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Speaker 2: Dude, sugar daddy gotta provide.

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Speaker 1: I mail twenty eight, broke up with my then girlfriend

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Speaker 1: throughout my relationship with my ex, I always paid for dates,

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Speaker 2: She lived about one zero.

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Speaker 1: Point seventy five hours away and had a nicer car

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Speaker 1: than me. I'd always pick her up and drop her off.

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Speaker 1: I don't mind doing these things at all. Matter of fact,

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Speaker 2: I might not be a smart man, but I know

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Speaker 2: what love he is. Hope he loves to provide. That's

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Speaker 2: why he's riding. A whole Reddit post about this, speaking of.

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Speaker 1: Which I love Throa and I broke on the art

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Speaker 1: the story Hurrah. Things became tricky when she came to

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Speaker 1: She told me she expected me to start contributing to

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Speaker 1: her bills, such as her phone bill, her nails.

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Speaker 2: In her hair. Wait, that's crazy. Phone bills, that's a

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Speaker 2: little bit, a little bit too much. But that's not all.

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Speaker 2: And that's not all.

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Speaker 1: She also requested that I pay for her special cosmetic

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Speaker 2: That's ridiculous. Although I've heard this argument, it's like, you

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Speaker 2: want me to look pretty for you, don't you. It

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Speaker 2: Boom boo. I'm just saying, correct, do you spend all

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Speaker 2: We don't need.

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Speaker 1: We don't need any other extra. My my wallet is

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Speaker 1: still fat. So there you go. Take do with that

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Speaker 1: as you will. When we had this conversation the first time,

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Speaker 1: it hit me like a truck. I thought I was

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Speaker 1: At some point she told me that the men she

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Speaker 2: Okay, they go back to him, back to them.

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Speaker 1: She wasn't lying about it. I saw the receipts. One

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how did he How did he give the sheets?

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Speaker 1: One of them even took her on a vacation. I

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Speaker 2: Her bro I hate that. I hate the manipulation is crazy.

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Speaker 1: So just yeah, you're completely not saying that. You know,

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Speaker 1: gift giving is a love language and is great, but

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Speaker 1: and just like, no, this is how it is.

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Speaker 2: And also, I mean, if you really want to play

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Speaker 2: the game, well you don't be too heavy handed with it,

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Speaker 2: you know, you just like like make slight suggestions and

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Speaker 2: maybe he'll get you more stuff. But now that you're

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Speaker 2: demanding it, you're gonna lose it. All. Well, you're a

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Speaker 1: She's like, I'm a year in and he's still not

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Speaker 1: buying me some chanel number five.

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Speaker 2: Lay the hammer.

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Speaker 3: You gotta ease into this. It does He's like, all right,

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Speaker 3: we don't go from one hundred to zero.

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Speaker 1: We go we stair stuck. Come on, baby, no, no

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Speaker 1: nuclear bomb. Go give me your credit card. I'm buying

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Speaker 1: a sport social Security number on the first date right now.

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Speaker 1: It Wait, how much is Chanel number five or probably expensive?

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Speaker 3: It shows that you've never bonden that for a single

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Speaker 2: Your wallet will thank you, right. She made me extremely

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Speaker 1: In the head game, to come on, what head game

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Speaker 1: are we talking about? Like crazy like like crazy by

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Speaker 1: No, woman had had as much of it, had made

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Speaker 2: I don't believe it, dude. She's like, yeah, I'll accept

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Speaker 2: Dude. Because of this, also, I am just getting the lyrics.

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Speaker 2: It's Britney Beach says, she takes my money when I'm

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Speaker 1: Because of this, I started to resent going on dates

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Speaker 2: She's not going to compromise on that. Come on, dude,

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Speaker 2: She's not going to compromise. And she's she's accustomed to

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Speaker 2: I hate this. I hate this.

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Speaker 1: I'm not the type of man to indulge in luxury myself.

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Speaker 1: I'm super simple. And I felt like I couldn't keep

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Speaker 1: My insecurities got worse and worse, and at this point,

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Speaker 1: I'd be treated even better, and that I was being

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Speaker 1: they're they're so great and everything else, but this one thing, but.

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Speaker 2: my god, he's so great. He just like murders people

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Speaker 2: on the weekend. But besides that, amazing, it's so peachy,

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Speaker 2: Yes. Wow. Was when she asked for no a nose job. No,

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Speaker 1: I told her I couldn't afford him, and she said

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Speaker 2: jobs I think are covered by insurance a little bit,

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Speaker 2: could go out here bird vibes. Yeah, dude, bird vibes, great,

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Speaker 2: bird vibe. I could just like, now you can really

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Speaker 2: look like a pigeon. Yeah, that's all part of my

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Speaker 2: plan to become a pigeon. Wow. But I think insurance

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Speaker 2: covers some of it. If if you have a deviated septim.

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Speaker 2: So at this point I told her that I had

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Speaker 1: We were on and off for a few weeks, bad

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Speaker 2: What do you mean more common? Like this is a

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Speaker 2: What do you mean more common?

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Speaker 1: I do feel that there is There was the like

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Speaker 2: What a concept? And now there is you know, like

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Speaker 1: Just like sugar sugar babying feels like it's it's on

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Speaker 2: Now, oh, sugar babying. But like the sugar babying vibes

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Speaker 2: are like permeating. Yeah, but I guess I guess. I

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Speaker 2: guess like sugar babying, like softcore prostitution is becoming like

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Speaker 2: I it is that not a little like it's like

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Speaker 1: Know men enjoy taking care of the women papering them,

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Speaker 1: and that some of them really go out of the

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Speaker 1: I hear some men say that it's harder for women

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Speaker 2: Well, then that's not a good partnership for you. Exactly right, exactly,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's still more, Okay, there isn't that. I did

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Speaker 1: weren't any cultural differences. I got my credit card back

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Speaker 2: You gave her your credit card, bro that's terrifying. Red

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Speaker 1: I feel like she's basically like, I can't get any more.

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Speaker 2: Your credit's not good enough. Yeah, yeah, right. I want

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Speaker 1: Yeah credit card, not platinum. You take your black card

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Speaker 1: You need therapy, my guy. I don't intend to date

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Speaker 1: Time for okop rewam. My baby called my wife's work

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Speaker 2: He's been spending a little bit too much time around

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Speaker 2: the old wife from a home but maybe it's bone

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Speaker 2: from a home without god remote boning ooh good, gravy.

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Speaker 2: Turn the camera on, Poppy. I want this zoom meeting recorded.

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Speaker 2: Industry beat it, Oh God, transcribe it.

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Speaker 1: It's just like a a oh oh violation.

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Speaker 2: Yep, this is this is This looks like a saucy one. Guys.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so I don't really want to come across as

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Speaker 1: that one controlling guy that cuts off his wife from

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Speaker 2: But I am going to do it. No, I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be fucking inside.

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Speaker 1: But I've just witnessed something I can't look past. My

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Speaker 2: It's sad man, you know.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, he's always over at my house and I just

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Speaker 1: heard my son call that man dadda shit road. Not

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Speaker 1: only is he stealing your wife, he's in your kid too.

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Speaker 1: What would you what would you do? Oh man trying

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Speaker 1: to feel sad? I would feel sad for sure. I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I would probably if he's if he can't,

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Speaker 1: I want to be the dad, Like could he like

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Speaker 2: Maybe you're just terrible father. Maybe that's what it is.

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Speaker 2: If he he definitely ideally needs to be spending more

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Speaker 1: My wife did nothing but laugh, Oh, just twist the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, beat the ship out of it. Who my kid

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Speaker 4: calls dada? I'm the daddy now. So I watched this

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Speaker 2: Learn from your old man, say it, daddy.

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Speaker 1: You know he got he gotta say data. This makes

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Speaker 1: me think that my wife has been talking badly about

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Speaker 2: Has like a history of being aggressive.

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Speaker 1: I feel there's so much going on and like each

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Speaker 2: A lot happening.

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Speaker 1: I've been married to her for almost three years now,

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Speaker 2: But like, also, like what is there Like I'm not

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Speaker 2: I'm not like I'm not defending anyone or anything, but

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Speaker 2: like what is there to stick up about? How dare you?

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Speaker 2: How you you like like like like like what would

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Speaker 2: what would you want her to say, like like discipline

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Speaker 1: Probably not laugh in his face. I feel like that's

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Speaker 1: the only thing that was like what would you what

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, just like honestly, laughing is like

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Speaker 1: Do, yeah, because then that kind of takes the like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like what you do? Would you be like, Oh,

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Speaker 2: I can't believe he said that. I'm so sorry, Like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely OPI is like highly oversensitive about him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It's a it's a situation that sucks. But you can't

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's over too much. I don't know, but you

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know how to feel we

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Speaker 1: I feel like he's spending more time with my son

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Speaker 1: He's constantly there doing something with my son, and my

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Speaker 1: Sand, which is come on, I'm busy not parent to

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Speaker 2: I think you honestly could ask like, go, could you

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Speaker 1: Because like that's what I feel like, not even the

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Speaker 2: So that's the angle I would take.

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Speaker 1: I would be like, look, man, like I'm just coming home,

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Speaker 2: Can that's a good give me some space? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Also, it's really hard to like huddle with my wife

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Speaker 1: Way, you know, I can only go through the back door,

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Speaker 1: and it's like it's already you know, you know I

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Speaker 1: It's really tough. It's really tough for the opis.

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Speaker 2: Now my wife is pregnant again. Okay, maybe you could

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Speaker 2: get it right the second time.

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Speaker 1: And I've told her I've been thinking of cutting my

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Speaker 1: hours because I want to be there for my kids.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, so that's actually great, which seems great, but

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Speaker 2: she threw a fit because she needs the money so

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Speaker 2: she can stay home with the kids because that's better

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Speaker 2: for them. Yo, I don't know. I would say that

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Speaker 2: that's yeast part.

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Speaker 1: That's that's a little that's kind of crazy, dude, that's

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Speaker 1: kind of harsh.

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Speaker 2: I mean it's his kid too.

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Speaker 1: He's literally like like it works out because he can

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Speaker 1: be there like you're there, so that way there's someone

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Speaker 1: watching him. He's going to be there more often so

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Speaker 1: you don't even have to watch him.

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, I don't know. Like parenting, I believe parent

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Speaker 2: like like like I believe in co parenting. I think

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Speaker 2: like both kids, both parents should be there for their

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Speaker 2: kid as much as they would want to and like

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Speaker 2: to take that away from the dad seems say kind

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Speaker 2: of fucked.

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Speaker 1: I believe in inequality. Believe inequality. Ah, yes, I'm joking here. First,

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Speaker 1: I hear some of the ship he's saying.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, when the mi are off, Sean goes off. I'm kidding,

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Speaker 2: by the way, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 1: They're just gonna be like like the uh the secret

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Speaker 1: recordings of John from OKOP.

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Speaker 2: And they're just gonna release all the It's gonna be

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Speaker 2: like water. Yeah. I just want my kids to bond

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Speaker 2: with me and not that man.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't seem to understand that parenting is a team yes,

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Speaker 1: and it's almost like she doesn't want me to be involved.

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Speaker 1: This has just made me realize that I need to

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Speaker 1: be more involved than her guy best friend is, and

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to peacefully go about that. Any advice. Well,

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Speaker 1: first off, y'all need to give him some advice. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: please throw in the comments.

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Speaker 2: Throw it in there. And if you think like op

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Speaker 2: or or the wife or or anyone as the a.

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Speaker 1: Hole, where has this situation happened to you? You let

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Speaker 1: us stories in there where we've been reading a bunch

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Speaker 1: of them. Yeah, And it's also like everyone like like

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Speaker 1: reads and responds them in the comments is awesome.

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Speaker 2: But Okay, I think like I don't. I don't think

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Speaker 2: he actually is in the wrong, like op, he's in

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Speaker 2: the wrong at all. I think they and I don't

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Speaker 2: think the friend is necessarily in the wrong at all

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Speaker 2: because the boundaries haven't been made them. I think the

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Speaker 2: only person that's like definitely the a hole here is

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Speaker 2: the wife for really only for not letting the guy

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Speaker 2: be with his sons. Literally, she was like, you can't

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Speaker 2: watch him because I'm better for them. It's like that's

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Speaker 2: so shitty. What that's a that's terrible.

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Speaker 1: So I would I would be like, I mean, I

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Speaker 1: would just I would cut your it's it's it's your

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Speaker 1: kids too.

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Speaker 2: I would.

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Speaker 1: I would, I would have another conversation with your wife,

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Speaker 1: but like with the intention like I need to spend

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Speaker 1: time with my kids, I'm going to cut my hours.

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Speaker 2: Or you just straight you know it.

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Speaker 1: You go up to the to the to the guy

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Speaker 1: and you're like, I'm marry you know, I'm gonna.

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Speaker 2: Have taken the kids, or or you be like, yo,

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Speaker 2: if you're gonna be here all the time, you gotta

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Speaker 2: pay rent and start taking care of the kids. You

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Speaker 2: gotta you gotta put some some some money up, baby.

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Speaker 1: Go the straight the straight like uh uh. Eviction like

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Speaker 1: high school eviction story style like pay reent, you're.

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Speaker 2: Let me know what you think. Put in the comments today.

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Speaker 1: Fed up by finding my chemistry test online and getting

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: My lazy teacher said, I cheated. Okayop, this is Okayop.

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Speaker 2: I'm Samuel Lanner and I'm John Fry and we tell

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Speaker 2: the funniest stories on the Internet.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, And Samuel, I have to ask you, what

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Speaker 1: is like the best instance of you cheating, like finding

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Speaker 1: something online or like just somehow like cheating your way

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Speaker 1: through something in school?

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Speaker 2: The system to So, we used to have test banks

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Speaker 2: at UCLA, right, and there was this one professor that

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Speaker 2: literally was ridiculously old senile had checked out of the

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Speaker 2: universe like twenty years ago and did not change any

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Speaker 2: of his tests ever. And so when I went to

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Speaker 2: the test bank and like would pull tests from two thousand,

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Speaker 2: the test would be the exact same as the ones

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Speaker 2: he would give. So all I would do is just

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Speaker 2: like he changes the numbers. Basically, so I do is

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Speaker 2: I would just do that test, remember all the answers

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Speaker 2: and the formulas that I would need, and then I

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Speaker 2: would ace those tests, those engineering tests when I went

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Speaker 2: around to them. That is, it's just beautiful when you

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Speaker 2: have the answers just right. Yeah, but it's also like, dude,

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Speaker 2: those teachers are so lazy.

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Speaker 1: Bro.

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Speaker 2: Students talk, and if someone finds the test, the whole

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Speaker 2: class is going to find the test.

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Speaker 1: Well, Samuel, I have another story of someone having a

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Speaker 1: chance of luck and also being accused of doing nefarious deeds.

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Speaker 2: Oh geez, let's hear it. Let's do it today.

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Speaker 1: I fed up by finding my chemistry test online and

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Speaker 1: getting one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: My lazy teacher said, I cheated. You didn't cheat if

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Speaker 2: you found the test online and then got one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: Hey, come on, unless those were against the rules. But well,

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Speaker 1: I guess we'll see.

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Speaker 2: We're about to find out. So this happened just now.

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Speaker 1: My chemistry teacher had the bright idea to let students

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Speaker 1: use quote anything except our friends and laptops during our

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Speaker 1: final unit exam today, which that's always great.

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Speaker 3: One.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love the open book open note tests, open

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Speaker 2: book baby ooh. I love them, and as can be

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Speaker 2: expected from someone as bad as is me, by as,

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Speaker 2: I took it a little bit too far. Oh no, few,

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Speaker 2: what did you do?

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Speaker 1: Her intention was to allow students to use the textbooks

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Speaker 1: and their notes to solve the problems. I'm in junior

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Speaker 1: high school taking a college level chemistry course. To throw

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Speaker 1: us a bone after a really really tough units, so

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Speaker 1: what did I do as part of my resources? I

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Speaker 1: decided to bring a second test with answers already on

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Speaker 1: it from the web, thinking that the types of questions

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Speaker 1: asked were likely to be similar and I would have

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Speaker 1: a better idea of what to do.

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Speaker 2: But super smart, like, that's exactly what you should do.

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Speaker 2: You should look at similar tests and take them and

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Speaker 2: then eventually, you know, maybe those questions will be similar

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Speaker 2: and you'll get a good grade.

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Speaker 1: Which is a common studying thing. It's like, hey, you

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Speaker 1: have like like test, you know, quizzes and stuff with.

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Speaker 2: Answer to practice tests.

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Speaker 1: That's literally Unfortunately I did not expect my chemistry teacher

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Speaker 1: to be as lazy as she is.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, what did the chemistry teacher do? As she

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Speaker 2: handed out the test?

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Speaker 1: I realized something she had exactly the same test that

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Speaker 1: I had.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you could can't you just feel better

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Speaker 2: than google in it?

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Speaker 1: Apparently no, she had literally just googled the name of

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Speaker 1: her course, found the test, printed it, and handed it out.

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Speaker 2: Dumb God, I love it.

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Speaker 1: All I had to do was copy the answers from

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Speaker 1: my already filled in test, finishing miles before everyone else,

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Speaker 1: giving me the rest of the period free.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, do not fit you. If you got the

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Speaker 2: keys to the kingdom, make sure the keys are are

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Speaker 2: under wraps and you don't like go like, hey, I

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Speaker 2: got the keys of the Kingdom, I'm getting in super quick.

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Speaker 2: You gotta cover your tracks. You gotta make sure you

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Speaker 2: finish with the rest of them.

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Speaker 1: If someone gives you a free Porsche, you pretend to

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Speaker 1: fill out the paperwork, okay, like you you cannot just

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Speaker 1: like take off so easy and leave yourself Yet, why suspicious?

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Speaker 1: So far the story sounds great. As I handed it in,

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Speaker 1: she asked if she could see my resources. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: and in the resources is the test from Google. My

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Speaker 1: face froze, the silence became louder and louder.

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Speaker 2: In my ears, time slowed jow.

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Speaker 1: She took my packet from my unmoving hands, leafed through it,

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Speaker 1: and looked at me straight in the face.

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Speaker 2: Hmmm.

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Speaker 1: Five seconds later, everyone's test is gone and I'm ushered

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Speaker 1: to the principal's office.

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Speaker 2: But why why? I mean, the teacher said you could

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Speaker 2: use anything but your laptop or your friend. There was

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Speaker 2: no laptop or friend. As far as I'm aware, I.

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Speaker 1: Think it was fine by virtue of the fact that

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Speaker 1: I am on Reddit, I'm already unpopular. Oh, you're popular

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Speaker 1: in the okop community.

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Speaker 2: You're about to. Yeah, if you want to be really popular,

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Speaker 2: join our discord, joined our Patreon, join our discord. There'll

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Speaker 2: be other people in the reddit community that will support you.

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Speaker 2: Everyone will love you.

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Speaker 1: By the way, we did have our first OP ever

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Speaker 1: respond to one of our stories. Wait really yeah, the

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Speaker 1: creepy client with the art. I reached out to them

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Speaker 1: to see a full come on the show so TVD but.

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Speaker 2: I was sick. That was awesome. That's amazing.

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Speaker 1: So we will see what happens to my social life now. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I feel for you.

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Speaker 2: OP.

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Speaker 1: Sitting here waiting for her to come back from lunch

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Speaker 1: updates to come, and.

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Speaker 2: Here is what happened. The update. They update.

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Speaker 1: The principal came back and we talked. The teacher said

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Speaker 1: that I went beyond the bounds of what twas acceptable.

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Speaker 2: What no, no no no no no no no no. What

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Speaker 2: you said was acceptable is you could use anything by

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Speaker 2: your laptop or your friend. It sounds like it was

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Speaker 2: very within the bounds.

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Speaker 1: She used a piece of paper, Therefore the contract is intact.

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Speaker 1: She said that it was unfair for me to get

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent and that.

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Speaker 2: I should be punished.

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Speaker 1: After arguing for a while, it has been decided that

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Speaker 1: I am not in trouble and my parents won't be contacted,

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Speaker 1: day and anything.

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Speaker 2: That teacher should be in trouble for not making the

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Speaker 2: test for real.

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Speaker 1: That being said, the teacher was violating school rules and

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Speaker 1: as a result, everyone had to retake the test without

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Speaker 1: any resources.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I probably made Op even less popular.

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00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 1: Yeah that's uh, I would say the lost kind of

641
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: outways of the win on this one.

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00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, Oh no, Op joined our discord. So join the discord.

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Speaker 1: We will give you the love and acceptance and open

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00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 1: arms that that you might be looking for after this.

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00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: At this point, no one is talking to me. Everyone

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00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 1: hates me and was looking forward to an easy grade.

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Speaker 1: The unpopular guy just became even more unpopular. Hopefully she

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Speaker 1: won't just google the next test. What a great day everyone.

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00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 2: Oh I feel bad for o P. Yeah yeah, that's

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Speaker 2: rough man, Like.

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Speaker 1: You come in thinking like okay here, Like he actually

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Speaker 1: didn't have the intention of cheating.

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Speaker 2: That No, that's true. Thing, it would have been one thing.

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Speaker 1: If like he like knew for sure that it was

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Speaker 1: you weren't allowed to do that yet, but.

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Speaker 2: He didn't know that. It's like, but even if he did, like,

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Speaker 2: there should be something specifically that's said, like you're not

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Speaker 2: allowed to do that, Like if you if you say

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Speaker 2: the rules or you could use anything but your laptop

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Speaker 2: or a friend that those are the rules.

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Speaker 1: And and and if you're the teacher that is knowingly

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Speaker 1: copying a pasting from the internet, you have to say

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Speaker 1: if you find any answers online, they will all be invalid.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like bare minimum you have to pull up so

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Speaker 2: you know, talk about plagiarism, like the teacher just plagiarizing

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Speaker 2: the test.

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Speaker 1: Teachers always out here talking about plagiarism. How Wikipedia, come on,

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Speaker 1: come on. I think the thing that we've learned is

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