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Speaker 3: My terrible mother treats my brother horribly. Now she's paying

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Speaker 3: the prize.

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Speaker 4: Ooh, and the price is none of us, not even

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Speaker 4: children like you. Dang.

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Speaker 3: June sixth, twenty twenty one, two days after Keon's birthday.

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Speaker 4: I your brother's birthday.

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Speaker 5: Yep.

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Speaker 3: I thirty three female, have a sister thirty female and

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Speaker 3: a little brother seventeen oil. My mom single mother? Are

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Speaker 3: parents are divorced while she was pregnant with my brother.

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Speaker 3: Was a wonderful mother to both me and my sister. However,

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Speaker 3: she switched up incredibly while raising my brother, so much

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Speaker 3: to the point that I offered to raise my brother instead.

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Speaker 3: Social Okay story Time suburded. So my brother, who is

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Speaker 3: now junior in high school, who has self esteem issues,

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Speaker 3: especially related to the way he looks slash ways. He

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Speaker 3: was a chubby baby, and my mom used to say

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Speaker 3: negative things to him all the time, which I kind

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Speaker 3: of guess ruined his self esteem. My sister and I

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Speaker 3: always call him cute, handsome, et cetera, but obviously our

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Speaker 3: mother's words had a bigger effect on him. To put

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Speaker 3: in perspective for you guys, he's six' to one, underweight

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Speaker 3: objectively a good looking, kid yet still finds himself ugly

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Speaker 3: and or slash. FAT i five a woman way more than,

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Speaker 3: him and am healthy at. Weight, anyways despite, everything he

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Speaker 3: is still a cheerful and talkative kid who really does

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Speaker 3: love our, mother and this makes me ten times. Angrier

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Speaker 3: onto the. PROBLEM i made a mess in the kitchen

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Speaker 3: yesterday while doing a little baking and accidentally fell asleep

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Speaker 3: on the couch due to exhaustion and forgot to clean.

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Speaker 3: Up my mom saw the mess and started screaming at my,

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Speaker 3: brother and my brother said he cleaned it up and

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Speaker 3: that he was. Sorry he basically admitted to doing something

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Speaker 3: he didn't, do and WHEN i found, OUT i immediately

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Speaker 3: told my mom it was my fault and she said

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Speaker 3: that it was. FINE i asked her to apologize, him

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Speaker 3: but she said that he was a man and that

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Speaker 3: she doesn't need to and a, man that's your, kid

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Speaker 3: that's your son or.

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Speaker 6: A, boy stopa and he clearly has some kind of.

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Speaker 6: Disorder he's at least at the very least as, body This.

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Speaker 6: Morphy he's six to one and. Underweight he still thinks

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Speaker 3: MARPHY i got mad and told her that if she

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Speaker 3: kept this, up then her son will end up doing something.

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Speaker 3: Drastic she said that she wasn't doing, anything AND i

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Speaker 3: said something along lines of, seriously you're literally the cause

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Speaker 3: of all his. PROBLEMS i also called her a terrible.

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Speaker 3: Mother she got. Mad oh no, way she, SAID i

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Speaker 3: didn't go through all this crap for my own daughter

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Speaker 3: to take a boy's side of her own. Mother's she

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Speaker 3: made a lot of gender based comments like you're a,

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Speaker 3: girl you should take my, side and he's a, boy

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Speaker 3: he deserves, it et.

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Speaker 4: Cetera they she went to.

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Speaker 3: Her room and went to.

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Speaker 4: Sleep what that's your? Boy what is? This you're you're the?

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Speaker 4: Mother ooh ooh.

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Speaker 3: Ooh conspiracy. Theory she probably has like hatred towards men

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Speaker 3: because of the, divorce and then also if this was

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Speaker 3: her kid from her ex, husband she probably has a

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Speaker 3: lot of Resentment tom because she sees a lot of

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Speaker 4: Wombo combo and it's literally it's my hero. Academia, DUDE

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Speaker 4: i know it's a.

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Speaker 3: Parent, Honestly i'm just confused. Now, also WHILE i don't

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Speaker 3: regret standing up for my, BROTHER i feel like MAYBE

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Speaker 3: i shouldn't have blamed her for all of his issues

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Speaker 3: since it's a pretty big accusation and she's obviously. Hurt

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Speaker 3: i'm THINKING i should have been more. Mature plus she

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Speaker 3: wasn't a bad mother to me or my, sister so

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Speaker 3: maybe that was uncalled. For but, Yeah i'm on the

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Speaker 3: ahle for blaming my mother all of my brother's. Problems,

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Speaker 4: No, no for all of his, problems all of his big.

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Speaker 6: Ones, look a lot of times parents can't hear they've made,

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Speaker 6: mistakes oh, okay for whatever, reason sometimes just the way

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Speaker 6: they were, raised where it's just like you, know parent knows,

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Speaker 6: Best Like i'm fundamentally the parent can't tell me, anything

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Speaker 6: AND i. DO i think that there should be boundaries

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Speaker 6: be talked about in an appropriate, context because some things

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Speaker 6: are just not meant like what to be talked about

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Speaker 6: between parents and.

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Speaker 4: Children what like you.

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Speaker 6: SHOULDN'T i don't think it's necessarily healthy to be like

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Speaker 6: a mediator or moderator in your parents'.

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Speaker 3: Relationship, OH i see where it's like like mom and.

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Speaker 5: Dad daddy's, Right.

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Speaker 6: Like that's that's not the job or role they need

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Speaker 6: to do the responsibility of the.

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Speaker 3: CHILD A cocktail says she sounds nostandirious af he happened

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Speaker 3: to look like his, fatherer not the a. HOLE i

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Speaker 3: would talk to your bro and try to be his.

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Speaker 3: Shoulder your mom is completely effing him up and maybe

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Speaker 3: too late to undo all her damage at. It i'm

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Speaker 3: not implying he's beyond hope of, healing just that she's

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Speaker 3: going to leave. Scars so the quicker you help him

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Speaker 3: and start, healing the better.

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Speaker 5: Hope he.

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Speaker 3: Says we're actually. Mixed our dad Is East, asian mom is.

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Speaker 3: White he looks more More asian than my sister AND.

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Speaker 3: I so, yes he does look more like our dad

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Speaker 3: in a. Way the fact that it might be too

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Speaker 3: late is What i'm terrified. About i'll still try to

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Speaker 3: be his shoulder, though thanks far administration forty one says

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Speaker 3: it's pretty obvious she is taking out her anger at

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Speaker 3: your father on. Him it's so. Sad the same thing

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Speaker 3: happened to my little cousin after his Mother achromnomius. Divorce

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Speaker 3: just be there for him as much as you can

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Speaker 3: and try as much as possible to help him understand

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Speaker 3: that none of this is his fault and there was

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Speaker 3: nothing wrong with. Him feel free to throw your mother

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Speaker 3: under the bus to get this through to him if.

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Speaker 3: Possible will help him get out of the house as

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Speaker 3: soon as he is old enough and away from.

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Speaker 6: Her all the listeners out there really. Quick acrimonious means

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Speaker 6: angry or, bitter WHICH i did not know.

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Speaker 3: Equivalent horror sixty seven, says not the a. Hole your

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Speaker 3: mom is the a hole for Being can't your brother

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Speaker 3: move in with his?

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Speaker 3: Says dad lives in his home country and traveling is

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Speaker 3: a bit of a no can do to you know,

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Speaker 3: What my sister AND i live with our mom plus

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Speaker 3: about our, brother so we don't have our own places

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Speaker 3: or unfortunately low on money as. Well, HOWEVER i can

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Speaker 3: try to talk to my dad about what's going, on

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Speaker 3: but he's remarried and he is very busy these, days

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Speaker 3: SO i really don't. Know update six days. Later oh,

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Speaker 3: a bit, bored and but why? Not first, OFF i

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Speaker 3: like to say, that after reading your, REPLIES i think

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Speaker 3: the reason my mom is so horrible towards my brother

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Speaker 3: is a mix of him looking like my dad and

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Speaker 3: him being a. Boy BUT i don't know for. Sure

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Speaker 3: now that for the. UPDATE a bit AFTER i made the,

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Speaker 3: POST i went to talk to my, brother who was

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Speaker 3: in his. Room he was, fine but WHEN i asked

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Speaker 3: him to tell me how we felt about well, everything

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Speaker 3: he broke. Down heart broke into a million. Pieces at that,

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Speaker 3: MOMENT i knew that he couldn't stay with our mom.

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Speaker 3: Anymore WHERE i called my boyfriend of five years and

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Speaker 3: asked if my brother AND i could move in for a.

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Speaker 3: Bit he has the space and my brother gets along with,

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Speaker 3: him so he. Agreed my mom.

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Speaker 4: Didn't give a.

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Speaker 3: Crap she didn't even say goodbye to. Him she asked

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Speaker 3: me IF i could stay but completely ignore my brother's.

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Speaker 3: PRESENCE i tried my hardest to stay calm and not

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Speaker 3: shout at, her but the way she was acting was

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Speaker 3: so mean for it and my. Sister my mom still

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Speaker 3: makes mean comments about my brother even though he's not.

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Speaker 3: There staying. Calm it's really hard right. Now, anyways called

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Speaker 3: my dad as well and basically told him. Everything he

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Speaker 3: was a bit angry at first because no one told

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Speaker 3: him about this, before and he wouldn't have left any

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Speaker 3: of us in a different country had he. Known calm

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Speaker 3: down and talk to my brother for like over an,

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Speaker 3: Hour but by the time he hung, out my brother

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Speaker 3: had tears of joy and relief in his.

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Speaker 4: Eyes, yes let's.

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Speaker 3: Go it's still unclear whether my dad will be, visiting

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Speaker 3: or if my brother will be, moving or how we're

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Speaker 3: going to proceed from now due to you know, what

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Speaker 3: BUT i can assure you that my mother won't be

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Speaker 3: able to say anything to my brother. Again, UNFORTUNATELY i

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Speaker 3: am unable to put my brother into therapy BECAUSE i

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Speaker 3: will try and talk to one of my friends who

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Speaker 3: is pretty knowledgeable in the mental health department and can

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Speaker 3: see IF i can help my. Brother thanks to everyone

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Speaker 3: who gave their two. Cents edit He's. Louise thank you

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Speaker 3: all so much for the advised. Information, seriously whoa kindness and,

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Speaker 3: yeah Everything i've taken into, consideration And i'm trying to

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Speaker 3: respond to as many replies AS i. Can we're gonna

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Speaker 3: do some research and look into getting some help from my.

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Speaker 4: Corn, also what did the dad?

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Speaker 6: SAY i, mean ALL i hope is that he gets

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Speaker 6: the help that he, needs because you, know body dysmorphia

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Speaker 6: is like it's almost like you know a lot of

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Speaker 6: a lot of disorders like. That it's like from the outside,

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Speaker 6: end you look at it and it's, like, well why

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Speaker 6: can't you just like snap out of, It and it's

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Speaker 6: like it's more than. That it's like that's why it's a.

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Speaker 6: Thing is it's not something that's just, LIKE i, mean

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Speaker 6: if you're lucky the G i, mean can it can. Happen,

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Speaker 6: yeah you can just. SOMETIME i, mean there's people who

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Speaker 6: have afflictions like this and they wake up one day

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Speaker 6: and they're, like oh my, god, Wait i'm not EVEN

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Speaker 6: i don't even.

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Speaker 4: Care very.

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Speaker 6: Rare the human mind is a treacherous landscape of. Pitfalls

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Speaker 6: but we got a little bit more. Here i'd also

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Speaker 6: like to say that if you're Going slash went through something,

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Speaker 6: Similar i'm rooting for. You AND i know many of

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Speaker 6: you may not be, religious BUT i am.

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Speaker 3: Keeping you all in my.

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Speaker 5: Prayers.

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Speaker 3: Seriously thanks so much for, everything AND i hope you

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Speaker 3: Either he got fired from his fifth bar last week

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Speaker 3: That SO i moved out with my, brother which was.

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Speaker 6: ELSE i can't really, relate BUT i do know that

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Speaker 6: because we're, thirty but when we, were WHEN i, was

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Speaker 3: NICE i only have two and one a family lives

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Speaker 4: IN i told him.

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Speaker 3: No he asked, why AND i said it was, wrong

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Speaker 3: to pay rent on. Time he laughed and asked why

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Speaker 3: shouldn't be feel entitled to. Anything my mom started yelling at,

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Speaker 3: me SAYING i was being disrespectful AND i needed to.

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Speaker 3: Help when family, ASKS i told her she created this,

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Speaker 3: After my mom And adam have been blowing up my,

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Speaker 3: Course adam is telling anyone who will listen to my.

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Speaker 3: Dad he's just backing me up Because i'm his, favorite

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Speaker 3: he sent me a text saying THAT i don't know

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Speaker 3: It we're to say thank you for all the. Comments

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Speaker 3: is Of. Adam in my, opinion she took every opportunity

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Speaker 3: it Was adam and he was. WASTED i let him

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Speaker 3: him and he was. Crying he said our mother supplied

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Speaker 3: kept apologizing to be and, Sobbing oh, no she's in a.

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Speaker 3: mom would always Say adam was being punished for something

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Speaker 3: Disappear adam said she'd make him cuddle with her and

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Speaker 3: and she'd continued to lie and say he was being.

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Speaker 3: was being. Dishonest he, said she never did anything spicily to,

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Speaker 3: Point we all Agreed adam needed to tell her. Dad

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Speaker 3: adam while he told her dad. Everything our dad Hugged

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Speaker 3: adam kept apologizing to. Him he said he'll handle. IT

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Speaker 3: i don't know exactly what was said to my, mother

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Speaker 3: my dad has already followed for divorce and she is

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Speaker 3: she Said god Also adam belongs to her and she

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Speaker 3: hold it together because she destroyed my brother with her

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Speaker 6: Exhibitionist boxing match with my own. Mom that's What i'm

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Speaker 5: God.

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Speaker 3: Serious adam said he just wants to get better and

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Speaker 4: US i can't.

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Speaker 3: LIE i was really. Happy we're also proud of. Him

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Speaker 3: he hasn't even taken a drink since that night because

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Speaker 3: he's currently in. Rehab when he's, done he's going to

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Speaker 3: is going to. Buy my dad is selling the family

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Speaker 3: Great keeps apologizing to, me but, Honestly i've already forgiven.

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Speaker 3: And i'm still in. Shock i'm just going to focus

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Speaker 8: THEM i said boundaries with my mother during my pregnancy

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Speaker 8: Care hi, Everyone i've had this in my drafts for

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Speaker 8: a year and a half. Ago since, then a lot

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Speaker 8: want to know If i'm a bad daughter for choosing

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Speaker 8: process of separating WHEN i gave birth and are now.

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00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:28,159
Speaker 8: Divorced both have moved on to other people who are.

437
00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:30,400
Speaker 8: Great but this is WHERE i need to know IF

438
00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,879
Speaker 8: i am the a. Hole the PARENT i am pulling

439
00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,120
Speaker 8: back from is my. MOM i love, her but over

440
00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:37,200
Speaker 8: the years she has said some things that have really.

441
00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,160
Speaker 8: HURT i want to talk to her about the things

442
00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,920
Speaker 8: that have been said and the things that have gone,

443
00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:43,120
Speaker 8: down but IF i bring it, up it turns into

444
00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,720
Speaker 8: her crying and not talking to. ME i found out

445
00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:47,840
Speaker 8: in my pregnancy with our first child THAT i had

446
00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:51,439
Speaker 8: an anxiety disorder because my brain couldn't make, serotonin and

447
00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,160
Speaker 8: recently found OUT i have bipolar as. Well so that's

448
00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,480
Speaker 8: WHY i think the problem is it's my brain over.

449
00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:59,760
Speaker 8: Analyzing growing, up my parents had a very tumultuous relationship

450
00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,200
Speaker 8: and they fought. Constantly one FIGHT i do remember hearing

451
00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:06,040
Speaker 8: a lot was how my mom wanted boys and got three.

452
00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:09,160
Speaker 4: Girls if you're not ready for either, one then you're

453
00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:10,600
Speaker 4: not ready for any of.

454
00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:12,919
Speaker 8: It my dad would, say, YEAH i get, it but

455
00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,480
Speaker 8: we have three good daughters who we. LOVE i just

456
00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,600
Speaker 8: thought it was my mom wanting another, baby and that

457
00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:19,240
Speaker 8: was her way of trying to get my dad on

458
00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,720
Speaker 8: board with the. Idea fast forward to twenty twenty two

459
00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:24,520
Speaker 8: to twenty twenty. Three we find Out i'm pregnant with

460
00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:28,320
Speaker 8: the first. Grandchild lots of excitement and, nerves but overall

461
00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:31,560
Speaker 8: a very joyful. Experience we decide to do a gender

462
00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:34,720
Speaker 8: reveal with our, parents, grandparents and my two aunts and

463
00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 8: uncles and, cousins so in, total about twenty five, people

464
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,600
Speaker 8: including myself and my partner with Their after planning the

465
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:43,119
Speaker 8: reveal with my two aunts and kind of, mom she

466
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:46,560
Speaker 8: didn't have time and didn't really want to. HELP i

467
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,159
Speaker 8: get THAT i was the one who wanted to do,

468
00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:51,480
Speaker 8: it so she isn't responsible for the event. Anyway the day,

469
00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:54,919
Speaker 8: comes we have food and a balloon for poppin' and

470
00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,760
Speaker 8: we find out we're having a. Boy he's the cutest human.

471
00:19:57,760 --> 00:19:59,800
Speaker 8: Ever this is Where i'm wondering If i'm the o

472
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,919
Speaker 8: overly sensitive. One my mom all of the sudden bursts

473
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:05,639
Speaker 8: out in tears and. Yells, finally yah, boy nothing of.

474
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,760
Speaker 8: It but my husband and her had talked about how

475
00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,360
Speaker 8: she never wanted girls for years, now so he did

476
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:12,919
Speaker 8: pull her aside and, say.

477
00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:13,720
Speaker 4: Hey let's not say.

478
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 8: That she might be hurt by. That my mother in

479
00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 8: law also told, her, hey it's not your, kid it's your,

480
00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:20,960
Speaker 8: grandkid so let's dial it. BACK i told them both

481
00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,440
Speaker 8: that it wasn't necessary and she's just excited for. Us

482
00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:26,119
Speaker 8: jump To july And i'm in. LABOR i asked my

483
00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:27,679
Speaker 8: mom to be in the room with my husband AND.

484
00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 8: I i think this was a. Mistake she was all

485
00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 8: over the place telling Me i'm breathing, wrong my husband

486
00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:37,240
Speaker 8: isn't supportive, enough and that IF i get an, epidool

487
00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 8: she would be super. UPSET i didn't want an, epidural

488
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,679
Speaker 8: BUT i don't think she needed to say that baby

489
00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 8: is finally here And i'm bleeding pretty. Bad but they

490
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:48,680
Speaker 8: did get it under control pretty. QUICK i was, scared

491
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 8: And i'm trying to hold my newborn as they're trying

492
00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:53,199
Speaker 8: to get the bleeding under, control and my mom is

493
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,639
Speaker 8: on the phone crying about how she finally got her.

494
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,080
Speaker 8: Boy she then argued with my husband that she should

495
00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,680
Speaker 8: get the hold be for anyone. ELSE i don't including,

496
00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,639
Speaker 8: him but she did try to keep taking him from

497
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,280
Speaker 8: my husband while they stabilized. ME i hear my husband

498
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 8: say her name and say your daughter needs you AND

499
00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 8: i need to go over here to help get babies.

500
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,199
Speaker 8: Vidals she came, over asked IF i was, okay and

501
00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 8: then went straight back to arguing with my husband about

502
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 8: getting to hold the. Baby, finally my dad comes in the,

503
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,760
Speaker 8: room as well as my. Sister's my in laws were

504
00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 8: out of town WHEN i went into, labor but drove

505
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:23,880
Speaker 8: all night to be there with us the next day

506
00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 8: to paint the. Scene my dad is holding the baby

507
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:28,439
Speaker 8: and my mom is taking pictures of the baby and posting.

508
00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 8: THEM i asked her not to post until we felt,

509
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:31,120
Speaker 8: ready but that's.

510
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 4: Okay she was very.

511
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:33,879
Speaker 8: Excited she turns to my, dad who she was in

512
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 8: the middle of, leaving and says they finally had their.

513
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 8: Boy my dad hands the baby off to my older

514
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,560
Speaker 8: sister and takes her out of the. ROOM i hear

515
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,560
Speaker 8: them fighting and she comes back in Matt ever since,

516
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:47,159
Speaker 8: then it's been all about how she finally had a.

517
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,520
Speaker 8: Boy and has told me she never wanted, kids but

518
00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:51,959
Speaker 8: she's grateful she did have us, girls because we are

519
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 8: her whole.

520
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 5: World.

521
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 4: Now we found out back.

522
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,199
Speaker 8: In november of twenty twenty four That i'm pregnant with

523
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:59,199
Speaker 8: a little, girl and my mom ghosted me. Again the

524
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 8: only WAY i see is if she's wanting to see her.

525
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 8: BOY i decided to start pulling away from her after

526
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 8: we found OUT i was pregnant with a little, girl

527
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 8: BECAUSE i feel like she doesn't even. Care AM i

528
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 8: the a? Hole and there is an? Updates but what

529
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:13,959
Speaker 8: do you? Think, no go ahead and say, no your

530
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 8: mom does not care about you or your. Children she

531
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 8: just wants the. Boy and that's.

532
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 4: It just wants the.

533
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 6: Boy, weird weird, Fixation, yeah weird to make it multi. Generational,

534
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 6: yeah where it's like like you still can't get away

535
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 6: from you telling ME i shouldn't exist in a way like,

536
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 6: no are you just wished.

537
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 4: OR i wish she didn't? EXIST i wish he was a.

538
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 8: Bad and like the fact of you, know having her

539
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 8: be in the room when you give birth to this,

540
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 8: child which is such a big moment and usually is

541
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 8: this kind of, bonding very big bonding moment between a

542
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 8: mother and you know, child and then for her to

543
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 8: not even care for, you you, know for her to

544
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 8: not even try and comfort, you and she's just.

545
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 4: Like let me tell the. Boy she just cares for the.

546
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 4: Boy but there's an.

547
00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 8: Update SO i have read all of your comments AND

548
00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:02,479
Speaker 8: I i'm so grateful for all of your. Responses they

549
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 8: have helped me cope with the idea that she AND

550
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 8: i might never. CHANGE i did tell her about four

551
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,919
Speaker 8: months ago about the bipolar, diagnosis and she, said this

552
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,719
Speaker 8: is always like. You you always need a. Label everyone

553
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 8: always needs. Labels oh my, GOD i don't want to

554
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 8: think much of that because my mom does come from

555
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 8: the generation where they don't want to talk about.

556
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 9: It.

557
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 8: Anyways On, WEDNESDAY i have an obee appointment for an.

558
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 8: Ultrasound she really wants to, come And i'm going to let.

559
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 8: HER i did tell her about a week ago that

560
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 8: she cannot be in the delivery room this time because

561
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 8: my mother in law only has one child and that

562
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 8: is my, husband AND i just want her to be

563
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 8: there and get to experience that because she has always

564
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 8: wanted to either, WAY i also didn't want another meltdown from. Her.

565
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 8: Again i'm nervous For. Wednesday we're getting an ultrasound to

566
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 8: see if my placentas moved out of the way of

567
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 8: my cervix or If i'm going to need a sea

568
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 8: section IF i get A cea. Section i'm afraid of

569
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 8: what she will, say but i still really want her

570
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 8: to be a, mom and this is her showing interest

571
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,920
Speaker 8: in her, granddaughter So i'm trying to embrace. It i'll

572
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 8: update you all after the. Appointment thank you again for

573
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 8: all your, support and there is a second.

574
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:06,479
Speaker 4: UPDATE i bet it's not gonna be. Great, yeah bething's

575
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 4: going to be.

576
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 6: About how she just cares about the boy tried to

577
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 6: throw me in the.

578
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 8: Trash bethany, SAYS i wouldn't let this woman around my

579
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 8: son or. Daughter she will harm both of their mental,

580
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 8: health especially the. Daughter update. Two this is a long

581
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 8: one And i'm very sorry for. That also trigger warning

582
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 8: possible mental As so in my last, UPDATE i said

583
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:28,119
Speaker 8: my mom would be going to THE obee appointment for the.

584
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 8: Ultrasound she ended up going on a work, trip so

585
00:24:30,640 --> 00:24:33,120
Speaker 8: she wasn't in, attendance but that didn't stop her from

586
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 8: being present quote. UNQUOTE i don't want anyone to think

587
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 8: she is a terrible. Person but after what happened over the,

588
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 8: week my husband is done with. HER i don't want

589
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 8: to go completely no contact with my mom BECAUSE i

590
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,120
Speaker 8: still really want her in my life AND i still

591
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 8: want to try for a relationship with. Her what ended

592
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 8: up happening Was. Wednesday we had the appointment and baby

593
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 8: is doing. Amazing she's growing and. Thriving we got to

594
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 8: get some THREE d photos of her precious. Face we

595
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 8: saw the doc AND i have an AMAZING. Obi but

596
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 8: the closest hospital to us that does labor and delivery

597
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 8: is a little over an hour. Away this is important

598
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,679
Speaker 8: to know due to how far the hospital was the

599
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 8: first TIME i gave, birth and we weren't sure if

600
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 8: we would make it in. Time my ob AND i

601
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 8: agreed induction was the safest and the best course of

602
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 8: action for myself and baby. BOY i know a lot

603
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 8: of people think induction should only be for certain, cases

604
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 8: but for some like myself who live in a very rural,

605
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 8: area hospitals are far and few. Between either, way we

606
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 8: learned that the softening agent that they give you wasn't

607
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 8: needed for my son BECAUSE i was two centimeters dilated

608
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 8: and eighty five percent were. Faced WHEN i got to the,

609
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 8: HOSPITAL i was given a very very small amount of

610
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 8: pytocin and they broke my. Water he was out one hour. Later,

611
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 8: medically each, child, supposedly if all goes, well comes out

612
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 8: roughly thirty five to forty five minutes faster than the,

613
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 8: first but it also depends on the child and the.

614
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 8: Mother due to the fact that my son came out

615
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 8: so extremely quickly after my water, broke it's too much

616
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:55,919
Speaker 8: of a risk for us to allow me to go

617
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 8: into natural labor given how far the hospital is. WELL

618
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,880
Speaker 8: i was seen my doctor AND i requested to be

619
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 8: induced BECAUSE i was afraid of having my child on

620
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 8: the side of a very high speed highway that we

621
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,159
Speaker 8: would have to take to get to this. Hospital he

622
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 8: agreed and said that was the safest option we could.

623
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 8: DO i spoke with my mom On wednesday night after

624
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 8: she called me around ELEVEN, pm and she proceeded to

625
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 8: tell me how she does not like the idea That

626
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 8: i'm being, induced and that it's for women who need

627
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 8: immediate or medical, attention WHICH i do agree, with but

628
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,919
Speaker 8: in certain, cases you're putting not only your, life but

629
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 8: your brand new baby's life at. Risk if you were

630
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 8: trying to deliver on the side of the.

631
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 4: Road why do you?

632
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 8: Care after that, conversation she then proceeded to tell me

633
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 8: that she did not want my mother in law on

634
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 8: the delivery. Realm she would like to be in the room.

635
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 8: INSTEAD i proceeded to tell her that since this is

636
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 8: the last TIME i can be pregnant due to a heart,

637
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 8: CONDITION i would like to be able to share that

638
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 8: moment with my mother in, law who only has one.

639
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 8: Child this is where it gets extremely triggering and what

640
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 8: caused my husband to finally have his last nerve. Hit

641
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 8: due to my anxiety, DISORDER i have a lot of irrational,

642
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 8: fears And i've noticed that my mom does have a

643
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 8: tendency to use them against me when she wants her.

644
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 8: Way one of these fears is. LABOR i have an

645
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 8: uncontrollable fear of passing away in labor and never getting

646
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 8: to hold my. Baby, thankfully my doctor has been so

647
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 8: patient with me and SAYS i have no reason to

648
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 8: worry because even with my heart, Condition i'm extremely. Healthy my,

649
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 8: mother knowing about this, fear went on to WHAT i

650
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 8: feel and what my husband, feels is using it against.

651
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 8: Me in our argument to be in the, Room she

652
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 8: SAID i would like to be in the room because

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Speaker 8: with you being, induced what if there are problems with

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Speaker 8: labor And i'm not? There what would you do if

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Speaker 8: you were.

656
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 4: There you're not a. Doctor you've got no cards to

657
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 4: play in this.

658
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 8: Game for a very long, time up until after my

659
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 8: son was, born and still somewhat, TODAY i have had

660
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,479
Speaker 8: a very unhealthy attachment to my. Mother i'm constantly chasing

661
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 8: her for love and, attention all according to my. Therapist

662
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 8: i'm working on, it. Though she then said, okay bye

663
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 8: and hung. UP i then spent most of the night

664
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 8: crying to my husband about how what if she's, right

665
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,680
Speaker 8: maybe we need to do this because of, this, that

666
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 8: and the. Other he snapped and said it wasn't fair

667
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 8: to me to break my boundary because she this is

668
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 8: my anxiety against. Me you then told me it's not

669
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 8: fair to our. Marriage how she can get away with

670
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 8: sending me into spirals and then shutting me out for

671
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 8: days on end UNTIL i. CAVE i tried reaching out

672
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 8: several times since that, night and she keeps ignoring my.

673
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 8: CALLS i finally got to speak with her, today THOUGH

674
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 8: i didn't bring up how she made me. FEEL i

675
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 8: was just happy to talk to her by the, Way

676
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 8: we're always happy when you guys listen to full episodes

677
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 8: of stories just like. This just go To, Spotify Apple

678
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,520
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00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 4: Storytime but there.

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00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 8: Is a little bit left to the. Story It's Prettey beach,

681
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 8: SAYS i hate this mother so. Much please get, away oh.

682
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 4: Pie, yeah it's just, gone be.

683
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 8: GONE i think you need to go very low contact

684
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 8: or no contact with your mother because it seems like

685
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 8: you were trying to do that and then you let

686
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 8: her back. In no understandably because you, wanted you, know

687
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 8: a connection with your mom when you're going through something

688
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 8: like pregnancy. Cut but she's making you upset and, anxious

689
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 8: so this is not worth. It, no CON i wouldn't

690
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 8: be breaking for her on, this But i'm so scared

691
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 8: she was shut me. Out IF i don't let her

692
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 8: in the, room my mother in LAW i, hate, sir

693
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 8: AND i know it that my mom is in the,

694
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 8: room my mother in law will be, kind but if

695
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 8: my mom says anything that my husband or mother in

696
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 8: law feel is a trigger for, me she might drag

697
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 8: my mom out by the.

698
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 5: Neck what DO i?

699
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 8: Do DO i allow her in the room and risk

700
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 8: my mother in law metaphorically unliving or DO i risk

701
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 8: her shutting me. OUT i think you need to realize

702
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 8: that your mom is guilting you and is using your

703
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 8: desire to have her in your, life and this fear

704
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 8: that she'll leave you against. You she's using it to

705
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 8: her advantage so that she can manipulate you and take

706
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 8: what she.

707
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 5: Wants and that's not.

708
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 8: Okay but that is the end of that.

709
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: Story, John, here we're gonna get back to this juicy,

710
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 1: story but a quick three minute break.

711
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 5: Of ads from our. Sponsors my parents spoiled my little.

712
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 2: Brother Now i'm laughing at the, consequences.

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00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 5: All, right ma and dark twenty. Mail and this happened

714
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 5: WHEN i was.

715
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 2: FOURTEEN i have a brother that's about six years younger than,

716
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 2: me and he was extra coddled by my parents for

717
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 2: having been diagnosed with high functioning autism when he was.

718
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: Four by the, way this comes from holding position for

719
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 2: on the r slash okay story time subread at so

720
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 2: other than, that he seems very, normal just unbelievably. Spoiled

721
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 2: and he is used to getting his way a, lot

722
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 2: and by a, LOT i.

723
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 5: Mean nearly all the.

724
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 2: Time ANYTHING i had he also had to have which

725
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: yours is? Mine, yeah and what's mine is? Yours so

726
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 2: that meant we had doubles of almost everything that wasn't

727
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 2: shared items you, know so far regular sibiling. Stuff my

728
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 2: parents gave my sister everything THAT i.

729
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 4: Had it doesn't sound. Abnormal it does sound.

730
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 2: Abnormal, Yeah and anything he had and THAT i, didn't

731
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 2: he'd rub in my face any way he. Could WHEN

732
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 2: i was, ELEVEN i begged my parents for a THREE

733
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 2: ds for my twelfth. BIRTHDAY i got, one but then

734
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,719
Speaker 2: was told to lend it to my brother whenever he wanted,

735
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 2: it or Else i'd have it taken, away which it

736
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 2: was a.

737
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 4: Lot it sounds like the parents are not setting you up.

738
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 2: For, success like there's no boundaries. Here, also it's, like

739
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 2: IF i give you this, phone it's my phone for.

740
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 2: ME i can take it ANYTIME i, want and you

741
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: have to give it to. Me What i've basically just

742
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 2: made you is a phone. Holder, YES i require my phone.

743
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 4: To, code oh, okay and THEN i Guess i'll give

744
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 4: it back to.

745
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 2: You but it's your, phone, Right BUT i can have

746
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: it WHENEVER i, want AND i. CAN'T i got one

747
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: who's told To lendon to my, brother which was a.

748
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 2: Lot when my aunt found out after seeing my parents

749
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 2: forcibly take my THREE ds out of my hands to

750
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 2: give it to my brother on one of their, visits

751
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: she let loose on them for such blatant. Favoritism they

752
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 2: returned my THREE ds immediately then blame me for the

753
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 2: situation after my aunt.

754
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 6: Left that's, hilarious being, like, well if you would have

755
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 6: worked hard enough to buy another three, ds this is

756
00:31:58,200 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 6: would have.

757
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: Happened or if you maybe hid this from your, aunt

758
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 2: then she wouldn't have reprimanded, us and it would have

759
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 2: been fine.

760
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,719
Speaker 6: If you know, that like the brother is always going

761
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 6: to want whatever the other brother, has only get them

762
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 6: gifts in sense of Two like that's to that would prevent, this.

763
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 5: But then that is more.

764
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 2: Expensive, well they returned my THREE ds, immediately but then

765
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 2: blamed me for the situation after my aunt. Left but

766
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: they didn't make me give it to my brother. Again,

767
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 2: okay so the parents learned the. Lesson, instead my parents

768
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 2: went out a few days later and bought another THREE

769
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 2: ds as a surprise gift for my.

770
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 4: Brother, okay they're, learning.

771
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 2: But it's a surprise. Gift so like op only gets

772
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 2: a THREE ds on his. Birthday but then this little

773
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 2: brother gets it whenever he.

774
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 4: Wants, well he knows he knows how to play the.

775
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 5: Game that is a playing.

776
00:32:56,160 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 2: Game on several of mine and other people, todays my

777
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: brother made a huge fuss because the party wasn't all about,

778
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 2: him even going so far as to outright state that

779
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 2: he was upset because he wasn't getting any gifts or

780
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 2: getting to blow out the candles on the. Cake my

781
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 2: parents learned the hard way that they couldn't enable my

782
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 2: brother the way they'd have liked at those, parties and

783
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 2: were actually.

784
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 5: Kicked out of a few for drying.

785
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: And because of, that other kids at his school stopped

786
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 2: inviting him to birthday parties. Altogether for, me my birthdays

787
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 2: were some of the only DAYS i had THAT i

788
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 2: got to have about, me because otherwise my parents forced

789
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 2: my life to revolve around my little. Brother and the

790
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 2: year prior to when this story took, place my parents

791
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 2: ended up paying more attention to him the entire time

792
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 2: of my thirteenth birthday and even asked me If i'd

793
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:54,479
Speaker 2: let my brother blow out my candles for me because

794
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 2: he was upset and.

795
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 6: Pouting he would start causing like a, commotion a, ruckus

796
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 6: and then the parent's solution is just give him what

797
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 6: he wants to make it.

798
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 4: Stop and it's, like that's not.

799
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 6: Parenting and if you do that over and over and

800
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 6: over again for, years you've now Created. OH i know

801
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 6: that IF i just get you, know, uppity and demand,

802
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 6: SOMETHING i always get.

803
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 5: It BUT i refuse.

804
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 2: That BECAUSE i wanted to blow out my own, candles

805
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 2: WHICH i is, okay that was completely. Okay they called

806
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 2: me a spoiled brat at, first till my aunt intervened

807
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 2: and chastised them on their favoritism yet again and stated

808
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: how much she had noticed how much my brother gets

809
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 2: nearly everything between the two of us just because he's.

810
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 2: Autistic my parents got no support from anyone else there

811
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 2: other than my, brother who was still crying because he

812
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 2: wasn't getting to blow out my.

813
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 6: Candles by not addressing this, too the parents are making

814
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 6: the op feel like it's his.

815
00:34:56,560 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 2: Fault, also Jenks angel, says W, Aunt, yeah the aunt

816
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: is massively THE, mvp and because he didn't get his,

817
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 2: way he tried outright spit on my cake out of,

818
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 2: spite but my awesome aunt thankfully blocked him before he

819
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:15,880
Speaker 2: got the, chance then scolded him till he ran to

820
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 2: my mom in. Tears my parents took a lot of

821
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 2: heat from the other adults here and then promised to

822
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 2: never ask me to let.

823
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 5: My brother blow out my candles. Again that's a low.

824
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 5: Bar it's like the lowest bar.

825
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 6: Possible we promise we won't have your brother blow out

826
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 6: your birthday. Candles it's, like well the issue runs a little, deeper.

827
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: Then you will take all of your birthday presents St,

828
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 2: yes he will be, said just went through the motions

829
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,919
Speaker 2: for the rest of the. Party my aunt pretty much

830
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 2: took over coordinating everything from that point and the following.

831
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: YEAR a couple of weeks before my, birthday my parents

832
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 2: sat me down and told me they were still gonna

833
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 2: get me some gifts and a small, cake but my

834
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 2: birthday party was effectively canceled to avoid my brother having another.

835
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 2: Meltdown yeah read never split the.

836
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 5: Difference in, PARTICULAR.

837
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 2: I told THEM i couldn't believe they were doing this to,

838
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 2: me and they just seemed to shrug it off without a.

839
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 2: Care so at school over the next, WEEK i told my,

840
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 2: friends my, teachers and even my school. Counselor all of

841
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: them were. Appalled by my parents' lack of consideration or.

842
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 2: Empathy the vice principal even found out and consoled, me

843
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,399
Speaker 2: and all of this got back to.

844
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 5: My parents through social. Media my parents.

845
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:37,399
Speaker 2: Ended up grounding and gaslighting me for telling so many,

846
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 2: people but that didn't stop me from still telling everyone

847
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,760
Speaker 2: at school THAT i was grounded for just being upset

848
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 2: my birthday was canceled for no good. REASON i guess

849
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 2: that made it a lot worse because several of my

850
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 2: parents own, friends along with parents to other kids in my,

851
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: school called them up or sent Them facebook messages basically

852
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 2: saying what the heck is wrong with? You and SUDDENLY

853
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,720
Speaker 2: i was. Ungrounded op is now now learning their own covert.

854
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 2: Ways if you mess with my, BIRTHDAY i will tell

855
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 2: the whole school and they will come with their pitchforks

856
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 2: at Your FACEBOOK dm.

857
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 4: Just a little social.

858
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 5: ENGINEERING i didn't get an apology.

859
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 2: Either my dad just walked into my room his arms,

860
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 2: crossed told me my grounding was over, early and then walked.

861
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 5: Out that was.

862
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 2: IT i thought my party was still canceled because nobody

863
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 2: said anything about, it and my brother thought it was

864
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 2: hilarious and rubbed it in my face THAT i wasn't

865
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 2: going to get to. Celebrate but by the end of

866
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: the two, weeks my parents held a surprise party for

867
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: me at my favorite. Restaurant that's a good.

868
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:47,359
Speaker 5: One that is. Great that's.

869
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:48,479
Speaker 4: Good that is a good.

870
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 6: Compromise, HOWEVER i do think that the reveling in your

871
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 6: lack of birthday celebration needs to be reported to the,

872
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 6: authorities your brother.

873
00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 4: Being, like, hey your birthday doesn't exist.

874
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:03,320
Speaker 2: Anymore, like by the end of the two, weeks held

875
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 2: a surprise party for me my favorite, restaurant and then

876
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:10,400
Speaker 2: started claiming that was their intent all. ALONG i knew it.

877
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 2: Was it's from What i'd. Seen everyone was incredibly unhappy

878
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: with them for what they, did and it showed with

879
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: any interactions family member had with my. Parents so, like

880
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 2: the whole town is going against.

881
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 4: Them, yeah as they.

882
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 2: Should so they ended up doing the surprise party to

883
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 2: try and save that little of their.

884
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 6: Reputations, yeah it's censoring that because it's a bad word In.

885
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 5: Spanish threw the nose that.

886
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: Day just to accommodate, ME i got dinner with all

887
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 2: my friends and my favorite restaurant and that had a small,

888
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 2: arcade and even got A ps four game. System i'd

889
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 2: been jonesing for at the. Time who says. JONESING i

890
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 2: could tell it was all pretty much planned and bought last,

891
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 2: minute because my dad had a look about him that

892
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: my aunt comically described as looking like a moth had

893
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 2: flown out of his. Wallets my, brother of, course made

894
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 2: a huge fuss THAT i got that surprise, party but

895
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,879
Speaker 2: with so many of my friends and their parents, there

896
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 2: my mom and dad finally put their feet down on

897
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 2: my brother to stop his tantrum when he wanted to

898
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 2: push my cake off the. Table my brother ended up

899
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 2: getting a time out from the first time since he

900
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: was a, toddler and my mom had to stay with

901
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 2: him to make sure he didn't do anything, crazy and

902
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,880
Speaker 2: he did try several times to run the cake or

903
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 2: stack of. Presents who knows what he would have done

904
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 2: were it not for the fact at least one adult

905
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 2: was always on. Guard even my dad stood guard to

906
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,720
Speaker 2: keep him. Away my mom ended up having to remove

907
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 2: my brother and herself from the party entirely and took

908
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 2: my little bro to McDonald's nearby so he could have

909
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 2: fun in their play, area AND i heard later she

910
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 2: spent at least an hour trying to get him to

911
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,279
Speaker 2: come out of the play a place tube, structure and

912
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 2: he only did so because he had to use the,

913
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 2: bathroom then tried to run right back in. Again my

914
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 2: parents never tried to cancel my birthday again WHILE i

915
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:07,280
Speaker 2: lived with, them though they never again tried as hard

916
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 2: or spent as. Much for the remaining four YEARS i

917
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 2: was under their, roof my birthday parties consisted of a

918
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 2: local pizza, parlor a cake without even my name written on,

919
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:21,720
Speaker 2: it and never again anything as expensive as a new gaming.

920
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 2: SYSTEM i don't mean to sound, spoiled BUT i was

921
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 2: a bit. DISAPPOINTED i never got a cake with my

922
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 2: name on it. Again my aunt called my parents out

923
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 2: on that each, year and each year they claimed they

924
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 2: forgot to get the cake. Decorated i'm pretty sure that

925
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 2: the reason my name was never written on another cake

926
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 2: was because my brother always refused to eat pieces of

927
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 2: cake that had a writing of someone else's name on

928
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 2: it at a, party and they couldn't put his name

929
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 2: on any of my cakes or it would have looked

930
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,720
Speaker 2: very bad for. Them but the fact THAT i still

931
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:56,040
Speaker 2: got a day that was just about me at, all

932
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:59,280
Speaker 2: was not my brother and not my, brother was still

933
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 2: fantastic in my, book especially because just about everything else

934
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 2: revolved around.

935
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 6: Him cannot believe how fully the parents have enabled every.

936
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 2: Bad behavior eventually because just about everything else have all around.

937
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 2: Him during each of my remaining birthday, parties my brother

938
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 2: still made a fuss and my mom took him somewhere

939
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 2: else to calm him. DOWN i was still required to

940
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 2: share MY ps four with my, brother but it was

941
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 2: still mine AND i took it with me WHEN i

942
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 2: moved out Eighteen THE ps Four little bro did not

943
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 2: like that and had a huge fit till my parents

944
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 2: went out and bought ANOTHER ps four for. Him by the,

945
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:40,439
Speaker 2: way you can listen and get a little present from

946
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 2: us every day by listen to full episodes of this

947
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 2: podcast on the podcast Platform, Spotify Apple, podcasts or wherever

948
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 2: you listen to.

949
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 5: Podcasts you know what's great about, That, Dakota.

950
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 4: It's That oh you gotta, Searches, okay, Storytime that's why it's.

951
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 5: So, great op.

952
00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 2: Says WHEN i moved, out they finally had to deal

953
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 2: with HOW i would they raise my brother so spoiled

954
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 2: BECAUSE i wasn't there to help them with him. Anymore

955
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 2: on his recent fourteenth, birthday he went mental on our

956
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 2: parents for not getting him A ps. Five he's now

957
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 2: currently grounded FOR i don't know how long after causing

958
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: hundreds or maybe even thousands in collateral damage during his.

959
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 2: Rampage he picked up a chair and just started destroying

960
00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 2: anything that was in front of him with, it and

961
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: my parents just looked mentally checked out WHEN i saw them.

962
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 2: Last my aunt has also told me they confided in

963
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,840
Speaker 2: her that they wished they could send my brother to

964
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 2: military or boarding school in the future because they can't

965
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 2: handle the monster they've created. Anymore but there's no way

966
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,919
Speaker 2: they can afford. That i'd be lying IF i SAID

967
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,720
Speaker 2: i didn't find it ironically. Funny and that is where

968
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 2: that story and that's crazy because you, know you think

969
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 2: you're like creating this, cute little cute little kid that

970
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,399
Speaker 2: just gets what they, want and they're, LIKE i don't

971
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:01,839
Speaker 2: know they.

972
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 9: Thought they, would like, you you know what they were

973
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 9: doing it. Was they were just, like we're not going

974
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 9: to deal with any. Problems we'll just keep swiping it

975
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 9: under the. Rug if we just keep you, know keep them.

976
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:14,919
Speaker 9: Happy that's it in when it you, know it's it's

977
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 9: filled up under the rug and it's piling out and

978
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 9: now look what you've.

979
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 4: Made you made a.

980
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 6: Mess my husband spoke sternly towards my, sister AND i

981
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 6: actually agreed with his.

982
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 4: Decision agreed to. Disagree ooh like that? One OH i

983
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 4: DO i like. That compare and, contrast let's. Hear let's

984
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:34,239
Speaker 4: go so.

985
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 6: Context my younger sister AND i did not grow up.

986
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 6: Together we have the same biological, mom but she was

987
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,399
Speaker 6: put up for adoption as a baby and we are

988
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 6: nine years. APART i found her On facebook and tried

989
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 6: to be a big sister to, her but MAYBE i.

990
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 6: FAILED i don't have any other younger. Siblings and by the,

991
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 6: way this comes from a deleted user on the r

992
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 6: Slash okay story time Sub. Right, so my younger Sister

993
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 6: i've only had a relationship with for six years just

994
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 6: had a baby last.

995
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 4: Year she doesn't know who the father, is but it's

996
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 4: between two, guys one of which she actually, likes And

997
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 4: i've told her that he doesn't like, her.

998
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 2: So she told him about a few weeks into her

999
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 2: pregnancy that he could possibly be the. Father he then

1000
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:24,360
Speaker 2: proceeded to ghost her and block her on all social.

1001
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 2: Media hit the fact that he had a four year

1002
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 2: old child with another woman that he was trying to

1003
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 2: get back, with which she found on social, media and

1004
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 2: anytime she tried to contact him on social, media he

1005
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 2: continually blocked her every single. Time so anyone would reasonably

1006
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,919
Speaker 2: assume this man did not like her and wanted nothing

1007
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:46,879
Speaker 2: to do with, her and yet she wanted to make

1008
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 2: excuses for. Him it's the same, old tired story of

1009
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 2: a well meaning young woman being taken advantage of but

1010
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 2: thinking she can change a.

1011
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 5: Man but a loser is a.

1012
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: Loser AND i told her, much AND i suggested that

1013
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 2: she focus rather on a paternity test when the baby is,

1014
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 2: born not so much to prove to, him since he's not,

1015
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 2: interested AND i had no confidence that he would step

1016
00:45:12,080 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: up even the baby was.

1017
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 5: His but for the.

1018
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 6: Baby, Sick think of the, Children think of the, child

1019
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 6: must think of the.

1020
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 2: CHILD i personally know what it's like to live most

1021
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:29,280
Speaker 2: of your life not knowing exactly who your biological father.

1022
00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 2: IS i found mine by, accident after thirty, years WHEN

1023
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 2: i wasn't even. Looking you, Know that's kind of how

1024
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 2: it always. Is you find love when you least expect,

1025
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 2: it at least. Expected sometimes romantic. Love sometimes it's fatherly.

1026
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 2: Love thank you twenty three and me and he didn't

1027
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 2: even know, existed but that's a different. STORY i even

1028
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 2: offered to pay for the paternity, test the legal version

1029
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 2: that you can use in, court not the cheaper option at,

1030
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 2: home because she quit her job when she was eight months.

1031
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 2: Pregnant she was living in her adopted mom's, house and

1032
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:05,800
Speaker 2: she had absolutely no plans to go back to school

1033
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 2: or seek gainful employment outside of working in a fast

1034
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 2: food to move out and raise your. Baby her adopted

1035
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 2: mother is elderly and sickly, too so she's not a

1036
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 2: long term option at, all And connecticut is very. EXPENSIVE

1037
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: i was. WORRIED i expressed that, worry and she took

1038
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 2: the offer, initially but later. DECLINED i think she realized

1039
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 2: that going to court an establishing paternity would either crush

1040
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 2: her if the baby isn't, his or put her in

1041
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 2: a situation where she doesn't have the final say about

1042
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: the baby if he decides to get involved but not

1043
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 2: want to be with.

1044
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,839
Speaker 6: Her you know, What this might be a hot, take

1045
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 6: but at the end of the, DAY i think like,

1046
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 6: whichever regardless of who the biological father is in this,

1047
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 6: situation because it's like a coin flip whichever one is

1048
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 6: the better, partner make that one the.

1049
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 2: Dad it might have been too real for, her and she.

1050
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 2: Ran she said she didn't think it was best for her,

1051
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 2: baby AND i don't understand, it but that's her, baby

1052
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 2: AND i, do AND i had to respect her. Decision

1053
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 2: she gave birth early last, year a, beautiful healthy, baby

1054
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 2: AND i fly across the country to come and see

1055
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:15,359
Speaker 2: her and meet the new family. Member she was about

1056
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 2: two weeks postpartum at the, time and she was itching

1057
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 2: to spend five hundred dollars to go to a concert

1058
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:23,800
Speaker 2: in the next week or. TWO i said nothing about.

1059
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:26,959
Speaker 2: That i've never given, birth SO i don't know what

1060
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 2: is or isn't appropriate when your. POSTPARTUM i was just

1061
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 2: happy that her and the baby were doing, well AND

1062
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:37,760
Speaker 2: i hope she had. Fun SO i flew. Home now

1063
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 2: here's where things turned. Left but before, that the second

1064
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 2: beece of constext is, needed AND i, PROMISE i.

1065
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:46,720
Speaker 5: Promise.

1066
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 2: So second, context my husband and my sister in law

1067
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:53,800
Speaker 2: are eleven years, apart him older and she's early, twenties

1068
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 2: and he practically parented. Her single mom had to, work

1069
00:47:57,160 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 2: pre teen left alone to babysit most. Nights we babied this.

1070
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 2: Girl she was a princess that wanted for. Nothing we

1071
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:10,240
Speaker 2: supported her financially through, college helped pay her, rent even

1072
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 2: co signed on her lease for her first. Apartment, then

1073
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,360
Speaker 2: after she moved in with us for a short, while

1074
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 2: trying to move closer to the, city she turned around

1075
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:21,759
Speaker 2: and got knocked up by a young man who was

1076
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 2: CouchSurfing and whose first name she didn't even. Know when

1077
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 2: we found out and tried to find out who this

1078
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 2: young man was and try to see who his family, was.

1079
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 2: Etc she had the nerve to feel offended that her

1080
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: family dared to ask reasonable questions so we can help

1081
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 2: her hold that man. Accountable she kept the. Baby that

1082
00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 2: was her, choice and we had no opinion about. That her,

1083
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:47,760
Speaker 2: body her choice and all. That we never even discussed.

1084
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 2: It but to say my husband was livid with her

1085
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 2: would be an. Understatement we also found out that she

1086
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 2: was lying to us and to my mother in law

1087
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 2: and manipulating both sides to give her money for the

1088
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 2: same thing without the other knowing so she can pocket.

1089
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 2: It so also to be, clear this is a story

1090
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 2: within the. Story this is context. Story this is like

1091
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 2: a bubble inside of a. Bubble, also use my credit

1092
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,839
Speaker 2: card without. Permission it was a. Mess my husband called

1093
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 2: her everything but a child Of, god told her that

1094
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 2: she better not ask us or her mom for. Anything

1095
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 2: we're not, babysitting we're not buying a, diaper and she

1096
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 2: better go find that loser and figure things out if

1097
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 2: she wants to treat us like dirt beneath her feet for.

1098
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 2: Caring and that was that context. Over so now we're

1099
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 2: getting back into the real. Story that's the context.

1100
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 4: Story the interior bubble has.

1101
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 2: Popped the interior bubble has. Popped we're In we're in

1102
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: main storycare on main. Bubble SO i fly home after

1103
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 2: visiting my sister and the new, baby and my husband

1104
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 2: asked me how she's, doing AND i tell him she's doing.

1105
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,359
Speaker 2: Great the baby's, fine, healthy and she's even going to

1106
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 2: go to a concert soon to see a FAMOUS r

1107
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 2: AND b, singer expensive. Tickets so everything was. Good she

1108
00:49:57,960 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 2: was in good spirits and we were both happy for.

1109
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:03,000
Speaker 2: HER i had known about the paternity question since she

1110
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,920
Speaker 2: was a couple weeks, pregnant BUT i did not tell,

1111
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 2: anyone not even my. HUSBAND i decided to let it

1112
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 2: play out how it, does and we'd figure it.

1113
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 5: Out when the baby, came so.

1114
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 2: Again this is, like this is Ohp he basically saying,

1115
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 2: like we don't know who the father. Is it could

1116
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 2: be one or one guy or the. Other we're he's

1117
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:26,240
Speaker 2: gonna let it play. Out i'm not gonna put pressure.

1118
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 6: Anyway, well there should be some pressure to figure out

1119
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,600
Speaker 6: who the actual father of your child. Is but then

1120
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 6: at the same, TIME i don't think if the actual

1121
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:38,880
Speaker 6: father is garbage that you necessarily need to like just

1122
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 6: because it's, like, oh, well that's what makes. Sense it's

1123
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 6: like if he's already being Like i'm gonna block you

1124
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 6: on every platform multiple times And i'm gonna ghost you

1125
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 6: AND i don't want anything to do with, you then

1126
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 6: that guy doesn't want anything to do with his child,

1127
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 6: Either so he doesn't deserve to be with his.

1128
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 2: Child but when my husband asked me how the baby's

1129
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 2: father feels now that he has a new, BABY i

1130
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 2: told HIM i haven't met him. Yet but then a

1131
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 2: few days, later maybe it was a, week she texted

1132
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 2: me and asked me for. Money didn't say what it was,

1133
00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:10,799
Speaker 2: for but she asked for about one hundred. DOLLARS i

1134
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,799
Speaker 2: was actually taking a nap at the, time and my

1135
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 2: husband grabbed my phone to get one of those six

1136
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 2: digit off codes for one of her. Accounts when her

1137
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 2: text came, through he was confused as to why she

1138
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 2: was asking me for money WHEN i just told him

1139
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:26,440
Speaker 2: that she was buying expensive tickets to a, concert and

1140
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 2: he scrolled up to see THAT i had sent Her

1141
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 2: apple pay money several times before with little context or,

1142
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 2: conversation and he was concerned given that given what recently

1143
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 2: happened with my sister in, law because she was taking

1144
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 2: money before that she was only reaching out to me

1145
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 2: whenever she needed, money and in, HINDSIGHT i was the

1146
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 2: one always reaching out to her to genuinely catch, up

1147
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 2: and she, did in, fact primarily reach out only when

1148
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:53,360
Speaker 2: she wanted, something which is a whack. Behavior so he

1149
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 2: woke me up and asked me about, it asked me

1150
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 2: where her man was and WHY i was spending so

1151
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:00,759
Speaker 2: much money on. Her SO i told him about her

1152
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 2: being spotty with employment at the paternity, issue that there

1153
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 2: was no man, around THAT i was worried about her

1154
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 2: and the baby's, future and he just wasn't having any of.

1155
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 2: It so he texted her from my. PHONE i don't

1156
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 2: know if that's a, move he doesn't have her number

1157
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 2: and has never called or text her to her. Before

1158
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 2: they've met only a few, times and told her something

1159
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:22,759
Speaker 2: along the lines of this stops. Now don't ask my

1160
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 2: wife for. Money if you need, money go get a,

1161
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 2: job or go find your baby daddy ask that expletive for.

1162
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:32,800
Speaker 2: Money it's always stupid girls like you who make stupid

1163
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 2: choices and expect everyone else around you to clean up your.

1164
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:39,920
Speaker 2: Crap he then handed me the phone and that was

1165
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 2: the end of. It how do you feel about like

1166
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 2: the husband kind of taking control like.

1167
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 4: THIS i think that could have been a little not as.

1168
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:50,840
Speaker 2: MEAN i don't know about him just taking it from

1169
00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:53,839
Speaker 2: ope like that feels kind of, Yeah teachero, says that's

1170
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 2: definitely not his.

1171
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:57,799
Speaker 5: PLACE i kind of. Agree that feels like out of, pocket.

1172
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 4: You're making things, Worse you're actively making things.

1173
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 2: Harder he then handed me the, phone and that was

1174
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 2: the end of. It she, replied pretty much just cussing him.

1175
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 2: Out but he wasn't interested in reading anything she. Said

1176
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:09,879
Speaker 2: after he handed me the, phone he.

1177
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 5: Said what he.

1178
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 2: SAID i tried to call, her but you wouldn't pick.

1179
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:15,239
Speaker 2: Up but WHEN i talked to her about it on the,

1180
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 2: phone the next, day she sent me a long text

1181
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:18,960
Speaker 2: message AND i wasn't about to sit through all. THAT

1182
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,360
Speaker 2: i explained to her THAT i didn't agree with the

1183
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 2: way he said, it BUT i did agree with him

1184
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: that she did make stupid choices which led to a

1185
00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:29,320
Speaker 2: situation that she was, in and he lash out mostly

1186
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 2: because of what happened with my sister in, law but

1187
00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 2: he really did. CARE i also told her THAT i

1188
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 2: wasn't going to send the. Money she told me THAT

1189
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 2: i should check my husband because he was, disrespectful AND

1190
00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 2: i ADMIT i was a little snippy in, response and

1191
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 2: maybe it's because we're a bit, older BUT i told

1192
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 2: her that we don't check people in our. Household we are.

1193
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 2: Adults if we have a, disagreement we talk about, it

1194
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 2: or you JUST i, guess steal each other's phone and then,

1195
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 2: yell not contextually.

1196
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 6: Understanding that's what she's saying is when having a conversation

1197
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 6: with somebody that is checking. THEM i really don't like

1198
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 6: that the husband took the, phone, ranted got, nasty and

1199
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 6: then when she, responded he, SAID i don't even want

1200
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:12,399
Speaker 6: to read. It it's like then you you weren't even

1201
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,319
Speaker 6: trying to have a. Conversation you just wanted to yell at. Her,

1202
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 6: yeah and it's, like if you actually cared and wanted

1203
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 6: to have a, discussion that's one.

1204
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 4: Thing now you just wanted to be. Mean you just

1205
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 4: wanted TO i don't.

1206
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 2: KNOW i told her THAT i wasn't going to get

1207
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 2: in the middle of. IT i offered to give her

1208
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 2: his number if she wanted to talk about talk to

1209
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 2: him about, it but she. DECLINED i think she was

1210
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 2: mad BECAUSE i didn't agree to cuss my husband out

1211
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:36,920
Speaker 2: ghetto style on her. Behalf but that's just not something we. Do,

1212
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 2: ALSO i agreed with them. Both he didn't have to

1213
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 2: call her, stupid but he was right. Too he really

1214
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:45,600
Speaker 2: needed to start making, plans real, plans and try to

1215
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 2: help herself before making or asking for to. Support you,

1216
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 2: know learn how to fish instead of always asking for

1217
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 2: one and all. That by the, way you could learn

1218
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:58,839
Speaker 2: fish for new episodes of this podcast by looking us

1219
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 2: up wherever you get your, Podcasts Apple, Podcasts. Spotify you

1220
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 2: can listen to us in your ear holes while you,

1221
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:08,360
Speaker 2: clean while you, drive while you.

1222
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 5: Work even you, know it's just it's just.

1223
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 2: Consistent you can have our voices, Everywhere so go check

1224
00:55:14,640 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 2: out our podcast wherever you listen to your, Podcast, okay.

1225
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 2: Storytime SO i thought we squashed that whole thing WHEN

1226
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:21,760
Speaker 2: i went back TO ct because a family member passed.

1227
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:24,319
Speaker 2: Away she even showed up the, funeral SO i thought

1228
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 2: it was all behind. HER i apologized to her BECAUSE

1229
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 2: i felt LIKE i wasn't the version of a big

1230
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 2: sister she probably had, imagined AND i always felt like

1231
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:33,799
Speaker 2: it was always letting her down in some. Way we,

1232
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:37,360
Speaker 2: hugged we, cried we said her, goodbyes and then she ghosted.

1233
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 2: ME i kept reaching, out calling to send out a

1234
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 2: search party because she just utterly ghosted me. Before then

1235
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,280
Speaker 2: today she sends a text out of the blue saying

1236
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 2: she was done with this side of the. Family we're

1237
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,279
Speaker 2: not close and never will, be and she didn't want

1238
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 2: to have anything to do with her sister quote unquote

1239
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:55,920
Speaker 2: whose husband doesn't respect, her and not.

1240
00:55:55,960 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 5: To contact her.

1241
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 2: Again ALL i could do was tell her THAT i

1242
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 2: would respect her, choice even if it ripped my heart

1243
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 2: out reading. It THEN i cried for about an hour

1244
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:06,359
Speaker 2: BECAUSE i just feel LIKE i lost my baby sister.

1245
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 5: Forever WAS i?

1246
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 2: Wrong SHOULD i have taken her side instead of being

1247
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 2: honest and staying out of. It AM i the a.

1248
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,239
Speaker 2: HOLE i feel like the misstep was your husband taking your?

1249
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 2: Phone LIKE i feel like, that like, you maybe you

1250
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 2: got to, involve BUT i feel, like, really what did

1251
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,440
Speaker 2: it in was husband taking the?

1252
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 5: Phone for?

1253
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 4: Sure, yeah just just made everything.

1254
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 6: Worse classic husband move steps in and Says i'll handle

1255
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 6: this makes everything, worse.

1256
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:37,319
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00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:39,880
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Speaker 4: Show i'm taking my adopted daughter, overseas no matter how

1260
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 4: hard my sister and parents.

1261
00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:50,399
Speaker 5: Object is that an?

1262
00:56:50,440 --> 00:56:53,760
Speaker 4: Abduction maybe let's find.

1263
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 5: Out let's.

1264
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 6: See my younger sister went through a pretty rough time

1265
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:03,479
Speaker 6: as a young, adult drinking and doing substances and generally being.

1266
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 6: Wild she ended up getting pregnant in and giving birth

1267
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 6: at age, eighteen WHEN i was just a few weeks

1268
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:11,600
Speaker 6: away from turning twenty. One she did not want the

1269
00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 6: child after giving, birth and she refused to even pick

1270
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:16,439
Speaker 6: up the child and would leave.

1271
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 4: Her sitting in dirty.

1272
00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 6: Nappies, ooh by the, way this comes from user lollipop

1273
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 6: trash four on the r Slash okay storytime. Subreddit despite

1274
00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:28,520
Speaker 6: never wanting children myself, EITHER i stepped in and adopted

1275
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 6: my newborn niece as my. Daughter my then, boyfriend Who

1276
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 6: i'd been with for three, years gave me an, ultimatum

1277
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 6: him or, her as he didn't want children. EITHER i

1278
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 6: picked her and he left, me which resulted in me

1279
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 6: suddenly being a single. Mother the first few years were

1280
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 6: rough as a single, parent barely making ends, meet BUT

1281
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:51,320
Speaker 6: i managed and my sister had nothing to do with.

1282
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 6: US i never once hid the truth from my daughter

1283
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 6: that she was, adopted but always assured HER i loved

1284
00:57:57,600 --> 00:58:01,600
Speaker 6: her so much and was her. Mommy when my daughter was,

1285
00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 6: six my sister was finally clean and wanted to.

1286
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 4: Have access to. HER i allowed, it but stressed she

1287
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 4: would just be an aunt to, her and she accepted,

1288
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:14,640
Speaker 4: this though it's clear she struggled with the concept and

1289
00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 4: sometimes acted more like a.

1290
00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 10: MOTHER i, mean that would be really hard to put

1291
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:21,480
Speaker 10: up a line, suddenly you, know or not, suddenly but

1292
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 10: like to know that you're the mother and not act

1293
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 10: like a mother would be.

1294
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:28,919
Speaker 6: Hard it's a hard thing to be like you lost mom.

1295
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 6: Permissions it's, like But i'm still the. Mom you, know

1296
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:36,240
Speaker 6: if she's making, actively if she's actively taking steps to better.

1297
00:58:36,280 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 4: HERSELF i don't see why she shouldn't be able.

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00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 5: To BUT i do think you need to tell the

1299
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 5: truth about the situation at some.

1300
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:46,520
Speaker 6: Point but, well, no they already, know the kid, knows

1301
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 6: the child is aware that they are. Adopted let's. CONTINUE

1302
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 6: i don't think we've got enough information to know that for.

1303
00:58:52,360 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 6: Certain Net, now my daughter is eight And i've been

1304
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 6: offered a job in a different. Country the pay is

1305
00:58:58,040 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 6: almost double my current, salary and the company is helping

1306
00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 6: us find a, home putting my daughter in an international

1307
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:04,960
Speaker 6: school and after school.

1308
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 4: Care so of Course i'm going to take.

1309
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 6: It but this resulted in my family having a meltdown

1310
00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 6: about HOW i can't do, this and how it's cruel

1311
00:59:13,120 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 6: to take my daughter away from her, family and how

1312
00:59:15,520 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 6: it's not fair to my. Sister my sister has told

1313
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 6: me that she won't allow me to move away with

1314
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 6: her and that she'll fight in court to get my daughter.

1315
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 6: Back i've talked to lawyers and it seems that she

1316
00:59:25,960 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 6: doesn't have a leg to stand, on as my daughter

1317
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:29,440
Speaker 6: is legally my.

1318
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:30,760
Speaker 4: Daughter but the.

1319
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 6: Rest of my family is telling Me i'm being extremely

1320
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:36,520
Speaker 6: cruel and IF i cared about my, Sister i'd turn

1321
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 6: this job down so really. QUICK i just would, say

1322
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:45,360
Speaker 6: from my, perspective the only people's whose opinions truly matter

1323
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:49,479
Speaker 6: here are the, kids And Op's op's taking this job

1324
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:53,760
Speaker 6: to better her kid's. Life it's not easy to travel,

1325
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:54,919
Speaker 6: internationally but at.

1326
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 4: The same, time it's not.

1327
00:59:55,920 --> 01:00:02,040
Speaker 6: IMPOSSIBLE i left home at sixteen and finished my. Education my, sister,

1328
01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 6: meanwhile is the golden child who gets away with. Everything

1329
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 6: she even now lives with our parents and doesn't. Work my,

1330
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,200
Speaker 6: daughter while sad to be leaving her school and, friends

1331
01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 6: is excited for the. Move i've been teaching her about

1332
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 6: the country every night before, bed and we've gone to

1333
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 6: some authentic restaurants to try the food from. There i've

1334
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 6: also promised her we'll fly back at least once a

1335
01:00:26,680 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 6: year to, visit and she can FaceTime and call her

1336
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:33,240
Speaker 6: friends whenever she. WANTS i feel like my family are

1337
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 6: angling for me to eventually just hand my daughter back,

1338
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 6: over as IF i was just a temporary filler for my,

1339
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 6: sister which will obviously never, happen.

1340
01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 4: And my lawyers are involved in this.

1341
01:00:46,080 --> 01:00:50,880
Speaker 6: Matter, yeah the absolute disrespect to be, like, oh, yeah

1342
01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 6: you're just the, filler Arc you're just the filler. Parent,

1343
01:00:56,400 --> 01:01:00,800
Speaker 6: no you you're that's my, daughter now daughter you're talking.

1344
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 6: About we got some comments comment number. One you stepped

1345
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 6: up when none of the family. DID i assume they

1346
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 6: all knew your sister was neglecting her daughter and did

1347
01:01:09,400 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 6: nothing to help the baby or help you support her after.

1348
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:17,160
Speaker 6: Adoption they don't deserve, anything especially now it was best

1349
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:20,440
Speaker 6: for you and your. Daughter the sister has zero legal

1350
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,040
Speaker 6: rights and really none of the family has a right

1351
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 6: to say.

1352
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 4: Anything, yeah exactly except for the.

1353
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 6: Kid if your daughter's going to be upset about, it,

1354
01:01:29,040 --> 01:01:31,920
Speaker 6: then which doesn't seem like the, CASE opi, Replies the

1355
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 6: rest of the family were going to let her be

1356
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:37,000
Speaker 6: given up to strangers for adoption when the sister was

1357
01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:39,760
Speaker 6: deciding to give her. Up they basically only saw her

1358
01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:42,080
Speaker 6: a few times a year pre. Pandemic and this is

1359
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:44,560
Speaker 6: very much the golden child wanting to waltz back in

1360
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 6: and take her, back and is being supported by our.

1361
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:51,040
Speaker 6: PARENTS i love my, sister but she is spoiled and.

1362
01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 6: Entitled comment. Too look out for yours and your daughter's,

1363
01:01:57,280 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 6: Future move away from your toxic family and go no.

1364
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 6: Contact your sister lost any rights to be considered a.

1365
01:02:03,000 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 4: Mother she's. Selfish your sister and your parents can go f.

1366
01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 4: Themselves don't tell them when you'll be. Moving something tells

1367
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 4: me they'll try to kidnap. Her congrats on the new.

1368
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:16,960
Speaker 6: Job comment, Three, dang you are a bad booty in

1369
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:19,360
Speaker 6: every sense of the. Word you took on a huge

1370
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:24,080
Speaker 6: responsibility which frankly shouldn't have been yours at only twenty. One,

1371
01:02:24,120 --> 01:02:27,080
Speaker 6: obviously you love and support your child and have the

1372
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 6: emotional intelligence to consistently put your child's needs, first for,

1373
01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:37,360
Speaker 6: example limiting contact with problematic, ants being being honest about,

1374
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 6: adoption and familiarizing your child with the new cuisine and

1375
01:02:40,640 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 6: culture of your home. Country then you're rocking your career

1376
01:02:44,240 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 6: so much that you double your. Salary employers don't typically

1377
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 6: provide those types of relocation services for average, people so

1378
01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:56,280
Speaker 6: just another example that you're probably destroying it at. Work

1379
01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:59,400
Speaker 6: you also did all of this as a single. Mother Jes,

1380
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 6: wow you make great. Decisions don't question this. One have

1381
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:06,400
Speaker 6: a wonderful life in your new country with your great

1382
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 6: new job and lovely. Child OH p, Replied i'm being

1383
01:03:11,240 --> 01:03:13,240
Speaker 6: asked to head the company's offices in this.

1384
01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:14,440
Speaker 4: Country i'm leaving.

1385
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 6: Out i'm leaving the name out of the country for privacy,

1386
01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:19,200
Speaker 6: reasons but it is In. ASIA i think it's why

1387
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:20,520
Speaker 6: they're trying to sweeten the deal so.

1388
01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:22,920
Speaker 4: Much thank you so. Much you're very kind and it

1389
01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:23,720
Speaker 4: means a lot to.

1390
01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 6: Me and we have an. Update, guys how are we

1391
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:29,560
Speaker 6: feeling about? Quiet the quiet version of? Me do we

1392
01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:30,320
Speaker 6: want the old version of?

1393
01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 4: Guy that's a chill. Guy i'm just a chill. Guy

1394
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:34,880
Speaker 4: i'm just a chill guy with a tummy.

1395
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,240
Speaker 9: Ache, okay you're kind of creeping me out with how

1396
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 9: like low tone and like low energy you.

1397
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:43,640
Speaker 6: Are SO i got a call from the school today

1398
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:47,360
Speaker 6: that a woman not on the list had come around

1399
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 6: and tried to pick up my, daughter claiming she was the.

1400
01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:54,440
Speaker 6: Mother she had claimed there was a family emergency and

1401
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 6: she needed to take my daughter home. Early now only

1402
01:03:57,880 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 6: myself and my best friend marked down as able to

1403
01:04:01,560 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 6: pick up my, daughter and when they wanted to see

1404
01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:07,480
Speaker 6: this WOMAN'S, id she got cag and claimed she forgot,

1405
01:04:07,480 --> 01:04:09,480
Speaker 6: it and when they told her she couldn't pick her

1406
01:04:09,560 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 6: up without AN, id she shouted at them before storming.

1407
01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:15,720
Speaker 6: Off i've spent all day on the phone with my

1408
01:04:15,840 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 6: lawyers and my, boss my schedules being moved, ahead And

1409
01:04:19,160 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 6: i'd wanted to give my daughter a Final christmas in

1410
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:24,240
Speaker 6: our current, home but now it's clear that that is

1411
01:04:24,400 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 6: not a safe idea.

1412
01:04:25,720 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 4: Anymore our move has been brought forward and my company

1413
01:04:29,080 --> 01:04:31,439
Speaker 4: is putting us up in a hotel until they help

1414
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:34,520
Speaker 4: us find a. Home what a w company for like

1415
01:04:35,240 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 4: for actually being, like, oh, yeah that's, TERRIBLE, nu there

1416
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:42,000
Speaker 4: is some good in the. World come at number.

1417
01:04:41,800 --> 01:04:44,720
Speaker 6: ONE i hope you and your daughter move overseas asap

1418
01:04:44,800 --> 01:04:48,600
Speaker 6: to finally cut that pos side of the family out

1419
01:04:48,640 --> 01:04:53,120
Speaker 6: of your, lives especially since they all completely ignored that

1420
01:04:53,160 --> 01:04:56,000
Speaker 6: your sister cut all parental rights to your daughter so

1421
01:04:56,040 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 6: she has no say where you and your daughter. Live

1422
01:04:58,640 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 6: At op's, Response i'm not saying when we're, leaving but

1423
01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 6: it will be.

1424
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:05,320
Speaker 4: SOON i wanted to get the police.

1425
01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:08,200
Speaker 6: Involved with this attempt, today but my lawyers talked me

1426
01:05:08,240 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 6: down and told me to just leave asap AS i

1427
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:14,560
Speaker 6: have the option open to me AS i as IF

1428
01:05:14,560 --> 01:05:17,760
Speaker 6: i get tied up in, this it could stop me.

1429
01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 6: LEAVING i then phoned up my boss and explained the

1430
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:24,080
Speaker 6: situation and they were happy to bring things. Forward come

1431
01:05:24,120 --> 01:05:27,720
Speaker 6: at number, two your company sounds like they're really stepping

1432
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:31,080
Speaker 6: up to help and support you however they can during

1433
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:33,959
Speaker 6: all of, this which is awesome to. SEE i hope

1434
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:36,000
Speaker 6: all this works out for, you, guys and this move

1435
01:05:36,040 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 6: brings a lot of happiness into your.

1436
01:05:37,760 --> 01:05:42,400
Speaker 4: Lives Oh PE's, Response i've worked for them for a long.

1437
01:05:42,480 --> 01:05:45,520
Speaker 4: Time they're honestly. Incredible oh so it's not a new.

1438
01:05:45,560 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 4: COMPANY i GUESS i missed. That so she's already working

1439
01:05:48,680 --> 01:05:51,000
Speaker 4: for that company and they're bringing her over to the main.

1440
01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:53,640
Speaker 4: OFFICES i suppose.

1441
01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:56,560
Speaker 6: The people here have been amazing and they've gone above

1442
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:59,240
Speaker 6: and beyond for, us as we're currently the only family

1443
01:05:59,240 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 6: with a. Child they even gave us A christmas, tree

1444
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:05,000
Speaker 6: which we spent last night putting. Up it would seem

1445
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 6: my attempts to introduce my daughter To korean cuisine has

1446
01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:12,439
Speaker 6: had an unexpected side. Effect her favorite food is now

1447
01:06:12,760 --> 01:06:15,919
Speaker 6: fish fingers with. KIMCHI i guess this is the life

1448
01:06:15,960 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 6: of a mom raising their kid in a different. Culture it's.

1449
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:22,320
Speaker 6: Revolting please send help. Now many of you may be

1450
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:25,720
Speaker 6: wondering about my, family and more, specifically my. Sister, well

1451
01:06:25,920 --> 01:06:28,280
Speaker 6: just because my lawyers talked me out of making a

1452
01:06:28,320 --> 01:06:31,960
Speaker 6: police report doesn't mean we did. Nothing they gathered reports

1453
01:06:32,000 --> 01:06:35,200
Speaker 6: from the school AND cctv, footage and THEN i invited

1454
01:06:35,240 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 6: my parents for a meeting at my lawyer's office where

1455
01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:42,440
Speaker 6: all the evidence was laid. Down they had no, idea

1456
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 6: and my mother broke down. CRYING i made it clear

1457
01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 6: our connections were firmly, cut and when my daughter is

1458
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:52,080
Speaker 6: an adult and wants to get in, contact we will.

1459
01:06:52,120 --> 01:06:55,800
Speaker 6: Reconsider but for, now for our, safety we will be

1460
01:06:55,840 --> 01:06:56,440
Speaker 6: going no.

1461
01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:58,880
Speaker 4: Contact but what is, cool by the, way.

1462
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:03,120
Speaker 6: Is the fact that you can listen to full episodes

1463
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:05,240
Speaker 6: full with stories like this.

1464
01:07:05,480 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 4: Uncut all you have to do is go.

1465
01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:12,920
Speaker 6: To, Spotify Apple podcasts or your favorite podcast app and,

1466
01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 6: search oh case to a.

1467
01:07:14,560 --> 01:07:17,360
Speaker 5: Time raw episodes directly in your.

1468
01:07:17,400 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 6: EAR i kept the dates of our flights a, secret

1469
01:07:19,880 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 6: and my best friend has my keys and is closing

1470
01:07:22,600 --> 01:07:24,640
Speaker 6: up the house for me and going to ship me

1471
01:07:25,040 --> 01:07:28,360
Speaker 6: the heavier items when we are properly. Settled my first

1472
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:30,800
Speaker 6: action on entering the country was to contact the local

1473
01:07:30,840 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 6: authorities with the proof that my daughter was my, daughter

1474
01:07:34,600 --> 01:07:36,800
Speaker 6: in case my family tried to pull any. Bs and

1475
01:07:36,880 --> 01:07:40,360
Speaker 6: the people here are also aware of my, situation and

1476
01:07:40,400 --> 01:07:42,440
Speaker 6: no one can find anything about us without a.

1477
01:07:42,520 --> 01:07:43,440
Speaker 4: Password you, know.

1478
01:07:43,560 --> 01:07:47,479
Speaker 10: That actually brings up the idea that the truth would

1479
01:07:47,520 --> 01:07:50,920
Speaker 10: be a good idea to say to the, child because

1480
01:07:52,120 --> 01:07:54,720
Speaker 10: if the child knows that there's this mom that is

1481
01:07:54,760 --> 01:07:58,960
Speaker 10: their biological mother that's like trying to abduct, her THEN

1482
01:07:59,080 --> 01:07:59,480
Speaker 10: i don't.

1483
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 4: Know that might be too heavy to put.

1484
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 6: On how would you age appropriately be, like so your

1485
01:08:04,160 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 6: biological mom is trying.

1486
01:08:05,600 --> 01:08:08,960
Speaker 2: To steal you or a little little daisy missus, lady

1487
01:08:10,160 --> 01:08:11,760
Speaker 2: you know how we love your.

1488
01:08:12,040 --> 01:08:15,360
Speaker 5: Aunt no first rule.

1489
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:18,000
Speaker 4: Of IMPROV i always say, no throw them off the.

1490
01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 6: RAILS i honestly feel like a weight has been lifted

1491
01:08:22,400 --> 01:08:24,840
Speaker 6: from my shoulders and this is the start of a

1492
01:08:24,880 --> 01:08:27,760
Speaker 6: whole new life for. Us wishing you all a Merry

1493
01:08:27,840 --> 01:08:33,360
Speaker 6: christmas in a happy twenty twenty two Comments comment number,

1494
01:08:33,400 --> 01:08:35,040
Speaker 6: One oh my, GOD i have been waiting for this

1495
01:08:35,120 --> 01:08:37,040
Speaker 6: update and it went exactly the WAY i hoped it.

1496
01:08:37,040 --> 01:08:41,240
Speaker 6: WOULD i am so happy for you you and your

1497
01:08:41,320 --> 01:08:44,960
Speaker 6: daughter have a Wonderful christmas And New year's in your new.

1498
01:08:45,040 --> 01:08:45,320
Speaker 4: Home.

1499
01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:49,519
Speaker 6: Congrats comment number. Two enjoy your new job and new.

1500
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:53,400
Speaker 6: Apartment South korea is a very prosperous country and, you

1501
01:08:53,560 --> 01:08:56,880
Speaker 6: as a very energetic, person will fit right in among The.

1502
01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:59,160
Speaker 6: Koreans that's a weird way to put, THAT i.

1503
01:08:59,200 --> 01:09:02,160
Speaker 4: Think, nope just the. Top i'm helping.

1504
01:09:02,200 --> 01:09:03,320
Speaker 5: You i'm helping.

1505
01:09:03,360 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 4: You Sh i'm helping. You do not. Worry your family

1506
01:09:09,320 --> 01:09:12,639
Speaker 4: will find, you nor Have your family will not find,

1507
01:09:12,640 --> 01:09:14,759
Speaker 4: you nor have the money to pursue you any. Further

1508
01:09:15,000 --> 01:09:15,920
Speaker 4: and that is the end of that.

1509
01:09:15,960 --> 01:09:18,519
Speaker 10: Story wait, wait wait, wait your family will not find

1510
01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:20,200
Speaker 10: you and it won't have the money.

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Speaker 4: To Make, yeah because it's like they like left town

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Speaker 4: without telling. Anybody