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Speaker 3: My mother in law excluded me from everything, so I'm

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Speaker 3: cutting her off.

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Speaker 4: You want to exclude me, I'll exclude you.

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Speaker 3: My fiancee twenty five mail and I twenty four female,

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Speaker 3: have been together for a year and a half and

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Speaker 3: we got engaged a month ago. We had a beautiful

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Speaker 3: baby girl three months ago and she's just perfection. The issue, however,

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Speaker 3: is my soon to be mother in law. By the way,

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Speaker 3: Okay Storytime subreddit. And I'm Angie, I'm Carly, and we're

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Speaker 3: here to give good advice. Gooflely. But we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the answers. We just know what we would do

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Speaker 3: in this situation, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 3: do in the comments. So Op says, if I wrote

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Speaker 3: everything that has happened in the past year and a half,

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Speaker 3: it would be an entire book. So I will spare

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Speaker 3: the gorness of all of that For the issue on hand, however,

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Speaker 3: I do you need to give a bit of background.

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Speaker 3: My fiance and I live an hour away from his

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Speaker 3: family and only twenty minutes from mine. He moved away

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Speaker 3: from his parents after coming back for college for work.

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Speaker 3: I moved in with him in November from my parents'

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Speaker 3: house after finding out that we were pregnant. My mother

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Speaker 3: and has even blamed it on me. Her father in

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Speaker 3: law and sister in law have made both blatant and

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Speaker 3: passive aggressive comments about how fiance doesn't come around often enough,

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Speaker 3: or that him and I only spend time with my family,

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Speaker 3: which we did spend more time with my family because

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Speaker 3: for the majority of our relationship I was living with

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Speaker 3: them since we had our daughter. Mother in law makes

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Speaker 3: even more comments about how she quote wants her granddaughter

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Speaker 3: to know her and that she wants to actually have

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Speaker 3: a relationship with her. She has even gone as far

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Speaker 3: as to stop speaking to fiance for weeks because she

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Speaker 3: thinks that my parents spend every day with our daughter.

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Speaker 3: She thinks we my family and I quote stole him

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Speaker 3: from her, and that my parents are trying to replace her.

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Speaker 3: Sister in law has three kids, to which mother in

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Speaker 3: more than sister in law does, So Fiance is thinking

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Speaker 3: that mother in law wants our daughter to herself like

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Speaker 3: she gets with the others. When we got invited over,

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Speaker 3: it's usually only fiance and our daughter that get an invite.

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Speaker 3: Fiance and I have addressed this, to which mother in

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Speaker 3: law replied, it's implied that OPI is invited.

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Speaker 4: Well, then just include my name on that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, it is really that much to type out.

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Speaker 4: He implied, my kid is to including her.

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Speaker 3: She went as far as to remove fiance and I

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Speaker 3: from her blue app after we asked her to tag

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Speaker 3: She had only tagged fiance and sister in law, then

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Speaker 3: got defensive when Fiance told her that it was rude

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Speaker 3: There are some comments? But what do you think, Carl?

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Speaker 3: Sounds like she's doing it on purpose to me down

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Speaker 3: like some mean rel action right now.

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Speaker 5: Sounds like we went back to high school.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but we do have some comments. Common number one says,

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Speaker 3: it's not you, it's the idea of you. Mother in

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Speaker 3: law wants her son and her grandchildren to be her minions.

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Speaker 3: You are an adult who lives somewhere and your fiance

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Speaker 3: so he moved. She can't blame her son, so she

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Speaker 3: you want to visit and only go as a family unit. You,

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Speaker 3: invitations you are entitled to politely but firmly decline. Don't

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Speaker 3: have an update. But yeah, I mean that comment was

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Speaker 3: Good job, no no, no notes ay. Plus, mother in

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Speaker 3: going to cook dinner. However, we missed sister in law's

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Speaker 3: In laws are not on that list. And we do

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Speaker 4: It's so easy from an outside perspective to be like,

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Speaker 4: we'll just let them hold the baby, like they haven't

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Speaker 4: seen the baby, right, But I can understand the stress

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Speaker 3: Right, if you have postpartum depression, I'm sure, Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: sure that. But we do have a second update. We

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Speaker 3: The day before this, our daughter got her four months JOTS,

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Speaker 3: Fiance and I passed out Father's Day gifts and a

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Speaker 3: So I politely said Oh, we don't want to pass

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Speaker 3: Mother in law then send a long text blaming fiance

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Speaker 3: It was a very long message, and she replied with

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Speaker 3: get that apology? No? Yeah, I definitely don't think so.

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Speaker 3: After the last blow up with my future in laws,

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Speaker 3: He was waiting for some medical supplies to come in

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Speaker 3: She responded yes. Fiance drove the hour away to pick

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Speaker 3: Fiance knows there is an issue with them, but still

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I honestly do. I want to know more information

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Speaker 3: say we're done. I sent photos to my fiance and

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Speaker 3: She has lost any possible relationship with my daughter and

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Speaker 2: Wow, my god.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, at least your fiance is on the

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Speaker 4: Now, that was a weird breaking point, but yeah, it

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Speaker 3: But I guess that's kind of been like all of

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Speaker 4: And I'm glad it made us get their regards.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm I agree, We're there.

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Speaker 4: Yes, And that's the end of this story. We're gonna

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Speaker 4: go to the next one. My mother in law treats

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Speaker 3: Angie, and we're here to give good advice.

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Speaker 4: Goofully, but we don't have all the answers. We only

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Speaker 4: She of course didn't respect our wish and told people anyway.

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Speaker 4: She kept getting on us about announcing that we are expecting.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, when you.

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Speaker 4: Rely would simply. I brought this up to my boyfriend

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend and I walk in and at least six

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry you're gonna invite guests, first of all, when

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Speaker 4: That made me even more upset. At the end, they

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Speaker 5: With some cards.

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00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,520
Speaker 4: They ended up going back and checking the dumpster. They did,

439
00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 4: in fact find said money and cards. They also threw

440
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 4: away bowls and unopened decorations that could definitely be used again.

441
00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 4: So not only did these strangers not speak to me

442
00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:16,200
Speaker 4: at my shower, but they also threw away cards with money.

443
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 3: Oh I accidentally did that one time, or that happened

444
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:25,720
Speaker 3: around a Christmas. I was so sad for yourself. Though, yeah,

445
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 3: it was mine.

446
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:26,920
Speaker 5: It was mine.

447
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:29,120
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was like me that threw

448
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:31,680
Speaker 3: it away or I'm pretty sure the story is that

449
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,920
Speaker 3: it got caught up with all the wrapping paper. But

450
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,880
Speaker 3: it's heartbreaking. Yeah, I can't imagine how it is when

451
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 3: you're expecting a child's.

452
00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 4: It got to the point where I started having panic

453
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:48,240
Speaker 4: attack and uncontrollably crying, stressing over not being respected and

454
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 4: being overstepped. My boyfriend ends up telling her too calm

455
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 4: down and starts making comments that she will not have

456
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 4: a crip in her room when she continues bringing it up.

457
00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 4: It seems okay for while. Fast forward a little bit.

458
00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 4: It is now five weeks from my due date. She

459
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 4: is due on twelve to twelve. His mother keeps bringing

460
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 4: up the fact that she's going to buy her gifts

461
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 4: for Christmas and asking how many she should buy. I

462
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 4: have said at least ten times now that I do

463
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 4: not want anything for her if I go past my

464
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 4: du date. She isn't even going to be a week old,

465
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 4: and we just received tons, and I mean tons of

466
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 4: gifts from the shower. She doesn't need anything else, and

467
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 4: she definitely isn't able to open gifts I finally told her,

468
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 4: I am not waking my newborn baby up to open

469
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,680
Speaker 4: gifts on Christmas, especially when my lady parts are going

470
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 4: to be sowollen, bleeding, stitched up, and whatever else. She

471
00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,639
Speaker 4: wants to say, well, can't I just hold her?

472
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 5: Like what I said?

473
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:51,399
Speaker 4: Probably not, If anything, I will be holding my new

474
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:55,439
Speaker 4: baby on our first holiday together. She's also asking if

475
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 4: she can take my child places that are a year away,

476
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 4: and I keep saying we will see. She has asked

477
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 4: if she could get up at night with my baby.

478
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 4: I plan on naturally feeding unless I'm not able to.

479
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 4: She has asked, your mom will probably be in the

480
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 4: delivery room, though yes, in fact, she will be. Why

481
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 4: would I want you to watch me give birth and

482
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 4: not my own mother? She continues to say she wants

483
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 4: me and my husband to go out and get wasted

484
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 4: so she can have the baby all night. Oh yeah,

485
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 4: did I mention she has all boys and has always

486
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 4: wanted a girl, Like is this not insane?

487
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:33,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's understandable. Yeah, or well, okay, it's understandable,

488
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 3: Like I'm not surprised that she hasn't had a girl

489
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 3: and she's so excited about it for this not saying

490
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 3: everything else is excusable at all.

491
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 4: But I do feel like she's not coming from a

492
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 4: place of like malice. That Yeah, like it seems very

493
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 4: just like, oh my god, I'm so excited.

494
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 3: Right, just excited.

495
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 4: Right, she's still overstepping boundaries, which isn't cool, right, But

496
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 4: part of me is like, oh, she's really excited, but

497
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 4: too much.

498
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like she's very excited, but then like inconsiderate,

499
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: Like it seems like she's like, Okay, so when this happens,

500
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 3: you guys are gonna go party and get wasted. Right,

501
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 3: I'm gonna watch the baby. You guys are gonna do this.

502
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 2: You know.

503
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 3: It's like, hang on, right, do we get a say

504
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 3: in our own life?

505
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:17,879
Speaker 2: Right?

506
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 3: It's like, okay, we we were so happy.

507
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 4: You're happy and are gonna treat baby go great, But

508
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 4: this is my baby.

509
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.

510
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:27,479
Speaker 3: I get to make the decision of what my baby's

511
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 3: doing in a year. Right.

512
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 4: Two months later, I finally had my baby. My water

513
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 4: broke around one fifteen am on December fifth. I called

514
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 4: Labor and Delivery and they advised me to come in.

515
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 4: We were still living with my boyfriend's family and I

516
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 4: had already called to talk to my mother about my

517
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 4: water breaking. My boyfriend went down and told his mother,

518
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 4: and she came down to see if we needed anything

519
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 4: before leaving. We got to the hospital around two thirty am,

520
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 4: and they confirmed it was in fact my water that

521
00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 4: had broken, and I was one centimeter. I hadn't slept yet,

522
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 4: and my adrenaline and honestly being in shock kept me

523
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 4: up all night. My mother ended up arriving at the

524
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 4: hospital early that morning. I had told the nurses that

525
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 4: I wanted no one but my boyfriend and my mother

526
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 4: in the labor and delivery room. It was now late

527
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 4: evening of December fifth, and I had stopped dilating at

528
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 4: eight centimeters. Around two pm, my boyfriend had asked his

529
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 4: mom to bring him a charger and clothes, as we

530
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 4: had totally forgotten to pack him things. We only grabbed

531
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 4: what I needed. He was arguing on the phone with

532
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 4: her because she was saying, she is coming to my room.

533
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,119
Speaker 5: L He told her no one was allowed in.

534
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 4: I had already told the nurses, so she ended up

535
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 4: saying she would just wait in the waiting room, which

536
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,120
Speaker 4: still made me mad and uncomfortable, because who says I'm

537
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 4: gonna want guests as soon as I have my baby. Anyways,

538
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,680
Speaker 4: she ends up leaving. It is now around eight pm.

539
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 4: My doctor had left, and I now had the on

540
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,239
Speaker 4: call labor and delivery doctor. I knew as soon as

541
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,600
Speaker 4: she checked to see how dilated I was, she was

542
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 4: not going to give me the option to have my

543
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 4: baby naturally. My doctor, including the five nurses, all got

544
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 4: eight centimeters, but the on call doctor said I was

545
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,879
Speaker 4: only six. She was a stingy checker. I knew something

546
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,119
Speaker 4: was wrong. She said I would need a sea section.

547
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 4: I agreed because I couldn't take the pain anymore. They

548
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 4: turned my epidural off an hour before I was even

549
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 4: taken back for the sea section. I ended up having

550
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,119
Speaker 4: to be put all the way to sleep due to

551
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 4: feeling too much pain on my right side. I woke

552
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 4: up and immediately started asking where my baby was, and

553
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 4: they said she was with dad. I got back to

554
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 4: my room and it was only my boyfriend and my baby.

555
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,120
Speaker 4: They had made my mom leave so I could hold

556
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 4: and see her first. I instantly started crying. She is

557
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 4: so beautiful. I love my boyfriend to the very end,

558
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 4: but he hurt my feelings a lot. He facetimed his

559
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,719
Speaker 4: family and showed them my baby before I even got

560
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 4: to see her.

561
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 5: His father also made a post on the blue.

562
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 4: App about how he's finally a grandpa and that made

563
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 4: me upset too, seeing as this is supposed to be

564
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,360
Speaker 4: our news to share. I'm told after we were back

565
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 4: in the room that my baby was breach, so the

566
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 4: sea section was a little complicated. While they were getting

567
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 4: her out of me, she also pooped on me, so

568
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 4: I basically started off with a great labor experience that

569
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 4: turned into basically one of the worst. The next day

570
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 4: we let our parents visit. We ended up being there

571
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 4: for four days. I was put on blood pressure meds

572
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 4: because it was very elevated. I was already having very

573
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 4: bad anxiety and terrified about returning to his parents' house

574
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 4: more than ever because I had a sea section. We

575
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 4: got home and it was overwhelming. The next day we

576
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 4: were asked, can I come see the baby?

577
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 3: Sure? Whatever.

578
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 4: The next day can I come see the baby?

579
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 3: OMG.

580
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 4: Every single day I started having panic and anxiety attacks.

581
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 4: I'm crying every single day. My boyfriend asks his mother

582
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 4: to give us space. Two days pass, and this is

583
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 4: where it all starts. She is making comments over the

584
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:10,719
Speaker 4: phone to my boyfriend, basically making it like we are

585
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 4: keeping her from our baby. I got mad. She comes

586
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 4: down that night and I tell her I'm not doing

587
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 4: this little kid drama. She says, what drama? I say,

588
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 4: the comments, the complaining about not being down here every

589
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 4: single day. She says, well, I think I need to

590
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 4: be around. I said, not every day. You don't see

591
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 4: my mother here every day, and we deserve privacy and space.

592
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:35,919
Speaker 3: She said, I've.

593
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 4: Given you plenty of space.

594
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 3: I say, what two days?

595
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 4: And what if we didn't live here, would you come

596
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 4: to our house every day? She got up, handed the

597
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 4: baby to my boyfriend and said I'm done. She said,

598
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 4: I'm tired of your attitude since you've been here, and

599
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 4: slammed the door on the way out. My boyfriend agrees

600
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 4: and said, the baby and I come first, but that

601
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 4: is his mother. Well, maybe if she had respected our

602
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 4: boundaries and given us space when we asked the first time,

603
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 4: this wouldn't have happened. I feel like so much of

604
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 4: this is just because they're living with her. Yeah, yeah,

605
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 4: I will say at the beginning, I think I missed

606
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 4: that part when she was saying, like I'll have a

607
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 4: crib in my house and I'll have a thing in

608
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 4: my car. I was assuming she was like gonna have

609
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 4: a whole separate one like at.

610
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 3: A different right too.

611
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 4: But if it's just like I guess she was just

612
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 4: referring to it too much as like for our baby.

613
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 5: It's like, yeah, I think.

614
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 3: That was maybe the thing. But I wonder, like, would

615
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 3: so they live in like the same house or are

616
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:37,479
Speaker 3: they like right next to each other.

617
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 4: I'm wondering if maybe it's like a duplex thing. Yeah,

618
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 4: I'm like an upstairs downstairs.

619
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, But because I can understand, like if if the

620
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 3: mom is just so excited to have this grandchild and

621
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 3: she's literally right there, then like, yeah, I would probably

622
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 3: come down.

623
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 4: To you are probably gonna see her more than your

624
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 4: mom's seeing her kind of thing.

625
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,959
Speaker 3: Like that would probably be hard to be like she's

626
00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 3: so close with so.

627
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 4: Far right, you know, at the same time, like give

628
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 4: them space.

629
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like you can also respect the woman that just

630
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:07,479
Speaker 3: has multiple wounds inside of her right now.

631
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 4: His mother's sister had also texted me mad because I

632
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 4: said we're not doing visitors right now. She got an

633
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 4: attitude after I nicely asked her to stop texting me

634
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 4: and told her we would notify her when we were

635
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 4: having visitors. I guess I'm selfish and insane for not

636
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 4: wanting visitors every single day after having a baby. I

637
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 4: am selfish for wanting to hold my child. I'm insane

638
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 4: for not wanting the entire family, cousins, aunts, uncles to

639
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 4: meet my.

640
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 5: Weak old child.

641
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 4: I am insane and mean for asking not to be

642
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 4: bothered every day, and for wanting time with my child

643
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 4: and her father as a family of three. It is

644
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 4: completely insane to me. I have still continued crying and

645
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 4: having my breakdowns, continuously telling my boyfriend I do not

646
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 4: want to live here. Well, it does not end there.

647
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 4: I had posted a video about people wanting to see

648
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 4: our baby after not speaking to us my entire pregnancy,

649
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 4: relating to a couple of my friends that had not

650
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 4: spoken to me since I told them I was pregnant. Huh.

651
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 4: My boyfriend's younger brother, thirteen, decided to make a comment

652
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 4: to me and said that I am ungrateful that his

653
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 4: mom does everything for us and she deserves to see

654
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 4: the baby, and that the house is a prison because

655
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 4: I am here.

656
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 5: Again, no one.

657
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 4: Said she could not see the child. We just asked,

658
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 4: not every day. I replied and asked what he was

659
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 4: talking about. He replied that the house is a prison

660
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 4: because of me, and I need to get the f out.

661
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 4: For one, How is it a prison? We live in

662
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 4: the basement. Okay, there's your answer on how they're living.

663
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 4: If anything, I should.

664
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 5: Feel like I'm in prison.

665
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 4: Given the fact that I'm down here every day and

666
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 4: have to listen to him cuss his mother out, scream

667
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 4: and bounce basketballs in the house.

668
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 5: Et cetera.

669
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 4: You would think he would be disciplined, but he is,

670
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 4: in fact not. Ever, he stayed at a friend's house

671
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 4: that night. I screenshotted it and sent it to my

672
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 4: boyfriend again while having a breakdown, crying because all I

673
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 4: want is some space and to enjoy my child, and

674
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 4: I told him I'm not staying here. I ended up

675
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 4: showing everything to my mother and she was infuriated. She

676
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 4: ended up calling my boyfriend's mother just to see what

677
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 4: was going on and why they're treating me like this

678
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 4: after I just had a baby and a C section

679
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 4: and I'm recovering. His mother told my mother that if

680
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 4: she cannot see the child when she wants to, then

681
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 4: I should move out whether my boyfriend goes with me

682
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 4: or not. I had already texted my father at this point,

683
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 4: hoping I could come back. He told me yes, and

684
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 4: I instantly felt relieved. Anyway, his mother ends up calling

685
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 4: my boyfriend, who is now home from work and has

686
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 4: just been sitting there while I'm crying and having a breakdown,

687
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 4: basically calling his mother a psycho and whatnot, and he

688
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 4: answers the phone. She is crying, saying she does not

689
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 4: want us to move out and she will never bother

690
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 4: us again. I'm still very angry. How can she go

691
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 4: from saying we need to leave to crying to saying

692
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 4: we need to say She is a manipulator and selfish.

693
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 4: She only wants us to stay so she can see

694
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 4: the baby when she wants, and so she knows she

695
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 4: does not have to be invited over to see her.

696
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 4: It is now two weeks later and I planned on

697
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 4: moving out this weekend, but we have just gotten a

698
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 4: bunch of snow, so we are still here. I do

699
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 4: not know if my boyfriend is going to come with

700
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 4: me at this point.

701
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,720
Speaker 3: Oh oh really, Hey what I took a turn?

702
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah?

703
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 3: I thought the boyfriend wasn't cool with all the stuff either.

704
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, wait what I have asked multiple times and brought

705
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 4: it up and he says nothing.

706
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 2: I just want out.

707
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 4: I'm tired of listening to the seventy five people upstairs

708
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 4: be noisy all day and late at night because I

709
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 4: already do not sleep because I have a newborn. I'm

710
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 4: ready to feel calm and no, I will not be

711
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 4: bothered every day.

712
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

713
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 3: I think choosing your piece is the best thing you

714
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 3: could do, right. Yeah, especially like if you've already had

715
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 3: all of this stress, like in the end of your pregnancy,

716
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 3: in the beginning of your motherhood.

717
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 5: Like I think.

718
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 3: I think just going somewhere right now where you can

719
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 3: just have the least stress possible is perfect.

720
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 4: Even if your boyfriend doesn't come, I think you gotta honest,

721
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 4: especially because he's like You're like, he just sits there

722
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 4: and watches me cry.

723
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, like what is that? What's going on there?

724
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 4: Okay? His mother has been trying to kiss my butt

725
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 4: since that night, constantly asking me if I want something

726
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 4: to eat and she will make it for me, or

727
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 4: if I want something brought home. All I want is

728
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 4: to be left alone. Yes, she can see the baby

729
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 4: on my terms. I do not know why everyone thinks

730
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 4: they are entitled to my child. One of his aunts

731
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,840
Speaker 4: just showed up without being invited. I don't care anymore.

732
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 4: I am not staying quiet, and I will not sit

733
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 4: around with everyone who bashes me behind my back for

734
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 4: wanting privacy. There are also always at least eight other

735
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 4: people in and out of the house. I am not

736
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 4: passing my newborn around and letting her get sick.

737
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 3: I do not know.

738
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 4: Am I the insane one for wanting privacy and respect?

739
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 4: And that is the end of that story. And no,

740
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 4: I do not think you are.

741
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 3: I do not think you are either. I think no

742
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:14,399
Speaker 3: one is insane for wedding privacy and respect. I think

743
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 3: it's very reasonable and everyone should have that.

744
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel as the tensions might just be extra

745
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 4: raised because it's like you're living in the basement of

746
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 4: their house and like you just can't get away. Yeah,

747
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 4: so move out, find somewhere, just even if it's just

748
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 4: for a little bit, go to your parents.

749
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 3: If you move out and leave, like, I feel like

750
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 3: your relationship is probably going to be healed, Like, I

751
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,320
Speaker 3: don't think I could see that. I think it's possible

752
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 3: that it's not like the end of your relationship totally just.

753
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 4: One big stressor that yeah, has something that you can

754
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 4: do to fix it.

755
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 3: Just can't be in the same house together. Yeah yeah,

756
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 3: But good luck to you. Op.

757
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 4: You choose piece, and that's the end of this story.

758
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 4: We're gonna go to the next one.

759
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 2: John here og host.

760
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to these stories, but a quick

761
00:35:58,320 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 1: three minute break from as for more sponsors.

762
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 5: My boyfriend's brother's ex asked him to run away.

763
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 3: And he acts like it's nothing.

764
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 2: It is nothing because he's so fast.

765
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,720
Speaker 5: Last October, my boyfriend twenty two male and I twenty

766
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 5: two female, made it official after a few months of talking.

767
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 5: We went to a concert that week and I met

768
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 5: his older brother and his brother's girlfriend. They were awesome, funny, welcoming,

769
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 5: and made me feel totally at home. By the way,

770
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 5: this comes from Fuse statement twenty one eighty three, but

771
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 5: OHP says the girlfriend and I even got really close,

772
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 5: especially during a family trip to Florida this spring. We

773
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 5: spent a lot of time together and I genuinely thought

774
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 5: she was my friend. After that trip, she kind of disappeared.

775
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 5: The only time I'd hear about her was when my

776
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 5: boyfriend gave her a ride home from the bar, which

777
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,400
Speaker 5: I didn't mind. Then around May or June, she suddenly

778
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 5: quit her job, broke up with my boyfriend's brother, and

779
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 5: decided to move to Colorado. Out of nowhere, she texted

780
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,760
Speaker 5: my boyfriend asking if he wanted to move to Colorado

781
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 5: with her. He immediately sent me a screenshot without even

782
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 5: opening it. She literally said leave her and.

783
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 2: Move with me.

784
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 5: We both agreed it was super weird, and he told

785
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 5: me he wouldn't respond. A few days later, he went

786
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,359
Speaker 5: to his grandparents' house, where his brother and the ex lived,

787
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 5: and texted me that she was there packing her things.

788
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 5: He said it was awkward and that they didn't talk.

789
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 5: But about a week later I saw messages between them.

790
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 5: They were chatting casually about something random, like a haircut appointment,

791
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 5: even though he said they hadn't spoken when I asked,

792
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 5: He claimed she apologized when he saw her, which directly

793
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 5: contradicted what he told me before. We argued, then brushed

794
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 5: it off like we usually do. She eventually moved and

795
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 5: I blocked her because I was uncomfortable that she could

796
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 5: still see my life after trying to get my boyfriend

797
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 5: to leave me. Fast forward to this October, she's back

798
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 5: back with his brother living at his grandparents' house again

799
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 5: like nothing ever happened. We all went out for Halloween

800
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 5: and she completely ignored me, but still talked casually with

801
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 5: my boyfriend. It wasn't a big deal at the bar,

802
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 5: but I'm dreading Thanksgiving and Christmas, where we'll all be together.

803
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 5: I've tried to talk to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable

804
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 5: this makes me. I even asked him to just acknowledge

805
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 5: how weird this in is and maybe stand up for

806
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 5: me a little, but he just rolled his eyes, rubbed

807
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 5: his head, and said he had a headache. Aside from this,

808
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 5: our relationship is genuinely great. We live together, we love

809
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 5: each other, and we work well as a team. But

810
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 5: he's very non confrontational and I'm not. I don't want

811
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 5: to cause family drama, but I also don't want to

812
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 5: feel disrespected or brushed off.

813
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 3: What do you guys think?

814
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,919
Speaker 5: Update? I sent my boyfriend a text today. He works

815
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 5: out of town during the week, and if you look

816
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 5: in the comments on this original post, there are already

817
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 5: two detailed updates. But here's the final, organized version of

818
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 5: what happened and how.

819
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 3: We resolved it nice.

820
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 5: I expressed to him that I was really uncomfortable with

821
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 5: how everyone involved him, his brother, the family wanted to

822
00:38:56,600 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 5: act like nothing ever happened. That goes completely ag against

823
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 5: how I handled conflict and relationships. We argued, and I

824
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 5: had to call him out on a few things he

825
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 5: was doing in the moment, putting down my feelings, trying

826
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:08,879
Speaker 5: to control.

827
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:09,680
Speaker 3: The narrative, et cetera.

828
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 5: I won't go into those details here, but yes, a

829
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 5: lot of you would have called those red flags.

830
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: I tried really.

831
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 5: Hard to stay calm, keep my footing, and advocate for

832
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 5: myself while still communicating clearly. After what felt like a

833
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 5: breakup level fight, I finally got some key context that

834
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 5: he hadn't told me before. His whole family did know

835
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 5: what the brothers ex said, but they dismissed it because

836
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 5: she and meel like that. Apparently, she had also asked

837
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 5: the rest of the family to move with her too.

838
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,720
Speaker 5: I can understand their angle, but she told them directly

839
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 5: leave out, I'll come with me, after he had already

840
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 5: told her, no, that's not harmless. The missing piece was Monday,

841
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 5: when I brought all this up to him that day,

842
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 5: and he just nodded and said his head er. He

843
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 5: apparently messaged her the next day and told her I

844
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 5: deserved an apology. It took a lot of digging and

845
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 5: asking the right questions to figure out when and what

846
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 5: was said, but here's the summarized version of his explanation.

847
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 5: He told me, she asked if I wanted to go

848
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 5: to this tailgate thing, and I said gee. Then I

849
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 5: told her you would like an apology for what you said,

850
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 5: and she asked for you, and I told her. She

851
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 5: said she understood. My response to him was that I

852
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 5: appreciated him bringing it up, but he didn't set a

853
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 5: very strong or clear stance, especially saying she she in

854
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 5: life before even mentioning my feelings. That gave the impression

855
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:40,240
Speaker 5: he was interested, but the old lady's mad. I wasn't rude,

856
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 5: but I was honest. Then I said a very clear

857
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 5: and firm boundary. He's not hanging out with her without

858
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 5: me until she acknowledges what she said. I'm not hanging

859
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 5: out with her again until she acknowledges it either.

860
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 2: He was just hanging out all Why is anyone hanging

861
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 2: out with this? He is like bringing like a rabid

862
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 2: doberman into your house and being like, well, who's gonna

863
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 2: walk the dog next. Yeah, you're clearly keeping the dog around.

864
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 2: We hid, would we get out of it. It's a

865
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 2: rabbid Doberman, it's a rabid domerin. We got we don't.

866
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 2: No one should walk that dog.

867
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 5: It's like if instead in Old Yeller of putting down

868
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 5: the dog, and they just keep it around and they're

869
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:22,360
Speaker 5: like old Yellow.

870
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 2: And it keeps getting into hijinks and biting people. He

871
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 2: gives the whole family rabies, and they're like, this was

872
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 2: the best plan. I didn't. I never liked water anyway.

873
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:33,319
Speaker 5: I'm hydrophobic, man.

874
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 2: I've always been afraid of water. That's why I stink.

875
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 5: If he chooses to go see her without me before

876
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 5: that happens, that will be a much bigger issue with

877
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 5: real consequences. He didn't disagree, didn't push back and acknowledge

878
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 5: the boundary. So that's where we left it. Not the

879
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 5: dramatic ending many of you probably hoped for, but it's

880
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 5: the resolution we landed on. If this boundary isn't respected,

881
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 5: then I'll be taking a lot more of the advice

882
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 5: you all gave and ending it before I fall further

883
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 5: into a situation that I don't even believe should exist.

884
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 5: Update two, So I brought everything back up again today.

885
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 5: A lot of the comments said it wasn't fully resolved,

886
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:13,840
Speaker 5: that I was waiting on the inevitable, or that something

887
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 5: still felt off, And honestly, thank you. These comments made

888
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 5: me think harder about what I actually needed to know

889
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 5: and what I actually wanted from all of this. It

890
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 5: wasn't resolved the first time, So yes, we talked again today.

891
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 5: I was more direct, asked the right questions, and actually

892
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 5: addressed what I needed from him, and this time we

893
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,879
Speaker 5: got somewhere. We both agreed on how to move forward.

894
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 5: These are some of the messages he sent that were

895
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 5: exactly what I needed. I understand, I truly do. I'm

896
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:45,960
Speaker 5: sorry I didn't do anything sooner. Yeah, I get I

897
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 5: should have done something and she was close, but not anymore.

898
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 5: That's my brother's girlfriend, not my friend anymore, and you

899
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 5: have my full support going forward. And then he continues it,

900
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 5: I think you let her do her thing. If she

901
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 5: doesn't apologize, and people question what's wrong, we tell them,

902
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 5: but I don't know.

903
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 2: I love you MUCHO.

904
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 5: I think most people would argue it is weird. His

905
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 5: brother's girlfriend felt comfortable telling him to leave me and

906
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 5: move out of state with her to work oil field. Wait,

907
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 5: whoa hold on?

908
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 4: Now?

909
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 2: Hold on now oilfield. She's a blue collar provider.

910
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:25,880
Speaker 5: She texted him, She's like, hey, leave your girlfriend and

911
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 5: we can frack.

912
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 2: And he was like, did you need to say f

913
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 2: And she's like, no, I'm working for Dick Cheney. God

914
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 2: rest his soul.

915
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, She's like, I met fracking.

916
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 6: There's a new there's a new position open at Halliburton.

917
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 6: I'm trying to be the CEO.

918
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I was trying to be

919
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 2: the executive. I own to operator. She's d I want

920
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 2: to whisper in Bush Bush's ear. Yes, I would love

921
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 2: you to whisper in the ear of Bush. Oh Man,

922
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,359
Speaker 2: she's down to frack, dude, She's down to frack.

923
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 5: She's down a frag And most people would argue I

924
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 5: shouldn't be comfortable with him having contact with her at

925
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 5: all after that, But I'm willing to accept it and

926
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 5: move on like everyone else if I get bare minimum

927
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 5: acknowledgement that he was inappropriate and disrespectful from the person

928
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 5: who disrespected me in the first place, her because it

929
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 5: was wrong. Thank you to everyone who encouraged me to

930
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 5: ask the right questions and not just settle for confusion

931
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 5: if anything goes down to Thanksgiving an update, but honestly,

932
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 5: I doubt there will be drama. Now I doubt that.

933
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:29,600
Speaker 2: I doubt that as will.

934
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 5: I honestly don't think I'll get the acknowledgment I want

935
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 5: from her. However, I'm happy with my partner. This was

936
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 5: exactly what I needed and I won't be diving into

937
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:39,280
Speaker 5: tons of comments.

938
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 2: Thank you, And that's the end of this story. Let's

939
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 2: head to the next one.

940
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 5: I saved a neighbor from the fire and this made

941
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 5: my girlfriend upset.

942
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: Is your girlfriend an arsonist?

943
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 5: This weekend, I thirty one mail was staying over at

944
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 5: my girlfriend's thirty four female apartment. It is a single

945
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 5: house into two apartments. Around eight am, I smelled bacon

946
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 5: and went downstairs to see if she was cooking some.

947
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 5: She had just bought a quarter pig from a local farmer,

948
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:11,720
Speaker 5: so I was really open this was some of the bacon.

949
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 5: Sadly it wasn't and must have been the adjoining apartment

950
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:18,320
Speaker 5: next door. By the way, this comes from good Smaritan

951
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 5: Ba and EPI says about eleven am, we heard an

952
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 5: alarm going off next door, and didn't think much of it.

953
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 5: The neighbor, a man in his twenties, is always around

954
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 5: at odd hours and staying up late, so my girlfriend

955
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 5: and I just thought it was him sleeping through his

956
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 5: alarm clock. Shortly after I got up to do some

957
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,800
Speaker 5: laundry and smelled smoke, I realized the alarm was not

958
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 5: an alarm clock, but the smoke detector going off for

959
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 5: the last five to ten minutes.

960
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 2: I would have just realized that from the sweet smell

961
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 2: of burning. His best dess what I'm saying.

962
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 5: I think I would have been like, oh, something's burning.

963
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 5: Oh the beeping a probably you know what. I probably

964
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 5: would have connected it sooner than you, guys.

965
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 2: I love the smell of burning fiberglass insulation.

966
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 5: I immediately ran around the house to the side door

967
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 5: leading to the other apartment to see if I could

968
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 5: get in through the window. I could see smoke and

969
00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 5: also someone in the other room passed out on the couch.

970
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:14,320
Speaker 2: Maybe this is just how they sleep, guys.

971
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 5: No, it wouldn't be like a carbon on an oxide

972
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:20,280
Speaker 5: alarm because it's you smell smoke. So I tried banging

973
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,760
Speaker 5: on the door to wake the neighbor, but he didn't budge.

974
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 5: I am a locksmith and had my picks on me.

975
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 4: Let's go.

976
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:28,239
Speaker 2: You always gotta have the picks on you.

977
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 5: Random superhero moment.

978
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 2: This guy's this guy is lockman, this guy's a man

979
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 2: of many hats.

980
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:37,760
Speaker 4: But could not get it quickly.

981
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 5: I ran to the front door and thankfully it was locked. Unlocked.

982
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 5: I walked inside, ignored the neighbor on the couch, and

983
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 5: followed the smoke. It turned out the bake and I

984
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 5: had smelled at eight am, along with a giant omelet,

985
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 5: were both on the stove burning Three hours later. I

986
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 5: turned off both burners, took care of the burnt food,

987
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 5: and then went on to check on the neighbor. The

988
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 5: neighbor was out, but otherwise okay. I let him be

989
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 5: and went back to my girlfriend's apartment. The neighbor woke

990
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 5: up fifteen minutes later and we could hear him moving

991
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 5: around just fine. He never came over to say thank you.

992
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:12,440
Speaker 5: The messy part is that, since I'm a locksmith, I

993
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:14,919
Speaker 5: know what I did could be considered breaking and entering

994
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 5: or trespassing.

995
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:18,240
Speaker 3: Are you like stupid?

996
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 2: Nah, dude, you've got qualified immunity. You're a lock picker

997
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 2: and you have picks on you, You're fine.

998
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 5: I am pretty sure this would be covered by Good

999
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,800
Speaker 5: Samaritan laws, but I wanted to avoid it becoming a problem.

1000
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:29,839
Speaker 5: It would be very hard to keep my job as

1001
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 5: a locksmith if I had either of those charges on

1002
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 5: my record.

1003
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,919
Speaker 2: Why are you what? Dude? Who are you think? He's

1004
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 2: done other things that could have arrested So that's why

1005
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 2: he's so afraid of the law.

1006
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 5: This is strange. Later that day, I left my girlfriends

1007
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 5: and file the police report to cover my butt just

1008
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 5: in case. Last night, I was at the brewery with

1009
00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 5: my girlfriend and she had planned to drive us back

1010
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 5: to her place, where my vehicle was. I told her

1011
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 5: about filing the police report, and she immediately got visibly

1012
00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 5: upset and left the brewery without me. Shortly after, I

1013
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 5: ended up having to take a cab home and went

1014
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:04,800
Speaker 5: back to my vehicle at her place. This morning, my

1015
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 5: girlfriend is now telling me we need to have a

1016
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 5: talk tonight, and is otherwise giving me a cold shoulder.

1017
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 5: I can only assume she's upset that I filed the

1018
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,720
Speaker 5: police report, and the neighbor or landlord might get upset.

1019
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 2: Who are you people? This is like a real like

1020
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 2: you are you people? You're the snitch and the criminal.

1021
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 5: My question is how I can talk to her to

1022
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 5: help her understand that what I did was to protect

1023
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 5: myself and my livelihood. Also, if anyone can help me

1024
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 5: understand why she's so upset about this, I would appreciate it.

1025
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 5: And most people are just saying, why would she think

1026
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:36,760
Speaker 5: that you're wrong?

1027
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 2: Because you might go to jail? Now. I think she's

1028
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: more like, why did you file a police report proactively?

1029
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 1: Right?

1030
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:46,359
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1031
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 2: Why would you do that?

1032
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1033
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 6: You're like, man, I think I might have done something wrong.

1034
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:54,479
Speaker 6: Let me turn myself into the police and maybe lose

1035
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:57,359
Speaker 6: my life? Is this your livelihood? Are you a lock

1036
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 6: pick by trade?

1037
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 5: All of this would have been solved if you had

1038
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 5: just woken him up and said, hey, your house was

1039
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 5: on fire. I put it out.

1040
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 2: Are you okay? She's waking up, real gentle, Hey.

1041
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:13,120
Speaker 3: Hey your house is on wicky waky hi.

1042
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to bother you, but your house is

1043
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 2: on fire.

1044
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 5: Your house is on fire. So it asks is this

1045
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 5: usual uh or unusual behavior for her?

1046
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:22,799
Speaker 4: Hope?

1047
00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 5: He says, this is a good question. Normally she studies

1048
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 5: a rock lately, though she has been less so. Two

1049
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 5: weekends ago, she stormed out in the middle of our

1050
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 5: weekly friends game, Cookie Night. She came back later and apologized,

1051
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:37,720
Speaker 5: but still, why did she This guy doesn't ask questions,

1052
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,480
Speaker 5: no question, This guy doesn't ask anyone questions.

1053
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 2: He's just like, well, heck, have I know? He just

1054
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: takes action. He's a man of action. Unfortunately they're usually

1055
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 2: the wrong action.

1056
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 3: Yes.

1057
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 5: Update, Wow, so we just broke up. We talked of

1058
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,400
Speaker 5: her about fifteen minutes on the phone, and she accused

1059
00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:59,240
Speaker 5: me of not taking her feelings into account for contacts.

1060
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 5: We started dating off and on last summer, and finally

1061
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 5: became a couple at Thanksgiving. Here's the bombshell. We are

1062
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 5: scheduled to leave on an already paid for vacation to

1063
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:12,240
Speaker 5: the Caribbean for a week together in just over two weeks.

1064
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,839
Speaker 5: We talked briefly on the phone and decided it would

1065
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 5: be best to give each other some time and not

1066
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 5: talk about it just yet. I would love some help

1067
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 5: and feedback. The relationship may not be repaarable at this point,

1068
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 5: but I still think she's an amazing girl and I

1069
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 5: want to see how much damage control I can do

1070
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 5: to prevent this from being worse for either of us

1071
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 5: than it needs to be. Opie on the conversation with

1072
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 5: his girlfriend or ex girlfriend. The conversation went like this, her,

1073
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 5: you don't respect my feelings, and I'm done, at which

1074
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 5: point I talked to her for the remaining fourteen and

1075
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 5: a half minutes about why she would get that impression,

1076
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,840
Speaker 5: and trying to explain that my actions weren't meant to

1077
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 5: be selfish, unnecessary that There was a little back and

1078
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 5: forth during that time, but her argument felt to me

1079
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:00,800
Speaker 5: like it had too many holes to be everything. Like

1080
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 5: many others said, I think she was just looking for

1081
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 5: a way out.

1082
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 2: Cheating. Morning after the.

1083
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:11,799
Speaker 5: Update, after some social lublicant and talking to a lot

1084
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,279
Speaker 5: of random people on here and at the brewery last night,

1085
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 5: I have come to a conclusion, even if there was

1086
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 5: more going on, Like many people have surmised, the relationship

1087
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:21,520
Speaker 5: is over.

1088
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 2: Smart.

1089
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 5: There is no point in holding on to it and

1090
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 5: letting it get to me. Today is a new day.

1091
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 5: I'm gonna make it a good one and not look back.

1092
00:51:30,040 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 2: Why edit, I'm.

1093
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 5: Sitting with a close friend who told me since Thanksgiving.

1094
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,279
Speaker 2: You could tell things weren't sane good.

1095
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 5: This is the same person who said she made me

1096
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 5: a better person and was a big part of why

1097
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 5: I dated her. I feel like I was blind to

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00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,759
Speaker 5: what was really going on and didn't truly see this

1099
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:50,360
Speaker 5: as either an excuse or the start that broke the

1100
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 5: camel's back kind of situation.

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Speaker 3: And update two.

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00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 5: Since we broke up, we haven't talked much, but agreed

1103
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 5: to discuss how to handle the Caribbean vacation tomorrow. Oh,

1104
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 5: that won't be happening tonight. I get an email that

1105
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:02,720
Speaker 5: she canceled my flight.

1106
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:03,200
Speaker 4: Oh.

1107
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 5: I started digging and found out she's going on the

1108
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 5: vacation with her ex fiance.

1109
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 2: Oh, you guys called it.

1110
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 5: There was more going on. I'm cutting all contact with

1111
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 5: her so I can have a clean break and move

1112
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:15,640
Speaker 5: on to the next part of my life. By the way,

1113
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:17,919
Speaker 5: anyone know a fun place to travel with my flight?

1114
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 5: Thatcher from the canceled ticket, I'm in the US.

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Speaker 2: First, my wife mocked me for forgiving her until I

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Speaker 2: served her with divorce papers.

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Speaker 4: Then I ate the divorce papers and now.

1121
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Speaker 2: There's nothing you can do a bit more than a

1122
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 2: year's gone by, and through lots of self reflection and therapy,

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Speaker 2: I finally built the courage to walk away from my

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Speaker 2: Okay storytime subrendet. I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, and we are

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Speaker 2: here to give you good advice goof, But we don't

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Speaker 2: have all the answers. We only know what we would do,

1130
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Speaker 2: So if you would do something different, let us know

1131
00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 2: in the comments. As Op says, uh, this is a

1132
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 2: very weird feeling, one I really don't know how to

1133
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 2: fully describe. I'm optimistic and scared, calm and anxious, happy

1134
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 2: and sad. My fitbit says my heart rates around eighty

1135
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: beats per minute, which is about ten beats higher than usual.

1136
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 2: Your heart beat is only seventy beats per minute, dude,

1137
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 2: what's so low? What are your metrics set mean? That's

1138
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 2: not low? That's about normal, right. So I decided to

1139
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 2: write this as a reminder not to give in. I

1140
00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,480
Speaker 2: thought making a list of all the things I've had

1141
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 2: to deal with over the thirteen years we've been together,

1142
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 2: married for almost eight might keep me on track if

1143
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 2: I get weak at any point in the future. So

1144
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 2: here's why I'm leaving. She's a heavy drinker. She gets obnoxious, verbally,

1145
00:53:56,280 --> 00:54:00,120
Speaker 2: harmful and violent when she drinks. Well, that's terrible. He

1146
00:54:00,239 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 2: cheated on me with an employee at work. They did

1147
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:05,759
Speaker 2: the spicy sleep at work during working hours, not to

1148
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:09,760
Speaker 2: mention the hotels they booked. After I forgave her for cheating,

1149
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 2: Bet you won't make that mistake again, I discovered she

1150
00:54:13,320 --> 00:54:15,919
Speaker 2: had booked a hotel in August twenty twenty one during

1151
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:19,120
Speaker 2: a night I was away. Once confronted, she denied and

1152
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:22,399
Speaker 2: gas lit me. A week after I left to stay

1153
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 2: with family, she finally admitted to sleeping with the same

1154
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 2: coworker again. The one time she agreed to put a

1155
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 2: tracker on her phone, I discovered she had left it

1156
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 2: at her friend's house and had her friend text me

1157
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,359
Speaker 2: pretending to be her. So after finally agreeing to start

1158
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 2: a new job and block this guy on her phone

1159
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:42,279
Speaker 2: an email, I discovered she was hiding a second cell

1160
00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 2: phone and communicating with him through that device. Instead. And

1161
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 2: this is where we should have learned the lesson that

1162
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:48,840
Speaker 2: this woman's not going to change, and we should have

1163
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:52,920
Speaker 2: left her before. One night, on a night she claims

1164
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 2: she wanted time to herself, she secretly met up with

1165
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 2: him for dinner. The same night she stayed at a hotel. Luckily,

1166
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,399
Speaker 2: we have no kids. I can sell the house, make

1167
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 2: my money, and move on without any strings attached. Thank god.

1168
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:09,879
Speaker 2: She doesn't know she's being served today. Boom. But two

1169
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 2: days ago I told her I was pursuing divorce. She

1170
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 2: love bombed me and promised she would make changes. I'm sure, yeah,

1171
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 2: and we knew better, right right, right right? Well yeah,

1172
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 2: because papers, let's go. I rejected all her attempts. A

1173
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 2: lot of this really only came about in the last

1174
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 2: year and a half. That's a long time. Brother. She

1175
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 2: had a drinking problem, but was always self aware and

1176
00:55:37,560 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 2: worked hard to overcome it. She went a long time

1177
00:55:40,960 --> 00:55:44,840
Speaker 2: without touching a drink. She was sweet, kind and nurturing

1178
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 2: for years. Once the affair started, she seemed to lean

1179
00:55:48,680 --> 00:55:51,879
Speaker 2: into all of her negative behavior, and I just kept

1180
00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 2: giving her chance after chance. Now she's used up all

1181
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:59,320
Speaker 2: of her chances. I'm moving my stuff to my father's

1182
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 2: house today, so I can bail and stay there if

1183
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 2: all else fails. And there is an update.

1184
00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 4: Wow, well, well, well, you've got everything in place and

1185
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 4: said to be going. It sounds like.

1186
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,879
Speaker 2: You've got it. You've got it moving. Yeah, you've got motion,

1187
00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 2: You've got plans, you've got contingencies. Stay strong. Update. I

1188
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 2: finally left my wife and served her with divorce papers.

1189
00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 2: It feels good to get over that initial hump, but

1190
00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 2: I know the road ahead is still lengthy. Despite all

1191
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 2: the rough spots this past weekend, I'm feeling empowered that

1192
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:33,879
Speaker 2: I'm taking control of my life again. She came home

1193
00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 2: from work, visibly upset and unstable, but trying her best

1194
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 2: to pretend nothing happened. She denied ever being served the papers,

1195
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,360
Speaker 2: and took note of things of mine that were missing.

1196
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:46,520
Speaker 2: She demanded I put everything back, that she was going

1197
00:56:46,560 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 2: out with a friend, and that I had better be

1198
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 2: home when she gets back. Insane of her to make

1199
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 2: demands of you. That's wild, Like you better be home

1200
00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:57,919
Speaker 2: when I get back.

1201
00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:01,520
Speaker 4: Girl, you just got served of vorse papers and you're

1202
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 4: going out with your friend.

1203
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 2: Delulu. The Delulu is strong.

1204
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:07,880
Speaker 4: We're in the land of the Lulu.

1205
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 2: After she left, I packed up the car and went

1206
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 2: to my father's house. I did not feel safe with

1207
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:16,920
Speaker 2: her the way she was acting. The ring doorbell captured

1208
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,919
Speaker 2: her returning home a little after ten pm. Then around

1209
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 2: eleven thirty pm, it captured her again in one of

1210
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 2: the strangest ways I have ever seen her behave. She

1211
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 2: walked out of the front door and stood in the

1212
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 2: driveway for a moment, and then began dancing and singing

1213
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 2: the chorus of The Boy Is Mine by Brandy and Monica.

1214
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 2: After singing the chorus and a couple more verses, she

1215
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 2: walked back up the front stoop and tried to tear

1216
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 2: the ring doorbell out, but she was unsuccessful and walked

1217
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 2: back into the house. She was obviously wasted, and I

1218
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 2: was very satisfied with my decision to leave. I saved

1219
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:53,920
Speaker 2: the video and sent it to my attorney. On Saturday morning,

1220
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:56,000
Speaker 2: her friend picked her up at five am for a

1221
00:57:56,120 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 2: day trip. I went home and checked the house. Luckily,

1222
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 2: everything seemed all right. She came home in the early

1223
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 2: evening and still pretended everything was fine. I ignored her

1224
00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:10,600
Speaker 2: and stayed to myself on the couch. Eventually, she came

1225
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:14,160
Speaker 2: and sat down admitted to receiving the papers, then unleashed

1226
00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 2: different tactics on me to get me to drop the divorce,

1227
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 2: like eating the divorce papers. If you eat the divorce papers, legally,

1228
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 2: there's nothing.

1229
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 4: You can do, no more divorce.

1230
00:58:24,000 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 2: If you can prove that you ate it and swallowed it,

1231
00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 2: it no longer exists. It nullifies. So she threatened, mocked, begged, negotiated, pleaded,

1232
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 2: love bombed, and gilted me over the course of two

1233
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 2: to three hours. I held firm, laid out my case

1234
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 2: that I was unhappy and wanted out, that I was

1235
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 2: tired of being mistreated, lied to, and emotionally tortured. Surprisingly,

1236
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 2: she admitted to enjoying treating me the way that she has.

1237
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:53,680
Speaker 2: I hope this is on record. I hope this is recorded.

1238
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:57,880
Speaker 2: Every time I stayed with her and endured it evidently

1239
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:01,040
Speaker 2: showed her how much I loved her. I quickly pointed

1240
00:59:01,080 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 2: out the dysfunction in that, which she brushed off, asserting

1241
00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 2: that she will never sign any divorce papers. Things have

1242
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 2: calmed down. There's obvious tension in the house, but we

1243
00:59:11,680 --> 00:59:15,680
Speaker 2: are coexisting and keeping things cordial. My attorney advised that

1244
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:18,360
Speaker 2: once all her tactics fail and she realizes the divorce

1245
00:59:18,440 --> 00:59:21,360
Speaker 2: isn't going to stop, she'll turn to rage and go

1246
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 2: on the attack. I'm preparing for that next and there's

1247
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 2: another update where I think we'll probably get all of

1248
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:32,760
Speaker 2: the details of this attack. Yi uh yeah.

1249
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:35,440
Speaker 4: I mean, you know your wife very well. It seems

1250
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 4: so you've had everything in place that you need to

1251
00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 4: have in place.

1252
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 2: I wonder what happens if you go through divorce and

1253
00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 2: one person is just completely unwilling to sign the papers,

1254
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 2: Like what happens there? Like, do you have to prove

1255
00:59:46,440 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 2: in court that like this person is just like belligerent

1256
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 2: and like refuses to cooperate and that for all intents

1257
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:55,520
Speaker 2: and purposes, the marriage is no longer existing. Yeah.

1258
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 4: I feel like there'd be some sort of court or

1259
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 4: like Judge watched thing where they go, okay, sign the

1260
01:00:01,040 --> 01:00:04,960
Speaker 4: papers now, and then she goes no, I bet what, No,

1261
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:07,120
Speaker 4: you gotta sign the papers now. She goes no, and

1262
01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 4: they go okay, So the papers are signed now.

1263
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:11,800
Speaker 2: I think maybe once as soon as she realizes that

1264
01:00:11,880 --> 01:00:14,720
Speaker 2: if she doesn't do this, she probably gets no assets

1265
01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 2: or no consideration whatsoever in the divorce, she'll sprint to

1266
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:21,680
Speaker 2: the first pen she can find and sign the divorce

1267
01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 2: papers with much gusto. Update number two. I took the

1268
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:30,880
Speaker 2: advice of everyone, my therapist and my attorney, and left

1269
01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:34,000
Speaker 2: the house. I was hopeful we could coexist, but there

1270
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: was a night where things escalated and I knew it

1271
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 2: wouldn't be possible. Brother, you should have known that way earlier.

1272
01:00:40,200 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 2: I was staying in the guest bedroom. One night. She

1273
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 2: knocked on my door lightly. I answered to find her

1274
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 2: in tears as she offered an apology. I thanked her

1275
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 2: and asked that she leave me b After closing the door,

1276
01:00:52,440 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 2: she unleashed a fury of vulgarities at me on the

1277
01:00:55,240 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 2: other side. Then she went downstairs and continued her tiradeing

1278
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 2: a hole I heard over and over among many insults

1279
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:05,040
Speaker 2: to me and my family.

1280
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:07,800
Speaker 4: Oh, Pee, don't you know once the door is closed,

1281
01:01:07,880 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 4: you can't hear through doors.

1282
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:11,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

1283
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 4: She's nuts.

1284
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 2: I think she really expected to just have everything fixed

1285
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 2: by apologizing, which is already empty because she's a liar.

1286
01:01:21,400 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 4: And took her pants. They're probably on fire.

1287
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:28,000
Speaker 2: You had done married a scoundrel. I sat in the

1288
01:01:28,080 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 2: room above her, hoping she would stop. She eventually did.

1289
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:34,040
Speaker 2: That night, I slept with the door barricaded and made

1290
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 2: the decision to leave the next day. Once she left

1291
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:39,480
Speaker 2: for work, I began packing the rest of my things.

1292
01:01:40,040 --> 01:01:42,479
Speaker 2: I work from home, so I had time before work

1293
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 2: and during my lunch break to pack up my car.

1294
01:01:46,360 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 2: After work was done, I jumped in my car with

1295
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 2: one of the cats and went to my father's, where

1296
01:01:51,280 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 2: I have been since.

1297
01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:54,400
Speaker 4: Just one of the cats.

1298
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 2: Take take all of the cats, all the cats, please.

1299
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:02,400
Speaker 2: It is here at my father's. Cleaning out one of

1300
01:02:02,440 --> 01:02:04,680
Speaker 2: the bedrooms upstairs and buying a new furniture has been

1301
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:08,040
Speaker 2: a fun project. For as long as I have been married.

1302
01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:10,680
Speaker 2: I have always wanted a gaming room, and that's what

1303
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 2: I've been working on. I even bought myself a new

1304
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 2: bed with an adjustable base. I wanted to be comfortable

1305
01:02:16,360 --> 01:02:19,640
Speaker 2: and excited about where I'm living. There has been some

1306
01:02:19,800 --> 01:02:23,440
Speaker 2: communication between us, but very little. Since my wife does

1307
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:25,520
Speaker 2: not clean or know how to take care of the house,

1308
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 2: I've been visiting on weekends to check on things. Her

1309
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:32,520
Speaker 2: tone has definitely changed. She has been begging me to

1310
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 2: call off the divorce, taking ownership of all things wrong

1311
01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:39,080
Speaker 2: with the marriage, and swearing that she called everything off

1312
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:41,280
Speaker 2: with the guy she had an affair with Oh, just

1313
01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 2: like you swore for the last three times, I gave

1314
01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 2: you a second chance. Yeah.

1315
01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 4: She finally realized he's not coming back this time.

1316
01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and please do not do not, op continues. I'm

1317
01:02:52,560 --> 01:02:55,360
Speaker 2: not buying it. I know this version of my wife,

1318
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 2: as I have seen it many times. Once the dust settles,

1319
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 2: she will revert back to her old toxic habits. I

1320
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:04,439
Speaker 2: saw her last Sunday when I stopped at the house.

1321
01:03:04,920 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 2: The place is a mess, with empty bottles of wine

1322
01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:11,480
Speaker 2: scattered around. After I arrived, she went into the bathroom

1323
01:03:11,600 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 2: to throw up quite loudly. She came out and said

1324
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:18,560
Speaker 2: she was hung over. I maintained the gray rock method

1325
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 2: and didn't engage, which only fueled her sorrow further. You

1326
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 2: don't even care, she said a few times, while holding

1327
01:03:25,720 --> 01:03:28,040
Speaker 2: back tears, clearly trying to bait me. It makes me

1328
01:03:28,160 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 2: sad to see her like this, but I also lost

1329
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 2: my motivation to help her, mainly because I realized there

1330
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:36,840
Speaker 2: is nothing I can do for her anymore. Coming to

1331
01:03:36,960 --> 01:03:40,760
Speaker 2: terms with that really does feel refreshing. I first found

1332
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 2: out she was cheating in April twenty twenty one, then

1333
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:46,360
Speaker 2: found out she cheated again in August that same year.

1334
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:50,240
Speaker 2: For many that would have been enough, but I still stayed.

1335
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:53,200
Speaker 2: As my therapist said to me a year ago, I

1336
01:03:53,360 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 2: wasn't ready to walk away, and I am now. I

1337
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,680
Speaker 2: needed to see this through and confirm that the problem

1338
01:03:58,800 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 2: was not me. The problem is entirely her, and there

1339
01:04:02,720 --> 01:04:05,440
Speaker 2: is nothing I can do about it. My options are

1340
01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:09,240
Speaker 2: to endure perpetual heartbreak or leave. I chose to leave

1341
01:04:09,760 --> 01:04:12,080
Speaker 2: a year ago. I did not realize those were the

1342
01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:15,240
Speaker 2: only cards on the table. This is my decision. I

1343
01:04:15,360 --> 01:04:18,320
Speaker 2: am owning it, and I am improving my life little

1344
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 2: by little. I'm pursuing all the things I had put

1345
01:04:21,840 --> 01:04:24,919
Speaker 2: off for a long time. I'm making a gaming room,

1346
01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:28,120
Speaker 2: I'm exercising a lot. A few years ago, I wrote

1347
01:04:28,120 --> 01:04:31,240
Speaker 2: a book but never pursued being published. I had another

1348
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:33,520
Speaker 2: book I wanted to write, and I'm pleased to say

1349
01:04:33,640 --> 01:04:36,440
Speaker 2: that I have begun writing it. All these things I

1350
01:04:36,480 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 2: had put aside for years and made my marriage a priority.

1351
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:43,360
Speaker 2: It's so incredibly refreshing to finally indulge in my own interests.

1352
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 2: My father's house has a lot of meaning to my family.

1353
01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:49,919
Speaker 2: My grandfather came here from Portugal when he was young

1354
01:04:50,080 --> 01:04:52,960
Speaker 2: and purchased the property. He grew up living off the

1355
01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 2: land and growing his own food. If he didn't do that,

1356
01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:58,880
Speaker 2: he didn't eat. So when he came here, he purchased

1357
01:04:58,880 --> 01:05:01,560
Speaker 2: a large piece of land, build a house, built a

1358
01:05:01,600 --> 01:05:05,120
Speaker 2: barn in the backyard, planted crops and an orchard. This

1359
01:05:05,240 --> 01:05:09,960
Speaker 2: house represented hope for a brighter future. He had horses, cows, goats, chickens,

1360
01:05:10,040 --> 01:05:13,400
Speaker 2: the whole deal. As my father and his siblings grew up,

1361
01:05:13,600 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 2: the land became less populated by livestock and more a

1362
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 2: representation of family and freedom. When I was born, my

1363
01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:23,560
Speaker 2: father brought me here on the weekends. He and my

1364
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:26,200
Speaker 2: mother divorced when I was only a few months old,

1365
01:05:26,640 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 2: but they remained cordial. Weekends meant being free on this

1366
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:33,560
Speaker 2: land with my dad. It was a paradise for a

1367
01:05:33,720 --> 01:05:37,000
Speaker 2: child like me. He bought me a dirt bike when

1368
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 2: I was eight or nine years old. I used to

1369
01:05:39,320 --> 01:05:42,240
Speaker 2: ride that bike all over the property. My grandmother used

1370
01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:44,440
Speaker 2: to complain that I was tearing up the grass. If

1371
01:05:44,480 --> 01:05:46,200
Speaker 2: you'd come outside as I drove by and yell at

1372
01:05:46,280 --> 01:05:49,920
Speaker 2: me to slow down, ride scoff at her, and ride faster. Uh,

1373
01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:51,760
Speaker 2: what an unruly little ten year old.

1374
01:05:51,640 --> 01:05:54,320
Speaker 3: You were you, little rescal you.

1375
01:05:55,000 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 2: There were a few nights here where my father would

1376
01:05:57,040 --> 01:05:59,280
Speaker 2: open the window to his upstairs bedroom and climb out

1377
01:05:59,320 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 2: on the roof. He'd coax me out with him, and

1378
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 2: we'd lay on our backs in the middle of the night,

1379
01:06:02,960 --> 01:06:05,320
Speaker 2: engulfed in darkness while staring up at the stars together,

1380
01:06:05,880 --> 01:06:09,040
Speaker 2: talking about traveling the universe and whether there's life someone

1381
01:06:09,080 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 2: out there that's nice. I really like where we're at.

1382
01:06:12,920 --> 01:06:14,080
Speaker 2: I think we're in a place of healing.

1383
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:16,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so too. You're doing great.

1384
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:19,760
Speaker 2: Let's finish this off. Thank goodness you didn't have kids

1385
01:06:19,760 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 2: with this person. Last night, I snuck out through that

1386
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,959
Speaker 2: same window, sat on the roof in my pajamas, looked

1387
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 2: up at the stars, and cried while pondering life. I

1388
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:32,160
Speaker 2: cried partly due to sadness, but mostly because I felt

1389
01:06:32,200 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 2: that freedom and hope I once had when I was

1390
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:37,680
Speaker 2: a kid in this house. Back then, I was always

1391
01:06:37,720 --> 01:06:40,480
Speaker 2: so incredibly eager for what would come from life. I

1392
01:06:40,560 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 2: looked forward to growing up being a good person and

1393
01:06:43,040 --> 01:06:46,200
Speaker 2: living an honest, fulfilling life. And that is the end

1394
01:06:46,240 --> 01:06:46,840
Speaker 2: of that story.

1395
01:06:47,440 --> 01:06:50,320
Speaker 4: And that's all you really can do, is is live

1396
01:06:50,440 --> 01:06:52,120
Speaker 4: your honest fulfilling life.

1397
01:06:52,400 --> 01:06:54,960
Speaker 2: Literally, we've an honest, fulfilled.

1398
01:06:56,160 --> 01:06:59,240
Speaker 4: Big old w You did what you had to do

1399
01:06:59,400 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 4: to do that good job.

1400
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 2: As they say, you gotta do well, you gotta do.

1401
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:08,960
Speaker 2: It's true, and that's the end of this story.