets for a couple of years. So I'm all 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.400 on board with the name Posey for sure. I got 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:19.520 a question about posey. You said a pocket full of posey. 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:27.400 I mean, does that mean posies are a small bouquet 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:32.239 of flowers? The direction meaning of posies is full disclosure. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:36.959 I thought it was pocket full of roses. Isn't that 0:02:37.040 --> 0:02:39.600 nursery rhyme about like the bubonic plague or something like that. 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:41.480 It's something like that. I did like a ton of 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:42.760 research because I was like, I don't want to be 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:46.400 running around calling O posy and then uh, you know, yeah, 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.639 that's not or it's like somehow like a derogatory term 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:52.200 used back in like the seventeen hundreds or whatever it was, 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:54.960 exactly you never know these days. That's good. I did 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:57.799 the same thing with the word um oh. I can't 0:02:57.800 --> 0:02:59.760 remember what it was, but it was like it was 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:01.440 a that you believe all been using since we were 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.600 like six years old. And then I said it once, 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:05.400 like a week or two ago, and I was like, wow, 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:08.519 that word sounds really bad, and I googled it and 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:12.000 the first thing that came upen Google was all those 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:14.919 words sounds really bad. It's actually not, and I was like, oh, 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:17.720 thank goodness, that's really good. It was like nincompoop, but 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:19.880 it wasn't incompoop, but it was like something along those lines, 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:22.799 What a great name, what a great word. Maybe it 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:25.240 was maybe it was jankie. I think he was. Jankie 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.000 was the word, which which sounds like it could be, 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:29.720 but maybe maybe it's different word. I'm sorry, I only 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:33.480 said no. I'm in San Francisco and Buster Posey was 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:35.680 like all over the news when I first got her, 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:37.800 and so everyone was like, oh, you named d after 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:40.840 Buster Posey, which I mean maybe a little bit because 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.600 he's very beloved in San Francisco, so he was a 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:48.440 catcher for a while, right, uh something like that is 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:50.960 probably no, but yeah, he was like all over the 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:53.120 news and everyone loves him here. So every time I 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:56.040 say her name is Posy, they're like, oh, like Buster like, 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:58.240 if she has a brother, then we'll name him Buster. Maybe. 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:01.120 So okay, So I gotta ask, what, um, what made 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:04.560 you get out of Hawaii? Uh? So, island fever is 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:07.520 a real thing. I had no idea, but I came. 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:11.200 I left the island for like I'm supposed to be. 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.800 I think ten days ended up being like three weeks. 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:16.400 I was like, I don't really want to go back. 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.040 The thing I started realizing there is as much as 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:22.440 I loved the lifestyle and the weather and like surfing 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:26.000 and doing all the things, I just really felt like 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:29.560 there weren't enough opportunities for me there. And so just 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:31.640 like it, I don't know, it, just it felt right. 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:33.240 And then I came back and I spent time a 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:35.800 ton of time in Tahoe and um and being around 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.279 my family a lot again. And so I feel like, 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:39.960 right now this is just where I need to be. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:43.159 But I'm I'm a little wonder last. You guys know that. 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:46.120 So who knows where I'll be next, But I'm planning 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.159 my next big adventure. Yeah, well, you know, it's okay 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:50.760 to be wonder lost. It's okay to be lost. I 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.840 think we're meant to be a little bit lost. Um 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:54.520 so island fever. What you what you mean by that 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:57.680 is like you just kind of like you crave going 0:04:57.720 --> 0:04:59.800 back to like a bigger city. You you get stuck 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:01.840 in the monotony of the day to day island life. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.440 Like what exactly is island fever. It's the weirdest thing 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:06.480 because people would talk about it and I'm like, what, 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.880 There's no way I'm going to get that. This is 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.120 so beautiful and then just one day it hit and 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.680 I was like, get me off this island, Like it 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:17.040 just feels like it's the thing is so I like 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.279 to travel, and I like to be able to be mobile, 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.200 and like I like road trips and so being able 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.640 to get in the car and drive like an hour 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:28.920 and be someplace totally different, or drive a couple of 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:31.679 hours and be in a different state, Like on Mauie. 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.479 You could drive forty five minutes and you're like on 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.240 the other side of the island, you know what I mean, 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.359 and you're just you're like okay, and you sort of 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:40.320 and I'm not like down playing Mauie. Oh, I think 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.200 it's incredible and a wonderful place to Like I think 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:44.960 if I was raising a family, maybe it would be 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.600 a totally different story. But I was single and I 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:52.440 was like, I'm not meeting anyone. It's still a pandemic. 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:57.280 Like it just felt very you felt very locked in 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.600 and like you couldn't. That feeling of not being able 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:02.960 to leave just makes you all of a sudden be like, 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:04.960 oh my gosh, I'm itching. I got I have to 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.560 get off. I feel like it's similar to like growing 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.440 up an aspen, where a lot of the people that 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.640 you meet that you can like potentially be romantic with 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.080 um are like they're on vacation and they're not there 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.920 for like a permanent amount of time, so it's hard 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:17.039 to like form a connection with them. So I can 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:20.080 definitely understand where you're coming from. Well, two things come 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.880 to mind, because you said interestingly enough that if you 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.480 were raising a family, you'd stay in Maui, which I 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:27.800 feel like it's a complete opposite at least in my mind. 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:31.719 Don't people go to Hawaii when they're single? I because 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:35.039 I guess the second thing was this is definitely stereotypical. 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:37.120 But when I think of people moving to Hawaii, I 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:39.279 think of just Paul Rudd from Forgetting Sara Marshall, And 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:43.359 that is your future right there. You don't it's Jason Siegel. 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:46.080 Come on, no, it's Paul Rudd. He's the one who 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:49.960 lives in Hawaii. Starstructor, right, but Jason Siegel is the 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.719 one that's visiting Hawaii. Yeah, but when when someone moves 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.000 to Hawaii, I think of Paul Rudd where he's like, 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:56.760 I don't even wear a watch anymore. On here, bro, 0:06:57.240 --> 0:07:01.440 it's on my cell phone. Yeah. I was Jason Segel 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:05.719 going to Mary acent. That was my storyline. Basically, I 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.360 went post breakup and then he ended up showing up 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:12.000 with his new girlfriend. So I was I was him, 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.240 but but then I needed to get back and find 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:18.280 my malacunas though we're still working on that. But so 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.400 update us then on your on your romantic situation, because 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.080 last we talked to you, you were you were dating 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:28.880 a guy in Hawaii. I thought, I mean, yeah, I've dated. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:30.920 I would say, like the last couple of years. I 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:32.880 just I kind of keep my private life a little 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.360 bit more private these days. Um, but you know, I 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:40.000 dated somebody for like six months and then it's just 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:42.640 life is still I feel like it's still really crazy. 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:46.240 So um, and especially because I'm a mobile person, it's 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:48.440 sometimes hard to find somebody who's just like in the 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:51.640 same place at the same time as I. Um so 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.640 that was part of the problem. He was he's a 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.240 little bit of that personality type too, and so he 0:07:56.400 --> 0:07:59.040 moved back to South Africa. So like, so, I feel 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:02.960 like it's you know, it's just tricky. But what do 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:05.280 you mean You're you're mobile, Like you always want to 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:06.560 be on the move. You never want to be stuck 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:09.680 in one place kind of. Yeah, I like the idea 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:13.640 of having a base, Like so San Francisco is my base, 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.760 but I love the idea of being able to travel 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.680 most of the time, and I try. I try to 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.360 do that as much as possible, and I think I'm 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.720 pretty good at like having a balance between being with 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:27.240 my family and being stationary in San Francisco, but then 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:30.320 also going to Tahobe in l A, going to MAUI, 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.360 going to Europe, like I try to do as much 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.240 as I can. But I feel like, Dean, you do 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.400 that really well actually too, Yeah, I was. I was 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.440 going to say, exactly what you're describing is exactly how 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.120 Caitlin and I have worked out, too, And it's great, 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.439 it's perfect. You can I'm in Las Vegas for a 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.120 couple of days, and then I got to leave for 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:45.599 a couple of weeks, come back to Vegas for a 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:49.720 couple of days. You know, it's I became friends with Um. 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.240 I don't know if you're familiar with the bucket List family, 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:54.920 I'm familiar with them. Yeah yeah, so um so I'm 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:56.959 friends with them. And they actually lived in the same 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.120 town as me and Mawi. So um they helped to 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:04.080 me move into my place. Like they're awesome, but um, 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.440 but yeah, I love their lifestyle. Like I look at 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:08.520 them and they're just goals to me. And that's I 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:11.440 guess when I'm saying to raise a family there. What 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:14.320 I loved about Maui was it's safe. You're in nature, 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:18.160 You're you're you're exposing your kids not to like sitting 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:20.440 in front of a TV, but instead like going surfing 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:24.520 or going hiking or skateboarding or whatever, and you're just 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:28.160 soaking up that sun. And um, getting to know people 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:30.360 like your community is very different there. I felt like 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:32.839 such a sense of community in Maui, more than I 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.760 ever have anywhere in my life. How did you end 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.439 up meeting the Buckless family? So funny story. I met 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:44.760 Jessica on a plane like super she was. She was 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:47.920 first class and I was not. I was flying from 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:51.719 Arizona back to San Francisco and she was. I passed her, 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:54.080 but I didn't, like I had been recognized on planes before, 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:56.079 and it's really uncomfortable because then you're like on the 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:58.079 plane the whole time, everyone's like who is she? Who 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:00.600 is she? And You're like, I have nobody. Um so 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:02.360 he was. I didn't want to make a scene about it, 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:06.359 so I messaged her on Instagram and I was like, hey, uh, 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:08.280 I'm on the same plane as you. I would love 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:09.720 to stay high at the end of this plane. And 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:12.880 she was. She waited for me and we said hi 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:15.360 to each other. And she had been like following me 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.280 and I, you know, so like she was familiar with 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:20.839 who I was. But but anyways, and then we just 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.760 became friends from there. And that's like the beauty about 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:26.240 social media is just you you can meet people from 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.480 all walks of life and get connected to people. But 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:30.320 then she was so sweet, Like I had to quarantine 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:32.840 for two weeks in my house on Mallie and she 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:35.280 would come to my driveway and just wave to me 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.160 because her leave and and uh, and give me a 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:40.720 little like visits from the sidewalk, and then she helped 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.280 me move to my apartment that I was in for 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:45.040 the majority of my my stay there. And yeah, I 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:48.240 surfed with Garrett and they're just an awesome family. I 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:50.679 love them nice. They must be Uh, she must be 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:52.600 a Bachelor fan or something, because I remember that she 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:54.440 messaged me once a long time ago and I was like, whoa, 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.959 this person seems like she's living the best life ever. 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:00.520 They are They were like way more. I can't remember 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.240 what season was going on, but I remember they invited 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:04.520 me to come watch it one night and I was 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:10.320 nice watching this season. Yeah, but yeah, no there and 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.680 it's like there's just such a community there that they've built. 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:15.760 And so it was really nice to be friends with 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.679 them because I feel like they were my first friends 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:21.199 that then introduced me to a lot of other friends there. 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:22.880 So I was I mean, I was so grateful that 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:24.400 I had them on now. They were the only people 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.360 I knew going there, Like, yeah, what part of Mowe 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:31.080 did you live in? Uh? So we are on the 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:35.400 North Shore in PA. Yeah, I know where that is. 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.080 We we went out there for a wedding a year 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:41.000 and a half ago, and you know, like the airports 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:44.200 I think on the eastern side of the island, and 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.080 we were staying at a resort on the western side, 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.240 and there was a big brush fire like right in 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.839 the middle of the island and there's only like two 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:52.679 there's a road up north in a road down south, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:55.199 and both of those roads were closed because of the fire. 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:58.040 And so we like we're on the highway for like 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:00.640 seven hours and like you said earlier, forty minutes to 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.720 get from one time to the other. It was the worst, 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:04.880 and like we were looking up to like like you 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.120 wanted to like at a hotel, but since everyone else 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:08.880 is getting stuck, all the hotels were booked, so we 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:10.439 just like slept in our car on the side of 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:13.240 the highway. It was absolutely miserable. But other than that, 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:16.800 Maui was absolutely beautiful. Um. But we're going back actually 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:18.880 in a couple of months for a wedding, and if 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:20.640 you have any recommendations at some point, you're gonna have 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:22.800 to pass them along to me. Yeah. I actually might 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:25.640 be back in a couple of months too. I'm doing 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:27.840 a choper a certification course right now to be on 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:31.679 the choper Court coach and they're doing a big retreat there, 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.160 and so I'm like, oh, I might have to go. 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:38.880 You're telling me Panka Chopra has her own course deep Chopra. Oh, 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:44.480 Deepak Chopra. That would be pretty funny. I yeah, that's 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:48.160 your name, right, is what is Deepak Chopra? Feel listen 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:52.600 on that a little bit? Like meditation? Uh you Veda 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:57.199 there's yeah, it's it's really interesting stuff. I'm like, still, 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:01.080 I feel like I feel like I need I need 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:04.200 a tutor though, because I'm really about at all the terminology. 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:10.040 But but like the meditation, mindfulness, like better sleep, eating better, 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:12.600 like all that, all that sort of stuff, nice stuff 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:15.400 that we all could use. I feel like, yeah, it's 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:17.400 a good thing to having your back pockets. I was 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.160 thinking about that today, eating better, because I had a 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:22.760 coffee roll from Duncan. We got a coffee and then 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.280 I also got a coffee roll because it looked very glazy, 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.199 and I was in the mood and I was thinking 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:30.880 about how I've been eating unhealthier as I've been working 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:32.480 more at the coffee shop, and it's only going to 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.480 progressively get worse now that I'm a dad and I'll 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:39.800 be eating probably frozen mac and cheese for my foresuvable future. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:43.559 And that's all that was my thought right there. I 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:45.480 gotta get back, I gotta get back into eating healthy 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:47.440 and meditating. And it's very good that you're getting your 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:49.400 license to there. But we are dating podcast, and I 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:51.439 know you're gonna keep your private life a little bit 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:54.079 more private and at last, but I do have to ask, 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:57.400 what's the biggest difference between dating in Hawaii and dating 0:13:57.400 --> 0:13:59.680 in San Francisco? Is there a difference? Do you find 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:03.240 that men are different in each city? Well, now there 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:06.520 is just no inventory where it was like I had 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:11.520 to go like that. That was really yeah, no, because 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:14.680 everyone is families there, or they're in relationships. Like you 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:16.560 were saying, like you think of it being a single place, 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.960 it's a really big like honeymoon spot. It's a great 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.640 place for people to go as like a couple. So 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:24.360 um so a lot of people are in relationships already, 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:26.640 So there just weren't that many single people. Are there 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:30.360 other places in Hawaii that notoriously are known for being 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:35.280 much more single oriented. I'm not sure, but if there were, 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:36.920 I probably should have done my research and gown to 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:40.040 one of those beautiful. I bet you like why Kiki 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:45.880 and Honolulu are yea why Kiki just sounds like it 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:51.040 should be single? Yeah, like, yeah, it's definitely sexy. Yeah. 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:54.080 I mean in San Francisco, I just feel like I 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.400 have options, you know, and and it's I don't know, 0:14:57.480 --> 0:14:59.080 I feel like it's easier to meet people and just 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:02.360 have like a coffee date and put less pressure on 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.480 it than in Mali. I was like, there's if I 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:07.120 met somebody, I think I had more expectations of like 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.000 I want this to go someplace because I'm like, you're 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:12.720 you're kind of cool, and I haven't really met anyone 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.480 else in a long time, Whereas now I'm like, okay, 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:18.760 you're cool, but onto the next whatever, you know. Um, 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:20.360 but no, I've met a really like a lot of 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.880 really great people, and I mean I'm like talking to 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:27.320 people and things are good. So um, no complaints there, 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:31.800 but but I haven't found I know, like in a relationship, 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:35.120 let's found the guy. Yeah. You know what you how 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.280 to do, analyst is uh sign up prayer. Bachelor in 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:41.880 Paradise season eight. You know, I always think about you, Deane, 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:46.360 because that like since I did the last Bachelor in Paradise. 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:49.000 I'm like, no, never again, and I feel like that 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:51.520 was totally you where you went on and met Kalin. 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:54.680 I'm like, not a shot in hell. But then I 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:56.240 was thinking about it, I'm like, it is still a 0:15:56.280 --> 0:16:00.760 pandemic and dating now sucks, so I would maybe have 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:03.120 to reconsider if it was off. I'll tell you why 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:06.560 you should reconsider. And this goes for everyone involved with 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.160 something like this, where the first couple of times you know, 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.480 you do it and you're excited and you want to 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:14.000 meet someone and you're trying really hard, and then eventually 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:15.640 you're just like, screw it, I don't want to go. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.080 And then maybe that you get to the point we're like, okay, fine, 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:20.000 I'll go, but I'm not gonna like care at all. 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:22.280 I'm not gonna try hard. And that's really what sets 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:24.400 you over there, Like that's what really sets you up 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.320 for success. In my opinion, especially when it comes to 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.000 this show, is like the less you care, the more 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.400 likely it is to end well for you for so 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.480 many reasons, because like, you're not gonna be trying hard, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.280 You're not gonna be trying to force anything. You're like 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:39.920 energy will naturally like bring people towards you, because you're 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:41.800 probably like one of the few people there that like 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:44.880 isn't super high strung the entire time. So I just wouldn't. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:46.800 I would say, don't count it out. But when you 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:50.080 ultimately make the decision, I want you to be grudgingly 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.200 accept and like go into it with that attitude, you know, 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:55.440 like I don't need to be here, Why am I here? 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:59.240 And then sure enough it's gonna work out perfectly. I 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:01.840 think that's how it have to be. Like I'm not 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:04.160 going to go in right at this moment. I wouldn't 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:06.639 be going in like oh my god, I'm so excited. 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.080 I'd be like, oh my god, I'm doing this again. Okay, 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:12.760 we'll see. If anything happens, anything comes from it, so 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:14.440 be it. But I mean I think it would happen 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:15.879 if I went on, though, it would have to be 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:19.040 somebody from like such an old, old old season that 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:20.760 like nobody knows about. You know what I mean, that 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:24.399 they just dug out of out of the earth. Is 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:27.320 there is there no new contestants that have sparked your 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:30.080 eye recently? I don't. I mean, I have not been 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:35.000 keeping up as much as maybe I should, But you know, 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:37.679 there's I don't know. Come on, now's your chance. Now, 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:39.520 time to get it out there, time to get an 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:42.760 US Weekly article written about Analys and some prospective suitor 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:46.520 of hers. Uh no, there's I mean no, there's some 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:50.360 really great guys and Bachelor Nation. I'll say that, but 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:52.600 but I don't know. I think it's so hard because 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:56.320 until you actually like meet any of these people, it's 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.200 just you see them on TV, we have our edits 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:02.080 and you or you see them like on social media, 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:04.960 and you just get vibes from people um, good, bad 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:07.159 or in different So until you actually like meet them 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.560 in person and see if there's that chemistry, then I 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:12.879 don't know. For me, it's hard. Like I've had in 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:15.159 the pastor I've seen people, Oh I have such a 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:17.240 crush on that person, but there's nobody that I'm like 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:19.919 crushing on. And can we just talk about crushes. I 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:23.320 miss having crushes, like I think crushes are the most 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:26.119 fun thing. Do you guys stop crushes on your ladies? 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:32.600 I was waiting for you. I guess it depends on 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:37.959 your definition of a crush. That was a cop out answer. Yeah, 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:40.639 I mean there are definitely times I still have a 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:43.520 crush on Ashley, Like upstairs, I was just putting together 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:47.119 the changing table and she came up and gave me 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:49.280 a hug, and she gave and then she gave me 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:52.600