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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for joining us. We are so excited to be back

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Speaker 1: for another episode of Golden Hour. How are you doing

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Speaker 1: today's Susan.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing great. And these guys got to check out

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Speaker 2: what we've been doing. I mean, we've had some great

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Speaker 2: guys on here from Jones show. You all have to listen.

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Speaker 2: It's we're having a great time answering all of the questions.

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Speaker 2: We had some wonderful questions.

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Speaker 1: So I got a little stuck on, you know, but

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Speaker 1: don't you aren't you amazed at how nice these guys are.

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Speaker 2: They're great. They're really are great.

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Speaker 1: And tall and tall.

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Speaker 2: I know they're all tall. Oh my gosh. So in

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Speaker 2: case you're forgetting how to submit your questions and Susann,

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Speaker 2: we like a broken record.

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Speaker 1: We aren't broken people. If you have not figured out yet,

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Speaker 1: I don't know where are you? Like? What podcasts are

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Speaker 1: you listening to?

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Speaker 2: And you know the reason we say this, guys, is

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Speaker 2: because we get people DM and US saying I don't

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Speaker 2: have to submit a question. So Bachelor Nation dot calm

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Speaker 2: slash Golden Hours submit away, baby.

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Speaker 1: Really, but listen, we don't only want to hear your questions.

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Speaker 1: We want to hear your comments as long as they're

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Speaker 1: nice about us. We want to know how your lives

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Speaker 1: are going. Those of you whose questions we've answered, please

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Speaker 1: send us updates. We really really want to hear. You

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Speaker 1: can also hear. Yeah, you can also dm us on

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Speaker 1: Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. All right, we're ready to

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Speaker 1: get into this episode. There we go. All right, Susan,

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Speaker 1: is there a time in your life that you had

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Speaker 1: to draw a necessary boundary in a relationship? And if so,

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Speaker 1: how'd you do it? It can be you know, no, listen,

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Speaker 1: not just It doesn't have to be a guy. It

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Speaker 1: can be friends, not me. There's no boundaries between us,

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Speaker 1: but it could be friends, kids, or partner.

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Speaker 2: What tell me and necessary boundary? I mean, like don't

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Speaker 2: cross that line or else?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? But what in one situations? And what's it? All right?

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Speaker 1: Give me one.

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Speaker 2: Friendship with me and a friendship now? You know what

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Speaker 2: if I tell you not to cross.

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Speaker 3: The line, Susan would draw that line in Italian pasta

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Speaker 3: sauce and say do not cross or I will turn

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Speaker 3: you into a slice of spaghetti.

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Speaker 2: In every relationship, there's been times. God, I gotta think

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Speaker 2: things I don't appreciate somebody doing. Yeah, and that I

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Speaker 2: would say, please, don't don't do that in front of me,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like interesting, interesting, I don't

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Speaker 2: know a person, why a person acts, or something like.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you I've I I can't think, well, I

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Speaker 1: can't think. I can with my kids because I have learned,

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Speaker 1: you know, since my husband died. Initially it was like

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Speaker 1: tell them everything. But now I've learned, especially about dating.

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Speaker 1: I tell my kids very little, very little about where

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Speaker 1: I am, what I'm doing, who I'm dating. Oh wait,

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Speaker 1: am I dating? That's a whole other conversation. But if

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Speaker 2: But what's a necessary boundary in like a relationship? Have

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Speaker 2: you ever had that?

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Speaker 1: I'm you know, I'm just throwing something out there that

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Speaker 1: first came into my head. I think if I were

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Speaker 1: going to have to be honest. I was dating a

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Speaker 1: short period of time, you know, a few months, and

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Speaker 1: should be doing with it. And I remember thinking, did

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Speaker 1: I ask? Did I ask a boundary? That was about it?

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Speaker 1: And so I finally, after about this, I let it go,

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Speaker 1: as I am prone to do. The first time, I'll

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Speaker 1: let it go. But I think it was the second time.

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, you brought this up before, and

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Speaker 1: I don't remember asking you. That is my business, and

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Speaker 1: you know I appreciate it. I mean I tried to

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Speaker 1: I said, I appreciate that you care, but this is

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Speaker 1: like that gave me kind of an icky feeling. Nothing

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Speaker 2: My boundaries like more like don't why? And I know

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Speaker 2: I bet rather you be guilty of something and admit

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Speaker 2: it than lie. But that's not really a boundary.

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Speaker 1: Well it is, by quite It would be a boundary

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Speaker 1: if you say you can un dating. You know, I

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Speaker 1: can put up with a lot for me. For example,

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Speaker 1: another boundaries would be cheating. If I'm dating a guy

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Speaker 1: and I found out he's dating somebody else, I'm out.

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Speaker 1: That's a boundary.

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Speaker 2: That's we were talking earlier on another podcast, and whoever's listening,

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Speaker 2: you might have heard this when we talked about when

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Speaker 2: is it time for relationship? Like when does that conversation happen? Remember,

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Speaker 2: I said, when we become more intimate, And that has

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Speaker 2: you have that conversation. You know what I'm saying. I

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Speaker 2: didn't come as such a shock or sting. If you will,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure many people out there deal with that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I dated a guy again for a

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Speaker 1: on what that means, and then we dated it but

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Speaker 1: I didn't know about her, and right, that's what I mean,

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Speaker 1: and then he went back to her and I we're friends. Now,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we see each other as friends,

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Speaker 1: and I asked him, I said, you know, what the

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Speaker 1: hell and he said, well, it was not a good answer.

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Speaker 1: He said, I wanted to see if there was someone

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Speaker 1: by the way, they're broken up again, So to me

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Speaker 1: that was like major red flag, but also about me, like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll bet you people listening to us right

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Speaker 2: now have gone through this or maybe perhaps going through Yes,

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Speaker 2: you know, that'd be a good question to submit. All right, Kathy,

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Speaker 2: We're going to do some fan questions. Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: I'll read the first one. Let's Cheryl asks, Hi, ladies,

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Speaker 2: I have a bit of an odd situation I'm in

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Speaker 2: and I'm hoping you can help me out. I was

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Speaker 2: it out as a holiday card. I had no idea

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Speaker 2: Am I overreacting? My husband thought it was a sweet

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Speaker 2: was really sweet at first. But is second guessing now

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Speaker 2: that he's seen me spiral Lol, would really love to

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Speaker 2: know your thoughts. Well, I got weird of that when

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Speaker 1: I'm I wouldn't tell you your share, tell you how

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Speaker 1: about ask your permission? That's I mean, let me just

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Speaker 1: say if my mother in law were not dead, I know.

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Speaker 2: It's really cute, but I would want to know.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say it's not cute if it's your

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Speaker 1: child and she didn't talk to you about it first. Interestingly, Cheryl,

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Speaker 1: I just had this conversation. I have two grandchildren, my

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Speaker 1: used to send up Christmas cards every year with pictures

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Speaker 1: of my family. And you know, since my husband's gone,

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Speaker 1: I have not sent out a Christmas card this year.

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Speaker 1: I said to my kids, you know, next year, I

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Speaker 1: because then I could send them out. What am I

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Speaker 1: going to send out a picture on me and my cats?

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Speaker 1: You know? Yeah? I know I would love to, but

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Speaker 1: but I asked my children I would no more think

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Speaker 1: Cheryl of taking my granddaughter.

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Speaker 2: She is she's asking us, what is she? What do

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Speaker 2: you do you address that, what will.

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Speaker 1: You tell me what I would do? No, not tell me,

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Speaker 1: ask me.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't matter, as it's already done. That I'm saying,

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Speaker 2: she's wanting to know how to deal with her mother

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Speaker 2: in law. What does she do?

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Speaker 1: Hey, Ma, here's the thing. You never asked my and

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Speaker 1: my husband's opinion. You know your son, she asked, Am

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Speaker 1: I not at all? You're not at all?

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Speaker 2: Cheryl, You're not?

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Speaker 1: And I will tell you. Cheryl Susan and I often,

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Speaker 1: not often, but sometimes think that people are overreacting. We

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Speaker 1: husband together, it's weird, and you go sit with her

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Speaker 1: and you say, not only is it weird, it's inappropriate,

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Speaker 1: and why would you make it is an appropriate student?

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Speaker 2: That's how you would handle it. But I would be

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Speaker 2: just like, first of all, i'd tell my husband to

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Speaker 1: Yes, I would do that.

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Speaker 2: Seriously, why wouldn't you tell me this like that? That's

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Speaker 2: kind of weird. I mean, I love that you love

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Speaker 2: you think you should have let me know?

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm going to pick an argument with you

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Speaker 1: here Susan, I took a Christmas card with your children.

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Speaker 1: It's not letting you know, it's saying it should have

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Speaker 1: been Cheryl. I am. I'm guessing Cheryl's mother in law.

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Speaker 1: You know it is alone. So because she says with

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Speaker 1: father in law. I would never do that. I'm saying

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Speaker 1: to you. If mommy darest had come to Cheryl and said, hey,

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Speaker 1: I would like to do a Christmas card with your baby,

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Speaker 1: you know, my grandchild, what do you think I would

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Speaker 1: have said. That is the sweetest thing ever. But here's

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Speaker 1: the why don't we do this? Why don't you come

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Speaker 1: on our Christmas card? We'll do a photo shoot as

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Speaker 1: a family, and then you know what, you put one

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Speaker 1: picture with granny and the kid and picture. That's what

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Speaker 1: I would have done. So offer that to her, Cheryl,

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Speaker 1: have your husband offer that for next year and say

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Speaker 1: we really do not ever want you to do this again.

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Speaker 2: I don't blame me for feeling weird. I felt weird

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Speaker 1: It's very weird.

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Speaker 2: But you can't make it so that there's an issue

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Speaker 2: between daughter in law mother in law either.

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Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? There's all right.

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Speaker 2: I mean, how did she get the baby by herself?

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Speaker 2: Maybe she baby sits have to do with it, that's

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Speaker 2: when she did it. It's not like she stole the

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Speaker 2: kid to take a picture. And your point is, I

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Speaker 2: take pictures with my grandkids all.

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Speaker 1: The time, and your point is, and I post.

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Speaker 2: Them all the time. That is my daughter never says

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Speaker 2: a word, Chris, I do, by the way, By the

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Speaker 2: way I do.

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Speaker 1: And you know what you should ask your daughter. My

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Speaker 2: Really, you go through all that rather than just bend over.

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Speaker 2: Let me say boop, but it and you're done. That's all.

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Speaker 1: Susan. When I come to see you, I don't understand

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Speaker 1: You know I really would help you in any way

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Speaker 2: Mars pounds and can't bend over it. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: What do you catch?

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Speaker 2: Wait, if we grow old together, Gotha, that's where we're heading, okay,

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Speaker 1: Old this friend, Susan. Let me just say to you,

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Speaker 4: of we're so much we fight like one. Wait, we're

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Speaker 1: She's cold, I'm cold.

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Speaker 2: Go on, So like everybody that's actually listening to this, Please,

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Speaker 2: I really want to know how many people out there

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I said, Susan, I said I might

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Speaker 2: I've done it, Yes, she's might. Yeah, but in the

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Speaker 1: Oh god, he's talking about his hemorrhoids with her.

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Speaker 2: Probably it's impacting my performance at work. How do I

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Speaker 2: I just catch myself listening and wanting to yell, I

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Speaker 2: But obviously I can't do that. Any ideas on how

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Speaker 2: Thank you. I love you guys so much. To wait

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's what she means. I think no.

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Speaker 1: and you know what, he's your boss. You're screwed. You

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Speaker 2: But if there, if you do have the relationship that

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Speaker 2: I know I make mistakes, and I know you're here

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Speaker 2: Now if you repeat the mistake, then he might have

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Speaker 2: a right, you know, but you're embarrassing me, or you're

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Speaker 2: making me feel inadequate, or whatever word you choose to use.

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Speaker 2: But you need to tell him because he's never going

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Speaker 2: to stop. I can't. I can't imagine what his wife

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Speaker 1: As you were talking, Susan, I was thinking back when

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Speaker 2: Do it privately.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm sure, I'm sure he's I'm sure

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, and he never all caps holds back. It's

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Speaker 2: So she's given him an out at the same time

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So either you.

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Speaker 2: Got to get a new boss and go somewhere else

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Speaker 2: and work don't make mistakes, or sit down and talk

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, good, I'm guessing this as a relatively

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so good luck. Let us know how goes. Try

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Speaker 2: She's catching herself wanting to yell, I get it. You

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Speaker 1: But wait, I want to.

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Speaker 2: My daddy always told me you get a lot.

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Speaker 2: And all right, So today, Kathy, we are going to

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Speaker 1: All right, you go, you start seism Okay, So.

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Speaker 2: I don't know that I'll go back on the dating

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Speaker 1: An in for me will be trying to cook more meals, eat,

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Speaker 2: Ay Man, I agree with that one. And in for

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Speaker 1: Oh? Whoa serious for all of you. That's gonna be

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Speaker 1: a tough one for Susan there, Okay. What's in for

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Speaker 1: going to the gym every day.

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Speaker 2: Good for you, Good for you. An in for me

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Speaker 2: is to focus more on go into the gym. An

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Speaker 2: in for me is to be more conscious about my budget,

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Speaker 2: oh good one, and my spending.

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Speaker 1: Habits what's what's the out.

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Speaker 2: Not to spend it like I did last year?

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Speaker 1: Oh, you're just for me. I had such a good

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Speaker 1: in and out and out Oh my gosh, I really

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Speaker 1: had a great one. And that just blew blew my mind. Uh,

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Speaker 1: because it's an in for me, and in for me

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Speaker 1: is to I really want to be thoughtful about where

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Speaker 1: I spend money and how I spend it. You are well,

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Speaker 1: but I want to be better about it. And out

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Speaker 1: for me is oh, I don't even know. I'm I

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Speaker 1: you know, honestly, for me, this game is hard because

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you why. I try during the year to

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Speaker 1: evolve and navigate situations and make improvements. It's the same

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Speaker 1: reason I don't do New Year's resolutions, because.

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Speaker 2: That's kind of how it feels like, yeah, bit of

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Speaker 2: a revolution. But I'm not saying okay on January first, right.

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Speaker 1: And that's what like, so one of my biggest things,

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Speaker 1: and it's not a resolution. And I tried it in

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Speaker 1: twenty four so in twenty twenty five it's going to

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Speaker 1: be the same. And in for me is to try

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Speaker 1: to listen more and talk.

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Speaker 2: He took the words out of my mouth. I'm going

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Speaker 2: to try to slow my role and pay attention and

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Speaker 2: get let I do, let people talk, and I do listen.

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Speaker 2: I told you this story. I believe I told you

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Speaker 2: this one time a man that I was dating years

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Speaker 2: and years ago, and we were pretty thick, and he

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Speaker 2: made a comment and I was paying attention. That was

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Speaker 2: the worst part. He said, now's your chance to listen.

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Speaker 2: It was like the demons coming out of me. I

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Speaker 2: turned my head like the Exorcist. I said, what did

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Speaker 2: you just say to me? How? What the hell did

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Speaker 2: you do? I was listening, So I think that was

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Speaker 2: just rude, you know what I mean. So I'm always

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Speaker 2: conscious about hurting people's feelings or something like that, but

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Speaker 2: that's what that just.

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Speaker 1: Made me think. I think, yeah, I think you know.

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Speaker 1: An inform me is I think I'm a kind, nice person,

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Speaker 1: and I know you know I am. I think sometimes

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Speaker 1: i'm But what's out for me is like I don't

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Speaker 1: I already said I don't want to waste time with people.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to waste time with But I also

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Speaker 1: I want to be even more I made great strides

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four, twenty twenty five. I want to

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Speaker 1: even be more live and let live like I don't

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Speaker 1: care what you do. You're happy, you know, so I'm

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Speaker 1: fringing on me. Go for it, you know. So you're

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Speaker 1: right these feel like resolutions. But you and I both

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Speaker 1: but we try to live our best life, you know,

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Speaker 1: all the time, every day, every day, and so you

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Speaker 1: know what's in and out it fads, trends. You know,

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Speaker 1: I really don't care.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't see that's my weakness.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, Susan. In for Susan is whatever's in the

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Speaker 1: fashion magazine. It's not only Susan in. She's one thousand

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Speaker 1: percent in in every color. What's out for Susan is

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Speaker 1: what she wore last year, and you know it's in

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Speaker 1: for Kathy. Susan's closed from last year. It's perfect.

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Speaker 2: Those blue pants that I bought when we were on

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Speaker 2: our show, yeah that one.

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Speaker 1: I still want them.

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Speaker 2: I still want hundreds and hundreds of it, and.

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Speaker 1: You know what I wanted to I want. I want them.

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Speaker 1: You know. Now they'll be too small on me or

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Speaker 1: too big or something. I wanted them. All right, Listen,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what's enter out for twenty twenty five,

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Speaker 1: but here's what's in for me. Our friendship is in

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Speaker 1: for me. Yes, and what's out for me? I don't care.

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Speaker 1: Friendships as we get older, they're so valuable. And people

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Speaker 1: make jokes about us dating. We're not dating. I think

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Speaker 1: we're just at an age where we know the value

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Speaker 1: of friendship and having some know it's.

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Speaker 2: So important people. Everybody listening, ladies and gentlemen about friendships

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Speaker 2: is you can bear your your soul. Yeah, you can

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Speaker 2: tell each other's secrets that you're not proud of maybe,

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Speaker 2: or you're excited about whatever, and you always know you

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Speaker 2: can call your friend and share it with her, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: And that's and you know what's sad is that when

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Speaker 1: you say that, some people think, oh, they must be together.

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Speaker 1: We're together. We're together because we support each other through

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Speaker 1: our lives. But anyway, I hope everybody like.

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Speaker 2: To entertain people. I can't wait to get together and

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Speaker 2: do some videos.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I know we're gonna we're gonna be together in

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Speaker 1: a few weeks. That's gonna stay too.

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Speaker 2: Going away our annuals.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, we speaking of got to think about

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Speaker 1: packing for that. And that's going to do it for

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Speaker 1: this episode of That's Our Happy Hours, Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: We love.

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Speaker 1: We hope that you love as much as we do

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Speaker 1: listening to us chat and hope to get you know,

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Speaker 1: we get to know each other better. We hope you

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Speaker 1: enjoy hearing tidbits about our life, our love, our lack

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Speaker 1: of how about love?

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Speaker 2: How about them telling us their ins and outs?

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, give us some ideas of your ins and outs.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we'll adopt a few of those. But in the meantime,

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