WEBVTT - Things That Aren’t Toxic—Just Uncomfortable 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:02.640 Good. 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:04.680 All right, break it down. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.719 If you ever have feelings that you just wont Amy 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:13.240 and Cat gotcha, Cob and Locking No, brother, ladies and folks, 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:15.560 do you just follow Ann the spirit where it's all 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:19.800 the real stuff to the chill stuff and the m 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:23.360 but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do it 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:28.479 just stop you feel things. This is feeling things with 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:29.320 Amy and Cat. 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:32.839 Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Cat, 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:35.600 and we both have feelings of the day, and I 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:37.320 can see in our doc they're very different. I have 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:41.080 no idea why you're feeling disgusted, but I'm feeling eager. 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:42.360 You go first. 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.159 I want your feeling today, you. 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:46.080 Know I want to feel eager. 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:50.200 Actually, here you go. I'm gonna twist this frown upside down. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:54.720 I'm feeling disgusted because a couple of days ago I 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.760 awoke with what looks to be and you can give 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:59.240 your feedback on this, but it looks like I have 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:03.080 a rash on my face. I'm diagnosing myself with dermatitis, 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:07.360 which from my friend who's an esthetician, is what I've 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:11.880 gathered is just kind of like an infection of the skin. 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:12.880 But it can't be that. 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:17.720 Actually, because isn't it hormononal? Yeah? Yeah, I've had dermatitis 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:19.840 on my back before. I don't know if that's exactly 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.640 what it was called, but I had little teeny tiny 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:23.680 bombs like that are on your face and I had 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.840 on my back and I use that. Golly, what was 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:33.160 I got it at? You know, CBS or Walgreens, crapefruit scrub? No, no, 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:35.959 no packs. So I got a Google pack. I know 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:38.400 what you're saying, Packsaw, it's the X with X right. 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.080 Maybe it cleared my back. I mean I was living 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.840 with the bumps for a while and then I got 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.120 a bar of soap of the This what I'm going 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:48.800 to google so I'll be able to tell you what 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:50.760 it's called. And it cleared right up. 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:52.880 Wait, I wonder if I could use it on my face. 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:57.200 I mean maybe you could. My dermatologist told me that 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:59.680 you can use Dan Driff shampoo on your face, but 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:03.520 I don't know if that applies for hormonal bumps. 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:05.960 So I'm taking a new medication that I know. That's 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.720 why I don't know, but that's why I'm assuming it's 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:11.959 the only thing that has changed. And I'm just disgusted 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:13.000 because I'm frustrated. 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:13.919 Oh. 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.880 I think I'm more frustrated than disgusted, because I'm not 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:18.359 like ooh, I mean I am kind of I don't 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:18.640 like it. 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:21.160 Oh, okay, pan ox, panox soal. 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:26.160 What is paxl. That's a drug, paxels so much pharmaceutical drug. 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:30.480 There's the There's lots of different panox sole products. I 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:33.840 used the bar of soap, probably because that's familiar to me, 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.440 because I love a bar of soap. I love a 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:40.320 white bar of soap, unscented. This one maybe has a 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:43.240 scynth though, because it has a job to do. They 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:47.640 also have a acne banishing body spray. Just get some 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:48.840 of that sprayed on your face. 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:52.000 I don't know anything is gonna fix it unless I 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:53.880 just like, stop taking the medication. But I can't stop 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:54.680 taking this medication. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:59.040 And so well, what we do know is this is temporary. Yeah, 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:04.440 and while you are feeling disgusted, you don't look just 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.919 in them lighting. Yeah, we do have dim lighting. Cat 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:10.600 used my guest bath and she came out and she 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.160 was like, whatever kind of lighting you have in the bathroom, 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.359 that's what I need in my office because I don't 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:17.000 think I'm going to be able to sit across from 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.880 from clients because they're gonna think I have some disease. 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:21.600 It's pretty bad. 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.480 But how close are you sitting to your client? 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:26.120 Not that close? And I think that's also I think 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.840 it's pretty bad because it's giving me like flashbacks of 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:30.359 when I had like acne in high school and I 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:32.600 had to take acutane, you know, and you like think 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:35.920 you've recovered from this. And I really like just wearing 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:39.680 tinted sunscreen. I don't like wearing foundation and stuff like that. 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:43.800 I feel like, if honestly, can I be really honest here, yes, 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.640 if you were to put foundation through the bad it 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:50.880 would look so bad. It looks like it's bumpy, like 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:53.800 it would look like what are you trying to cover it? 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:59.160 Just doesn't like, just let it breathe. And also, since 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:01.720 we're being honest, it's not as bad as you think 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.960 it is. But don't try to over make up it, 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:08.400 because I think that's that's never doing fairs. 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:12.240 So Patrick, you saying that, thank you? Pause, pause, pause, 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.400 because Patrick keeps being like, it's really not that bad 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.040 or like to the point where I'm like, Patrick, I 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:20.479 know you're lying to me. You're just He's like I 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:22.960 don't even see it like that far where. 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.480 I'm like, he might be telling truth because he's got 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:28.119 ma goggles. He doesn't see what we see. 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.120 Well, that's true, but I said, you can't just lie 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:31.920 to me anymore. You have to think of something else 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:35.440 to say when I'm like frustrated and like complaining about it, 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.680 because sometimes I just look the vent. So now he says, 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:39.480 when I'm like, oh, my face is so bad, he 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:44.440 just goes, I love you. It's nothing else to say. 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:48.640 I am acknowledging that your face feels and looks bad 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:52.840 to you, which I think I get where guys are 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:55.120 coming from. Like there's times where I have stuff going 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:58.440 on with my face and my boyfriend doesn't notice it. 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:02.039 I think he's tell the truth. And I'm telling you 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:04.799 as your friend because I also know that I would 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:06.480 notice what's going on your face, Like I don't want 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.599 to discount I get it you have bumps on your face. 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:10.720 I am also telling you they don't look as bad 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:11.279 as you think. 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.520 Well, thank you, But I'm if I walked in and 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:16.039 didn't say anything, you would notice it. 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:17.880 It just yeah, but it's not that bad. I wouldn't 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:19.640 notice it and think like Kat do you have a 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:23.000 disease or or you know, like what happened? 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:26.080 Yeah, like I wouldn't. I texted you and I was like, 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:28.200 don't be alarmed, I'm coming over and I don't have 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:29.159 makeup lin I know. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:30.880 But the thing is, I didn't even see that text 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:31.680 before you walked in. 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.279 So what I'm doing is image management. I'm like calling 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:35.200 it out before. 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:35.960 Just sent a text. 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.320 You walk in said it. Yes, So I do realize 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:40.800 I think I've. 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:44.160 Just called image image management. Yeah, well is that a tool. 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.760 It's something that we do when we are trying to 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.480 like get ahead of somebody else thinking something about us. 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:51.840 So if I'm feeling like really uncomfortable in my clothes 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:54.040 or something, I can walk in and be like, oh 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.000 my jeans are so tight today. So if I'm thinking 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.320 they look bad on me, then you won't think it first, 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:01.000 I've already said it. I've got ahead of it, and 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:01.839 so you can't hurt me. 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:03.799 So it's more of a tactic than a tool. 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:04.919 Yeah. 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.240 Yeah, sorry, I was thinking like you were like, it's 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:08.240 what you should be doing, and. 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:10.599 It's like negative coping skull. It's the whole idea of 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:12.640 when you you I mean, this is literally what I've 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.640 been doing when you you're going to hang out with 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:15.920 friends and you're like, oh, I have this big ZiT 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:18.080 on my face and then they're like, well, I wasn't 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.000 even going to notice that, but now I see it, 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.240 you know what I mean? We do it because we 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:24.360 want to feel better, because we don't want that uncomfortable, 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.160 unknown feeling of people looking at us and thinking it. 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.200 So it's like me saying, I know what you're thinking. 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:34.160 So you know it's an unhealthy coping tool and you 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:38.200 didn't anyway, what should you do? I know, let's do 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:46.840 this exercise. I'm like, you are gat you're human because 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:50.680 I thought you were perfect? No, no, no, no, because I 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:55.400 know I'm guilty of that tactic. Others listening probably are too. 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:58.200 So what should we do instead? If we had that 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:03.680 urge to go in and announce our vulnerability out the 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:05.320 gates so that nobody else can. 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:10.160 Yeah, what should we do opposite action, which is the 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:13.120 opposite of what I'm just say nothing, Yeah, so walk 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:16.720 in and just be like hey, because what happens is 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:18.760 usually when we do that, we're calling all this negative 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:21.320 attention to ourselves, where like I could have walked in 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:23.320 and you could have. I don't know what you would 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:25.040 have complimented of me today because I kind of just 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.040 like rolled out of bed. But the color of. 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:28.640 Your sweatshirt looks really pretty on you. 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:29.760 You could have I could have walked in and you 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:31.520 could have been like, oh my gosh, I love that sweatshirt. 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:33.560 But I didn't give you the chance to do that, 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:35.560 so I didn't get to give myself a chance to 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.800 receive a compliment. Instead, we've just been talking about my 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:39.280 skin for thirty five minutes. 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.200 Well, you did dish out compliments. You were like, your 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.320 skin looks so good, and I'm like, you're just saying 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:50.360 that right now. We can feel your skin looks so beautiful. 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.440 Like I told you, it looks like what I say, 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:53.240 baby skin. 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:56.480 Oh well, it feels a little rough to me because 0:07:56.480 --> 0:08:00.280 I started my what's it called again, retinal my retinal again, 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:03.520 so then I kind of had to exfoliate, So I 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:07.480 think that's what's happening. Retnel doesn't burn. No, I use 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:11.040 a very mild one from BIOPELP, but it's I'm now 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:12.960 putting it back into my routine, but I do it 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:14.960 every other night. Even though it's mild. My skin is 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.800 so sensitive that I'm slowly building every other night, but 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:22.720 it's already flaking off. Thank you, pospospous for that compliment. 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:24.800 But then you were also like, and your hair looks 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:26.760 really good. And then I was like, oh, it's so dirty, 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:28.760 I need to wash it, and you go, don't wash it. 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:29.720 It looks good. 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:33.400 So you did a little bit of like, uh, you 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:36.839 couldn't take the compliment because my hair I don't field 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:39.240 I was gonna wash it today, but now will you 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:42.320 gave me a little booze? Do not wash it? You're 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:44.199 having a really good hair day, which makes me think 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:47.720 of like, are you robbing yourself of good hair days 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:49.440 by washing your hair when it looks like this. 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:51.480 Well, it's not so much what it's looking like, it's 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.000 what I smell. 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:55.280 Why smell? 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:56.080 Sure? 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:56.600 Wash it? 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:58.880 The ends of it smell okay, But I feel like 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:03.040 my roots get a little stinky, like something. I don't know. 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.559 I just feel like maybe making time get you some 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:07.120 like root freshening spray. 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:12.920 Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. So you're feeling disgusted, well, 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:13.319 and I. 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:16.640 Vow to Okay, this is gonna be so hard to 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.920 me because for me, because the people that I'm gonna 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:22.720 see today are all people I'm really close with. But 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:26.240 I want to challenge myself to do opposite action today, 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.880 Like I'm gonna see my mom later. She already knows 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:31.720 about this on my face, so I'm gonna try not 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.000 to say anything. No need If she brings it up, though, 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:35.760 then I give myself full permission to be like, oh, 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:36.840 I'm so frustrated. 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:39.959 That's okay to want to vent, but you there's no 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:42.199 need for you to upon arrival. 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:43.719 To be like, look and now I've told you your 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.600 face and then at work, clearly that's gonna be easy 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:49.160 for me. I'm not gonna open the door to my 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:51.480 clients and be like, Okay, don't be alarmed. I know 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.880 I have breakouts. I would never do that, so that's 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.840 not as much of a challenge. So today I'm gonna 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:02.200 challenge myself to not do any image manage. 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:03.520 Just like open the door and run back to your 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:05.319 chair and then tell them you're playing a fun game 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:08.800 where they're going to face the wall today. It's called 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:10.200 face the wall work. 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:12.679 It's also so traumatizing. 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.440 You've to sit in the corner and face the wall. 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.160 Yes, speaking of I know I talked about this last week. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:26.920 I finished the Jody Hildebrandt documentary. Yeah, oh my gosh. 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:29.480 You know what, I do want to recommend it to 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:32.320 people because I think it's a good warning of just 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:34.640 the like I said last time, the power of manipulation 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:38.480 and all that, but evil, evil, evil, And I believe 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:40.959 in the power of forgiveness and change and transformation and 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.480 all that. But I don't think there's their sentence scene 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:46.240 was as bad as it should have been. Do you know, 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:47.320 are you familiar with the story. 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:48.959 I am familiar with the story, but I've not watched 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:52.719 the documentary. It's like, honest, I remember watching something on 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:57.200 Ruby Frankie Okay, I cried Franky or frank Frankie Franky Okay. 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.080 They'll serve four to thirty years in prison, so. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:04.320 People are interested in watching it. The Jody Hildebrandt's story 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:09.360 is on Netflix, and yeah, it says that it highlights 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:12.480 her role as a mastermind behind the abuse, tracing her 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:17.680 rise to power in her community and her twisted teachings. 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:22.880 Golly, yeah, it's sick the things that they're doing to but. 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:27.120 It's like how people like that even rise in a community. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.120 Yeah, it shows the progression, which I think that is 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:32.400 I think the helpful part of like, you don't just 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.559 jump into it, because when people would be like that 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:37.800 lady's crazy, it was a slow progression where she controlled 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:40.560 people and like ruin people's lives and those kids are 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:43.480 going to have that trauma for the rest of their lives, 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:47.199 like it's changed their life in a bad way. Yeah, anyway, 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:49.840 tell me about the eagerness you're feeling. 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:51.720 Bring us up a little bit, right, This is definitely 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:54.719 gonna bring you up totally different. Okay, we're doing. 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:55.199 A one eighty. 0:11:56.200 --> 0:12:02.679 I ordered a new bird feeder and it arrived today. 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:06.440 You're back into the birds. Well, they never left me, 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.760 but I realized I put some bird feeders up around 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.079 my house. But I moved into my new house a 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:13.560 year and a half ago. I used to have a 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:16.480 bird feeder at my last house that was right by 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:20.040 my kitchen table window. And here the way my home 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.920 is set up, where my porches and my bird feeders 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.319 are out in the yard, I have to be sitting 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:28.200 on the screened porch to see the birds, and the 0:12:28.200 --> 0:12:31.800 screen porch is still cold, so I can't be like 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.360 at my kitchen window and looking out and seeing the birds. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:37.320 They're in my yard, so I see them, but they're far. 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:41.920 So I found a solution. I was sitting at my 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:46.080 kitchen table and I looked over this window that's kind 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.400 of tucked. It's window right by my kitchen table, right 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.880 where my laundry room door is. The window there, though, 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:58.079 is behind bushes and trees like in my front landscaping. Well, 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:02.439 that's the perfect place. But a suction cup birdhouse onto 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:05.120 the window because you won't I wouldn't want I don't 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.200 know why, but I wouldn't want that on my front window. 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.040 When you're pulling up to my house. But because this 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.880 is disguised by bushes, you don't really see it. 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:15.199 Oh you can't see that window, not really, it's sort 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:17.400 of hidden. I don't think it's weird that you don't 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:19.680 want a bird feeder section cup to the front window 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:20.920 of your house. Okay, that's normal. 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.640 Well, thank you, well, but just in case anybody has that, 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:26.720 Oh okay, you do you like? That's okay, But for 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:29.600 me that would be off because I would be like, well, 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:31.760 I need well on every window because I wanted to 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:37.320 look well. So I had this revelation and I go 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:41.880 on Amazon and I find the suction cup bird feeder 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:46.400 and it has arrived. So I'm so eager to get 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.440 done with my work and a few other things that 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.240 I need to do today and I get to open 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:53.360 up that package because I also ordered new bird seed, 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:55.960 so I got a fresh bag of bird seed and 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:59.280 a new feeder. I'm in a suction to the outside 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.880 of that window, and the birds they're gonna come, and 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:03.600 they're gonna come right to my window. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:04.000 Yeah. 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:05.400 So like I don't have to be on on the 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:07.840 screen porch and I can be sitting at my kitchen 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.920 table and the birds can come visit. 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:12.840 Yeah. And do you have your little I feel like 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:15.160 you used to have this laminated sheet with it was 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:16.720 a book of like all these different birds. 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:18.400 My bird book is out on my screen. 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:20.080 Porch or is it bird bingo or something? 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:22.400 I would just play, Yeah, I would play bird Bingo. 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:26.600 I don't have that anymore. I mean, I suppose it's somewhere, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.280 but maybe with my new feeder, I need to bust 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:31.560 out a new round because I'm gonna have new visitors 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.280 to that feeder and I'll be like, hey, cardinal check, 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:36.000 chickad eat check. 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:38.960 What's the most day check? Rare bird that you had 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:40.760 coming to your bird feeder before. 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:44.040 I mean they weren't rare. I mean I would get 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:47.200 excited if I could like name them and you would see. 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.840 I love seeing a tufted titmouse. I knew you were 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.560 going to say that that's my favorite. You know, A 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.000 blue jay never came to my feeter till my dad died. 0:14:55.400 --> 0:15:00.560 No way way I had cardinals had morning, lots of 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.160 mourning doves. Does doves come in pairs? 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:05.240 It's cute? Oh that is cute. I was gonna say, 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:09.200 does a a hummingbird? Does that have a different bird food? Yes, 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:11.160 that's okay. You're looking at me like. 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:13.520 Well, it's not like I don't know what you call it, 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:17.480 like a nectar, so I don't. I tried to be 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:21.240 a hummingbird person, but I wasn't good at changing out 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:26.000 the liquid stuff. And they'll come to that, but they 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.120 don't come to my bird feeder. Do you know the 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:32.320 only bird that can fly backwards is yeah? Did you 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:32.760 know that? 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.040 I think maybe you've told me that fact before. 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:38.040 Fun fact. I'm very eager. I'm very, very very very 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:39.600 eager to set this up, like I feel like it's 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.440 just gonna change everything. 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:45.280 And should I get a bird feeder? Maybe would change 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:46.160 how I feel about my faith? 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:50.200 Yes, because you get to see the the wonders of 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:55.080 the world of clothes. Wait, you're at awe, you're not. 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:58.640 I don't think you get to know them, especially if 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:05.400 cards visit and they have certain features at times I 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:07.800 can't remember the exact way, like is it called molting? 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:12.040 It's the shedding of their feathers. But cardinals, to me, 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:14.680 I started to be able to tell them apart in 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:17.680 like their feather display and their shape. 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:19.840 So would the same cardinal come back to you? 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:23.880 Yes, yes, and I'd be like, oh, there he is, 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:26.560 and I would like give them little nicknames. And then 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:28.680 of course the male cardinals are red and the female 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:29.560 cardinals are brown. 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:31.320 But that's crazy. I didn't know. 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:32.800 But my mom doesn't identify. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:35.080 She's gender fluid. 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:36.640 Yeah, fluid. 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.360 Okay, So I don't think i'd be a very good 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:44.480 bird birding birder, what do you call them? Bird burden. 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:49.160 So in our neighborhood there's two little pond lake things 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.640 like fishing lakes in the front when you come in 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:56.840 this certain entry, and there's two swans in each lake. 0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:00.680 And it was getting to be cold, and and Patrick 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:03.400 one day we're like, when do you think those swans 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:07.520 are gonna like fly home or fly south or do 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:09.800 whatever they do in the winter because cold, and they're 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.720 still in the water. And we had lived there for 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:18.800 maybe four months. Those swans were fake? Which have you 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.200 seen them? You might not have noticed them, because I 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.359 would love to know if you thought that, if you 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:25.640 thought they were real. And there's two in each one, 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:27.719 and we always like, it's so cute. They're always together, 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.960 and there wasn't that same text they must love it there. 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:35.000 That's funny. 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:35.480 You know. 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:37.680 At my last house I had a pool and the 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:38.880 ducks would come. 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:41.240 I remember that that was crazy. 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.320 It was crazy and they were just swim in my pool. 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.280 But wouldn't it didn't bother you, right, I know it 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:47.879 didn't bother me. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:49.080 I thought it was fantastic. 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.439 But what if you wanted to enjoy the pool, but 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.159 then the ducks were in the pond? The pool, it's theirs. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.960 Their polls. Now they do they like poop in it 0:17:58.000 --> 0:17:59.720 though that would be the annoying part. They don't poop 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:00.959 in it. They would poop around. 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:01.520 Yeah, I mean I. 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:03.160 Don't think they were pooping in it. If they did. 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:05.840 I couldn't tell, but they would. You know, around my 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:10.080 pool there would be more droppings than I care to 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.800 deal with. But it's not like they were there all 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:15.040 the times. When they would come, I'd be like, welcome. 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:16.840 That was crazy, it was. 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:20.359 I really enjoyed that. That was that was great. I 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:23.639 had a birfect time Peter and a pond that they 0:18:23.640 --> 0:18:28.080 would come to. So I just loved my visitors. Now, wait, 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:29.280 we'll see what happens. 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:32.920 What is the Disney character as it? That's like in 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:35.920