Speaker 1: We spent our lives following the rules, following the guidelines,
Speaker 1: doing what was good, doing what was polite and right,
Speaker 1: even if we didn't feel aligned with ourselves, which naturally
Speaker 1: leads to anger, to tension, to stress. Notice how the
Speaker 1: suppression of anger develops tension and resentment. Hey, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for listening and tuning in today. Thank you
Speaker 1: for selecting this podcast and this episode to be here
Speaker 1: with me on on purpose. I don't take you for granted.
Speaker 1: I'm extremely grateful that you chose to be with me
Speaker 1: here today when you could have been anywhere in the
Speaker 1: world right now. And I appreciate you. I genuinely do,
Speaker 1: and in my heart of hearts, I hope that one
Speaker 1: day I get to meet you, I get to give
Speaker 1: you a big hug, and we get to be at
Speaker 1: a lie I have on purpose event. With the community
Speaker 1: that we've built over the last few years, it is
Speaker 1: mind blowing to me just how this community has doubled
Speaker 1: in strength in just the last couple of years. And
Speaker 1: I know how many of you are sharing these episodes
Speaker 1: talking about them, and I couldn't be more grateful. Now,
Speaker 1: today's episode is an important one. For as long as
Speaker 1: I've known. I've been fascinated by learning about personality types,
Speaker 1: about psychology, and about human behavior. And before we dive in,
Speaker 1: I want to talk a bit about why I think
Speaker 1: it's important to know and understand your personality type, your psychology,
Speaker 1: and your nature and how it impacts your behavior, your actions,
Speaker 1: your choices, and your decisions. And the reason I got
Speaker 1: fascinated is because I realized I loved learning about myself.
Speaker 1: How many of you love learning something about yourself. It's
Speaker 1: one of the reasons why we love astrology, or why
Speaker 1: we love doing personality tests or any sort of fun
Speaker 1: test that you see come up on social media where
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, let me learn what my weirdest guilty
Speaker 1: pleasure is or whatever it may be. Because self awareness
Speaker 1: is really fulfilling. Let me say that again. Self awareness
Speaker 1: is really fulfilling. And when we get to know ourselves,
Speaker 1: when we get to learn about ourselves, we're able to love, care,
Speaker 1: and deeply understand ourselves all those things that we want
Speaker 1: someone else to do. This is something that we get
Speaker 1: to do for ourselves. So let's dive into why it's important.
Speaker 1: The first thing is that knowing your personality type is
Speaker 1: important because it helps you understand why you think the
Speaker 1: way you do, why you are the way you are.
Speaker 1: You've developed certain traits through nature and nurture have led
Speaker 1: to this psychophysical position that you currently have, and then
Speaker 1: you start to be able to notice why you react
Speaker 1: in a certain way, why you're triggered in a certain way,
Speaker 1: why you move in a certain way. So it's really
Speaker 1: practical and powerful to get a deeper understanding of why
Speaker 1: your mind works the way it works. The next reason
Speaker 1: why it's really important to understand your personality type is
Speaker 1: you can do the same for others. You start to
Speaker 1: realize that everything's not that personal. You start to realize
Speaker 1: that not everything is directed towards you, that not everything
Speaker 1: that someone does or says is because it makes sense
Speaker 1: to you. It may not make sense with your rationale
Speaker 1: or your logic, but it makes sense to them because
Speaker 1: if their wiring. The third reason is that you can
Speaker 1: now change how you use your personality type. You can
Speaker 1: focus in on your strengths. You can double down on
Speaker 1: your superpowers. You can try to improve your weaknesses in
Speaker 1: areas that they may be limiting you or holding you back.
Speaker 1: You now have availability and accessibility to a whole new
Speaker 1: set of tools to transform your life. Learning about your
Speaker 1: personality type makes you a better communicator because you now
Speaker 1: know how to speak to someone in their personality language,
Speaker 1: not yours. One of the biggest challenges in our communication
Speaker 1: is we talk to people how we want to be
Speaker 1: spoken to, not how they want to be spoken to
Speaker 1: based on their emotions and wiring. Learning about your personality
Speaker 1: types makes it easier to make better decisions because you
Speaker 1: start recognizing which decisions are in an alignment with who
Speaker 1: you are, which parallels are there to unleash your potential,
Speaker 1: and learning about your personality type improves your emotional regulation.
Speaker 1: When you understand your personality typ you're able to better
Speaker 1: emotionally remain stable and regulated through all the ups and
Speaker 1: downs because you now recognize the patterns. Now, today, I'm
Speaker 1: going to be looking at a specific book called the
Speaker 1: Essential Aniogram, and this is the Definitive Personality Test and
Speaker 1: Self Discovery Guide by David Daniels, MD at the Stanford
Speaker 1: University Medical School. I'm using the anagram in this book
Speaker 1: because it simplifies it. It allows you to make it
Speaker 1: clear for this episode, but hopefully it's a great introduction
Speaker 1: into the niagram for you. Now some of you may
Speaker 1: be aware of the niag, some of you might not,
Speaker 1: and therefore I will start by first of all, just
Speaker 1: defining what ani agram is. Now. The aniagram, of course,
Speaker 1: is a personality system that helps us understand our different
Speaker 1: patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting. And the book goes
Speaker 1: on to say that anya is a Greek word for nine,
Speaker 1: and gram means a figure or something written. Hence, the
Speaker 1: eneagram personality system is represented by a diagram of nine
Speaker 1: pointed star within a circle. Each of these nine patterns
Speaker 1: and nine points forms one of the personality types. Today
Speaker 1: I will be giving you an overview of the different
Speaker 1: personality types. And if you grab this book, there's a
Speaker 1: test in it. There's lots of tests online as well
Speaker 1: to help you figure out which is yours. I'm going
Speaker 1: to leave that for you to do. But today I
Speaker 1: want to talk about the different types and talk about
Speaker 1: how learning about this could change how you behave at work,
Speaker 1: in life, and your relationships. So let's dive straight in.
Speaker 1: The first personality type is the perfectionist. Now, a word
Speaker 1: of caution, when I walk through this, you're going to
Speaker 1: be listening going that's me, Oh, that's me as well.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm like four of these. The truth
Speaker 1: is we are all, of course a mixture and a
Speaker 1: blend of many of these, but we have one predominating one.
Speaker 1: At the same time, we have a certain sense of
Speaker 1: intention that guides and is the underlying principle to all
Speaker 1: of these. So sometimes you may have several similar behaviors,
Speaker 1: but the reason for that behavior is what the personality
Speaker 1: goes to. The reason goes to the root. So the
Speaker 1: first one is the perfectionist. The perfectionist belief is that
Speaker 1: we are all one and are perfect as we are.
Speaker 1: People are not accepted for who they are. Their good
Speaker 1: behavior is expected and taken for granted, their bad behavior
Speaker 1: and impulses are judged negatively and punished. Based on that belief,
Speaker 1: they have a strategy, which is I learn to gain
Speaker 1: love and self regard by being good, responsible, and conscientious,
Speaker 1: doing things the correct way, meeting my high internal standards
Speaker 1: and following the rules. I suppressed anger and developed tension
Speaker 1: and resentment. How many of us can align and identify
Speaker 1: with this. We spent our lives following the rules, following
Speaker 1: the guidelines, doing what was good, doing what was polite
Speaker 1: and right, even if we didn't feel aligned with ourselves,
Speaker 1: which naturally leads to anger, to tension, to stress. Notice
Speaker 1: how the suppression of anger, the book goes on to say,
Speaker 1: develops tension and resentment. And so because of this strategy
Speaker 1: a perfectionist, tension is on what is right, what is wrong,
Speaker 1: and what should be corrected, the rightness and wrongness of
Speaker 1: other people's behavior compared to theirs self criticism and others
Speaker 1: criticism of themselves, their blind spots and the gray zone
Speaker 1: between black and white, and often to both urge and desire.
Speaker 1: They put all their energy into getting things right, issues
Speaker 1: about integrity, and they do everything they can to avoid
Speaker 1: making mistakes. Notice how this goes beyond just being a
Speaker 1: perfectionist in a task. It becomes a way of life
Speaker 1: where all you focus on is on being right, getting
Speaker 1: things right, and doing things right. Now, we all know
Speaker 1: that things are not that black and white. We know
Speaker 1: things are not that clear. So what does that lead to?
Speaker 1: It leads to stress, And what causes you stress is
Speaker 1: not being able to quiet the internal critic and the
Speaker 1: associated anxiety and worried. You feel overburdened by a sense
Speaker 1: of personal responsibility and conscientiousness, and you start recognizing that
Speaker 1: a lot of that anger and defensiveness develops. Now, of course,
Speaker 1: there are strengths to this type as well, the strengths
Speaker 1: and integrity concerned for improvement, putting forth a lot of effort, idealism,
Speaker 1: self reliance, keeping of higher standards, self restraint. These are
Speaker 1: all qualities that David Daniels points out as the strength
Speaker 1: of the perfectionist, and their communication style is being precise, clear, direct,
Speaker 1: all positive things. Now, notice how the balance of this.
Speaker 1: When someone is in balance as a perfectionist, they can
Speaker 1: be highly powerful and impactful in society. I mean, most
Speaker 1: of us would say we need more people like this,
Speaker 1: but when the balance is tipped, when we're not sure
Speaker 1: what is right and wrong, this can also be very harmful. So,
Speaker 1: as always on this podcast, what I want to focus on,
Speaker 1: and the book does this beautifully, is how does this
Speaker 1: type focus on personal development? Observing the way you constantly
Speaker 1: monitor good and bad, Appreciating that there is more than
Speaker 1: one right way and that others wrong ways may simply
Speaker 1: be individual differences. Accepting imperfections in myself and others is
Speaker 1: what we need to focus on, Practicing forgiveness for ourselves
Speaker 1: and for others, and even on a deep level, questioning
Speaker 1: and refining the rules we live by. Do we really
Speaker 1: understand them? Are we fighting for right? Or do we
Speaker 1: deeply understand the rules? These are the pathways to personal
Speaker 1: development for this type, and what ends up hindering your
Speaker 1: personal development is that inner critic all over again, that
Speaker 1: doesn't let you accept yourself and doesn't let you accept others.
Speaker 1: It's constantly worrying about getting everything perfect and getting everything right. Now,
Speaker 1: raise your hand if you feel this is you. Raise
Speaker 1: your hand if you're you're constantly governed by right and wrong,
Speaker 1: not just do you think about it. Sometimes this is
Speaker 1: your mode of living, and take a second to be
Speaker 1: kinder to yourself, take a second to be conscious with yourself.
Speaker 1: Take a moment to forgive yourself and recognize that this
Speaker 1: is something you want to work on. You're not going
Speaker 1: to be hard on yourself. You're not going to strengthen
Speaker 1: that inner critic. And the way others can support your
Speaker 1: development is by encouraging you to go easy on yourself
Speaker 1: and to make time for yourself, providing you with a
Speaker 1: non judgmental viewpoint because that's what you struggle with. So
Speaker 1: you can literally tell your friends, hey, could you remind
Speaker 1: me to take it easier on myself. Could you remind
Speaker 1: me to not judge myself as strongly? This is type one.
Speaker 1: How many of you enjoying the sessions so far? I
Speaker 1: hope you are. I hope you're feeling that sense of reflection.
Speaker 1: You may even have a type point in your life
Speaker 1: and now you're feeling better equipped to deal with This
Speaker 1: book is fantastic. David Daniels The Essential Aneagram. I've had
Speaker 1: it for a ton of time. It beautifully gives you
Speaker 1: an intro into the aneagram, which you can then dive
Speaker 1: into deeper. Number two is the giver. How many of
Speaker 1: you are already thinking you're the giver? Their belief is
Speaker 1: to get you must give. To be loved, you must
Speaker 1: be needed. Their adaptive strategy is I learned to get
Speaker 1: my personal needs fulfilled by being needed and by giving
Speaker 1: others what I felt they needed and wanted, and I
Speaker 1: expected that they would then do the same for me.
Speaker 1: I developed feelings of pride in being indispensable. Wow, how
Speaker 1: many of you know a family member that has lived
Speaker 1: this way as a giver? How many of you know
Speaker 1: someone that gets their sense of value and self worth
Speaker 1: and self belief because they give they want to feel needed,
Speaker 1: they to feel useful. They may get territorial about certain things.
Speaker 1: So because of this strategy, their attention is on the
Speaker 1: needs and wants of others, especially if people they care
Speaker 1: about and would like to have more care about them.
Speaker 1: This obviously creates so many challenges. People can't always reciprocate
Speaker 1: in the same way, people can't always give back in
Speaker 1: the same way, and this person ends up putting their
Speaker 1: energy into sensing the emotional needs of others and doing
Speaker 1: what pleases them, feeling good about being able to meet
Speaker 1: others needs so well, and that's massively difficult, whether it's
Speaker 1: romantic relationship, family, or friendships. And they're trying to avoid
Speaker 1: disappointing others. They're trying to avoid feeling unappreciated, so they
Speaker 1: bend and they shift, and they break whatever it takes
Speaker 1: to feel needed. Now, the strengths is being giving and helpful,
Speaker 1: being generous. At the core, they are supportive, appreciative, and
Speaker 1: you may think, wow, this person is amazing because they
Speaker 1: love and care about me so much, not recognizing that
Speaker 1: they may want the same bag. Their communication style is friendly, expressive,
Speaker 1: but they can often tell you how they truly feel
Speaker 1: as well, now let's really talk about how to gain
Speaker 1: personal development in this regard, because we know we can
Speaker 1: already understand that there's stress and challenges that come with
Speaker 1: this approach, and sometimes they can have intense or sudden
Speaker 1: emotional outbursts saying that they don't feel re separcated, where
Speaker 1: it's saying that they don't feel loved, saying that they
Speaker 1: don't feel taken care of. So this person needs to
Speaker 1: realize that being loved does not depend on changing yourself
Speaker 1: for others. Gaining clarity about who the real meat is
Speaker 1: and about my own wants and needs, this is the
Speaker 1: key part. It's recognizing, well, what do I need, what
Speaker 1: do I want? And how can I give that to myself?
Speaker 1: If I'm such a giver, let me give to myself first,
Speaker 1: and let me not give to expect. Let me form
Speaker 1: relationships where there is natural reciprocity. Let me form relationships
Speaker 1: where I'm happy to maintain boundaries. And of course this
Speaker 1: would have to be a big focus area for this
Speaker 1: individual as well. Now I'm sharing the challenges because I
Speaker 1: think we all relate to the challenges more. But we
Speaker 1: have to realize this is also a beautiful mindset. If
Speaker 1: you have the ability to give. If you have the
Speaker 1: ability to love, that is one of the most beautiful gifts.
Speaker 1: But when we give to get, when we love to
Speaker 1: be loved back, that often feels empty and uncertain. So
Speaker 1: I want you to think about how you can give
Speaker 1: more credit to yourself, give more love to yourself, and
Speaker 1: at the same time, whenever you feel selfish, accepting that
Speaker 1: you can only give to others if you give to
Speaker 1: yourself first, learning to set healthier boundaries and barriers can
Speaker 1: be really, really protective. So that is type two. And
Speaker 1: if you're a type two or you know someone in
Speaker 1: your life that's a type two. The way to get
Speaker 1: support from others is appreciating my independent self instead of
Speaker 1: being seduced by or dependent on the help I give,
Speaker 1: paying attention to my real needs and asking about them.
Speaker 1: So if you have a friend who's always bending over
Speaker 1: backwards for you, reach out to them and ask them
Speaker 1: to take care of themselves next time they offer to
Speaker 1: go above and beyond for you, help them help themselves
Speaker 1: or go above and beyond for them, but be clear
Speaker 1: about the expectation you're setting as well. That is type
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Speaker 1: known as the performer. They believe that everything works and
Speaker 1: gets done naturally according to universal laws, and they feel
Speaker 1: that they've learned to get love and approval by achieving success,
Speaker 1: by working hard to be the best, and by maintaining
Speaker 1: a good image. They believe they developed a self driving,
Speaker 1: go ahead energy that mast their own true feelings and
Speaker 1: their way of operating is all the things that have
Speaker 1: to be done, task goals and future achievements. The most
Speaker 1: efficient solutions how to be the best and getting things
Speaker 1: done quickly and efficiently, staying active and busy, competing, achieving
Speaker 1: recognition and credit for accomplishments, adjusting to whatever is required
Speaker 1: for success, promoting themselves looking good. They do everything they
Speaker 1: can to avoid failing to achieve their goals, being overshadowed
Speaker 1: by others, losing face, experiencing uncomfortable feelings. And their strengths
Speaker 1: are being personable, enthusiastic, leadership, self assurance. Again, as you
Speaker 1: can see, all of these personality types have lots of
Speaker 1: positive traits, But the thing that we don't recognize is
Speaker 1: that if we're not aware of the narrative that we've
Speaker 1: built or the story that we've built, often we can
Speaker 1: end up feeling worse even when we understand and it's
Speaker 1: about ourselves. Their communication style is direct, topic focused, fast paced,
Speaker 1: and confident. Now what causes them stress is the pressure
Speaker 1: that comes from basing how good they feel about themselves
Speaker 1: on how much they get done and on status, prestige
Speaker 1: and power. Not knowing their real feelings and values. So
Speaker 1: if you're one of these people and you want to
Speaker 1: be on top, knowing your true feelings and values and
Speaker 1: working towards your values, engaging that work ethic to something
Speaker 1: you really care about. Directing that towards your purpose is
Speaker 1: what purifies this personality type and makes you feel healthy.
Speaker 1: Other ideas for personal development are moderating your pace by
Speaker 1: practicing patients and allowing things to be as they are,
Speaker 1: welcoming their emotions, asking yourself what really matters, practicing looking
Speaker 1: inward for your own identity apart from sess and the
Speaker 1: expectation of others, setting limits and boundaries on work, allowing
Speaker 1: yourself to listen and be receptive. Notice how there is
Speaker 1: a way forward in each of these to have a
Speaker 1: great relationship with yourself. And what ends up happening is
Speaker 1: that because we are unaware of this, we push it
Speaker 1: aside and we don't give it the energy and the
Speaker 1: focus that it truly needs. Type four is the romantic. Now,
Speaker 1: this isn't about relationships. This is just how they think
Speaker 1: about life, a romantic view of life. So their belief
Speaker 1: is people experience a painful loss of their original connections,
Speaker 1: leaving them feeling abandoned and feeling that they are missing
Speaker 1: something important. They learn to keep searching for an ideal
Speaker 1: love or perfect circumstance to make them feel loved, whole
Speaker 1: and complete again. They developed feelings of longing and envy
Speaker 1: for what is missing, so they end up putting their
Speaker 1: energy into a range of intense feelings associated with what
Speaker 1: seems to be missing or lacking in life, finding love, meaning,
Speaker 1: and fulfillment through self expression and deep connection, endeavoring to
Speaker 1: be a unique individual. Their strengths are sensitivity, a creative orientation.
Speaker 1: We see a lot of musicians in this field, a
Speaker 1: lot of poets, a lot of artists. They have a
Speaker 1: capacity to empathize with suffering. How many times have you
Speaker 1: listened to a musician or an artist, or a friend
Speaker 1: who plays an instrument and you just think they understand me,
Speaker 1: They know how I feel. This person has emotional depth,
Speaker 1: authenticity and introspection. It's why so often we feel so
Speaker 1: understood by musicians, but why they don't feel understood. They
Speaker 1: communicate through expressive feelings, often personal and self focused. They
Speaker 1: can be self absorbed, They can be dramatic at times,
Speaker 1: and what causes them stress is people and experiences not
Speaker 1: living up to their romantic ideals or their desire for intensity.
Speaker 1: They can envy what others have that they do not have,
Speaker 1: or what they are that they are not. Now, how
Speaker 1: does this person move forward focusing on what is positive
Speaker 1: in life right now rather than what is missing, maintaining
Speaker 1: a consistent course of action despite fluctuating and intense feelings,
Speaker 1: cultivating happiness in others in order to become less self absorbed,
Speaker 1: delaying reactive action until intense emotions begin to subside. And
Speaker 1: if you know someone like this, encourage them to keep
Speaker 1: their attention on what is positive in the present. Okay,
Speaker 1: so personality five, there's nine altogether. We may or may
Speaker 1: not get through all of them today. I may need
Speaker 1: a part two That step five is the observer. Now,
Speaker 1: the observer has learned to protect themselves from intrusive demands
Speaker 1: and being drained of their resources by becoming private and
Speaker 1: self sufficient. They do this by limiting their desires and wants,
Speaker 1: and by accumulating a lot of knowledge. They developed a
Speaker 1: sense of avarice, but only for things they could not
Speaker 1: do without. Now, this person puts their energy into retracting
Speaker 1: in order to observe learning all there is to know
Speaker 1: about a subject, thinking and analyzing in advance, dampening and
Speaker 1: reducing feelings, remaining self contained to conserve energy, maintaining sufficient
Speaker 1: privacy boundaries and limits, and their strengths a scholarliness, being knowledgeable, thoughtfulness,
Speaker 1: calmness and crisis, being respectful, keeping confidences, dependability, appreciation of simplicity. Now,
Speaker 1: what causes this person's stress is failing to maintain sufficient
Speaker 1: privacy boundaries and limits. And the way this person can
Speaker 1: move forward is allowing them to experience feelings instead of
Speaker 1: detaching and retracting into their mind. Notice how so many
Speaker 1: of us are hiding our feelings for different reasons. So
Speaker 1: so far, we've gone through nearly five personality types. Notice
Speaker 1: how some are hiding their feelings because they're focused on success.
Speaker 1: Others are hiding their feelings because they're focused on knowledge.
Speaker 1: So we start realizing that we're all hiding our feelings,
Speaker 1: but we're hiding them for different reasons. And when we
Speaker 1: become aware of their underlying reason, that's when we can
Speaker 1: truly make shifts. Another thing for their personal development is
Speaker 1: taking action in the realization that they have ample energy
Speaker 1: and support to carry it off. Finding ways to engage
Speaker 1: in conversation, to express themselves and to reveal personal matters. Hence,
Speaker 1: a lot of observers need therapy or coaching in order
Speaker 1: to create that safe space, to be more vulnerable, to
Speaker 1: be more honest, and to be more open. Okay. Number
Speaker 1: six is known as the loyal skeptic. Now, this one
Speaker 1: has developed one of two strategies to seek security and
Speaker 1: certainty phobic or accommodating stance. While I became doubting, vigilant
Speaker 1: and questioning, I also learned to obey authority and to
Speaker 1: avoid perceived threats and hazards or counterphobic or challenging stance.
Speaker 1: While I became doubting, vigilant and questioning, I also learned
Speaker 1: to defy authority and to battle perceived threats and hazards.
Speaker 1: This person puts their energy into doubting, testing, looking for
Speaker 1: double messages, fingering things out through logical analysis, playing the
Speaker 1: devil's advocate. We all have that one friend who says,
Speaker 1: I just want to play Devil's advocate here right, gaining
Speaker 1: security by obtaining the good will of others. Their strengths
Speaker 1: include trustworthiness, loyalty, thoughtfulness, questioning. It can be a really
Speaker 1: powerful skill, but sometimes of course, it can become stressful
Speaker 1: if they put pressure on themselves in their efforts to
Speaker 1: deal with uncertainty insecurity. They struggle with feeling that lack
Speaker 1: and what makes them angry is untrustworthiness betrayal. Now, how
Speaker 1: did these people move forward with their personal development? Being
Speaker 1: and acting as my own authority? Reclaiming faith in myself, others,
Speaker 1: and the universe, Accepting that some uncertainty and insecurity is
Speaker 1: a natural part of life, checking out my fears and
Speaker 1: concerns with others, Recognizing that staying busy is a way
Speaker 1: to reduce awareness of anxiety, and recognizing that both fight
Speaker 1: and flight are reactions to fear. So today we've covered
Speaker 1: six of the Enneagram personality types, and there are nine
Speaker 1: in total. I would definitely do a part two. If
Speaker 1: you like this episode, make sure you let me know
Speaker 1: in the reviews, make sure you tag me on Instagram,
Speaker 1: and let me know that you want a part two
Speaker 1: of this to go over the other three. Remember, I
Speaker 1: was reading from David Daniel's book The Essential Niagram. It's
Speaker 1: a short book, really simple, and I really wanted to
Speaker 1: focus on it today because I think it covers so
Speaker 1: much ground in such simplicity. I really hope this episode
Speaker 1: helped you today. I'm so grateful to each and every
Speaker 1: one of you for listening. I can't wait for part
Speaker 1: two and I'll see you soon. Thanks for listening, everyone,