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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, it's Jen Fessler from I Do Part two.

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Speaker 1: So the holidays can be hard for singles and actually

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Speaker 1: for couples, but I am talking to you party of one,

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Speaker 1: and my suggestion is to give yourself permission to indulge.

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Speaker 1: If you feel like going out with friends and making

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Speaker 1: bad decisions, go for it. If you feel like staying

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Speaker 1: under the covers with peppermint Bark and Bailey's and reality TV,

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Speaker 1: which is my personal favorite, go for it. This is

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Speaker 1: the season for indulgence without guilt. If you don't want

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Speaker 1: to be around people, if it's a little depressing for you,

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Speaker 1: then I suggest you give into that impulse. Fomo can

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Speaker 1: be turned into jomo, which I call the joy of

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Speaker 1: missing out when you do exactly what you want to do. Remember,

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Speaker 1: the holidays can be the most fun and challenging, So

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Speaker 1: you make yourself happy this holiday season. Be with friends,

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Speaker 1: be alone, spend a little too much money, eat a

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Speaker 1: little too much chocolate, and enjoy your holiday.

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Speaker 2: Love to you all. Hey you guys.

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Speaker 3: It's Kelly Killer and Ben Simone And here is my

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Speaker 3: single survival kit for Thanksgiving Friendsgiving twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 2: My survival kit starts.

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Speaker 4: With self care, I'm really really into self care. I

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Speaker 4: know that people are like, I'm gonna do a yoga

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Speaker 4: clans and be self care.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking real self care.

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Speaker 4: I'm talking like writing down things that you want in

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Speaker 4: your life, writing down things that you love about yourself,

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Speaker 4: writing things down about what you love about another person.

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Speaker 4: Really just putting it out there. What you love, like,

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Speaker 4: who you love, why you love, where you want to love,

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Speaker 4: like where you want to live with that person.

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Speaker 2: Just really put it out there.

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Speaker 4: Because if you put it out there and you write

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Speaker 4: it down and you start talking about it, that is

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Speaker 4: when people are like, oh, she really is looking for love,

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Speaker 4: or she's really looking for this kind of partner, or

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Speaker 4: she's really looking for that. And then when it comes

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Speaker 4: to Thanksgiving dinner and people are like, so are you

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Speaker 4: getting married, are you dating?

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Speaker 2: What are you doing?

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Speaker 4: And you're just be like I am in my dating

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Speaker 4: self era, and you can there's nothing wrong with being single,

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Speaker 4: and there's nothing wrong with.

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Speaker 2: Taking care of yourself.

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Speaker 4: And if you just put out all that good energy,

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Speaker 4: you will be so shocked at what's going to happen,

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Speaker 4: because that's literally I was like having the worst worst

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Speaker 4: time of my life, and I was just just like

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna do something for myself. Just take time

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Speaker 4: for myself, and I mess someone great. So take time

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Speaker 4: for yourself. Self care is real, It's really really real.

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Speaker 5: Hey, it's your favorite single gal Louise giving you some

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Speaker 5: advice for surviving the holidays. Typically a tough time when

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Speaker 5: I was freshly divorced, when the kids were young, it

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Speaker 5: was tough to get into the holiday spirit. The kids

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Speaker 5: were out of town for one of the weeks with

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Speaker 5: their father. I could barely bring myself to put the

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Speaker 5: Christmas tree up. Then I forced myself to change my lens.

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Speaker 5: I bought point Settias, and I went to Target and

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Speaker 5: bought amazing holiday smelling candles, and I would put my

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Speaker 5: favorite music on and make an amazing vision board of

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Speaker 5: all the things I was going to manifest in the

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Speaker 5: new calendar year. And that would put a smile on

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Speaker 5: my face. And then the kids would come home. And

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Speaker 5: one of the things that was always front and setter

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Speaker 5: on my vision board was that the next holiday season,

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Speaker 5: that I would not be alone, and that I would

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Speaker 5: be in my chapter two.

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Speaker 2: Some years i've had that.

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Speaker 5: Other years it's been me doing my thing with my

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Speaker 5: friends or my family, and I've learned to get excited

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Speaker 5: about the holidays and feel very christmasy and open to

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Speaker 5: what the next calendar year was going to bring.

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Speaker 2: So happy holidays.

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Speaker 6: Hey, susannoles here and Kathy Swarts.

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Speaker 7: And we just want to give you a little tip

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Speaker 7: for getting through the holidays this year. Just in case you're, say,

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Speaker 7: bringing home a new guy, be gentle, introduce them to

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Speaker 7: your family easy, don't shove them in their face. But

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Speaker 7: if you're alone and you're missing somebody, try to surround

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Speaker 7: yourself with friends or family if you have any, and

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Speaker 7: just be kind and be thankful that you're still here.

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Speaker 6: And my advice to you all is be grateful for

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Speaker 6: any time you have with your family, Enjoy the memories

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Speaker 6: that you've had from pa holidays, try to create some

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Speaker 6: new ones this year. And you know what's the best

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Speaker 6: recipe for getting through the holidays. Get some exercise.

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Speaker 7: And you know what else, here's some other advice. It's

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Speaker 7: okay to go out and go be with friends or

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Speaker 7: go to a restaurant, to a movie. It doesn't matter

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Speaker 7: what you do.

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Speaker 6: And it's okay to sit by yourself and maybe sit

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Speaker 6: the holiday out, maybe cry, maybe watch a sad movie.

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Speaker 2: It's okay because.

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Speaker 6: You know what, there'll always be another holiday and you're

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Speaker 6: gonna get through this, Just get through it triumphantly the

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Speaker 6: best way you can.

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Speaker 7: And it's just one day.