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Speaker 1: Dreamers and chases. Girl, Wake your ass up, it's your girl,
Speaker 1: aj what's up town, Sleepy? Oh God, I swear ass up.
Speaker 2: I've been burning the candle and both ends. Bitch. I literally, y'all.
Speaker 2: I just got off the plane from LA going to
Speaker 2: one of my very very very good friends baby shower,
Speaker 2: and I just feel like I'm just like trying to
Speaker 2: show up for everybody in a real way. And Auntie tired.
Speaker 1: Better take some rests, Better lay that ass down.
Speaker 2: I'm supposed to get my kouchie wed at six o'clock
Speaker 2: and I think I'm gonna cancel.
Speaker 1: Are you going to be using it? You know you
Speaker 1: played on using it this week. I need to go
Speaker 1: ahead and make that appointment.
Speaker 2: Man, they gonna have to get it how it is,
Speaker 2: get it, how you live money together. I don't know
Speaker 2: i''re gonna be calling you stubby porcupine a little stubby
Speaker 2: was again.
Speaker 1: I was at the house. This was hot and it
Speaker 1: was raining crazy this weekend, bitch, I heard thunder like
Speaker 1: I've never heard thunder before. My bedroom flashed red as
Speaker 1: if a fire was outside the window. That's how crazy
Speaker 1: this thunder was. Oh wow, it's some shit going on
Speaker 1: in this world. Ain't like you couldn't tell me that.
Speaker 1: The next day, I was going to be driving outside
Speaker 1: and it would be like a big ass crater in
Speaker 1: the road. Yes, because it sounded like it hit something
Speaker 1: like it was so close. Man, that's scary.
Speaker 2: But I feel like in the Southeast we get worse
Speaker 2: thunderstorms anywhere in the country.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I feel like when I lived in the Midwest,
Speaker 1: I don't recall ever hearing thunder, like they would have
Speaker 1: a little mini tornadoes and shit like that. Like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't recall hearing thunder for many years until I
Speaker 1: came back to South Carolina. It's weird.
Speaker 2: And that shit be so powerful to shake the whole room, just.
Speaker 1: Like the whole house shook.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know when it's raining, though, I don't be
Speaker 1: doing shit. You know, you can't talk. You got to
Speaker 1: turn it all the lights off. You can't gotta be silent.
Speaker 2: My great grandma used to have us she was so
Speaker 2: old in country. We had to turn off the lights,
Speaker 2: be quiet, let the lord do his business, and she
Speaker 2: would cover up the mirrors with towels.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy old.
Speaker 2: Country shit right there. Baby, I don't know what I
Speaker 2: was like, Grandma, what the fuck is that for? That's
Speaker 2: what I wanted to say. It was not my grandma
Speaker 2: was my great grandmother. She was born in nineteen oh two.
Speaker 1: So yeah, you're just supposed to be quiet when it's
Speaker 1: thunder and it's.
Speaker 2: Just one of the lord doing his business.
Speaker 1: Whatever they got going on at that door. But have
Speaker 1: you ever heard the saying that, you know, when it's
Speaker 1: sun outside and it's raining, the devil was beating his
Speaker 1: white behind the door, behind a door like the ship
Speaker 1: that people from the door apart.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like I always hear, the devil was beating his wife.
Speaker 2: She and I get there get a wife? And I
Speaker 2: know all these bitches out here still single, and the
Speaker 2: devil got a wife. How is that possible? How did
Speaker 2: he bag a bitch?
Speaker 1: It's a lot of women out here with devils for
Speaker 1: men right now? What are you talking about? And vice versa.
Speaker 1: It's somebody out here for everybody. Girl. I just got
Speaker 1: off the phone. My seventy year old cousin. She was
Speaker 1: calling me asking how to change her location on Facebook,
Speaker 1: and I actually told her to come on the show,
Speaker 1: right this bitch of seventy still out here looking for
Speaker 1: a low one. She's looking for a booth thing and
Speaker 1: she was trying to update her me too. Look, she's
Speaker 1: a Gemini too. This is one of my favorite like relatives.
Speaker 1: She stayed with me for some time. I lived in
Speaker 1: Atlanta too, cause she work on film. She's a seamstress
Speaker 1: so and she's like the family historian. But I just
Speaker 1: got off the phone with her and she was saying,
Speaker 1: how bitch, we kind of doomed, Like we got to
Speaker 1: hurry the fuck up right now and find a husband,
Speaker 1: because bitch, I'm not trying to be seventy on a
Speaker 1: dating website. And she said, the men be out, the
Speaker 1: ones who are sort of available, be outside with young
Speaker 1: boy clothes on, pants hanging off the ass, like these
Speaker 1: are sixty seventy year old men. She's saying. I was like, girl,
Speaker 1: maybe you need to get a white guy. She was like, no,
Speaker 1: they just alcoholics. They want to party all the time.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, if not, then, girl, I don't
Speaker 1: know what she said. She trying to pop some pussy.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like she sound and she still looks
Speaker 1: really good too. She went to Seattle for her birthday time.
Speaker 2: What they going to Big Wisz tournament? Like, what are
Speaker 2: they doing?
Speaker 1: Now? You know the white men, them old white men
Speaker 1: be wold, they be on coke, still on the yard, chilling, disrespectful. So, yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be seventy out here still looking
Speaker 1: for love. That shit right there. Me neither. And she
Speaker 1: said all the women she knows is in her same predicament.
Speaker 4: Mmmm.
Speaker 1: So when these.
Speaker 2: Niggas said we're gonna dialoge, they might be onto something.
Speaker 1: Not me, y'all, bitches, because I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not claiming that shit. I'm gonna have my somebody
Speaker 2: before the end of twenty twenty three period.
Speaker 1: Yep, let's go ahead and to clear that right now already.
Speaker 2: I won five hundred dollars in the tork contest over
Speaker 2: the weekend.
Speaker 1: Alright, a baby show it was.
Speaker 2: It wasn't technically a tortu contest. It was like where
Speaker 2: you put the balls. It was the golf balls in
Speaker 2: the Kleenex box. You had to tie it around your
Speaker 2: waist and shake the balls with your butt. You had
Speaker 2: to shake them out the box, and whoever got them
Speaker 2: out the box first, it wasn't it wasn't a monetary
Speaker 2: prize at first. But this is actually the guy he
Speaker 2: was like trying to talk to me at the baby shower.
Speaker 2: He was like, oh, I got five hundred dollars on it.
Speaker 2: He put it up there because I wasn't even participating.
Speaker 2: They drugged me up there because of how big my
Speaker 2: butt was. That's how I kind of went like, nah,
Speaker 2: you got to participate. So then after they made me,
Speaker 2: he came up there with the five hundred dollars like,
Speaker 2: here go this for the winner, and baby I won
Speaker 2: that thing. I shook them balls out quick, like five
Speaker 2: hundred shit, y'all should have let with that. We get
Speaker 2: this money real quick.
Speaker 1: Was the container under the cheeks of like on your waist,
Speaker 1: like sitting on top of the butt.
Speaker 2: So it was like no, cuz it was on like
Speaker 2: right on the fullness of my ass, like right at
Speaker 2: the fullest part of your butt, sitting right there, and
Speaker 2: tied them around and you had to shake it off,
Speaker 2: shake them out.
Speaker 1: That's foolishness.
Speaker 2: Balls was going in about two point five seconds. I
Speaker 2: had all them balls out that box. Don't play with
Speaker 2: me ither bit just said it disqualified your ass.
Speaker 5: It ain't fair, equalized opportunist.
Speaker 2: I shared the money though, because there was this other
Speaker 2: girl who felt like she won, but on the video
Speaker 2: she did not. But I still gave her some of
Speaker 2: the money because I wasn't even expecting no money.
Speaker 1: You know, right, all paid forward good sport in the
Speaker 1: turkathon at the damn baby shower.
Speaker 2: At the baby shower, it was fun.
Speaker 1: So let's get in the stupid internet newest chowd. So listen,
Speaker 1: we all see what the fuck is going on with
Speaker 1: Keiki Palmer and her baby daddy. Honey, Okay, what's her
Speaker 1: baby daddy name? Darius Jackson?
Speaker 2: Yes, I thought Darius Jackson.
Speaker 1: Bitch, you better not say Derek Jackson, not the nigga
Speaker 1: who was playing his wife.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, you're tripping.
Speaker 1: Darius Jackson is Keky Palmer is thee of the father
Speaker 1: of her son. That's his name. Okay, So if you've
Speaker 1: been living under a rock, Key Palmer went to Usher concert.
Speaker 1: I don't think she actually filmed, but she was filmed
Speaker 1: getting serenaded by Usher and she had on a little
Speaker 1: risque little number. You know, it looked like maybe like
Speaker 1: a BOOSTI a type top with a shared dress over it,
Speaker 1: so the cheeks was out. Honey, Okay, she just had
Speaker 1: a baby. She didn't have that ass before the baby.
Speaker 1: Now she got a little ass back there. She's probably
Speaker 1: feeling more secure about that ass, all right. She wanted
Speaker 1: to show it off at the Usher concert. She was
Speaker 1: recorded ended up on the blogs and her baby daddy,
Speaker 1: missus Darius Jackson. Instead of him contacting her directly like
Speaker 1: bitch you tripping, he takes it to social media by
Speaker 1: reposting the video and saying, you're a mom. What was
Speaker 1: the whole the little thing? You're a mom something? Basically,
Speaker 1: have a little respect. You're mom now, right, not your
Speaker 1: wife or girlfriend. You're a mom. So to me, he
Speaker 1: was trying to shame the mother of his child publicly.
Speaker 1: We could probably all agree that they kind of shamed
Speaker 1: each other, right because if he has these certain standards,
Speaker 1: because he just started going and ran about his standards.
Speaker 1: But you made her a baby mom and staid a wife.
Speaker 1: It could have been Kiki's choice. Who knows, you know,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. I almost thought maybe they're not even
Speaker 1: together anymore, Like people don't even know, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. We just really speculating a lot. Maybe they're
Speaker 1: not even together. She didn't really respond back to him.
Speaker 1: She just posted her little dance video. You want to
Speaker 1: act up, I'm about to link up. That's what her
Speaker 1: response to his shit was. She didn't really engage with him.
Speaker 1: And I'm proud, yes, you know, because it would have
Speaker 1: been real hard for me, bitch not to say nothing
Speaker 1: to that nigga publicly. Also, but I did come across
Speaker 1: another video. This was from like may Or some They
Speaker 1: were on a podcast together, and he had asked Kiki,
Speaker 1: what would she do if somebody was coming at her
Speaker 1: like this person was coming as summer Walker about Low
Speaker 1: Beach wearing little me Shane. He he was like, I
Speaker 1: would act like she doesn't even exist, Like you're not
Speaker 1: about to get me, you know, off my off my shit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would be like that ain't even him. He got
Speaker 1: a twin. She was like, we'd have to talk about
Speaker 1: that in a closet, but I would never.
Speaker 4: Publicly embarrass her.
Speaker 1: You are yourself and your partner or the son or
Speaker 1: the father of your son, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So it was kind of clout chasing ish on his end.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because did we know Darius
Speaker 1: Jackson prior to being Kiki Palmer's baby daddy, Absolutely fucking not.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 2: You know, he allowed his insecurities to show. We all
Speaker 2: got him, right, we all got insecurities, and he let
Speaker 2: his get the best of them publicly. And unfortunately for him,
Speaker 2: he's with someone who people watch, you know, people watch
Speaker 2: what she has going on. So now you just get
Speaker 2: the burnt of every bitch in a mirror, every black
Speaker 2: bitch in America who has something to say. So, I mean,
Speaker 2: I I could listen, I feel I feel him and
Speaker 2: I feel her. You know, I can see both sides
Speaker 2: because if that was my bitch, I'd be like it was.
Speaker 4: Is you crazy?
Speaker 1: Like you got your ass?
Speaker 2: I don't RuSHA right, get.
Speaker 1: Your ass home right now. But you reposted it, that's
Speaker 1: the weird part. He retweeted it with his caption that's
Speaker 1: gonna wear to me right.
Speaker 2: But he has also posted he shared, like previously videos
Speaker 2: of her like holding her naked breast, you know, like.
Speaker 1: His, but it's on his page that's even more. Look
Speaker 1: and I've been there, so you gotta be real careful bitch,
Speaker 1: I've been there. You have to be real careful who
Speaker 1: you let have access to you. Now you have a
Speaker 1: child with this person. Sometimes some men have ulterium motors. Man,
Speaker 1: you know I'm about to sit Kiky Palmer down.
Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: You just don't know.
Speaker 2: And then Usher're all fine, smiling up in her face
Speaker 2: and she's smiling all hard. It's a it's a show,
Speaker 2: my ass us. Sure take your bitch.
Speaker 1: Down and she might let him.
Speaker 2: Man, I went to see Usher and concert, I didn't go.
Speaker 2: I haven't been to this one. I hope I catch it,
Speaker 2: can catch it before it's over. But I saw him before,
Speaker 2: and I promise you, like this nigga was flying over
Speaker 2: my head. Was that your in the sky. I can't
Speaker 2: remember what city I was in, but I was staring
Speaker 2: me right in my face, like we connected eyes, and
Speaker 2: I felt like he kind of fucked me a little
Speaker 2: bit right there. So I don't know. I see why
Speaker 2: this nigga mad because he if he did, if he
Speaker 2: was doing to her what he did to me, they
Speaker 2: fucked right there like in the mind.
Speaker 1: No, So Charlottee, look, Charlamage said, it's us just fault
Speaker 1: that magga been tell y'all. He have it my way.
Speaker 1: Maybe we should actually blame Rico Love because he wrote
Speaker 1: these motherfucker songs.
Speaker 2: Maybe I'll make a post like that. That's gonna be
Speaker 2: one of the posts for that episode.
Speaker 1: Like, right, this is really I should be blaming the
Speaker 1: mastermind behind the whole ship. Like on top of that,
Speaker 1: did you see the ship that's going on with Jonah Hill?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Jonah Hill is the have you said white guy
Speaker 2: from He was in, uh that recent movie with Lauren London,
Speaker 2: that's right?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, huh. He played on one of my favorite movies, uh,
Speaker 1: super Bad back in the day. I actually still have
Speaker 1: that fucking DVD. But girl, so.
Speaker 2: How do you watch it?
Speaker 1: I don't, bitch, I just still have it.
Speaker 2: Well wait, oh my DVD like my laptop don't even
Speaker 2: have a drive.
Speaker 1: Girl who knows okay has the DVD drive anymore? I
Speaker 1: do have a DVD player, So if I wanted to
Speaker 1: watch it, I do have it. I still got it, bitch.
Speaker 1: I still got a Nintendo one and Nintendo sixty four.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh I bet those worth some money.
Speaker 1: I ain't selling them. Yeah, So Jonah Jonah Hill, Uh,
Speaker 1: he sent his girlfriend, and she actually just posted this recently.
Speaker 1: I believe they may have may have broken up. So
Speaker 1: he's thirty nine, she's twenty six, So she released a
Speaker 1: released several alleged text messages like exchanges between the two
Speaker 1: of them, showing his alleged abusive and narcissistic behavior. And
Speaker 1: I mean she he sent her like a nice, clean cut,
Speaker 1: dry list of boundaries, right, but I'm wondering, did you
Speaker 1: put these boundaries on the table when you first met her,
Speaker 1: knowing you know, the profession she's in. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, did you already have these things in
Speaker 1: the forefront? Maybe first date? Because these are real serious things,
Speaker 1: I feel like on this fucking list like this is.
Speaker 1: But you don't know what you don't like until you
Speaker 1: don't like it, or you don't owe as the other
Speaker 1: on the other side, you don't know what's a problem
Speaker 1: until it's a problem, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: Kicky didn't know her cheeks being out was a problem
Speaker 1: until it was a fucking problem because just had me
Speaker 1: tworking on your social media. Right, So I want to
Speaker 1: read right quick his list of you know, dudes and
Speaker 1: fucking don'ts plain and simple. If you need surfing with men,
Speaker 1: boundary lists, inappropriate friendships with men, to model, to post
Speaker 1: pictures of yourself in a bathing suit, to post sexual pictures,
Speaker 1: friendships with women who are in unstable places and from
Speaker 1: your wild recent past. Beyond getting a lunch or coffee
Speaker 1: or something respectful. It's weird. Uh, I am not soprised.
Speaker 2: You saw that, No, but why is up he telling
Speaker 2: the bitche to get a call. You gotta get coffee
Speaker 2: with a bitch, Like he's being very clear on what
Speaker 2: she could do with these bitches. They're clearly with scissor.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, it tells to because in his mind though
Speaker 1: coffee could equal scissoring. That's this is shit people don't
Speaker 1: realize with narcissists, right. I don't want to just put
Speaker 1: that label on him, but this is borderline fucking scary
Speaker 1: to me a little bit. So he was like, I'm
Speaker 1: not the right partner for you. If these things bring
Speaker 1: you to a place of happiness, I support it and
Speaker 1: there will be no hard feelings. These are my boundaries
Speaker 1: for romantic relationships, my boundaries with you based on the
Speaker 1: ways these actions have hurt our trust, you know. And
Speaker 1: then there's a few text messages between the two of
Speaker 1: them where he's like telling her what and what did
Speaker 1: not do and she's like, well you think this picture
Speaker 1: is better, like you know, checking in with him, like listen.
Speaker 1: Even before when I started doing this podcast, I realized
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be able to do it freely in the
Speaker 1: relationship I was in because I was being censored depending
Speaker 1: on what you got going on. You don't want to
Speaker 1: be in a situation with somebody where you can't be yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, while being respectful to your meat, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But I don't know.
Speaker 2: She's a twenty six year old surfer, right, she's a
Speaker 2: surfer chick, yes, which is you're trying to like free
Speaker 2: peep batery, free bathing suit kind of hearthy people, you know,
Speaker 2: like and you go off almost forty year old nigga
Speaker 2: who's still you know, trying to get your fitness together.
Speaker 2: So I just don't see like how they even match
Speaker 2: as a couple. But I understand, like setting a clear boundary.
Speaker 2: He's lost a lot of weight though he really has
Speaker 2: he has he looks like, oh yeah, for him, I
Speaker 2: just don't for her. I don't even think they're compatible honestly,
Speaker 2: because why don't you just be out there trying to
Speaker 2: surf with the bitch or something. I don't know, like
Speaker 2: a lot of being a woman.
Speaker 1: And I'm pretty sure they do photo shoots and stuff
Speaker 1: for surfing, so that means she can't do anything with
Speaker 1: another male. And I'm pretty sure the surfer's bodies look
Speaker 1: better than his, so he must watch it exactly why
Speaker 1: he even have these lists of demands and boundaries or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I hope she dumped him, That's all I can say.
Speaker 1: I hope she get the fuck up out of there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they need to break up. But even though I
Speaker 2: felt like his list was like very mature how it
Speaker 2: was labeled, I.
Speaker 1: Mean it was listed, it sounds like everything she's done though,
Speaker 1: it just sounds like she said, he said, my boundaries
Speaker 1: with you, based on the ways have hurt our trust, right,
Speaker 1: So these are all the things she.
Speaker 2: Probably fucked up and was like, took a picture bent
Speaker 2: over in front of a fine ass surfer or.
Speaker 1: What probably didn't happen. We were taking a picture. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we probably bent over, but she probably just did like
Speaker 1: a fucking magazine photo shoot. We don't know.
Speaker 2: Well, whatever he said, he said, these boundaries were created
Speaker 2: because of the hurt that would happen in our relationship.
Speaker 2: So I mean there has to be some type of
Speaker 2: story there for those boundaries to be created.
Speaker 1: Right, man, you would like to think so the things
Speaker 1: that people can conjure up in their fucking mind is mild.
Speaker 1: You just need more backstory. I need her to post more. Okay, Right,
Speaker 1: we're in missing now, bitch, tell us what happened, right,
Speaker 1: tell us all the things, Sarah, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Just break up. Yeah, they gotta be done now because
Speaker 2: you posted that shit on the internet. Now you got
Speaker 2: two random black bitches from South Carolina talk about y'all
Speaker 2: surf for shit like you just girl, you should have
Speaker 2: cut that to y'all fucking self.
Speaker 1: Stupid.
Speaker 2: Oh, let me tell you, Let me tell you what
Speaker 2: happened on I saw this over the weekend. Disgrace. Sports
Speaker 2: doctor Larry Nasser stabbed multiple times at of Florida prison.
Speaker 2: So this nigga was sentenced up to one hundred and
Speaker 2: seventy five years in prison for sexually assaulting multiple female
Speaker 2: gymnasts in twenty eighteen, and they got to his ass
Speaker 2: this week, y'all. They got to his ass. They stabbed
Speaker 2: him twice in the neck, twice in the back, and
Speaker 2: six times in his chest and also suffered a collapse
Speaker 2: long but he is a stable condition because they say
Speaker 2: evil people don't die basically, because how you go through
Speaker 2: all of that is still okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's wow.
Speaker 2: Obviously I don't agree with violence againing against anyone, but
Speaker 2: this nigga, I mean, y'all need something from the self,
Speaker 2: because that's how I feel about it, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I guess those type of charges will
Speaker 1: get you attacked in prison. I mean it's been a
Speaker 1: while though, twenty eighteen. It is twenty twenty three now,
Speaker 1: so I don't know how many times there was attack.
Speaker 1: Maybe he got into some shit with somebody in there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe he ain't pay his honey bun fee for protection.
Speaker 1: Get him his role at the lunch table, right.
Speaker 2: With that couple of noodles. Motherfucker got stabbed up behind
Speaker 2: some noodles.
Speaker 1: Day Funny. You see, when we was on she on
Speaker 1: a show we recorded with her the other day, we
Speaker 1: was talking about, like weighing out, what's the difference, what
Speaker 1: do you mean him abusing him abusing them girls and
Speaker 1: him getting stabbed up randomly in jailous way the same.
Speaker 1: It's the same sentence, right, That's why I said, I said,
Speaker 1: I don't agree with violence against anyone, but I don't
Speaker 1: feel sad for him because he put he harmed women. Yeah, so, man,
Speaker 1: it's terrible.
Speaker 2: I still I'm still waiting on somebody to go and
Speaker 2: get George Zimmerman ass. I an't lying.
Speaker 1: Where isn't he might be already dead?
Speaker 4: Where is he?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: Remember, white guy did try to get at his ass
Speaker 1: and it up with fifteen years in prison. Right, yeah,
Speaker 1: he get time and George Zimmerman just out here like
Speaker 1: he was a real police officer. Right man, Listen, I
Speaker 1: just don't think that you should be able to be
Speaker 1: on this realm and just be able to violate people.
Speaker 1: You know what saying violate good people? It's so mean,
Speaker 1: missing black black girls and women in America. It's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: Nobody looking for us.
Speaker 2: Right and that and that definitely brings us to our topic.
Speaker 2: We got a great guest on and we're going to
Speaker 2: talk about violation and consent.
Speaker 6: We'll be right back, Okay, y'all, we are back, and
Speaker 6: today we have a guest with us.
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Speaker 4: I think you, Joe, thank you for having good time.
Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you, thank you. I appreciate it. Love
Speaker 4: talking to you ladies.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you was when we talked back before, I
Speaker 2: was it was like our first years, like during the pandemic.
Speaker 1: It was inside that was the house delayed reactions.
Speaker 4: I asked me a question, I answered ten seconds later.
Speaker 1: Yes, the good old days, right, ghetow days.
Speaker 4: Were good.
Speaker 1: I had a good week, man, I had a good week.
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 1: I've been letting a lot of ship go lately?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Like what?
Speaker 2: I feel good?
Speaker 1: I feel light?
Speaker 4: You feel like getting the weight off your shoulders?
Speaker 2: Yes, full places things man, duh. Nigga I've seen a
Speaker 2: post on Instagram almost made me cry. That ship was like,
Speaker 2: will you let your favorite nigga go? Because you want
Speaker 2: to be married and have a baby and you know
Speaker 2: you ain't gonna get that from him.
Speaker 4: And he already his Oh too far, he already married.
Speaker 4: My bad, my bad?
Speaker 2: How was my weekend? What did I do?
Speaker 4: What happened.
Speaker 2: I just been working. It was real, real, real, extremely busy.
Speaker 2: So that's I've been working and trying to play at night.
Speaker 2: This is too much.
Speaker 1: Down.
Speaker 2: We finished recording. I promise you I'm going to.
Speaker 1: Sleep. That's my favorite.
Speaker 2: Essential.
Speaker 1: Like you'ple be on the internet talking about Fox sleep.
Speaker 1: Get this man, you'all gonna die?
Speaker 4: Who said that? One thing I'm gonna do?
Speaker 2: Get your reds.
Speaker 8: I will pass out anywhere. You might have to wake
Speaker 8: me up at one point during this. Okay, I'm back, y'all.
Speaker 1: So today you know what I want to talk about,
Speaker 1: and I think you might have mentioned it in one
Speaker 1: of our previous episodes, like in our stupid Internet news
Speaker 1: Suki Hannah. And it's not really about Suki Hannah, right,
Speaker 1: It's more so about consent. I know y'all have seen
Speaker 1: like a lot of her posts are a lot of
Speaker 1: the things, uh in the blogs, the ship going on
Speaker 1: with yk Osyrus and what's the dude Nli Chopper? You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: And then she was on Candy and that guy I
Speaker 2: don't know what his name was, it was his name
Speaker 2: is DJ A one, Yeah, which was very wild to me,
Speaker 2: right insane, Right, But not uncommon. Let's just say that
Speaker 2: period when the.
Speaker 1: Last time my niggas smack your ass in the club,
Speaker 1: never not asking a club like within the last five years.
Speaker 2: Yeah, here's the thing. And even like with me and
Speaker 2: you know, like they'll give you a hug, but then
Speaker 2: their hand just kind of go.
Speaker 1: A little too low.
Speaker 2: It's like, hey, watch yourself. Really, yeah, it happens, especially
Speaker 2: when people have been drinking alcohol.
Speaker 1: Smaller the back, yeah, real low, small my back. He
Speaker 1: didn't give you no.
Speaker 4: Again.
Speaker 8: But when I'm out, like nobody women don't grab I
Speaker 8: don't know, they don't act the same towards men the
Speaker 8: way men act towards women, which is dudes are crazy.
Speaker 8: You said in the last five years, I would think,
Speaker 8: what especially with how the club is now, when you're
Speaker 8: out men normally with other guys, like it's almost the
Speaker 8: dudes want to do all the TikTok dances with the dudes,
Speaker 8: and the girls want to work and dance on each
Speaker 8: other like I don't.
Speaker 1: Know, na like. And then when I turned around after
Speaker 1: he's smack me on the ass, he was like this.
Speaker 2: Like, what's your problem going to do?
Speaker 4: What's wrong? Sir?
Speaker 1: First of all, I keep that my fucking heat under
Speaker 1: my seat. I want you to be real careful, but
Speaker 1: I'm not about to die because you're smacking in the ass.
Speaker 1: But like, and I'm looking like an adult too, I'm
Speaker 1: not looking like And that's another part of the conversation,
Speaker 1: right women, men singing that women invite a certain energy
Speaker 1: because of how they dressed, so how they carry themselves. Dog,
Speaker 1: I don't we have my ass out, so why are
Speaker 1: you touching it?
Speaker 2: I remember a time. This is when I was living
Speaker 2: in Europe and we're in the club and this guy
Speaker 2: was really drunk, and I mean he came and grabbed
Speaker 2: my ass and just grabbed a hefty palm full of
Speaker 2: it like he knew me and just tugged on it.
Speaker 2: And I turned around and I mushed him so hard
Speaker 2: in his face that he hit the floor, like he
Speaker 2: went all the way down. Here y'all, this man jumped
Speaker 2: up so fast. I ain't never seen nobody get up
Speaker 2: in embarrassment so fast. He jumped up that quick, and
Speaker 2: his homeboys ran over. They was like, oh, I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry. He's drunk. He drunk, he drunk,
Speaker 2: and he just walked off like like nothing happened like
Speaker 2: so weird. It was the weirdest exchange ever.
Speaker 1: Because they used to getting away with that type of shit.
Speaker 8: So I've never unwillingly or without permission grabbed a woman's
Speaker 8: ass while we're dancing or let.
Speaker 1: Me think, no, yeah, me too while.
Speaker 8: But I never like just walked up on a woman
Speaker 8: and grabbed the ass and not knowing who she was.
Speaker 8: It could be like a homegirl or something. You know,
Speaker 8: if you know him, you play around or whatever, but
Speaker 8: a woman already, but you just even then, if you've
Speaker 8: been intimate with him and you're not really rocking like that,
Speaker 8: no more, you can't just walk up to it.
Speaker 4: Remember when you can't do that?
Speaker 2: But let me tell you just the other day, all right,
Speaker 2: I couldn't find my keys to get into my salon.
Speaker 2: So one of my male friends that works in the building,
Speaker 2: he came outside to help me, and he was looking
Speaker 2: under my seat to find my keys, and while he
Speaker 2: was bent over, I grabbed his hips and I started throwing.
Speaker 1: He was like what.
Speaker 2: He was like, now, see, if I would you, it
Speaker 2: would have been a problem.
Speaker 1: Now you can't.
Speaker 2: And I was like, damn, you're right, I'm sorry. I
Speaker 2: thought it was funny. But it's different because I don't
Speaker 2: really have a dick, you know. That's why I feel like.
Speaker 1: You could get one dick in the store.
Speaker 2: Let a lot of detachable dicks, brown black ones cost mortal.
Speaker 4: Wow. Is explicit about the store.
Speaker 1: Charged the wage.
Speaker 2: Flat, Right, y'all, this conversation is supposed to be serious.
Speaker 2: I don't know why we invited. I told y'all before
Speaker 2: we started, supposed to be like a serious But.
Speaker 1: Y'all know we can't be serious.
Speaker 8: Y'all, y'all did it that whole situation with Cyrus, he
Speaker 8: was wrong. Let's just go ahead put it out. He
Speaker 8: was absolutely wrong, period.
Speaker 1: He was just crying online about how Drake don't funk
Speaker 1: with him no more.
Speaker 8: But I also asked that question question that I asked
Speaker 8: for us, even though he was wrong. But if he
Speaker 8: were Drake, or if he was somebody of higher status
Speaker 8: and he did that, would it have been the same conversation.
Speaker 1: Okay, listen, So people think that sexual harassment only happens
Speaker 1: on the workplace, It could happen anyways. I can call
Speaker 1: the police at any time to report it, right, But
Speaker 1: let's just think about a job setting that nigga that
Speaker 1: you like from the office. Of course he could grab
Speaker 1: your ass like say whatever, exactly because there's been a
Speaker 1: level of consent given for that. For that men don't
Speaker 1: know until they know though, right right, God in the
Speaker 1: middle of them on a panel of some sort and
Speaker 1: you coming up grabbing and apparently she had already like said,
Speaker 1: like some little slick, I'm just playing talk to her
Speaker 1: ship in character. But she is a fucking mom right
Speaker 1: like this is this.
Speaker 2: Is this is her alley, this is her person.
Speaker 1: This is the thing that she has chosen to do,
Speaker 1: you know, entertainment for the samement. But I know I
Speaker 1: have a love hate relationship with Suki as fart. I
Speaker 1: mean the character right, because she'll post like a lot
Speaker 1: of inspirational shit. She'll post books and stuff she's reading,
Speaker 1: like shit I'm into. I'll see to her story. I
Speaker 1: have unfollowed like five times dog and I refollow her
Speaker 1: because I know she's much more than what we see, right,
Speaker 1: So that's why I don't give up on her.
Speaker 4: I don't really follow her like that. I know of her.
Speaker 8: We used to believe it or not, We used to
Speaker 8: talk often on Twitter. I mean, so before she became Sukian.
Speaker 8: This is when she was just, you know, regular schmuckler,
Speaker 8: and she wasn't that person's just a regular conversation.
Speaker 4: She was funny.
Speaker 8: We will talk about comedy stuff like that. But in
Speaker 8: this situation, it's just like, I get it that he
Speaker 8: was wrong. I'm not taking that from him. But if
Speaker 8: he was somebody else, if he was if it was
Speaker 8: one of the other two dudes on the panel, would
Speaker 8: she had been.
Speaker 1: Well, let's get into what consent is then, right, So
Speaker 1: what does consent actually look like? So this is just
Speaker 1: from rain dot org and it's the topic of the
Speaker 1: thing is what does consent look like? What is consent?
Speaker 1: Consent is an agreement between two participants to engage in
Speaker 1: sexual activity. No, they won't actually have an intercourse, but kissing,
Speaker 1: throat grabbing, all that kink shit like that is activity. Okay.
Speaker 1: Consent should be clearly and freely communicated. A verbal and
Speaker 1: affirmative expression of consent can help both you and your
Speaker 1: partner to understand and respect each other's boundaries. Okay, consent, Okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead.
Speaker 2: I ain't never been like about the have sex and
Speaker 2: they be like, excuse me, I would like to have
Speaker 2: your consent right now for the pussy is that okay?
Speaker 1: No, But what if a nigga say, can I take
Speaker 1: your panties off?
Speaker 2: Girl?
Speaker 1: That is okay, can I do this? And you like, yes,
Speaker 1: can I do this?
Speaker 4: But that's how I.
Speaker 2: I want my consent to be, like you hold me
Speaker 2: by my nikelup against the wall.
Speaker 3: No, I like that.
Speaker 8: To write, but it's somebody that you want to do it.
Speaker 8: Though it's somebody that you want to do it. There's
Speaker 8: been moments where I've been like, I mean, you know,
Speaker 8: let me know when you want me to stop. That's
Speaker 8: my way of being like, Okay, we're about to do
Speaker 8: some freaking ship, right, but you know, if you don't
Speaker 8: want me to stop, I'm gonna keep going, right. But
Speaker 8: if you want me to stop but you don't want
Speaker 8: this done, all right, cool, I won't do it. But
Speaker 8: in the same sense, y k O Cyrus came up
Speaker 8: to you and was like, trying to do that.
Speaker 1: That long way you book, It's okay. I'm convinced you're
Speaker 1: not hear me in my fucking mouth.
Speaker 2: Boy, If you don't get that's my whole.
Speaker 4: Thing is why k O Cyrus, That's why it's a
Speaker 4: big deal.
Speaker 2: Roger, welcome to me and just grabbed me by my
Speaker 2: neck and kiss me. I probably would be like, I don't.
Speaker 1: Know now to check my out, my outweigh that next
Speaker 1: crab like you.
Speaker 4: Can get the check antors, but you can still be like.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no no, I'm talking about drake
Speaker 1: trick like I don't want to drink that much.
Speaker 4: I'm on the budget. Well, I'm the type of nigga
Speaker 4: I gotta ask. I can't just that's a salary.
Speaker 1: I'm drink money, drink got violation money I got.
Speaker 2: I can't believe showing.
Speaker 4: That I'm down. You offended easily. People shut up. They
Speaker 4: get on my nerves. God.
Speaker 1: So the next part is says, it says, how does
Speaker 1: consent work? Okay? When you're engaging in sexual activity? Consent
Speaker 1: is about communication, okay, and it should happen every time
Speaker 1: for every type of activity. So getting choked kissed at
Speaker 1: a panel like he should have asked, can I kiss you?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 1: Consenting to one activity one time does not mean someone
Speaker 1: gives consent for other activities or for the same activity
Speaker 1: on another occasion. For example, green to kiss some one
Speaker 1: doesn't give that person permission to remove your clothes. Having
Speaker 1: sex with someone in the past doesn't give that person
Speaker 1: permission to have sex with you again in the future.
Speaker 1: It's important to discuss boundaries and expectations with your partner
Speaker 1: prior to engaging and sexual behavior. So she has she's
Speaker 1: this character, right, she dresses a certain way. She's very very,
Speaker 1: very provocative. Right. So the the things that we've seen
Speaker 1: in the month of June alone, right, the different the
Speaker 1: guy on Candy coated, how he I mean, he was
Speaker 1: hot and bothered, his voice started, he was breathing, and
Speaker 1: she likes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he showed her.
Speaker 1: Right there, you know, sexual harassment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was, but she she just took it astride.
Speaker 2: And I think she's probably been handling guys like that,
Speaker 2: probably has had to often. But I feel like it's because.
Speaker 1: Of the time she's noticedly uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: But I think it's because of the music that she creates.
Speaker 2: Men feel like they.
Speaker 8: Get a past saying how they how many unwanted picture
Speaker 8: fucking lots.
Speaker 2: When we was in New York, we got a dick
Speaker 2: FaceTime called wait what it was just an in his hand.
Speaker 1: Grandma China sat in the back.
Speaker 2: You would who was back there. I'm not even looking
Speaker 2: at the dick. I'm looking at this arounding, It's like, nigga,
Speaker 2: where are you China cabinet in.
Speaker 1: The bag the bronx.
Speaker 2: They clearly was this is New York, this is a
Speaker 2: New York number. I didn't know this person at all.
Speaker 2: They must have seen on my story that we were
Speaker 2: in New York filming with Charlamagne and called and then
Speaker 2: we set you on your Facebook. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't even put.
Speaker 2: I don't think so. I don't know how they were
Speaker 2: able to access me in that way, but it.
Speaker 1: Might have been somebody you knew.
Speaker 2: And then what did you say?
Speaker 4: Were built different like that?
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm about to hang up. She's like, no, finish.
Speaker 4: He did too old, nasty nigga.
Speaker 7: He's like, okay, oh god, I'd be a lot nasty guy,
Speaker 7: nasty on the loan.
Speaker 4: But was that consent? That was consented?
Speaker 2: And listen it was consented and I was acting like
Speaker 2: I was disgusted, but I was like, I'm hanging out.
Speaker 1: Now come.
Speaker 4: Who was holding it back? That's what I want to know. Listen,
Speaker 4: once it comes here, you.
Speaker 1: Finish your hunt.
Speaker 4: Listen, that's it.
Speaker 8: Once it's there, it's there, and holding his back? Man,
Speaker 8: don't you better not coming here. You better go get
Speaker 8: a snack.
Speaker 2: I'm not a snack. This is the serious conversation in Okay, listen,
Speaker 2: let me. Let's talk about stealthy. Who is that stealthy?
Speaker 2: People don't recognize it. Stealthy is when you consent to
Speaker 2: sex right as a woman with a condom, and then
Speaker 2: during lies the condo and then proceeds without telling them.
Speaker 1: That's rape.
Speaker 2: That's right to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's happened to me, and I straight cut a
Speaker 1: nigga off.
Speaker 4: That's like you.
Speaker 2: Often people don't consider that rape. They're like, okay, she
Speaker 2: consented to sex. The condom doesn't change it. It does
Speaker 2: doing that oftentimes taking yes during.
Speaker 1: And I'm like again, you can get a little extra wet,
Speaker 1: Like wait a minute, it was nice, but where's the condom?
Speaker 4: You know what?
Speaker 2: Sometimes you can't even tell that they've taken the condom off.
Speaker 4: Oh he's not girthy.
Speaker 2: Snorted. But women will like and then with the condom
Speaker 2: and then not know the condom has been removed until
Speaker 2: the man is like coming on her, where is the condom?
Speaker 4: So what's the point? Why did you do that? Just
Speaker 4: to pull out?
Speaker 8: Like, first of all, if I'm if we ain't got
Speaker 8: no condom. All, I'm gonna just go ahead and get
Speaker 8: ready of a boy, the plan be because it ain't
Speaker 8: I'm not pulling that.
Speaker 2: First of all, women don't want to just be popping
Speaker 2: playing bes.
Speaker 4: Your b because you got seventy two hours. You don't
Speaker 4: just have the popping. We can go through.
Speaker 2: You still got to eat.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm sorry what I had one of
Speaker 1: my friends put on me. He he would have Plan
Speaker 1: b's on deck, and he's put Plan BES and drinks.
Speaker 4: Oh whoa, whoa, whoa.
Speaker 2: Now if that woman is allergic to one of those
Speaker 2: ingredients in the plan bet, and now now you got a.
Speaker 4: Charge, why you put it in the drink? You take
Speaker 4: the Plan B after.
Speaker 2: I'm saying the next day for breakfast here baby drinking?
Speaker 4: Oh god, that's what I want to know.
Speaker 1: Because men have no integrity. I always be saying that
Speaker 1: A lot of men, a lot of men, majority of men,
Speaker 1: some major most of you, a lot of you.
Speaker 4: I like to think I'm a nice, upstanding young man,
Speaker 4: but but you know.
Speaker 1: You got some creepy friends, don't you. You hang you
Speaker 1: know some niggas that be on this type of time.
Speaker 4: Shout out to all my homeboys. No, I mean I know,
Speaker 4: I do, I do.
Speaker 2: I do know some creepy so your friends, because I
Speaker 2: feel like they should be ostracized my friends, but.
Speaker 8: I know some creepy men, right the people that circle
Speaker 8: that I hang it's small anyway, but the guys that
Speaker 8: I hang, I don't hang on no dudes that do
Speaker 8: no stuff like that because of who I am. Like
Speaker 8: if you're associated with me, I'm not a celebrity by
Speaker 8: any means, but people know who I am. So if
Speaker 8: I hang with this guy and you know he doing this,
Speaker 8: he doing that, the women, he does this the women,
Speaker 8: then I'm going to be associated with that. So I
Speaker 8: keep myself away from ship like that and be like youah, no,
Speaker 8: I don't. I don't fool with him like that. So
Speaker 8: the guys and I rock with and I've been knowing
Speaker 8: them since like elementary.
Speaker 1: Right, So that's just like Trey songs. You know, he
Speaker 1: has that ten million dollars lawsuit right now for flipping
Speaker 1: that white girl's breast out while his friends sat right
Speaker 1: there like this guy fall online. I know he was, like, man,
Speaker 1: I would have immediately immediately walked off from that nigga
Speaker 1: like that would have been it what you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because I ain't going to jail with you.
Speaker 2: That's how Why did you just walk up to a
Speaker 2: woman and feel like it was?
Speaker 1: He was taking a picture with him and he snatched
Speaker 1: dress out on camera, Like what is that?
Speaker 8: But that tells you how thirsty dudes are off of
Speaker 8: cloud also, because the dude's still right there, he's with
Speaker 8: Trey Songs. He's like, that's my meal ticket right there,
Speaker 8: my meal plan. So I'm gonna be like I might
Speaker 8: say something to him afterwards, but if you his real friend,
Speaker 8: you could be like, hey, Brona, cut the camera off,
Speaker 8: y'all get good?
Speaker 1: Yeah, now that thing was a hy kosis and tuki hana.
Speaker 1: Now there was some other men at the table right
Speaker 1: and they just kind of looked away.
Speaker 4: They kind of looked.
Speaker 1: Away and act like they didn't see what they what
Speaker 1: was going on, and they just kind of left her
Speaker 1: out on an island by herself.
Speaker 2: But she didn't really protest in a way that made
Speaker 2: them feel like they needed to defend her.
Speaker 1: I felt like, I think that sometimes when those type
Speaker 1: of situations happened, the women freeze up, especially if you
Speaker 1: are somebody who's been abused before, and so it could
Speaker 1: be childhood trauma, you know what I'm saying, Like when
Speaker 1: that thing happened. Sometimes some shit happens is so outlandis's
Speaker 1: like you can't believe.
Speaker 4: It, especially in the moment with people around, you.
Speaker 1: Know, like you don't want to embarrass him, Like that's
Speaker 1: so weird that you're even thinking about still embarrassing him
Speaker 1: too and embarrassing yourself at the same time. So I can,
Speaker 1: I can. I can imagine what she was feeling and
Speaker 1: why she didn't react how I would have, because I
Speaker 1: would have cleared the whole motherfucking table with my fore.
Speaker 4: Arms equipment chokes that through the table.
Speaker 2: I probably would have fell backwards in the chair and
Speaker 2: then embarrassed myself even more, probably honestly, you.
Speaker 1: Know, going back like that.
Speaker 2: But here in defense of the men at the table,
Speaker 2: how can they defend you if they don't even know
Speaker 2: that you need defense in this moment, you know, like
Speaker 2: you know what's wrong, Like you know, their faces knew
Speaker 2: it was wrong. Looking at the video, they looked was perverse.
Speaker 2: But she does perverse ship in her music a lot.
Speaker 2: She was just on stage with Drew Skie grabbing at his.
Speaker 1: Ass going.
Speaker 2: He just had two women eating her ass on stage,
Speaker 2: but they probably asked first. It didn't look like they asked.
Speaker 8: That's the same thing said when she was when she
Speaker 8: was on stage with Drewski. I'm like, is that sexual assault?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: So so how can they know this? This perverse behavior
Speaker 2: is one that we need to defend you in, you know.
Speaker 2: So that's my defense of those people because it's like,
Speaker 2: this is cringey. But I don't know if she like it.
Speaker 8: You know, it's a catch twenty two because it's still
Speaker 8: a woman. If you're a man, you and you see
Speaker 8: another man walk up on a woman like.
Speaker 1: That, as a man and they've never engaged before, right,
Speaker 1: as a.
Speaker 8: Man, you should be like, hey, hey, what you're doing.
Speaker 8: Even if they would have just said something a.
Speaker 1: Young boy like we're talking about forty year old men
Speaker 1: sitting there, Nobody going to correct this young that's the thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying. And it's y
Speaker 4: k O cyrus. Come on, let's just it's he's.
Speaker 1: Probably cool, Like like just said, we all lame in somebody.
Speaker 2: He might be cool in some.
Speaker 1: People, but to me, no, he's just a kid. To me, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's a child who needs some correcting.
Speaker 4: Who's Cyrus cool?
Speaker 7: Too?
Speaker 1: I ain't got fans.
Speaker 2: He got popular for a reason, right, someone liked it.
Speaker 4: He got fans after the song that he had what
Speaker 4: six years ago?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 4: Since then, YK Cyrus, I'm.
Speaker 2: Sure there's a y K O Cyrus poster or screen
Speaker 2: saver somewhere in the world.
Speaker 4: If you still put posters on your wall, explains your
Speaker 4: fan base.
Speaker 2: Kids don't have posters anymore. I don't know any young people.
Speaker 4: No, I don't know.
Speaker 2: My friends ain't had like a big ass Lebron James sticker.
Speaker 4: What's that thing called?
Speaker 2: It's like a life size sticker fat head?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I was like, yeah, as a poster.
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's a y K Cyrus fat head somewhere
Speaker 2: in America.
Speaker 1: So okay, ain't nobody praying that dog, not even Ali.
Speaker 4: Let's be clear, Cirrus ain't printing a fair head of himself.
Speaker 2: Y'all, y'all not gonna do y K so bad mistake,
Speaker 2: Get you get your He apologized too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she accepted his apology. Also, she was like, you know,
Speaker 1: she want to move on with her life.
Speaker 4: She honestly, it was just it was a playful moment.
Speaker 1: In his mind right now, he definitely wanted to have sex.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sure he wanted to have sex with her.
Speaker 2: You know, she's got a very strong sexual energy, and
Speaker 2: maybe that's what made him feel like that. But I
Speaker 2: think he was thought it was playful. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 2: think it was.
Speaker 4: I don't think it was I'm trying.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to rape her in front of everybody, like
Speaker 2: I thought. I think in his head he was just
Speaker 2: being place. I love neck grabs, but if I didn't
Speaker 2: invite you to come grab my neck and kiss me
Speaker 2: in the mouth, holding up against the wall and lifting
Speaker 2: me up off my feet, Jesus.
Speaker 4: Grabbing niggas next?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Okay, this conversation is supposed to be serious.
Speaker 1: I was about to say what I like?
Speaker 2: Okay, what's the people that ride the horse question me
Speaker 2: on the questrian Okay, and I'd definitely be fucking riding
Speaker 2: and holding the.
Speaker 1: Nigga neck choking.
Speaker 2: I like it. Do you'll have a safe word?
Speaker 1: No? And usually they beat down, grabbed you. Maybe don't
Speaker 1: grab your hand and make you choke them harder. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I like.
Speaker 4: Grab me grabs. Men don't like Jordan know.
Speaker 2: Jordy gonna push the.
Speaker 4: Ship out of choke. You ain't gonna to where I
Speaker 4: can't breathe. You ain't got to do all that. But
Speaker 4: you grab them in a little.
Speaker 1: Bit if you breathing.
Speaker 2: If you're breathing, and it's not a joke, Oh my god.
Speaker 8: Maybe I'm trying to see what my grip because I
Speaker 8: like these two fingers right here, you.
Speaker 4: Get right off.
Speaker 1: No, see that right there is different. I've had somebody
Speaker 1: choke me right there during sex, and that leads us
Speaker 1: to the next part of this. You can change your
Speaker 1: mind at anytime, like that is a that's a what's
Speaker 1: this thing right here? Holy yog and look at their
Speaker 1: eyes like I'm crying. Could you do?
Speaker 2: You gotta if you're participating in sex, that could potentially
Speaker 2: kill you, right because choking you can die. You have
Speaker 2: to have like a safe word or a safe gesture.
Speaker 2: You can't just because doing like this, he'd be like
Speaker 2: she like it, and meanwhile you're dying.
Speaker 8: I Safe words a thing, yes, because it's like if
Speaker 8: you do something that you don't and it's like, Okay,
Speaker 8: that's enough, just hit the nigga.
Speaker 4: I'll just be why Because if you're choking and you
Speaker 4: got a safe word.
Speaker 2: But if y'all have them like really aggressive, like like
Speaker 2: close to violent sex, they may confuse your gesture.
Speaker 1: I want to say that I'm actually into that. I
Speaker 1: kind of wasn't until that moment or that person, right,
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't, I don't not like it, But
Speaker 1: don't try to kill me. Y'll squeezing that little the
Speaker 1: skinny piece like that, that's wild to me.
Speaker 8: I've had somebody female tell me it's just like I'm
Speaker 8: in the choking can you choke me?
Speaker 4: Just to scare me a little bit? And I'm like what, Like,
Speaker 4: what the what does that mean?
Speaker 2: Like I want to almost die a little bit, but
Speaker 2: not for real.
Speaker 4: You won't see the start you want.
Speaker 2: Like first of all, they said, when you and you're
Speaker 2: asphyxiated like that, it is mind blow. Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Will never know.
Speaker 2: People have literally died like that, but it's usually self
Speaker 2: inflicted asphyxiation while they're jacking yourself.
Speaker 4: What's my man name?
Speaker 8: That he was jacking off and he put like the
Speaker 8: belt around his neck and died. David Carodene, Yeah, the
Speaker 8: Kung Fuu series. That's how he died in the hotel room.
Speaker 1: In La.
Speaker 2: He was pretty much hung itself.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Yeah, he tied tied the belt around his neck, put
Speaker 8: it on the shower rod, and he was going to work.
Speaker 4: And they found that nigga just like that.
Speaker 2: In his hand, the recipiece. Now he came in. He went.
Speaker 3: For your.
Speaker 4: Brilliant That was so dark. I love it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So they say you can change your mind at
Speaker 1: any time, right. Uh, it says you can withdraw consent
Speaker 1: at any point if you feel uncomfortable, and y know
Speaker 1: this is not just exclusive to women, right, because we'll
Speaker 1: get into that as well.
Speaker 8: Right.
Speaker 1: So one way to do this.
Speaker 4: Exactly.
Speaker 1: One way to do this is to clearly communicate to
Speaker 1: your partner that you are no longer comfortable with this
Speaker 1: activity and wish to stop. Withdrawing consent can sometimes be
Speaker 1: challenging or difficult to do verbally, so nonverbal cues we
Speaker 1: just talked about that, right, can also be used to
Speaker 1: convey this. The best way to ensure that all parties
Speaker 1: are comfortable with any sexual activity is to talk about it,
Speaker 1: check in periodically, and make sure everyone involved consents before
Speaker 1: escalating or changing activities. Now that's a lot. The one
Speaker 1: I don't get right is Okay, you've consented. Y'all are
Speaker 1: in the middle of it. Condom on, condom may not
Speaker 1: be on, like he's in there. What I know about
Speaker 1: men is that testosterone is a motherfucker right. Sometimes men
Speaker 1: aren't even there anymore when that testosterone kicks seriously, and
Speaker 1: you like literally gotta wait for it to go down
Speaker 1: for them to be okay. That's why sometimes you can
Speaker 1: see a difference in a man after he leaves and
Speaker 1: stuff after he comes, after he ejaculates, like it's the
Speaker 1: whole different person, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Sometimes even before they come, they turn into.
Speaker 1: That because the climate rising exactly so now you're asking
Speaker 1: somebody to stop right in the middle of that. I
Speaker 1: can see how that can turn into a bad situation.
Speaker 4: In the middle of no.
Speaker 1: And that's another thing we can talk about.
Speaker 4: I don't think I've ever in the middle, not in.
Speaker 1: The middle of SX NO.
Speaker 2: I have told someone like, damn, it is over already,
Speaker 2: but never stop.
Speaker 4: So so we done. That can happen. It's happened to
Speaker 4: all of us, the best of us.
Speaker 2: Juice juice, no want, no juice come out with some
Speaker 2: with a lie like sometimes it's just that good you're
Speaker 2: so excited.
Speaker 8: It's just when you get it, it's like, oh damn,
Speaker 8: my bad. I've apologize plenty of taps.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I never had sex with somebody tell me, like
Speaker 1: for the first time, and you, well, you two and
Speaker 1: you immediately regret it, like maybe you didn't really want
Speaker 1: to do it initially, you just kind of did it
Speaker 1: to get it over with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, have you done that. I'm trying to
Speaker 2: think I didn't want to do I don't know if
Speaker 2: I just kind.
Speaker 1: Of extra pressure, right, So you're not in a situation
Speaker 1: where you might want to have sex with this guy
Speaker 1: and maybe not today, like you're still maybe wanting to
Speaker 1: get to know I feel.
Speaker 2: Like when I was in my early twenties and I
Speaker 2: was just getting outside for real, I have felt like
Speaker 2: pressured and just kind of like conceded just because it
Speaker 2: was like so all right.
Speaker 1: Here here here, yeah, why you want hair pussy anyway?
Speaker 2: Right, And then it was just like I'll take it
Speaker 2: to see, like I ain't even really want to give
Speaker 2: him nothing like that.
Speaker 1: And there probably wasn't any verbal consent at all. Right,
Speaker 1: you just go through with it. And I've been definitely
Speaker 1: been in that situation. I just don't talk to him again.
Speaker 1: Not gonna say them like that's happened a lot, but
Speaker 1: I wouldn't talk to the person. I didn't talk to
Speaker 1: the person again.
Speaker 4: So y'all don't have some pressure sex.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely. I think a lot of women can relate
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 1: Because I think that men think that when a woman
Speaker 1: is saying no, she's saying yes. Sometimes Oh hell no.
Speaker 4: Not for me, no means no. You tell me no.
Speaker 8: You ain't even got to say it twice. I'm not
Speaker 8: even going to ask you a second time. You say
Speaker 8: know at any point? All right, cool, I'm gonna lay down.
Speaker 8: We can sit here and watch TV.
Speaker 4: What you wanna do? You want to talk? Oh, I
Speaker 4: can go home.
Speaker 8: But no, once I hear the word no, that's it,
Speaker 8: that's it, because you're not gonna sit there and say
Speaker 8: you told me no and I kept going or I
Speaker 8: kept doing something else.
Speaker 2: And sometimes men be mad when you tell him no too.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be mad, but I'm not gonna show you
Speaker 4: when I leave I'm getting wrong. When I leave, I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna kick your Like y'all got group chairs, I'm.
Speaker 4: Gonna be in a group chair like Nigga.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember I did a nigga like that. I didn't.
Speaker 2: The vibe wasn't what I wanted to be that night.
Speaker 2: He wasn't very nice. He was acting like a jerk
Speaker 2: a little bit. I was staying with him. We went
Speaker 2: to his house and I went to sleep and I
Speaker 2: snore and he I woke up. I woke myself up
Speaker 2: and I saw he was looking at me and like,
Speaker 2: he ain't give me no pussy and you ain't here
Speaker 2: keeping a nigga away.
Speaker 1: I had you. I had to get out of my house.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, get out.
Speaker 2: That was the look on his face.
Speaker 5: I was like, I'm sorry, who is this allan fucking
Speaker 5: grizzly bear bitch?
Speaker 2: That that didn't bring no pussy away her? But got him?
Speaker 2: Or no, I did it, but it just wasn't that
Speaker 2: particularly night.
Speaker 1: Like man need to wait, Like sometimes we like you,
Speaker 1: we want to do it too, but you know, you
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta play the game. Sometimes sometimes I don't
Speaker 1: mind waiting.
Speaker 4: I think I'm a waiter.
Speaker 2: You can't you can't not show me an exceptional time
Speaker 2: and then assume that just because I'm here with you.
Speaker 4: Now, that's the crazy part, because I did all of this.
Speaker 4: I showed you this. We had a great time, but
Speaker 4: she did have a great time.
Speaker 2: I didn't even have a good time.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's what intimacy is. Intimacy is everything leading
Speaker 1: up to sex. So that's where consent kind of comes.
Speaker 1: Do like you wou feel like energy, y'all talk about that.
Speaker 1: When we get to the house, I want to such
Speaker 1: and such such, maybe she'll engage a little bit, so
Speaker 1: you know exactly, And that takes us to enthusiastic consent, right,
Speaker 1: what that looks like? H Enthusiastic consent is a newer
Speaker 1: model for understanding consent that focuses on a positive expression
Speaker 1: of consent. Simply put, enthusiastic consent means looking for the
Speaker 1: presence of a yes rather than the absence of a no.
Speaker 1: Enthusiastic consent can be expressed verbally or through non verbal
Speaker 1: cues such as positive body language like smiling, see that
Speaker 1: I don't know, maintain eye contact, and nodding. These cues
Speaker 1: alone do not necessarily represent consent, but they are additional
Speaker 1: details that may reflect consent. And so it says what
Speaker 1: it looks like asking permission before you change the type
Speaker 1: or degree of sexual activity with a phrase like is
Speaker 1: this okay, confirming that there is a reciprocal interest before
Speaker 1: initiating any physical touch. Why Herosirius did not do that right?
Speaker 1: Letting your partner know that you can stop at any time,
Speaker 1: periodically checking in with your partners, such as asking is
Speaker 1: this still okay? I don't know about that, Providing positive
Speaker 1: feedback when you're comfortable with activity, explicitly agreeing to certain activities,
Speaker 1: either by saying yes or another affirmative statement like I'm
Speaker 1: open to trying so cues nonverbal verbal cues.
Speaker 8: I don't know that non verbal cues work anymore in
Speaker 8: today's in this era, I don't think that works. I
Speaker 8: want to I want to have that movie consent the.
Speaker 4: Way they do it in the movies. They'd be like, hey,
Speaker 4: let's get out of here. You know what that means.
Speaker 4: You know what that means. Let's get out of here. Okay,
Speaker 4: all right, da, that don't mean that though.
Speaker 2: Let's get out of here just doesn't mean like in
Speaker 2: the movies, you do yeah, But in real life she
Speaker 2: might be like, I don't feel safe in this place.
Speaker 4: It's the way. That's the way non verbal cue.
Speaker 1: That comes with that.
Speaker 2: That Then she was like, let's get out of here,
Speaker 2: and it's some niggas over there fighting.
Speaker 4: That don't mean she want to fuck yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 4: but if she like, but you're right, you're absolutely right.
Speaker 4: It's the moment. It's the way that she says.
Speaker 8: It is if y'all are sitting there having a good
Speaker 8: time talking and things are going smooth, and y'all looking
Speaker 8: at each other, give me each other a glassy eye,
Speaker 8: and then she just.
Speaker 4: Like that, Okay, y'all want to get out of here.
Speaker 1: Damn.
Speaker 4: It's a.
Speaker 1: All right. So it says what consent does not look
Speaker 1: like okay, refusing technology, No, a partner who was disengaged,
Speaker 1: non responsive, or visibly upset, assuming that wearing certain clothes, flirting,
Speaker 1: or kissing is an invitation for anything more. Uh, someone
Speaker 1: being under the legal age of consent as defined by
Speaker 1: the state. We understand someone being in incapacitated because of
Speaker 1: drugs or alcohol, pressuring someone into sex sexual activity, or
Speaker 1: by using fear or intimidation. Let's get into that right way, right.
Speaker 2: Can I just say something about the clothes?
Speaker 3: One?
Speaker 2: I agree and disagree with that one because I remember
Speaker 2: this was years ago, nine three five. I went with
Speaker 2: this guy and he brought his cousin, his sister, and
Speaker 2: some other girls. Right, and one of the girls had
Speaker 2: on a T shirt. Remember when got Milk was real
Speaker 2: popular and it said god dick question mark, and niggas
Speaker 2: was walking up like, yeah, I got dick, and they
Speaker 2: was holding their dicks and stuff like that, like not
Speaker 2: pulling they dick out, but like grabbing themselves. And she's like,
Speaker 2: these niggas is real disrespectful.
Speaker 1: They really what you thought, And it's okay, let me
Speaker 1: not say that.
Speaker 2: Why you got on the shirt? Requestion if niggas got dick,
Speaker 2: and they're mad when they say, yes, I have dick
Speaker 2: for you right here, right, so they shouldn't sometimes you're
Speaker 2: clothes Kim Warren, Yeah, Kim Warren't I wanted attention. If
Speaker 2: you don't want niggas to come grab their dick telling
Speaker 2: you they got dick, don't ask.
Speaker 1: But I feel like, okay, in a club where there's
Speaker 1: two hundred let's say it's a club where there's I
Speaker 1: don't know, two hundred men, right, two hundred women, it's
Speaker 1: probably going to be a small sample size of those
Speaker 1: guys who actually walk up and say, God dick. Why
Speaker 1: does the all the other men know better?
Speaker 2: But y'all, because they don't want a bitch that will
Speaker 2: walk around with a shirt that's asking, do you got dick?
Speaker 4: Right, my lady ain't coming out of the house with
Speaker 4: no shirt talking about got dick.
Speaker 1: I'm right here, got no dick obviously, because she's asking
Speaker 1: she couldn't have.
Speaker 2: A man at home and wear that out.
Speaker 4: But even some some stuff.
Speaker 8: If it's if my lady coming out with me, I
Speaker 8: don't want you to look too crazy. I don't care
Speaker 8: what you wear. It's not that I'm controlling. I don't
Speaker 8: care what you wear, but you know that when you
Speaker 8: go out with your significant other, you don't want to
Speaker 8: wear no shit that's gonna draw attention to you from
Speaker 8: other people.
Speaker 4: And I gotta fight.
Speaker 8: I'm getting into it with another guy because he walked
Speaker 8: up on you and said something crazy or grabbed you
Speaker 8: or did something.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, it's not that it's your fault, but
Speaker 4: it's like, okay, that's a little too.
Speaker 1: It's too I've seen the post like that recently. It
Speaker 1: was a woman though, right, y'all might have seen it.
Speaker 1: She was saying how a man isn't insecure if he's
Speaker 1: telling you what not to wear and what you know,
Speaker 1: So it's your favorite slippery slope, right, Because if what
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship where I got into a
Speaker 1: argument because I wear leggings like everybody wears. Why do
Speaker 1: you think I'm going to get different attention if I
Speaker 1: walk around with overalls on, like, it's gonna be the
Speaker 1: same shit, my nigga.
Speaker 4: You can see ass and anything.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I'm saying. You're gonna see it regardless,
Speaker 1: So what's the problem. But she was saying, like calling
Speaker 1: a man insecure for being concerned about how you're presenting
Speaker 1: yourself at the house. Oftentimes, these guys who have women
Speaker 1: who dress overly provocative. You met them like that. You
Speaker 1: probably met them in the club too. Now you're mad
Speaker 1: that they still dressed like that going to the club,
Speaker 1: like you met her when that got dick she exactly exactly,
Speaker 1: So now you're trying to change her exactly. Now you're
Speaker 1: mad because she's still outside.
Speaker 2: I don't want you dancing at that club. No, bro,
Speaker 2: all my whole boys can come see you anytime. They won't.
Speaker 4: It's like Dayton stripper almost.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how I talking about playing.
Speaker 4: You can't come on home, man, You know where you're married.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna take care of you.
Speaker 1: No, she likes stancing exactly. She likes dress plating. So
Speaker 1: who are you and.
Speaker 4: Well, y'all a male stripper? I've always women?
Speaker 1: Oh god, no, man, let me tell y'all my first
Speaker 1: experience with a stripper.
Speaker 3: Y'all.
Speaker 1: I was fresh out of high school. One of my classmates,
Speaker 1: I don't know who, which one aunt got us a.
Speaker 2: Stripper and graduate yes, well wait, yes, this is graduation
Speaker 2: high school.
Speaker 1: Yes, girl, you again, you know. And we was like
Speaker 1: at a little well they weren't serving alcohol, but it
Speaker 1: was like a little club downtown Charleston. So we got
Speaker 1: this stripper. He's the famous stripper in the South. You
Speaker 1: ever heard of this dude? Jasmine? Okay, he had like
Speaker 1: a little curly here.
Speaker 2: Guy, I'm saying, we're talking about male stripper.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, but his name is Jasmine.
Speaker 1: Yes, his name was Jasmine. He had like a little
Speaker 1: curly here, and he was a seasoned, a season stripper. Girl.
Speaker 1: He not have it between everybody fucking leg bouncing around,
Speaker 1: bounce around. And he smelled. He did not smell good. Okay,
Speaker 1: I know he had cheesy bits. Okay, he did not
Speaker 1: so nice and he was putting his face between he
Speaker 1: kissed me on my mouth.
Speaker 4: Oh he did me?
Speaker 1: He did me? He sorry, and I'm like, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to go. I was driving, everybody had to go. Well
Speaker 1: who rode with me? Like I'm out?
Speaker 2: Man?
Speaker 1: I was so disgusted. So I don't like male strippers,
Speaker 1: not like crazy.
Speaker 2: So that was the experience. That was your feeling, that
Speaker 2: gorgeous story.
Speaker 1: Not to say I like female strippers, but I could
Speaker 1: deal with that a little bit better, Like I don't
Speaker 1: even want no percolating ass dude.
Speaker 4: Anyway, I can't stand y'all, I.
Speaker 1: Smashed the stripper before now because one of my friends
Speaker 1: is he danced at some point in his life.
Speaker 4: Well, I guess that.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't, so I guess he's not a stripper, right, But.
Speaker 2: Bolo is a very attractive male dancer who I don't know.
Speaker 2: You know, I have a feeling about mal day answers
Speaker 2: like that wouldn't be something I would be interested in.
Speaker 2: But you know, there are some exceptions. Bolo would be
Speaker 2: one of them.
Speaker 1: I don't know who is yeah, Bolo Fie, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I don't know if I was a data stripper.
Speaker 1: But I'm definitely smashed on her.
Speaker 4: I one, I have, I bust one down. I mean
Speaker 4: it was that's she knew what it was. That's what
Speaker 4: she was known for. That's what it was like, all right, cool,
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm here, you're here.
Speaker 2: I got the forty dollars.
Speaker 4: Free.
Speaker 1: She was free.
Speaker 4: She likes you, yea, she likes that's but you you
Speaker 4: already that fucking the game up.
Speaker 2: You'll like, like, I don't paying for.
Speaker 4: Sex, Like that's the dumbest shit I've heard in my life.
Speaker 4: Paying for sex is so stupid.
Speaker 1: And it is not stupid. It's investment.
Speaker 4: What You're losing money in this investment.
Speaker 1: I'm started down in this investment, Like for.
Speaker 4: Real, I ain't a burning made of me because I
Speaker 4: ain't see it return.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: But if you if you in a situation where, damn man,
Speaker 1: she hasn't been working out, I want to I want
Speaker 1: to be in a get money mode. You might need
Speaker 1: to strippers. She might be your muse, and that's the investment.
Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, you hit that pussy in particular.
Speaker 1: Now all these opportunities are opening.
Speaker 2: Up for you.
Speaker 4: No, No, ain't no opportunities open. Because I was busting
Speaker 4: down the striper. No, getting I ain't telling nobody.
Speaker 1: This is manifestation we're talking about.
Speaker 8: No, I ain't telling nobody. Me and Cinnamon over here
Speaker 8: doing our things. Not gonna let it happen.
Speaker 2: Stupid, I'm not Cinnamon.
Speaker 1: Y'ah listen uh consenting sexy Okay, that's actually the name
Speaker 1: of this episode. It's very sexy. Like if you say,
Speaker 1: can I take your pennies off? Can I do this?
Speaker 1: Can I do that? And she's like yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: or you saying it to him.
Speaker 2: It's nice, you know, So I mean, can I take
Speaker 2: your pennies off?
Speaker 3: Sir?
Speaker 4: That's not sexy? Can I take yours off?
Speaker 1: That's off?
Speaker 4: It's not sexy? Put my jaws off? Be an adult.
Speaker 2: So a woman is down on her knees and she's
Speaker 2: looking up at you with like some like puppy dog guys.
Speaker 2: Can I put yours off? Please? And then put my
Speaker 2: mouth on you?
Speaker 4: I'm ana let her do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that sounds sexy though, No, not at all.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be I'm gonna let you do it, But
Speaker 4: in my mind, I'm like, what are you doing? Come
Speaker 4: on now? You know, while we're here, he's.
Speaker 1: Be embarrassing bitches.
Speaker 2: Man you already on your put my draws off and
Speaker 2: shut off?
Speaker 4: What wrong with you?
Speaker 1: Are you ruining it?
Speaker 4: Fly them up.
Speaker 1: To be naked so I know what something and why
Speaker 1: you got clothes on? What's happening.
Speaker 4: On? Basketball sorts and nothing else?
Speaker 1: Listen so our target market, I like to say always,
Speaker 1: it's just like women in her twenties for the most part,
Speaker 1: just listen, you know, learn vic curiously through us. You
Speaker 1: don't have to go through the dumb ship. My advice
Speaker 1: for younger women do not put yourself in closed setting,
Speaker 1: in a closed setting with the man, if you are
Speaker 1: not interested in engaging with him in that way, that's
Speaker 1: the best way to do things right. Keep ship public,
Speaker 1: meet him out somewhere. Maybe you don't even want to
Speaker 1: ride with him yet, you don't even want him picking
Speaker 1: you up yet. Just to make sure you're safe, because
Speaker 1: that testosterone is a motherfucker and sometimes lines get kind
Speaker 1: of blurry and he may have missed where you didn't consent,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Just so just be safe and.
Speaker 2: Basically just make niggas date you. You know, like girls
Speaker 2: being relationships with men that they ain't never been on
Speaker 2: a date. They just chill, chill.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 2: We come through and chill and their whole relationship been chilling. Chill.
Speaker 4: I don't know what a date look like.
Speaker 2: Don't know what a date look like.
Speaker 4: The girls in their twenties, they different. They the new niggas.
Speaker 1: Mmmm.
Speaker 4: They treat us like we just why are you?
Speaker 1: You know? Why?
Speaker 4: Excuse me?
Speaker 1: Women in there? You know why?
Speaker 4: See what happened was not that I have, but I've
Speaker 4: seen it and it's just.
Speaker 2: I heard the story about it.
Speaker 4: From what I heard, It's just.
Speaker 8: That there are because of the era, the time that
Speaker 8: we're in now, women are women at the forefront of stuff.
Speaker 4: They at the forefront.
Speaker 8: Women they holding the rap game down right now, you
Speaker 8: got women that are you got podcasts, you have everything
Speaker 8: where right.
Speaker 4: Women's voices are being heard now.
Speaker 8: But a lot of them are making that and they're
Speaker 8: running with it, and they're intimidating men or they're making
Speaker 8: it seem like, well, you're not good enough for me
Speaker 8: because I can do all this on my own, not
Speaker 8: that a man wants you to feel less than or
Speaker 8: feel like you can't do it. But also if you
Speaker 8: are dating a man, include a minute. These young girls,
Speaker 8: they're like I don't need you for nothing, but that's
Speaker 8: all I want from you.
Speaker 4: That's all I want to get from.
Speaker 2: Sofas, washing machine driers.
Speaker 1: H motherfucker.
Speaker 8: So it's I mean now and just talking in twenty
Speaker 8: twenty three is a lot of us. I'm not older,
Speaker 8: but I'm in my thirties. Like it's the younger girls.
Speaker 8: They just they don't give a ship about what you do.
Speaker 8: They want you can you? Can you fly me out?
Speaker 8: Can you pay a bill? Can you have sex with me?
Speaker 8: Can you give it to me?
Speaker 4: What I want? The younger girl?
Speaker 2: So it's just like, oh, looking for commitment, you're saying,
Speaker 2: hell no, No, was we looking for commitment when we were?
Speaker 1: I was, man, I stay out, man, listen. I stayed
Speaker 1: in a if not a relationship, but situationship for sure.
Speaker 1: And I actually regret it and not saying I want
Speaker 1: to be outside like that, right, I actually regret like
Speaker 1: wasting time with the wrong people in my twenties, because
Speaker 1: your twenties should be for fire niggas when they don't
Speaker 1: act right, Okay, it's not for consistent and just compromise
Speaker 1: all goddamn.
Speaker 4: Time, right right, right?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, But you are you're trying
Speaker 1: to find your.
Speaker 2: Husbands at twenty five and baby, once I got out
Speaker 2: of that savage tied nigga, no.
Speaker 1: To tied nigga.
Speaker 4: I tell my daughters. I'm like I tell my daughters now,
Speaker 4: don't get no relationship. Explore life. You don't know nothing
Speaker 4: right now.
Speaker 8: You're not gonna really know nothing about life until you
Speaker 8: hit twenty twenty one, so don't get me there. At
Speaker 8: twenty twenty one, that's when you start experiencing stuff on
Speaker 8: your own for the first time.
Speaker 4: So it's like you don't even know what you want
Speaker 4: really until.
Speaker 1: You exactly Those guys you fucking in your twenties, they
Speaker 1: probably can't even see you. Excuse me, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, they definitely gonna be and they might. And
Speaker 1: that's why. That's why men, you want to be the
Speaker 1: best man possible, because you don't want your child to
Speaker 1: run into that nigga like you. Okay, if you're not
Speaker 1: a good man, I'm a man, that karma gonna get
Speaker 1: your ass. Because if a woman ain't never made you cry,
Speaker 1: your baby gonna make you.
Speaker 4: Cry because a woman made me cry.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be a helpless feeling. It's gonna be a
Speaker 1: helpless feeling when when when tyrone get ahold of that
Speaker 1: ass and and now you're battling dick. Yes, you can't
Speaker 1: even get her to act right no more because she
Speaker 1: get an act right. To one of my guy friends,
Speaker 1: like he would punish his daughter she was in college,
Speaker 1: he would like if he didn't, if she wasn't doing
Speaker 1: what he wanted or something, he'd take money away, he
Speaker 1: take resources away. I'm like, you better stop doing that
Speaker 1: because if you don't get it to her, she's gonna
Speaker 1: figure it the fuck out right.
Speaker 4: For dollars easy to come back.
Speaker 1: That's another thing. Y'all been to stop with that forty
Speaker 1: dollars ship because it's inflation. And we talked back, Okay,
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 4: A snack, a snack, it ain't that's.
Speaker 1: That even a snack now, Like there's boxes of variety
Speaker 1: packed chips cost more than forty dollars at this point
Speaker 1: what store yards trapping a costco?
Speaker 4: Y'all want lifetime supply ship.
Speaker 1: Y'all is fucking sexy.
Speaker 2: All right, We'll be right back with him, yoid from Birdbie.
Speaker 4: Easy way to say this, but fucking your standing it.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So tell us about the SIMP story.
Speaker 4: Oh man, I was a professional. Simple.
Speaker 8: After I got after me and my my ex wife separated,
Speaker 8: I was like, I'm back outside.
Speaker 4: What's up? We're doing whatever? You know, you feel like
Speaker 4: you can feel like you got it.
Speaker 8: I know they won't me. They'd been waiting for me
Speaker 8: to get back in the streets. No, they're not waiting
Speaker 8: for you. I'm out here.
Speaker 4: I'm trying to find love. Oh god, hey, what do
Speaker 4: you need?
Speaker 8: I gave a girl a damn payment for a car.
Speaker 8: Her car had gotten something's wrong with it, needing inspection
Speaker 8: breaks or something.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 8: She was going to get another car, so I gave
Speaker 8: her damn payment for that car. But while this car
Speaker 8: was messed up, I'm ubering her to work every day
Speaker 8: every morning and then going to pick her up from
Speaker 8: work every day, Like I mean, complete semptation. It was
Speaker 8: just I was I was like, yo, what are you
Speaker 8: doing to get nothing in return? Like I wasn't trying
Speaker 8: to do it to get no get no buns or
Speaker 8: get y'all.
Speaker 2: Wasn't even having sex yet, damn nothing.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm got girl, good, good, it'll come. Nothing came,
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, like and then she stopped
Speaker 4: talking to me.
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, after that made this major investment?
Speaker 4: What something like, bro, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: I need to see a picture of her?
Speaker 4: She was said one be like, hey, bro, you call it?
Speaker 2: Thanks you at the water, you know, like that's the
Speaker 2: size anyway to get your ass out there.
Speaker 4: And water cardio.
Speaker 1: You just give me that pussy. Now, come on, everyone
Speaker 1: is beautiful.
Speaker 4: It's just some of y'all are beautifully challenged.
Speaker 2: I was super so so what happened? It was just
Speaker 2: like one day she just stopped responding, stopped calling, stop something.
Speaker 8: You don't do nothing for me, like she hit me
Speaker 8: with it. You don't do nothing for me when it
Speaker 8: comes to my feelings, like when it come to other people.
Speaker 8: I tell you that I want you to stop doing this,
Speaker 8: stop doing that, stop talking this person, stop talking to
Speaker 8: that person.
Speaker 4: We're not even together. We're not even together, and she.
Speaker 2: Ain't gave you nothing yet.
Speaker 1: She was fucking you up emotional. What is a master manipulator?
Speaker 1: Sounds like dark psychology to me?
Speaker 4: Right and after that happened, I was so mad at myself,
Speaker 4: like what are you doing? What are you doing?
Speaker 8: You know good in Hellwell, you don't need to be
Speaker 8: doing this for nobody, especially if they're not your cheek.
Speaker 1: Did she ask you to do these things or were
Speaker 1: you voluntaring?
Speaker 4: She didn't, I was doing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she actually wasn't taking advantage. So we we always say,
Speaker 1: you know, a simple.
Speaker 4: Say yes, it's taking advantage.
Speaker 1: No, but if she needs to help, it's not though, right.
Speaker 2: But if she had, if she knew all along that
Speaker 2: she had no real intentions with this man.
Speaker 4: And she was taking it, that is again she was
Speaker 4: taking advantage of my heart and.
Speaker 2: Then your good heart. Yeah, and then she was like,
Speaker 2: you keep talking to that girl, so that's the reason enough,
Speaker 2: and you stop giving me money.
Speaker 8: So by looking for right on Father's Day one year,
Speaker 8: I took her out on Father's Day like it was
Speaker 8: on something.
Speaker 4: Hell no, I'm getting I'm triggered. Yeah, I'm triggered. Man. Okay,
Speaker 4: say everybody.
Speaker 1: Gardening, you listening, bitch, fuck you, bitch.
Speaker 4: Random, look bitch.
Speaker 1: Fifty five.
Speaker 3: She bro.
Speaker 1: That's another thing we can talk to the young ladies like,
Speaker 1: you can't ask for things after you give the pussy.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It's kind of gonna be
Speaker 1: kind of hard once a man gets what most of
Speaker 1: the time. They want, they the end goal. Even if
Speaker 1: they like you and they do want they have genuine
Speaker 1: intentions for you, They want a relationship whatever they want
Speaker 1: that pussy first and foremost you give it up. You
Speaker 1: ain't like motivation, Yeah, to do anything for you. I
Speaker 1: don't know unless he actually fuck with you. I have
Speaker 1: a thing, I say, a theory I have There's only
Speaker 1: two men that actually want to be around you, and
Speaker 1: that is somebody who genuinely loves you and a nigga
Speaker 1: who ain't fucked yet. That's it, that's all.
Speaker 2: Or genuinely likes you too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but after the pussy time time likes and go
Speaker 1: away Like we be chasing, they chase us, and then
Speaker 1: we give the pussy up and somehow they don't even
Speaker 1: have to be like the CUCI may not be bad,
Speaker 1: maybe you really don't like her personality, but you still
Speaker 1: want to fuck. That's why I said men don't have integrity.
Speaker 1: We FriendZone niggas that we don't want to have sex
Speaker 1: with and we don't like like that. We're friend zone
Speaker 1: a matter fucking then friend zone.
Speaker 8: We will You know her character before you get the draws,
Speaker 8: because especially if it's at the point where she's making
Speaker 8: you wait then you get to know her, and if
Speaker 8: you don't like her before you get the draws and
Speaker 8: just leave that alone. That's what you still want it
Speaker 8: to though, But that's your fault at that point. If
Speaker 8: I don't like you and I don't like who you
Speaker 8: are as a person, nine times out of ten, seven times,
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna want.
Speaker 1: One time.
Speaker 4: If you do give it up and it's good, a
Speaker 4: nigga will do anything.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe she's not that bad. You know, you start
Speaker 2: changing your mind about a.
Speaker 4: Nigga will do anything for you could be ugly.
Speaker 1: I'm just illusion about there being bad pussy out here.
Speaker 1: I guess I don't know what. Maybe that's another episode.
Speaker 2: To go a whole bad pussy.
Speaker 8: What absolutely bad sex, bad sex, not necessarily bad, but
Speaker 8: definitely women get that band.
Speaker 4: I've had bade Oh.
Speaker 2: My god that like oh my pillow. Princess just lay there.
Speaker 4: Not even that.
Speaker 8: She did a whole eight count like yes dancing and
Speaker 8: it was just like she was literally on top of me,
Speaker 8: hit me with the body road and doing all kind
Speaker 8: of ship.
Speaker 4: I'm like, what the fuck is going on right now?
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on, but why didn't you
Speaker 2: just correct her and give her direction.
Speaker 4: I didn't like it. I didn't like what you have
Speaker 4: to show.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to show maybe the last man like
Speaker 1: like right now, you have to show.
Speaker 2: Her how you're dick, because often women are just fucking
Speaker 2: you the way she fucked the last nigga.
Speaker 4: That's true, but if he tolerated that, and.
Speaker 2: Sometimes Robot saying, my last nigga, Derek used to like
Speaker 2: that ship.
Speaker 1: Excuse me so much.
Speaker 8: No, don't necessarily ride because for men, you it's certain
Speaker 8: things that pleasure you differently when you have a sex.
Speaker 4: Some dudes, some girls might ride a certain way, but
Speaker 4: do might not like that.
Speaker 2: You gotta ride me like, okay, but that's why you
Speaker 2: gotta give direction.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you do. But at some point niggas like you grown,
Speaker 4: you should be you should know.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like men want the virgin hole, right,
Speaker 1: so y'all want something. But oftentimes, like some women, some
Speaker 1: women aren't that experience or they just been used to
Speaker 1: some basic as sex. They're not They're not.
Speaker 4: Good who women not, y'all. I'm talking about the women who.
Speaker 1: They probably really thought they had some good ship going on,
Speaker 1: they really loved it.
Speaker 4: You don't get your d Yeah, she wants nothing here.
Speaker 1: She was all in the shoulder.
Speaker 2: Kill with the shoulder.
Speaker 1: She was all up here.
Speaker 4: It's a pleasures.
Speaker 1: She probably choking him to.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm literally looking at her like what is
Speaker 4: going on?
Speaker 1: Just scooting a little bit.
Speaker 4: I said, let's make a video, but that a music video.
Speaker 1: Yoh, I cannot, man, we got to get the fuck
Speaker 1: this this is supposed to be about.
Speaker 2: I can see you ain't gonna say to that babbage pussy.
Speaker 4: In the bedroom. I don't.
Speaker 2: It's it's gonna be a woman listening like damn, I'll
Speaker 2: be doing that a count all the time.
Speaker 8: He's not gonna tell you. He's not gonna tell you
Speaker 8: because I didn't say nothing to her. He's gonna talk
Speaker 8: about you later in.
Speaker 2: His group chat. Oh my god, when I had this
Speaker 2: robot pussy.
Speaker 1: George the George.
Speaker 4: Her name on my phone is Breezy because she was
Speaker 4: dancing like Chris Brown.
Speaker 2: I'm sticking out that I've never had sex with somewhere
Speaker 2: and they got some whack ass name from me and
Speaker 2: their phone like, oh that's so painful.
Speaker 4: Then so triggered.
Speaker 2: What if a nigga got a whack name for you
Speaker 2: and your phone and their phone because of your six Like.
Speaker 3: Damn no, bam, that's what he said. Liars what he is,
Speaker 3: that's what he is.
Speaker 4: I've done that. I got names in my good bro.
Speaker 1: Man your shirt.
Speaker 2: We do that to Big Geez Big g Nigga always
Speaker 2: got her.
Speaker 4: She's a hard bottom man. We do the same thing. Yeah,
Speaker 4: her name was Breezy.
Speaker 2: And look, Burbie, tell everybody where they can find you.
Speaker 2: What's next for you? All that good stuff.
Speaker 8: Y'all can find me on social media on Instagram is
Speaker 8: I'm just Burpie b u r P I e uh Twitters,
Speaker 8: I am burplee TikTok, I am Burpie.
Speaker 4: Facebook, y'all still use that. I do comedian for real people,
Speaker 4: people you know in real life, my mama and my friend.
Speaker 1: That's why I got off of the real Facebook Facebook dating.
Speaker 4: Yeah, get somebody else to do it. Y'all can catch
Speaker 4: me on tour. I'm on tour right now.
Speaker 8: My man, mister bank shot that we're not Brother's tour.
Speaker 8: We're coming to your city here, surely Atlanta, you're up next.
Speaker 8: Uh that's you know, listen to in the morning and
Speaker 8: Charlotte and surrounding areas.
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