WEBVTT - Friends Can Be Lovers 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:17.120 and The Black Effect. And just like that, we back 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.640 on the air with yet another carefully reckless episode with 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.079 your girl Jess. Hilarious and I got my boots Taylor here, 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:26.079 so we're gonna both read the story. So I'm gonna 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:27.640 rewind and this she's gonna RedWine all R. We're gonna 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:29.280 give her a little break, but she's definitely gonna be 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:32.960 in on the mess with me. So here we go. Hello, Jess, 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:34.960 I need to hear what you think about this. So 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:37.440 I just got out of a long distance relationship. It 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.440 wasn't really going well for me, so that was that 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:44.599 I quickly started enjoying my single life and just exploring options. 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:47.000 Mind you, I'm very open with everyone I talked to, 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.080 so no one is confused or left in the dark. 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.480 Not saying it was a whole bunch of people, but 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:54.440 you know, during this process, I enjoyed talking to this 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:57.080 one girl. We would always have conversations and she was 0:00:57.160 --> 0:00:59.080 just a cool vibe. We started hanging out and she 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:01.080 even met a few of my kh Yes, I know 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.800 what you're thinking. This sounds like it's leaning towards a relationship. 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:06.039 Yeah it does, but I promise you. We agreed to 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:09.080 take things slow and to just vibe out. Here's when 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:12.200 things started getting complicated. I travel for work and always 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.039 have an unpredictable schedule, which I made her aware of 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:18.600 ahead of time, so sometimes I wouldn't text back right away, 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:21.440 or my responses would be sure but only because I'm busy, 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:24.039 which I would let her know. She would always be 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:25.119 quick to ask, am I. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.600 Doing something wrong? What are you doing? 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:30.280 And kind of back off, as though she's trying to 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:34.040 imply that I'm being sneaky. I gave her the reinsurance 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.039 that she needed, even though I don't owe it to 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:38.959 her because we're not in a relationship. But that's just 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.360 me moving on. I came to her one day and 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.840 told her that I like the speed that we're going. 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:45.920 See this is why i'd be having tailor read, because 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:47.240 why is this one sentence? 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:49.520 Shit? Girl? 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:55.160 I came to her one day and sold her that 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:57.040 I like the speed that we're going and I don't 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.400 want anything to change that, so I just want to 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.000 continue to And she took that as me saying I 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:03.920 don't want to talk to her anymore and I don't 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:05.080 like the way things are going. 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.720 But that's not what I said at all. 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:10.520 After that conversation, she started moving weird, texting me back less, 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:13.119 giving me a whole lot of nonchalant responses. I even 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.200 invited her to come on a trip, a friend's trip, 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:19.240 mind you, that I was going on, and she started 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:24.000 replying less and less about that. I asked her what 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:27.160 the problem was and why has she been acting weird? 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:30.600 And she keeps saying, oh yeah, it must be someone else. 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:34.760 What were you telling me something that somebody is saying 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:36.320 use quotations? 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:38.799 Damn, Oh my god. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:41.600 I asked her what the problem was and why she 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:45.040 has been acting weird, and she keeps saying, oh yeah, 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:47.760 it must be someone else and that. I basically told 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:49.840 her I don't want to talk to her anymore in 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:52.799 that way. Here goes me once again, giving her the 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:54.919 reassurance that I really don't owe her, but I gave 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.920 it to her. She still continues to act weird after that, 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.640 so I decided to fall back. As soon as I 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:03.040 did that, I found out that she was back talking 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:06.119 to her AX, which made sense. Yeah, duh, that's where 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:10.240 all the accusations was coming from. Projection. I definitely confronted 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.720 her about it, and she tried to smooth it over 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:16.440 and say, well, we weren't really even together anyway. Oh, 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:19.120 so she pulled to you on you okay, and that 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:20.680 I told her that I didn't want to talk to 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.080 her anymore. I just let her have it, because girl, 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:25.800 what the fuck? Even after that, she was still trying 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.880 to talk to me, and I guess because I figured 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:30.120 out the truth and was over it, but she still 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.400 wanted to be cool. And then the funny thing is 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:34.239 she ended up backing out of the trip, which I 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.600 knew was going to happen but didn't even tell me, 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:39.640 and ended up going to the same place but with 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.200 her AX at the same time. 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.720 Wow, oh, this bitch is weird. Jess. 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:47.600 There is a word for this girl, but I can't 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.080 put my finger on it. Help me out laughing my 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.680 ass off. Also, I want you to let me know 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:54.880 if I was wrong in this as well. Well. The 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:59.640 words you looking for? Yeah, where the shit? Where the shit? 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:01.000 I was going to say something else, but that No, 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.600 that that's weird. That stills it because the whole thing is. 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:07.160 But before we get to the whole thing, the trip 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:10.200 was crazy. You. I invite you on the trip, right, 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:12.839 and we fell out, so we're not going no more. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.760 But then you still so you fell out of that right, 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:18.279 And I'm guessing she left her with the bill like 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.360 she it must have been like some money ship going on, 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.400 but she ended up still going, so she probably wanted 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:24.279 the money back from the girl, like cause I'm not 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:27.719 going no more, which funck shuit up. And then you 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:29.960 ended up still going, but bringing. 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:34.839 Your ex and purpose. 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:38.240 I feel like she did, especially because and then this 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:44.600 girl just seems like she's possessive, very possessive, and she, uh, 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:46.440 she falls very quickly. 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:48.120 Now, the one. 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.080 The one that the girl was talking to, the one 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:54.880 who wrote us the story. I felt like she's not 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.120 telling us something either, because let's let's break this whole 0:04:58.120 --> 0:04:58.680 ship down. 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:02.000 You say that both of y'all were talking. It was 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:02.400 a vibe. 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.479 Both of y'all said, y'a didn't want a relationship, whatever, whatever, 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.680 and then y'all started. Then she started falling for you 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:12.400 and started becoming increasingly possessive, obviously because you said you 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:15.880 travel for work, and you would tell her, yo, I'm 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:17.839 gonna be busy, but she would get upset because you 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:18.800 wouldn't text right there. 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:20.800 Yeah, insecurious, So she gin's securious. 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.680 Fuck. The interesting thing is the girl who wrote us 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:27.360 the story, I feel like the letter on a little bit. No, 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:29.560 I feel like she because if something, she must have 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.080 been talking to that girl every. 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.040 Day or that. That's you know what I'm saying. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.760 But you can't do that if you know you ain't 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.960 trying to be in a relationship. That's just not what 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:39.800 it's gonna give, like what you think. 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:43.919 But that's why people will have to I don't know 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.800 how old she is, because that's why people have to 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:48.280 just be straightforward. 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:51.680 Do you wear a relationship or not? Because that whole situation. 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:55.839 Ship, Yeah, that's sticky because she said though she's like 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:58.240 I like she likes the way things are going though, 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.560 So I guess you made the girl fall back. 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:02.040 I don't know. 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:06.000 Yeah, And people people, they think they can handle situationships 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.520 until you start to fall for that person. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:10.400 I've been in one. If she's the only person you're 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.640 talking to, yeah, that's what I'm saying. 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:15.800 If you exclusively talking to somebody, that's gonna lead to 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.239 people thinking that, Okay, this might be going somewhere serious. 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:21.200 Like you know what I'm saying, Like she now the 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:21.720 girl wrote it. 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.159 She said that she was talking to other people, of course, 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:28.279 but I felt like she was giving this girl a 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.200 lot of her time. I mean, she was the main 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.200 girl that she talked to, and that girl took that as, oh, 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:38.440 this girl won't be my girl. Even though y'all knew 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:40.680 from the jump, y'all had an understanding neither one of 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:44.800 y'all wanted a relationship. But she probably didn't expect to 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:46.920 fall for you that fast, and you didn't expect for 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.200 her to fall for you and start acting crazy. 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:50.040 What's the point? 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:53.520 I don't even though the point of situationships anymore? 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.160 I don't like people are not daring to why are 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.120 you dating a relationship? 0:06:59.200 --> 0:06:59.320 Right? 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.080 Not just to talk and fuck? 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:05.680 Like it's and I think I think it's because we're 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.320 older now. We are because because I used to love 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:12.280 a little situation at my twenty commitment. 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:13.560 Yes, I wasn't. 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.360 Ready for commitment in my twenties, you know, so I'm like, okay, 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:17.800 I'm just living free, having fun. 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:18.080 You know. 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:22.120 But you hit a certain point where you're like, all right, 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.160 I'm done with the streets, like like just like men, 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:28.040 just like and you know, you you grow up and 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.000 of course women grow up, you know, a lot. 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:34.200 Quicker than the girl. 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:37.920 So she what's the relationship? She wants her relationship and 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.520 she went back with her ass. But she said, I 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.640 don't think she went back to the X. I think 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:44.560 you know what I think this is. I think that 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:46.440 the girl just got her ax on top because if 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:48.920 she wanted to be would be our ex. That's just 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:52.680 probably somebody that she keeps going back on, like keeping that, 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.560 keeping shorty in the pocket just in case of a 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:59.040 ship don't work out, just like niggas do. Like people 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.800 do that, you know, they treat people like disposedly and 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.960 that that's fucked up because she told her it wasn't 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.760 even like that. You she probably was talking to her 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:09.800 X the whole time, but just like a nigga with 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:11.280 a baby mama that he don't want to be with, 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.080 but he wanted to keep fucking with when he wants 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:16.600 to when when shit ain't gone right with other bitches 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:19.040 like that's that because that was my experience because Rome 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:20.720 used to fucking make me beat him the fuck up 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:21.520 because he used to do that. 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.320 But yeah, I have I. 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.200 Don't think it's like I think about my exhu. 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.119 I guess was trying to do that, but we never 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:32.559 did any Like, Yeah, I'm one of those people. 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:34.920 One time I'm done, I'm done that. Yeah, that's it. 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:36.480 It's not going back. 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:38.640 I'm not spending a block, I'm not trying to hear 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:40.040 you out, none of that. 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:40.640 Yeah. 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:44.400 So, and this sounds like they're very young. Honestly, they 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:48.679 haven't come into like they're not mature enough yet to 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.760 like solidify real relationships and to know what they want 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.160 and know what they're not gonna accept out of relationships. 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:57.440 Because I wouldn't even be fucking with her, like as 0:08:57.480 --> 0:09:00.920 crazy as she is, Like I mean, it's stalkery and insecure. 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:01.440 She sound. 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.640 I wouldn't seem like the other girl were playing around 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:04.439 on her too. 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.680 That's what I'm saying. So, yeah, that's something like they're 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:09.080 all playing around and shit. So I don't even get 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:11.240 what the question is. She said, Do you feel like 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:11.839 I was wrong? 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:12.480 Wrong for what? 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:12.760 Like? 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.559 Wrong for what? Did you leave the girl alone? I 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.240 don't feel like it was a it was an actual 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.240 question here. She said. 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:22.400 Also, she's wrong to feel a type of way maybe 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.600 if she because you were saying that if she didn't 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:29.120 want a relationship, why yeah, but I mean again, feelings 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:30.600 are feelings, so you're gonna. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:32.439 Okay, So how she started was I need to hear 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.040 what you think about this? So I just got off 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.400 a long distance relationship, all right, She just got out 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:38.800 of a long distance relationship. So yeah, so she really 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.679 wasn't trying to commit to this girl. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:42.720 She was just probably just. 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:48.640 Yeah, talking and ship, yeah, enjoying my single life, oh yep, 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:51.200 and just exploring my options mindron right open with everybody. 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.080 I think the type of person that this girl is, like, 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:59.040 she she's a charmer, Like, she's a charming person, and 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:01.880 she a mate. She'll make somebody fall or and then 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:04.199 she'll probably be falling for them too, but she leave 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.760 motherfuckers on. You can tell, like, it's no way that 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:09.440 girl started acting like that if you wasn't giving her 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:10.280 at that time of day. 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:11.960 And it may not staying big to you, but if 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:13.720 you're just talking to somebody. 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.679 But y'all on FaceTime all day, y'all talk, y'all text 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:18.920 all day, when you switch up your pattern, yeah, that 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.360 person's gonna feel a certain way, whether y'all just talking 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:23.480 or in a relationship or not, you know what I mean, 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:25.880 Like we developed the pattern. I'm used to waking up 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.319 till good morning and you calling me when you get 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:30.520 off work and you're telling me about your day and shit, 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:32.719 and I'm the last person you talk to at night 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:34.880 and you're the last person I talk to. And then 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:37.640 now that goes to like nothing, you slow texting now 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.400 when you're not hitting me back, even though you said 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.280 you travel, I know you travel. When you're busy, you're 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:44.600 probably doing something out that they now have developed like 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.440 this false relationship. 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:47.320 In their mind. And now on the bitch got your 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:49.320 cheating on her and you at work, but you ain't 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:49.920 even with her. 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:53.679 I've been in this situation, but I don't know what 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.240 you want me to tell you about. Just grow up 0:10:56.800 --> 0:11:01.360 and grow up and enjoy your single life, like you said, 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.600 like when you run in some people like this, you 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:06.959 have to understand like everybody ain't gonna be like you. 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:07.720 Maybe you didn't. 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:09.520 You didn't fall for her, she didn't plan to fall 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:12.440 for you, but she did. So just don't give too 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:15.000 much of yourself if you already know what your objective is. 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.600 The objective is just to have fun, take things slow, 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:21.800 go steady. Then stay on that. Don't over don't overdo it. 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.240 Don't overextend yourself because that's gonna make you feel like, 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.400 that's gonna make a motherfucker feel like, Oh, this motherfucker 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:26.679 want me. 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:28.079 Yeah, we're gonna be in a relationship. 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:32.120 So just priorititize, like what you do, like prioritize telling 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:35.360 them like no, no, give yourself like three hours a 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:36.400 day to talk to a person. 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:39.960 That's it. Yeah, guys, yeah. 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:41.640 If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.679 then we'll be right back moving on. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:48.440 Lord, Hey, what's up Jess. So over time, I date 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:51.840 this girl who really like became one of my best friends. 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:54.520 My friends love her, and my family love her too. 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:58.000 But we never made it official because of different circumstances 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.800 like either hours in relationship or she was. And now 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:03.200 I think we've got too close to even really be 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.880 in a relationship. I think there will always be a 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:08.120 what if with us, but we both agreed that we 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:09.400 will just remain friends. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:10.760 So here's the kicker. 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:13.480 I am dating someone new and she went through my 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:15.480 phone and saw that me and my friend were more 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:18.760 than friends before. Now, yes I did lie and just 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:22.000 say like that's just my friend, and now she wants 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.040 me not to be friends with her anymore. 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:29.479 I feel and found out that she was texting a girl. Okay, 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:33.000 and there's another gay story. She ain't e would say 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:33.560 she was a woman. 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:38.679 I dated this girl, Okay, go ahead. 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:45.199 So I'm dating something, okay, Yess a lie about me 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:47.480 and my friends relationship to her because I feel it's 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:49.680 none of her business to know. And I knew she 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.560 would react. I mean, just like this wanted me to 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:56.320 break up the friendship. But what's crazy is my friend 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:59.240 is no threat. She's not a homeworker, even if she 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.200 did have more for me. So my question is what 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:04.240 should I do? I really like this girl, but me 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:07.000 and my friend been friends, like been friends for like 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:07.840 ten years now? 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:11.760 Why would I just stop being friends with her? Help 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:13.000 me out? Jess? 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:13.680 Mmm? 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:16.000 Like this, that's the little you have. 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:20.480 I've never been in a situation like this, you know, le' 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.439 see mine a little different. Mine is a little different 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.800 because all right, I'm a share mine of real quick see, 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:28.880 I was ded on somebody and they was intimidated by 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:31.520 me and Rome's bond, like Rome is my beef. Other y'all, 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.240 y'all know that Ashton Dad and he and y'all know 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.680 how we are. We're like brother and sister, fucking siblings. 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:40.280 Like we're not we're good together, you know what I mean, 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:42.760 Like we're cool, we're just friends like you know. But 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:46.320 he liked my family and I talked to him almost 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:50.320 every day, like you know, and that was an issue 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.000 for god, like I don't know, like. 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:54.480 But Rome is my friend. But it's different because he 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:56.000 my beef father was your situation. 0:13:57.640 --> 0:14:01.240 I had a friend and and me and him like 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.000 mess around before. 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:06.760 But it's kind of someone like we had like. 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.440 We just never actually made it official, but his family 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:14.600 and everything else like that be could only with your 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:18.480 friends first and then got into whatever. And then he 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:22.800 h dated someone that already was jealous, like that had 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:28.280 jealous issues already, and his dumbass was like will always 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.120 talk about me though, so that was probably also sparked 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:37.480 like of course whatever. So she found out and yeah, 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:39.240 she didn't want him to be friend to me no more. 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:41.360 And mind you, I didn't even know he even had 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.400 a girlfriend. He didn't tell me any of that or 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:46.200 nothing like that. It is fucked up because I told 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:47.680 him when I got into relationships. 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:54.160 But anyway, you liked you, yeah, I guess. 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.480 But wouldn't he tell you about about his girlfriend exactly? 0:14:57.480 --> 0:14:59.840 I don't know because that was real with him. But whatever, 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:01.640 do you ever give you signs that he did, like 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:02.200 you don't. 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:07.400 Ye, Like we were always friends, but he was like 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:11.240 in the army or I'm sorry he's in the navy 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:16.720 and I was in school, not like what it is, 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:18.360 like that's my I was gonna have love for you. 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:23.680 But now so he ended up Actually we didn't speak 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:27.200 to like for a year or whatever, and like, and 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.560 his mom was mad at him because he's like, yo, 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:32.920 she's been like there for you, Like he's gonna who 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:34.240 this girl to like. 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:37.000 Yeah, make you yeah with your friend. 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:40.280 Basically they ended up breaking up because she was crazy 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:45.440 and yeah, and I tell him to this day, like 0:15:45.480 --> 0:15:49.480 he's the only guy that's like like that was able 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:52.480 to get Like me and him are cool, but like 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:56.000 because he had to, like really like I knew it 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:57.560 was like he really felt bad. 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:02.280 He had his friends calling me just talk to him like, yeah, 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:03.200 I just want. 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:05.160 My friend back from like you know, yeah, no, I 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:06.440 get it because that was a friendship. 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:10.920 You know, how long were you all friends? Now? Damn 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.920 it's been like fifteen Yeah, like that. 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:18.760 Like friendships don't come don't come by like that nowadays, 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:20.080 you know what I mean. So it's always good to 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:23.240 have those good people and keep those keep those people close. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:26.240 But this this person here, that that's writing us a 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:29.320 story their friend, I feel like. 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:31.520 They said for ten years? 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:36.080 Yeah, but at what point do you feel like this 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:39.840 this friendship is a little questionable when your girlfriend going 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.360 your fucking phone and see and. 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:44.840 Did they even say what they read? 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:45.160 Now? 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:46.760 Well, yeah, you know what I'm saying. I feel like 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.160 you're leaving out parts of it, like what did they where? 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:49.240 You? 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:51.400 Are you guys? Flirty? A little bit too friendly? 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:53.960 You know what I'm saying, Because friends need to talk 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:55.960 like friends, and you know, and y'all need to sort 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:59.000 out what's appropriate and inappropriate in a relationship. Did your 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:02.320 girlfriend feel like y'all was y'all weren't talking on a 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.560 friendly basis, like it may have been some shit to her, 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:07.920 like nah, that this is not y'all motherfuckers. If y'all 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:09.760 ain't doing nothing, now y'all talking like y'all have done 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:11.760 something before and it didn't work out, so now y'all 0:17:11.760 --> 0:17:14.360 friends like that would make me feel a little insecure 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:15.840 in the relationship. 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.000 Because y'all friends, this is your friend. Y'all got ten 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:18.680 years of history. 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.879 You feel me like, y'all could be sneaking around or 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.240 you know what I'm saying, hot and ship from me 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:26.800 and y'all, I don't know, So those type of situations 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:28.919 are very touchy. Hold up, hold up, I know the 0:17:28.960 --> 0:17:31.040 ship getting good, But listen to just a couple of 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:32.080 seconds of a commercial. 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:33.240 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:34.439 You know. 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:35.439 It's even more crazy. 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.480 The girl the guy was living in My friend was 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:40.080 living in Hawaii. 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:40.800 What the fuck? 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:43.800 Like, we're not Why do you think He's like, we're 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:44.679