Speaker 1: Second data to date. You know, it might be the
Speaker 1: most important date of your entire life, but it's the
Speaker 1: first date after you get out of a long term relationship.
Speaker 1: Unda that's not important. It's just like we'll lead to
Speaker 1: the bedroom because that's on the way. I'm getting over
Speaker 1: out of it, you've been you know. Thing is if
Speaker 1: that date ends up being a bad one, you could
Speaker 1: end up swearing off romance forever. That's true. You're giving
Speaker 1: it one date after a breakup? Are you not patient?
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't even have
Speaker 1: to be good. You just hope it doesn't go horribly,
Speaker 1: horribly wrong and blow up in your face. But unfortunately,
Speaker 1: that's what happened to one of our listeners, Krista, And
Speaker 1: before she makes the decision to give up on men forever,
Speaker 1: she's reached out to us for a little bit of help.
Speaker 1: So Krista, first of all, welcome to the show. Hi. Hi,
Speaker 1: that is a heavy welcome. Christa. If you had such
Speaker 1: a bad date, why do you want to call this
Speaker 1: guy back? Okay, well I have to explain though it's
Speaker 1: not really a bad date with this guy. Okay, give
Speaker 1: us the rundown. Tell us what happened. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: was in a two year relationship that's over. I'm newly single,
Speaker 1: Like I'm on apps, like a few apps. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I matched with this guy on Tinder. His name's Paxton.
Speaker 1: We're like, okay, great, fine and name everybody. Everybody had
Speaker 1: an image in your head as soon as you said
Speaker 1: he was definitely a prom king Yeah. Yeah, no, I
Speaker 1: could tell right away, like he's super douchey. Okay, is
Speaker 1: a good thing. No, he talked about himself the whole time, like,
Speaker 1: oh when he kept using the tree, keep going boy,
Speaker 1: oh god, oh god, how long did it last? How
Speaker 1: long were you on this date? For? It sounds terrible?
Speaker 1: I like it. Well, he was talking about like these
Speaker 1: hot women he's hooked up with. He's like, oh, but
Speaker 1: you're not like them. But that's a good thing, like
Speaker 1: the hot part or the hook up, the hot part.
Speaker 1: Oh god, yeah, you're really like natural looking. What do
Speaker 1: you say to that? I just stared at them and
Speaker 1: I was like, what the you know? And then like
Speaker 1: he had some shots in front of him, like oh,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna went more drinks and then he
Speaker 1: goes more drinks, buddy or whatever. Did you know? Did
Speaker 1: you just leave? I mean, like, I'm not up for
Speaker 1: like ghosting somebody on a date, but this guy sounds terrible. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So what happened next? What he gets worse? I mean,
Speaker 1: so I watch him go to the bar. He's hitting
Speaker 1: on this other girl. He's talking to the other girl
Speaker 1: and he's laughing. Love that. Yeah, he gets a wine,
Speaker 1: a white wine like it looks like what I'm drinking,
Speaker 1: and he hands it to that girl. What, oh my
Speaker 1: gosh your drink? Tell me you left at this point? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: At that point, I'm like, well, do I leave or
Speaker 1: do I store a drink in his face? Like? How dramatic?
Speaker 1: Do I want to hear? Yeah? I want to be
Speaker 1: here too for dramatic. What'd you go with? Well? I
Speaker 1: look over to him and he just gives me the shrug,
Speaker 1: like puts his hands in the air, like what am
Speaker 1: I gonna do? He's hot? Girlfriend. So I saw this
Speaker 1: other guy my hand to the bar and he's by himself,
Speaker 1: and I was like, all right, he's cute that a
Speaker 1: girl now, okay? Yeah, and I chucked that glass of wine.
Speaker 1: So I'm like feeling kind of loose or whatever. So
Speaker 1: what's his name Braxton, then I would have run out
Speaker 1: the door. His name was Luke, and it just sounds dumb.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's the time. It was the best I
Speaker 1: could come up with. I just I like, is your
Speaker 1: night going as bad as mine? Right now? And you know,
Speaker 1: we kind of joked about that, and he was like,
Speaker 1: well not yet. Okay, I don't think it's a bad opener,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, yeah, it's not the best opener,
Speaker 1: but you know what he responded to it. He puts
Speaker 1: some humor in and there was a connection and then
Speaker 1: like to like swoop in and save the day. Good
Speaker 1: hook comes from an other guy not being good, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like, oh he sucks, let me show you. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's bad. You should be treated. So
Speaker 1: we're able to keep a connection going with Luke. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean we talked for a lot. Like I pointed
Speaker 1: out packs, like I pointed out the whole thing. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: when you're getting out there, you got to sort through
Speaker 1: the bad ones to get to the good ones. And
Speaker 1: it was like some good advice. Like he just seemed
Speaker 1: like a genuine dude, you know, and I learned stuff
Speaker 1: about Like we had a conversation like he's a runner
Speaker 1: and his jobs in science fields, and I like cool science.
Speaker 1: It just sounds interesting, does he? To be honest, I
Speaker 1: didn't really get it, and so I was like, oh, science,
Speaker 1: But it was it sounded great. It's definitely up great
Speaker 1: from the douchebag that Yeah, did he I mean, did
Speaker 1: he reveal that he was single? It seemed like it. Well,
Speaker 1: he said he was there to meet a friend and
Speaker 1: his friend couldn't make it, you know, and it hid
Speaker 1: plenty of time, you know, when you go like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just out, my girlfriend's out with her friend's night,
Speaker 1: he had plenty of chances to like, yeah, throw that in. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But if he liked you and he was flirting with you,
Speaker 1: even if he didn't have any intention of doing anything,
Speaker 1: like man also like the you know, totally totally even
Speaker 1: if even if he has a girlfriend, he's like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do anything, so I'll just let
Speaker 1: her continue to say. Yeah, so that's how'd you wrap
Speaker 1: things up with Luke? Well, okay, so I'm the one
Speaker 1: to suggests. I was like, we should hang out again,
Speaker 1: and he took my phone, he put his number in
Speaker 1: my phone. Okay, Yeah, so I tested a couple of times.
Speaker 1: He didn't respond, but like maybe it wasn't tracked to me,
Speaker 1: Like maybe he thinks I'm desperate because I went from
Speaker 1: one guy to like hanging out with him or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I didn't like him, or he has a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: It's possible. I guess we're gonna find out. We will. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Luke
Speaker 1: for you, and we'll try and get you your second
Speaker 1: date update. All right, boy, okay, we'll be all right
Speaker 1: after this. Hold on second date if you're just joining
Speaker 1: us for the second date update. One of our listeners, Christa,
Speaker 1: called for help. She just got out of a two
Speaker 1: year relationship and the first guy she meets off tender
Speaker 1: turned out to be a real winner, and by winner,
Speaker 1: I mean gold medal in the Douche Olympics, the Olympic game.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna spare you the details of it, but basically,
Speaker 1: this guy, Paxton ended up hitting on another woman in
Speaker 1: front of Christa and even handed that other woman her drink. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so Christa decided to get back at him by talking
Speaker 1: to a different guy who was sitting alone at the bar.
Speaker 1: I mean also because she didn't want to waste her
Speaker 1: good makeup and hair everything. I don't think it was
Speaker 1: about Paxton at all. I saw an opportunity and she
Speaker 1: took it. Jeffrey, that's right. So she met this new guy, Luke.
Speaker 1: They had a great conversation, according to her, but now
Speaker 1: after exchanging phone numbers, Luke is not responding to any
Speaker 1: of her texts. Krista, did I miss anything there? No,
Speaker 1: I mean, that's convey it's depressing when you say it, though,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think we should look at it
Speaker 1: the other way. I think you're going to be just
Speaker 1: fine in the dating world. I think Luke's gonna have
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. That's what I think. But that's not on you.
Speaker 1: That's how the dating world is. Yeah, it doesn't mean
Speaker 1: we still can't. Yeah, and then we'll have a silver
Speaker 1: medalist Luke. But let's find out for sure. Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna call Luke's number and see what he has to say.
Speaker 1: You're ready to do this, Christa, Yeah, okay, all right,
Speaker 1: here we go. Hello. Hi, is this Luke speaking? Who's this?
Speaker 1: My name's jeff from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Okay, Okay, yep, I was hoping for
Speaker 1: a bigger response thing you always always Jeff. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: Jeff Jeffrey. I mean, Jeff is such a famous name.
Speaker 1: I really need to lower my expectations anyway, Luke. So
Speaker 1: we're from the radio show Broken Jeffrey in the Morning,
Speaker 1: and we're doing something called a second date update. Have
Speaker 1: you ever heard of that before? H I haven't. That's okay,
Speaker 1: the rest of us have low expectations, So, Jeffrey. The
Speaker 1: way that it works is if one of our listeners
Speaker 1: goes out on a date, and afterwards, if they're not
Speaker 1: calling them back, you can email our show and we'll
Speaker 1: help you get back in touch with your date to
Speaker 1: figure out the reason why they've been ghosting. Gotcha, Okay,
Speaker 1: and you didn't actually technically go on a date date,
Speaker 1: but yeah, so it falls in the gray area. But
Speaker 1: recently you met a woman who really liked you, and
Speaker 1: her name's Krista. Oh Christa. Yeah, she was super sweet.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that is a positive response, Luke. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: normally we don't get those types of responses. Maybe two
Speaker 1: percent of the time they'll say something really happy and uploking. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The rest of it's like people are dry heaving, yeah,
Speaker 1: the other edge. So we're off to a really good
Speaker 1: start with this phone call already. So you liked Krista
Speaker 1: super sweet girl? Yeah? Absolutely, she said super sweet twice.
Speaker 1: That's fine, Yeah, that's okay. So obviously Christa's confused because,
Speaker 1: according to her, she's been trying to reach you after you,
Speaker 1: guys hung out and you have not been responding. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just I just think maybe it's not going to
Speaker 1: work out between us, Like I don't know, I'm just
Speaker 1: not sure, you know, So I didn't want to kind
Speaker 1: lead her off? Is that because you're in a relationship, Luke?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm dating here and there, but nothing really
Speaker 1: clusive right now? Are you one of those people that
Speaker 1: just keep thinking like suffing better is going to come along?
Speaker 1: Like Brook, That's just what you think all the time.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people feel that way. And
Speaker 1: what's going on, Luke, Well, you've clearly spoken her. What
Speaker 1: did she tell you, guys? I mean she said that
Speaker 1: she was at the bar on a date with a
Speaker 1: different guy. It was like her first date out of
Speaker 1: a two year relationship, right, and it didn't go well,
Speaker 1: and so she went over and ended up sitting down
Speaker 1: next to you and even told you about the guy
Speaker 1: and the horrible date that she was just on. And
Speaker 1: you were very supportive and very nice and had a
Speaker 1: great conversation. You were super sweet. Yeah, and she says
Speaker 1: that you gave her your number and you guys were
Speaker 1: talking about hanging out again. It seemed like there was
Speaker 1: chemistry from her description. Is that not true? That's all true.
Speaker 1: But here's what happened after she left. Okay, okay, that
Speaker 1: guy that she was when Paxton came over, Oh no,
Speaker 1: came over to you. He came over to me, started
Speaker 1: talking to me, and at first he was super confrontational
Speaker 1: and he was just like stuff with that. Why are
Speaker 1: you talking to her? I hate this guy so much.
Speaker 1: What's he's saying? What's up? Boy? Are you talking to her?
Speaker 1: Boy said to use boy a lot, that a lot? Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean the guy was literally hitting on another woman
Speaker 1: during their first dage. Yeah, she had mentioned that, but
Speaker 1: Paxton also mentioned that christ was kind of frosty and
Speaker 1: cold towards him. Okay, so he's blaming her. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: wonder why she was frosty and cold. Yeah, exactly, so.
Speaker 1: But I was able to talk him down, you know.
Speaker 1: He calmed down, and then the more we talked. It's
Speaker 1: gonna sound strange, but like we actually ended up becoming friends.
Speaker 1: He's actually kind of cool. He's really supportive, Like he
Speaker 1: told me to just go for the things that I
Speaker 1: want to go for. I don't really have a lot
Speaker 1: of like cool guy friends like that. So you and
Speaker 1: Paxton ended up bonding and now the two of you
Speaker 1: are friends. Yeah. In fact, he's actually texted me a
Speaker 1: few times to even hang out this week, and I
Speaker 1: was like, of course, man, like we've been bonding. Wow,
Speaker 1: we've been bonding. So you you can't date her because
Speaker 1: you're dating the why can't you also go out with her? Well,
Speaker 1: so when Christa got in touch with me, she was
Speaker 1: just ragging on him, and like, yeah, I get that
Speaker 1: she had a really bad experience with them, but I
Speaker 1: just thought, like, if I was dating her, she would
Speaker 1: not be happy that mom buds with the guy that
Speaker 1: she had such a bad experience with it, you know,
Speaker 1: And if I had to choose, I'm already friends with
Speaker 1: him now we've been talking so much, But you're like
Speaker 1: assuming what she would feel, you know, Like any guy
Speaker 1: that you date always has at least one or two
Speaker 1: super doe, you know, like you're well, you're right. Let's
Speaker 1: not assume how she would feel. Let's just ask Christa directly,
Speaker 1: because I need to let you know, Luke, she on
Speaker 1: the other line listening and she wants to talk to you.
Speaker 1: You could have told me that's in the beginning. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm not very good at this. Chris, are you there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know I'm here. I'm definitely here. Um, I didn't
Speaker 1: know you were on the line. Didn't tell me that.
Speaker 1: I just hadn't responded because I figured you wouldn't be
Speaker 1: happier the light of it, like, you know, me being
Speaker 1: budged with Texan now and that, honestly, like the main
Speaker 1: reason I hadn't gotten back to you. I thought you
Speaker 1: were really pretty through super kind. You can stop talking
Speaker 1: right now, Like you're friends with that guy. You became
Speaker 1: friends with that guy? Well, he was really nice to me.
Speaker 1: He was nice to what are you a puppy dogs?
Speaker 1: And when is nice to you and you like them automatically,
Speaker 1: Like that's not why the world works, that's just not
Speaker 1: how Oh my god, I'm sorry. I don't know what
Speaker 1: to tell you, but we just rode out together. I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to be mean to people were nice to me, Chris.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is what happens in the guy world.
Speaker 1: Nothing is more powerful than the bro connection. It trumps
Speaker 1: everything else. And if you have to choose between the
Speaker 1: bro connection and the girl connection, you're going with the guy.
Speaker 1: I have to say, in all honesty, there are guys
Speaker 1: out there that are the coolest dude, super nice, bro
Speaker 1: to bro. But then you hear how they treat girls,
Speaker 1: and you're like what You're like, how you cheat on people?
Speaker 1: I mean, but that's it. That's the same in the
Speaker 1: world of women like I have. I have girlfriends who
Speaker 1: are amazing girlfriends and I'm sure you do too, Chris,
Speaker 1: that are or psycho in a relationship, you know, like
Speaker 1: friends like Alexis maybe the psycho friend I'm talking about
Speaker 1: that she's great with me. But why does that affect you?
Speaker 1: Why are you upset about their bromance? You know what,
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't have been. But now that it's his
Speaker 1: reason for not calling me back, if you're not texting
Speaker 1: me like, it's almost like he's like, oh, I have
Speaker 1: to choose. And so it wasn't dramatic until he made
Speaker 1: it dramatic. And now obviously. It's the thing. Honestly, Like,
Speaker 1: if you're cool with me being passed and his friends,
Speaker 1: I would love to say. But if you're not, then
Speaker 1: you know, I just didn't want to send you the
Speaker 1: wrong message and I didn't want to be the bad
Speaker 1: guy in this. So like, if you're cool with it,
Speaker 1: I would love to go out. Okay, So, Luke, you're
Speaker 1: still interested in dating Chris da If she's cool with
Speaker 1: you and Paxton being bros being boys? Yeah, well you know,
Speaker 1: maybe I just think she might have read him wrong
Speaker 1: that night. Maybe the three of us if we hung out,
Speaker 1: it might be kind of fun. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: wait you want me to hang out with you and
Speaker 1: that bad Oh yeah, this could this actually could be
Speaker 1: the perfect opportunity for me right here. I don't know
Speaker 1: that that was an excited voice. I think really because
Speaker 1: she's there was a lot of energy in it. Luke,
Speaker 1: I would love to send you, Christa and Paxton out
Speaker 1: on a date and we'll pay for it. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: on a date with just you. But why do we?
Speaker 1: Why is this guy? What is happenings happening? It's really cool.
Speaker 1: After a few shots, that guy's even more fun than
Speaker 1: he was like in the beginning, that's a good side
Speaker 1: of someone you want to hang out in. Yeah, Christy,
Speaker 1: you just gotta take a few Yeager bombs and you're
Speaker 1: gonna love them. I don't want to go on a date. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I guess we'll have to change all our plans. But
Speaker 1: maybe there's a way that we can just get you
Speaker 1: and Luke to go out just the two of you. Luke,
Speaker 1: is that okay? That would be fine with me. I
Speaker 1: just want to be upfront that, like Paxston is now
Speaker 1: a friend, and you know, if I'm giving an ultimatum, someday,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to go with my friend. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's a red flags. We'll get that put down on
Speaker 1: paper and notorize to make sure that it's legal. But Christa,
Speaker 1: what do you say? One more date with just Luke?
Speaker 1: I don't even understand what's like? This whole thing has
Speaker 1: been so weird. Yeah, but I don't really have anything
Speaker 1: else going on right now. Yeah, Okay, boy, it's a
Speaker 1: successful second date. Update. You are not going to regret it. Christa,
Speaker 1: I'm so much more fun ever since I met Paxton.
Speaker 1: You're gonna love it. You can just stop, just stop,
Speaker 1: just stop, just stop. Broke and Jeffrey in the morning