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Speaker 1: I recently got ghosted by a guy who I didn't

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Speaker 1: even like, and I emailed him this ghosting Exit.

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Speaker 2: Survey to fill out.

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Speaker 1: So the first question is, please provide a one two

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Speaker 1: sentence example of why you did it. You were intimidated

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Speaker 1: by my beauty, you hate yourself, you're broken, I'm too

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Speaker 1: good for you. Like whatever comes to mind. May circle

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Speaker 1: if I am more cute, hot, sexy, or pretty, and

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Speaker 1: just know, just as a rule, you have to circle

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Speaker 1: all four. Please provide the names, emails, and phone numbers

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Speaker 1: of at least two of your exes and your birth mother.

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Speaker 1: And that's just like so I can start a group chat.

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Speaker 3: And last, you please select.

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Speaker 1: One form of compensation for me, so you could opt

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Speaker 1: for something simple like sending me your passwords for various

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Speaker 1: streaming services and your social Security number. And last, but

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Speaker 1: certainly not least, making me your muse and dedicating your

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Speaker 1: life to winning me back. So that can be anything

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Speaker 1: from like using my voicemails in a rap song, cutting

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Speaker 1: your ear off and sending it to me publicly referring

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Speaker 1: to me as the one that got away.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, is that the right way I'm getting ghosted?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, it's you will show. But one relationship

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Speaker 4: expert has released a list of the top things you

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Speaker 4: should and shouldn't do if you get ghosted. So over

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Speaker 4: those right now so you can know how you should

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Speaker 4: act if you get ghosted, or how you shouldn't act. Okay,

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Speaker 4: we'll start with the things you shouldn't do. This is

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Speaker 4: according to a popular relationship expert who released this list

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Speaker 4: that's going viral of the things you shouldn't and shouldn't,

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Speaker 4: should and shouldn't do if you get ghosted. Top things

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Speaker 4: you shouldn't do. Don't double text, they say, if they

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Speaker 4: want to talk, they would have responded to the first one.

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Speaker 2: What they just didn't see the first one.

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Speaker 4: That's why you always do the double text. Well maybe

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Speaker 4: they just didn't see that one. Let me try five

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Speaker 4: more times. I forgot to end that one with the question.

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Speaker 2: That's what it was? You tell yourself.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't warrant a response, so you need to be

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Speaker 3: like that, I hope you're doing great, it's how are

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Speaker 3: you doing it?

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Speaker 4: You stare at imperman and you're like, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't respond to that either.

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Speaker 2: Let me try one more time.

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Speaker 4: Here's another thing that you shouldn't do if you get ghosted,

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Speaker 4: It says, don't don't cyberstalk. Then no deep diving into

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Speaker 4: their aunt's Facebook in twenty twelve. You don't need all

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Speaker 4: that intel.

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Speaker 3: You try to do, because then it helps you feel

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Speaker 3: better about the fact that you're getting ghosted by psycho.

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Speaker 4: You got to find something on their social media like,

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Speaker 4: oh it's them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that one time they went to that one place,

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Speaker 1: that one time a long time ago.

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Speaker 2: A stupid idiot. I don't want to date them anyway.

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Speaker 4: I did another thing it says not to do if

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Speaker 4: you get ghosted, don't think maybe their phone broke, But.

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Speaker 2: What if it did, right, it's gotta be it. The

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Speaker 2: phone must be broken for weeks now.

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Speaker 3: Because because if it did, does it also say don't

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Speaker 3: call their job and have their friend ask for them

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Speaker 3: for you?

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Speaker 2: Nina, Yes, I think that one's so obvious. It's not

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Speaker 2: on the list.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it didn't feel right. First. People were trying to

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Speaker 3: tell me that he was in the mob and that

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Speaker 3: he had to disappear because he was in hiding, and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, that doesn't make sense. He was super hot,

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Speaker 3: we had the hottest date. We for sure we're going

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Speaker 3: to go out again. For sure it was a double date.

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Speaker 3: Then I get all this mob theory stuff and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: this isn't right. So I tell my friend. He's like,

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Speaker 3: I got you. So we called him at where and

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Speaker 3: you know where? He was at work? Totally fine, not

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Speaker 3: dead or in hiding. And you don't want to date

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Speaker 3: him anymore because he wasn't a mobster. Yeah he's a mobster.

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Speaker 2: Now you're boring. What are the top.

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Speaker 4: Things they say you should do if you get ghosted?

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Speaker 4: They say the thing one thing you should do if

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Speaker 4: you get ghosted is send one classic goodbye text?

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Speaker 2: Oh why why? They I guess I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Why.

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Speaker 2: You know what that is? Though that's not a classic

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Speaker 2: goodbye text.

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Speaker 4: You send that text because you hope they'll go.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, no, I'm sorry. I can't believe I made

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Speaker 2: such a mistake. No, no, finally, text you back. That's

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Speaker 2: a waste of time. No needed.

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Speaker 4: Send a text something like, hey, seems like you've moved on.

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Speaker 4: Wishing you well.

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Speaker 3: No, don't you dare You don't wish them well? So

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Speaker 3: why are you lying?

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Speaker 2: I'm dad? That's the text that you said, see Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 4: It also says to romanticize your single life. If you

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Speaker 4: get ghosted, pull yourself there and convince yourself it's great.

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Speaker 2: I eat alone every night, you guys, I can eat

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Speaker 2: what I want. Though, Yeah, what else nobody's ordered for me?

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Speaker 3: You probably have peace and you're not fighting with somebody

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Speaker 3: right now or worried if somebody's cheating on you.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy that moment.

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Speaker 4: It also says another thing that you should do if

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Speaker 4: you get ghosted, cry it out. If you need to, oh, cry, journal,

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Speaker 4: punch a pillow, scream, seeing adele, anything is valid.

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Speaker 2: I mean, after how long, after one day?

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Speaker 4: You shouldn't If you get ghosted, you really probably shouldn't

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Speaker 4: need to cry and journal it out and sing adult.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you felt really connected to that person at that point,

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Speaker 2: you know it's about them.

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Speaker 3: If somebody can't be adult enough to communicate with you

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Speaker 3: after one or two dates and just let you know

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Speaker 3: what's up, then why are you crying over somebody that's

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Speaker 3: emotionally stunted.

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Speaker 2: That's true, although I have a question, what do you

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Speaker 2: owe somebody after one date? Not that nothing? Yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: but even to tell you don't even know what to

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Speaker 2: text them back?

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Speaker 4: Then?

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Speaker 3: Right? No?

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Speaker 2: Not really, I'm saying the person who's ghosting? Do they

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Speaker 2: really owe you anything?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: No, I don't think so. Not after one date. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I don't think they do either.

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Speaker 3: It's rude, but it's like they don't owe you anything now,

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Speaker 3: it says.

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Speaker 4: Another thing that you should do is block or mute

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Speaker 4: them on social media, and then occasionally unblock and unmute

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Speaker 4: them so you can see what they're I'll.

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Speaker 2: Create another account before you do that. I don't know

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Speaker 2: if that's been a bad but hopefully that helped