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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter subject, is it possible to

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Speaker 1: have too much sex? Dear Stephen Shirley. I am in

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Speaker 1: my late twenties, and two years ago I started having

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Speaker 1: sex with a guy I met in high school. We dated,

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Speaker 1: broke up, and now we're back together. He is the

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Speaker 1: only man that I've ever had sex with. During the

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Speaker 1: because we really enjoyed each other's bodies. We used to

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Speaker 1: do it every day anywhere we could. Oh to be

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Speaker 1: anywhere we can. All I had to do was look

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Speaker 1: it was. Back then, we both enjoyed having sex and

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Speaker 1: everything was going great until he asked me to be

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Speaker 1: Now I have to beg him to have sex with me. Uh.

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Speaker 1: And you know I have to beg him if I

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Speaker 1: pestering him. When we do have sex, it's always in

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Speaker 1: He says he can only handle one round of sex

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Speaker 1: a day now. But I'm only getting that a couple

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Speaker 1: of days a week. What am I supposed to do

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Speaker 1: with that? Uh? Is not enough to quench my thirst?

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Speaker 1: Is it normal for a man sex drive to change

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Speaker 1: so quickly like this? What's a girl to do? Whoa?

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Speaker 1: Just whoa? Okay, you need to either slow down a

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Speaker 1: that can keep up with you, because clearly this man cannot, uh,

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Speaker 1: he can no longer do it. Um. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe they is that. Yeah, that's a side piece.

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Speaker 1: No I didn't. I didn't mean o No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: that doesn't usually happen until like forties for real, for real.

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Speaker 1: So this is kind of a relationship in reverse. You're

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Speaker 1: he says he can't handle it. So what what do

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Speaker 1: you want? I mean, do you want a relationship with

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Speaker 1: sounds like that you guys are just in a sexual relationship,

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Speaker 1: whether you're in a relationship or not, because even when

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Speaker 1: So um, if this is if this is all this

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Speaker 1: it sounds like you're not serious about a relationship with

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Speaker 1: him and you need to move on. You need to

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Speaker 1: move on and get someone who's compatible with you. And

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Speaker 1: you're hefty, hefty, heavy sex drive. All right, Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't know where to start with this letter. A

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Speaker 1: lot going on. You're in your late twenties. You better

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Speaker 1: said it. Sex with the guy in high school, you

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Speaker 1: broke up, now you're back together. He's the only man

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Speaker 1: you've ever had. Secret During a short time we broke up,

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Speaker 1: we were friends with benefits because we really enjoyed each

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Speaker 1: other's bodies. We should do it every day anywhere we could.

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Speaker 1: They broke up, but they had sex every day. Yes,

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Speaker 1: friends with benefits. They enjoyed each other's bodies. Well, that

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Speaker 1: If you're bringing every day, yeah, that ain't no break up.

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Speaker 1: I had to tell you this, But y'all been together

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Speaker 1: I wanted everything and everybody do it tonight. I've been

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Speaker 1: looking at you, thinking about you. Whatever you need to hear.

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Speaker 1: That's what almost say when we do have sex is

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Speaker 1: me think that y'all have been all up against garage

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Speaker 1: When we get back to the letter, the subject is

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Speaker 1: it possible to have too much second on the hood

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Speaker 1: them climbed all up in the proteins when the mistress

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Speaker 1: have been a hunter, they'd have been will while the

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Speaker 1: y'are not having it as often it could be him.

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Speaker 1: You gotta find a way to put the excitement back,

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Speaker 1: and I'll tell you what you do. This is a

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Speaker 1: she can't handle And listen to me, I'm saying, she's

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Speaker 1: you for sex in two weeks. He's getting this so much,

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Speaker 1: she's going to internally confused. She's gonna pay us out,

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Speaker 1: pay us all the way. That's exactly what it is.

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Speaker 1: She can't do it, and that's really it. That's all

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Speaker 1: I got for you. Fourteen days, that's all fourteen days,

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Speaker 1: and he don't to ask you for none. He's getting

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Speaker 1: fourteen days though? Between Yeah? I think yeah, I think

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Speaker 1: Let's go, honey, Um, you want to go upstairs and

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Speaker 1: you know, go upstairs and now, no, I'm downstairs. You

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Speaker 1: don wanta go upstairs right now? I mean all of

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Speaker 1: them steps. Come on, come on and be like that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, don't be like that, sugar. Don't you go

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Speaker 1: up there? Something sure, something you ain't never seen. I like, selp,

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Speaker 1: I don't seen everything. You ain't seen it like this,

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Speaker 1: something different with Let's go see yea something else with

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Speaker 1: it upstair and see what the hell it is to

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Speaker 1: take too. We can't top that. That's good, that's really funny.

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Speaker 1: you heard something different. We have about a few more minutes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you know, Steven, the true man wasn't come down there.

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Speaker 1: What's coses I'm downstairs? What's that? Oh? Well, this way

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Speaker 1: go that to go? Yeah? I did some different. You

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Speaker 1: tired of you. You're right. Think that's it, man, he

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Speaker 1: to be big to be pleasured. He don't even win,

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Speaker 1: that's that's just want pleasure me. But you got the

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Speaker 1: big me. I promise you. Who's doing that? I never

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Speaker 1: hand about the ass every day. Who's asking a man?

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Speaker 1: That's what that did? You taped me on my show? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I got used one big. He love you feel like

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Speaker 1: tonight you're busy? Which where are you going? What she said? Junior? Now? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what are you going? I got the basketball warm up?

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Speaker 1: So you know how you just pull them off? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Remember last week when you said you're gonna do what

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Speaker 1: her feel like she's pestering him. He's tired of her.

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Speaker 1: Like like Steve said, when they were sneaking around and

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Speaker 1: doing it, it was a game. It was exciting. Yea,

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Speaker 1: But he did ask to go back with her though.

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Speaker 1: That's so she wouldn't get nobody else. Oh yeah, straight,

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Speaker 1: that's just a lock up move. Ye, that's just a

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Speaker 1: a lot of people get it done. See he's been

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Speaker 1: Now you're just laying up there looking like like you

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Speaker 1: can be on the box of pancakes. Here we're going left,

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Speaker 1: brom No, you're just sitting up in here just looking

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Speaker 1: something like that. You know that's a turn off man.

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Speaker 1: She just needs to move on. Al right. Guys, we

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