1 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: Some of you dies out there might have made a 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 1: birth plan. Some of you are just going to wing it. 3 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: Both options are cool. But my birth plan was that 4 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: I wanted to labor at home for as long as possible, 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:17,920 Speaker 1: go through the early stages of labor, distract myself by 6 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:20,440 Speaker 1: taking a lovely stroll with my husband and my dog 7 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: around the block, watch some movies, bake some cookies, and 8 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 1: then as when contraction started to get a little bit 9 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: more intense, I would go to the hospital, go to Cedars. 10 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:31,640 Speaker 1: My duel you know, would come with me. We would 11 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:34,919 Speaker 1: check in, I would get an epidural, and I'd push 12 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: your baby out. Great, that's not what happened. It's never 13 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: how it It's just it's just not what happened. Um. 14 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: What ended up happening was about a week before my 15 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,599 Speaker 1: due date. I went in to get checked up and 16 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: the baby was measuring small and he hadn't grown in 17 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: a week, which the doctor had told me. My obi, 18 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: Dr Lanney Cometz, had said to me, you know, there 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: are some babies who just kind of don't eat as 20 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: well on the inside anymore, and they have to come out, Like, 21 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: for whatever reason, your placenta has kind of pooped out 22 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: and it's time to get him out because he's going 23 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 1: to eat better on the outside than he is on 24 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: the inside. Um So, they were saying, you're probably gonna 25 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 1: have to be induced, and I basically just completely flipped 26 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: my lid, like was upset. I didn't want to get induced. 27 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: I had heard horrible things about being induced. I had 28 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: heard that the contractions are worse than ever, you go 29 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: from zero to a hundred because you're using drugs, and 30 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: the drugs are what's causing the contractions, and it's just 31 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: a complete nightmare. Um So I was hysterical. And the 32 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: first call I made after my husband was my duela, 33 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: Rebecca Bennati, And what did you say? First? I think 34 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: I told you that inductions aren't scary, okay, and that 35 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: we got this and that we were going to make 36 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: a plan. I think we talked about getting together, the 37 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: three of us. You. I think I found it was 38 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: getting induced and you came over like that afternoon I did, 39 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: which I came over. Yeah, that afternoon we sat at 40 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: your kitchen table. I remember it. She walked into my 41 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: front gate and I ran over to her. And there's 42 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: something about a Rebecca ben a naughtie hug, but she 43 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 1: and I'm a very I don't like to cry in 44 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: front of people. I don't really I get really embarrassed 45 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 1: about it. And I ran into her arms and just 46 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: started shopping. UM. And I think it was because I 47 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: think I am type and I really did want to 48 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 1: stick to my plan, and it just wasn't going to 49 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: happen um the way I had intended. UM. But you 50 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 1: gave me a really long hug and you said it 51 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 1: was gonna be okay. And then we sat at my 52 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 1: kitchen table and we came up with a plan. We did. 53 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: We talked about all the fears that you had, first 54 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: of all about an induction, and how you had heard 55 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: so many scary things about it, and I assured you 56 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 1: that yes, that was a possibility that it could go 57 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,920 Speaker 1: like that, but I also gave you hope that it 58 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: could go a different way as well. And the big 59 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: this thing, the most important thing, the most challenging thing 60 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: about helping you settle into an induction was um that 61 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 1: you needed to let go, that you needed to completely 62 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: let go of any idea that you had. And another 63 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:21,639 Speaker 1: very challenging thing for the lovely Katie loves completely clear 64 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: her entire calendar for the day and a half prior 65 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 1: to the scheduled induction, so that you could make sense 66 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: of what was going to happen, and so that you 67 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: could really enter the process of an induction feeling grounded, calm, relaxed, 68 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: and most importantly, really connected to your husband. And those were, Um, 69 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: that was the start of the instructions that we made together. Yeah, 70 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: I'm really good at taking direction and hence being an actress. 71 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: But I, um, I think they had given me an option, 72 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: Like they were like, Okay, so you're gonna be induced. 73 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: You can choose to check in Friday at eight, Saturday 74 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: at eight, or Sunday at eight. And I'm like, hold 75 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: on a second, I'm choosing my kid's birthdate right now. 76 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: Like there was something about that that just really freaked 77 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 1: me out, Like like I just was like, what do 78 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: you mean. I just want him to choose it. I 79 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: want him to tell me when he's ready to come out. 80 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm just like on the phone with somebody, 81 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: some receptionist at Cedar sign I just picking the day 82 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: that I'm going to birth my kid. And I don't 83 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: know if that's what's best for him. I don't know 84 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: if that's what he wants. And Rebecca sat with me 85 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: at my kitchen table and said to me, you have 86 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,799 Speaker 1: to take the power back. Choose what day you want. 87 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: And we came up with the plan that how awesome 88 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: would it be to go into labor at Sunday night 89 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: because this whole weekend I'm going to clear my schedule. 90 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 1: It was a Friday. I'm going to spend Friday night, 91 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: Saturday day, Saturday night, and Sunday day with my husband. 92 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to do all the stuff I love to do. 93 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: Get the car cleaned, get the dog washed, make sure 94 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 1: the house is cleaned like and we went on dates. 95 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: We went to a movie's. My husband and I got 96 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 1: a manicure and pedicure. Adam has never got a manicure 97 00:04:57,560 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: pedicure in his entire He was like, why are we 98 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: doing this? And I was like, that's what I want 99 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,719 Speaker 1: to do on this Saturday before I have my kid. Um. 100 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: We went out to Happy Hour, we got sushi, We 101 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: went to the farmer's market on Sunday, and we really, 102 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: like Rebecca had said and had given me the direction 103 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: to do, we shut off our phones, only talk to 104 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,479 Speaker 1: our parents. We texted our best friends and just said, hey, 105 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: we're gonna go into labor on Sunday night. And Rebecca 106 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: just really helped me. See, this is why I du 107 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: it was amazing, Like aside from just in the in 108 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: the delivery room, but you helped me come to terms 109 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: with how awesome it was that I was going to 110 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: take the power back and make the decision to have 111 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: my son on Sunday night because I was going to 112 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: have this kind of last weekend with my husband in 113 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: my house before I was a mom. And so Sunday night, 114 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: we were supposed to check in at eight, and by 115 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: six o'clock we made a dinner reservation for an awesome 116 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: Italian restaurant right around the corner from Cedars. I had 117 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 1: a glass of wine a huge as bowl of pasta 118 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:57,040 Speaker 1: and checked into Cedars and like had wrapped my brain 119 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: around the fact that I was going to have my 120 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: son and I was going to meet my kid and 121 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: I could be excited about it rather than scared. Thank 122 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: you Rebecca for doing that. So then I checked in 123 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:16,679 Speaker 1: and um I we started the induction process, which begins 124 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: with you take a pill that helps dilate your cervix, 125 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: and the pill worked very quickly, my cervix dilated a centimeter, 126 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: which was the amount we needed to stick in a 127 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: fully balloon. Have you ever heard of that? Yeah? I 128 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: guess what. When I saw Scott Fully after I get 129 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 1: worked the kid, I asked, Scott Fully, are you related 130 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 1: to the guy who created the horrible but evil torture 131 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: device called the bully balloon that gets shoved up your 132 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: vagina if you're induced? And he was like, no, I 133 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 1: don't know that guy. Um, So they shove in this 134 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: balloon that literally looks like a balloon that you use 135 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 1: it a kid's party, that you tie up into a 136 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: like like, make it into a certain animal, a balloon animal, 137 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: and they blow it up slowly over time, and when 138 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: it's able to be pulled out, it means you've dilated 139 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: four centimeters. So that happens also very quickly, very quickly, 140 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: very smoothly. And I will say that the fully balloon 141 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: is the probably the most challenging, most uncomfortable part of 142 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: an induction. Is really so I made it. You had 143 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: an easy experience, will say, somewhat easy experience I did 144 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 1: with that fully balloon is I'll never forget the nurse's 145 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: space they put it in there and I was still 146 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 1: not on drugs yet, and I was horrified. And they 147 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: put it in there and I it can take anywhere 148 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: from six to ten hours to get to four centimeters 149 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: where they can pull it out. And in one hour, 150 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: she came to check me and pulled on the balloon 151 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: and it came right out. And I had already gone 152 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: to four centimeters in an hour, and so my son 153 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: was going easy on me, thus far um and then um, 154 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: my water broke on its own. And I'll never forget 155 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,239 Speaker 1: that either. I was lying on my side the fully balloon. 156 00:07:57,280 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: It just came out, and they were starting to um 157 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: use potos in, which is the drug that they used 158 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: to induce and start contractions, and they were using a 159 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: small dose of potosin, and all of a sudden, I 160 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: literally heard a big like that in the upper right 161 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: corner of my abdomen, and I was like, holy crap, 162 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: what was that huge flush of water? And I was 163 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: like nurse, nurse, and all of a sudden like hitting 164 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: the little button thing next to the call button as 165 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: fast I can because I'm just like, someone needs to 166 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: know that my water broken. Adam sleeping next to me 167 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: and he was in the on the couch next to me, 168 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: and my water broke and then contraction started, and Rebecca 169 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: got me through a few hours of contractions without drugs. 170 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: Tell me how you did that, Well, what Adula does. 171 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: What I do to get women through contractions, It's a 172 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:51,440 Speaker 1: lot of touch, massaging, a lot of verbal coaching. Um, 173 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: you happened to be a person that could be having 174 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 1: contractions and still have a vibrant, radiant personality. Um, So 175 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: in between contraction. But what's weird about contractions is they 176 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:08,680 Speaker 1: hurt like holy hell for the minute and a half 177 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: that they're happening, and then when they're done and you 178 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: get that break for a minute and half in between, 179 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: it's nothing nothing, there's nothing in between. It's bizarre. So 180 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: you would be in the worst pain of your life, 181 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,200 Speaker 1: but then the minute and a half in between, I'm laughing, 182 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: joking around like it never even happened. It's weird. So 183 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: in that in between stage of contractions is where I 184 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: was mostly able to keep you going because that was 185 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,079 Speaker 1: where I would just remind you that you just had 186 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: to do one more and then one more contraction, kid 187 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 1: or want more contractions, one at a time, and that 188 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: every contraction was bringing you closer and that you you 189 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: didn't have to worry about, um, if you were going 190 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: to do it, or how you were going to do it, 191 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 1: reminding you that you were actually already doing it. Yes 192 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: see when I say stuff like I can't do it, 193 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: I can't do it, she's like, well, you already are 194 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: doing it. And um. You also helped me come up 195 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: with the mandra, which was, oh shoot, I thought I 196 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:02,839 Speaker 1: would never forget it and now I'm sitting here and 197 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: don't remember it. But it's something like it was something 198 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: about how this is only temporary. It is only temporary, 199 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: That's what I was saying. It's amazing you guys. See 200 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 1: I've only had a three and a half month old 201 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,839 Speaker 1: and I've it's gone, like the pain is gone. That's 202 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 1: why people are able to have more than one kid 203 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,319 Speaker 1: if they're going to have them. Yes, I'm glad to 204 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: remembered your mantra because you did repeat it over and 205 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: over in this very sing song yet robotic kind of tone, 206 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: and it really um it had like a little shoulder 207 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: jig to go with it, and maybe you can just 208 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 1: say it again one more. It was always like the control. 209 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: I'd be like, okay, here it comes here it comes. Um. 210 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,679 Speaker 1: And Rebecca had trained me before because when Adula, what 211 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: Rebecca doesn't a lot of duelas I think also do, 212 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: is you have some meetings with her before the birth, 213 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 1: before the actual birth process, where you meet and you 214 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 1: really discuss how you want things to go, and so 215 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 1: she can keep that in mind no matter what comes 216 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: your way during the actual birthing process. But um, she 217 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: had already told me when you a contraction comes on, 218 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: you don't want to say, oh no, here comes another one, 219 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: because you're already phrasing it in your mind like it's 220 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 1: something you can't take on. So it was again taking direction. 221 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: I would say, Okay, here's another one coming, here's another 222 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: one coming, because I was very like, I don't want 223 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 1: to say no, it's bad, like, oh no, here comes 224 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 1: another one. So I'd say here coming, he was another 225 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: one's coming, other one's coming. And then I'd grip onto 226 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: the exercise ball and I would say, this is only temporary, 227 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: This is only temporary, This is only temporary, over and 228 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: over again until it was over for that minute and 229 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 1: a half, and then I'd have a good time in between. 230 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, although I had gone a whole night 231 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: without sleeping. So what do you remember about the in between? 232 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: I remember, Oh, I always wanted to be on the toilet. 233 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:55,960 Speaker 1: Do you remember that? Like I was contracted on the 234 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:00,080 Speaker 1: toilet and um, which for some reason just feels it 235 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:03,480 Speaker 1: because you can like sit and grip onto that handicap bar. Yes, 236 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: and the hard surface on your thighs, sighs really steady 237 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 1: so that everything else can relax down. Now that was helpful. 238 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 1: I was gripping onto an exercise ball and putting my 239 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,680 Speaker 1: whole like upper body, just draping it over the exercise ball. 240 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes you would have me, um, try to get into 241 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:27,439 Speaker 1: a kind of squatting position. Um. But what Rebecca does 242 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:30,199 Speaker 1: so great in the room is she keeps you moving 243 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: around from position to position, and she rubs your body. 244 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: And then she brings a beautiful smelling essential oils that 245 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: can also distract you if you're smelling, if you smell, 246 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:41,839 Speaker 1: if you feel nauseous all of a sudden, which I 247 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 1: luckily didn't put some women do. She puts peppermint under 248 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: your nose so that you smell and you can kind 249 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:52,320 Speaker 1: of overcome the nausea yourself. And um, I think, and 250 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: then I think, I think I called it. I don't 251 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: remember when that was, but I you know, I just 252 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: was like, I'm I just really trusted my gut. I 253 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 1: knew for myself personally that I was okay um using 254 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:11,959 Speaker 1: drugs and I was fine getting an epidural and and 255 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 1: in fact, that was a part of my birth plan. 256 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:19,199 Speaker 1: And another thing Rebecca really in the meetings that we 257 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: are talking about before the actual birth happened. When I 258 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: first met Rebecca, I had said to her, Um, if 259 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 1: I could you know, get the epidural immediately, I would like, 260 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: I would like to show up to the hospital and 261 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: just get the drugs. And I don't want to do this. 262 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:36,959 Speaker 1: I don't want to be a part of it. I 263 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 1: don't want to do this. I just want to get 264 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: my kid. I'm horrified. This sucks. I don't want to 265 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 1: do this. This is not fair. Can Adam do it? 266 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. And what Rebecca helped me come around 267 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 1: too was that in these meetings was that you know, 268 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: there you can try to do some of the early 269 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:00,320 Speaker 1: labor stages, even maybe some of the middles off on 270 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,720 Speaker 1: your own. UM, because there are some cases, not all, 271 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:06,120 Speaker 1: where you can get an epidural really really soon, and 272 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 1: it can make labor last much longer than it would have. 273 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:12,280 Speaker 1: And she also knew that I didn't want to be 274 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:14,560 Speaker 1: in labor for forty eight hours. I wanted to get 275 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:19,440 Speaker 1: this done, so Um, that was helpful, so that I 276 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: knew I could, Okay, let's try to go to the 277 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 1: hospital and do some of it on my own before 278 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: I got the epidural. Um. The other thing was so 279 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 1: helpful about Rebecca is that I was taking Rebecca's prenatal 280 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 1: yoga class and she knew that I was very strong physically, 281 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 1: and she was like, you're really strong. You can do this, 282 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: and I think you can labor for a while until 283 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 1: you need an epidural. I mean, you would never tell 284 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,120 Speaker 1: me what to do. You were very respectful of me 285 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: coming to that on my own. But I was so 286 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 1: grateful that I waited personally, because I really was someone 287 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 1: who was like, I don't want to experience this at all, 288 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 1: Like I just want to get it over with. And 289 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: in our meetings you really helped me come to a 290 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: place where, Okay, I'm going to be able to have 291 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:05,040 Speaker 1: it all. I'm gonna be able to experience some of it. 292 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 1: I'm going to be able to experience it to the 293 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: place that I want to and I'm going to just 294 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: know when it's time too that I want to get 295 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: the epidural, which is what I did. UM, and I 296 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: think I labored for like nine hours, but thank I mean, 297 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 1: the whole thing was only sixteen hours, very very UM 298 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: big blessing, blessing, because a lot of inductions can take 299 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 1: at the least twenty four hours, so UM, it was 300 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: sixteen hours. And it was really it just flew by 301 00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 1: to me, UM and getting the epidul wasn't a big 302 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:40,640 Speaker 1: deal at all. And Rebecca was Adam had to leave 303 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: the room for the epidural because he can't see big needles, 304 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 1: and that was something we had also discussed in our 305 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: birth plan, was that that's when Rebecca says, go go 306 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: get yourself a sandwich or whatever it was, and then 307 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: we um got the epidul. But I don't even I 308 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 1: just looked into your eyes. I had a contraction while 309 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:00,120 Speaker 1: he was putting in the needle. It was an not 310 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 1: a big deal. All these things I was scared of 311 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: were not a big deal at the time. And I 312 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: and I thank you because I think a lot of 313 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:09,520 Speaker 1: that was just looking in your eyes and holding your 314 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: hands and um, why don't you talk a little bit about, um, 315 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,840 Speaker 1: how you helped Adam in the room or a partner 316 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 1: who might necessarily be birthing themselves. You know, I think, Um, 317 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: you know, there's a lot of people in the room. 318 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: Sometimes people have their whole families in the room, siblings, moms, dad's, 319 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 1: partners in any way shape form and what do you 320 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,880 Speaker 1: do for those people? Because I actually, I really do 321 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: think that half of the process of hiring Rebecca to 322 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: be our dula was as much for Adom as it 323 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: was for me. I think, first of all, I think 324 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: Adam did a great job being in the room because 325 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: even though he knew his limitations with medical interventions and 326 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:55,640 Speaker 1: you know, bodily fluids or needles or whatever were his 327 00:16:55,720 --> 00:17:00,280 Speaker 1: specific things, he was definitely a solid presence in the room. 328 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:03,040 Speaker 1: But because we had talked about what his limitations were 329 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:06,160 Speaker 1: and what he was comfortable doing or not doing. UM, 330 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:09,440 Speaker 1: I think I hope I made that transition for him 331 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:12,640 Speaker 1: to kind of exit the room at certain times. UM 332 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 1: feel like he was invited to do that and I 333 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:17,280 Speaker 1: take care of himself for a little bit and then 334 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:19,960 Speaker 1: come back. Not that he was pushed out, because certainly 335 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 1: if he had changed his mind in the moment and 336 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: wanted to stay even though we had talked about it. 337 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 1: I would not have I would have been the one 338 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:29,080 Speaker 1: to leave the room only because only one person can 339 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: stay in the room when the epadrol is being administered. Oh, 340 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. So it kind of worked out 341 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 1: because it was either going to be Adam steps out 342 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: or I step out. But Adam didn't want to be 343 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,920 Speaker 1: there for that particular part. Adams the dude that when 344 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 1: he gets the flu shot looks the other way. I 345 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 1: can't even see that, and I'm pretty sure and epidul 346 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 1: is a way bigger needle than that. But don't worry, guys. 347 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 1: In my experience, I didn't feel anything. That's fine, And often, 348 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: just so everybody knows, you know, if you don't have 349 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: a duel, or you don't have a person in the 350 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 1: room besides your partner, and your partner is not interested 351 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:02,160 Speaker 1: in long needles are being a part of that process, 352 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 1: you still will expectant mother will still not be alone. 353 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: The nurse will then come around and take the role 354 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:10,640 Speaker 1: of that support person and let the mother. Yeah, let 355 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:14,359 Speaker 1: the mother createle in and hold on um during the process. 356 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 1: Let me give you guys a visual Like yeah, Like, 357 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,040 Speaker 1: so if when you're getting a dural, you don't sit 358 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 1: on the bed the way the bed goes your you 359 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:26,439 Speaker 1: sit on it the other way, Like, how would I 360 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:29,480 Speaker 1: explain that? Like sideways on the bed. We sit sideways 361 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:31,639 Speaker 1: on the bed with your back as close to the 362 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 1: edge as you can, and he's behind you, so you 363 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:35,679 Speaker 1: don't see the needle. You don't see anything, but in 364 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 1: front of you is a nurse or your partner of 365 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:43,159 Speaker 1: some sort holding both of your hands with your legs 366 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: straight out in front of you, so that if a 367 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: contraction comes on, you can squeeze their hands as hard 368 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:49,880 Speaker 1: as you can while they're administering the needle in your back, 369 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: which you don't I didn't even see it, right, You 370 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: don't see anything. The partner would see it if they're looking, 371 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,240 Speaker 1: But they also don't have to because you could both 372 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: be based down looking down on the bed and mom 373 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:04,720 Speaker 1: has to really round her back, so you could both 374 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: really just kind of hide out for a minute. Um 375 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 1: in cocoon in but still um. The other great thing 376 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 1: about Rebecca for a partner, and sometimes people have labors 377 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:18,480 Speaker 1: that are very very very long, and you know the 378 00:19:18,520 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 1: partner has to also eat and drink and be okay, 379 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,360 Speaker 1: because labor is a very physical thing, no matter how 380 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: you choose to do it, whether you're at home or 381 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:28,439 Speaker 1: in a hospital with drugs, about drugs whatever it is 382 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: um and people need to take breaks. It's exhausting. And 383 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:35,919 Speaker 1: so Rebecca is this awesome reminder to Adam where it 384 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 1: was like, you know what, Katie's going to rest for 385 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, why don't you go and get yourself water 386 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 1: or food or you can shut your eyes for an hour, 387 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,239 Speaker 1: whatever that is. It was just like lovely that you 388 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: were allowing him to do that, because I don't know 389 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 1: if Adam would have done it on his own, he 390 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: probably would have felt bad. Yeah, I've had certain fathers 391 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 1: or just partners that really don't want to step out 392 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 1: of the room at all, and so they'll be stuck 393 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:02,399 Speaker 1: in a particular alert position that's not necessarily comfortable for 394 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:05,480 Speaker 1: many hours, thinking well, my wife needs that me to 395 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 1: be here in this position, and they don't want to 396 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:10,160 Speaker 1: change that position. And I am looking out not only 397 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 1: for the expectant mother, but if the father hasn't changed 398 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: his position himself for a little while, I make sure 399 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: that I remind partners, and I'm sure I reminded adam 400 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 1: um to stretch because yeah, big big on stretching for 401 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 1: myself and for whoever else is support team, because it 402 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 1: is very physical to hold mama's legs up and help um, 403 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 1: you know, the expectant mom do squats or get in 404 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:35,959 Speaker 1: and out of the bed, or when there is an 405 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 1: epidural to help switch positions where you're literally lifting the 406 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,920 Speaker 1: pregnant woman's body weight to help them. Crazy. So when 407 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:46,159 Speaker 1: you get the epidural and it's so, I'm just so 408 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 1: glad my labor wasn't long because I actually I think 409 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 1: if I would have been laying like that for twenty hours, 410 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: I would have flipped out. Because so when the epidural happens, 411 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 1: it's such a sweet relief for the contractions to be gone. 412 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:00,119 Speaker 1: But now you're faced with another thing, which is your 413 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:04,960 Speaker 1: legs are just jello dead. I had never felt anything 414 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 1: like that, Like my legs were just you know, from 415 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: your abdomen down, No, not my abdom just my legs down. 416 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:15,160 Speaker 1: I think they're just the heaviest it literally, I thought 417 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,359 Speaker 1: they were like dead bluga whale seals on the beach, 418 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,359 Speaker 1: Like that's like what it felt like, and so you 419 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,639 Speaker 1: could be laying in one position and then all of 420 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: a sudden, the baby gets really comfortable and their heart 421 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,760 Speaker 1: rates starts to drop a little bit, which is okay, 422 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,959 Speaker 1: I it was nothing to be nervous about. Everyone had 423 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,400 Speaker 1: told me. But the nurses will come in when that happens, 424 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,239 Speaker 1: and they have to switch your position to get their 425 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,960 Speaker 1: heart rate back up again quite quickly and quite quickly. 426 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 1: And that's why Rebecca is talking about how physical that 427 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:43,840 Speaker 1: is to even get you to move, because you know 428 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: they're moving huge muscles that I had no control over 429 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 1: switching sides or anything like that. I just was like, yeah, 430 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: And when you're changing those positions for a mom with 431 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,479 Speaker 1: an upper jural, not only are you lifting their body, 432 00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: you have to quickly get them in the next position 433 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: for the baby's heart rate, and you have to get 434 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 1: them in that position also with a lot of space 435 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,200 Speaker 1: between the legs, so you're not just putting them over 436 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: on their side or side to side and and leaving 437 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,280 Speaker 1: their body there. You have to then kind of pat 438 00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: it up with a bunch of pillows and um, making 439 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:19,200 Speaker 1: space in between the legs. So it's physical, and um, 440 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: I can't believe we did this. You're still talking to 441 00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: you and I'm like what, so, you guys, the end 442 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:30,479 Speaker 1: of my labor after we had the water break and 443 00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:33,200 Speaker 1: I labored for a while with Rebecca moving me into 444 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:37,440 Speaker 1: all different positions and whatnot. Then um, I got the 445 00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: other dural and then I laid for three hours, moving 446 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 1: positions when the heart rate would drop a little bit, 447 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: and I started to get super upset, like, oh my gosh, 448 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 1: I felt like this was moving so fast and everything 449 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 1: was going and now I've been laying here like a 450 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,359 Speaker 1: slug for three hours and this is never going to happen. 451 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: Like I don't know what to do. I just feel 452 00:22:57,800 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: like I'm laying here and I'm so tired. I didn't 453 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:01,800 Speaker 1: sleep it on you guys. I really loved my sleep. 454 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: So I was bummed about that. And the nurse came 455 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 1: in and said, well, why don't I just check you 456 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:10,879 Speaker 1: and see, you know, maybe things have progressed. And she 457 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 1: checked me, which, by you guys, a check is basically 458 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,439 Speaker 1: just like fingers up your vagina and just f y 459 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 1: I yes. Um. So she checked me and she looked 460 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: at me and she said, oh my gosh, you're ten 461 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:25,919 Speaker 1: centimeters and you're faced, which ten centimeters means you're the 462 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,200 Speaker 1: w you want to be, and a faced means that 463 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: your lining of your cervix has gotten shorter and shorter 464 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: and shorter. So now it's time. And I started sterical 465 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:36,959 Speaker 1: crying like, oh my gosh, I can't believe this, like 466 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, thank you, I can't believe it, 467 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:44,280 Speaker 1: like I'm there, I'm there, and um, to make a 468 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: long story short, um, the nurses and Rebecca got a 469 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,200 Speaker 1: call down from my ob saying, well, why doesn't she 470 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: just try a practice push and let's see if there's 471 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,640 Speaker 1: any action going on down there? Because what I've since 472 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 1: learned in going through all of this is that you really, 473 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to push until you're ready, until it's time. Um. 474 00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:05,160 Speaker 1: Some people have like if they're put they push way 475 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: before they're ready, and so that just means when you 476 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 1: say time, that just basically means that the strongest, most 477 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 1: overwhelming sensation in the woman's body is to push right 478 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 1: that that there's nothing else that makes sense in that 479 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: moment except to push right. UM. And some people push 480 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,920 Speaker 1: before they feel that, and that's when you start to 481 00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: get into some major problems with Holy crap, I was 482 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 1: pushing for hours and hours and hours, which is not good, correct, right. So, um, 483 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 1: so they wanted me to just do a practice push 484 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,920 Speaker 1: and just see if there was any movement down there 485 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,159 Speaker 1: and if it was really time to go. And I 486 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,000 Speaker 1: did a practice push and the nurses saw and because 487 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 1: I was a rocks there, because I've been practicing pushing 488 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:53,640 Speaker 1: for months in Rebecca's yoga class, they said, holy crap, 489 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 1: we're going to call your doctor down to come right now. 490 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,880 Speaker 1: So my doctor comes down. Rebecca is pushing one leg 491 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,679 Speaker 1: to my stomach. Adam's pushing was Adam pushing up? No? No No, no, no, 492 00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,120 Speaker 1: Adam was up by me because we can get into 493 00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:09,200 Speaker 1: this in another podcast. But Adam, Um and I had 494 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 1: talked about him seeing my vagina or not. He ended 495 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,399 Speaker 1: up yes, he did see my vagina, which I'll tell 496 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 1: you all about himself. Um. And that is also something 497 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 1: that you established early on as a duela is does 498 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,119 Speaker 1: the woman have a specific idea in mind of where 499 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,480 Speaker 1: her partners should be or where she her partner should 500 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 1: not be. Yeah, where exactly, or where where she really 501 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 1: wants her partner to be for that process, Because some 502 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:36,040 Speaker 1: women are fine being completely open, exposed and vulnerable in 503 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: that way, and other women have a very specific idea 504 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: that they want their partner to stay up by their head, 505 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: head and shoulders in their ear and adoring them and 506 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,960 Speaker 1: telling them lovely things. Yeah. So a nurse seater's lovely 507 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 1: nurse named Angela had one of my legs and Rebecca 508 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:53,560 Speaker 1: had the other one of my legs, and Adam was 509 00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 1: up by my head and I just the nurse. My 510 00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 1: doctor came in and said, so, I heard you did 511 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 1: like a good practice push. Let me see one. I 512 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,679 Speaker 1: did another practice push and she said, holy crap, I'm 513 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:05,159 Speaker 1: gonna put on my scrub and we're going to have 514 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,000 Speaker 1: a baby in three minutes. And I was like what. 515 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,320 Speaker 1: And Adam and I remember it like so clearly. We 516 00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 1: put our heads to each other, like, you know, forehead 517 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: to forehead, and he just said, I I hope the baby. 518 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: I hope our son is just like you. And I said, 519 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 1: I hope our son is just like you. That maybe correct, 520 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 1: And then I pushed like a few more times and 521 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 1: is that what happened? Yeah, that's where Rebecca saw it. Yes, 522 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 1: And I have tears in my eyes because that is 523 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,440 Speaker 1: the moment I'm talking about why I'm Adulla. Those moments, 524 00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,320 Speaker 1: those sweet, tender moments. Who gets to witness that, I 525 00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,040 Speaker 1: get to witness that the best that we get best