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Speaker 1: What's at this Angela Yee, I'm G. G. MacGuire, I'm Lauria.

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Speaker 1: It slip service and we got passport cutting here with

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Speaker 1: us author. I was going to say, excuse me, she's

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Speaker 1: an author, author, M and man is for money. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you're up here because just last

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Speaker 1: week people were saying that we're a gold digger. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because we had the question like, when the rent and

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Speaker 1: the bills is this amount of money, how much should

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Speaker 1: the guy pay? And we were all saying that he

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Speaker 1: should pay the rent and we should pay the bills.

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Speaker 1: And now I didn't say I didn't say you all

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Speaker 1: that because I actually never have experience. I lived with

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Speaker 1: a guy one time ever didn't go so well. It

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Speaker 1: lasted for about a month, and I've never done it again.

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Speaker 1: And I was on Angela a month, yeah, and I

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Speaker 1: was only I think I was like two years on

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Speaker 1: yeah count but um yeah, so I've never really had

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Speaker 1: anybody help me pay my bills at all. Period. But

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Speaker 1: then I was reading your book and I was feeling like, category,

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Speaker 1: do you full under listen? I'm the super independent, yes,

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Speaker 1: take care of all my own ships. And I do

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Speaker 1: feel like, you know, guys don't really like independent women

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Speaker 1: like that. They are intimidated by it a lot because

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Speaker 1: some independent women don't give people the opportunity to do anything.

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Speaker 1: That's my problem is, and then you kind of shoot

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Speaker 1: yourself in the foot and then you condition them to

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Speaker 1: just be like, she ain't gonna accept it anyways, I

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna do it right and tell true. And then

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Speaker 1: guys always tell me that too. They're like, well, there's

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Speaker 1: nothing that I could do for you that you don't

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Speaker 1: do for yourself. So like, you know, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to even get you ever accept your help? Do

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Speaker 1: you have a hard time accept them? I don't like

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Speaker 1: to accept things. So that's that's definitely one of the

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Speaker 1: qualities of the independent woman. Not only do they not

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Speaker 1: want to ask, they don't want to take either you know,

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Speaker 1: somebody's offering or even as a gift. They feel like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't want nobody to say that they did this

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Speaker 1: or did that for me. I'm like, I just thank you.

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Speaker 1: I think guys like the damsel in distressed love. They

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Speaker 1: love yeah, let me take that back. They love to

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Speaker 1: be the guy that came and saved the day. They

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Speaker 1: want to until you're depending on him and it makes

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Speaker 1: you dependent. So here's the thing is that you can't

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Speaker 1: for real be yeah, fine, you gotta pretend to be

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Speaker 1: the damns lill distress. But if they don't come through,

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Speaker 1: it's like I got fine, whatever, I got it. I

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Speaker 1: think I'm good at doing that at this point because

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Speaker 1: most guys can't get the stuff for me that I

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Speaker 1: could get from myself. Oh well that's a problem. Yeah

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Speaker 1: that may yeah, that may be true, but sometimes looks

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Speaker 1: like effort. Yeah, that's what's gonna say. There's plenty of people,

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Speaker 1: even in my own personal life beyond guys and girls,

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Speaker 1: I buy really good gifts. I pay the bills sometimes

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Speaker 1: and then people are always asking like, well, I didn't

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Speaker 1: know what to get you, And I'm thinking to myself,

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Speaker 1: if you only knew that I wanted these hundred dollars

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Speaker 1: sneakers for the longest time, I never bought them, I'll

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Speaker 1: buy something for five thousand dollars real quick, and thank you.

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Speaker 1: Probably wanted that hundred dollars takers that you can't find.

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Speaker 1: You didn't get him because you didn't want to pay

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Speaker 1: ten dollars for cars. I don't know, but I still

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Speaker 1: don't have a pair I don't have what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Say they like because I can't even find where I

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Speaker 1: get them, But say they won fifty, you probably will

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Speaker 1: be like, I want them easy ones like which they

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Speaker 1: might be like about two hundred, but ain't nobody finding Actually,

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Speaker 1: just do something small, all the little things. I have

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Speaker 1: stuff in my car on Amazon that's forty dollars and

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Speaker 1: But then something dollars and you're like, yes, I now,

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Speaker 1: But my biggest problem is that you're right. And it's

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Speaker 1: hard for me, Like it's hard for me to allow

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Speaker 1: anybody to do anything for me. It's hard for me,

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Speaker 1: and I never asked for anything. Yeah, Like I've had

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Speaker 1: people be like, well, what would you like, like I

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Speaker 1: want to buy you something? Yes, I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: That's a bad question. I don't like that because then

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Speaker 1: it's like I don't feel comfortable telling you, oh, well

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Speaker 1: If you want to get me something, you gotta be specific.

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Speaker 1: What bag do you like what kind of car do

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Speaker 1: what is a gold digger? Um, a gold digger is

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Speaker 1: it's a gold digger is obvious to me. You know. Um,

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Speaker 1: they're subtle ones that you might not call it a

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Speaker 1: after money. And I think gold diggers asked they definitely

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Speaker 1: I want this, I want that. Oh well I'm used

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Speaker 1: of UM hint to a guy that will turn them off,

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Speaker 1: Like if a girl will say, oh, well, I'm used

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Speaker 1: to this, so my other guys have bought me this,

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Speaker 1: so I'm you know, or um, I can but you

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Speaker 1: feel like we should ask for things. Yeah, but everybody, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no. My My UM strategy has always been hinting

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Speaker 1: to be like to catch debit. Yeah, like damn, put

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Speaker 1: for example, UM, is a cute Well, yeah, I really

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Speaker 1: wanted that new red iPhone seven that just came out

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Speaker 1: has been the topic. Well, Angela brought it for herself.

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Speaker 1: I was eligible for an upgrade. She's a damnsel cost

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Speaker 1: me anything. Well, you know, if you would have put

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Speaker 1: like when somebody don't like buy anything that you know

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Speaker 1: don't want to accept it from them, because you don't

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Speaker 1: want to give them the impression that people have no

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Speaker 1: problem with that. They were just sending her. The person

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Speaker 1: well this is yeah, well that's see, that's what they called.

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Speaker 1: That's gold diggers. That's on them because they're using that

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Speaker 1: if that makes tricks. Well yeah, but it's kind of

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Speaker 1: then I was listening to UM the Breakfast Club when

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Speaker 1: Was that this morning? This guy said he gave a

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Speaker 1: he never has. They never had sex, and that's why

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Speaker 1: he was getting She definitely used him. And I think

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Speaker 1: he's not attractive, but he knows that, like guys will

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Speaker 1: put their money out there. Guys used. Guy's used their

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Speaker 1: money to get what they want the same way girls

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Speaker 1: use what they got. I was reading this article today,

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Speaker 1: I think it was in Was it in the New

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Speaker 1: date attracted women anymore. He was now. He said, he

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Speaker 1: used to date really good looking women, and now in

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Speaker 1: order to be serious about a relationship, he dates women

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Speaker 1: that aren't that attractive in it and actually worked out

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Speaker 1: for him. He said, he dated all these models before,

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Speaker 1: and he finds them to be um shallow and you know,

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Speaker 1: someone insecure and certain things that they want is and

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Speaker 1: not that smart also is what I can see that

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Speaker 1: being true though. That's why I said definitely in the book,

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Speaker 1: don't think for a second that you have to look

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Speaker 1: a certain way to get anything out of a guy,

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Speaker 1: because some people would think you gotta be quote unquote

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Speaker 1: it's all about your talk game. It's really all about

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Speaker 1: your personality. You There's plenty of girls that may may

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Speaker 1: what's the right thing? Come? It depends on the guy,

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Speaker 1: and they want to ask you all these questions. And

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Speaker 1: and then some guys want to event about their personal

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Speaker 1: lives and what they're going through with their wives and

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Speaker 1: family or job or whatever. And then some guys have

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Speaker 1: stupid freaky fetishes. It's the same thing, like as on

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Speaker 1: have to if you that's some girls. That's why even

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Speaker 1: So and a lot of guys are very very shy, insecure, nervous,

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Speaker 1: So I've even said, like go on the sugar Daddy site,

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Speaker 1: Reggia profile if you're interested in me hit me back.

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Speaker 1: You know, have you done the sugar daddy before? And

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Speaker 1: have you got money? Really? He's like, yes, I know,

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Speaker 1: I like I know about the boblem had a little

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Speaker 1: rough week, but you know, I would really want to

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Speaker 1: read the sugar daddies that I got. Um he I

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Speaker 1: dealt with him for about going on ten months and

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Speaker 1: I had sex with him like three times and it

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Speaker 1: you just paid like what's his name? Period of ten

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Speaker 1: months because I had sex with him three times. Him, No,

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Speaker 1: it was like twenty minutes. But he's like old, old

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Speaker 1: white married, no kids. I'm sorry, I can't. I can

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Speaker 1: you can't judging, listen, I don't get it sucked up.

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Speaker 1: I'm not judging, but I just couldn't. My thing would

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Speaker 1: be like cardboard, like shouldn't even be dry, would be

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Speaker 1: he because I've probably done it with guys that I

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Speaker 1: also all longer, and I used to have that. I

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Speaker 1: used to have somebody that I I love. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: not him. We don't know his sex was horrible. I

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Speaker 1: No one year. This guy that I was homemade person

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00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 1: into design and stuff. He knew I was into design

426
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: and stuff, and he brought me some. He brought me

427
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: for Christmas Jay Crew belt, No, some Stuart Wifesman boots

428
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 1: and some cotton nightgowns from Victoria's Secret. And but that's

429
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: better than that person guy. Well yes, but people have

430
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 1: got me that I'd have been hype. I returned everything.

431
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:03,120
Speaker 1: Ain't that bad because he wouldn't he know, he knows

432
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: I don't wear store. Not that I don't wear it,

433
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 1: but you've never seen me in these types of boots

434
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: or not necessarily the brand, but even how they looked,

435
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 1: it was like, but do you gel like he just

436
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: never had like a real girlfriend to No bad No.

437
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: He had declined he was getting me better, he had

438
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 1: gotten me better gifts in the past. But then as

439
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: soon as that happened, I was like, what is this?

440
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 1: He said it right then and there bad No. I'm like,

441
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: what is this? I'm like, what am I being demotive?

442
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: This is crazy? Have you ever seen me going to

443
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: Jay Crew? Do you you were sending belt, you wear

444
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 1: Gucci belts, you wear all these I don't even know

445
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 1: what they're selling. I never bought anything out of Jay

446
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 1: Crew in life, and I'm sure not that anything's wrong

447
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 1: with I'm sure it's like, but you never saw me

448
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 1: going to that store. Now, why would you buy me

449
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 1: that belt? I had a guy like that that would

450
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 1: buy himself everything. He had everything new. But here's the

451
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 1: fucking gag. Okay, one day it was these easy since

452
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: we were so funny that came out and I wanted

453
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: them so bad, and he had a sneaker store, so

454
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: I was like, listen, I want easy But he didn't

455
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 1: sell easies there, but he knew how to get the

456
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: plug and everything. Don't you know this motherfucker. A few

457
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 1: weeks later comes and was like, yeah, I gotta drop

458
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: these Easies off to my man. And he was like,

459
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 1: I got something for him and his girl and whatever

460
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 1: I said home. I usually I had told him I

461
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: wanted them, but like I usually wouldn't say nothing, I

462
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 1: had to say something. I'm like, so you got this

463
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 1: nigger and his girl, but you ain't getting me nothing.

464
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: He was like, I didn't think you wanted them. My nigga,

465
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: I told you, And he was like, well, you know me,

466
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,959
Speaker 1: I'm kind of selfish. I alway was only thinking about myself,

467
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: just like I just stop working with that nigga. And

468
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: it wasn't the fact that I'm like, oh, I need

469
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: him to buy me the it's the fact that you

470
00:27:56,600 --> 00:28:00,159
Speaker 1: made sure your man and his girl, not just your man,

471
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 1: but your man and his girl got the ship. He

472
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 1: did say, And I'm selfish, You'll be you ain't that selfish?

473
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: You got your man and this girl. But they probably

474
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 1: he was probably getting paid for them, right, he so

475
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 1: I was supposed to give him two hundred dollars for

476
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 1: the yeas, No, I mean, I'm just saying that's why

477
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 1: when he meant when he said, I'm selfish. Okay, So

478
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: now what about if you buy money from a guy,

479
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: do you have to pay him back. I don't borrow money.

480
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't even pretend like I'm a borrow money.

481
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: I don't even if I probably twice in my whole

482
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 1: life had said I was gonna borrow it. And this

483
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 1: was when I was younger, and it was only because

484
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: it was a small amount, like oh can and I

485
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: just kind of threw it out there, like can I

486
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 1: borrow five hundred dollars from you? I'll give it back

487
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 1: and then they'll give it to them. Is not well

488
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 1: for a grown man? Well, I don't know people. But

489
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: then when I get so then when I went to

490
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: go and give it back one thing, and if a

491
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: guy actually lets me give it back to him, I'm like,

492
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: he's a bird. I was like, but um yeah, one

493
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: guy let me, didn't let me give it back, and

494
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: the other guy was like give me back half, Like here,

495
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: you could keep half. What do you think about that? Though? Half?

496
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 1: I was young though, so it didn't really maybe he

497
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: needed it. Half is better than fold though, Break it

498
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: down like, um, okay, what if you go out to

499
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: eat right and you know how you reach to go

500
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: like you're gonna pay and he lets you. I only

501
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 1: pay on birthdays and broken Yeah, I never reached the pay.

502
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: I'll pay on forty dollar bills and birthday did see?

503
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: I pay for people if I feel like they pay

504
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: for me all the time. It depends not like boys,

505
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: you don't pay for bro people like you can pay

506
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 1: for You don't pay for broke people. You know, because

507
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: it wasn't needed to be out with them. Now, I

508
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 1: feel like, man, wise guy, you shouldn't you know if

509
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 1: guys broke And first of all, okay, you don't really

510
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: know that, because some guys really be friends and they'd

511
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: be looking like they at the part. I've never been

512
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: in a situation where I went anywhere with a guy

513
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 1: and he didn't have enough money for the bill. I've

514
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 1: heard stories which are very, very scary because I'm like,

515
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: how did that go? How? Yeah, I've never been anywhere,

516
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 1: but I will pay for somebody. Listen, One time I

517
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 1: went out, I was with my friend and a guy

518
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: came in met us. He knew I was with my friend.

519
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: It was so fucking cheap. Now it wasn't you but

520
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: it was such a cheap bill as fucking flood of miles.

521
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 1: How much could it be? Right? So anyway, he comes

522
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: and the bell comes and he pays it, don't you know.

523
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: Two weeks later then they det started acting funny. So

524
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: he was like, I felt the way because your friend

525
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: didn't offer to pay the tip. Oh my god, what

526
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 1: they gotta do with you? I don't know. I'm still

527
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: trying to figure well, I'm not well, you know what

528
00:30:56,280 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: another thing is when um, a guy damn what I

529
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: was I gonna say, um, because I could have gave

530
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: him twenty dollars for a fucking tip, and I could

531
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: have paid him my own ship. That's why we was

532
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: eating a loan. Oh yeah, no, you invited yourself. It's

533
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 1: it makes me nervous when a guy comes to meet

534
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: me and my friend out because I don't know if

535
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 1: he's gonna pay or not, Like if it's a new guy.

536
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: Meaning like, so let's say me and out right and

537
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: a guy pulls up on us, I expect him to pay. You.

538
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: You know where we were like, if he doesn't eat,

539
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: I don't care what you came inside. You should have

540
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: stayed outside. Once she walked in the restaurant. You were

541
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:39,239
Speaker 1: supposed to pay the bill, you right, not even joining right.

542
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 1: So when I remember one time I was in the

543
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 1: restaurant with my friend and the guy he came to

544
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: the say, and I'm like, so here about you not

545
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: gonna pay this bill? And he was like, you said that,

546
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 1: and he was like, I said, don't embarrass me. No,

547
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: I was like, don't embarrass me my friend exactly. I

548
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: was like, he paid it. I mean, we were on

549
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: those terms. But see, I'm vocal. I'm not gonna let

550
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: him walk out the door and somebody be like, yo,

551
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: he came. He's supposed to have, right, he's supposed to

552
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: have all this money that you would have looked at

553
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 1: her differently if he didn't pay. No, And I wasn't

554
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: the friend that she was with at that time, but

555
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna look at her differently. But we probably

556
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 1: would have talked about him like he's coming here for

557
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 1: he went't gonna pay. Ye. See, I feel like if

558
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: a guy comes in and he don't really get nothing,

559
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: I wouldn't really expect him to pay. No, I'm looking

560
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: in the back of my mind, I'm like, nice, but

561
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: I don't feel like he has to. But don't join,

562
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 1: but he do got to track against him. Don't join

563
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: our ship because me, I'm out with my home girl.

564
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: We go out, gonna come. But it is embarrassing. If

565
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: you're telling him you'll come meet me, come meet me,

566
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 1: that's definitely tell you to call me me if I

567
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 1: know you're gonna pay. If I don't think you're gonna pay,

568
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: then I'm not gonna embarrass myself because for you to

569
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 1: just be like, hey, what's up and then leave or

570
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: sit there and let us pay. I'm like, like, what

571
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: if you just stops by for a minute, So why

572
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 1: I invited homeboys out that I don't even funk with

573
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: fucking nothing, And they'll be like, Yo, what's the what's

574
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: the bell? I'll pay it or put something on the bill.

575
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 1: I just is nice. We're not saying. I'm not saying

576
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: it's not nice, but I do think it's weird if

577
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 1: you don't think like, well, I'm here sitting at the table,

578
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 1: let me just throw a couple of dollars. And I

579
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: hate like when I go and meet people and everybody's

580
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: eating and I'm not. I just come for a minute.

581
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 1: That's different. I ain't paying for that's your female and

582
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: you're not sucking nobody at the table and you're not

583
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: you don't have a debt, assuming that I'm not a lesbian.

584
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:54,959
Speaker 1: If you are, you should pay that bill. Even if

585
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 1: I never dealt with the guy, if he didn't offer

586
00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: to pay, then that's probably want to be left to you.

587
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: I paid for you and your friends to eat. Now

588
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 1: it's like my dick or you know what's because I've

589
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: never been I've never been with somebody that that rude.

590
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: I have been in a car one time. This dude

591
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 1: picked me up real quick somewhere. He picked me up

592
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:23,800
Speaker 1: from somewhere that I was at when my friend came outside.

593
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: He spent around the corner to go get something. And

594
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: then he was like, damn, you're looking sexy. And he

595
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: was like, damn, you got our dick hard. No, now

596
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: you gotta make it go down. I'm like the fact

597
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:42,320
Speaker 1: that now you gotta go down. I'm like, what, I

598
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,839
Speaker 1: just didn't you know to explicit? Now you just kind

599
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 1: of what I'm saying. Listen, you're saying we should ask

600
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 1: for what we went. What if guys start asking for

601
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: what they do? They do? But that's what But you

602
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 1: know what, sometimes they don't even ask. They just play

603
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: their cards very right suddenly, and then we just don't

604
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 1: benefit in any way. Yeah, but these guys are right

605
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: there we talked about in your book, then M and

606
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: manage for money any of them? Marriage material is the

607
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 1: M and that for marriage also. Well, if if towards

608
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 1: the end of the book you find someone who seems

609
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: to fit some of the qualities of a guy that

610
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: um is more well, I don't want to say fair,

611
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 1: but more to my liking, then probably because let's say,

612
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:45,240
Speaker 1: for example, sorry, um, towards the end, I'll say something

613
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: like a guy may not have Let's say, if you

614
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: make more money than him, right, you make eighty thousand

615
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: he makes, some girls will give him a discount on

616
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 1: the household bills. Like let's say if they live together,

617
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: because he makes less. No, his whole forty thousand is gone.

618
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 1: He gotta pay all his forty thousands to bills now

619
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:10,359
Speaker 1: because they said other way around. No, it's just a guy.

620
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 1: Just he pays the bills. No, meaning like not all

621
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 1: of the bills, but as much as he can, because

622
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 1: he still has to pay for where he lives. He

623
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 1: you know, some girls, let's say, like I said, she

624
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: makes eighty, he makes forty. She's like, oh, well the

625
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: rent is two thousand. He makes less. I'm gonna pay

626
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: the rent. He could pay the other bills. He could

627
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 1: pay the whole thing, or split, not nothing less than split, Like,

628
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: nothing's wrong with splitting. I prefer not to. But this

629
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 1: it's realistic, you know, Like let's say you live in

630
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 1: New York. Most people don't make more, you know, so

631
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 1: it's just so unrealistically. Look, oh, he better pay everything.

632
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: But and then you have a guy, let's say the

633
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: guy making forty tho, like, here his the money for

634
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: the bills. Let's still go to the movies. Let's you know, oh,

635
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cook, I'm gonna like supplement the other things

636
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: that don't financial. Yeah, that he can't help financially. So

637
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 1: if you make more money to him, and then you

638
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,479
Speaker 1: might be working longer than him. You come home, there's

639
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 1: been twice a week or something like that that he

640
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: could help, you know, or he's doing he's cleaning, or

641
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 1: he's doing the laundry, or he's walking a dog or what.

642
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: I had a guy do my laundry. Well, not I

643
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 1: never have to do your laundry, but he could do

644
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: the laundry. Like the sheets to tie and we got

645
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 1: one hanper. It's not too hander. Well when you saw them,

646
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've never had nobody paying my bills. Now,

647
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: this is my ideal situation. Pay the bells, okay, But

648
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: you didn't live with anybody that long, So in my eyes,

649
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: I would look at it like pay the bells, not

650
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 1: pay my bells. Because I've lived with you don't have

651
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: to pay my credit card bills. You don't have to

652
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:59,400
Speaker 1: pay that definite. I would say this ideal situation is

653
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 1: to be with somebody that takes care of you, that

654
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: you actually really really love and care about that. But

655
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 1: I feel like that's so rare for people. Yeah, that's

656
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: why why everybody feeling Yeah, while everybody's still playing the game.

657
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: You gotta get what you need or you think you

658
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: have it all a treater, a trick whatever, what's mone

659
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 1: playing money? A good sex? Money? You can't live off

660
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,919
Speaker 1: a good sex. I was about to say, I still

661
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 1: come on with masturbation. I don't care. You're good either way.

662
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: What about money? I love? Could you love some money

663
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 1: that doesn't have money? Probably, to be honest, um, yeah,

664
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 1: absolutely you could love somebody who doesn't have money. But

665
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 1: if I love you that much, I'm gonna help you

666
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: get money. And if you take too long to get

667
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: money that I may love you from a distance because

668
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: I can't be with you for a long time. Money

669
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 1: over love, No, but just not for long. Get that

670
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: money up. I will be with somebody who I love

671
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: for a while and try to help him stand on

672
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:19,439
Speaker 1: his feet in a way that both of us could

673
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: be comfortable in this relationship. And if he doesn't ever

674
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:24,799
Speaker 1: you know, if he doesn't get it in enough time

675
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 1: by the time I'm tired or broke myself, you know,

676
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 1: from sustaining this situation, then he gotta go because I

677
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,439
Speaker 1: probably money is the number one reason why I hoped

678
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,840
Speaker 1: to another dude. But you can have money and lose it.

679
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: So you could be in love with somebody that has

680
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: money or whatever the case, and then they lose their money.

681
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 1: Then we No, I wouldn't leave somebody just because they

682
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: lost their money. I've been with people who lost their

683
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:50,959
Speaker 1: money before and they've gotten it back, you know, maybe

684
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 1: not immediately. If you're dating somebody that's too generous for

685
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:58,439
Speaker 1: his money. With other people, oh, I hate that other

686
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: people are not you are just you, and other people

687
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: do hate that. To be honest, I'm like, what are

688
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 1: you sucking them too? It don't even matter if it

689
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,919
Speaker 1: doesn't even matter if it's another girl, because guys will

690
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: take care of the whole best friends. Yeah, they'll let

691
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,919
Speaker 1: their best friend dropped the car. They'll let the best

692
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: friend bring other girls over today house. They let best friends,

693
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 1: you know, borrow money or use all their perks. And

694
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: I'm like, y'all go together exactly. You I ask you

695
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: something about your car. He'd be like, oh, so and

696
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: so got it? Huh, you know, tell you would you

697
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:42,400
Speaker 1: say something to them? Yes, I've always said something like

698
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: what about his family? Though, like what if his failure?

699
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 1: I still say something. I always say something, yeah, because

700
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 1: I'd be like something. One thing I do believe is

701
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 1: that children weren't put on this earth to take care

702
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 1: of their parents. We didn't ask to come here, so

703
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: for you to be like a lot to care you,

704
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: I ain't ask you to bring me here. But one

705
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:05,960
Speaker 1: of my goals is to be able to take care

706
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 1: of my par if you want to not if you're

707
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: how could you not? Yeah, if you want every parent

708
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: wasn't take it. I would take care of my mother,

709
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: you know. I just I just don't think that it's

710
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:22,479
Speaker 1: children's obligation now. I mean, nothing is your obligation because

711
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,760
Speaker 1: it's also really your parents probably sometimes don't feel obligated

712
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 1: to do it for you, especially once you reach a

713
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 1: certain age. It gave your ass away. But I didn't

714
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 1: ask to come here, So if you would have gave

715
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 1: me away, that's your problem, you know. But I mean,

716
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,800
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong. I'm the type of person to

717
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 1: take care of my family. But if I don't want to,

718
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: then and I have a valid reason, like if you,

719
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,959
Speaker 1: but he's also not obligated to take care of you either.

720
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 1: And if we don't have the same values, right, nobody's

721
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: obligated to take nobody's obligated. We don't have the same values,

722
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: then we probably aren't meant for each other. Because if

723
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 1: I think that we're supposed to be paying the bills

724
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 1: or paying for the dinner or paying for anything, and

725
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 1: you think the opposite, or you're like, no, we should

726
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: be splitting, we should be doing this, we should be

727
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: doing that, then we just not yoke. Then that's fine,

728
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: And you can find somebody who's more independent than me,

729
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: because there's plenty of girls out there all in the

730
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 1: like let's say, on the Amazon reviews or the um

731
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 1: the reviews, they're like, oh my god, cutty, I'm the

732
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 1: in the first page. I'm independent, very independent. Yeah, but

733
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,839
Speaker 1: I don't know if I could really be any other way. Yeah. Well,

734
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: now you probably can't because a lot of people can't

735
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: or won't change. They still have those feelings inside of

736
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: them that's gonna make them very nervous and um just

737
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: uncomfortable with asking or night when you're accustomed to doing

738
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 1: it on your own ass. You've been for so long

739
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: that you know it's kind of just like not natural

740
00:42:56,680 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 1: for you feel like you need. But you know what,

741
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,959
Speaker 1: I think, let's say for you when you read the book,

742
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: if you get to you may not change everything about yourself. Yeah,

743
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 1: there may be little things. I have a friend who's

744
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:18,720
Speaker 1: super independent, makes so much money, and she has always paid,

745
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: or not always, but you know she's usually I'm more

746
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,840
Speaker 1: inclined to pay or treat or whatever. And then after

747
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 1: talking to her for so long, she's like, you know what,

748
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: I just did what you said and I told him, oh,

749
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 1: I need I need some help with this. My grandmother

750
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 1: always just be alone with mommy. How you have somebody

751
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: for money? She's like, just how you need some help?

752
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,399
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, you know you said, you said

753
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:47,800
Speaker 1: that you just need some help. And then it's not

754
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: and then you'll see them doing more, especially when you

755
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: allow it, you know, like, and that's I think the

756
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: key thing is that when somebody wants to do something

757
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 1: for you, to allow them to do it. And I

758
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 1: think I could at least do that exactly. That's what

759
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You made minimum. You may not change. You

760
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,800
Speaker 1: may not change every single time somebody do something for me,

761
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 1: but the I can allow you to do it. The

762
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:13,400
Speaker 1: least you could do is not feel uncomfortable with accepting.

763
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 1: You know, like you said, if it's a situation where

764
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: it's somebody you don't like or whatever, but in your

765
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: own relationship or somebody that you're dealing with, if they

766
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 1: want to do something, just let them do it. Don't

767
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 1: be like no, it's okay. I'll hint and I'll still

768
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: say no it's okay. I'll be like, thank you, okaying,

769
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so I love it, Alex. If

770
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 1: you want people to take one thing away from your

771
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 1: book to m and man, it's for money, what would

772
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: you want that to be? I want them to um

773
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 1: invest in themselves and not be dependent on anyone else,

774
00:44:55,200 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 1: and to make sure that they have what they In

775
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: the book, I talked about dreams and goals. I listed

776
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: plenty of times that I've gotten so much money from

777
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: guys didn't do ship together. How much money would you say? Uh, oh,

778
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't even account. I couldn't even account. To be well,

779
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:20,839
Speaker 1: in the book, I only talk about three or four

780
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: guys let's say that alone was two hundred thousand dollars

781
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: a million dollars, I mean, but as many guys I

782
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: deal with. Maybe, but it's all that million dollars. But

783
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 1: it's not. But it's it's gone, you know, And it

784
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:40,239
Speaker 1: was gone the minute it touched my hands. So what

785
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 1: do you be doing? And that's the thing. So the

786
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 1: one Cutty, you'll be going. I don't know if y'all

787
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 1: follow Cutty, but y'all need to follow Cutty. She be

788
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 1: fucking traveling. Hence the passport in front of Cutty. I

789
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: just definitely want people to know that you to make something,

790
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: do something with it, like do something with the money

791
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: that you're getting or want, and don't just waste it

792
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 1: frivolous lee because all you're gonna have is the memories.

793
00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 1: You're gonna look back and be like, damn, I should

794
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: have did that. I should have. I talked about that.

795
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: I wanted the hair salon so for so many years

796
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 1: and I never got it. And I had the money

797
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:24,800
Speaker 1: so many herself through hair school because she wanted a

798
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 1: hair salon, and then she wanted to be able to

799
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 1: be able to do every position into the salon if

800
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: it called for it. Yeah, I got the license, and

801
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: I did everything, and used to work in a hair

802
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 1: salon and behind the desk, and I wanted to learn

803
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:43,920
Speaker 1: behind the chair. And I had the money so many

804
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 1: times for a hair salon and never did anything. I've

805
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: seen something on Instagram where a girl said, oh, if

806
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: a guy is trying to buy you a bag that

807
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 1: costs five thousand dollars, tell him to just give you

808
00:46:57,239 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 1: five thousand dollars and start your business. I'm bitch, it

809
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: don't work like business. It's fives. Not only that, the

810
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 1: different types of guys. Some guys will not give you

811
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: five and cash. Some guys will only buy you a bag.

812
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: You take that bag, you sell it, and then you

813
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: do whatever the hell you want to do. Shout out

814
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:21,919
Speaker 1: the chain scene. You put me only you definitely put

815
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: me onto that because I've sold some bags when I

816
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 1: was done with them. Ladies list for sure. Al Right, Well,

817
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: the m N man is for money. And you also

818
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,719
Speaker 1: have your podcast to this, It's called so Shameless. It's

819
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:43,759
Speaker 1: on iTunes and SoundCloud. Past part cutty come up, Yeah, listen,

820
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: I've been saying to her and in a lot of

821
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: our other close friends that seventeen is the year to

822
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 1: blow up, like we're all doing bigger things, we're all

823
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: doing better things for ourselves. I was so nervous that

824
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 1: the ship was gonna sail and I was going to

825
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: be nothing but the girl from Twitter that used to

826
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: be funny, you know. So for the last year, I've

827
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: just been wanting my own vehicle. I didn't want anybody

828
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 1: to just clump me in with everybody else, like, oh,

829
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: she was just one of the girls who used to

830
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 1: make videos on Snap or this or that, like if

831
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: it all dissolved, like I still I wanted my name

832
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 1: or my brand to have something to be remembered, you know.

833
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 1: And I'm feeling very good about this right and I

834
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 1: don't feel like it's ever too late, no saying it's

835
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: anover too late. Um. But one thing I do know

836
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: that I never did before was do one thing at

837
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,399
Speaker 1: a time. And that's why she definitely completed the book.

838
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 1: So I finally finished. Yeah, well it took a year. Now,

839
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 1: you did it quick, because I remember when you first

840
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 1: was talking about it. I had to writing, coach, and

841
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 1: when you have sometimes people take a very long time

842
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: to write books. They think people think that it takes

843
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: years to write books. But no, that those years are

844
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: just months in palm, months of you not knowing what

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Speaker 1: shorter time if you would have had help and somebody

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Speaker 1: a different directions. And I really, really really am happy

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Speaker 1: that I went that route. So many women out there,

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Speaker 1: What about the man? What's their response? Guys reading this? Guys?

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Speaker 1: Can this work for gay guys? Gay guys have bought

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Speaker 1: saying that they said, oh, yeah, you said not to um,

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Speaker 1: like that, I'm about to make my page private. I'm like, what, right? Like,

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Speaker 1: but um, gay guys have definitely bought it, and gay

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Speaker 1: All right? Well, we appreciate you for coming through. You know,

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Speaker 1: we shure you support Mr Hasport so much. Follow me

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Speaker 1: on Twitter and Snapchat and Instagram. Get the book. The

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Speaker 1: book is on my website, The link is in my

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Speaker 1: I G bio and Twitter bio. It's shot. It's passport

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Speaker 1: cutty dot com or um and the e book is

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Speaker 1: on Amazon, iTunes and Nook. Alright, let's service