WEBVTT - How To Survive The Holidays While Single

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, guys, it's Jen Fessler from I Do Part two.

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<v Speaker 1>So the holidays can be hard for singles and actually

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<v Speaker 1>for couples, but I am talking to you party of one,

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<v Speaker 1>and my suggestion is to give yourself permission to indulge.

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<v Speaker 1>If you feel like going out with friends and making

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<v Speaker 1>bad decisions, go for it. If you feel like staying

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<v Speaker 1>under the covers with peppermint Bark and Bailey's and reality TV,

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<v Speaker 1>which is my personal favorite, go for it. This is

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<v Speaker 1>the season for indulgence without guilt. If you don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be around people, if it's a little depressing for you,

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<v Speaker 1>then I suggest you give into that impulse. Fomo can

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<v Speaker 1>be turned into jomo, which I call the joy of

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<v Speaker 1>missing out when you do exactly what you want to do. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>the holidays can be the most fun and challenging, So

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<v Speaker 1>you make yourself happy this holiday season. Be with friends,

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<v Speaker 1>be alone, spend a little too much money, eat a

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<v Speaker 1>little too much chocolate, and enjoy your holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>Love to you all. Hey you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>It's Kelly Killer and Ben Simone And here is my

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<v Speaker 3>single survival kit for Thanksgiving Friendsgiving twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 2>My survival kit starts.

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<v Speaker 4>With self care, I'm really really into self care. I

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<v Speaker 4>know that people are like, I'm gonna do a yoga

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<v Speaker 4>clans and be self care.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking real self care.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm talking like writing down things that you want in

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<v Speaker 4>your life, writing down things that you love about yourself,

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<v Speaker 4>writing things down about what you love about another person.

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<v Speaker 4>Really just putting it out there. What you love, like,

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<v Speaker 4>who you love, why you love, where you want to love,

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<v Speaker 4>like where you want to live with that person.

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<v Speaker 2>Just really put it out there.

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<v Speaker 4>Because if you put it out there and you write

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<v Speaker 4>it down and you start talking about it, that is

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<v Speaker 4>when people are like, oh, she really is looking for love,

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<v Speaker 4>or she's really looking for this kind of partner, or

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<v Speaker 4>she's really looking for that. And then when it comes

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<v Speaker 4>to Thanksgiving dinner and people are like, so are you

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<v Speaker 4>getting married, are you dating?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 4>And you're just be like I am in my dating

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<v Speaker 4>self era, and you can there's nothing wrong with being single,

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<v Speaker 4>and there's nothing wrong with.

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<v Speaker 2>Taking care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>And if you just put out all that good energy,

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<v Speaker 4>you will be so shocked at what's going to happen,

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<v Speaker 4>because that's literally I was like having the worst worst

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<v Speaker 4>time of my life, and I was just just like

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just gonna do something for myself. Just take time

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<v Speaker 4>for myself, and I mess someone great. So take time

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<v Speaker 4>for yourself. Self care is real, It's really really real.

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, it's your favorite single gal Louise giving you some

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<v Speaker 5>advice for surviving the holidays. Typically a tough time when

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<v Speaker 5>I was freshly divorced, when the kids were young, it

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<v Speaker 5>was tough to get into the holiday spirit. The kids

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<v Speaker 5>were out of town for one of the weeks with

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<v Speaker 5>their father. I could barely bring myself to put the

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<v Speaker 5>Christmas tree up. Then I forced myself to change my lens.

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<v Speaker 5>I bought point Settias, and I went to Target and

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<v Speaker 5>bought amazing holiday smelling candles, and I would put my

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<v Speaker 5>favorite music on and make an amazing vision board of

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<v Speaker 5>all the things I was going to manifest in the

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<v Speaker 5>new calendar year. And that would put a smile on

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<v Speaker 5>my face. And then the kids would come home. And

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<v Speaker 5>one of the things that was always front and setter

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<v Speaker 5>on my vision board was that the next holiday season,

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<v Speaker 5>that I would not be alone, and that I would

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<v Speaker 5>be in my chapter two.

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<v Speaker 2>Some years i've had that.

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<v Speaker 5>Other years it's been me doing my thing with my

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<v Speaker 5>friends or my family, and I've learned to get excited

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<v Speaker 5>about the holidays and feel very christmasy and open to

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<v Speaker 5>what the next calendar year was going to bring.

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<v Speaker 2>So happy holidays.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, susannoles here and Kathy Swarts.

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<v Speaker 7>And we just want to give you a little tip

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<v Speaker 7>for getting through the holidays this year. Just in case you're, say,

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<v Speaker 7>bringing home a new guy, be gentle, introduce them to

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<v Speaker 7>your family easy, don't shove them in their face. But

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<v Speaker 7>if you're alone and you're missing somebody, try to surround

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<v Speaker 7>yourself with friends or family if you have any, and

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<v Speaker 7>just be kind and be thankful that you're still here.

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<v Speaker 6>And my advice to you all is be grateful for

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<v Speaker 6>any time you have with your family, Enjoy the memories

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<v Speaker 6>that you've had from pa holidays, try to create some

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<v Speaker 6>new ones this year. And you know what's the best

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<v Speaker 6>recipe for getting through the holidays. Get some exercise.

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<v Speaker 7>And you know what else, here's some other advice. It's

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<v Speaker 7>okay to go out and go be with friends or

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<v Speaker 7>go to a restaurant, to a movie. It doesn't matter

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<v Speaker 7>what you do.

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<v Speaker 6>And it's okay to sit by yourself and maybe sit

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<v Speaker 6>the holiday out, maybe cry, maybe watch a sad movie.

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<v Speaker 2>It's okay because.

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<v Speaker 6>You know what, there'll always be another holiday and you're

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<v Speaker 6>gonna get through this, Just get through it triumphantly the

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<v Speaker 6>best way you can.

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<v Speaker 7>And it's just one day.