1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: All right, buggle up, hold on tight, we got it 2 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: full you here it is. Subject. Yeah, you'll like this 3 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: a lot, a lot in the market, please God. Alright, Subject, 4 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:22,240 Speaker 1: fifty five year old white man. See right there. Race 5 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: is my thing, love specializing. All right, here, here we go, 6 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve and the show family. I have a 7 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: situation that needs an immediate resolution. I'm a thirty eight 8 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: year old African American woman who is a single parent. 9 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 1: I'm independent, hard working, attractive, and successful. My problem is this, 10 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 1: I'm at a fifty five year old white man at 11 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: the airport. We exchanged business cards and began a friendship. 12 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: I started out really liking him, but now I am 13 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: not or if I like him or the things he 14 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: does for me. He asked me to tour Europe with 15 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: him this spring. He constantly sends me gifts. He has 16 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: given me nearly three thousand dollars in the time that 17 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: we have known each other, because he says that he 18 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: wants to take care of me and show me that 19 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: he is a good man. He says that his only 20 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: purpose is to ensure my happiness. I had to finally 21 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:26,559 Speaker 1: tell him that I did not need him to take 22 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: care of me because I wanted to want him for 23 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: him and not what he can offer me. He says 24 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: that he understands, but I know that it bothers him 25 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: that I continually deal with him at arms length. We 26 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: have only met the one time at the airport, but 27 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: speak daily. He lives in Wisconsin and I live in Georgia, 28 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: but the distance is not an issue because he has 29 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: pleaded for the last three months to fly in to 30 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: see me, and we both have the ability to travel regularly. 31 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: I have continually put him off because I am not 32 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: sure that I am ready to meet him. I have 33 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: not sorted out how I feel about both the race 34 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: issue and the age issue. Additionally, I feel that he 35 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 1: is way too needy and clinging. I do not think. 36 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: I don't think that he has much of a life 37 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,799 Speaker 1: outside of marrying me. At least several times a week 38 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: he asked about the type of wedding I want, what 39 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: type of ring do I prefer, or some other related topic. 40 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: I asked him what does he do with his free 41 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:30,639 Speaker 1: time and when he does he um and when does 42 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: he spend time with friends. He says that because of 43 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,799 Speaker 1: his job, he does not have time for many outside activities, 44 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: but I feel if he would not contact me so much, 45 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: he could use that time to have a life outside 46 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: from focusing on me. I do not know how to 47 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: handle the situation. He is becoming persistent. I have told 48 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 1: him that I need time, and if he wants back 49 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: anything that he has given me, he is welcome to it. 50 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: He says that he gives from his heart and would 51 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: never take back anything. He is a great guy, but 52 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: there are times when hearing his voice makes me want 53 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: to scream. The cultural differences are becoming more and more prevalent. 54 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: The age issue is a challenge, and his neediness is bothersome. 55 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: There are moments when I try to envision sleeping in 56 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: bed with this man and I nearly lose my lunch 57 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: thinking about it. Wow, what do I do? Please, dear, 58 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: what do I do? This letter stressed me out just 59 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 1: reading it. I just say, if you don't want this man, 60 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 1: you know who you've admitted as a great guy. You're 61 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: an independent woman. Tell him, tell him just that and 62 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: let it go. You know you've got issues with this man. 63 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: Twelve minutes after, we don't have time, so I'll tell 64 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: you what we come back. Yeah, yeah, this is what 65 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: you boy? You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, 66 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: come on with your response to part two of this 67 00:03:55,400 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. Let's go. This is what I do about man, 68 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: which I'm an expert at, and race, which I'm the 69 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: other expert at. I'm an expert on race and manhood. 70 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: Let's go. I've had my own experiences. I know how 71 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: to feel about him, I know how to react to him. 72 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: I've handled him. I've been trying to go through my 73 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: family treat and see if one of my grandmama's this 74 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: white got to be a check involved in this. God, 75 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: here's a letter fifty five year old white man. Good morning, 76 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: Stephen the Family Show. I have a situation that needs 77 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 1: an immediate resolution. I'm a thirty eight year old African 78 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 1: American woman who is single parent. I'm independent, hard working, attractive, 79 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: and successful. My problem is this, I'm at a fifty 80 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: five year old white man at the airport. We exchanged 81 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: business cards and began a friendship. I started I really 82 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: liking him, but now I'm not so sure I like 83 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 1: him or the things he does for me. He asked 84 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: me to tour Europe with him this spring. He constantly 85 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: sends me gifts. He has given me nearly three thousand 86 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 1: dollars in the time that we've known each other, because 87 00:04:57,680 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 1: he says he wants to take care of me and 88 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: show me that he's a good man. He says that 89 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: his only purpose is to ensure my happiness. I had 90 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 1: to finally tell him that I did not need him 91 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,039 Speaker 1: to take care of me, because I wanted him for 92 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: him and not for what he can offer me. He 93 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: says that he understands, but I know that it bothers 94 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 1: him that I'm continually deal with him in our arms lift. 95 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: We have only met the one time at the airport, 96 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: but speak daily. He lives in Wisconsin, I live in Georgia, 97 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: but the distance is not an issue because he has 98 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: pleaded for the last three months to fly into Seama. 99 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: We both have the ability to travel regularly. I have 100 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 1: continutely put him off because I'm not sure that I'm 101 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: really am ready to meet him. I have not sorted 102 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,839 Speaker 1: out how I feel about the race issue and the 103 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: age issue. Additionally, I feel that he is way too 104 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 1: needy and clinging. I don't think that he has much 105 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: of a life outside of marrying me. At least several 106 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,040 Speaker 1: times a week, he asked about what type of wedding 107 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: I want, what type of ring do I prefer, or 108 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: some other related topic. I asked him what he does? 109 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: Was this three times? And when he when does he 110 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: spend time with his friends? He said, because of his job, 111 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: he does not have time for many outside activities. But 112 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: I feel he would not contact me so much if 113 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: he used the time to have a life aside of 114 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 1: focusing on me. I did I know how to handle 115 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: the situation. He's becoming persistent. I've told him that I 116 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: need time, and if he wants back anything that he's 117 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: given me, He's welcome to it. He says that he 118 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: gives from his heart and he would never take anything back. 119 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:23,119 Speaker 1: He's a great guy, but there are times when hearing 120 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,839 Speaker 1: his voice and makes me want to scream. The cultural 121 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 1: differences are becoming more and more prevalent. The age issue 122 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: is a challenge, and his neediness is bothers hid. There 123 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,839 Speaker 1: are times when I try to envision sleeping in bed 124 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: with this man and I nearly lose my lunch thinking 125 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 1: about it. What to do please? All? Right, here we go? 126 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: What to do? Please? You need to really quit lyons 127 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: so much? See lady. First of all, let's just tell 128 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:53,040 Speaker 1: the truth. You really into this man because of what 129 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 1: he do for you. See, you can save all this 130 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: mess you started with me. I'm an African American woman 131 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: who was a single parent. That's the sympathy part. Then 132 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: here comes the I am independent, hard working, attractive, as successful. Okay. 133 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: Then if all that's happening and you live in Georgia, 134 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: what's the white man fault? So really, I mean, let's 135 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: just go. You got you popping off like you say 136 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: you is in this letter. What's the white man three 137 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: thousand miles fault in Wisconsin, George, Georgia. Well, first of all, 138 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: let's deal with Wisconsin. Very few black people, georgea damn 139 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 1: near all black people. Let's just talk about this. So 140 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: now here we go. Now you're sitting up in here, 141 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: you have met this fifty five. You're a white man 142 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: at the airport. Y'all exchange business cause one more time, 143 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: letting us know you got your thing going on. Then 144 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 1: you started out liking him. Now you ain't so shoe 145 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: if you like him or the things he does for me. Well, 146 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: we know for show you like the things he do 147 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: for you because you steady taking him as hard working, independent, 148 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: all that come to find out he's given you nearly 149 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: three thousand dollars. But see all this this is just 150 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: a part of a lie, because later on, she says 151 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: in the letter, he's becoming persistent. I have told him 152 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: that I need time, and if he wants back anything 153 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 1: that he's given me, he's welcome to it. You ain't 154 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: fitting to give back cash. So let's stop that left out, 155 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: miss single independent. It's what all else he didn't bought you. 156 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: I'm thinking furniture and car. These are the things that 157 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: you would welcome a man back to. Furniture and a car. See, 158 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,560 Speaker 1: he ain't bought your clothes because he don't know your size, right, 159 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: Your men ain't good at that. You don't bought your 160 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: own clothes with three thou dollars you and the baby. 161 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: See what you haven't got yourself and some furniture, and 162 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: you haven't got yourself a car. See that's what you 163 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 1: didn't got. Now you want to give a couch back 164 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 1: and the car back. But you just told him he 165 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: was welcome to it back. You didn't send it. You 166 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: just said he was he trying to show you here 167 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: a good man, because you don't mean it. Often if 168 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: you don't want something, you know how to give anything back. 169 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,680 Speaker 1: See Legy. When you get through the man, you put 170 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 1: all kinds of stuff out on the tree lawn. He 171 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 1: going in to get shipped something. Stanley and Nephew Ray 172 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:21,720 Speaker 1: now to bring it broad. Thank you, Steve. You know 173 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. Email us or instagram 174 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:27,200 Speaker 1: us your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter at My Girls, Shirley, 175 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: don't forget Tomorrow. Tomorrow The Strawberry Letter Live after show 176 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: on Facebook. Please join me. We'll talk about tomorrow's letter. 177 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: I'll do my fresh pick of the week, and we'll 178 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: do trending topics.