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Speaker 1: Time now for the Strawberry Letter. If you need advice

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Speaker 1: your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live on

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Speaker 1: right here, right now. Buggle out, Hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: all right, Thank you, nephews. Subject. I hate to break

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Speaker 1: up with my girlfriend's children. Dear Stephen Shirley. About six

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Speaker 1: years ago, I wrote in to get some advice about

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Speaker 1: Uh wow, Steve, We'll get to you. Yeah, yeah, all right,

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Speaker 1: by telling them what's really going on? Are you? Oh not?

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Speaker 1: Well I was gonna tell you stupid, but I already

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