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Speaker 2: I asked my brother's friend if he was really the father.

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Speaker 3: He did not take it.

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Speaker 4: Well because he is or he isn't.

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Speaker 2: So I Mackenzie thirty two female, went to pick up

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Speaker 2: my brother Liam twenty nine mail and his Buddi's Ethan

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Speaker 2: twenty six mail and Jordan thirty one male from their

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Speaker 2: game night, something I regularly do since Liam often volunteers

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Speaker 2: to be my DD if I go out to the bars.

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Speaker 2: But as they're getting in the car, Jordan starts talking

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Speaker 2: about how he can't go to the Friday game because

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Speaker 2: he has to babysits so his wife can go to

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Speaker 2: a movie or something.

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Speaker 3: Really sarcastically.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from slide Adventurous twenty six

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Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay Storytime Separate it. I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 2: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice goofy,

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Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers be only know

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Speaker 2: what we'd do, so let us know you would do

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Speaker 2: in the comments, and Op says, well, I looked over

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Speaker 2: at Liam, who is shotgun and has a eye twitch

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Speaker 2: going on, so I know he's probably been witching about

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Speaker 2: this most of the night, but I let it go,

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Speaker 2: figuring Jordan is venting and maybe being a wiener, but whatever.

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Speaker 2: He's got a five month old at home and I

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Speaker 2: know it can be frustrating and sometimes you need to

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Speaker 2: talk it out with your buddies.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're not babysitting though, Yeah, that's that's just your child.

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Speaker 2: Well, it keeps up. I swear it was just non

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Speaker 2: stop him talking. Ten minutes into this drive, Jordan has

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Speaker 2: mentioned babysitting probably fifteen to twenty times. So as we

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Speaker 2: pull up to a red light, I calmly look back

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Speaker 2: at him and go, I didn't know that you weren't

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Speaker 2: the father of Chloe's baby. Jordan starts freaking out, asking

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Speaker 2: what the F I mean?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 3: Could I effing shay that?

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Speaker 2: And well, I guess I was a spark and a

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Speaker 2: keg because Liam snaps, well, an e fing father doesn't

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Speaker 2: babysit their effing kid. You're their parents. So you e

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Speaker 2: fing parent them, y effing idiot, and your wife is

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Speaker 2: allowed a night out if you're spending four hours out

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Speaker 2: with us play an fing forty k you worthless, jock.

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Speaker 4: But okay, okay, he's gonna say, tell you these men

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Speaker 2: Liam, all right, I like to hear it nice, very nice.

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Speaker 5: I love mulding your friend's accounterpack.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he said, you're a parent, love it at all?

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Speaker 4: No, not a single bit. And if he's gonna get

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Speaker 3: That's just proving him. Yeah, because he's insecure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, Liam is a big guy, but a gentle giant,

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Speaker 2: so I don't think Jordan or Ethan were expecting that. Well,

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Speaker 2: the whole car went silent, them out of shock and

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Speaker 2: Liam fuming, but I was silently laughing since he said

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Speaker 2: exactly what I meant, and I'm used to my brother's

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Speaker 2: more wild temper having lived with him. We dropped Jordan

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Speaker 2: with his tail tucked between his legs, and Ethan was like,

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Speaker 2: that wasn't cool. But I couldn't figure out if he

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Speaker 2: was talking about what I said or if it was

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Speaker 2: my brother's blow up. I should have dated either way.

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Speaker 2: What you guys said was totally balanced.

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Speaker 5: He should be talking about Jordan, Yeah, talking about how

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Speaker 4: That's what he should be calling lame.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely well.

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Speaker 2: Apparently Chloe called Ethan earlier this morning because Jordan was

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Speaker 2: sulking around the apartment all night after getting home and

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Speaker 2: is currently being paudy as heck and keeps calming about

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Speaker 2: how he's a good father and partner. So Ethan calls

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Speaker 2: me to say we were way too hard on him

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Speaker 2: and now it's stressful being a new dad. This may

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Speaker 2: be more of a are we a holes? Because it

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Speaker 2: don't really think we're a holes because he was sounding

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Speaker 2: men say their babysitting their own kids is a huge

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Speaker 2: pet peeve that both my brother and I learn from

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Speaker 2: our dad. But maybe I'm wrong and we should apologize

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Speaker 2: and there.

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Speaker 3: Is an update. But what do you think, don't you

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Speaker 3: dare now? No?

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Speaker 2: No, he needs to learn. He needs to learn, and

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Speaker 2: he needs to have his friends call him out for it.

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Speaker 5: They said he was going on for like twenty minutes

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Speaker 3: No, I'm sick of hearing it.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to hear about how Oh I'm so

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Speaker 2: upset that I have to watch my own kids.

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Speaker 4: My wife wants to go out to a movie. You're

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you are literally coming back from a bro hangout.

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Speaker 3: Guys.

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Speaker 5: What she's doing right now watching her child?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're welcome.

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Speaker 3: Is she babysitting too?

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Speaker 4: Are you both babysitting?

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Speaker 3: Who's the parent? Who is update?

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Speaker 5: So?

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Speaker 2: This morning, while getting ready for work, I asked Liam, Yes,

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Speaker 2: he's my roommate because of today's economy, and if I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna get a roommate, it might as well be someone

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Speaker 2: I can hit with a pillow when they steal my

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Speaker 2: leftovers about everything and found out and found out one.

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Speaker 2: When I started making my comment, he jumped in because,

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Speaker 2: as he said, Oh, I'm an a hole, but you're

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Speaker 2: a cruel, savage witch without even trying, which is true.

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Speaker 2: I have an unfortunate habit of making people cry without

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Speaker 2: occurs with particularly stupid and ignorant people, so I'm not

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Speaker 2: doing it for craps and giggles, budd he lost his

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Speaker 2: two This isn't a new thing. Jordan took three months

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Speaker 2: guys were more than happy to postpone their crap for

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Speaker 2: soon as they started back up, Jordan started making little

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Speaker 2: it became non stop witching about things he had to

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Speaker 5: So he's saying worset off, oh dang hi Yeah yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: He deserved it.

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Speaker 2: And I'm you know, I would be reconsidering the friendship

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I wonder if Ethan's been around it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know either way.

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Speaker 4: Ethan needs to get it.

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Speaker 5: His priority straight is who he's defending.

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Speaker 2: Liam has actually been calling Chloe regularly in the last

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Speaker 2: part of their friend group. Also, they all, yeah, that's terrible.

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Speaker 2: You're all friends, and he said.

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Speaker 5: This to bad about her, and it's that bad that

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Speaker 2: They all met at university and Chloe was actually Liam's

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Speaker 2: also told me the phone call from Chloe, he was

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Speaker 2: because when Jordan got home, he started changing diapers and

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Speaker 3: Crazy.

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Speaker 5: It's scared of it cleaning the kitchen.

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Speaker 2: But also like so sad that she is shocked by.

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Speaker 3: Him changing diaper.

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Speaker 2: We both think Ethan thought I was a softer touch

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Speaker 2: out like that when Nah, I may appear nice, but

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Speaker 2: I'm the one that chooses violence while my brother is

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Speaker 4: You did the right thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no notes, excellent work. Hopefully Jordan and learns his lesson.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and don't back down if they try to come

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Speaker 5: for you and be like no, Like, yeah, you stink

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Speaker 5: for this. You're mean to Chloe, who's all of our

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Speaker 5: You're being mean to a baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you got beef with a baby. Did embarrassing?

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Speaker 2: So Yeah, apparently Jordan is a bigger a hole than

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Speaker 2: than Chloe. Oh and also Liam plays Space Wolves and

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Speaker 2: Ethan plays Space Orcs and I've heard so many bad

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Speaker 3: And there you go.

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of that.

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Speaker 5: Story, Dang, exactly where I thought it was going. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: and I'm glad that you guys called him out.

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad you did that because he needs to

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Speaker 2: learn a lesson. But that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 5: My roommate asked me to ban my girlfriend and wouldn't

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Speaker 5: say why why would I do that? I thirty female,

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Speaker 5: in when we've reached two years if things are going well.

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Speaker 5: She's an amazing person and.

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Speaker 3: I love her so very much.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes around the throw bean away

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Speaker 5: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 3: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, and.

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Speaker 5: We're here to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't

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Speaker 5: have all the answers. We only know what we would do.

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Speaker 5: Let us know what you do in the comments. Oh

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Speaker 5: Pi says the issue is that one of my friends

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Speaker 5: thirty two female, gender diverse and saffok, wants to buy

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Speaker 5: her own house and asked if she could use my

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Speaker 5: pay rent. I've known my friends since college and so

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Speaker 5: I was happy to help. She's been with me for

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Speaker 5: about six months and recently came to me to say

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Speaker 5: I asked if she had done something wrong or had

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Speaker 5: So it's been a long day. Hello he I've been

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Speaker 3: You're a good friend. Yeah, you're an understanding friend. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: You should still move out, friend, or at least have

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Speaker 5: Honestly, If anything, I don't think i'd be as understanding

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Speaker 4: You're sorry, punt me from your life.

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Speaker 5: We'll see how things look in a month or two.

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Speaker 5: Hopefully it'll be okay. Since I have PMI on my

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Speaker 2: I asked what was wrong, and this is when she

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Speaker 2: I should have considered.

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Speaker 5: No, the only thing it affects is that you might

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if you have even gotten it already. Right.

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Speaker 2: So, I don't think I'm the a hole for losing

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Speaker 5: That's ridiculous, that's crazy.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. Is this nineteen eighty four?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry, Sophia. Can I lose a pound.

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Speaker 2: No, by the power of vested to me, you cannot

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Speaker 3: What are you talking about? That's insane?

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Speaker 2: And if you're insecure about that, that's your own thing

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Speaker 2: but if you want to do that, that's your own

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Speaker 5: Right. You're also allowed to lose weight if you want to.

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Speaker 2: Apparently this was the wrong thing to say. She started

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Speaker 2: She's very pretty and I'm pretty average looking. Here's where

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Speaker 2: Should not pause full episodes of stories just like this.

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Speaker 3: I would not go to that wedding. Yeahna, be honest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would not go to the wedding where your

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Speaker 3: He's in love with you.

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Speaker 5: Your best friend's ex boyfriend is in love with you,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would not be going to her wedding. I

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Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

445
00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:13,920
Speaker 5: to the next one. I said no to one snack

446
00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:17,560
Speaker 5: and it unraveled something much bigger in our friend group

447
00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:21,959
Speaker 5: food fight. After light holiday shopping, two friends and I

448
00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:25,480
Speaker 5: ended the day at my place. Abigail, I'm much closer

449
00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:29,320
Speaker 5: with Betty. I met through Abigail and in friendly acquaintances with,

450
00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:33,000
Speaker 5: but have interacted with many times, just never solo. By

451
00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,040
Speaker 5: the way, this comes from deleted and.

452
00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:36,480
Speaker 4: If you want to send me your own stories, go

453
00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,440
Speaker 4: to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

454
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Speaker 3: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, and.

455
00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:42,600
Speaker 4: We're here to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't

456
00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:44,959
Speaker 4: have all the answers. We only know what we would do.

457
00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:46,840
Speaker 5: Let us know what you would do in the comments,

458
00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:51,439
Speaker 5: and nop says the issue comes when Betty sees the

459
00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 5: chips in my kitchen. They're squid chips and foreign, but

460
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:58,160
Speaker 5: they're lays. You don't find them in a normal grocery store.

461
00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:01,720
Speaker 5: When my mom goes to the Chinese slash Asian supermarket,

462
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:05,159
Speaker 5: she may get specialty chips, but not regularly since she

463
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:06,159
Speaker 5: wants me to be healthy.

464
00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:07,360
Speaker 4: This one is Chinese.

465
00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:09,640
Speaker 5: We don't normally go to k or h Mar.

466
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,680
Speaker 4: I don't know why my mom.

467
00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:15,600
Speaker 5: Dropped one bag off of the chips with some other goodies.

468
00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:19,320
Speaker 5: I would have been happy to share, just not the chips.

469
00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:22,719
Speaker 5: I offered my Pokey or some of the real dried squid.

470
00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 5: I had a variety, Betty says gross to the dried

471
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:28,960
Speaker 5: squid and asked to have the chips again. I offered

472
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:31,919
Speaker 5: my spicy and garlic shrimp chips. Didn't want to but

473
00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:35,399
Speaker 5: never said that. She doesn't like hot slash spicy food

474
00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 5: and shrimp sounds gross. It was a single serving bag.

475
00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:42,040
Speaker 4: I felt baddish, but not enough to say yes.

476
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:45,840
Speaker 5: Her arguments were a good host feeds guests, and she's

477
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 5: super into squid games, so we could just open the

478
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 5: bag and share while we're watching. When she found I

479
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 5: haven't watched and had no intention of watching earlier that day,

480
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:59,560
Speaker 5: she kept trying to persuade me too. I'm just not

481
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,919
Speaker 5: that in to horror. Interesting concept and I love it,

482
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:05,639
Speaker 5: but I won't watch it. Abigail told me all about

483
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:08,280
Speaker 5: her take too when it came out. I offered my

484
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:12,080
Speaker 5: other chips original Lays, Lays, Barbecue, et cetera, and some

485
00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 5: Cheetos too, but had to say no to the Netflix.

486
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,000
Speaker 5: She said she wanted the squid chips and she sees

487
00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 5: them with the other chips.

488
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 3: This is so weird.

489
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 2: It's like someone your friend comes over and they're like

490
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:25,920
Speaker 2: I want that, and they're like, oh sorry, Like nah,

491
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:27,160
Speaker 2: I want to snacks.

492
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,159
Speaker 3: That's not what I'm offering. And they're like, no, I

493
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,360
Speaker 3: want them, I want them, Give them to me, right,

494
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 3: You're stop throwing a tantrum. She said no.

495
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,639
Speaker 5: She said that it was poor manners to have food

496
00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 5: out if I wasn't willing to share, if I had

497
00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 5: guests over, and it looked like I was a slob

498
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 5: for having a cluttered kitchen. That never occurred to me.

499
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,399
Speaker 5: At home, we always had stuff on the counters. My

500
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 5: friend's houses were like this too when I grew up.

501
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:55,640
Speaker 5: I was stumped. She said she was ready to leave

502
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 5: and over me. My friend called me later that night

503
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 5: and explained she had taken bet to h Mart and

504
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:04,360
Speaker 5: they couldn't find them. She said she understood how attached

505
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 5: I was to the chips, but next time, let Betty

506
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 5: have them and we'll go have fun food shopping Afterwards. Monday,

507
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,959
Speaker 5: we went to the Chinese supermarket and got three bags

508
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 5: of the squid chips, so my friend dropped them off

509
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,640
Speaker 5: with Betty yesterday. Betty didn't want them anymore and sent

510
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 5: me a text saying she didn't appreciate my behavior then

511
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 5: or now.

512
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:27,920
Speaker 2: Oh lord, I'm not friends with this girl.

513
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 4: You're too much drama.

514
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,919
Speaker 5: In private, she told my friend she doesn't want to

515
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 5: be around me for a while. Now, both my friend

516
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 5: and I are stumped.

517
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:36,120
Speaker 3: Now we can.

518
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 4: See how I was an a hole then, but now.

519
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 5: We're both confused, and that throws a wrench in my

520
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 5: friend's Black Friday friends giving plans for our friend group.

521
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 5: In the group invite this morning, Betty said she wasn't

522
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 5: coming if I was there.

523
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 4: So now I.

524
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 5: Feel more guilty and people are asking what's going on

525
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 5: and what did I do?

526
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 4: And we have an update?

527
00:22:54,840 --> 00:23:01,400
Speaker 2: Lordy, lordie, I Oh my goodness, Yeah, a bit insane.

528
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, come on.

529
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:04,719
Speaker 4: I showed Abigail the post.

530
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:08,679
Speaker 5: Abigail apologized for making me feel so anxious and that bad.

531
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 5: She didn't mean to make me feel like an a hole.

532
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 5: She really was just saying that she could understand why

533
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 5: Betty was very upset. Betty is very obsessed with squid

534
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 5: games too. Abigail's boyfriend privately gave everyone the FYI, so

535
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 5: that explains why Catherine's partner decided to surprise me with

536
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 5: five bags of squid chips and their display fruit bowl

537
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 5: with bows. The party was at their new house, not

538
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 5: Abigail's smallish apartment. That was basically the consensus of the

539
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 5: friend group. I didn't do much wrong. Some acknowledged behavior

540
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 5: could be seen as rude and could see Betty's POV,

541
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,399
Speaker 5: but not enough to say I'm an a hole no

542
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 5: one wanted to be friends with, but not enough to

543
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 5: say I'm an a hole that no one wanted to.

544
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 3: Be friends with.

545
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 5: It was like cutting someone off in traffic or blocking

546
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 5: their way. Well, Betty surprised us with her boyfriend, not

547
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,479
Speaker 5: a huge shock. Abigail and Betty's boyfriend had gotten close.

548
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 5: Unfortunately they came earlier in the day and before anyone

549
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 5: could hide the chips. Betty's boyfriend laughed because he had

550
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,479
Speaker 5: brought bags of chips. Everyone knows about MY affinity for chips,

551
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 5: so he had been certain to get a bag of

552
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 5: my one. So he had been certain to get a

553
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 5: bag of one of my favorites. Betty was not as amused,

554
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 5: and she probably said something when I wasn't around. Most

555
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 5: likely they went out Black Friday shopping. I stayed back

556
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 5: to prep for dinner and clean. Betty and I were

557
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 5: never close. Most of us are friends because of Abigail.

558
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,440
Speaker 5: I click with them better than I clicked with Betty.

559
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,919
Speaker 5: Things were great when Betty wasn't around, but when she

560
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 5: got back from shopping, she became more aggressive than passive.

561
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 5: Aggressive like Abigail's boyfriend had my list of things I

562
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 5: wanted if he saw them, and she wasn't impressed that

563
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 5: I was using Abigail's boyfriend like my boyfriend, though it

564
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 5: was an arrangement a lot of us have because this

565
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 5: friend's giving is a tradition. She threw digs at my

566
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 5: movie choice to play in the background were too long

567
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:04,439
Speaker 5: to be sanitary, to cook fair. On some levels, I

568
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,679
Speaker 5: guess things were just tense throughout the night. I found

569
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 5: after that she had called me a stuck up Asian

570
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 5: and fake in private.

571
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 3: If she's not Asian, then she's raised.

572
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 2: If I had like a friend that was white and

573
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 2: said that to me about another friend, I would not

574
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 2: be that person's friend anymore.

575
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 5: Also called me man stealing to Abigail and warned her

576
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 5: about Abigail's boyfriend being around me, which is why I'm

577
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 5: writing this update. I will admit being a bad Asian

578
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 5: and hospitality isn't my strongest suit. I'm territorial and I

579
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 5: don't like sharing. I feel like that's the American part

580
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 5: of Asian American in me, I can see how I

581
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 5: might come off as stuck up too. I think she

582
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 5: probably meant I was pedantic and too precious about things

583
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 5: most people aren't, so interactions will be kept to a minimum.

584
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 4: And through a group chat she's not part of.

585
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 5: I think the group decided to also distance themselves from her.

586
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 3: Good Yeah, she stinks.

587
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,640
Speaker 5: Abigail isn't happy and very torn about this issue, as

588
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 5: do some others who really bonded with Betty.

589
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 3: I don't care she's like talking bad about you for

590
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:13,879
Speaker 3: no reason.

591
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 5: I think Abigail is taking it the hardest, and I

592
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 5: don't think Betty is happy with the emotional distance She's

593
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 5: already created to get her thoughts together in private. Overall,

594
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 5: I feel very calm and happy with my horde of

595
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 5: squid chips and the new goodies Abigail's boyfriend was able

596
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 5: to grab for me.

597
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 3: Edit.

598
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 5: Most everyone has already seen this post who wants to

599
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 5: see it, but I thought i'd add this because I've

600
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:37,959
Speaker 5: been getting quite a few comments about how my friends

601
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 5: could see Betty's perspective and how they're torn. The only

602
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,919
Speaker 5: thing that really torn about is they thought they knew her,

603
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 5: but they didn't. Frankly, her behavior over the holiday was

604
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 5: probably shocking to everyone. It was very shocking to me.

605
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 5: Part of me kinda wants to give her the benefit

606
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 5: of the doubt and say she's going through some family

607
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 5: issues or stress, because that's normally what the holiday brings.

608
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 5: But they're not torn about a grit wring that her

609
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,680
Speaker 5: behavior was inappropriate and crossed a huge line, And they're

610
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 5: not torn about agreeing on the fact that her later

611
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 5: comments spoken in private to some of them, were unacceptable.

612
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 5: The thing that they could see from her perspective was

613
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 5: just that if I didn't want to share the chips,

614
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 5: then maybe I shouldn't have had them out. It might

615
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 5: be a cultural thing from where she was raised. And

616
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 5: I won't say I haven't heard of it before, but

617
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 5: it just never crossed my mind.

618
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 2: I just think Betty causes a lot of trauma. It

619
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: seems like everyone in the friend group's realizing that now, yeah,

620
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 2: it's you, your fault, though, seems.

621
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 5: Like they're all good with her going. I wish Kean

622
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 5: was here. He is a lover of those chips. He

623
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 5: would have opinions. He probably share his chips, though he

624
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 5: would always share his chips, and like, do I really

625
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,200
Speaker 5: think it was? It would have been a big deal

626
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 5: if you just wanted to share the chip, like if

627
00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:46,639
Speaker 5: you if she was like can I try those? And

628
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 5: you just opened them for her.

629
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 2: No, But like her reaction after you say now is

630
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: really weird, right.

631
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 5: The immediate reaction after you said no told me everything

632
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 5: I needed to know and told me exactly how right

633
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 5: you were to be, like no, yeah, it.

634
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 4: Was something special for you.

635
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 5: You shouldn't have to share things just because we're not

636
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:05,880
Speaker 5: your counter to me. It's like praying before a meal.

637
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 5: I'm not religious, but I know Christians and Catholics might

638
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 5: pray before dinner, for example. But when I sit down

639
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 5: to dinner, the first thing I do is think about

640
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 5: picking up my fork and digging into my hot food.

641
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 5: I don't think about praying over it. And I think

642
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 5: it's the same way for my chips. Even though I'm

643
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 5: having guests over, I don't think about hiding food in

644
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 5: my kitchen, even though food is something you often share

645
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 5: as a host and give it to your guests. Whereas

646
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 5: this is something I guess Betty was taught to think

647
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 5: about and do whenever people go over to her house

648
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 5: and so in that way they can understand that from

649
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 5: her perspective, what I did was really rude behavior because

650
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 5: that's how she was raised. But in their opinions, what

651
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 5: I did was not overly rude, just spacey, like accidentally

652
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:49,719
Speaker 5: blocking someone's path. That is the end of that story.

653
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 1: My brother moved his girlfriend in, but she's eating all

654
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: our food.

655
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 2: Ah, we only have like eggs and bread left.

656
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: My female twenty brother twenty four has been on and

657
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: off with his girlfriend twenty seven for a couple of

658
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: years now.

659
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 6: It's been the same song and dance.

660
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: They're happy for a few weeks, and then something small

661
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: happens and they argue and it gets really nasty, but

662
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: then they make up and they go back to being

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Speaker 1: a loving couple. By the way, this comes from music

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Speaker 1: reddit throw Away forty five and if you want to

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Speaker 1: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

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Speaker 1: storytime suburn it.

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Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and we're all here

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Speaker 4: to give good advice goofy and we're gonna read this story.

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Speaker 6: But we don't know all the things.

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Speaker 1: We only know the things we know, So tell us

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Speaker 1: what you know in the comments. And OHP says.

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Speaker 6: When I learned my.

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Speaker 1: Brother got booted out of his apartment and needed a

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Speaker 1: place to stay, I offered him the extra room in

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Speaker 1: my apartment, and my brother agreed to pay rent and

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00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 1: help with bills and pitch in with food. For three

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Speaker 1: months now, she's been announcing she's pregnant. She alone will

678
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: eat a snack box with fifty small bags of chips

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Speaker 1: in a week. I tried to reason with her and

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Speaker 1: get her to cut back, not only from over eating,

681
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Speaker 1: but she was running us low on food. But she

682
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Speaker 1: insists she and the baby are healthy and it's just cravings.

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Speaker 6: Blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: Since last month, most of what my parents send to

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Speaker 1: my house, my mom is a couponter, so she bulk

686
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: shops and gives away what she has too much of

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Speaker 1: My brother's girlfriend is the first one to get into it,

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00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: and a large portion of it is gone by a

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Speaker 1: few days into the week from a twenty four case

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Speaker 1: of Monster the energy drink.

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Speaker 6: If you're not familiar.

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Speaker 3: It's just a monster twenty four case of.

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Speaker 1: Monster twenty four monsters. Eight will be gone in a

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Speaker 1: week from just her. Do not be drinking Monster with monsters.

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Speaker 3: Supposed to have any caffeine.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, now she's like, I'm going for it.

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Speaker 1: That's gonna make your baby a dorito more than the

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Speaker 1: doritos would for sure.

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Speaker 6: Hmmm.

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Speaker 3: I mean, oh no, dang it.

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Speaker 1: She eats a lot of food too, most of which

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00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: no pregnant woman should be consuming so much of. And yes,

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Speaker 1: I know all pregnancies are different, but words can't explain

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Speaker 1: how much she eats in one's sitting. So today I

705
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: had seen her drinking coffee, and after her second cup,

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Speaker 1: I asked her if she should be drinking so much

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Speaker 1: of it, and she said her doctor told her it

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Speaker 1: was fine and she had no worries. When I suggested

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Speaker 1: she take on a healthier diet for the baby, she

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Speaker 1: just scoffed and walked out. I went and asked my

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Speaker 1: brother if he's been to any of her doctor's appointments

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Speaker 1: or even seen a positive pregnancy test, and he said

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Speaker 1: he didn't.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, she's not even pregnant.

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Speaker 4: She just says she is, so she can eat all

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Speaker 4: these things. Yeah, you only have nine months.

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Speaker 1: So I confronted her about it, and she said she

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Speaker 1: didn't have to prove anything and started to get defensive.

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Speaker 3: You kind of do have to prove.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I mean the proof would theoretically be here

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Speaker 1: in you know, six months anyway, if you've been pregnant

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Speaker 1: for three So that's true.

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Speaker 4: The proof is in the pudding that you're eating. Stop

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Speaker 4: eating or pudding.

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Speaker 1: So I told her she needed to show a test

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Speaker 1: or some proof of going to the doctor, or she

727
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: needs to move out, as she doesn't help at all.

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Speaker 1: My brother started defending her and changed his answer from

729
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: not seeing any proof to having seen her pregnancy test.

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Speaker 1: My parents got word of what I said, and my

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00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: mom says I was in no place to say anything.

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Speaker 1: And every woman's body is different, and I wouldn't know

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Speaker 1: since I've never been pregnant.

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Speaker 6: Am I the a hole? She won't? No one? Where's

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Speaker 6: the positive pregnancy test?

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 6: Where is it? He's lying? What's going on? He's lying?

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Speaker 4: I want to see an A plus on that pregnancy.

739
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: See a plus for having this baby hypothetically or a man.

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Speaker 1: Now you find out your partner is lying about being pregnant,

741
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Speaker 1: do you stay with them?

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Speaker 3: Uh? No, I'd have to get the hit.

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Speaker 1: Edit. I did talk to her a while ago about

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Speaker 1: getting a job as well as helping out financially and

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Speaker 1: she said she'd start and never has right. So, based

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Speaker 1: on a majority of the comments, I overstepped. Yes, But

747
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Speaker 1: I'm going to go with my gut on this one

748
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Speaker 1: and give them their thirty days notice and call it

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Speaker 1: a day. I keep repeating myself. Let me add, my

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00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: brother knows everything that I've said. The excessive caffeine consumption,

751
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: no ultrasounds, et cetera. Yes, my brother still buys her

752
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: tampons monthly, and I know this because he goes with

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Speaker 1: me when I buy mine. No, I was not faking

754
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 1: concerned by the coffee comment. So yeah, she's drinking two

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Speaker 1: cups of coffee a day along with a monster. That's

756
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Speaker 1: a ton of caffeine. And there is an update. I

757
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: think you've done everything right. You don't have to like

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Speaker 1: be it's It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 6: They're gonna be weird about it.

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Speaker 1: If your brother's in a weird relationship and his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: has a f bregnancy and he's somehow like agreeing with it, whatever,

762
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 1: you give them thirty days and you say, have fun,

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Speaker 1: find another place to live.

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Speaker 6: Bye.

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Speaker 1: So I gave my brother and his girlfriend the thirty

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00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 1: days notice, and they were supposed to leave this Friday,

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00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: but as of last Friday, I have my place to

768
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Speaker 1: myself again. Basically, they fed me a bunch of lies

769
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 1: since I gave them the first thirty days notice. First

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00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: it was she can't get an appointment or an ultrasound

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Speaker 1: because of all of the VID patients. Then brother's girlfriend

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00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: shows me a sonogram picture from her phone that I

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00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 1: later found on Google Images.

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00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 6: I asked why it was on her phone.

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00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 1: She said it was emailed to her after her doctor's

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Speaker 1: appointment that she couldn't get.

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Speaker 6: Apparently. Then my brother brought home.

778
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: Baby clothes last week to sell the lie I guess,

779
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: but they weren't closes for a newborn. It was a

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Speaker 1: lot of nine to twelve months old and two year

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Speaker 1: old toddlers.

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Speaker 3: Could be naked until she's a year old.

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Speaker 6: No, she's gonna grow into him.

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00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 4: She's gonna grow into it, Guys, she's gonna grow into it.

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Speaker 3: She's just gonna come out like that.

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00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 1: When I asked him why none were proper clothes for newborns,

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Speaker 1: he said, so.

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00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 6: He can grow into them.

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Speaker 1: I didn't bother to ask any more questions because I

790
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 1: knew it was going to be just lies on top

791
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 1: of lies. Then Friday I got home to them arguing

792
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: and at each other's throats. Eventually I called the cops

793
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: because they weren't letting up. At this point, they both

794
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:27,840
Speaker 1: had come clean with the truth. Brother's truth is his

795
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: girlfriend is the reason he was booted out of his place,

796
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: and then she needed a place to stay because her

797
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,879
Speaker 1: parents booted her out, so she forced him to let

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00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: her stay in my house by faking being pregnant, he said.

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Speaker 1: After the first month, he knew she wasn't pregnant because

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Speaker 1: she got her period, but she forced him to keep

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00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: up the lie, so I would let her stay.

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Speaker 6: I hope they break up.

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00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:48,919
Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I feel like she could have just went with the

805
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 4: lie and said, look what you did, and my baby's

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00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:55,760
Speaker 4: gone you.

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00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, she's just gonna be like me.

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00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 1: You streussed me out so much, which by telling me

809
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 1: I shouldn't drink eight monsters a week, which you shouldn't

810
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 1: do no matter how pregnant or not pregnant you are.

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Speaker 4: Now give me that rotisserie chicken.

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00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 3: That's what I would do.

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00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 1: Uh, Okay, But there's a little more here. We've got

814
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:21,280
Speaker 1: the girlfriend's truth. Brother invited her to stay at my place,

815
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,240
Speaker 1: and to make sure I wouldn't say no, He told

816
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:26,759
Speaker 1: her to fake a pregnancy, and I would be sympathetic.

817
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 1: I won't go into detail, but I'm one hundred percent

818
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 1: certain that part she said was true, and I wouldn't

819
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 1: question her using tampons, as he'll make up a lie

820
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: for her. She said he told her to eat up

821
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 1: all the food because it'll make it all seem legit.

822
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 1: So that's about all. I'm still unsure who's telling the truth.

823
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: But they both got all their belongings and went their

824
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: own way, I assume, So it's not my problem anymore, and.

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00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 6: It's not our problem anymore either, because it's the end

826
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:55,720
Speaker 6: of that story.

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Speaker 4: Woo, get that fake pregnant witch out of here, and.

828
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 5: That's the end of this story. We're gonna go to

829
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 5: the next one.

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Speaker 6: Hey, it's Keon, your favorite Filipino.

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Speaker 1: Here.

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Speaker 4: My cousin refused to pay what he owed, so I

835
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,320
Speaker 4: let the courts decide.

836
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 6: Let the law have him, and be done with it.

837
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,720
Speaker 4: My family is all on my cousin's side for this issue,

838
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 4: and I wanted some outside judgment. My cousin twenty five

839
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 4: mail has always been the golden child of our generation.

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00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 4: He's funny, good looking, and outgoing, not to mention a

841
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 4: boy amongst girls. He's always loved to mess around and

842
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 4: play pranks. For the record, I really dislike this cousin.

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00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 3: I think he's.

844
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,359
Speaker 4: Irresponsible, chowdish and annoying. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 4: am I the a hole hearing aids And oh are

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Speaker 4: they okay?

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Speaker 6: I have a sneaking suspicion.

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Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your stories, go to

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Speaker 4: the our slash Okay story time, Supbredda, I'm.

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Speaker 6: Savannah, I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 4: And we are here to give some good advice in

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00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 4: a very funny manner. And you're gonna listen and maybe judge,

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00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 4: and then you're gonna give your your opinion in the comments,

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00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 4: and then we're gonna laugh and judge that as well.

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Speaker 4: Let's do it all at the same time. Ready on

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Speaker 4: three one two three A ope, He says, I have

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Speaker 4: had hearing problems four years. I recently got a six

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Speaker 4: thousand dollars pair of hearing aids. Recently, at my grandmother's

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00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 4: birthday party, we were all eating and drinking on the

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Speaker 4: back porch. My grandmother has a pool. My cousin decided

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Speaker 4: he was going to throw me in the pool because

862
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 4: it would be funny to ruin my hair that I

863
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 4: just got done that day. I repeatedly told him to

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Speaker 4: stop and put me down in a very serious and

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Speaker 4: not playful at all tone. He threw me in the

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Speaker 4: pool and my hearing aids were ruined. Afterwards, when I

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00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 4: told him what happened, he basically said, ooops, didn't know

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Speaker 4: you had hearing aids now. When I told him the

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00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 4: cost of them and that he would have to replace them,

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00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 4: he freaked out and said, no way. My family didn't

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00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 4: want me to make him pay for them because I

872
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 4: significantly out earn him and also everyone else in the family.

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Speaker 4: He was in college at the time, barely making ends

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00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 4: meet in a call center job. His girlfriend and him

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Speaker 4: have a baby, and they live in a one bedroom apartment.

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Speaker 4: He refused to pay, so I took him to court.

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Speaker 3: I won.

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Speaker 4: He refused to make the payments after, so I took

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Speaker 4: him back to court, and his wages are now being

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Speaker 4: garnished for the maximum amount, which is twenty percent of

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Speaker 4: his total wages. It pushed him over the edge of

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Speaker 4: what he could afford, so he's had to work extra

883
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 4: and drop out of college to be able to pay

884
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 4: their rent. Yeah, that's kinda crappy of you, Opie, but

885
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 4: I understand.

886
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: Nah, I'm with you, op That guy's circumstances are not

887
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: your fault or your responsibility. If he was, you know,

888
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: if he wanted to avoid this, he would have went,

889
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: oh my god, well that's my bad. Oh that's terrible.

890
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,280
Speaker 1: Six thousand dollars. I can't pay that all back.

891
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 6: To you right now? How do we do this?

892
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: And then you figure out a payment plan that doesn't

893
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 1: involve twenty percent of your wages every month, and maybe

894
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:06,439
Speaker 1: that makes it a little easier for you. But because

895
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 1: you didn't do that, now you are legally mandated to

896
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 1: do so and you have no choice.

897
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:14,879
Speaker 6: So kind of did that to yourself there.

898
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 4: My family is absolutely fuw mean at me. I think

899
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 4: he made one bad choice after the other, and he

900
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 4: has never given a sincere apology during this whole ordeal.

901
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 4: Had he gave a real apology after the incident and

902
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 4: asked if he could wait till he finished school to

903
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 4: pay me back, I would have been fine with it.

904
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 4: But the entitled little prick is digging his feet in

905
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,320
Speaker 4: at every move. Am I the a hole? The only

906
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 4: reason I could see me maybe being the a hole

907
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 4: is because it's affecting his child and girlfriend.

908
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:48,760
Speaker 1: I mean, true, but it's his fault that they're being affected.

909
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 6: He couldn't just suck it.

910
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: Up and not be childish for like one minute and

911
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, I do need to make this right,

912
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: because yeah, I threw you in the pool. Although you know,

913
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: if you are getting thrown in the pool, you should

914
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 1: have been like, stop, don't I have six thousand dollars

915
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: hearing aids on stop stop stop, six thousand dollars, six

916
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 1: thousand dollars.

917
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,839
Speaker 6: So but anyway, it's still not your fault. And that's

918
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,320
Speaker 6: the end of this story. Let's head to the next one.

919
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 1: My ex is partner demanded to name my child, but

920
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: I won't allow it.

921
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 4: M M, you're an X. You don't get no same.

922
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 4: My baby's nine.

923
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: My ex wife female twenty eight and I male twenty

924
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 1: eight split up a few months ago due to her

925
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 1: coming out as a lover of women. The split was

926
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: quite amicable and we have remained quite good friends. This

927
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: is a ross from friends scenario. By the way, this

928
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:41,919
Speaker 1: comes from us A throwaway one zero eight seven, six,

929
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: five four three, and if you want to submit your

930
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash Okay Storytime subred ed.

931
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and we're here.

932
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: To give a good advice. Goofly, but we don't have

933
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: all the answers. We only know what we know and

934
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: what we do. So let us know what you know and.

935
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 6: To do and would do?

936
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: Tell us your name, location and occupation in the comments,

937
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: as Opie says, while she did cheat on me during

938
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 1: the relationship, I understand that it.

939
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 6: Was due to a positive proclivity.

940
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 1: She came from a very conservative Christian household who have

941
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 1: cut her off now that she has come out. Marrying

942
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: me was a way of placating her family. I suppose

943
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:23,800
Speaker 1: you were the beard. What is that on the other side,

944
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:26,280
Speaker 1: you were her venus.

945
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 2: Venus MVA still kind of works as a beard, honestly.

946
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: Because it's like even like lingerie, like they still wear

947
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 1: that right for each other.

948
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:41,720
Speaker 6: Correct.

949
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 1: Moving on the issue now arising is the fact that

950
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,360
Speaker 1: she's pregnant with our child.

951
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 6: This is literally ross. This is literally ross. From friends.

952
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 1: During our marriage, we agreed that if we had a son,

953
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: we would name him after both our grandfathers, as they

954
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: both were very important people in our lives.

955
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 6: Samuel J make a last name.

956
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,280
Speaker 1: An issue has been raised by her new partner, female

957
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:07,360
Speaker 1: twenty seven over this name. Now, I will fully admit

958
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 1: that her new partner and I have never really gotten along.

959
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: She was a friend of a friend before she got

960
00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 1: together with my ex, and we just never saw eye

961
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:17,240
Speaker 1: to eye, but we both have tried to be cordial

962
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:20,399
Speaker 1: for the sake of my ex. While we recently were

963
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 1: discussing the name of our child, the partner outright refused

964
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,240
Speaker 1: to accept that we were going to name the child Samuel.

965
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: She had an ex named Samantha who was awful towards

966
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:31,799
Speaker 1: her and said that she could not stand to have

967
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: her child share the name with her ex. Now, I

968
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 1: fully understand that this woman will inevitably be a part

969
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 1: of my son's life, but I explained to her the

970
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: meaning behind why we were naming him Samuel and how

971
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: important it was to me. My ex also backed me up,

972
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 1: saying how this was decided long before she was in

973
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: the picture, and while she was sorry that the name

974
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 1: offended her, she would leave the decision to meet her

975
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 1: partner proceeded to get very angry again, insisting that her

976
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 1: child would not have that name. This sent me over

977
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 1: the edge. I asked her if I got her pregnant.

978
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 1: She said, of course not. I asked if she somehow

979
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 1: magically got my ex pregnant.

980
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 6: Again, she says no. I then told her that since

981
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 6: she was not.

982
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: The parent of this child, and that my ex and

983
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 1: I will give our child the name we want regardless

984
00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 1: of her opinion. The partner proceeded to go ballistic on me.

985
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,720
Speaker 6: Calling me a hater of those who.

986
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: Have been in the closet for not giving her any

987
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 1: input and forcing her into this situation, and stormed out

988
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: of the room.

989
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 6: My ex was also not.

990
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 1: Happy with me, but still agreed that I will have

991
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 1: the final say in the naming of our child. This

992
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:42,480
Speaker 1: was a few days ago, and I haven't spoken to

993
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: either of them since. I have asked around a few

994
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: of my friends and have gotten a mixed response when

995
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: I asked if I was wrong going to add the

996
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:52,840
Speaker 1: comment I made to the post, as some people may

997
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 1: not have seen it. I just want to thank everyone

998
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:57,840
Speaker 1: sincerely for their input on my situation. Your kind words

999
00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: mean a lot to me right now. I've noticed a

1000
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 1: few questions about the situation that I'll answer now. Good

1001
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 1: because I have some I hope you answer some. Yes,

1002
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: my ex's partner was the one my ex cheated on

1003
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,240
Speaker 1: me with. As I said in the post, the partner

1004
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 1: was a friend of a friend at first, but my

1005
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: ex and I share a lot of the same friends.

1006
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 1: We met in university and hung out with the same people.

1007
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: My ex started getting closer to her and would hang

1008
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: out with her more often. I suspected nothing, and in fact,

1009
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: I was happy she was making more close friends. The

1010
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: reason I'm mostly okay with the cheating was the way

1011
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 1: I found out. My ex told me the day after

1012
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 1: they first slept together and explained her whole situation. She

1013
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: was in tears the whole time. I sincerely believe that

1014
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: was their first intimate moment, and she told me right away.

1015
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 1: Of course, I was devastated, but I could sympathize with

1016
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: her situation. I couldn't imagine feeling stuck in a marriage

1017
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 1: like that. She was my best friend, and as bad

1018
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: as it is to say, I do still love her.

1019
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: I just want her to be happy, even if it's

1020
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 1: with the person who destroyed our marriage. And about changing

1021
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: or flipping around the name. The partner made it clear

1022
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,319
Speaker 1: she didn't want the name Samuel anywhere in the child's name.

1023
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: She refused to compromise on this. About the hating the

1024
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 1: closeted remark that she made, I questioned her at the

1025
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: time on how I was being that way, and her

1026
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: response was that by not budging on this situation, I

1027
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 1: was implying that her feelings and input were less important

1028
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 1: than my exes, and that I was reducing her role

1029
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 1: as a parent due to her spicy proclivity.

1030
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 6: I thought it was bs.

1031
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,280
Speaker 1: At the time, but maybe this will change some people's minds.

1032
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: And about seeking legal advice, I'll be doing that this week.

1033
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: I really don't want to do this to my ex.

1034
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 1: And I have had a superb relationship since the breakup,

1035
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: and I would hate to sour it by getting lawyers involved,

1036
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,839
Speaker 1: but it feels like it may be necessary if her

1037
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: partner is acting like this before the baby is born

1038
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 1: really quickly. Your ex has just put all of this

1039
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,799
Speaker 1: on you. I don't like that, and she's doing it

1040
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: so that she doesn't have to have the conflict in

1041
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 1: her own relationship now. But if it's what she wants,

1042
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: it should be what she wants. What is the co

1043
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:04,240
Speaker 1: parenting situation gonna look like? I have so many questions

1044
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: you're not actually answering right now.

1045
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, and plus like to have the affair partner, as

1046
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 4: you know, has having them, like giving them a say

1047
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 4: in like what the baby's gonna be named. No, you

1048
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 4: you were the affair partner. You're not the parent. You

1049
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 4: actually aren't even involved in this at all. The only

1050
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 4: reason you're involved is because now you and my ex

1051
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 4: wife are together. But like that doesn't mean now all

1052
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 4: of a sudden it's gonna be like, oh, throw out

1053
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 4: this name. We're going with this one, Like I don't know,

1054
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 4: I like it.

1055
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:37,919
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1056
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: Also, Samuel and Samantha are two different names.

1057
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're also completely different.

1058
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:47,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like the only thing I'll give her is

1059
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,080
Speaker 2: that they would probably go by sam.

1060
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 1: My ex left me before she knew she was pregnant.

1061
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 1: She told me over lunch a few weeks later, and

1062
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: we were both excited. She always wanted children and so

1063
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: did I, and we were happy to co parent and

1064
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 1: all smooth until this argument with her partner.

1065
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 6: There is an update.

1066
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 4: I don't like the new partner. I don't Yeah, I

1067
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 4: agree with like everyone saying, like, you know, she doesn't

1068
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 4: have a say like it's not her child, because I agree,

1069
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 4: it's like not her child, Like obviously she's going to

1070
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 4: be a step parent now if she ends up staying in,

1071
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 4: you know, the relationship, because it's not like they're married

1072
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:23,439
Speaker 4: or anything like. This is just you know, I don't

1073
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 4: even know how long they were dating before she found

1074
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 4: out she was pregnant.

1075
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 2: At least nine months, around less than nine It could

1076
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 2: be anywhere from a little bit more a little bit

1077
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 2: less than nine months.

1078
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like this is still very new and she's like, oh,

1079
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:40,400
Speaker 4: like you're having a baby. I want to name it, Like,

1080
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:42,399
Speaker 4: this is not our baby.

1081
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 6: It's not even that I it's like I want to

1082
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 6: name it.

1083
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: It's you can't name it that because it reminds me

1084
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: of my ex, which is stupid. Yeah, honestly, I think

1085
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: this is probably gonna lead to them breaking up, which

1086
00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:01,759
Speaker 1: is fine. It should I know, if this put me

1087
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: in this situation and they're like absolutely not and I'm like,

1088
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: well no, that's their name, and they're just like livid

1089
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: and unable to change, and I'm like, well, then I

1090
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:14,880
Speaker 1: guess you're not going to be around when I raised

1091
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: them because their name is Samuel.

1092
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:19,240
Speaker 6: Update.

1093
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:21,919
Speaker 1: I was able to meet up with my ex today

1094
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 1: to discuss the situation, and overall it was positive and productive.

1095
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,919
Speaker 1: We met for lunch, where the first thing she did

1096
00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 1: was apologize for her partner's behavior. She agreed that she

1097
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: had no right to make demands like that. She also

1098
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:36,719
Speaker 1: told me that her position on the topic of the

1099
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,879
Speaker 1: name hasn't changed. She will honor the agreement we made

1100
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 1: and will stand by the decision to name our son

1101
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 1: Samuel Jacob. Over the course of our meeting, she did

1102
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 1: try to make excuses for her partner's behavior, though, which

1103
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 1: concerned me a bit. She tried to explain how her

1104
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: partner always wanted a son and thought that this could

1105
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 1: be your chance to be a mom, and was upset

1106
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 1: that the both of us were shutting her out of

1107
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:03,720
Speaker 1: her dream. We'll keep dreaming, sweetie, because it's not your kid.

1108
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:05,879
Speaker 4: You just got here, slaw your role.

1109
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:08,879
Speaker 6: It could be your kid if you play your cards right.

1110
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:11,840
Speaker 6: But the kid's name is Samuel. Is he gonna have

1111
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 6: to live with that?

1112
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: I then reiterated that this was not her biological child,

1113
00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:18,200
Speaker 1: and that she would be in the child's life, but

1114
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: in a step parent capacity. Oh my goodness, I think

1115
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: we just go ahead and get into it.

1116
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, the right thing.

1117
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 6: Do we think that she's gonna break up? I don't

1118
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 6: think she will. I think they should.

1119
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think they should. I don't think they will.

1120
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 4: But who knows. I mean maybe if this is like,

1121
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 4: you know, the first of many issues, you know, then

1122
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:41,280
Speaker 4: maybe maybe by the time the baby comes out, she's out,

1123
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,839
Speaker 4: she's out, baby comes out, she leaves, she's she's out,

1124
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 4: baby in.

1125
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 1: I can't imagine being in a headspace where I've been

1126
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 1: in her relationship with someone for like three months to

1127
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: six months and then it's like, yeah, surprise baby from

1128
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: their previous partner, and I'm like, but I should get

1129
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: to name it with you.

1130
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1131
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 4: It's just that it's like weirdly overstepping and it's like

1132
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:11,359
Speaker 4: you just got here. I don't uh, I don't think

1133
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 4: you fully grasped the situation.

1134
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: I told my ex I would be in my son's life.

1135
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:19,840
Speaker 1: I won't be an absent parent. My ex then got defensive,

1136
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 1: saying that her partner wasn't trying to butt me out

1137
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:24,280
Speaker 1: of my son's life. Rather, she just wanted a bigger

1138
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 1: part in it. I agreed that she could have a

1139
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:28,920
Speaker 1: part in my son's life. I had no problem with that,

1140
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: but naming should be left to us. I'm happy enough

1141
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: to hear her opinions on schools and sports, but naming

1142
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: should be left to the biological parents. My ex again

1143
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: agreed with this, but asked me to be a bit

1144
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 1: more understanding of her situation. While at lunch, I also

1145
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,400
Speaker 1: mentioned I would be seeking legal counsel, and she was

1146
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: fine with this. Overall, I'm happy with the meeting. She

1147
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:51,759
Speaker 1: seems to be sticking with me on this, though I

1148
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 1: am concerned with the partner's behavior, acting like I was

1149
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 1: getting in the way of her dream. After reading some

1150
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:00,399
Speaker 1: of the comments, I'm getting a bit paranoid that maybe

1151
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 1: she does just see me as a baby donor rather

1152
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 1: than a father and that is the end of that story. Well,

1153
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: the new partner certainly does guarantee you. The new partner's

1154
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 1: got no respect for you, you know how, I know that

1155
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 1: she was the affair partner, so automatically zero respect for you.

1156
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:20,760
Speaker 4: I mean she thinks that well not Op, but Op's

1157
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 4: ex wife is gonna take her side in anything, which

1158
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:24,920
Speaker 4: I mean she kind of.

1159
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 3: What like it seems like uh. Oh.

1160
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 4: PE's like the ex wife was just not saying anything,

1161
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 4: was just letting them like hash it out. And it's like, girl,

1162
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 4: you're the one having the baby, just say what you want,

1163
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 4: you know, And she's like, oh, it's up to like

1164
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:38,239
Speaker 4: she would say one thing to one person then say

1165
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 4: another thing to the other, and so it's like you're

1166
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 4: just playing like both sides, but you can't, like you

1167
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 4: have to design on this and it has to be

1168
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:47,239
Speaker 4: in front of both of them so they both know.

1169
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to

1170
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 6: the next one.

1171
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:54,479
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite host who's always on track here,

1172
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 1: and we're gonna get back to the stories in three

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00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,480
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1174
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:03,799
Speaker 4: I I said no to one request and lost contact

1175
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 4: with my brother overnight. Go that was great. My dad

1176
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 4: passed away three and a half years ago when my

1177
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 4: half brother was eleven years old. My dad and his

1178
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:20,440
Speaker 4: ex wife had been separated for about five years before

1179
00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:24,240
Speaker 4: his passing, but they weren't legally divorced. During that time,

1180
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 4: they didn't really have much contact, and she didn't join

1181
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 4: any family gatherings or events. Even during the funeral. She

1182
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:33,640
Speaker 4: wasn't there when my aunt, my grandma, and I thirty

1183
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,640
Speaker 4: two female were and I didn't have a close relationship

1184
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 4: with her. By the way, this comes from professional Cry

1185
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:42,359
Speaker 4: thirteen forty two, and if you want to submit your

1186
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 4: own stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

1187
00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 4: I'm Savannah, I'm Dakora, I'm Sophia, and we are here

1188
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 4: to give some good advice schoolfully, but we don't have

1189
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:53,000
Speaker 4: all the answers. We'd only let you know what we

1190
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 4: would do in this situation. So let us know what

1191
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:59,399
Speaker 4: you would do in this situation in the comments. As

1192
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 4: Opie said, my dad was also struggling financially and he

1193
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 4: didn't leave anything behind apart from a small boat he

1194
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:09,360
Speaker 4: had purchased in my name, which I sold and put

1195
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 4: the money aside for my brother's future and started paying

1196
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:15,440
Speaker 4: towards his needs, such as education fees and monthly allowances

1197
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 4: for hidden. My dad had still been supporting my half

1198
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 4: brother's mom financially, even though they weren't living together, and

1199
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:24,240
Speaker 4: I only had to communicate with her a few times

1200
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 4: after his passing about my brother's expenses. Here's where things

1201
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 4: get tricky. My aunt has been paying the rent for

1202
00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 4: my dad's ex wife and my half brother for the

1203
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 4: past three and a half years. As my dad's ex

1204
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 4: wife claims to be struggling financially, there's a lot of

1205
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 4: info at once.

1206
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to zero in on the claims to be

1207
00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 1: cause I bet she's not I bet she's not that

1208
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 1: hurting that financially.

1209
00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 6: That's my guess.

1210
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:56,680
Speaker 1: That's my bet putting money down twenty dollars twenty dollars on.

1211
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:57,280
Speaker 6: It right now?

1212
00:54:58,160 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 4: Okay, she it works full time, but also receives a

1213
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 4: pension through my dad. Now the landlord wants them to

1214
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 4: move out, and my aunt, who has been helping with

1215
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 4: rent all this time, is not in a position to

1216
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:11,760
Speaker 4: pay for the rent in the future apartment. My dad's

1217
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 4: ex wife is now asking me for help with rent,

1218
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 4: claiming she's still struggling. I'm honestly conflicted. I don't have

1219
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 4: a strong relationship with her, and I don't feel it's

1220
00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 4: my responsibility to help her out with rent, especially when

1221
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:24,960
Speaker 4: I'm already helping my brother. I've made it clear that

1222
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 4: I can't help with the rent, but she's persistent and

1223
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 4: threatening me to tell my brother that I'm this bad

1224
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 4: sister who is not helping him out with their housing situation,

1225
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 4: and she told me, if I'm not helping her out

1226
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:37,920
Speaker 4: with rent, I shouldn't act like a good sister and

1227
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 4: help out on anything else as well. I feel like

1228
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,800
Speaker 4: it's not fair that I should take on this burden

1229
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 4: when I'm already looking out for my brother's well being,

1230
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:48,399
Speaker 4: and especially when my aunt has already been helping her

1231
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 4: all this time. My primary focus is on my brother's future,

1232
00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 4: and I just don't want to take on any more

1233
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:57,400
Speaker 4: responsibilities that aren't my own. And that's valid, and you

1234
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:00,319
Speaker 4: don't have to. I also want to mention that while

1235
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:04,040
Speaker 4: my dad financially supported his ex wife when they were separated,

1236
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 4: their relationship was strained and I never felt close to her.

1237
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 4: I'm struggling with whether I'm being unreasonable for not helping

1238
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 4: her even though she's in a tough situation. So am

1239
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 4: I the a hole for not wanting to help her

1240
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 4: out with rent even though she's claiming that she's struggling

1241
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,479
Speaker 4: and there's an update? I don't think you're the a hole.

1242
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:23,759
Speaker 4: I don't think at all.

1243
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 1: Of course, not the step mom's trying to freaking strong

1244
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,839
Speaker 1: arm you into paying rent, as well as the other

1245
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: stuff you're already doing to help your brother.

1246
00:56:32,440 --> 00:56:33,879
Speaker 6: She's like, well, if you're not going to pay the.

1247
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 1: Rent, I'm not going to let you run around pretending

1248
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:38,919
Speaker 1: to be a good sister by doing all of these

1249
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:42,840
Speaker 1: other things you do that actually help, which is insane.

1250
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:48,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, she's just a sad, pathetic leech, and hopefully

1251
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 1: she changes, but I wouldn't hold my breath.

1252
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:54,400
Speaker 4: But anyway, there is an update edit. Thank you everyone

1253
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 4: for supporting my decision. I'm overwhelmed by the support I've received.

1254
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 4: I just want to provide a bit more context about

1255
00:56:59,760 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 4: the trees involved without going into too much detail. I'm

1256
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 4: originally from a Middle Eastern country and moved to Europe

1257
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 4: a couple of years ago to work under better conditions.

1258
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 4: My brother and my mom still live in my home country.

1259
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 4: Things have been tough there, just like everywhere else, and

1260
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:19,040
Speaker 4: she is not the only one struggling. In our culture,

1261
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 4: families help each other out. However, even though my family

1262
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 4: loves my brother and has done everything to support him,

1263
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 4: we feel like she is using us at this point,

1264
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:29,920
Speaker 4: and I don't want to give into her manipulation. My

1265
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 4: mom was a single parent who worked two jobs to

1266
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 4: provide me with housing and all my needs until I

1267
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 4: was able to provide for myself. So her attitude is

1268
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:41,120
Speaker 4: really frustrating me, even more as some of you suggested,

1269
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 4: I don't want to help her with budget planning or

1270
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 4: finding a new apartment because I'm afraid that if I

1271
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,919
Speaker 4: help her even a little, she'll keep asking for more. Yeah,

1272
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 4: she seems like the person that would so yeah, I

1273
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 4: also think she wants to maintain an expensive lifestyle.

1274
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 3: Well you can't.

1275
00:57:57,120 --> 00:58:00,680
Speaker 4: You don't have any money, you can't afford anything, So

1276
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 4: that's out the window.

1277
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 1: Out, out the window gone.

1278
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 4: She isn't into substances or gambling as far as I know,

1279
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 4: but she does spend a lot on luxury cosmetics, branded clothing,

1280
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:18,439
Speaker 4: and even some botox and similar treatments. Okay, so she's

1281
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 4: a snob and she just wants to like have this,

1282
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:26,200
Speaker 4: like she wants to have this look that she can

1283
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 4: afford things. But you can't. So stop spending money all

1284
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 4: the things you can't afford. You don't need to buy

1285
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 4: luxury items you need to buy you know, all these

1286
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:38,440
Speaker 4: like brand names of whatever, Like you know, it's just

1287
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 4: who nobody, nobody cares, Like, why wouldn't you be like, oh,

1288
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 4: I want to spend this money on my son. I

1289
00:58:45,360 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 4: want to spend this money to go towards rent. But no,

1290
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 4: you're like, oh, I need to spend the new eyeliner

1291
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 4: came out, I gotta get it. Well, why actually I

1292
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:55,440
Speaker 4: need botox in my right cheek. I gotta go Like,

1293
00:58:56,000 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 4: that's expensive stuff. None of that is cheap. So there,

1294
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 4: like she's making a choice, and her choice here is

1295
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 4: to stay broke and be broke. That's on you. Regarding

1296
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:09,360
Speaker 4: taking my brother to live with me, it would be

1297
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 4: very complicated too to visa processes. But if things get worse,

1298
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:15,720
Speaker 4: I will do everything in my power to arrange that.

1299
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 4: I told her that life is tough for everyone. I'm

1300
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 4: in no position to pay rent, and I'm not going

1301
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 4: to send her any money from my brother's account for

1302
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 4: her rent because he will need it more in the future. Wow,

1303
00:59:26,720 --> 00:59:30,440
Speaker 4: did she like ask for like his savings? Because that's

1304
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 4: that's a whole nother like boundary that is being crossed.

1305
00:59:34,320 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 6: This girl's living in entitlement city.

1306
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:40,919
Speaker 4: It is her responsibility to find somewhere to live within

1307
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 4: her budget. I also told her I don't want her

1308
00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 4: to contact me ever again about anything related to this topic.

1309
00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 4: As I don't believe it is my responsibility.

1310
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 3: To help her.

1311
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 4: She was shameless enough to say that she didn't want

1312
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:56,680
Speaker 4: the full rent, just my share that I had to

1313
00:59:56,840 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 4: support for my brother's sake. I will send my brother

1314
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:02,280
Speaker 4: a text message in a couple of days letting him

1315
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:04,120
Speaker 4: know that I love him, I'm always there for him,

1316
01:00:04,120 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 4: and he can reach out to me personally whenever he wants.

1317
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 4: I'm also considering giving him a debit card. She has

1318
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 4: until the end of this month to leave the current apartment,

1319
01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:14,840
Speaker 4: and I'm waiting to see how things will unfold. And

1320
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 4: there's a second update. What do we think?

1321
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: I think she goes back to school, finishes her degree

1322
01:00:21,640 --> 01:00:25,800
Speaker 1: in one month, and is now a upstanding member of

1323
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:30,280
Speaker 1: society with a mechanical engineering degree. There are very long

1324
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:35,160
Speaker 1: odds on Matt guess, but I'm gonna go for that.

1325
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go with his lady sucks and she's eventually

1326
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 4: probably just gonna like, I don't know, not like I

1327
01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 4: hope she doesn't end up like not having a home.

1328
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1329
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 4: I mean, hopefully she has some saved to like live

1330
01:00:55,160 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 4: in a budget like I don't know.

1331
01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 1: There's gotta be a wake up moment man like, and

1332
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: a lot of people who have them say that when

1333
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: their parenthood or their kids become affected is when they

1334
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:10,760
Speaker 1: snap and they go, oh, oh my god, I'm awake now.

1335
01:01:10,840 --> 01:01:12,680
Speaker 1: I don't know why or how I've been acting the

1336
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 1: way I have been for so long, but I need

1337
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 1: to change everything.

1338
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 4: Here's a second update. Over the weekend, I realized I

1339
01:01:19,560 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 4: was blocked on socials by the ex wife and also

1340
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 4: my brother removed me as well. I reached out to

1341
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 4: my brother directly because I wanted to make sure he

1342
01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 4: knew that none of this was his fault and that

1343
01:01:29,640 --> 01:01:31,919
Speaker 4: I will always be there for him. I didn't want

1344
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 4: to say anything that could damage his relationship with his mom,

1345
01:01:34,680 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 4: but I needed him to know that I did nothing

1346
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 4: against him and that he can always reach out to me.

1347
01:01:39,240 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 4: To my relief, he responded right away and reassured me

1348
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:43,560
Speaker 4: that he has no hard feelings towards me at all.

1349
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:45,959
Speaker 4: He already knew that a lot of what his mom

1350
01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:48,280
Speaker 4: told him wasn't true, and even said he was actually

1351
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 4: happy about the decision I made. He told me that

1352
01:01:50,920 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 4: if I were in his position, he would have done

1353
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 4: the same thing all. One of the most upsetting parts

1354
01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:58,360
Speaker 4: of our conversation was when he admitted that he never

1355
01:01:58,520 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 4: liked asking me for money through his mom because it

1356
01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:04,960
Speaker 4: made him feel like a beggar, but she insisted on it.

1357
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 4: She also told me that she had been looking for

1358
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 4: an apartment way beyond her budget and had been trying

1359
01:02:10,600 --> 01:02:13,240
Speaker 4: to collect money from different people to afford it, which

1360
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 4: confirm my suspicions. I also learned that now they have

1361
01:02:16,960 --> 01:02:20,640
Speaker 4: found an apartment within whatever budget she has. What really

1362
01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 4: broke my heart was when he said he needed to

1363
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:26,120
Speaker 4: delete our messages because his mom sometimes checks his phone

1364
01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 4: and if she found out we talked, she would be

1365
01:02:28,680 --> 01:02:31,440
Speaker 4: very upset with him. It made me realize just how

1366
01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 4: much control she has over him. I reassure him that

1367
01:02:35,680 --> 01:02:37,720
Speaker 4: the money I was sending for him is still his,

1368
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 4: kept safely with me, and that when he needs anything,

1369
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:42,640
Speaker 4: I will find a way to help him, but it

1370
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 4: won't be through his mom anymore. He understood and seemed relieved.

1371
01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:48,160
Speaker 4: He also told me that he's really thinking about his

1372
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 4: future carefully and wants to choose a profession where he

1373
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:53,520
Speaker 4: can be financially independent so he never has to worry

1374
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:54,160
Speaker 4: about money.

1375
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1376
01:02:55,640 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 4: I mean, there's a little bit left. I'm thinking, just,

1377
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 4: you know, we just don't go through the mom. The

1378
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 4: mom just sounds like she's a nightmare, and he the brother,

1379
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 4: doesn't really want anything to do with him either, or

1380
01:03:07,960 --> 01:03:10,920
Speaker 4: to do with her, Like I think, you're just gonna

1381
01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:15,280
Speaker 4: have to slowly make your way out. Honestly, I was

1382
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 4: happily surprised by how machure and self aware he is

1383
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 4: for a fifteen year old. Despite everything, He's handling situation

1384
01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:23,960
Speaker 4: with so much understanding and perspective, and it makes me

1385
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:27,320
Speaker 4: even prouder to be his sister. For now, I will

1386
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 4: keep in touch with him privately to make sure he

1387
01:03:29,760 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 4: knows he is not alone. I told him that when

1388
01:03:32,280 --> 01:03:34,680
Speaker 4: he grows up, I'll be there to support him, especially

1389
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 4: for things like university. He knows that no matter what happens,

1390
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 4: I will always have his back.

1391
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:40,040
Speaker 5: Edit.

1392
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:42,240
Speaker 4: I'm not giving him a debit card or anything, as

1393
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 4: clearly he doesn't want or he doesn't need and want.

1394
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:49,800
Speaker 4: I will save the money for his future. Dasty and

1395
01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:53,920
Speaker 4: oh well, I hope that you know.

1396
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:55,160
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1397
01:03:55,200 --> 01:03:56,800
Speaker 4: You just got to get away from the mom. She's

1398
01:03:56,840 --> 01:03:58,920
Speaker 4: just like she's like blood sucking.

1399
01:03:59,520 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 6: And that's the end of this story.