1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: with i R Radio. Hello and welcome to another podcast 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: live from Tahoe. We are here things to Hundai. Um 4 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: we're hanging out a whole bunch of us BOUSHL people 5 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: together and like Tahoe for the first time in like 6 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: two and a half years, at our producer, um, Amy 7 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 1: Sugarman's humble abode. Pretty much. I'm not really at Amy's house, 8 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: but you know what, we're around her house. This is 9 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: this is why we come to tile because this is 10 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:33,599 Speaker 1: where Amy's from. UM. So, guys, we're all we're talking 11 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 1: about evolving your journey because that is what Hyundai stands for. 12 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 1: Let's go around and talk about like not not we 13 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: won't do it? Ben way, Ben, Ben will do Ben Way? 14 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,559 Speaker 1: Okay Ben Ben? Oh, by the way, guys, Ben at 15 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: the top of a mountain right now. Hester ended at 16 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 1: the top of a mountain. We took a tram all 17 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: the way up. I've never been on anything like that 18 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: as far as like going skiing, because I've only gone 19 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: skiing once on Batchtor Winter Games. You die hards out there, 20 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: you know how it went. I never attempted afterwards. Uh, 21 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: and that hill wasn't very high, we would have this 22 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: huge tram today y'all here, Okay, wait hold, I'll tell 23 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: you who I'm with here. This is super casual and 24 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 1: with Analy's Kaylin Jason Tartek. He's joining me for my 25 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: first almost his podcast of this week. We have Ryan 26 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: Sutter who's also joining me for my first podcast this week, 27 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: and trist To Sutter. So we're all hanging out, you guys. 28 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: Um is that a normal like tram experience for those 29 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,320 Speaker 1: skiers here or was that like the highest thing ever? 30 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: Where we a mile high, where we a mile higher 31 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: than we already are, which I think like Taho already 32 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: is like a mile high. So I will say, when 33 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: you guys were talking about the altitude, so in the tram, 34 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: there was conversation about how high we were, and I 35 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 1: think they came up with fet something like that. Right, 36 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: we actually live at feet so it's it's really high. 37 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: It's gorgeous, but but it's not I mean, in terms 38 00:01:56,160 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: of altitude, it's not abnormal for surprising. I think about 39 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: the whole tram experiences that you talked about. Ben Ben 40 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 1: missed the tram because we were fet there and somehow 41 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: he found a museum and a documentary, and he's plugged 42 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: in in a museum reading or listening to some documentary. 43 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: When we left, he's like one of our friends that 44 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: stayed right, And I guess we left without even realizing 45 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: that he was gone. I think we realized he was gone. 46 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: There were some people who realized we I had to 47 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: text Ryan because he and Max were off looking for 48 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: the lake that they went hiking to today. Um, and 49 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: he came running up like I gotta get there. But 50 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: Ben obviously didn't have it on his radar to get 51 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:40,680 Speaker 1: here on time. Okay, Well, going back to evolving our 52 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: journey with Hyundai, Well I would say that I evolved 53 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: my journey today by going up there that high and 54 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: going on something like that. Right, it was my adventure 55 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: for the day. But I said Ben can do his 56 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,239 Speaker 1: like serious. Um, No, let's not get serious in this podcast. 57 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 1: It's just a fun podcast because when Ben says of 58 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: all your journey, he gets serious, you know, and I 59 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: get like, let's talk about tramps. Um. But Analyiz has 60 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: a fun of all of your journey story that she 61 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: was just about to tell. But I was like, no, 62 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:13,959 Speaker 1: no, no no, wait until the mic is hot. Okay, Analyze's mom. 63 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: She goes to Burning Man, So, like, does this ruboff 64 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: on you? Is this like a teaching style for her? 65 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: Do you ever go to Burning Man with her? What 66 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 1: kind of like activities is she partaken there? Because I 67 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: hear crazy things? Please, Yeah, we have a very so 68 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:32,239 Speaker 1: so I'll start from I have I've wanted to go. 69 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: I'm from California, from northern California, from Sanrancis. She's like, 70 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I mean a little hippie ish, you know, 71 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: I can, I can go that way, but but I've 72 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: always sort of had an interest in it, and I 73 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: have a ton of friends that go. And I had 74 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: done a six months solo trip through Europe and then 75 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: I was like I came back and I was like, 76 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: you know what I'm gonna I'm gonna end this like 77 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 1: journey with going to Burning Man. So I told my mom, 78 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to Burning Man. This was before doing 79 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: the Bachelor. Um, so many journeys, many journeys. Uh so yeah, 80 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: So that was a lot of evolving. That whole period 81 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:11,000 Speaker 1: of time was like a big evolution for me, doing 82 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: a six months solo trip and then Burning Man. But 83 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: I tell my mom and like, I'm gonna go to 84 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 1: Burning Man and she goes, oh, yeah, I've always wanted 85 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,840 Speaker 1: to go, and I'm like, you know, that's not that, mom, 86 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: I don't want he's going with me. And so then 87 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: she's like, Okay, we're going, and I'm like, no, we're not. 88 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:28,919 Speaker 1: We're I don't know how to tell you this, No 89 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: we are not going. But then we did go together. 90 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: We both went to Burning Man. We um, we got 91 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: we got stuck in the parking lot the first night. 92 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 1: There was a huge rain storm. It was just like 93 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: a crazy experience. But it was so much fun. And 94 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm an artist that I was a fine arts major 95 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: in college, and my mom's like really creative and and 96 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: so for us, like we love Halloween, we love costumes, 97 00:04:53,720 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: we like we loved the aspect, the music, um, the 98 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: community aspect of like being on plugged you have no service, 99 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: You're like meeting people and actually just like going and 100 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 1: sitting at somebody's camp and like having a conversation with 101 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: a stranger. It was It was cool. So I did 102 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 1: it three times and then I was on Paradise and 103 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: it um overlaps the the reunion show overlaps with Burning Man. 104 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: So I didn't go the last two years, and my 105 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: mom went those two years without me. So she's gone 106 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: five times and I've gone three times. So also side notes, 107 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: So both times I was at the reunion show. One 108 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: of those times being broken up with, I really wanted 109 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: to call my mom, but she was at burning Man 110 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: in a hotel, so she's unplugged out there. What's the 111 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 1: sleeping situation. So she now has a little like camper 112 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: that she but I actually took on a road trip 113 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: during COVID. It's awesome, um and she has the whole setup, 114 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: the amenities of like a bathroom and a kitchen, so 115 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: it was great. Once she got that, which I think 116 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: was year too. I still was tenting it, which is 117 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: very rough, like no shower for ten days, you know, 118 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: porta potty situation. Kalen's like my regular life, but welcome 119 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: to my life. So that like fun fact about me. 120 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: I could go a very long time without showering. I like, don't, 121 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not a person that showers very often. 122 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's gross, but I'm a mom. 123 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 1: It's like every third day, so I wasn't every other day, 124 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 1: but now I can be like three to five days, 125 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: burning me in like ten days. It's so dry and dusty. 126 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,039 Speaker 1: It's easy for me anyways. But anyways, so now my 127 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:35,159 Speaker 1: mom has this trailer and it's great because I would 128 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: tend it and then i'd like go ride my bike 129 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 1: over to her trailer and i'd cook eggs in the morning. 130 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is luxury. Why were you in the 131 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: trailer with your mom? No, I'd like ride to her 132 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: camp because we're at different camps, so I would be 133 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,479 Speaker 1: why was there different camps? There's so many camps. They'll 134 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: be like a ton of different people have like I 135 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: can't even think of a name right now, but they'll 136 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: have one that's like just dedicated to like cats, were 137 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,720 Speaker 1: like English people, or like you know, love like English people. 138 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just trying to think of like 139 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 1: what I've seen. There's like a Barbie camp. There's like 140 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: all sorts of things. Okay, Okay, so this is really 141 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: super interesting and I'm I want to ask more questions, 142 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: but I'm also concerned because all my questions are rated 143 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: are I'm not sure that Hund wants to hear about that. 144 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: So we're gonna have you come out, come back and 145 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: talk about burning a band some other time. Moving on 146 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: to Kalin because she made a really cute, sweet comment 147 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 1: and dinner yesterday about how her life has just her 148 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: horizons have been brought in because of her life with Dean. 149 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: What was the exact quote you said? It was really sweet, 150 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: so cheesy, and Dean with Cris on topic with your journey. Um, 151 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: it is so cheesy. I hate it. But I really 152 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: feel like I didn't start living until I met Dean, 153 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: just because he's opened my eyes to so many things 154 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: like skydiving and rock climbing and living in the van 155 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: and just like broke me out of this uh like 156 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: uptight shell that I was in. So it's these past 157 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: three years have been like the best of my life. 158 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: I love that, alright, Jason, how do you feel? Oh, 159 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: by the way, you guys, Ben has just arrived from 160 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: the top of the mountain. How was the documentary? It 161 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: was awesome, It was really fun. I watched the Olympic 162 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: documentary from nineteen sixty. It was nineteen sixty that they did. 163 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: I just let you know. It was the very first 164 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: televised Olympics ever, so it really put winter sports on 165 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: the map. Um, that's what I'll stopped talking. I had 166 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: a great time. I'm glad I'm late because I was 167 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,839 Speaker 1: learning so much about life. I'm gonna keep So, Okay, 168 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: you evolved your journey by watching this documentary. We're talking 169 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: about evolving your journey because Hunda, you know, that's what 170 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 1: they believe in, and that's what we believe in. But 171 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: I said that they can go Ben style on explaining 172 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: this and go deep and like spiritual, or they can 173 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 1: go Ashley style and be like there was this one 174 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:01,959 Speaker 1: time where I pet an awesome dog. I feel like 175 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: you have so much depth in both the ways. Credit Okay, Jason, 176 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: any any anecdote a little story for us? First of all, 177 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: when you do this Burning Man episode, I'd love to 178 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:16,199 Speaker 1: know because I'm very confused. I don't know much about it. 179 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to one on one because I heard cat areas, 180 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:21,960 Speaker 1: I heard nice eggs with moms. I thought it was 181 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,439 Speaker 1: a music festival. So I'll give me that link when 182 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: it comes out, Um evolved my journey, I'll I don't. 183 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: I don't really know. I think I don't know. It's 184 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: been a wild ride. I think I think I talked 185 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 1: about this often, but never a million years. I think 186 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: I would go on a reality show, go on the Bachelor, 187 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: against what everyone in the world told me to do, 188 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: and as a result of that, it's changed my life 189 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: in every single way. And like even just being here 190 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,200 Speaker 1: and talking to you guys never would have happened if 191 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: I went on that show. So I'm gonna take the 192 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: ben route. I'm gonna get a little more deeper. But 193 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: I think, like, evolve your journey when opportunities come your way, 194 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: and when they do, like just dive into them and 195 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: don't look back because so many people will be there 196 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: to judge. But like, one action you make today could 197 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: change your life. For I always say one of the 198 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: cheesy sayings that you should live by cheesy sings like 199 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:13,319 Speaker 1: the title of the episode. But I'd like to get 200 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: back to burning Match because that wasn't cheesy. That was 201 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:23,080 Speaker 1: very intense. The magic does happen outside of your comfort 202 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:35,959 Speaker 1: zone for sure. Now we had the cute married couple. 203 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 1: They're coupled up and snugly on the corner of the 204 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: cow Trisa, Ryan, do you want to answer this question 205 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 1: together or separately? Oh? No, no, because I think Chris 206 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: is saying if we do it together, then Ryan won't 207 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: say anything. Exactly, which is fine. Ryan. How has your 208 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: your journey evolved over the past, like twenty years with 209 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: Chester twenty years. I was just gonna talk about the 210 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:02,839 Speaker 1: last couple of minutes. That works for me good because 211 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: I just paid an awesome dog last weekend. We were 212 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:07,839 Speaker 1: at it. We were at a wedding and we went 213 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: on a hike and I had seen this dog. I 214 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:14,080 Speaker 1: follow these rescue mots flights on Instagram, and there was 215 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 1: this dog and this dog was named Iris, and it 216 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 1: was an awesome dog for sure, So like, like, what 217 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 1: kind of dog was it? It was just mud. It 218 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: was just like someone had rescued it off of a 219 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: New Mexico Indian reservation or Native American reservation and it's 220 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 1: been it was being fostered, and so they had posted 221 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: a post on Instagram about looking for a permanent home, 222 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 1: which I wasn't able to convince anyone that should at 223 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: home should be Iris, but but it was just kind 224 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: of crazy that I had just seen her and we 225 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 1: were walking, Tristan and I were walking on a hike 226 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: in Buena Vista, which was not where we live, and 227 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:52,079 Speaker 1: here comes this little dog, Iris, and she was sweetheart. 228 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: Did you talk about adopting her before you met her 229 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: in real life. No, I didn't. I'd never talked about 230 00:11:57,520 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: that stuff because I never went and so it's just 231 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 1: not worth it. But we have a great dog, so 232 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 1: that's fine. But it was just crazy seeing this dog walking. 233 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: How many dogs do you ideally want? I wouldn't we 234 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: have one. I wouldn't mind took. I think he was great, 235 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: but we'll see. I could honestly have three. Yeah, I 236 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:17,559 Speaker 1: could have three too. Now that now that you've we've 237 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 1: talked about it, I feel like, yeah, he convinced me. 238 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 1: I actually just them sitting here in envy of everyone 239 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: Bend for figuring out some way to finagle with his 240 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: way to be late to this thing, which is usually 241 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: what I'm good at, and I saw I'm like, how 242 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: did I miss this documentary? I've never been to Burning 243 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: manell you to get I know Burning Man, I've missed 244 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 1: out on it. Despite the fact that they I don't 245 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: know if you know this, but Burning Man hires a 246 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:50,560 Speaker 1: fire department, a unique fire department every single Burning manu 247 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: um because just just unique every year. So it's new 248 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: people every year. So they just build their own fire 249 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:03,079 Speaker 1: department every year for specific for Burning Different Towns department 250 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,240 Speaker 1: every year. No, they just hired, like you can apply 251 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:07,320 Speaker 1: and you can do that. So I've I've always been 252 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: jealous of that. So we have to do a collaborative 253 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 1: thing here where you and at least go to Burning 254 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,400 Speaker 1: Man together and then you come and do a podcast. Yeah, 255 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:19,319 Speaker 1: we'll talk about it afterwards. My mom got two tickets 256 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: this year, but I'm not convinced I'm gonna go, so 257 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:25,559 Speaker 1: you can go with my Your mom sounds great, but 258 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:30,959 Speaker 1: not as great as Yeah, I'm super jealous of Kalen's 259 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:34,680 Speaker 1: relationship with Dean or envious. It sounds like like I 260 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: could use a life changing experience like that. Although trist 261 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: has done a pretty good job over the last twenty 262 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 1: years of opening my eyes very well. I'm just trying 263 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:48,079 Speaker 1: to go through everyone and say how appreciative sort of 264 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: I am of their lives and incorporating me in here, 265 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: because I think it's weird for Tristan and I because 266 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: we were on this show so long ago that we 267 00:13:58,280 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: don't relate necessarily to everybody, And so to get here, 268 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: to get this opportunity to sit here briefly and listen 269 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,760 Speaker 1: to everybody um talking about their experiences is pretty cool. 270 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: So I just more of a which doesn't seem obvious 271 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:12,719 Speaker 1: because I feel like I've been talking my face off 272 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, A more of a listener than 273 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 1: a talker, But um, I have appreciated the opportunity to 274 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: listen to all these wonderful people and their stories about 275 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: their relationships and their experiences, and so it's been cool. 276 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: How did you, as somebody who is like somebody who 277 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 1: doesn't like holding the mic, how did you sign up 278 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: for the show and how did you thrive on the show? 279 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: I was signed up. There was a woman who's now 280 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: married to a good friend of mine who has roommates 281 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: within college. She was friends with the casting producer who 282 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: they were looking for contestants for this show, and she 283 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 1: signed everyone who lived in this house together up and 284 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: we all got calls. I initially so this is like 285 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: Temptation Island type era, and I initially declined the offer. 286 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't feel like I'm trash. Yeah, 287 00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:07,440 Speaker 1: I was like, I can't do that secretly in my 288 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: bedroom as a ninth grader, And then when my mom 289 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: would walk in, it was like a little purple TV 290 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: hit off. Yeah, So I so I said no, and 291 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: and then um, because he has a really hard time. 292 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: Well That's how I ended up on it was they 293 00:15:24,160 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: were they were persistent, and I was like, okay, frown yeah, 294 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: and so I ended up on it, and um, I 295 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: didn't like. I took a week off of work because 296 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 1: I told my fire chief, I'm like this thing, I 297 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 1: gotta go do it for a week. I should be back. 298 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 1: And then every week I kept having to ask for 299 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:44,880 Speaker 1: more time off. And I just tried to be myself. 300 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:46,880 Speaker 1: And I mean, it's the cliche answer. You just go 301 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:48,640 Speaker 1: on there and you're sort of authentic and you try 302 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: to be yourself, and as you progressed through it, I 303 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 1: felt like Tristan and I were developing a pretty strong relationship, 304 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: and so then you just get immersed in that and 305 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: that keeps you sort of motivate it and going, and 306 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 1: you want you really because you're so focused, there's no 307 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: other outside life distractions. You can really put your whole 308 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: all of your energy into trying to get her to 309 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: get to know who you really are and really trying 310 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 1: to find out who she is. And so that part 311 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: was easy. I thought, maybe you guys feel the same way. 312 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: I felt like watching the show when it came out 313 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 1: was much more difficult than actually being on the show. 314 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:28,080 Speaker 1: So I watched the first episode up until Trista started 315 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: making out with Russ on a port patio and bloss 316 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: It's definitely harder for you to watch back because you 317 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 1: were the quote winner. Yeah, so I was like, all right, 318 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 1: this isn't gonna be good for our relationship if I 319 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 1: keep watching. So I stopped. But that was much harder 320 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:44,360 Speaker 1: than actually turns out being on the show and working 321 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:46,840 Speaker 1: my way through trying to develop a relationship. Was it 322 00:16:46,880 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: a love at first sight feeling? This is a question 323 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: for both of you. Just how far in did you 324 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 1: just know? We were probably at um, what's what's seattle? Like? 325 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 1: I guess fantasy sweets? Is that what it was called 326 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 1: back then? Well? I know, but I feel like it 327 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,280 Speaker 1: was something else right before that was more innocent back then. 328 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:13,280 Speaker 1: It's just a little bit. Um it was. It was 329 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 1: a I really like, um, what's love it first? I 330 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 1: really like at first sight? He was one of my 331 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:27,280 Speaker 1: top four the first night, um, and then from there 332 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 1: it just obviously solidified and then grew and kept growing. 333 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 1: You I don't know if I've never heard there were 334 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: no other choices for me, this is going to be good. 335 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: We actually in those days, like all of the guys 336 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 1: got along really well, and when we after the first 337 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 1: night and we got rid of a few, there were, 338 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,800 Speaker 1: um it was like a frat house kind of environment. 339 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: So we would get our one on one dates or whatever, 340 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: and guys would be like, Okay, hold my drink, I'm 341 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 1: gonna go out on the dude, just make sure you're 342 00:17:58,520 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 1: like ready to go when we get So it was 343 00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: it was, um. I was always interested interested, just knowing 344 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:09,159 Speaker 1: a little bit about her going into the show, but 345 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: I wasn't fully interested until it started, like and still 346 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: always like until the guy's carts getting whettled down a 347 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 1: little bit, and then you you really kind of it 348 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,399 Speaker 1: became less of a party atmosphere and more of a UM. 349 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:25,000 Speaker 1: I distinctly remember the time I actually talked to Bob, 350 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 1: who was who was just here um about it, because 351 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 1: you get you get competitive and you're thinking yourself, well, 352 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 1: am I just trying to win this show? Or do 353 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:37,119 Speaker 1: I really care about her? And so we had a 354 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: pretty long conversation about it, which is kind of what 355 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,199 Speaker 1: I mean about the guys on that show. It was 356 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:43,479 Speaker 1: a different type of relationship where you felt like you 357 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 1: could confide in them even though they were trying to 358 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: kind of trying to get the same girl. So at 359 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,159 Speaker 1: that point, I think we were down to like maybe 360 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:55,400 Speaker 1: eight guys or something like that. Sixth right guys. At 361 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: that point I was like, Okay, I really am into her. 362 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:01,919 Speaker 1: I'm gonna just go I'm gonna fully invest myself into it. 363 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: And it wasn't about the other guys or the other friendships. 364 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:07,239 Speaker 1: It was all about trying to just let her know 365 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: how I really felt. So it was it was, um, yeah, 366 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 1: that's how it was. This is quickly becoming a Tristan 367 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:18,119 Speaker 1: and Ryan in that episode, which I like, and I 368 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 1: think we should breaking none producers, let's do this. Um. 369 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: I just have to ask one more question though, how 370 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:27,959 Speaker 1: long were you together before you got married and did 371 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 1: you feel russian to getting married or were you like 372 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:32,439 Speaker 1: totally ready because I know, like a lot of bachelor 373 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: couples coming off the show now it's such a weird 374 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,359 Speaker 1: thing because like they get engaged so fast, but then 375 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: they get into the real world and then it's like, oh, 376 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:43,600 Speaker 1: are we dating or are we planning a wedding? Is 377 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:49,360 Speaker 1: this still me? Answer? No, I, Um, I think looking back, 378 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 1: it was probably a little too soon to get engaged 379 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:53,919 Speaker 1: to get married, But you like, you're just writing the 380 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: wave of the show and then suddenly you're sort of 381 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,120 Speaker 1: spit out into real life. You're not allowed to see 382 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 1: each other anymore. But for us, I think that strengthened 383 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:05,720 Speaker 1: our relationship a little bit. And it was a different 384 00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:09,119 Speaker 1: world when we were on the show, So we we 385 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: talked a lot on the phone, and that forced me 386 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,240 Speaker 1: to become more of a conversationalist with her before forced 387 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: us to really, um, you know, we couldn't just go 388 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: to a movie and just sit there in silence. We 389 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:25,120 Speaker 1: had to sort of communicate, and so our relationship grew 390 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: pretty quickly even outside of the show. And and so 391 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:32,160 Speaker 1: I don't feel like we rushed into our wedding. Um. 392 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,399 Speaker 1: You know, everybody is obviously different in that regard, but 393 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: for us, we were fortunate enough to find ourselves still 394 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,960 Speaker 1: caring for each other outside of the show environment, which 395 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,879 Speaker 1: I think is where a lot of people get messed up, 396 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 1: is that they're they're all these other outside influences come 397 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: pouring back into their lives and then they're distracted and 398 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:55,080 Speaker 1: things get kind of um muddled, but for us, um, 399 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 1: like I said, social media didn't really like it was like, 400 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 1: I think my Space was about as my as you 401 00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: could do. So we were we were good and I 402 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,360 Speaker 1: think um both of us knew that that's what we wanted. Um, 403 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:08,879 Speaker 1: I have never wanted along and I hate the word fiance. 404 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:15,639 Speaker 1: How many months was it between engagement and marriage? Yeah, 405 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 1: but way less than that if you count when we 406 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: were actually able to hang out with each other. So yeah, 407 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 1: so earlier when when Jason, I want to know this 408 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:30,280 Speaker 1: answer from you, Ryan, Um, Bob was telling us that 409 00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 1: when you were living in the house, you were you know, 410 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 1: you walk in your former NFL football player. You're good looking, 411 00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 1: you you're strong, you're put together. You're writing poetry. Um, 412 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: you're writing notes. This is not a lie either. You're 413 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 1: saying like the guys would be out like raging and 414 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: you'd be like back processing your thoughts like a great 415 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: human does. My question for you, though, is you were strapping, charming, smart. 416 00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 1: Jared calls him Superman because look at them big muscle exactly, 417 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: He's in Clark Kent mode right now. It takes off 418 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 1: those glasses span. My question for you is how do 419 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 1: you have bigger biceps today that it has been a 420 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 1: serious questions. Wow, there's a strong transition there. It's my son, 421 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:24,920 Speaker 1: Max is fifteen, and he's hyper. Um, he's like in 422 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:28,679 Speaker 1: hyper workout mode, and he I can tell he's starting 423 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 1: to feel like he's like on the brink of challenging 424 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:35,920 Speaker 1: me in some sort of physical contest. And so I 425 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: have to um maintain some sort of physical fitness so 426 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 1: that I can continue to take my fifteen year olds on. 427 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,119 Speaker 1: That was a great answer. He's also a firefighter, so 428 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 1: he has to save people, so he actually is Superman. 429 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:00,479 Speaker 1: All right. Well, I mean I can't think of a 430 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: better answer for the question, how have you evolved your 431 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:07,640 Speaker 1: journey than what these lovely people have given us, one 432 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,680 Speaker 1: that's unique to you. Oh you want me to answer 433 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,400 Speaker 1: for myself. I'm just saying that, Like, I don't think 434 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,440 Speaker 1: we could have completed this podcast in a better way. 435 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:18,960 Speaker 1: I think it's fantastic evolving my journey. Oh my gosh, 436 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 1: I wish I could just think of a good dog 437 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 1: that I've pet lately. Um. Definitely, Like what I'm going 438 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:29,840 Speaker 1: through now with life is it is hard, Like motherhood 439 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,720 Speaker 1: is hard, just parent being a parent is so hard. 440 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,200 Speaker 1: And people tell you that all the time, right, like 441 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,719 Speaker 1: that's all you hear, but then when you experience it, 442 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:40,720 Speaker 1: you're like, oh my gosh, this actually is like the 443 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,399 Speaker 1: hardest job in the world. It is exhausting and it 444 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:45,439 Speaker 1: is a full time job and everything on top of it. 445 00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:48,200 Speaker 1: You're just like, how am I juggling like this work 446 00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,359 Speaker 1: life balance? There really is no work life balance because 447 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,120 Speaker 1: every single hour in your day is filled with one 448 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 1: or the other. Um So, I think my journey is 449 00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:02,919 Speaker 1: currently evolving and uh uh yeah, and we'll continue to 450 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 1: And it's like I love my child so much, like 451 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 1: so much, but it's so crazy. It's just like the 452 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,160 Speaker 1: weirdest thing. And I can't can't keep I keep saying 453 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: it on different forms of media, but it's like weird. 454 00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: How you feel like you need a break. You're like, oh, 455 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:21,680 Speaker 1: you know, I'm going to tak for forty eight hours. 456 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:23,040 Speaker 1: I'm going to get a good break, I'm gonna get 457 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: a good sleep, and then you're here and you're just like, 458 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,200 Speaker 1: I miss him and I need to go back right now, 459 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 1: and I'm worrying about him. Is he breathing in his 460 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 1: crib and all that stuff. It's so crazy. Um So, 461 00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:37,200 Speaker 1: it's just like, this is a crazy journey that I'm 462 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,000 Speaker 1: learning to navigate now and I'm only six months in 463 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,159 Speaker 1: and it's crazy because I feel like trust I can 464 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:47,360 Speaker 1: totally relate. But and Ryan, it takes every month is different. 465 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: So it's like a constant evolving journey and there we 466 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,400 Speaker 1: go and it will continue to do that. I mean 467 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 1: still our kids. Like it's maybe not every month, yeah, 468 00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: maybe not every month at this it's right, but it 469 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 1: is favorite, you know, and it's beautiful. It's beautiful. I know, 470 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,239 Speaker 1: it's so crazy. And then he smiled. It's like he 471 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,959 Speaker 1: cries all the time, right, but then like he smiles, 472 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:19,960 Speaker 1: and you're like, right, right. I think that about Max too, 473 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: because he's like, oh you're smiling. You're six months old, 474 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 1: fifteen years old, it's all the same. Please smile once 475 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:33,959 Speaker 1: for me. You know. It props to Trista and Ryan's 476 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,440 Speaker 1: son Max, who is here on this trip with his parents, 477 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 1: because it is not an easy age to go hang 478 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,040 Speaker 1: out with a whole bunch of people that are not 479 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:45,879 Speaker 1: your age and maybe are a little bit more outgoing 480 00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,399 Speaker 1: than you. I don't know, just a little bit. He 481 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 1: has no peers here and he's he's being a champ. 482 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: He is, It's fine, he's he's good. He likes adventures, 483 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: so he just came on a little adventure, got some 484 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: Caroline Miles, you know, yeah, to have some really good 485 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,959 Speaker 1: food last night, such good food, and maybe tonight too. 486 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: So thank you Hund for this amazing experience, this amazing podcast, 487 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,640 Speaker 1: and for encouraging us all to talk about our journeys. 488 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,240 Speaker 1: Do you have anything besides the documentary that you want 489 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:20,280 Speaker 1: to talk about? Heavy? Heavy or light? Yeah? Um, and 490 00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,479 Speaker 1: you know, not a lot. I was. I like what 491 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 1: Jason said. Jason is a smart dude. And you know, 492 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 1: I think when I think of evolving my journey, I 493 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: go back to the Applebee's and Worst Off Bar. And 494 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,480 Speaker 1: I remember sitting at the bar okay, next to my boss. 495 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 1: At the time, I was running a youth camp and 496 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 1: we're sundy and a living with my parents. I was 497 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,159 Speaker 1: out of college and she said, Ben, you need to 498 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 1: get out of here. And I said why. She goes, 499 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 1: You're gonna get stuck in the same rhythm and routine 500 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 1: and you're gonna be okay with it, but you're gonna 501 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 1: wake up one day and you're gonna realize you missed 502 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: out a lot. She goes my brother has a job 503 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 1: opening in Denver, and I already called him and I 504 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,680 Speaker 1: think you should take it, And so I said yes, 505 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,520 Speaker 1: Uh not immediately, but after a couple of weeks or 506 00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,679 Speaker 1: a week, I guess of thinking about it, and I 507 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: look back on like that random, weird moment that changed 508 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 1: the course of everything else for the future, right, I mean, 509 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: I think like, if I don't go to Denver, I 510 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 1: don't go on the show. If I don't go on 511 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 1: the show, I don't have the opportunities I do today. 512 00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 1: If I don't go on the show, I probably don't 513 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,200 Speaker 1: meet my wife. If I don't mean my wife, you know, 514 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 1: who knows where I'm at. And so I think what 515 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,640 Speaker 1: Jason was saying, it's like I can't you know every 516 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 1: Like it's weird if you look back on life and 517 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, we're sitting in Taho today, who am 518 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:40,960 Speaker 1: I going to meet? What's going to happen that I'm 519 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,119 Speaker 1: not even gonna recognize as a moment of pivoting or transition, 520 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:48,560 Speaker 1: but it changes the course of everything. Um, And so 521 00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:50,760 Speaker 1: that's what I'd say, is like I just have learned 522 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:55,679 Speaker 1: to appreciate or like try to stay aware of the 523 00:27:55,760 --> 00:28:01,199 Speaker 1: many moments that seem insignificant but have a life changing impact. 524 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I do that so much lately, Like 525 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 1: I'm constantly just pausitively being like I can't believe how 526 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,280 Speaker 1: blessed I am, Like I can't believe, like this is 527 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:13,360 Speaker 1: my life and so much. I know we like suck 528 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,320 Speaker 1: up to the show a lot, but I don't know 529 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: where my life would be without the show. And I 530 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,600 Speaker 1: feel like everybody in this room can say that you 531 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: are not sucking up to the show, because I'm just like, 532 00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:25,919 Speaker 1: oh my, like my, that's just my whole family and 533 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 1: like my whole career, like I would have. I have 534 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 1: no idea, no idea where I'd be about the show. 535 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:32,480 Speaker 1: And I feel like we have a couple of people 536 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 1: in this room that, like so many significant others have 537 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,760 Speaker 1: been found at the show. That's just like, why in 538 00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,360 Speaker 1: the world where we where it would be? It's not 539 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 1: sicking up to the show. I think the thing that 540 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 1: because I used to feel that way, and I used 541 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: to feel like, oh, the more I talk about that, 542 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,160 Speaker 1: the less like it feels like, oh, yeah, I've did 543 00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 1: this thing that not many people have done. It's just 544 00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 1: your unique experience. Like some people have a really great 545 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 1: job or a really bad job, or they grow up 546 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 1: in a place they love or they don't like that 547 00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 1: changes that Like that your story that changed you. But 548 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 1: anybody listening has that moment or that thing that's him 549 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:10,120 Speaker 1: launch into whatever they're at today. Um. But for us, 550 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 1: it's a show, So we talk about it because that 551 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: is your story that is unique to you. Uh. And 552 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,120 Speaker 1: that's something to either celebrate or be really upset about. 553 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 1: Like you have like kind of two options when it 554 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 1: comes to show. You can either be really upset that 555 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,720 Speaker 1: you did hit and it could like not help, or 556 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: you can look back and be like it changed everything 557 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 1: for the better. UM. And I think that's where you 558 00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 1: and I say, and that might be unique to us, 559 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 1: but that's my journey. Uh. And I love the theme 560 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,120 Speaker 1: of evolving your journey and talking about it and thinking 561 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: about it and processing through it. So thank you, thank 562 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 1: you bye. Follow the Bennon Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 563 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: on iHeart Radio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.