Speaker 1: Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? With Dean Aungler, Haylen
Speaker 1: Miller Keys, and Jared Haven.
Speaker 2: An iHeartRadio podcast. What's going on?
Speaker 3: Everyone, Welcome to an all new episode of Help We
Speaker 3: Suck At Being Newlyweds? I am joining you from Jackson Hole. Dean,
Speaker 3: we'll be joining us shortly. And Jared, where are you
Speaker 3: in Rhode Island?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 5: Yeah, of course. Uh well, now I get I shouldn't
Speaker 5: say of course. I was just in Dallas. Travel in
Speaker 5: the world really?
Speaker 4: Oh what?
Speaker 5: So the title of this podcast made me think, do
Speaker 5: you guys, now you're a month in, do you suck
Speaker 5: at being newlyweds?
Speaker 2: I'd say some days for sure.
Speaker 1: What does it mean to suck as being a newlywed?
Speaker 2: Uh hmm, that's a good question.
Speaker 3: I mean you would know better than me, as you've
Speaker 3: been married for longer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're in the midst of it, you're living
Speaker 1: in yeah, yeah, past my prime.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's it's usually good and you know, you like come
Speaker 3: off of a high from the wedding, so it's it's
Speaker 3: hard to say right now.
Speaker 1: Have you gotten any pictures?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, from the wedding? Yeah, do you have all
Speaker 3: the pictures, Yeah, we have all of them.
Speaker 2: We're just waiting on the full video, but we have everything.
Speaker 4: Else that's going to be very nice.
Speaker 5: The greatest thing about the pictures in the videos are
Speaker 5: that it just takes you immediately back into that moment
Speaker 5: that you never want to ever forget.
Speaker 1: So that's the nice thing. You have all these because
Speaker 1: you do come off the high of.
Speaker 5: The wedding, but then you have all these things that
Speaker 5: just kind of keep coming up, that just keep reminding
Speaker 5: you of them. And now, so after the pictures and
Speaker 5: the videos, then you'll start seeing friends that you haven't
Speaker 5: seen since the wedding, and then you're going to be
Speaker 5: reminiscing about it and you're like, oh, yeah, that feels good.
Speaker 4: You know. That's the good part.
Speaker 5: It's like you're going to see a friend like, oh
Speaker 5: my god, I haven't seen you since the wedding. Like, oh,
Speaker 5: we get to talk about it all over again. This
Speaker 5: is amazing.
Speaker 2: I know. I was trying.
Speaker 3: I saw one of my girlfriends last week, Tory, who
Speaker 3: gave a speech at the wedding, and she was just
Speaker 3: filling me in an all the things that I missed,
Speaker 3: and I was like whoa. A lot went down that
Speaker 3: I was unaware of, So that was fun and just
Speaker 3: hearing like what they did during the like off time,
Speaker 3: you know, like hiking and fishing and all that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was beautiful over there.
Speaker 5: My biggest memory is the fact that Ben and Wells
Speaker 5: definitely went to bed probably nine pm on the night
Speaker 5: of the wedding because they were so drunk.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they danced.
Speaker 5: So hard they just disappeared. Because for a good hour
Speaker 5: I was like, where the hell is Ben and Wells?
Speaker 5: And then I realized that they definitely are passed out
Speaker 5: right now because I went inside not looking for them,
Speaker 5: but just you know, the movement of the wedding led
Speaker 5: me to different parts of the venue and I was like,
Speaker 5: I kept thinking. I was like, I haven't seen either
Speaker 5: one of those guys. Because we were leaving so early
Speaker 5: in the morning, I knew that we weren't going to
Speaker 5: be able to say bye to anybody in the next morning.
Speaker 5: We were out of there by like six in the
Speaker 5: morning because our flight left at seven or something like that.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's why.
Speaker 2: How did you guys leave? Because you roade with.
Speaker 1: Tanya, right, But we rented a car.
Speaker 5: So we oh, Okay, shout out to the app Turo.
Speaker 5: This app is phenomenal. All the rental cars were gone
Speaker 5: in Aspen, couldn't find one. The only car was like
Speaker 5: this black car that was like fifteen hundred dollars for
Speaker 5: the three days.
Speaker 1: Obviously we're not going to do that. Ubers were really
Speaker 1: hard to get.
Speaker 5: We got an uber from the the airport to the
Speaker 5: hotel the night we flew in, but it took like
Speaker 5: twenty five minutes to get it. And then the next
Speaker 5: day we were trying to find ubers and we just
Speaker 5: couldn't find any, Like, how the hell are we going
Speaker 5: to get to this venue? And Tanya and her fiance
Speaker 5: were flying in and they were under the They were like,
Speaker 5: we're just gonna take an uber, but now we don't
Speaker 5: know what we're gonna do because we're in contact with them,
Speaker 5: and then shout out to turo. I just I forget
Speaker 5: who said it, but they were like, yeah, try this app,
Speaker 5: see what happens. Got the car got there, so because
Speaker 5: Tanya rode back with I think Beca and Haley.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: We used turo once in Hawaii.
Speaker 3: I think when Dean proposed we used to Row and
Speaker 3: it's pretty nice.
Speaker 2: It's like someone else's car.
Speaker 4: It's great.
Speaker 2: Is that the one where it's someone else?
Speaker 1: It's like a uber for cars.
Speaker 5: He showed up right to our hotel, dropped it off,
Speaker 5: and I was like, Okay, I felt like I was
Speaker 5: doing something wrong. Yeah, because it's there's not that much
Speaker 5: of a process. You just have to scan your license.
Speaker 5: I feel like with renting a car, I have to
Speaker 5: sign my life away. There's so many there's so many papers.
Speaker 3: So yeah, and it was so nice too, because our
Speaker 3: guy just dropped us off at the airport in Hawaii
Speaker 3: and I was like, this is great. This is so
Speaker 3: much better than going to the rental spot then going
Speaker 3: on a shuttle to the airport. And Dean's been talking
Speaker 3: about renting his car out for F one Formula one,
Speaker 3: because I bet wait, wait, no, no, I don't know
Speaker 3: how many people are going to be renting cars for
Speaker 3: Formula one, but Formula one is in like three weeks.
Speaker 4: Oh.
Speaker 5: I totally misunderstood that because I was like, what do
Speaker 5: you mean that he's going to rent it out to
Speaker 5: Formula one.
Speaker 2: Race?
Speaker 1: What kind of car does Dean have that I'm unaware of?
Speaker 2: Yeah, he hasn't done any action on that.
Speaker 1: Dude, you walked over and you look like my dog
Speaker 1: waking up in the morning, just like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, thanks, I've already showered this morning. I feel pretty good.
Speaker 4: But it's good to know I look like. No. Actually,
Speaker 4: I did have the worst night of my worst sleep
Speaker 4: in my life last night, so maybe uh, maybe that
Speaker 4: has something to do with it. But but it's okay.
Speaker 4: It's good to know I look like Thanks man, I
Speaker 4: appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Yeah anytime. Well, here's the thing.
Speaker 5: This is why I never feel bad about saying Dean
Speaker 5: doesn't look good.
Speaker 1: Not looking good?
Speaker 5: Oh please, like he's not aware of this fact Dean
Speaker 5: not looking good. And Kaylin, you're in the same boat
Speaker 5: where if you guys don't look good, you're still an
Speaker 5: eight out of ten. You know, you're like you on
Speaker 5: your worst days are an eight.
Speaker 2: That's not true, but thank you.
Speaker 5: Oh it's very true because I've noticed, Kaylin, I'm going
Speaker 5: to say something I don't know how like to. It's
Speaker 5: always weird talking about females. But you're not wearing any makeup,
Speaker 5: are you correct?
Speaker 2: I never do on the podcast.
Speaker 4: I did just look at our big big screen. I
Speaker 4: do look like I just want out of bed, so
Speaker 4: I apologize, apologize.
Speaker 5: I don't apologize. I love every second of it. But Caylen,
Speaker 5: I was going to say, I think you are You're
Speaker 5: so naturally beautiful, when I can't. You weren't wearing any makeup.
Speaker 5: I don't know why. Maybe it was just because of
Speaker 5: the warning. But when you came on the zoom, I
Speaker 5: was like, Cayle looks great. I mean you always obviously.
Speaker 4: Maybe I'm just.
Speaker 5: It's not a flirtatious thing, like that's this is all.
Speaker 5: But isn't it so hard to tell someone that, like
Speaker 5: because you want to give them compliments? Like, of course
Speaker 5: I want to give you compliments, both of you, because
Speaker 5: you're both great people and you're both very good looking.
Speaker 5: But it's always weird giving compliments to the opposite sex,
Speaker 5: I could say, and.
Speaker 1: No one thinks twice about it.
Speaker 5: Dude, bro, I'm saying you're sexy now, okay, I'm flirting
Speaker 5: with you.
Speaker 4: Well, Jared, Yeah, we appreciate the compliments, man, but we
Speaker 4: do looklick and it's funny to I look like and
Speaker 4: it's funny because you still are glowing from your Austin experience.
Speaker 5: I don't know about that, I'm so pale now. My
Speaker 5: spray tan went way. Sorry, Sad, I disagree with you.
Speaker 5: I think I think you look good.
Speaker 4: The hair's a little messier, the scruffs a little scruffier.
Speaker 4: But yeah, yeah, you're welcome. Dude. You're beautiful, You're beautiful.
Speaker 4: What do you want to talk about today?
Speaker 1: What do I want to talk about today?
Speaker 4: Just looking at the email here, yeah, well, let's let's
Speaker 4: look at let's look at this real quick. So I'll
Speaker 4: ask you a couple of questions that our great producers
Speaker 4: put on this email for us real quick. You got
Speaker 4: such great positive feedback and well wishes from fans after
Speaker 4: your announcement on the pod last week. How does that feel.
Speaker 1: Feels?
Speaker 5: It feels great. A lot of people come into Audrey's
Speaker 5: and they know about our lives, and it's very humbling.
Speaker 5: Everybody always says like, oh, I'm sorry, I don't mean
Speaker 5: to be creepy. I'm sure you guys get it all
Speaker 5: the time too, where they just follow along and they
Speaker 5: know a lot of things. But we also put it
Speaker 5: on social media for that purpose, Like the reason we
Speaker 5: post about it is not just for ourselves, it's for
Speaker 5: everybody else who's following along on this journey. So the
Speaker 5: fact that there's so many people who are aware of
Speaker 5: Ashley and I's baby making story is pretty cool. So
Speaker 5: it's great. Yeah, Dawson is in his prime right now, dude.
Speaker 7: He is.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's cool.
Speaker 1: He's like the only person I want to hang out
Speaker 1: with now. He's just.
Speaker 5: He's so happy. He's so happy, and we're in such
Speaker 5: a great stage with him that it makes me look
Speaker 5: forward to having another to get to that point because
Speaker 5: like we all remember the infant stage Ashley and I
Speaker 5: do and listen, I love baby Dawson.
Speaker 4: He was the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 5: But damn that was hard and the idea of doing
Speaker 5: that all over again, especially on I mean, she's the
Speaker 5: one who's going nine dude. It sucks for the mom.
Speaker 5: Like it's the greatest obviously, you get to carry life
Speaker 5: inside you. It's such a blessing, but damn, you have
Speaker 5: to be pregnant for nine months, ten months, I think
Speaker 5: technically speaking, and just like your body, your body is
Speaker 5: just I mean your body. I don't even need to
Speaker 5: go in the description. Everybody knows what happens your body
Speaker 5: when you're pregnant and then you give birth and you're like, whoo,
Speaker 5: that's over. Okay, now I have to raise this little one.
Speaker 5: And it's like, oh man, at least, like I get
Speaker 5: I don't have to go through the pregnancy part.
Speaker 1: It's a very big blessing. But yeah, that's great.
Speaker 4: So it's cool.
Speaker 5: Uh, Dawson is just killing the game. He's dude, he
Speaker 5: loves sports. He loves sports.
Speaker 4: Are you sure he loves sports or you just are
Speaker 4: like projecting that onto him?
Speaker 5: Dude, he's the one. He grabs the ball. He throws
Speaker 5: it all the time, ball anytime. Like he'll point to
Speaker 5: the screen football football, because he'll see a picture and
Speaker 5: then like, we have a Sports Illustrated two thousand and
Speaker 5: one Patriots book and he'll bring it over to me.
Speaker 5: He'll call football football like yeah, bro, football. And then
Speaker 5: he has a little hockey set. Now Grandpa got for
Speaker 5: him two little hockey sticks alone net Dude, he freaks out.
Speaker 1: He just loves hitting the ball.
Speaker 5: And we're like go and he starts screaming because it's
Speaker 5: so it's so funny. How Ashley was known for this
Speaker 5: laugh cry where she's laughing and then she starts crying
Speaker 5: and then she's laughing and crying at the same time dude,
Speaker 5: Dawson does the same thing. I don't know if it's
Speaker 5: just a baby thing or if it's because he came
Speaker 5: from Ashley, but he'll get so excited.
Speaker 1: He's like it's like, you don't know if he's crying
Speaker 1: or laughing. He's so excited.
Speaker 5: Then he'll just like bite things because he just like
Speaker 5: can't contain himself. Like, bro, that's pretty cool, and.
Speaker 4: You're gonna have another one of those running around pretty soon.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean we'll see boy girl. I mean, uh,
Speaker 5: Ashley doesn't care if it's a girl care either. I mean,
Speaker 5: I prefer a girl, just because I would like Ashley
Speaker 5: to have a girl. And girls apparently are easier. Watch
Speaker 5: I'm gonna get so many people being like, oh, really,
Speaker 5: the easier and then they'll just tell me horror stories.
Speaker 5: But I've heard from the masses that girls are usually
Speaker 5: easier up to a certain point because they're just calmer.
Speaker 5: My niece, as much was, wasn't as much easier than Dawson.
Speaker 5: Like when we go out to dinner with her, she sits,
Speaker 5: she sits. Dawson does not sit.
Speaker 1: He's up, he's walking, he's reaching, he's grabbing, he's throwing
Speaker 1: you know, it's just like that's personality. So if we
Speaker 1: have another one of Dawson doing that, that could be
Speaker 1: problematic and quite stressful. But it's cool man, good things.
Speaker 1: So that's what's going on.
Speaker 5: You know, people are always asking about whether we move
Speaker 5: out of Rhode Island as well, because you.
Speaker 4: Were just talking about that like a couple like a
Speaker 4: month ago.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 5: Well, people always ask now because they're curious whether we're
Speaker 5: going to move or not if we have a second one,
Speaker 5: because Ashley's very open about how much help her family
Speaker 5: is and they are so helpful.
Speaker 1: There's so hands on. I don't I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: you guys are you know in between like you're because
Speaker 1: if you guys moved to Denver, you've been thinking about
Speaker 1: keeping the place in Vegas too, So I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe we'll have I just don't know if we have
Speaker 1: the financial stability to keep two places, but who knows.
Speaker 1: We'll say. Plus Audrey's like, I need to bear there
Speaker 1: a lot, but we.
Speaker 4: Would have rent. We would rent our Vegas place out
Speaker 4: what's going on with the Colorado house. We are still
Speaker 4: in talks and figuring out which one we want. But
Speaker 4: if we were to move to Colorado. We would hopefully
Speaker 4: find like long term renters to live in our Las
Speaker 4: Vegas house. You know, it's hard to say goodbye to
Speaker 4: that super low mortgage rate.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the goal. But so far I've fallen in
Speaker 3: love with five houses. We haven't gotten any of.
Speaker 2: Four or five.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but the newest one that I fell in love
Speaker 3: with as of yesterday has an ADU, so we could
Speaker 3: like it's in it's closer to Aspen than the previous
Speaker 3: houses were, so we could rent it out. People could
Speaker 3: like come for ski season for fall and make some
Speaker 3: money off of that.
Speaker 2: That's the goal at least.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you guys could come and have a free place
Speaker 4: to stay whenever you wanted.
Speaker 2: We'll charge you, but yeah, you free.
Speaker 4: What I said free, I didn't actually mean free. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean free for it. Yeah, it's not free free,
Speaker 4: it's just free. You still pay for it. So we'll
Speaker 4: see what happens with that. I am not I don't know.
Speaker 4: Kaylen seems to be more gung ho about moving in
Speaker 4: sooner other than later.
Speaker 2: Well, and here's why.
Speaker 3: Because we keep hearing from our realtor that the market
Speaker 3: dies in the winter. Nobody's everybody wants to buy an
Speaker 3: aspin and like spring, summer, fall, and then as soon
Speaker 3: as winter hits, all of the prices drop.
Speaker 2: So I feel like this is the best time.
Speaker 3: And I think, not that anyone knows, but I think
Speaker 3: prices are just going to keep going up. So I'm like,
Speaker 3: if this is these are the prices now, imagine what
Speaker 3: they're going to be a year from now.
Speaker 4: But also you realize that February or like winter's over
Speaker 4: in February on November.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I still want to look.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and if we find something, then let's snatch it.
Speaker 4: But like, what if we waited for extra months and
Speaker 4: waited till February and that house dropped two hundred thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: And what if someone bought it?
Speaker 4: But what if it dropped four hundred thousand dollars?
Speaker 1: So that's okay, So that makes sense.
Speaker 5: So your realtor is saying that because prices will drop,
Speaker 5: people are going to jump on it more so it'll
Speaker 5: be more competitive. So now, nous.
Speaker 4: So what we think is, since it's harder to sell
Speaker 4: a house in Colorado in the winter, if we wait
Speaker 4: until winter to buy the house, the seller will be
Speaker 4: more motivated to sell and come down and meet our
Speaker 4: asking price.
Speaker 3: Because but the house we're looking at right now has
Speaker 3: already been on the market for like one hundred some
Speaker 3: days and they've already dropped it in price. So and
Speaker 3: we heard that they're pretty eager to sell. So hopefully,
Speaker 3: but honestly, the houses that we've seen on the.
Speaker 2: Site, they go so fast like that.
Speaker 3: We had probably ten on our list, and I think
Speaker 3: eight of those were pending within like two days.
Speaker 4: Well not necessarily though, when we found them on the internet,
Speaker 4: they were already pending. It's not like we found them
Speaker 4: one day there for sale, next day they were pending.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: No, no, So our realtor sends us a list. I'm right, no,
Speaker 3: he sends us a list, and then he text to us.
Speaker 3: We sent him a list of ten and he was like, hey,
Speaker 3: these ones just became pending.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll just disagree, but I won't. I won't push
Speaker 4: it any further on it. But yeah, hopefully we get
Speaker 4: something there soon. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So you guys are in Jacksonville right now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're in Jackson Hole, staying at cloud Vale Hotel.
Speaker 4: Jackson's a pretty dope spot. Have you ever been out
Speaker 4: to Jackson It's pretty cool. There's some great mountains. The
Speaker 4: Grand Tetons are here, yellow Stone is right up the road.
Speaker 4: It's just a nice It's actually the most expensive. I
Speaker 4: think it's the most expensive town in America. I'm pretty
Speaker 4: sure that's his stat right, more than tell your I
Speaker 4: would tell your ID. Is so random to think that
Speaker 4: that's the most expensive one. No, Jackson Hall, I'm pretty
Speaker 4: sure is. Or maybe it saw the biggest increase in
Speaker 4: price over the past like five years or something like that.
Speaker 4: But yeah, it's like where old rich money comes to
Speaker 4: to live, I guess. And so we're just walking around,
Speaker 4: we're hanging out. My brother lives hour away, so he's
Speaker 4: gonna come and hang out today, I think. And we're
Speaker 4: gonna rock climb. Kaitlin's knockingna rock climb. She's gonna she's
Speaker 4: gonna shop. I guess that sounds fun. Yeah, I guess
Speaker 4: that's all we got, though.
Speaker 1: I would probably rather shop than rock climb.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I've got I've had a messed up shoulder
Speaker 3: for the past couple of weeks, so there's no chance
Speaker 3: I can lift myself off.
Speaker 4: A mountain, gotcha. That's why you're not climbing.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of reasons I'm not okay, probably yeah,
Speaker 3: the first and foremost, but yeah, who knows, he knows
Speaker 3: what's gonna happen.
Speaker 4: After two and a half years.
Speaker 1: He was cheating while you were pregnant.
Speaker 2: We're pregnant. Yeah, about thirteen women.
Speaker 1: More like if I would have stayed married to Max,
Speaker 1: I think he would.
Speaker 4: Have achieved forever it was. It was just toxic relationship.
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Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcast. We went to a launch,
Speaker 1: which is an indoor trampoline park around here, and Dawson
Speaker 1: loved it, but they had a it was so much
Speaker 1: fun he lost it.
Speaker 7: Uh.
Speaker 1: There was also like a mini adult obstacle course kind
Speaker 1: of like American Ninja Warrior.
Speaker 5: Which of course I had to try. Yeah, And so
Speaker 5: there was it was an easy, medium and hard. So
Speaker 5: I was like, all right, let me do the medium one.
Speaker 5: It was fun and I did it. It had one
Speaker 5: of those ladders, you know how the ladders are like
Speaker 5: it's pointed upwards and then you climb up the ladder
Speaker 5: and then as you climb it, you know, it takes
Speaker 5: your way down.
Speaker 4: So I did that.
Speaker 5: I had to swing across the rings and then I
Speaker 5: had there was a rope and I had to like
Speaker 5: tally myself.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna post.
Speaker 5: About it cause I'm very proud because I was able
Speaker 5: to completely.
Speaker 1: I mean, I look like a jackass, but I.
Speaker 4: Always see those videos and I'm like, dang, that looks
Speaker 4: suck so much fun. But you completed the You completed
Speaker 4: the course.
Speaker 5: I completed it was so the course is very It's
Speaker 5: only probably like five or six you know, it's not
Speaker 5: that extensive. But it made me think I wish that
Speaker 5: there was an adult obstacle course because I would go there.
Speaker 5: I wish the gym had an adult obstacle course because
Speaker 5: I it was such a good workout. Dude, my entire
Speaker 5: upper body. Like I lift pretty consistently and I can
Speaker 5: feel when i'm I'm gaining mass. But dude, doing that
Speaker 5: obstacle course, I never felt stronger in my life once
Speaker 5: I was done, because it's amazing how carrying your own
Speaker 5: weight is. I think even a better workout than actually lifting.
Speaker 5: So I was like, dude, if I could do an
Speaker 5: obstacle course, I would a look forward to it, be
Speaker 5: attended more and see probably be in better shape that
Speaker 5: I am right now.
Speaker 1: So my point being Dean is.
Speaker 5: I can I can see your fascination with like rock
Speaker 5: climbing and hiking, because it's.
Speaker 4: Like, why don't you just go to that gym every day?
Speaker 5: It's not a gym, it's an indoor it's a kid's
Speaker 5: tramp leane park that they had a small portion for
Speaker 5: I probably most likely teenagers, but I just took it
Speaker 5: as an adult session.
Speaker 4: I was like, well, I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 2: Instead of your softball league, you should have a Ninja
Speaker 2: warrior league.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there you go. Did you did you try the
Speaker 4: hard portion of that obstacle course? No?
Speaker 1: You know what it was too.
Speaker 5: There was two So the guy was like, I've only
Speaker 5: seen one person to complete the hard portion.
Speaker 1: So the last part of it, there's two.
Speaker 5: Like wooden planks that are played like three by three
Speaker 5: and it's the ones where you have to hold on
Speaker 5: by the side with your fingertips and then like slide
Speaker 5: yourself across.
Speaker 1: I was like, bah, there's no way, my fingers are
Speaker 1: not that strong.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Caitlin always thinks that I should do those shows.
Speaker 4: And whenever you like see someone that's actually really good
Speaker 4: at it do it, you realize how impossibly hard all
Speaker 4: of those things are.
Speaker 3: Just because they make it look so easy. But we
Speaker 3: actually have been watching Special Forces. Have you watched it?
Speaker 3: The one Nicks on right now? Oh my gosh, I
Speaker 3: love it. It's so good, and I want Deane to
Speaker 3: go on. It's so bad because every single thing he's like,
Speaker 3: that's easy, that's easy, and I mean it looks impossible
Speaker 3: to me.
Speaker 4: I'm just talking the whole time too, but it's obviously
Speaker 4: not easy. It looks incredibly challenging. But I can't imagine.
Speaker 4: Would you do a lot of those people leave after
Speaker 4: like that?
Speaker 2: No chance, absolutely not.
Speaker 3: All of those shows that he wants to do, like
Speaker 3: uh so this one Special Forces Survivor even we were
Speaker 3: watching amazing race last night and we've talked about doing
Speaker 3: it for so long. But I'm like, shoot, maybe he
Speaker 3: would be better off with this brother than me.
Speaker 4: Well, I definitely would be, yeah, but if you more
Speaker 4: fun with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's just this season everyone's complaining a lot more so
Speaker 3: I'm like, shoot, maybe this isn't meant for me.
Speaker 5: Well, Special Forces, I've heard is only about eight days
Speaker 5: of filming.
Speaker 4: That's crazy to me. Just suffer for eight days, I
Speaker 4: can't imagine. Like Tara Reid and I can't remember many
Speaker 4: of the other names, but they were leaving after like
Speaker 4: one or two days, and it's like, you guys have
Speaker 4: been there for two days. I'm sure it sucks, but
Speaker 4: it's two days.
Speaker 2: I do get where Tara Reid was coming from.
Speaker 3: Where you have these guys that are like two hundred
Speaker 3: and fifty pounds, like big muscular guys, and you have
Speaker 3: little small Tara Reid, who's like, why why am I
Speaker 3: carrying the same backpack as everyone else? Like this backpack
Speaker 3: is the size of me. So I do you know,
Speaker 3: Tara complained a lot on that show for one day,
Speaker 3: but I do get where she was coming.
Speaker 2: From at that point.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I suppose that's true, but still eight days of filming.
Speaker 4: I didn't even know it was that short. But have
Speaker 4: you talked to Nike ad All about it now?
Speaker 1: A little bit? Not really.
Speaker 5: Ashley was the one I think who talked to someone
Speaker 5: about it because she told me, because I was like,
Speaker 5: of course, we asked the same question, like, Ashley, would
Speaker 5: you be able to do this, and she's like, I
Speaker 5: feel like I could do anything for eight days, like
Speaker 5: I could do it.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, I think I think you could do it.
Speaker 5: I think you could do it for eight days too,
Speaker 5: because you just you see the light at the end
Speaker 5: of the telem Here's what I think wood should be
Speaker 5: so cool because I also like Special Forces. I don't
Speaker 5: watch a lot of TV, but I've been watching this
Speaker 5: and uh, I think it would be fun.
Speaker 4: Caylen.
Speaker 1: The reason I asked if you would do it is
Speaker 1: if they did a like.
Speaker 5: Couples not Bachelor, Like, of course they would have Bachelor,
Speaker 5: but they would have you know, vander Pomp or different
Speaker 5: like you know, reality TV personalities, but there would be couples,
Speaker 5: and so they would have one for Bachelor, and it
Speaker 5: could be like, you guys could be the first couple
Speaker 5: from Bachelor, and then there would be a couple from
Speaker 5: whatever Housewives or stuff like that, because that would be
Speaker 5: an interesting dynamic if it was teams and so it
Speaker 5: would be you, it would be Daning Kaylen versus so
Speaker 5: on and so forth. And to see that dynamic of
Speaker 5: you guys having to work together to achieve you know,
Speaker 5: the goal and I would find that interesting. I would
Speaker 5: find that very interesting to.
Speaker 4: Be a lot of me yelling at Kaylen, her crying
Speaker 4: and then yelling back at me, and then me getting
Speaker 4: angry at her yell TV so that I started yelling
Speaker 4: at her. Yeah, so let's not do that for the
Speaker 4: sake of our marriage. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you guys will probably get money.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll do anything. I'd do a lot of weird
Speaker 4: things for a lot of money. Nick actually is doing
Speaker 4: pretty well for himself this season, though in that show.
Speaker 5: I'm not shocked by that. Dude, I feel like Nick
Speaker 5: is underrated. Uh, He's always been underrated in the physical
Speaker 5: department because he's always been ripped. But like, I don't
Speaker 5: think a lot of people look at him as an athlete,
Speaker 5: so to speak.
Speaker 1: But dude, I'll never forget.
Speaker 5: We were playing pick up basketball one time and with
Speaker 5: one of Nick's buddies who had this beautiful court. He
Speaker 5: had an entire indoor court in his backyard and he
Speaker 5: had the Lakers emblem on it.
Speaker 1: It was sick and it was five on Dean. Actually, Dean,
Speaker 1: were you there? Did you play with those?
Speaker 4: I don't think so? All right? Was it a Lakers
Speaker 4: player's house?
Speaker 5: No, no, No, it's just a guy who's very rich
Speaker 5: and was a big Lakers fan and he like builds
Speaker 5: an entire basketball court in his backyard. But we were
Speaker 5: playing and dude, I remember Nick is you know, he
Speaker 5: wasn't the greatest basketball player, but like he just knew
Speaker 5: his role. Dude, he was like throwing bows at people.
Speaker 5: He must have grabbed fifteen rebounds, had like twelve assists,
Speaker 5: and dude, he was just boxing people out and throwing
Speaker 5: people to the ground. Like damn, bro, Nick, You're like
Speaker 5: you're kind of strong man, and you know, working out
Speaker 5: with him so many times as I did, Like he's.
Speaker 1: Just he was strong. He's pretty strong.
Speaker 5: And when he signed up for special and he's super competitive.
Speaker 5: He's so competitive. So when I found out he's on
Speaker 5: Special Forces, I was like, I think he's going to
Speaker 5: do pretty well.
Speaker 1: And good for him. I'm happy for him.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he seems to be doing well. Him and Tyler
Speaker 4: are both doing pretty well. I mean, I mean, like
Speaker 4: it's so hard not to be biased because you know,
Speaker 4: Nick's our friend and Tyler I never met him, but
Speaker 4: adjacent to him socially, so I want them to do well.
Speaker 4: But I see them for like competing in these challenges.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't really think anyone's going to be
Speaker 4: able to beat these.
Speaker 1: Guys, I know, But also Hannah won last season.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and she was going against guys like you know,
Speaker 5: Dwight Howard and all these professional athletes, So there's gotta
Speaker 5: be you know, there's obviously a mental portion to this
Speaker 5: that will showcase itself more towards the end, because if
Speaker 5: it was just physical, then you're right, it would just
Speaker 5: be guys like Tyler and Nick who always win these seasons.
Speaker 5: So there's there's definitely more to it that because I
Speaker 5: didn't finish watching the whole first season, Yeah, there has
Speaker 5: to be some sort of mental and emotional part of it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like what happens if not everyone wants to leave?
Speaker 4: Like they have to start eliminating people at some point
Speaker 4: some way. I think Tyler is gonna win. He seems
Speaker 4: like he's gotta got it pretty well figured out.
Speaker 2: I say, Nick or Jojo, so you will.
Speaker 4: But yeah, it's possible. I don't know. When Kelly Rizzo
Speaker 4: was leaving in the last episode, I was like, why
Speaker 4: don't you just do this? Wake up tomorrow and then
Speaker 4: look back and be like that sucked, but at least I'm.
Speaker 2: Still here right, Like the hard part's over.
Speaker 4: Let's go. Yeah. So, so I want to do Special Forces.
Speaker 4: If you're your casting director for that show and you're
Speaker 4: out there, you're listening to this podcast, get me on
Speaker 4: season three. Calen loves the show and she wants to
Speaker 4: laugh at me.
Speaker 1: So hell yeah, I get so.
Speaker 5: Yeah, let's vocalize that because that's I feel like, certainly
Speaker 5: not easy, but very very plausible.
Speaker 1: Let's get deep on Special Forces next season.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I've been working. I don't know how much
Speaker 3: I can do. But after that, so we were watching
Speaker 3: nat stars on Mars.
Speaker 4: Yeah, stars on Mars is to do the show actually
Speaker 4: was supposed to be.
Speaker 1: On She is on it. She's on it for one episode.
Speaker 4: Oh okay.
Speaker 2: I wasn't sure.
Speaker 3: So I wasn't going to say anything because I wasn't
Speaker 3: sure if she had been on it already and what
Speaker 3: the deal was. But then that one came on. I
Speaker 3: was like, I could do that. That's something I think
Speaker 3: I could do.
Speaker 4: Well, can you has Ashley been on it yet or
Speaker 4: do you know? Are you not allowed to talk about it?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 5: Yeah, so it's I'm assuming you guys are streaming it
Speaker 5: because it's already aired.
Speaker 3: Oh go okay, so only I only watched like half
Speaker 3: of one episode, and I was like, okay, this seems
Speaker 3: like something that I could do if I were to
Speaker 3: go back on TV.
Speaker 4: Wait, let's I want to hear all about her experience
Speaker 4: if you're allowed to share it.
Speaker 5: Of course, because it all aired, so she she's.
Speaker 1: Talked about this. So she flew out. It was in Australia, dude.
Speaker 1: She got the call two days before she flew out,
Speaker 1: and they were like, you could be up, you know,
Speaker 1: here for about two weeks or so and so, but
Speaker 1: we were able to figure it out get her out there.
Speaker 1: She flew to Australia. She flew in on this small
Speaker 1: little plane.
Speaker 5: Because when they flew to some part in Australia and
Speaker 5: then actually had to fly the location, that had to
Speaker 5: take like tiny plane and it fit like four people
Speaker 5: on it.
Speaker 4: And she flew with Paul Pierce, which was so cool.
Speaker 5: Nice, and I think I think his name is Andy Richter,
Speaker 5: the guy Conan's buddy on the.
Speaker 4: Chebby Ish comedian guy I played off with them before.
Speaker 4: Actually he'slarious.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it seems super nice.
Speaker 5: So so she goes on and then she's in you know,
Speaker 5: the space hold or whatever, and it's so cool. She
Speaker 5: got to meet Marshawn Lynch and she got to meet
Speaker 5: Lance Armstrong and Ronda Rousey and all these people, and
Speaker 5: she said they were all very nice. She loved marsh On.
Speaker 5: She said Marshaan was the coolest guy ever. I'm like, good, duh,
Speaker 5: of course he is.
Speaker 1: So she goes on.
Speaker 5: They have one task, so they have like there's this,
Speaker 5: you know, there's air getting through, or there's like gas
Speaker 5: or something. There's a gas leak that they have to
Speaker 5: plug up. So they go they do that, and then
Speaker 5: everybody has their own individual task. Ashley's task was literally
Speaker 5: just putting her finger on like blocking this hole on
Speaker 5: the bottom, because some people had to stand up and
Speaker 5: like reach up like this for like two hours to
Speaker 5: block the.
Speaker 1: Holes until they could fix it.
Speaker 5: Ashley's was literally on the closest to the ground, so
Speaker 5: she was just laying there for like an hour and
Speaker 5: a half of their finger in this hole, just chilling.
Speaker 1: It was very funny. It was really funny.
Speaker 5: And then so fast forward, they come back from the
Speaker 5: mission and this is when you start eliminating people and
Speaker 5: the problem was there's really nobody to eliminate because everybody
Speaker 5: they achieved the task. Everybody did their thing, so they
Speaker 5: had to eliminate the person that had the littlest to do,
Speaker 5: and they ended up being athlete's god.
Speaker 4: So it wasn't even like her own fault that she
Speaker 4: just she did what she was supposed to do, but
Speaker 4: she was given the easiest task.
Speaker 5: Yeah, she was given the easiest tasks that they're like,
Speaker 5: all right, you're not mission critical, I guess, so, thank you.
Speaker 4: And then I mean, while you're staying next to like
Speaker 4: six foot eight Paul Pierce, who can like reach any
Speaker 4: type of height, you know, so obviously like they want
Speaker 4: to write him to stick around.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and then you have all these sports athletes like
Speaker 5: marshawn Or or Richard Truman was on it. He wasn't
Speaker 5: on it when she was there, but then Lance Armstrong
Speaker 5: and Paul Pierce and all these guys who are like, you.
Speaker 4: Know, athletes and could do things. That's so funny.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's she enjoyed doing that.
Speaker 5: I think it feels like Special Forces has tapped into something.
Speaker 5: I hope Stars on Mars does well. Like Ashley left
Speaker 5: her time on there, you know, we feel very honored
Speaker 5: that they even considered Ashley to go on, so like
Speaker 5: we really hope that she helped the show in any way,
Speaker 5: and hopefully it gets renewed. But it feels like Special
Speaker 5: Forces has tapped into something within the reality TV sphere
Speaker 5: that is going to last a very long time.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, there's there's been shows like that around for
Speaker 4: a while, like not in America, but there's that show
Speaker 4: in Australia. Funny enough, you're just talking about it, isn't
Speaker 4: it called like I'm a celebrity, Get me out of here? Yeah,
Speaker 4: that show seems pretty hilarious and that's I mean, it's
Speaker 4: obviously not the exact same as Special Forces, but it's
Speaker 4: kind of in the same vein of like putting these
Speaker 4: well known people through the ringer and like making them
Speaker 4: suffer and then laughing at their expense kind of thing.
Speaker 3: Well, and there's a UK version of Special Forces, which
Speaker 3: I think they took the idea from, and I heard
Speaker 3: it's like just as maybe a little bit less popular
Speaker 3: than Love Island.
Speaker 2: So Love Island became super popular.
Speaker 3: I don't know if this was their mindset and then
Speaker 3: they were like, let's try incorporating more UK reality TV shows.
Speaker 2: In the US.
Speaker 4: So did Ashley fly to Australia, film one episode and
Speaker 4: then fly directly back home.
Speaker 5: Yep, she was gone for forty eight hours if that,
Speaker 5: and it took her I mean it's like a two
Speaker 5: hour flight, eighteen eighteen hour travel, eighteen twenty hours. She
Speaker 5: traveled more than she spent time on the show.
Speaker 4: Well, hopefully they compensated her well enough to make it
Speaker 4: worth it.
Speaker 5: Yes, it was very much worth it. We're very lucky
Speaker 5: and grateful for that. So yeah, it's definitely worth it.
Speaker 4: That's kind of why I want to go on one
Speaker 4: of those shows instead of like Survivor, because Survivor you
Speaker 4: go on you only get a million dollars if you win,
Speaker 4: but stars on Mars you go on. I'm not saying
Speaker 4: she got a million dollars obviously, but you're still getting
Speaker 4: a nice little time to change for anyone one episode
Speaker 4: that you're on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and.
Speaker 5: I'm I feel like there's because we're you know, it's
Speaker 5: different than when we were first on the show. We're
Speaker 5: like you said Survivor, right, Survivor is a show where
Speaker 5: it's very similar to Bachelor. You pluck these people from
Speaker 5: everyday life and put them on TV. So we're not
Speaker 5: getting paid because we're not like, you know, we're not names.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: Now it's different.
Speaker 5: Indeed, if you went on Special Forces, I don't think
Speaker 5: you would get paid per episode. I think you would
Speaker 5: have a fee and then you know, they would offer
Speaker 5: you a certain amount of money to do this show.
Speaker 5: And it's like, if you laugh this long, you'll get
Speaker 5: this amount of money. I think you'll just get a
Speaker 5: flat fee and then go on the show.
Speaker 4: I agree, I think that's right. But I would say, like,
Speaker 4: for things like that that I want to do, I
Speaker 4: would almost be like, I'll just do it for free.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. She says this about everything.
Speaker 4: We talked about it too. It's like I would just
Speaker 4: do it for free.
Speaker 2: No, you wouldn't.
Speaker 4: If they were like, hey, we have one more spot,
Speaker 4: but we don't have any more budget, will you just
Speaker 4: come do it for us, I'd be like one hundred percent. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm there. Stars on Mars, I would do it.
Speaker 3: For really, put your foot in your mouth here. If
Speaker 3: they want to cast you, they know they don't have
Speaker 3: to spend a cent.
Speaker 4: Hey, perfect, if that's what it takes to get me
Speaker 4: on the show, Just for them. To know that they
Speaker 4: don't have to spend a single dollar on me. I'm
Speaker 4: in what it's going to take. It seems like it's
Speaker 4: fun enough for you to be making to make it
Speaker 4: for free. Yeah yeah, but I guess we'll get to
Speaker 4: that that when we come to it. But but yeah,
Speaker 4: that's my dream is Special Forces or Survivor or Amazing
Speaker 4: Race with my wife or my brother or no, no
Speaker 4: Mars with Neil Armstrong.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, got to focus on Special Forces because there's
Speaker 5: definitely gonna be a season three. So we got to
Speaker 5: get you on Special Forces season three because I'm assuming
Speaker 5: it feels like this show is doing very well, they're
Speaker 5: probably going to do a season three very quickly.
Speaker 2: When do they film, do you know in the summer?
Speaker 4: I have no idea.
Speaker 5: I don't know, but I would imagine that they're going
Speaker 5: to just keep pumping it out because the first season,
Speaker 5: I mean was earlier this year, right, it was I
Speaker 5: think springtime when it aired, and then they filmed, and
Speaker 5: then now it's fall and there's another one. So assuming
Speaker 5: there's probably gonna be you know, the Special Forces that airs,
Speaker 5: you know, sometime in the spring next year, which means
Speaker 5: they'll probably start filming here in the winter of twenty
Speaker 5: twenty four. So because they could film anywhere in the world,
Speaker 5: you know they can go. It doesn't you know wherever
Speaker 5: they're going to film.
Speaker 4: If you want to be cold, you can just go
Speaker 4: to the other hemisphere.
Speaker 5: Got to get the campaign out there because they'll, dude,
Speaker 5: they'll put you on. You're a big name part of Bachelor.
Speaker 4: I don't know. If I don't know, I'm big enough
Speaker 4: of a controversial. But that's why I'm saying I'll work
Speaker 4: for free. I'll give give them free labor controversial, thank
Speaker 4: you very much. Yeah, I was watching last episode and
Speaker 4: I don't I don't know. I don't know how I
Speaker 4: would affair on that show, but like the boxing portion
Speaker 4: of it, I'm not a fighter, obviously. Would I get rocked, probably,
Speaker 4: but it'd be fun. But that's the point.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like everybody wants to see us reality TV personalities
Speaker 5: just get punched in the face.
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Speaker 3: Also, that episode is crazy because Sandoval is just He's
Speaker 3: like stop and he just keeps punching Nick.
Speaker 2: I was like, dude, he said stop like ten times,
Speaker 2: you got to stop punching it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I didn't see what happened.
Speaker 3: Sandoval and Nick fought like a boxing match.
Speaker 2: Yeah up, Sandoval one.
Speaker 3: We thought Nick was winning the whole time, but then
Speaker 3: Sandoval just like, I don't know. We were like, I
Speaker 3: bet he's upset because Nick talks so much crap about
Speaker 3: him when the whole scandaal went down, but he the
Speaker 3: guy said stop, and Sandoval just kept going after him.
Speaker 3: So then they're like, this guy's too fiery, so he's
Speaker 3: got to fight someone else. So then he fought Jack
Speaker 3: Osborne and Jack one.
Speaker 1: Nick lost.
Speaker 3: I it didn't. It seemed pretty even. Honestly, it's not
Speaker 3: like he lost. They like would spar with each other
Speaker 3: for a couple of minutes and then the guy, the
Speaker 3: lead guy, would be like, yeah, you won, you lost,
Speaker 3: but like no one was eliminated or anything.
Speaker 4: It was but basically just trying to get people punched.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes sense. We haven't talked about dating once
Speaker 1: this episode.
Speaker 4: Have we Oh shucks?
Speaker 1: I know?
Speaker 4: Oh you know what? Who cares?
Speaker 5: Honestly, this is so much more interesting anyway. But what
Speaker 5: I want to do before we get going, because I
Speaker 5: know time is quickly getting away from us, was that
Speaker 5: there was an article that I wanted to talk to
Speaker 5: you guys about. It was from this TikToker who's a
Speaker 5: dating coach. Her name is Sabrina Zohar. She's thirty three.
Speaker 5: She has over four hundred thousand followers on TikTok. But
Speaker 5: the point is this clip went viral it says three
Speaker 5: red flags to look for look out for early in dating.
Speaker 5: What was your biggest red flag that you guys looked for?
Speaker 5: Like what early in dating you meet someone, Like, what's
Speaker 5: what's your biggest red flag?
Speaker 2: I need to think for a second, do you know?
Speaker 1: I think one of my biggest red flat flags.
Speaker 5: I've talked about this numerous times coming from hospitality, is
Speaker 5: how people treat their bartenders and wait staff. Yeah, dude,
Speaker 5: you're rude to them. I couldn't the biggest quote unquote dick.
Speaker 5: That's what the kids are saying these days. Also, I
Speaker 5: got another ick too. I go to planing fitness. It's
Speaker 5: near college. There's a lot of college boys and girls
Speaker 5: that go to this gym, and there was legit. I
Speaker 5: an ick is when girls and guys dance at the
Speaker 5: gym to the music they're listening to on their headphones.
Speaker 5: It's like nobody else is listening to the music that
Speaker 5: you're listening to, and like I get like, you're pumping
Speaker 5: yourself up. You gotta nod your head, But dude, I legit.
Speaker 5: There these girls that like they were literally like this.
Speaker 4: They were like.
Speaker 7: They were doing TikTok dances like not on camera in
Speaker 7: the mirror, just like looking at it, like, and then
Speaker 7: they would look at each other and they're like bopping
Speaker 7: their head and then it's like, dude, shut, does.
Speaker 2: That mean we're getting older?
Speaker 4: Yes? But I do agree with you. I do agree
Speaker 4: with you very very much. So I'm trying to think
Speaker 4: back of what my red flags were from dating. It
Speaker 4: was hard for me to find something I didn't like
Speaker 4: in someone on the first couple of dates. On the
Speaker 4: first couple of dates, and then after those first few dates,
Speaker 4: then it hit me like a freaking flood of things.
Speaker 4: I was like, Oh, I hate this and this and
Speaker 4: this and this and this about you. I don't ever
Speaker 4: want to see you again.
Speaker 2: I feel like mine is kind of similar.
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's easy, excuse me to get the
Speaker 3: dick from guys. I'm trying to think, like the brief
Speaker 3: time I dated in LA, I just hated when people
Speaker 3: name dropped. I'm like, okay, cool, you hung out with
Speaker 3: Toby maguire once, like sweet, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Things like that were just kind of off putting.
Speaker 1: Did so many name drop Tom McGuire too.
Speaker 4: That's a very specific thing to remember.
Speaker 3: At Actually a girlfriend did a couple months ago, and
Speaker 3: that's just top of mind.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know things like that.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's fair enough. I I'm trying to I'm still
Speaker 4: trying to think back, Like if a girl is super
Speaker 4: into astrology, astronomy, astrology, astrology, If.
Speaker 1: She's into astronomy, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 4: That'd be dope, that would be really cool. But astrology
Speaker 4: is a bit.
Speaker 1: Of plants and stars.
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh gosh, I'm trying to think about else. But yeah,
Speaker 4: LA is tough because it's LA is great because there
Speaker 4: is such a large number of beautiful people there and
Speaker 4: interesting people. And when you're single and you live in LA,
Speaker 4: you just kind of get spoiled because every time you're
Speaker 4: going on a date with someone, you're going on a
Speaker 4: date with the hottest person that would be from your hometown.
Speaker 4: You know, Like the ugliest person I went on a
Speaker 4: date with in LA was still hotter than the hottest
Speaker 4: person I went on a date with in Colorado. Does
Speaker 4: that make sense?
Speaker 2: Yeah, not a nice way to put it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Well, just from a physical standpoint.
Speaker 1: A Colorado uh seven is like LA four exactly.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and Colorado ten is like an LA seven,
Speaker 4: So for different reasons. But part of that too, is
Speaker 4: like my brother, I don't know if I talked about
Speaker 4: this on the podcast or not, or I was just
Speaker 4: thinking about it the other day. My brother, when I
Speaker 4: was a kid, I was like maybe fifteen, and he
Speaker 4: had just come back from San Diego because he was
Speaker 4: like twenty or something. He's like, Man, san Diego's great
Speaker 4: because everyone there is so beautiful. You can't act like
Speaker 4: the most beautiful person in the world because you have
Speaker 4: so much competition with all these other beautiful people around you.
Speaker 4: Whereas if you were in Colorado and you were that beautiful,
Speaker 4: you could just be the next piece of crap because
Speaker 4: everyone will bend your will because you're so beautiful.
Speaker 3: I have a question, do you guys think that people
Speaker 3: are hotter in San Diego or La.
Speaker 4: I haven't really spent enough time in San Diego, I
Speaker 4: would say LA.
Speaker 3: I guess it just depends what you're into, because San
Speaker 3: Diego is more like surfer.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm more into that laid back lifestyle. But La,
Speaker 4: there's just such a bigger pool to choose from. But also,
Speaker 4: I don't know if I talked about this on the
Speaker 4: podcast either. Part of what makes La great is being
Speaker 4: single and living in that city, and that's why people
Speaker 4: spend all that money to live there. But once you
Speaker 4: get into a relationship, it's like, what are we paying
Speaker 4: all this?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Our friends are all married and still living there.
Speaker 4: Yeah. No, we have like two friends.
Speaker 3: Yeah, two friends, but their jobs keep them there, I guess, but.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, what were we talking about again? Sorry,
Speaker 4: I went on a long rant there.
Speaker 1: Here we go. Number one, Let's get back. Number one.
Speaker 5: The first the first sign, the first thread flag that
Speaker 5: she says to look for early on in the relationship
Speaker 5: is that when both parties start to over idealize the situation.
Speaker 5: So you know that if someone is too into you
Speaker 5: in the beginning of the relationship, they maybe love bombing you.
Speaker 5: They can't get to know you at the level within
Speaker 5: one or two dates, so don't fall for it. You
Speaker 5: need to set boundaries and ask your crush to slow
Speaker 5: things down if they start doing this to you.
Speaker 4: Uh, dude, I don't know. It's so hard.
Speaker 5: Like when you're early in a relationship, it's just like
Speaker 5: there's you know, the endorphments and all that crap, and
Speaker 5: just like you just want to see the person. So
Speaker 5: is it love bombing. I guess it could be, but
Speaker 5: it also could be just a sign of someone that's
Speaker 5: really into.
Speaker 4: I've never been I've never been love bombed before, but
Speaker 4: I'm sure you have. I don't think so. I think
Speaker 4: what happens is when you start dating someone and you're
Speaker 4: really into them, you start, like, you start defining their
Speaker 4: parts of themselves for them, and then the more you
Speaker 4: get to know them, the more they fill it in
Speaker 4: for themselves, and so you start to be disappointed that
Speaker 4: it doesn't equate to what you had assumed that they
Speaker 4: were going to be, you know, like you're filling in
Speaker 4: the blanks for them, and then if actually they start
Speaker 4: filling it in for themselves. And that's what I've noticed
Speaker 4: as well too in relationships. Not in relationships, but like
Speaker 4: in dating I guess a long time ago in the past.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I've never been loved bombed. I'm sure I've
Speaker 4: loved bombed a few times.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in high school.
Speaker 4: Probably.
Speaker 2: What about you have I loved bombed?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 4: Have you been love bombed?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's some weird guys in La GI give us
Speaker 3: some examples of the love bombing.
Speaker 2: I don't know there was just like this weird guy.
Speaker 3: And I feel like guys egos in LA are so big,
Speaker 3: so if you boast them or turn them down, they
Speaker 3: get super upset and they're like, well, I'm great, so
Speaker 3: why I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like I've experienced that with Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 4: Know that was I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know how to how to explain it.
Speaker 5: Really, Okay, have you guys ever experienced a relationship early
Speaker 5: on where you just were so obsessed with the person,
Speaker 5: Then after a few dates, after like everything you know,
Speaker 5: war or off, you're like, oh, wait a minute, maybe
Speaker 5: I don't like you as much as I need.
Speaker 4: Not one hundred percent. And that's kind of what I
Speaker 4: was saying earlier too, as I would go on a
Speaker 4: couple of dates and I'd be like, Wow, this person
Speaker 4: is perfect, but I was like I was defining who
Speaker 4: I thought they were to myself versus letting them show
Speaker 4: me who they were, and then you get to know
Speaker 4: them better and you're like, oh, wait, this person actually
Speaker 4: kind of sucks for me. Sucks for me, not sucks,
Speaker 4: just sucks for me, you know.
Speaker 5: M So the second red flag is kind of bouncing
Speaker 5: off that. She says Number two is monopolizing your social time. Again,
Speaker 5: she gets to it's so exciting when you meet somebody
Speaker 5: really like and you want to spend all their time
Speaker 5: with them. But she says this is actually a bad
Speaker 5: tactic because you need to live your own life. She
Speaker 5: said that if someone is attempting to alienate you from
Speaker 5: your friends or spend all of their time with you,
Speaker 5: it actually can be a sign of possessiveness.
Speaker 4: Hmmm, interesting, I'll keep on. I mean, this girl, this
Speaker 4: girl that I dated in high school, was dating a
Speaker 4: guy before me, and I was like, why did you
Speaker 4: guys break up? And she said that he would always
Speaker 4: cancel his plans with his friends to hang out with her.
Speaker 4: And I was like, that sounds really nice of him,
Speaker 4: and she goes, no, I hate it so much. And
Speaker 4: so ever since then, I'm like, oh, okay, got to
Speaker 4: make sure you have your own social life going on.
Speaker 2: Then that imprinted in your brain that really.
Speaker 4: I always had a very formative brain at the time. It
Speaker 4: was like play though, you can mold it anyway you wanted,
Speaker 4: and she molded.
Speaker 2: It for better or for worse.
Speaker 3: Is this the same one that said, if you're accusing
Speaker 3: me of cheating, I might as well, cheat on your
Speaker 3: same exact one.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, sound logic right there.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I mean we all have those friends that as soon
Speaker 5: as they start dating someone, you just don't see them.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah for a very long time. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I was thinking that one of my best friends has
Speaker 3: been dating her boyfriend for I don't know, like five
Speaker 3: months now, And usually when my friends start a new relationship,
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, I won't see you for like
Speaker 3: two to three months. It's whatever, So it is a
Speaker 3: new relationship. She never went through that, and I'm really
Speaker 3: proud of her because she is a very dependent person
Speaker 3: and she never she was just like, you know, we're
Speaker 3: going to have our own social lives and I don't
Speaker 3: know if that's just dating as you're getting older, but
Speaker 3: like I thought it was super healthy.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I'll make sure to recall this exact conversation next
Speaker 4: time I want to go play golf and you're getting
Speaker 4: mad at me, Okay, I'll be like, it's healthy. Okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it sucks because Ashley is the one who'll just
Speaker 5: tell me it's not healthy, and she wants to spend
Speaker 5: all the time with me, which is so great and wonderful,
Speaker 5: but also, like I want a golf. The third flag,
Speaker 5: Sabrina says, is selective listening. I feel like this is
Speaker 5: something Dean suffer sort of.
Speaker 1: Are specific things that you said about things that pertain
Speaker 1: to them, but when it comes to your boundaries and
Speaker 1: non negotiables, they just kind of forget.
Speaker 5: She says that this person is actually self centered. So
Speaker 5: what do you guys think about selective listening as the
Speaker 5: third flag?
Speaker 4: Do you agree? I don't really really understand it.
Speaker 5: I think she's saying that, like, so Dean, like, in
Speaker 5: the beginning of the relationship you and Kaylen, if you
Speaker 5: were like, Kaylen, there's you know, within a relationship, this
Speaker 5: is the one thing that would really bother me if
Speaker 5: it ever happened, And she's.
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, of course, of course.
Speaker 5: And then later on, like three months down the line,
Speaker 5: she's doing that thing and you're like, but I said,
Speaker 5: that's you know, important that it doesn't happen, and she's like, oh,
Speaker 5: I don't even remember you saying that. I feel like
Speaker 5: that happens sometimes. But it's also tough because it's like,
Speaker 5: I don't know. Sometimes Ashley says things to me and
Speaker 5: it's like in passing almost but it's important to her.
Speaker 5: But I don't know it's important to her because she
Speaker 5: just kind of says it and doesn't say with any
Speaker 5: matter of factness, so I don't really take it as that.
Speaker 5: And then of course I'm like, oh, yeah, I kind
Speaker 5: of vaguely remember you saying that. She's like, well, I
Speaker 5: did say it was very important to me, And I'm like, well, listen,
Speaker 5: if something's very important to you, please let me know
Speaker 5: that it's important, because sometimes when you say things, I
Speaker 5: don't really know what's important what's not important, because then
Speaker 5: you'll say something and then I'll keep that in my
Speaker 5: head and then I'll make sure I don't do it,
Speaker 5: and then she's you know, she'd be like, well that
Speaker 5: doesn't really matter, like you can do that if you want. Well,
Speaker 5: and then I'm like, okay, well, what what is important
Speaker 5: and what's not important? Because we need to really make
Speaker 5: these these lines clear?
Speaker 2: Mm hmm yeah, Dean Dean uh does that? Sometimes I
Speaker 2: knew you're.
Speaker 3: Going to say that, which is because because you do
Speaker 3: it no, And Dean Dean will say, He's like, no,
Speaker 3: you can't do that.
Speaker 2: You know my memory is bad, so.
Speaker 4: What I just think that's so silly of you to say,
Speaker 4: because you do it more outen than I.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, Oh my gosh, you're just an assassin mod today.
Speaker 4: I'm not what do you mean, I'm not in assassy
Speaker 4: mood at all? Okay, then explained, No, you keep going.
Speaker 4: You're on you're on one. My brain is slow, so
Speaker 4: it doesn't work very well sometimes. But are you done? Okay? Yeah,
Speaker 4: we both have selected listening. I guess communication is just hard, man.
Speaker 4: You know it's not easy. It's not easy.
Speaker 5: Well, that's why sometimes you just suck at being a
Speaker 5: newly why you know?
Speaker 4: Trust me, the podcast gets true and true every single day.
Speaker 4: But that's why we're That's why we're all here, is
Speaker 4: to improve. We did have some emails, but I guess
Speaker 4: we don't I wanna. We don't have time to get
Speaker 4: to them today. Is that what we're thinking? Yeah, we'll
Speaker 4: do the next week. Say the emails for next week. Baby,
Speaker 4: We got some emails for next week. So if you
Speaker 4: were tuning in for the emails today, we apologize. But
Speaker 4: I guess I just means you're going have to tune
Speaker 4: in next week. Where maybe we stuck just a little
Speaker 4: bit less. I wasn't sure I was ready to end
Speaker 4: it just yet. At that moment, but I got myself
Speaker 4: there and so I almost gave myself no choice.
Speaker 1: It just it was like a Tarantino twist, like it
Speaker 1: just fit everything.
Speaker 4: So technically, it's like when you expect the movie to
Speaker 4: be two hours long and then it ends at like
Speaker 4: an hour and fifteen minutes into it, and you're like,
Speaker 4: wait a second.
Speaker 1: But it was just such a perfect ending that Jared.
Speaker 4: I want you to end it for us because I
Speaker 4: feel like that's probably the best way for us to
Speaker 4: do it.
Speaker 5: All right, Greg, Well, we'll have emails for next week, Uh, Caitlin, myself, Dean,
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