Speaker 1: All right, So it's Bethany and Brynn and this is
Speaker 1: mo embarrassment. So we were in the pool this weekend
Speaker 1: and we were chatting, soaking up the final rays of summer,
Speaker 1: and I was talking to Brent about a couple of
Speaker 1: things that happened, and I gave her my perspective because
Speaker 1: I know it all, and then she gave me her perspective,
Speaker 1: and I was kind of shocked by her perspective on
Speaker 1: some things that I think are clear as day. So
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you a couple of things that
Speaker 1: happened that I've talked to you guys about I've talked
Speaker 1: about on TikTok. People have really related, moms have related,
Speaker 1: moms of tweens have related. And then Brinn's going to
Speaker 1: give me her perspective on the topic, so you can
Speaker 1: see what a tween is thinking. It's sort of like
Speaker 1: a she said, she said. So last weekend, I was
Speaker 1: invited to a party by a friend of mine who
Speaker 1: I know in the Hamptons, who lives really close and
Speaker 1: they have a daughter who Brinnan notes she happens to
Speaker 1: be in her class and they're friendly. But it's not
Speaker 1: like one of her BFFs. So the friend didn't invite her.
Speaker 1: The mom invited me and said, if you and Brynn
Speaker 1: want to come, there'll be a lot of kids her age. Also,
Speaker 1: there'll be a lot of adults there. We'll have drinks
Speaker 1: and food, et cetera. So what kind of in fairness
Speaker 1: was for Brinn to be invited because there would be
Speaker 1: a lot of kids her age, but also I was invited.
Speaker 1: We were both invited, but they were letting me know
Speaker 1: that while it is a kid family friendly event, a
Speaker 1: lot of parents will be there. And they're a family
Speaker 1: that goes all in. They do candy trucks, and they
Speaker 1: do carvel and pizza and bouncy houses and slides and
Speaker 1: phone pits, and it's insane, it's amazing. It's like something
Speaker 1: to look forward to. Brynn would never miss it now.
Speaker 1: So I was tired that day and I was going
Speaker 1: to look cute and go with her, but instead I said,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to drop you off because I don't
Speaker 1: need to go, and are you going in? And she
Speaker 1: said I'm totally fine going in by myself. And when
Speaker 1: I dropped her off, we made sure that there was
Speaker 1: actually like there were actually people there we got there
Speaker 1: a little bit late, so she didn't feel like she
Speaker 1: was awkwardly walking in alone. And she was told some
Speaker 1: of her friends were going, but she didn't necessarily know
Speaker 1: for a fact. So I didn't want her to walk
Speaker 1: into this party U solo, I mean, without knowing that
Speaker 1: she was going to feel safe. So I dropped her off.
Speaker 1: She's I said, just I'm sitting here outside. Just text
Speaker 1: me that it's okay. So she texted me, She's like,
Speaker 1: it's fine. So I left. So I went home. I
Speaker 1: took a nap, and then I woke up, and I thought,
Speaker 1: let me get dressed. Let me put on my cute
Speaker 1: Labor Day whites, because I wanted to get in all
Speaker 1: my white dresses over the weekend and jam in twenty
Speaker 1: white dresses.
Speaker 2: In two days.
Speaker 1: And I show up and I walk into the party
Speaker 1: and I see the adults and I say hi, and
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, you're looking for Brinn. You're looking for Brinn.
Speaker 1: And there was another mom who had another Brin and oh,
Speaker 1: Brin's here, And like, parents, do they want me to
Speaker 1: know where my child is. I'm in a big house,
Speaker 1: big outdoor. There's a lot going on. Just wanted to
Speaker 1: connect with my own child at the party. Make sure
Speaker 1: she's okay. Just say hi, I'm alive. I'm here too
Speaker 1: if you care, just so you know. So I finally
Speaker 1: find her and she's in a bathing suit in the pool.
Speaker 1: Now I see her in the corner of the pool,
Speaker 1: and you would have thought that she was discovered in
Speaker 1: the witness Protection program. Like I didn't do one thing.
Speaker 1: I didn't have snot running down my face. I had
Speaker 1: a beautiful dress, like a really beautiful dress. I had
Speaker 1: a cute hat. I had really cute beaded shoes on.
Speaker 1: I had some makeup onon it did my makeup. I
Speaker 1: looked fresh and pinky and cute mom vibes. And I
Speaker 1: was doing it for myself and for my own people
Speaker 1: at my own friend's house down the street. And I
Speaker 1: saw her and she saw me, and the face that
Speaker 1: the face that she made was effectively like like like
Speaker 1: she was making a face like she was internally convulsing.
Speaker 1: And I go up and I'm like, hi, briand Hi,
Speaker 1: oh hy briand and I'm like, okay, did you go
Speaker 1: did you go do any of this stuff? Because I'd
Speaker 1: seen everything. I saw the ball pits of the phone,
Speaker 1: Pitts said the thing there was a bungee job. Hey, uh,
Speaker 1: did you do anything? Did you go?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: Did you do the did you do the the bungee thing?
Speaker 1: I didn't. Oh you didn't do that. No, No, I
Speaker 1: didn't do it. I didn't. I didn't do anything yet, Mom, like, okay,
Speaker 1: all right? And then I said what did I say
Speaker 1: to I.
Speaker 3: Said, I did half of it? You really did you
Speaker 3: do everything? Oh?
Speaker 1: I said did you do everything? Like?
Speaker 3: No, I did like half? You didn't do that?
Speaker 1: I was like no, no, But what was your face
Speaker 1: like when I said did you do everything? That was?
Speaker 1: That was a trigger point. She was like, I were
Speaker 1: just gonna.
Speaker 3: Say like hi, and then I don't know what you're
Speaker 3: gonna do.
Speaker 1: So I asked the bad question of did you do everything?
Speaker 1: Because she felt that I was like being like she
Speaker 1: was a two year old, like, let's go do the bounty?
Speaker 3: Is that what it was? I was like no, like noah,
Speaker 3: I just like didn't know to.
Speaker 1: Say, so, why was the sight of mate?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: It was kind of just because I didn't know you
Speaker 3: were there. I was, I thought, so my friends were
Speaker 3: like calling your name, No, not your name. My friends
Speaker 3: were like calling you're like brand your and I thought
Speaker 3: you were going to pick me up and it was
Speaker 3: only like six and it ended at seven, so I
Speaker 3: was like, why is she here right now? So that
Speaker 3: kind of caught me off guard too.
Speaker 1: So you thought that I was coming and gonna be
Speaker 1: like pulling you out of the pool and saying we
Speaker 1: have to go, and you were a embarrassed or just
Speaker 1: not ready to leave, like I don't know. So you
Speaker 1: see me I come up to the pool, true or false?
Speaker 1: Your face was like horrified and terrorized. Yeah, I was scared,
Speaker 1: But what were you scared of? Exactly?
Speaker 3: No, because like you weren't supposed to go, and then
Speaker 3: you went and that was like not.
Speaker 1: It was jarring. Yeah, but there were like fifty parents there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: But still so you didn't let's be honest, did you
Speaker 1: not want me there?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I thought it would be okay there. I shouldn't know,
Speaker 3: like you were hunting. So it kind of like was
Speaker 3: like whoa.
Speaker 1: It was kind of like whoa? But what was So
Speaker 1: when I said did you do everything? And you were
Speaker 1: like no, but you were like no, like kind of
Speaker 1: like you were saying like go away.
Speaker 3: Yes, but no, because then when we were by the
Speaker 3: other pool when I was like in the hot tub.
Speaker 3: Later you came up to me. It's like, wait, were
Speaker 3: you gonna ask me when I was in the hot
Speaker 3: tub or were you asking me?
Speaker 1: When? Did I ask you about food or not yet?
Speaker 1: I didn't ask you about food yet.
Speaker 3: I don't know. But you came up to me in
Speaker 3: the hot tub and you asked me something. Would you
Speaker 3: ask me like maybe?
Speaker 1: I just wanted to say hi, like or like you like,
Speaker 1: did you eat anything? Did you eat something?
Speaker 3: Yeah? And I was like over there and I thought no,
Speaker 3: because when you came up to me while I was
Speaker 3: in the hot sbubs like I thought because I was like, okay, first,
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: First, at my friend's house, she was in the pool
Speaker 1: and I came up to her and she looked horrified.
Speaker 1: Then we were in the hot tub.
Speaker 3: I was in the hot tub.
Speaker 1: You were in the hot tub, and I saw your
Speaker 1: friends and I said, oh, cute matching bikinis. Was that planned?
Speaker 1: Did that annoy you?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I didn't really care about that. Okay, we were going.
Speaker 1: Wait, you were in the hot tub and I came
Speaker 1: over and I talked about the girls bikinis.
Speaker 3: Yes, And then I thought when you were coming over.
Speaker 3: I thought, oh, no, is she mad at me because
Speaker 3: of what I did in the pool? Because I was
Speaker 3: like away, because that's oh, I thought you were mad
Speaker 3: at me. So I was like, oh, cute shoes. Oh
Speaker 3: my god, that's the one. We got a love shit.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what happened what she's trying to describe is,
Speaker 1: at first I saw her in the pool and just
Speaker 1: asked her a basic question like did you do all
Speaker 1: the fun things for kids? And that was bad and
Speaker 1: that was horrible, and she was very mad at me.
Speaker 1: So I apologize for that just at my own friends.
Speaker 1: I was asking a very basic question. She was very mad.
Speaker 1: So then we get over to the jacuzzie and she's
Speaker 1: got a healthy fear of me. You're a little scared, well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I thought you're gonna like yell at me.
Speaker 1: And I was like I don't know why, I why
Speaker 1: have I ever yelled at you?
Speaker 3: Because you like call me and you were like come here,
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my god, cute shoes. Oh shoes.
Speaker 1: So now we go over to the jacuzzie and I
Speaker 1: see her coming out, and I see her and I
Speaker 1: talk about her friend's thing, and I said Brinn come here,
Speaker 1: and she is trying to distract me, and she's going,
Speaker 1: oh my god, such cute shoes, which was very weird
Speaker 1: and suspect because because we bought them together, right, but
Speaker 1: you've seen them a million times, so it felt like
Speaker 1: kiss assie and weird that you would say cute shooes.
Speaker 1: And she told me why did you and why did
Speaker 1: you do that?
Speaker 3: Because I wanted to like distract you or like make
Speaker 3: you like think like, oh, now she's being nice for
Speaker 3: that when she was maybe I shouldn't yell you guy,
Speaker 3: thought you were calling you to like yell at me soon.
Speaker 1: When have I ever yelled at you in a public place,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Never you've like been like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You thought I was mad at you, Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: was gonna sort of reprimand you quietly, yes, And then I.
Speaker 3: Would have been like, it's not quietly, but it's like
Speaker 3: not gonna be quiet anyways.
Speaker 1: It would have been like a subtle, like intense reprimanding
Speaker 1: in front of friends. And you thought that I was
Speaker 1: gonna do that for the way you spoke, the way
Speaker 1: you were at the pool before. So you cut me
Speaker 1: off at the past by complimenting my shoes, which was
Speaker 1: total bs because you know those shoes and like, I
Speaker 1: know we bought them together at Love Shot, right, but
Speaker 1: explain to them how you did it. Go tell them
Speaker 1: how you like.
Speaker 3: You were like came here and I was like okay.
Speaker 3: So I was like slowly going out, I was looking
Speaker 3: at you. I was like, what's cute about her outfit?
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, this is the shoes we got
Speaker 3: a love Shock. She's like, oh my god, mom, cute shoes.
Speaker 3: We got those together? Because I just wanted to be
Speaker 3: like you.
Speaker 1: Wanted to kiss my ass and make may not be
Speaker 1: me and to you, Yeah, got it?
Speaker 2: Okay, I understand.
Speaker 1: So she is now saying fake things to me about
Speaker 1: my shoes and also I actually do like this sho No,
Speaker 1: I know you like them, but that's not just it
Speaker 1: just wasn't truthful in that moment. And then she also
Speaker 1: was like backing away from me and wanting me to leave,
Speaker 1: and I could tell and I was like come here,
Speaker 1: and just like what I'm like, come, She's like what.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you have something on your face? You have
Speaker 1: something on your face? Do you want me to yell
Speaker 1: that out to the whole party? Buy your nose?
Speaker 3: Maybe you have a buggy.
Speaker 1: Coming out of your nose in the pool. Would you
Speaker 1: like me to announce that?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: But even though you said that, that was kind of
Speaker 3: relieving because I thought you're gonna yell at me.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I've I'm gonna yell at you. Well, I
Speaker 1: thought you'd even reprimand you thought i'd reprimand you. So
Speaker 1: you'd rather me say to you loud you have a
Speaker 1: boogie coming out of your nose, and recommend.
Speaker 3: You no, because I thought you were gonna do both
Speaker 3: of them quiet, but like, I'm glad it was the like.
Speaker 1: If you could have a boogie or reprimanding quiet, you'd
Speaker 1: rather have a book. I'd rather have a boogie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, so we took boogie. I wouldn't have bet that.
Speaker 1: I would not have bet the boogie would have bet
Speaker 1: reprimanding in my lifetime.
Speaker 3: Because I think it was a new boogie. I didn't
Speaker 3: think it was like old.
Speaker 1: I don't understand that sentence at all.
Speaker 3: What if they just got there?
Speaker 1: It was a very new like yes, it was like
Speaker 1: a watery non and yeah, I'm gonna throw up. I
Speaker 1: may throw up. But I don't know why you if
Speaker 1: I said you farted, you wouldn't have a problem with it,
Speaker 1: but reprimanding you you'd find embarrassing. Yeah, well that's weird.
Speaker 3: Well I wouldn't like No, that would be extreme. I
Speaker 3: would like to reprimand more.
Speaker 1: So reprimand boogie, then reprimand then than than fart than pastcast. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: so that's good.
Speaker 2: To know, all right.
Speaker 1: So then we are at this party and they have
Speaker 1: Eddie's Pizza, which is a pizza truck, and I go
Speaker 1: over and I want to taste the pizza because I
Speaker 1: also want to do a TikTok. And I'm sitting there
Speaker 1: sort of by myself and just whatever. So I go
Speaker 1: to get the pizza and I order it out of
Speaker 1: the truck and it's a whole pizza. They make a
Speaker 1: whole pizza. I don't know why there's so many people there,
Speaker 1: and maybe I don't know why they don't just do
Speaker 1: pizzas and then you can share them, but you order
Speaker 1: your whole pizza. And so we were leaving five minutes later,
Speaker 1: and I just wanted to try one piece. I didn't
Speaker 1: know brendad Eaton yet because she acted like she didn't
Speaker 1: do anything pizza right, But I didn't know that because
Speaker 1: you didn't talk to me, and you didn't you didn't
Speaker 1: tell me anything. So I go, I come over to
Speaker 1: her with the pizza box and we're about to leave
Speaker 1: and I say to her. I come up to her
Speaker 1: and I say, what do I like? What do I
Speaker 1: do? Do you want to be?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, No, I had pizza. I had. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know if you wanted a piece
Speaker 1: of pizza.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: I had pizza, and I was like okay. And then
Speaker 1: I later said, what am I going to do? And
Speaker 1: I was like talking about I go for one second,
Speaker 1: by the way, I said, what do I do? I
Speaker 1: don't like to waste and this is a whole pizza,
Speaker 1: So am I supposed to bring the pizza home? Like
Speaker 1: no one else is eating my pizza. I had one pizza.
Speaker 1: Pizza you don't want to be I said no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. And I'm like, I'm just talking to you.
Speaker 1: I'm just speaking to you, like I'm not on the
Speaker 1: microphone at a party. I'm just talking about the pizza.
Speaker 1: That was a no, no no, because you.
Speaker 3: Started like rearranging the table and putting the pizza, like
Speaker 3: figuring out where to put the pizza on food table.
Speaker 1: I was like no, because there was a main food
Speaker 1: table over there that had like food skewers and things
Speaker 1: like that, and so I was just gonna put this
Speaker 1: and make it like it was like group party pizza,
Speaker 1: so someone would just come up and get a slice.
Speaker 1: So I didn't just waste a pizza that was not
Speaker 1: Why was that not allowed?
Speaker 3: No? It was just like you can't move it around,
Speaker 3: just like.
Speaker 1: Well, I didn't move anything I put it.
Speaker 3: It was just like back away from it.
Speaker 1: Why why am I supposed to back away from it?
Speaker 2: Just waste the pizza?
Speaker 1: So you're not embarrassed, yes, but why were you embarrassed
Speaker 1: with me puting a piece of pizza?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 1: It was just like not mm hmm, but why what
Speaker 1: were you feeling inside?
Speaker 3: I was just feeling like no, because you're rearranging it.
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, No, this is not what happened. Is
Speaker 3: not what's happening.
Speaker 1: What was I rearranging?
Speaker 3: You're like rearranging the table and moving I did.
Speaker 1: Not rearrange one thing. I put a box down.
Speaker 3: On the side, I know, but that was rearranging.
Speaker 2: It was not.
Speaker 1: I just put a box down on a table at
Speaker 1: a red and white checker tablecloth.
Speaker 3: I know, but I was like pretty caught off guard
Speaker 3: by that.
Speaker 1: Why why live your life? I'm living mine.
Speaker 3: What you were talking to me? And you were like,
Speaker 3: let's go leave, and so.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh no, by the way, another news
Speaker 1: splash a boy my child, which is not gonna fly.
Speaker 1: She's an overstayer. The imitation said till seven. It was
Speaker 1: like seven o five. She was like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm like, get your ass, we're moving, we're leaving. We're
Speaker 1: not that no, And so at that point I was like,
Speaker 1: what do I do to mom? Do not tick the pizza?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: But but I was right there. It wasn't like I
Speaker 1: was walking through the front door. Someone says it was
Speaker 1: an outside but at the end.
Speaker 3: You pulled up your phone on Instagram to take a picture.
Speaker 1: Oh hold on, back up, No, no, no, there's a
Speaker 1: sunset behind me. It's the most gorgeous beautiful night ever.
Speaker 1: I said, let's it wasn't Instagram, It's just a regular
Speaker 1: camera inst Okay, no, because I thought.
Speaker 3: You were gonna be like, hey, guys, me and the
Speaker 3: peanut at a party. Look at this beautiful sunset.
Speaker 1: So I said, take a picture of me. No, that's
Speaker 1: when that that's when it escalated. I go, will you
Speaker 1: take a picture? Like nom no, no, no no. I
Speaker 1: was like, brin, I'm a grown ass woman who has
Speaker 1: to take a picture with my daughter.
Speaker 3: That was very extreme, though, because I thought it was
Speaker 3: none of this is extreme.
Speaker 1: That was very Oh that was extreme. Like putting a
Speaker 1: box of pizza on a table. It wasn't extreme. Where
Speaker 1: did you want me to put the box of pizza?
Speaker 3: I don't know. You're supposed to leave it and walk
Speaker 3: away nicely, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: She didn't let me take it and it went in
Speaker 1: the garbage. That piece of pizza. No one, it's a
Speaker 1: whole pie that it went to the garbage.
Speaker 3: I don't know to tell you, mom. But when we
Speaker 3: were doing the Instagram like photo, I was like, I
Speaker 3: thought you were gonna be like doing like an Instagram video.
Speaker 1: You thought I was.
Speaker 3: People were like looking, my friends were near, so I
Speaker 3: didn't want to be like.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, so do you am I embarrassing?
Speaker 3: No, it's just like the fact that.
Speaker 1: Just tell me truth of all the parents, what.
Speaker 3: My embarrassing parent are not? No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: But you're embarrassed at me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like exactly. That's how it works.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Wait, on a one to ten, you don't have to
Speaker 1: name names, but you have other or other friends parents embarrassing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I like embarrassing parents.
Speaker 1: But just not your own.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So on a one to ten, the most embarrassing parent
Speaker 1: being a ten and the least embarrassing parent being a zero.
Speaker 3: What am I You're like a six and a half seven.
Speaker 1: So fairly embarrassing.
Speaker 3: No, but like, because that's just going from my perspective,
Speaker 3: like I don't have to ask my friends how embarrassing anymore?
Speaker 1: Well, when I wanted to bring balloons to your concert, that.
Speaker 3: That thought, Oh my god, that was not You sent
Speaker 3: me a picture of it beforehand. It was like a
Speaker 3: smiley faced gift basket, your balloons coming out of it,
Speaker 3: and like comes Betty. I was like, no, it was
Speaker 3: very bad. It's like that was It's worse than flowers,
Speaker 3: and no one brought flowers.
Speaker 1: But what about the fact that I asked you ahead
Speaker 1: of time?
Speaker 2: That was nice?
Speaker 3: That was good. I was happy with that. I know
Speaker 3: I would have literally if you came in with the basket,
Speaker 3: I would have walked away.
Speaker 1: Pretend you don't know.
Speaker 2: Ye