1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an Imheart Radio podcast. 2 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:10,440 Speaker 2: So excited for this week's whine About It Thursday Therapy. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 2: We've got Mike Diamond. 4 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: So. 5 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 2: He's an author, television personality director, life coach, and interventionist. 6 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 2: He got off to a bit of a rough start 7 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 2: in life, battling undiagnosed dyslexia, exposure to drugs and alcohol 8 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:25,319 Speaker 2: at age twelve, and struggling to finish high school. Stroke 9 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 2: of luck, however, earned him a green card in nineteen 10 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 2: ninety seven and he moved to the States. So he's 11 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 2: been on Miami Inc. And New York Inc. And later directing, 12 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 2: producing and starring in Bondai Inc. Tattoo Crew. But despite 13 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:44,599 Speaker 2: all of this, Mike found himself spiritually bankrupt and thoroughly miserable, 14 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 2: realizing his life depended on it. In two thousand and six, 15 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 2: Mike decided to get sober, and, with his life completely 16 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:53,599 Speaker 2: turned around, has now helped hundreds of people on their 17 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 2: own past recovery. Now, as a life coach in television personality, 18 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 2: Mike Diamond explains his tried and true methods for empowerment 19 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 2: and offers tools and stories to help you find your 20 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 2: purpose and create your ideal future. He's got a book 21 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 2: out called The Dose of Positivity, Tools, Techniques and Strategy 22 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 2: to live life on your terms. Let's add that to 23 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 2: Kart and then Adam on the show. 24 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: Jenna you you won't remember me? 25 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 2: Oh no, I don't. Am I gonna like the stories. 26 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 2: It's a bad story. Was this the story when we 27 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 2: met in my twenties? 28 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: Or no, this is a great story. You're gonna when 29 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: I tell you, you're gonna freak out. 30 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, but. 31 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 1: No, no, no. Back in twenty ten, great you Alex cordover right. 32 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: It was running wet Republic. Okay, yes, I kind of 33 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: the pool party. I was the doll guy that took 34 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: care of you. Well, thank you for taking care of me. Yeah, 35 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: you can'd me like this guy called Mike Tyson, Mike Diamond. 36 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: You're like, that's the guy you you've gotta. Yeah. 37 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 3: I and I had the here to take care of 38 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 3: you because Alex was waiting for you, and it was 39 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 3: like thousands of people trying to get in and I 40 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 3: was like, I got you and two year are good 41 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 3: and it's like it was like I think it was Yeah, 42 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:12,920 Speaker 3: you came to in Vegas. 43 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: That's it. 44 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 2: Wow, Oh my goodness, yes, I remember that. That's crazy. 45 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 2: Hi Mike, good to see you, not in not in Vegas. Well, 46 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: because I mean, like, I'm sure you can relate. We 47 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,680 Speaker 2: all have these moments. Will I say that to like 48 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 2: hopefully not feel alone in some of the Like in 49 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 2: my la era of twenties, wasn't the best version of myself, 50 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 2: you know. So sometimes when people are like, oh, I 51 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 2: met you back and I'm like, oh gosh, I'm like, 52 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 2: did we a date? Did we was? I? 53 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 3: Like? 54 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: What? Where was I? 55 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 2: Because I was so traumatized by like a former abuse 56 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: and this and that and the other, and like it's 57 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 2: just I don't think I was presenting myself in the 58 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 2: proper manner back in my twenties, so you know. 59 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 1: But I don't think any of us do. 60 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 2: That's good to hear, thank you. 61 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:09,320 Speaker 1: I think between twenty and thirty that's the whole point. 62 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,079 Speaker 1: Like I suppose. I remember when I started to come 63 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: out about, you know, my sobriety and people are like, ooh, 64 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: don't talk about that, and I'm like why and they're like, 65 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: are You're supposed to save that for meetings? And I 66 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: was like, well, I'm not talking about someone else's mess up. 67 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: I'm talking about my own. People need to know that 68 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: you've got to fail forward. So I would constantly because 69 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: you know, when I started working as like an interventionist 70 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: and sober coach, and I went from like literally doing 71 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: fistfuls of cocaine and smoking crack and home, I was 72 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: Scott Wiland in New York City and the shooting a 73 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: VH one show when I was like, hmmm, this doesn't 74 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: seem right. It's just like you know what I mean, 75 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: Like you get to the top of a mountain, You're like, 76 00:03:56,800 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: it's the wrong mountain. All it's all long eyes. So 77 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: when I got sober and no one did an intervention 78 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: on me, I just was looking at Scott's life and 79 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: you know, here, I am a kid from a small 80 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: town Perth, Western Australia. I went a green cart and 81 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: the lottery and I'm like, yeah, you know what, I 82 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: had some sober friends. I'm just gonna just do a 83 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: one eighty into what happens. Craziest craziest thing is that 84 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: Scott's wife and kids were leaving and he was looking 85 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: at it like I'm Scott Whitland. I'm like, I don't 86 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: have wife and kids. I'm just destroying myself through all 87 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: the physical trauma, like the mental, physical sexual abuse I 88 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: you know, went through as a kid, like just being 89 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: abused and undiagnosed dyslexia, you know, and undiagnosed ADHD. Just 90 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 1: always beaten down and bullied that I self educated myself 91 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: and intutively, I was like, you know what, even if 92 00:04:55,960 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: I'm wrong, doing all this coke and just putting on 93 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: a show for people isn't right. But I was making 94 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 1: people so much money that no one, everyone enabled me. 95 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 1: You know, you become like a puppet and you see 96 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 1: a lot of Like you look at someone like Amy Winehouse. 97 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 1: There's no way Amy Whitehouse should have ended like that, 98 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: because you know. So it's like I think between twenty 99 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: and thirty, that's that time that if you are talented 100 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: and if you don't get you don't want to be industrialized, 101 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: and you've got intuition, you're going to make a lot 102 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 1: of mistakes because you're finding yourself, you know, and it's 103 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: like you've got to make a mess in that process. 104 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: It's always ugly because we've been put in these boxes 105 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 1: as kids through the schooling system, right, and then we 106 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: and then if we come from, you know, any kind 107 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 1: of dysfunctional family, which most of us do right. And 108 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: then there's the generational trauma, which is downloaded and downloaded 109 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 1: and downloaded right. And then you we come out in 110 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,799 Speaker 1: the world and we have this authentic self that wants 111 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 1: to thrive. And if the environment isn't set up for 112 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: us to thrive, what happens. The authentic self has to 113 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: get buried. We have to play a character protect ourselves. 114 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 1: And then we go through this massive hormonal change in 115 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: our teen years and we feel insecure. We don't know 116 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: who we are, right, and so if we don't have 117 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 1: good mentors or role models or people that actually walk 118 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: the talk and not giving a slip service but have 119 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: experienced it, we had no navigation system. Yeah, how do 120 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: we know? We get into our twenties, we get a 121 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: little fame, or we get a little self esteem boost 122 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: because someone's likes it. I guess I going to run. 123 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: I hope this fills the whole. 124 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 2: It's interesting though, that you had that, like you were 125 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 2: able to have that perspective, because I feel like a 126 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 2: lot of people when they're and I can't, I don't, 127 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:59,919 Speaker 2: I don't and I don't know this, like I shouldn't 128 00:06:59,920 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: sa like a lot of people because I don't know. 129 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 2: I haven't been in that situation where you know, I 130 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 2: was using like that, but you know to look and go, Okay, 131 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 2: this is not the life that I want. So the 132 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: fact that you were able to kind of have that 133 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 2: like freeze frame moment must have been just like a 134 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 2: very out of body but also like like it was 135 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 2: that the moment that essentially saved your life. 136 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was. It was that pivotal moment. I'll be 137 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: honest with you, Jenna. I've got really really good intuition 138 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: as a kid, Like I always had that. I know 139 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: people really well, I'm good with people. I've always had that. 140 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: Just I just know, and it gets punished out of 141 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: you by the system, like, you know, don't trust your intuition. 142 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: That's not what we're telling you to do, that creative 143 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: part of you. So I just it was like that 144 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: movie Sliding Doors with Grenned Paltrow. I literally just zoomed down. 145 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: I zoomed down, and I'm good enough to know my 146 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: myself and say, all right, if I'm doing this all 147 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: over and over again, now, whatever the pain is. And 148 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: that's why I talk about in my book a dose 149 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: of positivity. It's dopamine, oxytose and serotonin indorphins. Right, We're 150 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: all searching for those happy brain chemicals, and there's empowering 151 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: ways to get that dose and disempowering. So when there 152 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: is trauma or pain or whatever, or we don't feel enough, 153 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 1: we search for the dose. Now my thing is, yes, 154 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 1: it's genetic and environment. My thing was cocaine and alcohol. Right, 155 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: But there's a point that you sit with yourself when 156 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: every addict does, and they ask themselves, all right, this 157 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: is not it's not fun anymore, because I can admit 158 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:47,839 Speaker 1: there was a lot of fun. I had a lot 159 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: of good times. You know. It wasn't like it was 160 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:53,440 Speaker 1: all I was having fun. I was partying with rock stars. 161 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: I ran all these nightclub doors. And you make a 162 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: ton of money and you're in your early twenties and 163 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: you think you've got the world in your hand, but 164 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: really you're holding on the sands. Say it's like, oh, 165 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:09,559 Speaker 1: things that get weird. And it was just that moment 166 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 1: where I was like sliding doors. I was like, all right, 167 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 1: I know what happens. I think I'm this is the 168 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,679 Speaker 1: luckiest thing. I do everything to an extreme and I 169 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:22,559 Speaker 1: paid the price of accumulating a lot of materialistic things 170 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: that I thought were going to make me happy. And 171 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: I was like, I was all light, It's all light. 172 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: And I stepped back, you know what I mean. And 173 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: as soon as I step back, I was like, Okay, 174 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: let me do. Let me take my life and then 175 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,440 Speaker 1: find purpose. Like the purpose was just feeling the whole. 176 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: It's honest. I was lonely, I was. I mean to 177 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: this day, Janna, my family never reads my books. They 178 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 1: asked me if I still work, But you know what 179 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: I mean, Like I've never had and this is this 180 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: is the messed up thing. And I'll tell people this. 181 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: Your intuition is the the strongest lead, and the universe 182 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: has a better plan than we do. But doing the 183 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: right thing isn't easy. But doing the easy thing isn't right. 184 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,319 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You gotta stick by your 185 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:18,720 Speaker 1: good values and morals. And like I the only reason 186 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: I got my green car was there was a teacher 187 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: that took advantage of a student and we were out 188 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: one night and the next day I had to make 189 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: a decision and lead acting school to help her. And 190 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: I thought, you know, I went to the same school, 191 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: as Hugh Jack. When you go to acting school, you 192 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: get it, you get you go get an agent and 193 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: get your green card, right. And I didn't happen to 194 00:10:39,160 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 1: get a job at a clothing store, but I preserved 195 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 1: her values by showing her that she shouldn't be treated 196 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,320 Speaker 1: like that, and she shouldn't you know what I mean, 197 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: No one should be treated like that. And then a 198 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: customer in the clothing store that I'm giving me a 199 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: green card lottery ticket. Wow, I was unaware of a 200 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: lottery thing, and I sent it in and see months 201 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 1: later I got the green cat. 202 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 2: Do you have do you have? 203 00:11:04,160 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 1: Like? 204 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:06,040 Speaker 2: Are you? Are you spiritual? Believing God? 205 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:06,200 Speaker 1: Like? 206 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 2: Do you do you see any of those moments? 207 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: Yeah? Everything? No, no, no, I I we all. 208 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 2: Have a because those moments where I'm like, that's a 209 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 2: God wink, you know what I mean. 210 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: That's like absolutely yeah, that's not coincidence. Every look God 211 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 1: puts us. Look, I always say, Okay, your calling isn't 212 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:31,079 Speaker 1: a conference call. The universe calls you right to work 213 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: hard to acquire a skill set that brings value to 214 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 1: other people. Okay, So I've always been good with people. 215 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:43,839 Speaker 1: My My job is to help people sick and suffering. Okay, 216 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 1: I'm just naturally. I just don't have to take If 217 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: I see a homeless person and they're struggling, I don't 218 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: have to think, oh, I don't look, I'm not going 219 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:52,719 Speaker 1: to help you. That's what I got into doing interventions. 220 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: It wasn't because I don't do what I want to do. 221 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: I do what I'm called to do. 222 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 2: That's beautiful. I always like, I look at my upbringing 223 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 2: and I'm like, okay, I can look and guard. There 224 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 2: was a pile of childhood traumas. I had a pile 225 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 2: of beliefs about myself that was told to me. So 226 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 2: then you I believed them up until you know, a 227 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 2: year ago, and so when you start breaking that down. 228 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 2: But it was interesting. We just had my buddy Jason 229 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 2: waller On and he's you know, he was in the 230 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: spotlight and he was a recovering addict, but he had 231 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,559 Speaker 2: a perfect childhood. So it's like, that's the piece where 232 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:45,319 Speaker 2: I'm always too interesting because I always go, well, it's 233 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 2: the child's of traumas. It goes back to the childhood wounds. 234 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 2: But it's like in his case, I'm like, then what 235 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 2: was it? So it's like, is it like it's not 236 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 2: just that piece, it's also the shame messages. Is it 237 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 2: then the shame messages? So it's like, what for you 238 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 2: was like that message that made you take this path? 239 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: I think, well, if you really want to break it 240 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: down scientifically, right, So if you look at the first 241 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,719 Speaker 1: seven years of life, that's when the brain is programmed. 242 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,800 Speaker 1: That's when the subconscious mind right, And we know the 243 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 1: subconscious is ninety five percent of programming, right, We're not 244 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: really conscious of of behaving until it becomes self awarely. 245 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 2: Did you say seven. 246 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:26,600 Speaker 1: Between zero and seven? Yeah, the first seven years. So 247 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: those first seven years is where the environment and the people, 248 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 1: the place and things program the subconscious mind right. And 249 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: that's you know, people don't realize it's every bit of 250 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: information that comes into your brain in those seven years 251 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:47,600 Speaker 1: become our behavior and beliefs. So, and this is another 252 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 1: thing that people't understand. Energy is the most important thing 253 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:53,840 Speaker 1: for a young child because we pick up what is 254 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:57,200 Speaker 1: being download in the relationship of the environment. So even 255 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: if people tell us they love us, but they don't 256 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 1: show love, we get confused, right, or they abuse us, 257 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 1: but I love you, You're like, why are you abusing me? 258 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: In times I mean, you love me, So maybe that's 259 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:11,600 Speaker 1: how it is. I get abused and that's how and 260 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: then the person says, I love me, right, Or you're 261 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: around alcoholism, or you're around screaming, and you're around all 262 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: these things that we don't know have built that software. Now, 263 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: So when we go out in the world and we 264 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: start to function, we're going to be triggered by all 265 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 1: these things, and we're unaware of what's triggering us because 266 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 1: guess what, it's buried in the subconscious. So let's just 267 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 1: say you, as Jenna, used to get mocked every day 268 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:42,600 Speaker 1: by your neighbor, all right, and he was just mean, 269 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: he bullied you. And at the time, you know, he 270 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,480 Speaker 1: was a little older and he smoked cigarettes, and the 271 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 1: nicotine it has the association with that abuse. Right, years 272 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 1: go by and someone starts smoking cigarettes and that trauma 273 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 1: is buried in the sub and you don't know what 274 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: it is about that person's smoking cigarettetion, like I don't 275 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 1: feel good because it stays buried in your amigdala and 276 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: the malig The amygdala, the primitive part of the brain, 277 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 1: can seem doing to fight flight, freeze or feed mode 278 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 1: before the body can actually, you know, we can rationally 279 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:22,400 Speaker 1: think in our prefrontal cortex what's going on. So when 280 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: people say, like when they say stuff like I was 281 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: so emotional, I wasn't thinking, You're like, yeah, because your 282 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: emotions at hijack you to say something, and then afterwards 283 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 1: you're like, oh my god, or like you send that 284 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:36,360 Speaker 1: email or you chase someone seven exits. You're what I'm saying, 285 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: it's like we do it because but we don't realize that. 286 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 1: And I always say, it's like, if you get triggered, 287 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: the body gives us signals, like if you're hot around 288 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: someone or if you feel uneasy, that's the body saying warning. 289 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,680 Speaker 1: And if you start to like looking really deeper into 290 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: the subconscious. Right, So I'll give you a per example. 291 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: Where were you September eleventh. 292 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 2: I was in junior year of German fra Barner's class. 293 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 1: Do you see how you didn't even have to think 294 00:16:06,560 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 1: about it? Yeah, that traumatic event is so ingrained in 295 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:14,160 Speaker 1: your subconscious mind that I just said that and you 296 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 1: knew exactly where it was. And now think about this, 297 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: Think about the first seven years of your life and 298 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: then what goes on to that that's in there that 299 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 1: you may not even know that it's triggered from this 300 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 1: our five centuries. Right, you say something, you hear something 301 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: I could say, you know, sweet Child of mind, the 302 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: song sweet Child of Mine? What's your first opinion of 303 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 1: that song? 304 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 2: It's great? I love it. This sing along all right? 305 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 1: But right, but you have a good memory, right, yeah, 306 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: So it's like the otherse things. So it doesn't matter. People. 307 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:50,200 Speaker 1: People could say they have a perfect upbringing, but if 308 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 1: you start really digging into their childhood, you will see 309 00:16:55,960 --> 00:17:00,520 Speaker 1: that they've had to perform a character. Right. The only 310 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: what reason that we use is week if we can't 311 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 1: be authentic and show ourselves unconditionally. M Yeah, because why 312 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 1: would you have to write. 313 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 2: Mike, do you have kids? 314 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: One? 315 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 2: What's the age? 316 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 1: He's five? He's a boy. But I didn't download all 317 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 1: my insanity on him. He's clean, dude, he is. He 318 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:28,120 Speaker 1: lives in the zone. He's live. Is our self educate him. 319 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 1: He loves people like there's no stress. This is so funny. 320 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: I got beaten so bad as a kid and abused, 321 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: and you'll laugh, right. I never raised my voice around him, 322 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 1: and it takes a lot to get me triggered now. 323 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: And I never yell in front of him, and I 324 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:44,360 Speaker 1: was on the phone in the day and I was like, dude, 325 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:47,160 Speaker 1: you're not getting He's like, Dad, what is it. Buddy's 326 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 1: like that's way too loud. I was like, little brat. 327 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 2: Like that's so cool. 328 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, chegged me like yeah, you don't raise your voice 329 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 1: like that. Like I was this guy really your little turn, 330 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: like he was checking me. He checked me. 331 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: You have no idea what I heard? 332 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 1: What? Yeah, you know what I'm saying, like exactly like 333 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:15,919 Speaker 1: you and I protected. Yeah, I'm like no, Like I 334 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: had this beautiful moment because I was pushed so bad 335 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: into sports and I was a really really great athlete 336 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:25,920 Speaker 1: and that my mum was really sick and just mentally 337 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,159 Speaker 1: not where and when i'd win, she just call me 338 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:30,760 Speaker 1: a show off and if I lost, my dad would 339 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: abuse me. Oh yeah. It was really bad, right, And 340 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 1: they never treated my having three siblings like that, because 341 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 1: my older brother got hisself for latist at seven, my 342 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:41,400 Speaker 1: sister was thirteen weeks premature, and my other brother kind 343 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 1: of it was like the you know, he got his 344 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:47,400 Speaker 1: own kind of mental stuff from them, but no abuse. 345 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 1: So he wanted to sit out t ball and I 346 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: was like fine, set that out whatever. Any any watched 347 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: watched the game and watching, and then the coach said, 348 00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: do you want to come in? I said, I don't know. 349 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 1: I'm asking five. I'm not gonna push him. It's T ball. 350 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:05,679 Speaker 1: I'm playing for the Yankees. And he dressed up as 351 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,719 Speaker 1: Bumblebee one day and the coach said, you know, Bumblebee, 352 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: the team needs you. He got on the field and 353 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:13,639 Speaker 1: crushed it and won the game ball, And it was 354 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: really good for me to not feel like I don't 355 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:20,159 Speaker 1: live vicariously through him, like he doesn't have to be 356 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: this person. I'm gonna lean into who he is, and 357 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: then I'm going to give him the skills and teach him, 358 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 1: displant and model that behavior. So he goes, all right, 359 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: my dad's up at three or four in the morning. 360 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:36,000 Speaker 1: My dad meditates. My dad does this. My dad's kind. 361 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,680 Speaker 1: He works hard. All right, that's what I see. I 362 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: guess I'll do that, you know what I mean, not like, 363 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:44,120 Speaker 1: go do it, go do it my way. I don't 364 00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 1: know his way. You know, I don't know his way. 365 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,159 Speaker 1: I've got to kind of give him a good healthy 366 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:50,679 Speaker 1: environment to mold himself. 367 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 3: Oh but I love that. 368 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 2: Though, especially, I mean because I have a seven and 369 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 2: a four year old and so you know, I and 370 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 2: I a couple of years ago through a divorce, and 371 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 2: it's just you know, trying to be like okay, like 372 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,119 Speaker 2: because I know these ages because my my childhood goes wound, 373 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 2: goes back to six. So it's like I've been so 374 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:11,600 Speaker 2: hyper vigilant of like not you know, screwing them up, 375 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 2: and like, I know there'll be something probably I don't 376 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 2: know which what it is, but like, you know, just 377 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:20,800 Speaker 2: doing the very best with with that piece. But I'm curious, 378 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 2: you know, with your book, is there a is there 379 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 2: something where you still struggle with positivity at times? 380 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,280 Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, and this is your love is so absolutely yeah. 381 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 1: So they go, God will give you what you know 382 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 1: you can't you can you can handle or whatever the 383 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: thing is. So you know, I get in the book deal? 384 00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:45,440 Speaker 1: Was how to get a book deal? I had? My 385 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: agent was useless. I had to Yeah, I had to 386 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: take on a crazy job. So I intuitively know. 387 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 2: What to do. 388 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:59,440 Speaker 1: So I get a call to detox this guy and 389 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:00,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to do it. Its COVID and I 390 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,120 Speaker 1: don't want to do it, and my agent's like, I'll 391 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: sell the book. Don't worry. 392 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:05,359 Speaker 2: Why don't you want to do it? 393 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 1: What was the like? It is just like it's hard 394 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: Jenna and I and I'm not I'm not going to 395 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 1: there's if you call me for help. Right as a person, 396 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,960 Speaker 1: I don't know. I've never had anyone people abandoned me 397 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:26,639 Speaker 1: and didn't believe in me. I don't abandon people. I'm empathetic. 398 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 1: I've see you getting beaten down. I stand up. 399 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 2: I don't have people under web republic, you know what 400 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 2: I mean? Like I was, I was meeting in you know, 401 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 2: and you let people in like jen My Cramer. 402 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,399 Speaker 1: So I know. I know that detox is going to 403 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: be bad. He won't go to treatment and you won't 404 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 1: do the detox. So that yeah, So they I said, 405 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 1: just give me a ticket. I set a price up. 406 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,960 Speaker 1: I said, give me the ticket. So I get there. 407 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: I said, I'll just have dinner with him. I have 408 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:00,400 Speaker 1: dinner with him. He's like, well, you detox me. I'm like, yeah, now, 409 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,119 Speaker 1: this is what you go to Remember when I detox 410 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: someone one on one, it's me and them in a 411 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,400 Speaker 1: hotel room for ten days. I barely sleep for ten days. 412 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 1: So it's real stuff. But I'm going to get you 413 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: through it. And that's my skill. I can endure a 414 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,159 Speaker 1: massive amount of pain for my upbringing, and I have 415 00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:19,119 Speaker 1: massive resilience. I mean, I ran thirty half marathons in 416 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,680 Speaker 1: thirty days after stomach surgery, and I was told I'd 417 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 1: never run again. Wow. And I'd ran one half marathon 418 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,240 Speaker 1: before and I was told I'd never heal myself again. 419 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: And I healed myself naturally of olcilated collidis. So it's like, 420 00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:36,240 Speaker 1: I have this inateability to just zone in. So I 421 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 1: did the detox, got him clean, and then I was like, 422 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,480 Speaker 1: I'm going to get out of here. And his dad 423 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:43,440 Speaker 1: called me and he said, what's the program like? And 424 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:45,199 Speaker 1: I was like, it sucks, it's not a good program. 425 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:47,439 Speaker 1: So the dad goes, I'll put you in a private plane, 426 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: set up a program with my son, stay with him 427 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:53,920 Speaker 1: in DC. And I had to fly back and forth 428 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: and put my body on the line to get this 429 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 1: guy through. And I got him through it and I 430 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 1: got back and my agent couldn't sell the book. A 431 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 1: wast of my time. So I was like, Okay. So 432 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 1: when I'm in those frustrations and negative moments, I sit 433 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,680 Speaker 1: by myself and I breathe and I get to do 434 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 1: a mindful new session. And I'd heard of an agent, 435 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 1: Paul Bill Gladstone, who represented Eckar told and I said, 436 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:19,760 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm just going to do what I do. 437 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: I'm a Breakdawlls. I'm gonna send him an email and 438 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: just say, dude, I got a book ready to go 439 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:26,920 Speaker 1: on a proposal. My agent couldn't do nothing with it. 440 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:32,200 Speaker 1: Could you read the proposal? He read the proposal, read 441 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,359 Speaker 1: the book. He three weeks later he got me a 442 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,719 Speaker 1: publishing deal. Oh my god, but it gets better, right, 443 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,040 Speaker 1: I go, I want to call it those of positivity. 444 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: They go absolutely, So we go into edits. I'd done 445 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: two edits before we go into edits. During the edited time, 446 00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 1: I get COVID three times. My stomach blows out with 447 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 1: the ulcerated collidis. I'm not joking, Jenna, and I want 448 00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: to be graphic. I was using the bathroom like twenty 449 00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:02,680 Speaker 1: five times a day, literally dying, and I'm sitting there 450 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,360 Speaker 1: and I'm trying to edit this manuscript within the time 451 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,080 Speaker 1: they said re edit it with the notes right, seventy 452 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 1: thousand words and I'm sitting there and going. 453 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,480 Speaker 4: I brought this on myself. The last thing I want 454 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 4: to do is be positive. Like I'm losing my mind. 455 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 4: I can't hold down food. I've had COVID three times, 456 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:24,120 Speaker 4: I have alter rated Collidis. 457 00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: And I give myself this karmas by calling the book 458 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,720 Speaker 1: a dose of positivity, right. 459 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,159 Speaker 2: Because now I have to be positive, right. 460 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:36,359 Speaker 1: So I start laughing. And then what I do is 461 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: I go, see, this is going to be such a 462 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,760 Speaker 1: great story. This is why I have to do this, 463 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:42,880 Speaker 1: teaching me to get out of my way and I'll 464 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 1: heal myself, which I did. And then I'd read Victor Frankel, 465 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:50,040 Speaker 1: who like he goes out and he's in Auschwitz and 466 00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,480 Speaker 1: he you know, he's positive. And I read all these 467 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 1: incredible inspiring people that they take the university and you 468 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 1: sit in them. It's a lesson. There's never a loss, 469 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,119 Speaker 1: there's a les And it taught me. It taught me 470 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,159 Speaker 1: to slow down, and taught me to be patient, and 471 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 1: taught me to be grateful. Be grateful. I've got a 472 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,200 Speaker 1: book deal, Be grateful that the other agent. Be grateful. 473 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,119 Speaker 1: I got someone sober, you know what I mean. I'm 474 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 1: still alive. There's people I've got friends of the dead 475 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: that died during COVID grateful. I got through COVID three times, 476 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,560 Speaker 1: so I just instantly sit in the pain and I 477 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:25,119 Speaker 1: don't become a victim. I'm like, what's the victory? How 478 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 1: can I get a win out of this small thing? 479 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,159 Speaker 1: You know, because I know I'm going to get through it. 480 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 1: I always tell myself, I'm like, I can figure this 481 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: out if I just slow down, and so yeah, but 482 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,200 Speaker 1: I'll be honest, I'm not one of those people that 483 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:39,520 Speaker 1: wakes up in the morning at three in the morning 484 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 1: and bells on whistles and dust car wheel. I was like, 485 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 1: I'm grumpy. I was like, oh, I don't want to 486 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 1: do this because it's hard. It's hard to get up. 487 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,480 Speaker 2: I can be very positive, but I can also be 488 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,560 Speaker 2: very pessimistic, where I'm just like, it's not gonna happen 489 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 2: because it's never happened, So like, why am I like 490 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,119 Speaker 2: continuing doing this thinking that I'm going to get a 491 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,360 Speaker 2: different result that I've had in the past. Like, it's 492 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:17,080 Speaker 2: just it's not going to happen for me. And that's 493 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,960 Speaker 2: the that's the like ugliest side of like my brain 494 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 2: sometimes and the other side is so grateful and so 495 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 2: thankful and happy, but there's also that piece. I think 496 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:29,800 Speaker 2: that the thread in that was I didn't think I 497 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 2: deserved to be happy, and so that's like what has 498 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,440 Speaker 2: been my work like with my therapist was like I 499 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 2: didn't think that is like we were doing e MDR 500 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 2: and we're like trying to figure it out, and I 501 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,560 Speaker 2: was like I just stopped and I started balling, and 502 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 2: I was like, I don't think I deserve it because 503 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 2: everything that like again the messages and everything else, and 504 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,879 Speaker 2: like that was the biggest piece to like overcome. Now 505 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 2: I still have moments of like you know that that 506 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,359 Speaker 2: creeps back in, right, but it's like it's hard to 507 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,600 Speaker 2: be positive one hundred percent. So it's for someone like 508 00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,359 Speaker 2: you that's written this kind of book, it's you know, 509 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 2: it's it's nice to hear that you too have those 510 00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,920 Speaker 2: moments where this is it's because life is hard and 511 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 2: things get thrown at you, but it's just there. It's 512 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 2: like you your tools in the book, Like obviously I 513 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,440 Speaker 2: want my listeners to read the book, but like, what 514 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,399 Speaker 2: are some of those tools and techniques that you go 515 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 2: to when you need like help getting there? 516 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,639 Speaker 1: Well, the first thing you have to do is like 517 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: I always say, like what you said, is really beautiful. 518 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:28,560 Speaker 1: It's like whenever I'm going through something and I and 519 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:33,200 Speaker 1: I had that this past, like things that didn't go 520 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,639 Speaker 1: my way, So I'm triggered thinking it's not going to 521 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 1: go my way. I'm like, well, okay, well what can 522 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: I do right now? What's the most what can I 523 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:45,000 Speaker 1: do to just in this moment? Because look, let's just 524 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:49,639 Speaker 1: be straight, Jenna, in all reality, all that matters is 525 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: me on a pocast with you. That's it. That's the 526 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 1: purest form of reality, right, I am sitting on a 527 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 1: podcast with you. So there's two techniques that will save someone. Right. 528 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 1: The first one is called stop. So if you as 529 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 1: Janet Kramer on me, as Mike as sitting on this podcast, 530 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:14,040 Speaker 1: and for some reason, you're not actually calm right now 531 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: because there's no threat right now, even if they were 532 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,919 Speaker 1: at your house trying to take your stuff, or someone 533 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,480 Speaker 1: you don't know, something's happening to a shop, you're with 534 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 1: me now, there's no threat, right The only threat is 535 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,880 Speaker 1: if something in the environment triggers a threat. Right, So there, 536 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: emotionally you become disturbed. Now, a technique that'll that'll that 537 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,199 Speaker 1: will help you regulate your sympathetic nervous system and get 538 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,200 Speaker 1: back to Paris. Sympathetic nervous system is called stop, and 539 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 1: it's simply you tell yourself, I've got to stop. Wherever 540 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:42,720 Speaker 1: you are, you just say I've got to stop. I've 541 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 1: got to stop, right. And the second thing is t 542 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 1: take a breath. Now. When I say take a breath, 543 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:55,200 Speaker 1: it's proper deep diaframatic breathing. It's not pipe anyway, right, 544 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: And you don't have to do whim Hoff. You just 545 00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: need to breathe in slowly, expand the diaphragm, breathe out slowly. 546 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: Usually five or six breads will help you regulate your emotions. 547 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 1: And I always say to people, you know, if you 548 00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,360 Speaker 1: watch a boxing match for a UFC fight, right, you 549 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 1: see they're in a real fight. Even though the media 550 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: makes it up to desensitize the violence. It's violence. It's 551 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: people trying to kill each other when they get back 552 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:21,360 Speaker 1: to the corner. And the first thing in the corner 553 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:25,760 Speaker 1: man says is breathe. Its breathe because you get that 554 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: time to breathe and regulate. Go from sympathetic parasympathetic into 555 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: your prefront of context. Now observe you're either afraid you're 556 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: not going to get what you want, you're going to 557 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,840 Speaker 1: lose what you have. You have some guilt, guilt and 558 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,960 Speaker 1: shame or sometime of insecurities from the past, or guess what, 559 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:46,520 Speaker 1: you're worried too much about the future. Right, So if 560 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,959 Speaker 1: it's one of the four, guess where you're not present 561 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: with me, So then you pee, proceed right and take 562 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 1: action when you're calm, so you actually respond and take 563 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: critical think action right, not emotions, not reacting, not regretting 564 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:10,680 Speaker 1: what you've done, because your emotions have actually the energy 565 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,800 Speaker 1: emotion has put you in the wrong course. Right. So 566 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 1: the second technique is called stamp. And when you are 567 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 1: ruminating over and over again, because remember it's either feeling 568 00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:27,880 Speaker 1: then acting or thinking, thinking your way into the feeling 569 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 1: then acting right, there's two different things. You could overthink something, 570 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,600 Speaker 1: get emotional and act like a crazy person, or you 571 00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,080 Speaker 1: could be triggered right then act like a crazy person, 572 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,360 Speaker 1: then think about it. So the second one is to stamp, 573 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 1: and I say stamp is like stamping on the ruminating 574 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:49,720 Speaker 1: negative thoughts. Stop again, take a breath, breathe diaphragmatically. Once 575 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 1: you start to breathe diaphragmatically, a adjust my thinking. Okay, 576 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:58,080 Speaker 1: I'm now breathing adjusted, So what is something I can 577 00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 1: be grateful for? What am I ruminating on? You've got 578 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 1: to get clarity if you find one thing to be 579 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 1: grateful for, and you can slightly reframe whatever you're ruminating on, 580 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,720 Speaker 1: like you're not enough, I'm not going to get enough, 581 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: or I don't have enough. It's usually that I want this, 582 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:18,120 Speaker 1: but do you need it? Right? If you've got your 583 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,680 Speaker 1: primary needs mat it's usually a want right, and then 584 00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 1: m I'm now am going to make the change right 585 00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: and proceed to be grateful or take action in a 586 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: positive way, and then p After you've made the change, 587 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: you proceed, you get on your way. And like anything, 588 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 1: it's learned behavior. The more you practice slowing down, breathing 589 00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: and setting yourself in the moment, the better you get 590 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:46,520 Speaker 1: at it. Now, the world is not designed to make 591 00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 1: us do that. This phone, we're always scrolling not enough 592 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:56,760 Speaker 1: right comparison syndrome right, negative people, toxic people telling us 593 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,720 Speaker 1: all these things, downloading their day. 594 00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:03,920 Speaker 2: On us, the filters right right, showing us that we 595 00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:05,040 Speaker 2: don't look good enough. 596 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,480 Speaker 1: So you just need to sit alone and just And 597 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,360 Speaker 1: it's very important to be around like the right people, 598 00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:15,760 Speaker 1: Like you've got to know who you're sharing with, Like 599 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:19,080 Speaker 1: I don't. I have to do a lot of journaling 600 00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: and alone time, and I share with a couple of 601 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,400 Speaker 1: people because it's like you think you can share your 602 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:29,280 Speaker 1: stop with people and then they start acting strange, like right, 603 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,440 Speaker 1: then you can share your stuff for me and I 604 00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:35,080 Speaker 1: won't tell you much. Right Not everyone wants to get 605 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:36,800 Speaker 1: deep and ugly and get through the stop. 606 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 2: It's like my favorite thing. I like, that's like my connection, 607 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 2: like I when I I don't, I don't love the 608 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:45,960 Speaker 2: small talk when I meet someone like I just I'm like, 609 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 2: I need to know what deep. I want to know 610 00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 2: what's your what's your wounds? Like what's your leak? And 611 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,080 Speaker 2: how can we like you know, heal and grow and 612 00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:57,160 Speaker 2: learn because I always think I mean everything that you 613 00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 2: know when I fail, that's my biggest learning lessons. I'm 614 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,080 Speaker 2: always looking at it like, Okay, what did I learn 615 00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 2: from this? How can I do better? Or what can 616 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 2: I you know, how can I grow and heal and continue? 617 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,959 Speaker 2: And I'm adding a dose of positivity to KRT right now, 618 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:14,600 Speaker 2: and I want everyone to do the same. Mike, this 619 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,440 Speaker 2: has been my favorite full circle moment I think I've 620 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:21,360 Speaker 2: ever had with you on the show from from Vegas. 621 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 2: So like, just thank you for being so vulnerable and 622 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 2: sharing your heart and you know, having because I think 623 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,160 Speaker 2: it's it's not it's definitely not easy to be positive 624 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:37,240 Speaker 2: at all, but to be able to be such a 625 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 2: figure for people and someone to look up to the 626 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,960 Speaker 2: fact that you've gone through so much in your life, 627 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 2: to be able to still be positive, it's like I 628 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 2: almost to be like other people can't complain, you know 629 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 2: what I mean? Like you you are living proof that 630 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 2: like you can overcome and you can still be positive 631 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 2: and have hope. 632 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,120 Speaker 1: You know what it is. I'll tell people the three 633 00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 1: simple things, Okaya. The rules. Always break the rules. Okay, 634 00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,760 Speaker 1: whatever rules are, they were created by man, they weren't 635 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:07,200 Speaker 1: created by spirit. Second thing is respect man made laws, 636 00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:10,160 Speaker 1: because wherever you go in the world, the laws are different. 637 00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,400 Speaker 1: So you know, you don't want to be locked up 638 00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:13,399 Speaker 1: doing something done. 639 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:16,919 Speaker 2: Don't bring weed to Russia. 640 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,320 Speaker 1: Yeah right, right, don't. 641 00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:21,560 Speaker 2: Do check the laws you don't know. You don't know lows. 642 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I get. I can stop the other day at 643 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:27,440 Speaker 1: the airport, right because I had some powders and then 644 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 1: amuser with some glutamine and the guy goes, it's it's 645 00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,120 Speaker 1: a is that a bomb device? It's like, the only 646 00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:34,279 Speaker 1: bombing going to get is the fiber blowing through you. 647 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:36,680 Speaker 1: But it's not a bomb. And they had me waiting 648 00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:39,400 Speaker 1: for forty five minutes and they like full searched me. 649 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 1: And the guy goes, do you want a private room? 650 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,600 Speaker 1: I said, dude, I have no problems people touching me 651 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 1: in public. I have no shame. I used to do 652 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,120 Speaker 1: eight balls of cocaine and I'm on to going into 653 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 1: an easter benure to say a crackhead, right yeah, And 654 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,560 Speaker 1: they're like, said by Mike, Dude, I don't care I 655 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: have You're not going to embarrass a guy like me. 656 00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 1: I've done it all right. And the third thing is 657 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:05,719 Speaker 1: you must obey spiritual laws. Okay, study them. A lot 658 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,759 Speaker 1: of attraction, lot of correspondence, a lot of synchronicity, lot 659 00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:12,960 Speaker 1: of karma. You report your soul right, and always do 660 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:16,359 Speaker 1: something with the right purpose because if the cause is right, 661 00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:22,400 Speaker 1: the effect is always money. Okay. Put people first and 662 00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: bring value to weather people and you will profit. I 663 00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:26,759 Speaker 1: love that. 664 00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,520 Speaker 2: Mike, thank you so much for coming on the shlf. Seriously, 665 00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,319 Speaker 2: You're just a breath of fresh air. 666 00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,000 Speaker 1: I have to connect. I would love that. 667 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,240 Speaker 2: I'm going to DM you right now, Yeah I will. 668 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,760 Speaker 1: And anything you need. I'm one of those real guys 669 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,320 Speaker 1: like I'm there to help and serve and just whatever 670 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,880 Speaker 1: people are going through. I get into the mark and 671 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:49,839 Speaker 1: the weeds and you need, you need, Like they say, 672 00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,880 Speaker 1: you love this. It's a great video. And there's a 673 00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: male lion screaming out and he's got twenty hyaenas trying 674 00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:59,120 Speaker 1: to kill him, and another male lion from when he 675 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,279 Speaker 1: was years ago, an old friend. Here's the call from 676 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:05,399 Speaker 1: five miles away, and he runs over to help him, 677 00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 1: and two male lions make twenty hyaenas run. And I 678 00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,839 Speaker 1: always say to people, you only need one or two 679 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,920 Speaker 1: people in your life that can be there for you 680 00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,879 Speaker 1: when things fall apart, and the rest of the pack 681 00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,920 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. I just have one or two people that 682 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 1: are your engines, that help drive you, that just are 683 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:26,799 Speaker 1: there for you, and that's what you need. 684 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,840 Speaker 2: I love that and I I've one thousand percent agree. 685 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,600 Speaker 2: So yeah, you're the best. Thank you for coming on, 686 00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:36,359 Speaker 2: and I'll see you soon. 687 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:38,359 Speaker 1: Bye. Telling you're the best,