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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Claire. So in

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Speaker 2: a second we're going to call her and see if

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Speaker 2: she's tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get

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Speaker 2: him another date.

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Speaker 3: But first, Evan, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 3: heard from Claire?

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Speaker 4: A month? Probably?

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, you're definitely getting ghosted if it's been a

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Speaker 3: whole month. Why do you want to get hold of her?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just like I thought she was great.

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Speaker 5: I really I thought, you know, the day went while,

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Speaker 5: I've had a lot of fun. I just yeah, I

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Speaker 5: really want to get home. I'm hoping to get a

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, have you been trying to reach out to

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Speaker 6: her in that month, Like, has she said anything to

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Speaker 6: you at all that's giving you hope?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: Not really, okay, And you know I was trying to

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Speaker 5: like be cool about it and not really. I just

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Speaker 5: text her once, but then I text her again recently.

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Speaker 5: I just like sent her like an act throwing meme,

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Speaker 5: you know, just to call back to the date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Nothing so let's talk about the date then, Evan, like,

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Speaker 6: what did you say you guys went act throwing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was her idea by the way, guys, so

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Speaker 5: it wasn't like my great the idea to go act

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Speaker 5: throwing that's super fun.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I thought.

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Speaker 5: It was a little intense, but you know, cool, I

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Speaker 5: got some idea for her first daid. She was definitely

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Speaker 5: way better than me at the act throwing, like embarrassingly

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Speaker 5: better at act throwing.

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Speaker 4: Like she actually during like while we were doing this, like.

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Speaker 5: She actually gave me tips on how to throw, which

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Speaker 5: I appreciated.

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 5: Okay, but yeah, so that was pretty much that the

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Speaker 5: act throwing portion. And then afterwards we grabbed some like

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Speaker 5: street food from a like a local truck and we

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Speaker 5: ate in the park.

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Speaker 4: We talked for hours. It was awesome, Like she was hilarious.

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Speaker 5: I mean, obviously she shorten me an ax throwing, but

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Speaker 4: I don't know, like I just felt like we clicked.

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Speaker 5: After you know, we ate, I walked her back to

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Speaker 5: her place and we shared like, you know, like a kiss.

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Speaker 4: It was really low key, but it was really nice.

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Speaker 4: And that was that was it.

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Speaker 3: So what do you think went wrong.

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Speaker 6: I mean, it looks like there could be a few

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Speaker 6: different options, but in your opinion, was there a moment

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Speaker 6: that felt a little bit more uncomfortable than the others.

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know, obviously, like sometimes I'm a little

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I stay dumb things and I don't

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Speaker 7: Even in the moment.

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Speaker 5: But I think one thing that maybe stands out is

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Speaker 5: I offered to let her wear my jacket.

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Speaker 4: The shirt that she was wearing was like super short.

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Speaker 5: I was like a low cut, you know, and I

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Speaker 8: You said that, well, I didn't say that, but like

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Speaker 5: And I didn't, but I did. I'm not peddled on

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Speaker 6: I just can't imagine, like you're going ax throwing right,

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Speaker 6: it's probably warm in there. You're gonna get even more warm.

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Speaker 6: And the guy I'm on a date with offers me

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be a little I don't.

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Speaker 6: Know, that would kind of rub me the wrong way,

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Speaker 6: just because like why does it matter? But they kissed

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or she's too scared to leave the date.

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Speaker 5: Oh, I mean I don't think so, but I mean

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Speaker 5: I could. I guess I could see how maybe she

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Speaker 4: But like I said, I felt like we moved fast it.

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Speaker 5: But sometimes I'm terrible clearly about picking up on social tears.

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Speaker 2: How did you leave everything with her? It was like

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Speaker 3: Kiss?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we kissed, and I was just like I had

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Speaker 5: a lot of fun. I'll talk to you tomorrow and

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Speaker 5: love to see you again, obviously, And you know this

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Speaker 5: was way better than how I'm saying it.

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Speaker 4: To you guys right now. But I don't like who

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Speaker 4: I'm sold.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, we'll try to figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come back, and then call

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Speaker 2: her and see if we can get you another date

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Speaker 2: and find out where you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: Okay, thank you guys.

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Speaker 3: All right, we'll play a song come back, get your

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Speaker 3: first Day follow.

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Speaker 1: Up, Next First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's First Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Claire.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Evan, why do you kind of

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Speaker 2: recap things for us real quick?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? So I want to know Claire. We had a

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Speaker 4: great day.

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Speaker 5: We want acts throwing. We went out, you know, street food.

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Speaker 5: Afterwards we talked for hours.

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Speaker 4: Indan on a kiss.

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Speaker 5: Everything felt good, but like, I haven't talked to her

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Speaker 5: in a month. I've tried texting her a few times

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Speaker 3: All right, you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 5: Hello.

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Speaker 3: Hi is this Claire?

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Speaker 7: Hi? Yeah? This is Claire.

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Speaker 3: Hey Claire, what's up? This is a Jewbel show. It's

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Speaker 3: a radio show.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Hi Clara.

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm Victoria and I'm Jewbel, what's up? How are you?

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Speaker 7: Oh? Hi, guys, I had no ideas peo who actually

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Speaker 7: did this?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: They do. How's it going?

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Speaker 7: How are you all?

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Speaker 3: I'm good. Do you listen to the show?

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Speaker 7: I do?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm the way to work great. Have you ever

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Speaker 3: heard of first a follow up before I have?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well guess what, Claire, congratulations, you're ghosting somebody and they

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Speaker 2: emailed us to get a hold of you.

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Speaker 7: Oh my god. Is it about Evan?

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes it is. It's about Evan.

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Speaker 2: He said he really liked you, but can't figure out

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Speaker 2: why you're not calling him back? So would you mind

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Might think Evan's a really great guy. But the

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Speaker 7: date was weird.

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Speaker 3: Okay, it's weird.

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Speaker 7: How so you know every time he throw an act

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Speaker 7: because we wenting, she scream out someone that he hated.

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Speaker 7: I was like laughing along, and I thought it was

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Speaker 7: funny at first, because he would like Mabel Zombies or

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I was like, okay, this.

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Speaker 7: Is dark, you know kind of. I start sends of

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Speaker 3: And then it started to become real people.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I got more personal on his side because you know,

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Speaker 7: it was like people from his elementary school, like his

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Speaker 6: Why, how do you know that? Did he tell you

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Speaker 6: that it is like third grade coach and then like

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Speaker 7: Yeah? I was like, who's that? He was like, oh,

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Speaker 7: my third grade soccer coach.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's a little murderous.

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Speaker 7: I guess yeah, I got crazy.

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Speaker 3: And so that turned you off.

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Speaker 2: I guess that he was fantasizing about throwing access into

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Speaker 7: Heads, about people from their elementary school.

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Speaker 3: I guess I could see why that would be disturbing. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: me too.

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Speaker 6: Did you say anything to him about it or like

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Speaker 6: ask him, like, how often do you think about throwing

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Speaker 7: Yeah? I mean I definitely addressed it. I was like,

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Speaker 7: this just keeps going. You know, he named Greg from

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Speaker 7: the gym. It's like twenty people in his life. Another

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Speaker 7: thing is he threw me at back, throwing me unintended.

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Speaker 7: I'm I'm like almost thinking I'm on his hit list.

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Speaker 3: Now, Oh you did tell us that he sent you an.

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Speaker 2: Claire, not to freak out too much, but Evan is

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Speaker 2: actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and so like, wait, so that's why you're ghosting me.

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Speaker 4: I was like, it was just I was just blowing

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Speaker 7: Oh so, yeah, you're blowing off schemes, shouting about like

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Speaker 7: and you were in your own therapy session.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that's even that therapy. Yeah, it

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Speaker 4: Come on, Like I was just messing around.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't like I wasn't actually thinking about these people.

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Speaker 4: I was just saying their names. It's not a big deal.

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Speaker 7: I mean, massing around is one thing. But you had

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Speaker 7: to act in your hand both screaming about your childhood

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Speaker 7: enemies and a local guy at the gym, and I

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Speaker 7: mean it's just funny. Come on, that's intense, no thing.

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Speaker 5: Sorry, Come on, Like you haven't fantasized about throwing in

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Speaker 4: Come on, it's just like I was just blowing off steam.

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Speaker 4: It's not like I was serious.

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Speaker 7: No, I haven't. I haven't fantasized about this.

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Speaker 3: Well, Claire, would you like another date with Evan? We'll

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Speaker 3: pay for it, you know, I just don't think so.

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Speaker 7: Like, I'm all for funny games, but I need someone

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Speaker 7: who's just a little bit more I guess, like emotionally stable.

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Speaker 4: I am emotionally stable.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I'm sorry man, you didn't get another date.

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Speaker 5: That's fine. I don't even want one. Like, what if

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Speaker 5: she's taking it too seriously? Whatever, I don't not a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry man, and thanks for your time.

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Speaker 7: Claire, Thank you all. Take care.

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Speaker 4: It was her stupid idea to go on that stupid

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Speaker 4: day anywhere throwing thanks for nothing.

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Speaker 7: Jubile's first date fall up