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See terms and conditions at 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:30.080 UNEs dot co. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:35.560 Life is too short to live frustrated upset over things 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.920 we have no control. People have a right to have 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:42.880 their opinion. You have the right to ignore it. People 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.399 have the right to be rude. You have the right 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:49.960 to stay happy. Quit letting their negative comments upset you. 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:53.320 They wouldn't be talking about you if you weren't making 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:58.000 a difference. Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:02.160 downloading our podcast. Enjoy spending this time with you. I 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:04.600 know you're going to leave encouraged and inspire. 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:07.840 Make sure you subscribe to get new messages every week 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.639 and follow us on social media to stay connected. 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:14.200 We appreciate your support. It helps keep the ministry going. 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:19.120 Enjoy the message for God bless you. Thanks for letting 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.440 us come into your homes today, and if you're ever 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:24.240 in our area, please stop buying be a part of 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:27.040 one of our services. These are the finest people in 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:29.600 all of Houston, Texas, right here at Lakewood. We'd love 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:32.120 to have you come out. I like to start with 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:34.880 something funny, and I heard about this man. He was 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.679 taking a walk through the woods with his friend when 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:41.680 they suddenly encountered a huge grizzly bear about twenty yards 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:44.560 in front of them. They both froze in their tracks 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.360 as the bear intently stared them down. They contemplated what 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:51.160 they should do. Finally, the man said to his friend, 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:54.320 I think we should run. His friends said, are you crazy? 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:57.240 Can't outrun a grizzly bear. Man said, I know that. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:00.320 I don't have to outrun him. I just have to run. 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:04.680 You say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:07.280 I am what it says. I am. I have what 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:09.680 it says I have. I can do what it says 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:12.360 I can do. Today, I will be taught the word 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:16.440 of God. I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:20.720 heart is recepted. I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:24.239 God bless you. I want to talk to you today 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:28.000 about keeping your joy. We all have opportunities to get 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:32.240 upset and go around frustrated. Somebody was rude to us, 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:35.760 Traffic was backed up, we can't find our car keys. 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:40.440 Life is full of inconveniences, delays, and people that don't 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:44.040 do right. We're never going to stop these things from happening. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.920 The key is how we handle them. The scripture says 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:52.400 no man can take your joy. That means you control 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.960 your joy. Nothing can take it from you. You have 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:59.360 to give it away. Next time someone cuts you off 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:03.400 in traffic, ask yourself, is this worth giving them my joy? 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:06.480 That person that's rude to you on the phone, that 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:09.400 you've never met, are you going to give them your joy? 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:14.200 That delay, that plan that didn't work out, that negative comment, 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:17.880 You're going to let that sour your day. The reason 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:21.920 some people are not happy is they're constantly giving away 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:25.200 their joy. I was in a crowded parking lot one 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:28.600 time waiting for a parking spot. The man was putting 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.359 his groceries in his car and took him a couple 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:35.360 of minutes. I had my blinker on patiently waiting. When 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:38.400 he finally backed out, a car came from the wrong 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:41.840 direction and pulled in right in front of me. They 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:45.280 could clearly see that I was waiting. My first response 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:47.479 was to haunt my horn and tell them what I thought. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:51.239 Then I noticed he was bigger than me. I thought 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:54.680 to myself, I'll give you my parking spot, but I'm 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:58.120 not going to give you my joy. I didn't like it. 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:01.200 It wasn't fair, but I've learned to not let things 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:05.279 I can't control sour my day. I've made up my mind. 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:09.239 I'm gonna be happy today. I'm gonna enjoy my life. 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:12.840 You can't control what people do, you can't control what 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:17.240 they say, but you can control how you respond. My 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:21.760 message is very simple. Quit giving away your joy. Quit 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:25.360 letting the same people upset you. Quit letting the traffic, 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:29.840 the delays, the things that don't work out frustrate you. 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:33.159 You can't pray these things away. That person at the 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.680 office that gets on your nerves. I don't mean to 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:38.919 be negative but they may not change. They may be 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.440 that way for the next twenty years. My challenge is, 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.839 don't go twenty years giving them your joy. They may 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:49.919 not change, but you can change. Life is too short 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:54.080 to live frustrated upset over things we have no control. 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:57.800 People have a right to have their opinion. You have 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.839 the right to ignore it. You'll have the right to 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:04.520 be rude. You have the right to stay happy. Quit 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:08.640 letting their negative comments upset you. They wouldn't be talking 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:12.680 about you if you weren't making a difference. Nobody talks 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:16.480 about people that are not doing anything. They're talking about 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:20.360 you because you're going places. They can see. There's something 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:24.000 special about you. You have the favor of God, you're blessed, 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:29.000 you're talented, you're anointed. Sometimes small minded people will try 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.279 to push you down and discredit you. Don't pay any 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:36.280 attention to it. That doesn't carry anyway. What they say 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:40.720 cannot keep you from your destiny. That is simply a distraction. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:47.200 Every person has negative chatter. All your family members, unfortunately, 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.720 are not going to be for you. George Byrne said, 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:56.040 happiness is having a loving, caring, close knit family. Living 0:06:56.120 --> 0:07:00.520 in another city. Some of your relatives you have to 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:04.159 love them from a distance. If they're sitting by you today, 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:09.440 don't say amen. Now. All of your coworkers are not 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:12.920 going to celebrate you. All of your friends are not 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.920 going to be loyal. Some people can't handle your success. 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.720 They'll make remarks trying to bait you into conflict, trying 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:24.120 to get you upset. Here's the key. Don't get involved 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:28.400 in battles that are not between you and your destiny. 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:32.280 Most of the conflict we engage in is a distraction. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.600 The enemy would love to get you off course, offended, 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.880 trying to straighten people out, trying to convince them that 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:44.080 you're okay. Your job is not to change people's mind 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:47.080 about you. Your job is not to try to make 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:50.760 people like you. Your job is to run your race 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.600 to be who God called you to be, and not 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:58.160 worry about the critics and the naysayers. God will cause 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.280 the right people to like you. One of the best 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:04.760 things I've learned is everybody is not supposed to like you. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:09.360 Everybody is not supposed to approve you. Some people are 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:13.600 ordained by God, not by the enemy, but by God 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:17.680 to not before you. You have to accept that everyone 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:20.480 is not going to accept you. We see it in 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:25.040 the scripture. Joseph's brothers weren't supposed to be for Joseph. 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:29.880 They were ordained to betray him. Without their betrayal, Joseph 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:32.520 would have never made it to the palace to help 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:37.000 the Israelites during the famine. Quit being soured because somebody 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:40.120 betrayed you. How do you know that's not leading you 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:43.720 to your palace? How do you know that disappointment is 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.480 not a part of God's plan to take you to 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:51.640 the next level of your destiny. King Saul was ordained 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:55.080 to not like David. If he would have celebrated David 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.880 been happy for his success, David would have never taken 0:08:57.920 --> 0:09:01.839 the throne. Are you upset because someone is not for you? 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:05.040 When the truth is God has ordained them to not 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:10.040 be for you. When Namiyah was rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem, 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:13.760 there were two men Sandballop and Tobias that didn't like 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.520 what he was doing. They stood at the bottom of 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:21.520 the mountain and constantly shouted insults at Niemiah. They were 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.559 trying to bait him into conflict, get him upset. Frustrated, 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:30.000 Neamiyah understood this principle. He said, no thanks, I'm not 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:33.200 giving you my joy. You may not like me, but 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:36.320 you not liking me has nothing to do with me 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:40.160 fulfilling my destiny. I'm gonna stay focused on what God's 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:43.520 called me to do. If Namiah would have come off 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:46.760 the mountain, God upset went down there to straighten them out. 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:50.040 Even if he won, even if he shut them up, 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:54.000 he wouldn't have finished the wall when he did. All 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:57.520 the chatter that comes against you is a distraction. It's 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.720 to get you upset, so you get in involved in 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:04.280 battles that don't matter. Then you look up and you're 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:08.360 not accomplishing what you should do yourself a favor, don't 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:12.120 pay any attention to it. Quit being upset by people 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:15.480 who are not for you. People that make negative comments, 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:19.480 trying to marginalize you, push you down. What they say 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:24.120 doesn't determine your destiny. They are simply a distraction. That's 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:27.600 just noise. Don't give it the time of day. See 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:30.400 some people, no matter what you do, they are not 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:33.360 going to like you. Even if you changed and did 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:36.880 everything they wanted, they would still find some reason why 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:40.160 you don't measure up. You have to be at peace 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:44.439 with people not being at peace with you. You don't 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:48.520 need their approval to fulfill your purpose. You don't have 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:52.080 to have them before you to become who God's created 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.560 you to be. But if you get distracted trying to 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.600 wind them over, spending your valuable time trying to convince 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.960 them to before you, then you will miss the fullness 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:06.040 of your destiny. Don't take the bank, don't let them 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:10.160 get you riled up. Jesus said, blessed are the meek, 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:15.080 they will inherit the earth. Meek doesn't mean weak. Meekness 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:20.640 means strength under control. When you ignore negative comments, you 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.480 don't pay attention to the sand ballants and tobias is 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:27.040 of life. You're not being weak, You're being meek. You 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.720 have the power to fight, You have the strength to 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:32.800 straighten them out, to tell them what you feel. But 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:37.520 your strength is under control. You're not wasting time engaged 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:40.320 in battles that are not between you and your God 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.560 given destiny. I've learned when you stay on the high road, 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:48.559 God will take care of your enemies. God can defend 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:52.320 you better than you can defend yourself. In the scripture, 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:56.560 Elisha was traveling from Jericho to Bethel. Along the way, 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.880 a group of young men came out and started making 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.520 fun of him because he was bald. The scripture says 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:08.040 they were mocking him, saying, go, baldygo. You didn't know 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.360 that was in the Bible, did you? You know? Elisha 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:15.440 was annoyed. He could have gotten upset, thought I'm gonna 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.520 go straighten them out. I'll show you what I thought. Instead, 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:23.080 he remained calm. He understood this principle. They couldn't take 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:27.079 his joy. They were baiting him, trying to get him distracted. 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:30.880 He just stayed focused and continued doing what God called 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.240 him to do. While those young men were making fun 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:37.320 of him, two bears came out of the woods and 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:41.080 tore them to pieces. That tells me two things. Number one, 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:45.839 don't make fun of all people. Number two, you don't 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:49.559 have to straighten people out. God will be your vindicator. 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:54.640 God knows how to take care of the opposition. He 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:58.680 sees what they're doing, He hears the disrespect. If you'll 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.480 stay in peace, God will fight your battles. When God 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:05.120 does it, I can assure you it will be better 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:08.640 than anything you could have done. But your feelings will 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.520 want to pay people back. Feelings will tell us go 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:14.800 in there, get even stand up for yourself. If you 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:18.480 let feelings rule, you'll get upset. You'll end up giving 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.840 away your joy. Don't get on board with your feelings. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.880 The Psalmas said God has given us the power to 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:30.400 remain calm in times of adversity. It doesn't say God 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:34.120 will keep us from all the adversity, from the opposition, 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:38.160 the sand balance, the negative chatter. It says they will come. 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.920 We'll have opportunities to get upset. But God has given 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:45.520 us power to stay calm. Now quit telling yourself I 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.200 can't help it. This person at the office, they just 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:51.360 get on my nerves. You have the power to stay calm. 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:54.280 That doesn't have to keep upsetting you. That is a 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:59.559 learned behavior. They say something negative, I get offended. Traffic 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.800 is bad, I get upset. The clerk is rude. I 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:04.760 can't help with joel. I just go off. I just 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:08.120 let them have it. The problem is you have strength, 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:12.079 but it's not under control. You need to relearn how 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.079 to respond. You need to develop some new habits. Next 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:19.280 time something happens that you don't like, pause for a 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:22.600 moment and say, Father, thank you that you've given me 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.240 the power to remain calm. Think you that I have 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:29.320 a spirit of discipline and self control. You don't have 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:33.200 to let the same things keep upsetting you year after year. 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:36.920 Change your approach. I met a gentleman in another state 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.960 at a restaurant. Was very windy outside, and when he 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.920 walked in the door, the person in front of him 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:47.680 let the door slam right in his face. This man 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:51.360 had been hot tempered his whole life. Normally, he would 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.320 have confronted them and told them what he thought. But 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:57.960 he'd been listening to our programs, and just when he 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:00.400 was about to lose his cool, he he heard my 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:04.520 voice saying, stay calm and let God fight your battles. 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:08.520 He paused for a moment and decided to let it go. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:12.000 He walked away like nothing happened. We came in the 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.120 restaurant and sat down. I was sitting a few tables away. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.600 He came over and said, Joel, if you had not 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:19.640 been in my head, I would have let them have 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:23.640 it like this man. You may have been trained to 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:27.120 respond a certain way. You grew up seeing people lose 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:30.800 their cool, get upset offended. Why don't you try a 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:34.800 different approach. When you let people upset you, you are 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:38.480 giving away your power. You are letting them control you. 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.200 If they push this button, you get offended. That button, 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:45.359 you get upset. This other button they bait you into conflict. 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:48.920 Why don't you turn those buttons off? Life is so 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:52.920 much more freeing when you're not controlled by what people say. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:57.360 You're not offended when someone's upset. You're not soured because 0:15:57.440 --> 0:16:00.720 traffic was bad. You have tapped in to the power 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:04.520 to remain calm. A friend of mine named David Polly 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:07.520 wrote a book called The Law of the Garbage Truck. 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:10.280 He was in a taxi cab in New York City 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:14.040 headed to a meeting. A car pulled out right in 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:17.000 front of them. The taxi driver had to slam on 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:21.040 his brakes swerve to the left, missing the car by inches. 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.280 The driver of the other car put his head out 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:28.560 the window, started screaming and yelling. He was so angry, 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:31.680 so upset, shaking his fist. The funny thing, it was 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:35.960 his fall. The taxi driver just smiled, waved real big 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.520 and drove on. Didn't give it the time of day. 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:42.320 David was in the back seat, and he was so impressed. 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:45.960 He said, that man almost totaled your car, almost sent 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.560 us both to the hospital. I can't believe you didn't 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:50.880 yell back at him. How did you keep your cool? 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:55.360 The taxi driver gave an insightful answer. He said, I 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:59.760 found many people are like garbage trucks. They go around 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:04.119 full of anger, full of frustration, full of bitterness. As 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:07.680 their garbage piles up, they need somewhere to dump it, 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:11.160 and sometimes they'll dump it on you. But you can't 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:14.720 take it personally. It has nothing to do with you. 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:19.080 Just smile, wish them well and move on. Here's the key. 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:26.359 Successful people don't let garbage trucks overtake their day. If 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:30.160 someone dumps a load on you, don't get upset. If 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:33.800 you make that mistake, you'll end up carrying around their 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:38.840 garbage and eventually you'll dump it on someone else. You 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:42.800 have to keep your lid on. These days, many people 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:48.760 are dumping frustration, disrespect, criticism, bitterness. We can't stop them 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:52.440 from dumping it, but we can keep them from affecting us. 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:56.399 Years ago, Victoria and I were at the airport. We 0:17:56.400 --> 0:17:59.600 were going through the security checkpoint. We put our bags 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:02.800 on the exit machine. The security officer sent them both 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:05.800 back and said, you have liquids in there that you 0:18:05.880 --> 0:18:08.720 have to remove. Victoria said, oh yeah, I forgot to 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:11.639 take my water out. Well, I thought he was only 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:14.720 talking to Victoria. So I just stood there and didn't 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:17.879 do anything. You would have thought I had committed a 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:23.240 major crime. He was like totally insulted. He practically screamed, sir, 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:26.960 what are you doing standing there? I told you to 0:18:27.040 --> 0:18:29.920 open the bag and do it. Now, thought man. He's 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:33.359 got a big garbage truck, and he was full of frustration, 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:36.840 full of stress, and full of a lot of other stuff. 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:40.720 But I didn't say it. You just thought it. But 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.159 I took care of it. As I passed by, my 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:46.520 said sorry about that. I thought you were just talking 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:49.159 to her. Have a good dame. Didn't mean it, but 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:53.199 at least I said it. But I thought to myself, 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:57.000 I'm keeping my lid on. I don't need his garbage. 0:18:57.240 --> 0:19:00.680 I don't need that poison. We have enough of our 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:04.399 own to deal with. You don't need somebody else's bitterness, 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:10.240 their sour attitude, their pressure. Keep your lid on tight. 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:14.639 Let those things bounce off of you. Your destiny is 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:18.479 too great, your time is too important to go around 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:22.040 way down with other people's garbage. You can't keep it 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:25.040 from coming, but you can keep it from getting in you. 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:29.719 The longer I live, the more I realize how valuable 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:33.160 each day is. We're not always going to be here. 0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:38.240 It's easy to live upset, offended, frustrated. But most of 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:41.280 the things that are upsetting us, in the big picture, 0:19:41.680 --> 0:19:45.440 they don't really matter. Traffic was backed up, took you 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:48.119 an hour to get home, should have taken you thirty minutes. 0:19:48.640 --> 0:19:52.720 Is that worth losing your joy over? You're alive, You're healthy. 0:19:52.960 --> 0:19:55.280 God's given your breath to breathe. He's given you a 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:59.440 family to love. Somebody was rude to you, They made 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:02.400 you look bad, they said something negative. Is that worth 0:20:02.600 --> 0:20:07.040 going around defended? Discouraged? What if we found out we 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:10.440 only had a month to live. I wonder how many 0:20:10.520 --> 0:20:13.960 things we're allowing to upset us now. If we found 0:20:14.000 --> 0:20:17.200 out our time was limited, we wouldn't even pay attention 0:20:17.280 --> 0:20:20.360 to it. Can I tell you our time is limited? 0:20:20.960 --> 0:20:23.720 The scripture says our life is like a mist We're 0:20:23.760 --> 0:20:27.040 here for a moment, then we're gone. That little quirk 0:20:27.080 --> 0:20:30.399 your spouse does that gets on your nerves. If we 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:32.760 knew we weren't going to be here in a month, 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:35.720 we wouldn't let it bother us. We would focus on 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:38.480 all the things right, not on the few things wrong. 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:42.639 We wouldn't complain about driving in traffic. We'd be happy 0:20:42.680 --> 0:20:45.119 to be in the traffic. We're alive. We've got another 0:20:45.200 --> 0:20:49.080 day to enjoy life. Well, I've got to go to work, 0:20:49.320 --> 0:20:52.200 not need. I get to go to work. Some people 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:54.760 don't have a job. Some people are in the hospital, 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:59.600 some people aren't able to work. I'm grateful to be employed. Well, 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.880 I gotta go to church again. Not me. I get 0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:06.199 to go to church. God's been good to me. Now 0:21:06.240 --> 0:21:09.800 I'm gonna go back and say thank you. Not only 0:21:09.840 --> 0:21:14.320 that I get to go to Lakewood. I get to 0:21:14.359 --> 0:21:20.520 listen to that good looking minister. But Joe, my boss, 0:21:20.600 --> 0:21:22.840 is not fair. He's hard to get along with. This 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:25.639 is not the position that I want. The truth is, 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:29.240 somebody would love to have your job. Somebody would gladly 0:21:29.320 --> 0:21:32.399 trade places with you. It may not be perfect, but 0:21:32.520 --> 0:21:35.960 keep the right perspective. God's blessed you with the job. 0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:39.720 Don't let it sour your life. If you will pass 0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:43.320 the test of being happy where you are, then God 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:46.080 can open some new doors. But if you don't get 0:21:46.119 --> 0:21:49.480 happy there, you probably won't get to where you want. 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:52.040 To be and your boss may not be fair. I'm 0:21:52.040 --> 0:21:55.560 not making excuses for him. I'm asking you to quit 0:21:55.680 --> 0:22:00.399 giving him your joy. He doesn't control your happiness. Control 0:22:00.480 --> 0:22:04.120 your happiness. But if you let a grouchy boss, a 0:22:04.160 --> 0:22:08.280 grouchy neighbor, a bitter relative steal your joy keep you 0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:11.600 from being happy, it is not their fault. It is 0:22:11.640 --> 0:22:14.480 your fault. You are as happy as you want to be. 0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:17.680 You have to put your foot down and say, this 0:22:18.000 --> 0:22:20.640 is the day the Lord has made. I am not 0:22:20.680 --> 0:22:24.760 going to live sour, defeated, depressed. I am not going 0:22:24.800 --> 0:22:27.480 to let what people do or don't do, what they 0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:30.480 say or don't say, what I have or not have, 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:34.040 keep me from being happy. I've made up my mind. 0:22:34.160 --> 0:22:38.199 I'm going to enjoy this day. It dishonors God to 0:22:38.280 --> 0:22:42.600 go through the day upset, frustrated, bitter. God gave you 0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:46.320 breath to be here. He could have chosen anyone, but 0:22:46.400 --> 0:22:49.719 he chose you, and he chose me. One way we 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:53.840 honor God is by being happy, living grateful, having a 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:57.280 good attitude, seeing the best in life. A couple of 0:22:57.280 --> 0:22:59.879 months ago, I was driving to the office during the 0:23:00.119 --> 0:23:02.879 week to meet some people, and I was in a hurry. 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:05.720 I had left a little bit late, but I knew 0:23:05.800 --> 0:23:07.879 I could still make it on time if I didn't 0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:10.639 have any delays, and I had driven this route a 0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:14.440 thousand times. I was almost here a few blocks away, 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:18.000 stopped at the intersection. I was in the left turn lane. 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:21.560 This light is very short. You have to stay right 0:23:21.680 --> 0:23:24.159 behind the car in front of you to trigger it 0:23:24.200 --> 0:23:27.960 to stay green. Well, I was the third car back waiting. 0:23:28.400 --> 0:23:31.480 The problem was the car in front of me left 0:23:31.600 --> 0:23:35.360