Speaker 1: This is Conversationous with Olivia Jade and I Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, you welcome back to another episode of Conversations.
Speaker 1: I am your host, Olivia Jade, and today I have
Speaker 1: a special guest from a reality TV show on Netflix
Speaker 1: that I've actually recently binge watched. I didn't actually finish
Speaker 1: it yet, though, and so I think there might be
Speaker 1: some spoiler alerts because I'm feeling very nosy and I
Speaker 1: don't know when I'll get another opportunity to interview one
Speaker 1: of the cast members. But please welcome Danielle from Love
Speaker 1: Is Blind. Well, thank you so much for coming on today.
Speaker 1: I absolutely loved watching your journey on the show along
Speaker 1: with others. How was that experience? Like, where are you from?
Speaker 1: Do you want to just give like an overall background
Speaker 1: and then maybe explain how you even got the opportunity
Speaker 1: to be on the show. Yeah, it's it's crazy. I'm
Speaker 1: from a small town UM in Illinois, so this is
Speaker 1: a great experience UM to go through. So you're up
Speaker 1: in Ottawa, Illinois, UM, which is a relatively against small town,
Speaker 1: and then went to the University of Illinois to study
Speaker 1: advertising and I now work UM as an associate marketing
Speaker 1: director UM, which I really enjoy so again, like it's
Speaker 1: so crazy to now be in UM this kind of
Speaker 1: entertainment space. But there was a couple of different things,
Speaker 1: and I know I kind of spoke about them on
Speaker 1: the show that kind of had me gravitate towards this
Speaker 1: experience UM. And the main one is that I actually
Speaker 1: have like a certain personality type that I naturally gravitate towards,
Speaker 1: and even like going through dating apps, it's so hard
Speaker 1: for me to get a sense of like who I
Speaker 1: would want to go on a date with, because I'm
Speaker 1: more attracted to someone's energy than I am the way
Speaker 1: that they look. And most of the dates that I
Speaker 1: ended up going on I almost said no to just
Speaker 1: based on the pictures that they took and not even
Speaker 1: necessarily like looks. It's like, oh, this person has a
Speaker 1: certain dress, they might not necessarily be interested in me,
Speaker 1: or this person all the time I don't do that
Speaker 1: they might not be, and then going out with them,
Speaker 1: you realize it doesn't even matter. It's like the personality
Speaker 1: UM kind of that I that I gravitate towards, but
Speaker 1: that personality ended up being like me. So I'm the
Speaker 1: only dating people that were like me, and it obviously
Speaker 1: never worked out. And so one of the coolest things
Speaker 1: about the Pods was not only like not seeing someone
Speaker 1: or basing it off their apperiance. It was dating fifteen people,
Speaker 1: finding people that acted like me, but gravitating towards the
Speaker 1: one person who was almost like completely opposite. And I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, this is what I should
Speaker 1: have been going for this entire time, and that's why ultimately,
Speaker 1: like we are still going strong. Yeah, you guys are
Speaker 1: one of the few couples left right, Yeah, there were
Speaker 1: two couples that got married and we're still together. Yeah. Wow,
Speaker 1: congrats on that. So after this experience, do you believe
Speaker 1: like that an emotional connection is more important than physical attraction? Oh? Completely, completely.
Speaker 1: I think like the more you get to know someone,
Speaker 1: the more attract If they've become totally in every relationship
Speaker 1: I have had, that kind of just naturally happened. But
Speaker 1: having that without seeing them and then seeing them, it's
Speaker 1: just like they're already attractive to you, right, I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: once you also know somebody, you find them attractive, so
Speaker 1: that even like anything they do becomes attractive. And I
Speaker 1: actually relate to that a lot, Um, how did you
Speaker 1: get How did you even find the show? How did
Speaker 1: that come about? Yeah? So, um it was actually someone
Speaker 1: who I talked with on Instagram who didn't really even
Speaker 1: give what the show was, just asked if I would
Speaker 1: be interested, gave a high level overview of kind of
Speaker 1: what the experience was like. Um, so I had a
Speaker 1: good guess. But after having a couple more conversations about
Speaker 1: just you know, the premise and what they're truly looking for,
Speaker 1: what I'd be truly looking for, I was like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's do it. Yeah, for sure, that's awesome. When you
Speaker 1: were on the show, was it hard to avoid picturing
Speaker 1: what other people look like or like even when you
Speaker 1: were talking to your now husband, did you like have
Speaker 1: an idea of what that was? Okay, So, even when
Speaker 1: I'm on work calls and it's not on camera, the
Speaker 1: picture that I have in my head is so I'm
Speaker 1: so wrong. All the time time that I tried to
Speaker 1: picture someone, and so with almost everyone that I was
Speaker 1: like dating, I had this idea of what they looked
Speaker 1: like in my head. Again, completely wrong about everyone. But
Speaker 1: for some reason, the more I tried to picture Nick,
Speaker 1: the more I couldn't and it's like part of me
Speaker 1: didn't want to do that, but part of me did.
Speaker 1: But the more I think about it, I was like,
Speaker 1: I can literally only picture him as this blue wall
Speaker 1: because I'm falling in love with the voice behind it
Speaker 1: and that's what I'm staring at the entire time. So
Speaker 1: it was like it was so weird because I did
Speaker 1: have like a visual of everyone else, but he was
Speaker 1: the one person like I literally cannot even like maybe
Speaker 1: maybe that's a good thing. So then when you saw him,
Speaker 1: it's not like you were like had these expectations, you
Speaker 1: were just like content. Yeah, seeing him for the first
Speaker 1: time was crazy because again, like I had absolutely no
Speaker 1: expectations of what he would look like. But the second
Speaker 1: I saw him, I was like this makes sense, like
Speaker 1: and that was like the weirdest thing where it's like
Speaker 1: it wasn't you know. It was because like again like
Speaker 1: both of us kind of believe that it was fate,
Speaker 1: um and we talked about this for so many different
Speaker 1: reasons um, and just like having that feeling of like, oh,
Speaker 1: like this is exactly what I was expecting and I
Speaker 1: wasn't expecting anything. I was just like that's crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's so exciting. Though, because like also, you definitely you
Speaker 1: go in with an open mind, but to actually come
Speaker 1: out of it with like a full blown husband was
Speaker 1: probably not your expectation. I was like, I still look,
Speaker 1: I'm like, did this actually what's happening? Am I gonna
Speaker 1: wake up tomorrow? Like when did the show? Like when
Speaker 1: is it? Because I'm assuming it's not real time? Right?
Speaker 1: They have to edit do all this stuff, like did
Speaker 1: you guys shoot this month's prior you got married June? Okay,
Speaker 1: so it's been a minute. Oh wow, you guys have
Speaker 1: been together for a while going strong. Congrats When you
Speaker 1: guys were in like the actual pods, when was the
Speaker 1: like the moment you knew you had feelings for one another?
Speaker 1: Was there like a pinpoint moment in your head where
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, okay, I like this guy. It's and again,
Speaker 1: like I am not an aggressive person. I am a
Speaker 1: girl's girl through and through. I usually shy away if
Speaker 1: other people are interested in someone that I am. And again,
Speaker 1: it does like kind of fall into the insecurities that
Speaker 1: I had. But um, and also I just like I'm
Speaker 1: a people pleaser, So it's like I don't want to
Speaker 1: make other people mad, and so um it was actually
Speaker 1: day two. It was so crazy because the first conversation
Speaker 1: you have is it is a pretty quick date, and
Speaker 1: immediately it's just like you know, and it's kind of
Speaker 1: like you're getting to know each other someone painstakenly slow,
Speaker 1: just because you're like, oh my god, like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: the time's already up. And then our second date, um,
Speaker 1: I cried, like I lead left crying and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I've already not felt this level of emotions.
Speaker 1: It was crazy. I like didn't even believe it. I
Speaker 1: was sitting there like I need to call someone that
Speaker 1: knows me so I can explain how crazy this is.
Speaker 1: They're not going to believe it. But it's like it's
Speaker 1: crazy the like a motions that you can develop. And
Speaker 1: that's why, um I kind of did. Like there was
Speaker 1: a lot of other people interested in Nick and I
Speaker 1: typically again like would shy away and maybe like not
Speaker 1: be aggressive about it, but I was like, I'm so
Speaker 1: confident that I'm just gonna like go all in on him.
Speaker 1: Um So day three actually, um that I decided to
Speaker 1: kind of like already cut everyone off. I know, like
Speaker 1: you're supposed to keep an open mind, but I was
Speaker 1: just like, yeah, I was just like there, it's just
Speaker 1: the way that I felt about him so quickly. I
Speaker 1: was like, there's no way I could catch up with
Speaker 1: anyone else. Yeah, And it was like the next day
Speaker 1: that he kind of gave me the same feelings where
Speaker 1: it's like I wrote actually the same exact letter about
Speaker 1: you last night. So oh my gosh, that's beautiful. You
Speaker 1: guys are like in sync. You two obviously got engaged
Speaker 1: on the show. I always wonder, I'm like, because I
Speaker 1: put myself like, I'm like, if my sister or somebody
Speaker 1: went on the show that I was really close with
Speaker 1: and they met this guy and then they were engaged
Speaker 1: in a few weeks, I'd be like, as a sister,
Speaker 1: super hesitant, I'd be like, wait, do you know this guy?
Speaker 1: How did your parents or your family feel about it?
Speaker 1: So it's interesting because my family on my mom's side,
Speaker 1: they kind of like are the same as me where
Speaker 1: they feed off of energy or my energy. And when
Speaker 1: I um first introduced him to my mom's side, immediately
Speaker 1: they were like, the way that you act around him
Speaker 1: is completely different than anyone else you've ever dated. And
Speaker 1: you know, it was actually like my mom pulled me
Speaker 1: aside once he had left and was like, wow, like
Speaker 1: I really like you two together. So they were like, yeah,
Speaker 1: my dad, he's a little bit more um critical, you know,
Speaker 1: like very hesitant. He's like, Danielle, don't do this, take
Speaker 1: your time, um. But I think ultimately he cares about
Speaker 1: me and didn't want me to end up getting hurt.
Speaker 1: But I had to go with my gut. But the
Speaker 1: one thing that I actually thought was super interesting was
Speaker 1: the absolute most critical person in my entire life about
Speaker 1: everything is my grandma. Like she hates TV. She like
Speaker 1: doesn't watch it. She didn't want me to like expose
Speaker 1: myself to even that. And so when I told her,
Speaker 1: like I'm going on a TV show to to find
Speaker 1: a potential husband, she was mad at me, like legit mad.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, and she tells, she tells
Speaker 1: the truth, Like anyone you her, she will be like,
Speaker 1: I hate him. And so we were actually the most
Speaker 1: nervous to meet my grandma. Um. So Nick and I
Speaker 1: went to meet my grandma and she said the same
Speaker 1: exact thing is my mom's side of the family. Actually,
Speaker 1: She's like, you guys knew what each other was gonna
Speaker 1: do before you even did it and you've only known
Speaker 1: each other for a short amount of time. She's like,
Speaker 1: I've never seen you in that state before. So it's
Speaker 1: just like now that all of my family is getting
Speaker 1: to know them, Yeah, like like it would that's so perfect,
Speaker 1: I know because obviously, like in relationships, it's very important
Speaker 1: for your family to like your significant other, Like it's huge,
Speaker 1: especially if you're getting married to them, um, or you
Speaker 1: are married in this case, Um, did you watch season
Speaker 1: one and was anything like was anything like to be
Speaker 1: expected or did anything happen on the show that was
Speaker 1: super unexpected or were there surprises? You know there weren't
Speaker 1: necessarily surprises because I did watch the first season, Um,
Speaker 1: I mean the fact that I the biggest surprise for
Speaker 1: me really was the feelings because I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can meet someone, Yeah you can, like I want
Speaker 1: to get to know them better. But again, it's like
Speaker 1: it's crazy the way that they designed the experiment, Like
Speaker 1: it's like the amount of feeling like I can't even
Speaker 1: articulate it because it's like for me, it's still even
Speaker 1: hard to believe that in three days, like I told
Speaker 1: him I love you first too. I've never done that,
Speaker 1: And yeah, and like I've literally only said that to
Speaker 1: one other person that I was in a relationship before,
Speaker 1: and that was just like did I say that? And
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. And
Speaker 1: that's like the thing that was most surprising. It's like,
Speaker 1: holy crap, Like now I see what you know why
Speaker 1: everyone in the first season, you know, developed the relationships
Speaker 1: that they had, um, because like it's again like a
Speaker 1: feeling that no one else will be able to ever
Speaker 1: really yeah unless they go through it. Yeah crazy. Um.
Speaker 1: I also like I really admired how like open you
Speaker 1: were on the show and just talking about like things
Speaker 1: that I maybe wouldn't even like go out and say
Speaker 1: publicly just about myself or how I view myself for
Speaker 1: talking about like your panic attacks, And I really admire that.
Speaker 1: And I thought also he looked like he has like
Speaker 1: a great way to support you. Was that scary at
Speaker 1: first being that open with him and like maybe being
Speaker 1: terrified would that scare him away? And I think it
Speaker 1: was like scary at first, but actually after going through
Speaker 1: the experiment, I found that the more I talked about it,
Speaker 1: the easier it actually does become. Because there are so
Speaker 1: many other people that really and so just realizing that
Speaker 1: you know, you're not alone in the way that you feel,
Speaker 1: and other people might experience similar struggles. Like my definition
Speaker 1: of anxiety is obviously going to be different than a
Speaker 1: different another person's definition of it. Um. But when I
Speaker 1: was growing up, I wouldn't tell anyone, like I would
Speaker 1: completely mask it, um and that ultimately just made me
Speaker 1: feel worse. And now that I've spoken extremely publicly about it,
Speaker 1: it actually allows me to talk about it with anyone. Like,
Speaker 1: even before this came out, I was finding myself more
Speaker 1: vocal about certain things that I felt since a kid.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, and it did help me, and it
Speaker 1: helped others because they're like, oh my god, I feel
Speaker 1: that same way too, and I've never told anyone. And
Speaker 1: I think that that's like one of the most gratifying
Speaker 1: parts about all of this, you know, is like there
Speaker 1: have been like a lot of wonderful people who have
Speaker 1: been like, oh my gosh, I feel like this, Like
Speaker 1: you've made me feel better about myself, and um, like
Speaker 1: I read your posts and I was able to stop
Speaker 1: crying and take up on today and like that's what
Speaker 1: matters to me. Yeah, for sure, Because also, like anytime
Speaker 1: you talk about your own experiences and if you feel
Speaker 1: like that's helping somebody else, it's so fulfilling. And also
Speaker 1: it becomes less scary to talk about because you're like, wow,
Speaker 1: so many other people feel the exact same way as me. Um.
Speaker 1: Was this like a learning curve for him or did
Speaker 1: he have to like was it at first like it
Speaker 1: was just like he really understood and he was patient,
Speaker 1: and UM it just kind of like clicked and worked
Speaker 1: through like supporting one another. Is this something you guys
Speaker 1: have had to adjust and work through as you've been together.
Speaker 1: This is something that we're constantly working on, um, because again,
Speaker 1: like in one instance, I might need to just go
Speaker 1: and be alone. In one instance, I might need him
Speaker 1: to come and hug me, And I can't expect him
Speaker 1: to read my mind of what I need in every
Speaker 1: instance because it is different, UM. And so as we're
Speaker 1: going through different things, I have to learn to be
Speaker 1: more vocal about like it's not you because I want
Speaker 1: to be alone or you know, I want you to
Speaker 1: come over here and hug me. So I have to
Speaker 1: make sure that like I'm communicating and he's patient with
Speaker 1: you know, if it is kind of like different based
Speaker 1: on what like kind of is inducing the Yeah, I
Speaker 1: totally get what you mean. Yeah that makes sense. I
Speaker 1: feel like obviously they say communication is key for a reason. Um,
Speaker 1: you've been super open about your struggles with body weight
Speaker 1: and body image, and I feel like I have so
Speaker 1: many young girls on my just that listen or watch
Speaker 1: my YouTube videos that are constantly asking questions about that.
Speaker 1: It's again something I really really admire you talking about
Speaker 1: because I know other people can relate. Um, what helps you,
Speaker 1: like or what have you found just in life? Doesn't
Speaker 1: even have to be in your relationship that helps you
Speaker 1: stay positive, just something for like maybe some young girl
Speaker 1: or a little bit older listening. So um, one of
Speaker 1: the things that I've done since um because again, like
Speaker 1: seeing myself talk about myself like that or even like
Speaker 1: realizing that, you know, I was my own worst enemy
Speaker 1: like that was difficult, and like I wanted to start
Speaker 1: viewing myself the way that my friends do, the way
Speaker 1: that my husband does, the way that my family does.
Speaker 1: And so I bought a lot of like self love
Speaker 1: workbooks and it's actually like a guided um like weekly
Speaker 1: past that you have to do, and it learns to
Speaker 1: forgive yourself. It's like, Okay, I hate my stomach, but
Speaker 1: how else would I eat? Oh, my legs are fat,
Speaker 1: but how else would I walk? And it's like really
Speaker 1: really like rewiring your mind to appreciate your body for
Speaker 1: what it is and now what it looks like, but
Speaker 1: also focusing on more who you are um as a person.
Speaker 1: And every time that I'm like feeling low or I
Speaker 1: am feeling insecure, I give myself advice. As I went
Speaker 1: to a friend, so I am am Asian, like one
Speaker 1: of my best friends coming to me and saying something,
Speaker 1: and then I was on to them and it's like,
Speaker 1: this is true, this is true for yourself, this is
Speaker 1: true for everyone. So again, just like being a little
Speaker 1: bit kinder and patient to yourself because it's so much
Speaker 1: more than just what's on the scale or what you're buying.
Speaker 1: Really have to learn to love yourself from within and
Speaker 1: then everything else will kind of yeah easier. I agree
Speaker 1: with that. It's so hard though. It's so hard, especially
Speaker 1: because we're all our own harshest critics. Like you, the
Speaker 1: things you're pointing out about yourself, nobody else in the
Speaker 1: world is thinking about it, guarantee it. But it's like
Speaker 1: it's so impossible to like not feel that way when
Speaker 1: you're in your own shoes. Um. But anyway, did you
Speaker 1: guys watch the show back together? I'm really curious if
Speaker 1: people do that after they've been on a show. Um,
Speaker 1: the good part we did. Um. It was funny. When
Speaker 1: we watched our um proposal. We both cried. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: when I watched the wedding, I stopped like a baby
Speaker 1: for like two hours. It's so sweet. Yeah. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: it's like rewatching those moments and being able to like
Speaker 1: have all of that, you know, to watch the rest
Speaker 1: of our lives. It's like, it's so beautiful. I think
Speaker 1: we might have watched the proposal like twenty times. I
Speaker 1: haven't gone to that part yet. I'm really excited to
Speaker 1: see it. I still have oh wait, the proposal, like
Speaker 1: the like in the bubble, in the bubble, Oh, I
Speaker 1: did see that. I'm way past that part. That was
Speaker 1: really cute. It's really fun to watch. Honestly, I love
Speaker 1: it was there. I don't know if you can even
Speaker 1: answer this, because I don't know how these shows work
Speaker 1: and like what you're allowed to say, well you're not
Speaker 1: allowed to say. But is it really just like straight
Speaker 1: reality or is there like is it like a little
Speaker 1: scripted in the pods. Like it's like, really, we just
Speaker 1: naturally like talked about every single thing that we wanted
Speaker 1: to Like, yeah, we were we were just like and again,
Speaker 1: like you really don't like it's like the cameras aren't visible.
Speaker 1: You're really just like going in and having like whatever
Speaker 1: conversation do you want? And him. That's why it's like
Speaker 1: crazy that him and I like immediately started having these
Speaker 1: deep conversations. But it was because our energies connected like
Speaker 1: so quickly that it was like, I'm going to tell
Speaker 1: you every single thing that's ever happened in my life
Speaker 1: that no one even knows about. It's like, wow, I
Speaker 1: can't relieve I just did that. I'm like National TV.
Speaker 1: I love it. Um, you guys are one of the
Speaker 1: only couples obviously you said they're another couple, but you're
Speaker 1: one of the last men's standing. So what do you
Speaker 1: think the key to that is or why do you
Speaker 1: think maybe you guys are the duo that has made
Speaker 1: it through a lot. I think we just constantly looked
Speaker 1: back to the love that we have for one another
Speaker 1: and restating what caused us to fall in love in
Speaker 1: the first place. Because it is really difficult. Like one
Speaker 1: of the things that I say is there's a reason
Speaker 1: that you know people date because there are certain steps
Speaker 1: that you know, you get to learn about one another.
Speaker 1: And even just like in terms of communication, it's like
Speaker 1: speaking a different language. It's like you don't just actually
Speaker 1: learned how to talk the way that someone else has talk,
Speaker 1: or interpret something that someone else is interpreting, and every
Speaker 1: everyone's definition of one thing is different than another person's.
Speaker 1: Um So I think like this experience specifically does throw
Speaker 1: you into tough situations very quickly that help you like
Speaker 1: also overcome like like some of the arguments that we
Speaker 1: had actually are beneficial because if we wouldn't have had those,
Speaker 1: what if they happened after we were married and so um,
Speaker 1: Like that was beneficial, but also it was like tough
Speaker 1: to go through. But I think like that's one of
Speaker 1: the things that actually did end up helping and then
Speaker 1: um doing like couples therapy after that, because we did
Speaker 1: need the extra help to learn how to communicate with
Speaker 1: each other, learn that each other's definitions of things, and
Speaker 1: so again just like constantly reminding ourselves like hey, like
Speaker 1: we're gonna be okay, We're married, We're stuck together. We're
Speaker 1: gonna get this. None of these stupid fights are are
Speaker 1: worth it, and so it's kind of like keeping that
Speaker 1: in the back of our head. Would you say, you
Speaker 1: guys are still in like the honeymoon phase. You know,
Speaker 1: it's so weird because I feel like we're still like boring,
Speaker 1: not like boring, Like we have a lot of fun together,
Speaker 1: but it's just like so normal. Yeah. I think I
Speaker 1: think the high like we had, like the one day
Speaker 1: of honeymoon fizz is like this one day in Mexico,
Speaker 1: we were just like having so much fun. But I mean,
Speaker 1: I think there are certain times we're having it's just
Speaker 1: like again, like this is such a weird experience and
Speaker 1: it's so hard to articulately totally get it. But it's
Speaker 1: like it's already like he's best friends with my family
Speaker 1: and my best friends. I'm best friends with his best
Speaker 1: friends and his family. And so because of that, and
Speaker 1: because it's progressed so fast, and partly because of like
Speaker 1: the different stuffs that you go through within the experiment,
Speaker 1: Like it's just like we're like a couple that's been
Speaker 1: married for like that's what it feels like. What's like
Speaker 1: your biggest takeaway from this whole experience or something that
Speaker 1: you learned the most about yourself. About myself, um, I
Speaker 1: would say like making sure that I don't project my
Speaker 1: own own insecurities or anxieties on to other people, because
Speaker 1: like recognizing that there are times where and even still
Speaker 1: now and I'm getting better at it, it's something that
Speaker 1: I'm still working on. It's like I could be upset
Speaker 1: about something in my entire Bible change and I won't
Speaker 1: necessarily realize that the Bible change, and then I'll be
Speaker 1: hypersensitive to something that someone else will say. And that
Speaker 1: happened a lot throughout the experiment, and again like rewatching
Speaker 1: that and understanding that and being able to work on
Speaker 1: it in both like individual therapy and couples therapy, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: Like here are different tools that I can put in
Speaker 1: place to make sure like if I am feeling a
Speaker 1: certain way, I'm not projecting. I think, like my insecurities,
Speaker 1: like I am a lot more confident now and it's
Speaker 1: it's never just going to completely fade, but but being
Speaker 1: able to like actually find reasons to love myself and
Speaker 1: just not wait stuff Like I was like, oh, I
Speaker 1: have a double tin there and I don't even care.
Speaker 1: It's so important it really is. And I also feel
Speaker 1: like it's I mean, at least in like my well,
Speaker 1: obviously I'm not married, nor have I ever been close
Speaker 1: to getting married or engaged. But my experience with boyfriends,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling insecure about something and they're constantly like
Speaker 1: hyping you up or making you feel beautiful, like kind
Speaker 1: of like in a weird way, it does help because
Speaker 1: you're just like, okay, somebody else can recognize, like, and
Speaker 1: then you feel a little less crazy for thinking it
Speaker 1: yourself and you're like, okay, we're all good, everything's fine.
Speaker 1: But it is like that reassurance and just like being complimented.
Speaker 1: It's just like a lovely feeling. And I think you, like, actually,
Speaker 1: you bring up a good point, Like I think that
Speaker 1: part of the way that we met without seeing each other,
Speaker 1: like I felt so confident in our relationship without having
Speaker 1: like any looks in that again, like my biggest fear
Speaker 1: was the reveal, Like I like I like before like Nick,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, Daniel, what what
Speaker 1: the heck did you get yourself into? Like you're like
Speaker 1: like insecure person and now you're gonna have to like
Speaker 1: see someone. Um, and that was like leading up to
Speaker 1: like going to actually take part in it. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, what are you thinking? But again, like
Speaker 1: because we met without seeing each other, I wasn't as
Speaker 1: worried about what he thought about me. And like I
Speaker 1: gained fifteen pounds during filming this, to be honest, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and like usually I would let that bug me, but
Speaker 1: because I was engaged to someone who I know could
Speaker 1: care less, it bugged me less too. I think that's
Speaker 1: a huge testament to the show itself, Like that's so
Speaker 1: incredible that like you wouldn't even because just as a
Speaker 1: normal human we overthink everything. Even that doesn't matter, Like
Speaker 1: why does it even matter if you gained or lost
Speaker 1: fifteen pounds? It shouldn't matter, Yeah, exactly, you know, but
Speaker 1: that's so amazing that you found somebody where you're like,
Speaker 1: I, I I don't even care, Like I know they love
Speaker 1: me for me and it's not about what I look like.
Speaker 1: And that's like such a rewarding feeling. I'm sure, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, yeah, what is life looking like now? Um?
Speaker 1: We we're living together. Um, it's it's it's a blessing
Speaker 1: because we used to like it was funny like right
Speaker 1: after we when we weren't living together, most of our
Speaker 1: arguments would happen over text or de chat when we're working,
Speaker 1: and it would all be again about misinterpretations. And now
Speaker 1: that we're here, we still g chat and sometimes we'll
Speaker 1: misinterpret each other. But I can just peek in the
Speaker 1: other room and be like, hey, perfectly what I mean
Speaker 1: about that? Um? But yeah, so right now, it's it's
Speaker 1: been really good living with one another. Are so we're
Speaker 1: living at next place? Um or Nick's condo in Wicker Park. Um,
Speaker 1: it's we are looking for a new place just because
Speaker 1: we both work from home and I'm like in the
Speaker 1: kitchen and it's very hard for him to not be
Speaker 1: able to come to the in the kitchen, like pretty
Speaker 1: demanding jobs. But I would say, um, he's starting to
Speaker 1: get a little pissy with the cat, and do you
Speaker 1: have a cat? So I have a cat and he
Speaker 1: has a dog, and we're trying to train them to
Speaker 1: become best friends and they're getting there, but his dog
Speaker 1: tried eating my cat's proop the other day, and now
Speaker 1: I think he hates her. It's not your fault or
Speaker 1: your cats get a self cleaning, leaner, litter box, there solutions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then she's just like she hasses at him and
Speaker 1: she'll yell at I'm like, I swear it takes time.
Speaker 1: She'll stop hissing and it'll be okay. You know what, though,
Speaker 1: I get it. I have a really loud dog, and
Speaker 1: until my dog knows you really well, he will bark
Speaker 1: and scare you the entire time. And I'm like, trust me,
Speaker 1: I'm not making this up. Just give it some time,
Speaker 1: like it will be fine. So maybe that's just similar
Speaker 1: to your cat. I know, like before and again, before
Speaker 1: we lived together, he was like obsessed with my cat.
Speaker 1: She loved him more than me. And then now that
Speaker 1: we are living together, I'm like, please don't start hating her.
Speaker 1: He won't hold get out. That's here now and don't
Speaker 1: worry about that. It'll all be good. Are you guys
Speaker 1: just gonna keep it like pets for now or kids
Speaker 1: in the future. You just still riding the wave of
Speaker 1: being married. I mean, because it was such a like
Speaker 1: quick timeline. We're actually at our one year anniversary. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have like a mini party to celebrate, and then
Speaker 1: our two year anniversary, we're going to throw like a
Speaker 1: full blown reception where I want like all my family
Speaker 1: and friends that were able to make it the first time,
Speaker 1: um like just completely like made for us, because like
Speaker 1: that's really important to us to like keep celebrating and
Speaker 1: keeping our friends and family as a part of the celebration.
Speaker 1: We thought, like and again, we're not trying to put
Speaker 1: a timeline on it, but like maybe like in a
Speaker 1: three year mark, just because we have so many different
Speaker 1: trips and and things that we want to do beforehand,
Speaker 1: so we're definitely going to like at some point down
Speaker 1: the line. Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 1: I'm really happy for you. It sounds amazing. It sounds
Speaker 1: like your relationship is flourishing and all the right ways,
Speaker 1: which is so exciting. And also it proves reality TV
Speaker 1: can make you fall in up seriously, I like again,
Speaker 1: like that's my biggest takeaway, Like I cannot believe that
Speaker 1: it's like true, Like it's like but's so exciting, and congrats,
Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you so much. It was great talking
Speaker 1: with you. Yeah you too. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Speaker 1: Thank you you too. Bye bye.