WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Getting the Ick 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.359 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.320 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, friend, 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:14.240 or a terrible throatful guess what you've got decisions? All right, 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:20.400 we are back at it again, giving y'all hoes some advice, okay, 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:22.480 or non hoes like me. Maybe you're a non hole 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:26.360 like me, But this week we are talking about getting 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:29.120 the ick. So we're gonna start real quick with this 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:33.080 letter and get deep into it. Vibe. Hey, ladies, I've 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:35.560 been listening to your show on and off since high 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:39.479 school and I love you. Wy the fuck you was off? Baby, 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:42.360 Calm down, I'll be twenty five in a little under 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:45.240 a month and I need some advice, so I'll jump 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:49.159 right in. I started dating this guy and everything was perfect. 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:53.720 He's a tall, dark skinned, handsome man who is college educated, 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:58.440 entering his career, family oriented, super considerate, big old dick, 0:00:58.560 --> 0:01:02.560 the whole package. About a month ago into dating, I 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:06.080 found out that he doesn't shower every day. When I 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:09.039 brought it up, he said it's because he's a man 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:13.120 and has sensitive skin and showering often dries it out. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.400 Nigga invested some set of feel. 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.160 I'm not gonna lie. The sensitive skin tea would have 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:20.160 been I'm like, okay, I ought to believe that some. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:23.360 Set of feel okay. I had to address this twice. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.280 It wasn't until I pointed out that I had a 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:29.120 bit that I had been avoiding sex with him that 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:34.119 he finally started showering more often. Trust me, I definitely 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:37.800 see an improvement, but I'm not gonna hold y'all. I 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:42.040 already got the ick, and I hate it. I love 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:45.880 everything else about him, but his lack of hygiene has 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:49.600 really turned me off. I'm trying to accept that he's 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:52.960 changing his ways for me, but it's hard. He doesn't 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.640 even look as handsome to me anymore, and I feel 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:57.440 like I shouldn't have to tell a grown ass man 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:00.880 about showering in the first place. After getting the ick, 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:04.720 I decided to expand my options because I still wanted 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:08.760 to fuck, just not him. I started dating another guy 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:15.680 who is also great, college educated in his career, family oriented, tall, brownskin, 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:20.440 and a gentleman. Plus the physical chemistry is amazing, probably 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:24.600 the best sex I've ever had, definitely the biggest dick who. However, 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.360 I suspect he might be a scammer. In addition to 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:31.400 his office shop. I asked him about this since I'm 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:35.960 from Florida and I know scammerdy. I asked him about 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.400 it since I'm from Florida and I know scammers, but 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:41.640 he insists he's not. I just don't have any solid proof, 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:46.000 just the gut filling. So here are her questions. Question one, 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:48.600 Should I give Guy one a chance? Or should I 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:51.280 cut him off and just focus on Guy Too? Or 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.960 should I just say fucking and cut both these niggas off? 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.440 For context? If it matters, Guy one is thirty one, 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:59.120 Guy Too is twenty seven. Thanks in advance, I know 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:02.239 you're gonna make me laugh. Sincerely, a hole stuck between 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:02.960 two dicks? 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.120 Does Guy number one stink? She didn't mention him sinking. 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:08.840 She said that, well, he doesn't shower, and it's made 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:10.600 her not want to even happen. I feel like she 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.079 didn't say it, but I feel like there's something there. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.160 But there's something there that's turning her off. And it 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.600 might be the smell or just the clo I don't 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:20.639 want to lick you in your ass if you don't 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:22.880 go on two days without showering, like she doesn't give 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.480 me lick me ask? I mean well, it doesn't necessarily. 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:28.440 I mean, who knows. I didn't get enough details, but 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:34.640 it doesn't necessarily seem like she enjoys the fact that 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:38.080 he doesn't shower, and to me that that leads me 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:40.400 to believe maybe there's a sense of smell or just 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:41.960 even knowing psychologic mind. 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:45.200 You guys are gross. There's always a little something where 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:47.600 you got to check them on it. But showering feels 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:49.960 like the thing they should be able to figure out. 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:52.400 Like I feel like a guy may not change their 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:54.480 sheets enough. You gotta remind him that. Like men just 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:59.320 be a little lazy, but shower, especially when you're coming 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.200 to see me or we're seeing each other. I feel 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:03.200 like that's a common courtesy. 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:05.920 To be clean. For sure. 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:10.240 I feel like you might have to sensitive skins. He 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.800 led with I'm a man, which means he just don't 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:16.560 like doing it. Gunplay just had a video come out 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:18.080 said that he ain't showering three d's because he an't 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:18.280 want to. 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.400 You saw that. That's crazy. They put that on the 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:25.159 shade so crazy. That is insane. I mean, I guess 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:29.040 between the two you then okay, I mean clearly, for me, girl, 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:30.640 just keep dating. I don't think you like none of 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.080 these niggas, and I don't think you have to settle 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:33.680 with either of them. That would be my answer in 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:37.880 terms of you asking what you should do with who 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.200 you should date, I just think you should keep dating. 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.839 You're really not into either of these men. I think 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:45.880 even you thinking that the second one is a scammer, 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:47.719 that's gonna be an itch if you have a gut 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:48.279 feeling that he. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.120 Not just says college educated, but what kind of degree 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.360 is it? He's the Nigel boy is selling them bit 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:56.479 because if it's communications hone. I'm at a Nigerian nigga 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.920 who told me after four dates he did have read 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.279 he worked in it. And I was like, did you 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:04.800 always want to do that or like? He literally was like, 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.440 I mean I didn't want to do it, but I'm 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:08.720 now I'm so good at it. He was like, it 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:10.680 just you know, the degree fell in my life. 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:15.520 What are some icks in dating previous men that have 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.520 got you to like not even want to continue dating them? Like, 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:21.720 and you too, boy, have been some previous X Like 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:26.360 for me, I'll start. I really don't like a condescending man. 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:30.400 So someone who is overly confident thinking he know everything 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:32.800 he's saying, but I know he wrong, and he's not 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.400 willing to change his because he just dead ass wrong. 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.080 That gives me an ick. And then also someone who 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.080 overly talks about doing something and his actions don't match up. 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.760 So like someone who's like, Ooh, I'm gonna take you here. 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.560 I have this really dope place and we a month 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.360 and a half in and you ain't done it. There 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.000 was a guy that recently did that, and I didn't 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:56.360 care how big his dick was, how good he a pussy. 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:58.919 I literally was like, I'm so turned off by you. 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.279 He kept promising to take me to get oysters for 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:04.760 a month and a half, bitch. They are a dollar 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.600 per half hour, So it's not even a money thing 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:10.600 at this point. It is the fact that you've said 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:13.480 that you were gonna do something multiple times and you 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.440 did it that I was just like, you not even 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:16.800 a nigga. Do you know what I think that is? 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.560 I feel like when men do that, they just have 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:20.520 too many people in their ulster at the moment. I 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.080 actually think there's no other excuse in that. 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:26.200 Like, right, it's just if you could ask to come over, 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:29.080 you could take me out to oysters, like to me then, 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:33.080 But that's what I'm saying. You're over promising and under delivering. 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.600 You're constantly saying you're gonna do something and you're not 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:37.839 doing it. I don't think it necessarily even has to 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.240 be a roster thing, because if you're constantly wanting to 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:42.679 see me and come over and do these things, nigga, 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:45.040 why you keep bringing up oysters? But nigga, you want 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:49.159 to come over at ten o'clock at night, right, And 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.200 so to me, don't even bring up the oysters if 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:54.320 you want a whole different type of arrangement with me, 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:57.000 because at this point now I'm so disgusted that you 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.800 kept bringing up these goddamn oysters. Then now I'm just like, 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.159 I'm not interested in even you coming over to my house. 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:05.479 I'm not interested in being with you because you you 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:09.120 a liar. Like I really don't like liars or someone 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:12.720 who's just diarrhea at the mouth saying some things that 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.320 they're not even trying to do. I don't want someone 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:17.800 to sell me false dreams or hopes or whatever the 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.600 fuck that is the quickest way to like, just give 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:24.120 me the ick. I will also say something else for 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:30.960 niggas with hair I don't care what you gotta do, 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:35.800 how good you look in the braids, the dreads, the twisties. 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:41.720 If I go to hug you and that hair stinks, bruh, 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:43.480 And I know you got dreads, and I know you 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:47.240 be keeping up with your shit. I love a motherfucking 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:51.000 with hair. But if we are having sex or I'm 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.080 laying down and your head and I gotta turn around 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:59.640 and your fucking hair stinks like, that's something that will 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.760 make my pussy prune up and dry, and I I 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:04.480 don't know if I even want to hug you anymore. 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:06.560 I've actually heard the same thing that girl heard. I 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:08.920 remember telling a dude like, you should wash your hair, 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:10.880 and he was like, yeah, ruins the locks, nigga. 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:15.680 You don't care that that and and stink breath, those 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.080 are my icks. You could be fine as fuck. You 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:20.200 gotta whisper in my ear and that shit is hot 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:23.800 and sank. I don't want you anymore. So those stank hare. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:25.800 A lot of the scammer dudes have sank breath because 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:27.440 of the venears. You got to learn how to use them. 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:31.240 Stank care are for real, sank uh sank breath. Also, 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:33.760 the golds they use, I mean if you, oh yeah, 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:37.760 certain jewelry in your mouth, so stank care, sank breath, 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:41.160 and over promising and under delivering. Those are my icks. 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:45.120 What are some of y'all's ex I don't know. 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:48.480 I'm trying to think of someone that came to mind. Oh, 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.079 I feel like I've met a lot of men that 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:51.760 try to. 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.000 Tell me they're better than they are. 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.880 Like, for example, a first date thing, they'll just start 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.800 telling me about all these book or some shit or 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:04.800 some great habits they have, and then you start dating 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:05.240 them and you. 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:07.320 Never fucking see it. I don't give a fuck. 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.480 If you read ten books on the first day, Like yeah, 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.280 just like be a casual person, right, we all read 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.400 once in a blue Maybe you're an avid reader. I'm 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:16.360 right in the middle. I'm moderate, right, maybe a book 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:20.800 a month. And I just find that, like, I love 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:23.480 when men are who are people. Even women too are 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:27.720 who they are from the jump yep. That really has 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.280 been an itck for me. For men and women too, 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:31.880 it's so annoying, like, oh my god, I work out here, 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:36.000 I don't eat car especially men that tell me they 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.240 don't drink. I've experienced this too, I know. I feel 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.360 like I'm on a roll with this, but it keeps 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.480 coming up. I don't drink, but then you have a 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.040 drink with me three days later, Like, what the fuck 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:44.760 are you talking about? 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:45.560 Oh? 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:47.480 Occasionally, so then don't say you. 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:50.920 Don't drink, right, you don't drink often, say you like 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:52.960 to drink a certain settings, Like that's fine. 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.080 Is there a way that someone can give you the 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.920 ick and you can get past it? Or does an 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:03.080 itch normally mean it's time to go? Like this girl 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:05.560 literally said she has the inch to where she wasn't 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:08.320 even sexually attracted to this man anymore. Do you think 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:10.040 there's a way that you can address an inch and 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:12.480 get past it? Or do you think that once someone 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:16.320 gives you an ick it's over for that person? And 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.000 well if you two, do you think once you get 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:19.959 the ick as a man like by a woman? 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:20.199 Yeah? 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:22.480 What couldn't your little women do that make you? Oh? 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:26.240 I have a list too, if you want me to share, So. 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.559 I immediately I think about a story where I was 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:32.280 dating this girl. An ex girlfriend of mine had a 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.360 little brother. He looked at me like a big brother. 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:34.600 Right. 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:36.679 I had been broken up with this girl for years, 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:38.920 maybe like three years later, her little brother h hissed 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.120 me up, like, hey, I'm going through something. I need 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:43.400 to talk to you. I'm in a new relationship though, 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.440 so this is my ex girlfriend's little brother and I'm 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.200 telling the girl that I'm with now like hey, like 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:49.880 he needs to talk to me. I was always a 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:51.520 bigger brother in his life. I want to go do it. 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:53.000 And she was like, nah, I'm not cool with that, 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:55.480 and I was like, I'm gonna fucking do it, and 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.000 I literally broke up with her behind this Just that 0:10:59.080 --> 0:10:59.960 feeling of control. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:04.600 Unnecessary oh an unnecessary controlling. I get that. I get 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:05.439 that this. 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:07.800 Yeah, you an't need to be going over there and 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:11.200 have a Sunday dinner. But absolutely we make connections with 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:12.640 people that all the time. 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.720 Now, this comes from BuzzFeed for the women listening, I 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.800 did want to provide you a list. This is from 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.840 men in which they say these are the things that 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:31.599 they get X from women. So and let me know 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.520 you agree or not. Okay, So this is what men 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:37.040 get the x FL can I guess, Well, there's a list, 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:39.080 let me get if you agree. Well, I don't know 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:40.800 the whole list is no, I want to see if 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:43.880 they come up. I don't know, double backing on the text. 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:46.240 Let's see if text something about cleaniness and texting is 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.760 going to come up, and I think it's going to 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:51.760 be something with you said on the text, like just 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.719 like over over over texting like hello, and I think 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.959 there's going to be something about money and expectations. 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:01.319 Let's see. Well, the number one is is no reciprocation 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:07.920 of efforts, so pretty much you know them constantly having 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:11.319 to text first, them constantly setting up the dates, and 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:15.160 you not really showing them the same interests. This one 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:20.560 is big rude and demeaning attitudes like aggressively rude or demeaning. 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:24.120 I know, like one of the things for me is 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.800 and that will give me an itck. If we are 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.720 at a restaurant, absolutely and you treat the bartender or 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.520 server like shit, absolutely, that is an inch that I 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:33.640 don't think I can look past. I don't think I 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.880 can look past that either. Another one which is really 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:40.880 interesting is a woman with no hobbies. People who cannot 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:45.040 amuse themselves usually demand your full attention, making you unable 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:50.600 to practice your own hobbies. Also, an overly negative person. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.720 Absolutely not all days are good, but people who complain 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:57.000 about every detail, even if their day would be considered 0:12:57.040 --> 0:13:01.480 amazing by most. Most are a pain that I can't 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:04.400 deal with people like that, you know, like where every 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.920 time you call somebody and fucking hell is happening in 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:12.559 the life, you know. I really believe that they circulate that. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.600 Like, for example, there could be someone that can call 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.080 my phone and says they just got in a fight, 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:21.520 and I'm be like, oh my god, girl, what bitch? Right, 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:25.720 There's another person that'd be like, oh my god, those 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:26.400 number ones. 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:27.080 Yeah. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:30.080 I do feel like that drama like finds you because 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:33.280 you enjoy it. It's something that just keeps you going. 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:37.200 And I think sometimes unfortunately, I believe it's a social 0:13:37.280 --> 0:13:39.640 media thing. I believe it's a Twitter spirit thing. 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:40.080 All of it. 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:44.160 The camaraderie of hating things has brought out that negative attitude. 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:47.200 People just wake up angry after looking at something or 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.120 and then they push it onto you or they enjoy 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.680 debating all the time, and that's not a way I 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:52.240 like to connect. 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.800 Ye same. I think this one's interesting because when we 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.160 think of dating, we think of in person. However, a 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.840 lot of people on dating apps and this guy said 0:13:59.840 --> 0:14:02.319 that an ick for him prior to even getting on 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:04.840 a date with a woman is when their dating profile 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.040 is a list of qualities they want in a man 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:11.240 doesn't say anything about what they're like or what they bring. 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:12.840 To a because I've seen it on the back end, 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:16.000 you must be a non smoker. 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.480 I don't like this. I don't like that, and fifty 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:23.280 fifty fucked off. And then this is an interesting one. 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:27.600 This is an ick from another user. He said, women 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.960 who think they need to cut down every other female 0:14:31.000 --> 0:14:35.320 they see. It's repulsing to bring up what a woman 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:39.920 is wearing, to bring up their TACKI hair or what 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:43.200 they're saying. Just to constantly put down other women is 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:45.400 also an ick. And I want to share one more 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:50.800 because you've said this. In another uh male that we 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:55.000 went over, a man actually said if they only have 0:14:55.160 --> 0:15:00.800 guy friends, claims other women are too much drama. Coincidentally, 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:05.240 it's always involved in drama and loves gossip, always talks 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:09.880 about haters and fans. Who one said that, Yeah, it's 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.560 an ick if a woman, which is kind of playing 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:14.840 off what I just said. If you constantly just want 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:17.160 to talk down on women and only have male friends, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:20.160 you may kind of be the problem. And I'm interested 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:22.360 by that. But girls like to act like bitches hate them. 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:25.720 They do, they do, they do, And I love that 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:28.960 mann noticing like, bitch, there might be something wrong with you. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.800 Sure you know, because at first it might come off like, oh, 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.400 like she's just that cool, you know what I mean 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.080 to somebody who don't got the wisdom, But then you 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:37.800 eventually learn. To me, I'm surprised a woman having bad 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:41.040 money happens is not on there, because that's that's gonna be. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.320 An ick for me in what way? 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.440 If you if you like constantly putting yourself in a 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.680 position where you need money for me, like always because 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.120 it's like, oh the shopping always come first or whatever, 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.080 Like you're always doing big on the bill, and it's 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:55.400 like and now you have nothing. 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:56.840 Left for yourself, like you still got shit to do. 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:01.600 Bill spread response financial response ability as an adult. But 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:05.320 absolutely turn me off from a man as well, like Nigga, 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:07.400 wasn't you just out with your homeboys? What you mean 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:08.520 you can't pay your phone? 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:12.160 To be honest, I think excessive spending period like when 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.640 you date men with money, like women dating men with 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:18.520 money like sometimes they be it just feels ridiculous. Yeah, 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:20.160 and you're like, is this a show? Off for you? 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:22.560 Is it for me? Like? What is it with girls? 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:26.720 I can completely understand because we start our shopping addiction early. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:27.600 You know what I'm saying. 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:30.520 Now Amazon has taken it to a new place where 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.160 I could my addiction is a clique that just says 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.000 by now not even add the car now. 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:40.960 She brought up our our whorehive member brought up that 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:45.200 she expressed her ick with this guy and he did 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:49.160 start to change. Is there is there a like have 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:51.880 you guys brought up an ick with someone and got 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.920 past it? Or that they changed and you didn't like them, 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:55.840 or was it too late? 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.800 Actually, every I've ever brought up they never fixed it. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:00.840 And that's ah, they never fixed it. 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.160 I think, Yeah, I'm kind of think wed thing that 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:04.000 I got fixed. 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:08.200 I did think this one was. Oh my ex boyfriend 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:12.479 was old. Day was really not considerate of He grew 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:16.000 up Jehovah's witness of birthdays or holidays, which is ironic 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.359 because we talked about that a few weeks ago. But 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:21.440 the holiday part was fine, but the birthday part wasn't 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:23.160 because I feel like he couldn't figure out a way 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:27.040 to acknowledge big moments because it really wasn't the holiday thing. 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:28.680 It was like, oh, you don't know how to celebrate. 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.119 He definitely was able to step that up. He like 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:34.280 looked at it from a point where it wasn't me 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.639 trying to be vain and I need you to do 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:39.640 this for me more than he was like, oh yeah, 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:40.560 like I need to show up for you. 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.920 I mean, I feel like that leans more into the 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.800 compromises and sacrifices than the icks. No, no, no. 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:50.119 My ich was that he literally would not okay, like 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:52.119 Mandy I would write him, oh my god, we just 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:56.200 did this awesome, Like another friend would be sending me 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:58.560 flowers for something. My birthday would come around like things 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.600 were just not adding up, Like he didn't know how 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.800 to be excited for me, and I couldn't understand what 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:07.600 it was, which was why when he surprised me at 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.480 our show the thing that was twenty nineteen, that was 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:12.639 a big deal because I thought he was going on vacation. 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:15.080 He was like, oh no, I realized, like I need 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:18.400 to do that. I think sometimes I don't know if 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:20.480 it was in his particular case, but men don't know 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:21.880 how to celebrate women. 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:25.760 When they're insecure. They don't know that they don't want 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:28.439 to give your flowers all the time. I you know, 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:30.200 I just read this thing. 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:33.760 It may have been on Twitter where a woman got 0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:35.679 a three hundred thousand dollars job offer. 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:37.679 Yeah, no it was three times. No, it wasn't three 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:42.000 hundred thousand, it was three three times his money. So yeah, 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:46.360 just got a got a salary three times her man's salary. 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:49.359 And they were engaged. He gave yeah, they were about 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:52.520 to get married, and he was like, that would make 0:18:52.600 --> 0:18:54.840 me insecure in this relationship. I don't want to be 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:56.720 with a woman who makes three times more than me, 0:18:57.200 --> 0:18:59.800 and gave her the ultimatum, either you take the job 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:02.600 or we don't get married. And she called off the 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:08.200 wedding to keep the career. But I think that, yeah, 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:10.000 I mean I think she Do you think she called 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:10.600 it to keep? 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:12.960 I would I really think you broke up with somebody 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:16.120 because you realize that wasn't for you, Like because someone's 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:18.040 going to threaten her and say, oh you. 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:23.160 Chose work over, Yeah, get the fuck out of here. 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:25.240 That would be anck And I'm glad that she chose 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:26.920 to leave that mom. And you know what's crazy. 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:30.680 You think about getting married and it's like it becomes 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:34.439