Speaker 1: Second. D you know there's something that I learned in
Speaker 1: boy Scouts that I've applied into my dating life. Interesting, Well,
Speaker 1: it's not what you're probably thinking, which is I can
Speaker 1: tie a slip knot with my tongue. It's ABP. Always
Speaker 1: be prepared, all right, And I really think people can
Speaker 1: take that motto into their regular lives too. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think it's a it's a good thing to know, like,
Speaker 1: if you're pregnant, bring a hospital bag everywhere you go
Speaker 1: because you never know when that baby's going to come
Speaker 1: shooting out of it typically how it works. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good idea. Or when you're at work, you
Speaker 1: never know when you're going to be fired. Now is
Speaker 1: it happening now? Oh no, we're at I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: But that goes for dating too. And one of our listeners, Ben,
Speaker 1: was extra prepared for his He didn't even realize that
Speaker 1: he was strapped. So Ben, welcome to the show. Hey,
Speaker 1: how's it going, guys man. We'll get into what you
Speaker 1: were packing in just a second, But first, what do
Speaker 1: you want the deets on the girl that you met?
Speaker 1: Tell us about her? Yeah, yeah, so I met this
Speaker 1: girl named Terry. We actually met online. Sorry, did you
Speaker 1: say Terry or carry Harry? Now? I heard Harry. I
Speaker 1: heard Harry. I think Terry Terry. You spell it for
Speaker 1: us peg r r Harry Okayrry? Oh y, he said Terry. Okay,
Speaker 1: So where did you meet Terry? We met online? I
Speaker 1: thought her profile and I just thought she was really cute,
Speaker 1: and she also had this joke and her bio that
Speaker 1: was really cute and funny. So that's sure. Can't just
Speaker 1: tell us that without telling us a joke. It already
Speaker 1: sold me. I don't care what it is. Y'all probably
Speaker 1: think it's stupid. I thought it was hilarious. All her
Speaker 1: bio was was I'm intelligent, but she spelled intelligent wrong.
Speaker 1: That's funny. And then you put in like fanasies like
Speaker 1: ha ha okay, yeah right, so that wasn't just an accident.
Speaker 1: Isn't it funny that you have to put the haha
Speaker 1: because they know there's gonna be just so you know
Speaker 1: that wrong? So you reached out to her then, yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: So we chatted a little bit and then we actually
Speaker 1: agreed to like meet up on a date, and we
Speaker 1: actually both knew this restaurant. It was a really fancy
Speaker 1: restaurant that we had never been to, but we both
Speaker 1: independently kind of always wanted to go there. I have.
Speaker 1: It's like a foody spot, ye person, I mean, but
Speaker 1: a fancy restaurant for a first date. Yeah, super fancy
Speaker 1: and also super hard to get a table that makes
Speaker 1: you look good though, if you're able to slide in
Speaker 1: actually get a reservation, how did you do it? Well,
Speaker 1: they actually don't take reservation. That's the problem those places.
Speaker 1: They're the ones that loved to watch you wait for
Speaker 1: three hours side? How bad do you want to mom? You?
Speaker 1: So did you show up early then or what did
Speaker 1: you do to get your you guys a table? We
Speaker 1: showed up kind of like on the early side, and
Speaker 1: they were like, well, they're at the table, but it's
Speaker 1: gonna be a fifty minute wait for a table, like
Speaker 1: an hour. I mean, I feel like that's to be
Speaker 1: expected on one of those like super popular places. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like on our first day, what do you do? Just
Speaker 1: sit on the bench and like that's not enough time
Speaker 1: to like do something else. I can get a child's
Speaker 1: menu and color that inway. What did you decide to
Speaker 1: do there? Ben, Well, we talked about it and we
Speaker 1: were both like not that long. It was a nice day,
Speaker 1: so we hung out outside. Did we we suck it out?
Speaker 1: That's a good idea, that's awesome. How did that go?
Speaker 1: It went well. The only issue was that since we're
Speaker 1: both so excited to eat at this restaurant, that we
Speaker 1: didn't really have a lot of food that day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you want to say space, you're like hungry before they
Speaker 1: call your name, and like, we've already gone through the menu.
Speaker 1: We know exactly what we wanted. But luckily I stuck
Speaker 1: my hands in my pocket and I realized I had
Speaker 1: two granola bars. Oh is that where you were strapped
Speaker 1: with the Yeah, he always be prepared. Yeah, it was perfect.
Speaker 1: And then when I brought out I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, look what I have. And you should have
Speaker 1: even look in her eyes. He looked at me like
Speaker 1: I was a savior because we were so starving. Yea perfect.
Speaker 1: It's like a prince charming night and shining armor moment.
Speaker 1: Come into the rescue. You gotta seriously, so at that point,
Speaker 1: what do you not even need to go into the
Speaker 1: dinner anymore? Or do you actually go into We're well,
Speaker 1: we ain't the granola bars and then time flew by,
Speaker 1: and next thing we knew and they call their names,
Speaker 1: so we got great. So how did dinner go? Dinner
Speaker 1: went great. The food was literally incredible. You'll have to
Speaker 1: go to play. I'm so happy. And the conversation was
Speaker 1: also good. Everything was just going really well. It was
Speaker 1: a little expensive, but we both knew it was gonna
Speaker 1: be expensive. Did you did you cover the bill or
Speaker 1: did you agree to split it since it was a
Speaker 1: place you both wanted to go? I actually covered the bill,
Speaker 1: which I'm kind of regretting, but you know, now he's
Speaker 1: calling him back. Everything sounds really good. How did everything end?
Speaker 1: So we got our check and you know, the things
Speaker 1: we're going well. So we ended up actually just walking
Speaker 1: around this really nice park that was in the area,
Speaker 1: and we walked in. I was like, hey, do you
Speaker 1: want to go to my place? So we get a
Speaker 1: drink or something, and he was like, yeah, sure, I'm
Speaker 1: down a lot of time together, she said yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you were feeling the vibe correctly, yeah, which good
Speaker 1: on you. Yes. So is this a situation where she
Speaker 1: ended up staying the night? No, but there was a kid.
Speaker 1: I okay, why is she not calling you back? That's
Speaker 1: what I'm calling you guys, I don't know. Oh, okay,
Speaker 1: it's true. I guess we have more work to do,
Speaker 1: so we'll try and get prepared. Oh yeah, if you
Speaker 1: have granola bars, Jeffrey, please share. Let's all reach into
Speaker 1: each other's pockets and see what. Then when we come back,
Speaker 1: we'll call Terry for you and get your second date
Speaker 1: up date. Okay, all right, thanks guys, All right, hold
Speaker 1: on second. One of our listeners, Ben went into his
Speaker 1: first date with a secret weapon in his pants. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he did, not just one, but two of them, and
Speaker 1: his date, Terry was thrilled about it, talking about granola
Speaker 1: bars left over from the last time that Ben wore
Speaker 1: those clothes. Good thing, they never aspire, I mean, and
Speaker 1: they're kind of nice when they're a little warm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it did save them while they were waiting fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: to get a table at a very popular restaurant. So
Speaker 1: that helped kicked off a really fun date night that
Speaker 1: ultimately ended back at Ben's place. Now, Terry did not
Speaker 1: stay the night, but Ben did anything more happen now,
Speaker 1: just the cans and then we said good night pretty much. Okay.
Speaker 1: Was there any talk of future plans while you were
Speaker 1: on the date. I mean, it just seems like you
Speaker 1: guys were vibing so much. She'd be like, Oh, I
Speaker 1: have this you know, musical artist I want to go
Speaker 1: see you. Should come with another food place. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1: I was just like, let's meet up again, and she
Speaker 1: was just like yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely definitely. And then
Speaker 1: next Gean, I knew she was gone. I feel like,
Speaker 1: definitely definitely should be a confirmation, but I guess it's not.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah. Let's just call Terry and we'll see
Speaker 1: what she has to say. It's weird that she's not
Speaker 1: calling you back after everything, so let's just give it
Speaker 1: a shot. Here we go. Okay, oh all right, Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: is this Terry. It's hey Harry. My name is Jeff
Speaker 1: from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. Um. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're calling because we're wondering were you recently at a
Speaker 1: fancy restaurant stealing silverware? Um? Yeah, okay, so oh we
Speaker 1: got you. Please. Yes, I was at a fancy restaurant,
Speaker 1: but no, I did not steal any silverware, Jeff. Okay,
Speaker 1: so we may have the right girl for something else,
Speaker 1: maybe because there is somebody that I think you may
Speaker 1: have gone out with named Ben who's been trying to
Speaker 1: get a hold of you. Huh remember that? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: do remember that. Okay, Okay, So we spoke to Ben
Speaker 1: about your date, and on our end, things sounded really great. Wow, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is interesting. Yeah, and that's kind of what we're
Speaker 1: doing right now. It's called a second date update. We're
Speaker 1: trying to help Ben out, to figure out the reason
Speaker 1: why he's not getting a call back and maybe help
Speaker 1: fix whatever. If there is a problem with Ben. I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe there's not, Maybe you just haven't had time. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: this is just a little weird for me because I
Speaker 1: don't know what his situation is. But whatever it is,
Speaker 1: if you could just please tell him I'm out, You're out. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't mean that rude. I just that's where I'm
Speaker 1: at with this. Okay, that's fair. You're allowed to say that.
Speaker 1: But is there a reason why? Because he told us
Speaker 1: about the date to night, about you know, going out
Speaker 1: to dinner with you and waiting outside with a granola
Speaker 1: bar surprise, and his last impression was a really nice
Speaker 1: kiss and then you left. Look, everything leading up to
Speaker 1: dinner it went really really well. It was just back
Speaker 1: at his house. That was the issue for me, So
Speaker 1: we didn't get a lot of details from that point.
Speaker 1: Is is it like really gross and messy or something. No,
Speaker 1: it's just not too clean, I mean, basically odd. I
Speaker 1: went to the restroom and I noticed that the shower
Speaker 1: curtain was completely closed. And I wasn't snooping or anything,
Speaker 1: but I just pink to see if it was clean
Speaker 1: or you know how behind the shower because I want
Speaker 1: to make sure no one's in there. Yeah. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she was judging to see if he'd clean out the drain. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, was it really gross? It was not
Speaker 1: gross at all? Oh, it was there were the bathtub
Speaker 1: was packed. It was covered in kids' toys, like I'm talking,
Speaker 1: you know, alligator things that spit stuff out of their mouth,
Speaker 1: and rubber duckies and and little mermaid dolls and just
Speaker 1: every bath story that you could think of from when
Speaker 1: you were like three. Wait, does he have kids? Does
Speaker 1: he not tell you that? Or something? That's exactly my point.
Speaker 1: I mean to me, that only means one of two scenarios. A,
Speaker 1: you have kids and you just weren't honest with me
Speaker 1: about it. Did you ask him? No? But we spoke
Speaker 1: about our feelings. What's option number two? Number two? You
Speaker 1: play with that? Roy? Like? What adult does that? Is
Speaker 1: that an option? I was afraid you're going to find
Speaker 1: like another like female shampoon stuff. But this is worse.
Speaker 1: I don't know I could see, like, Okay, let's say,
Speaker 1: let's say he is a single dad, Like maybe that's
Speaker 1: just hard to start with, or maybe you don't want
Speaker 1: to bring your kids into your dating life. I don't know.
Speaker 1: There was no other kids stuff in the house. Well,
Speaker 1: I want to know which one it is one or
Speaker 1: two or maybe a secret option three? And we can
Speaker 1: actually ask him right now because Ben's been on the
Speaker 1: other line listening and wants to talk to you. Are
Speaker 1: you serious? Yeah, Hi, Terry, it's Ben. Okay, Ben, did
Speaker 1: you hear what she said? Yeah? Yeah, Terry, I just
Speaker 1: gotta tell you you got it all wrong. Those were
Speaker 1: not by toys O two. Cross that one off the list.
Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying? You don't play with the
Speaker 1: rubber ducky? No? No, I don't play of the rubber duckies.
Speaker 1: My neighbor's kids do they come over and use my
Speaker 1: bathroom all the time? That's creepy? Oh, no, Sorry, I
Speaker 1: should explain my neighbor's uh, their their bathroom is broken.
Speaker 1: So yeah, they use my bathroom. All A lot of
Speaker 1: people use my bathroom. Why wait, now, a lot of
Speaker 1: people use your bathroom, Ben, like so often that they
Speaker 1: would bring all their children. It sounds a little fishy, honestly, Ben,
Speaker 1: All right, I yeah, I don't know what I'm even
Speaker 1: saying right now. You don't know what you're saying. Ah boy, Yeah, Terry,
Speaker 1: I gotta come clean. I I have four kids. You
Speaker 1: have four? Kun? Oh? Ben? Is that why you had
Speaker 1: a bunch of snacks in your pockets? Because I know
Speaker 1: it was so weird you say that, Jeffrey, because I'm
Speaker 1: the only one here that randomly finds food in my
Speaker 1: pockets children. I could pull out four bags of goldfish,
Speaker 1: probably out of my coat right now. You're hiding goldfish
Speaker 1: from well. I don't want her cocket, dude. Then why
Speaker 1: wouldn't you just tell her that? Because I know that
Speaker 1: she would have said no to the date if I
Speaker 1: told her I had the kids, so I wanted to
Speaker 1: you know, wait, that's absolutely not true. There are all
Speaker 1: kinds of people in this world. If you are a single,
Speaker 1: eligible bachelor, who has four children, and you put yourself
Speaker 1: out there, You're going to find a lot of girls
Speaker 1: that want to date you. What do they have children
Speaker 1: or not? This is a good we could do a
Speaker 1: test ride here. Alexis, would you date a guy with
Speaker 1: four kids? No? I mean you kind to think too,
Speaker 1: that's a different age then Alexis like, she's not going
Speaker 1: to find someone her age that has four children. I mean,
Speaker 1: the thing is, Ben, why would you want to date
Speaker 1: a woman who wouldn't want kids around? That feels like,
Speaker 1: don't know, kind of a bad dad choice, not calling
Speaker 1: you a bad dad, just like just people like you, Yeah,
Speaker 1: just like the choice. You know, like you would want
Speaker 1: to be with someone who is excited about your children.
Speaker 1: You know, d She does have a point, bro, were
Speaker 1: you going to meet him one by one? There's another
Speaker 1: that's another neighbor. I mean, Ben, uh, Look, I think
Speaker 1: that the biggest deal here is just a surprise. She
Speaker 1: didn't know about it. I mean, looking back on it,
Speaker 1: I understand why that would be a bit of a shocker.
Speaker 1: Understand that was so count you could be like a
Speaker 1: hot dad. But you know, if you look on the
Speaker 1: bright side here, Terry, at least you didn't have five kids.
Speaker 1: That didn't tell you. I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: my girlfriend who has a lot, she says, after three,
Speaker 1: you don't even know the difference. I don't count. That
Speaker 1: makes this the perfect time to add Terry, would you
Speaker 1: like to go out on a date with Father of
Speaker 1: the Year? Ben? We will pay for it. No, no kid,
Speaker 1: we will pay for it. I mean I have a
Speaker 1: single friend. She's a single, panent mom of three. Maybe
Speaker 1: you guys would have more in comment. Okay, we still
Speaker 1: have an opportunity for another day. Then would you like
Speaker 1: to go out on a date with Terry's female friend
Speaker 1: who has three other kids? It's just one date? Is it?
Speaker 1: It's one date? I mean you never know, like maybe
Speaker 1: this is the kids met stuff that happens in the universe.
Speaker 1: Maybe use your bath, Ben, I don't really date people
Speaker 1: with kids. Actually, it's kind of a red flag for me.
Speaker 1: What's a red flag? Oh? Is that what you hid?
Speaker 1: You don't date people with kids? Are you? I have
Speaker 1: enough for my own I don't need more. On top
Speaker 1: of it. That is not broke and Jeffrey in the morning, Well,
Speaker 1: I think we all know who's going to be winning
Speaker 1: Father of the year. Yeah, you know, I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: he doesn't have my boat. Shocking, shocking? What was it
Speaker 1: about him? And that just can't pinpointed. But I think
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start with hiding your children. Yeah, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: show up to accept the award. How is saying that
Speaker 1: he is not dating people that have kids? I get though,
Speaker 1: once you have four children, it's like, do I really
Speaker 1: want to add more on the list of responsibilities that
Speaker 1: I have here? So I don't necessarily blame him for
Speaker 1: turning down the date with the random girl he's never
Speaker 1: met before with three kids. But the upfront about your children. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it is a little bit of a strange double standard.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, and his lie his life that he
Speaker 1: was trying to pull off that it was the neighbor's
Speaker 1: children coming over to use his bathtub? How is that
Speaker 1: a better lie? That was actually the most disturbating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to check showers from now on. Every man
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