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We're 23 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 2: so excited to be chatting with you today. 24 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 4: Thank you for having me you so welome, thank. 25 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 2: You for joining us. So hell is life with your 26 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 2: man Joey? 27 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 4: It's fabulous. 28 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 5: You know, it's nice being able to do so many 29 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 5: amazing things and getting all these crazy opportunities. But we're 30 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 5: definitely ready for things to start slowing down. 31 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 4: In July. We have a good couple of weeks that 32 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 4: we just start going to relax. And did you hear 33 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 4: that she's. 34 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 3: Got a good couple of weeks? Come on, you guys 35 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 3: have been traveling. I followed you guys on Instagram. You 36 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 3: were in Hawaii. That looks like a dream trip. Portugal 37 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 3: A were you there for a wedding? 38 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:53,639 Speaker 4: I think yes, yeah, I onet of Joey's best friends. 39 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 3: Okay, you were at stage coach. All right, tell us 40 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 3: about your travels. 41 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 5: Yeah, we've been all over the place, a lot of 42 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 5: it and personal honestly recently, like, we've had three weddings 43 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 5: this month. So I had my cousin's wedding and then 44 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 5: two of Joey's friends weddings, one of them he was in. 45 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 5: One of them was in Portugal Hawaii. We got to 46 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 5: go with Charity, Don and Katie and. 47 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 4: Zach, which was so fun. 48 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, Joey Yeah, that's like where Joey lived was Kauwhai, 49 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 5: so it was really special for him to show us 50 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,239 Speaker 5: around and get to meet his friends on the island 51 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 5: and uh yeah that was really amazing as well. 52 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 4: And now we're in Nashville. 53 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 3: So yeah, so I want to know you've been at 54 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 3: three weddings. Did give joe any ideas. 55 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 5: Uh, like of like of like what we want to 56 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 5: do and what we don't want to do. Okay, We're 57 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 5: like don't even know where we want to have it 58 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 5: because both of our families are all over the place, 59 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 5: so it's. 60 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 4: Like we need time to even figure out like what 61 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 4: area we want to have it in. 62 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 5: But yeah, we're we feel like little talks like oh 63 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 5: we would like to do this, we want to do this, 64 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 5: but there's nothing said so yet, Charity. 65 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: Do you do it where you want. Don't try to 66 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:04,679 Speaker 1: please everybody else. It's about you and him. 67 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 3: That's true. So so, Kelsey, I know that Charity and 68 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 3: Dotton are planning their wedding, And you know, Zach and 69 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 3: Katy live near me in Austin, and I've had them 70 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 3: over and we've talked, and I know they're planning a wedding. 71 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 3: So I want to know, like, have they had any 72 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 3: like game change or any really great advice for you guys, 73 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 3: you know, anything about relationships. 74 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 4: Like planning for spending the wedding or for relationships. 75 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, all of it. Wedding planning, relationship goals. 76 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I know Katie and Zach were talking 77 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 5: to me about how they were looking at venues charity 78 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 5: and Dowton also told us a little bit about some 79 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 5: of the things that they've been doing getting ready for 80 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 5: their wedding. 81 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 4: I think that I actually sent Katie a venue that. 82 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 5: One of my friends looked at in Austin, because I 83 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 5: know that she was maybe wanting to do it somewhere 84 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 5: around there, and so I actually set her a venue 85 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 5: to go look at because one of my friends went there. 86 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 4: Is beautiful. But we haven't talked too much about it. 87 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 4: They just kind of gave me. 88 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 5: A little bit of details about what they're what they're 89 00:03:59,040 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 5: looking forward to. 90 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 3: Any relationship advice. 91 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 5: I mean I got a lot of relationship advice from 92 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 5: Katie and from Dowton whenever we were like in hiding. 93 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 5: They both are so nice and for them to reach 94 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 5: out to me and be there for me, I was 95 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 5: like I needed that so much, because it's really hard 96 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:21,720 Speaker 5: in hiding, especially whenever you know you're hiding that you're 97 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 5: engaged and you. 98 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 4: Want to tell everybody, and then everybody's. 99 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 5: Seeing all, you know, the other relationships that your partner 100 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 5: had and watching it back can be difficult. 101 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 4: But having them and their support was amazing. 102 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 2: Oh god, I love it all. I love all six 103 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 2: of you. 104 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 5: I know you guys are all friends, and I'm like, 105 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 5: because everyone, they're so amazing, they're so down to earth. 106 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 4: It's like we would be friends in real life. 107 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 5: And like, I don't think people can understand unless they 108 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 5: were on the show, like how we could all be friends. 109 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's all six of you are truly amazing couples. 110 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 3: You really are. 111 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,919 Speaker 1: Thank you, and it's living proof everybody that it does work. 112 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 2: Look how happy they are. 113 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 3: That's right. Yeah, that's right. So are you guys living together? 114 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 3: Where are you living? I know you've just traveled so much. 115 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 3: Where are you guys doing. 116 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:08,799 Speaker 5: Yeah, I've been joking that New Orleans is our closet 117 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:10,840 Speaker 5: right now because we've been traveling so much. It's like 118 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 5: we just like keep all of our clothes there and 119 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 5: then we're like moving all over the place. But like 120 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 5: I said in July, things are slowing down, so we'll 121 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 5: be able to be there more and I get to 122 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 5: show more around New Orleans. But New Orleans is our base, 123 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 5: but hopefully being in New York soon. 124 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,239 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Where in New York? Are you a galling baby? 125 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 4: Manhattan? 126 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 5: But we don't have like a area, like a neighborhood 127 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 5: set yet. But we have a couple areas that we're 128 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 5: looking into, but I'm not sure yet we have, We've 129 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:41,840 Speaker 5: been looking. But it's so hard New York because it's 130 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 5: like whenever something goes up, it gets taken immediately. 131 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 3: It's good everybody everyone there get gets apartment locators. It's 132 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 3: just what you have to do. 133 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we have someone helping us for sure. 134 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 3: Have you lived in New York, Coulsey. 135 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 4: No, I've never lived in New York. That's what I've 136 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:57,039 Speaker 4: always wanted to. 137 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 5: I don't know if it's like watching too much sex 138 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 5: in the city or what it is, but I'm like, 139 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 5: I have this dream. 140 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 4: Of living in New York. 141 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: You could you could do sex and this, and you 142 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: could be that next girl welcome down. 143 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 4: You know. 144 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 5: I just like love the hustle and bustle. I've visited 145 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 5: a lot. I have some friends that live there. But yeah, 146 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 5: I'm just really excited. I'm like, I don't care if 147 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 5: I hate it. I have to experience it, you know. 148 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 2: At once. 149 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, right, exactly. Yeah. 150 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 5: Joey is excited like too, because it's very close to Philly, 151 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 5: so it's like an hour train ride, I think. And 152 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 5: the train is amazing. We took it once from Philly 153 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 5: to New York. So we'll be able to visit his 154 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 5: sister and brother in law and dad a lot, which 155 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 5: is gonna be. 156 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 2: Really nice, nice, nice. I'm excited for you. I'm so excited. 157 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 3: Because we should go visit them in New York. 158 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 4: Go. Yeah, and Charity Dun's in Brooklyn, so now my. 159 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 3: Daughter lived in Brooklyn. They they live near where my 160 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 3: daughter lives. That's a great nice too. 161 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 4: Yeah it is. 162 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:58,279 Speaker 1: It is Brooklyn School because it has like little Italy sections, 163 00:06:58,320 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: you know, it's like where I grew up. 164 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, wow, I love it. I love it. Okay, 165 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 2: So we never know when you're going to get there, 166 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:06,720 Speaker 2: but let us know. 167 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 4: I'm sure, yes, I definitely will. 168 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 3: Okay, So we do a topic of the day, Kelsey, Yes, 169 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 3: and today we want you to join in with us. 170 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 3: Are there any taboo topics that are off limits to 171 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 3: talk about with a long term partner or do you 172 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 3: like to talk about everything? 173 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 4: I love to talk about everything. I think it's also 174 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 4: like part of my ADHD brain. It like jumps around 175 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 4: to everything. 176 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 5: But also whenever Joey and I after we got engaged, 177 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 5: I would look up like thousands of questions like to 178 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 5: ask somebody, Like there's literally like a list of like 179 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 5: a thousand questions to ask people, or like there's books, 180 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 5: you know, and we would just flip through and I just 181 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 5: be like, Oh, what's you know? All like random questions 182 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 5: that you would never think to ask somebody. 183 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 4: Yeah. 184 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 5: I love getting to know all the little things about anybody, 185 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 5: my friends, like my significant others. 186 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: So have you ever have you ever asked Joey if 187 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: he knew what his loved language was. 188 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 5: Yes, yes, he said, yeah, he said he thinks it 189 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 5: like receiving. It was like I think it was words 190 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 5: of affirmation in physical touch and then like he gives 191 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 5: it in like physical touch, And what is it? 192 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 2: You can't have all five? See? I see the same way. 193 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 2: I want all five. 194 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 4: I like that I my lovelages. All five give them 195 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 4: all to me. 196 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 2: I deserve them all, right, I'm impressed them. Some men 197 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 2: don't even know what that is. 198 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, yeah, I think maybe the Bachelor trained 199 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 5: him a little. 200 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 3: Wat What is your what is your lang? What is 201 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 3: your love language? Kelsey? 202 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 4: Giving it? Giving it? I would probably say acts of service? 203 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, for your partner, for my partner, Yeah, for anybody, 204 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 5: like I will. I love like leaving little notes or 205 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 5: little gifts. I like hiding little letters and stuff and 206 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 5: his like luggage whenever like he's going somewhere and for 207 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 5: him to find whenever he's by himself, like I like doing. 208 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,680 Speaker 1: But your love language when you're asked, what is your 209 00:08:58,679 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: love language? 210 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, like what receive? 211 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 2: How do you have love? Yeah? 212 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 5: I would say acts of service as well, honestly, like 213 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 5: I want you to think about little things intentionally and 214 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 5: do them for me without being asked, Like. 215 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 4: I don't want to ask. I want to just do 216 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 4: it for me. Oh yeah, exactly what are yours? 217 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:17,680 Speaker 2: Kathy? 218 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 3: Oh you know what that whole thing I get. As 219 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:25,119 Speaker 3: I've said you before, Susan, I get confused, I think because. 220 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 2: You want them all as well. 221 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:31,559 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're being honest. I think for me, it's touch. 222 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 3: And that's for me, it's touch, and and I think 223 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,320 Speaker 3: acts of service. For the other person, I give acts 224 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:41,960 Speaker 3: of service and and I like to receive, you know, 225 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 3: physical touch. But hey, I haven't had a date in 226 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 3: a while, so really does it matter? 227 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 2: Oh God? So are next? 228 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 1: For the other people out there looking for love? How 229 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: did you know Joey was the one? 230 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 4: I just it's funny, I explained it. Growing up. 231 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 5: My mom always told us, like, you need somebody like 232 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 5: your dad, Like the type of like person that your 233 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 5: dad is, that's the type of man that you should 234 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,680 Speaker 5: look for. And my dad is very intentional, like whatever 235 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 5: he speaks, like all his words mean so much. 236 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:29,600 Speaker 6: You can tell me your dad by the way, Yeah, yeah, yeah, 237 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 6: but it's like I feel like he's very intentional with 238 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:32,959 Speaker 6: all his words. 239 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 5: And I like realized that with Joey, Like all the 240 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 5: words that he would tell me, like they just seemed 241 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 5: so intentional and like very special like to me, and 242 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:42,440 Speaker 5: he made me. 243 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 4: Feel really special. 244 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 5: And yeah, he just reminded me a lot of the 245 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 5: way that like my dad was to my mom, the 246 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 5: way he was to me. 247 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 2: So how lacking? 248 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 3: Oh sorry, we're asking the same question. I thought is 249 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 3: that what was lacking Kelsey in your other relationships that 250 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 3: they make you feel special? 251 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 5: I think that I would have to ask ask for 252 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 5: a lot of things. I mean, it's funny. Me and 253 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 5: my girlfriends were talking the other night. Whenever we're all 254 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 5: hanging out, They're like, Kelsey, you just don't date bad guys. 255 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 5: Like all of my exes are great men. They just 256 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 5: I feel like didn't fit for me. 257 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know my question what's different about 258 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:17,640 Speaker 1: the guys you dated? 259 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 2: What is is Joey different? 260 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 4: I think Joey's different. Yeah, No, I don't think it's timing. 261 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 5: I think that Joey is different because like he continuously 262 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 5: makes me feel special like he I've never really had 263 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 5: to like ask. 264 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 4: For love, you know what I mean. I feel like 265 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 4: in previous relationships, I felt like, you. 266 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 5: Know, it kind of dwindled, and I felt like I 267 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 5: was having to like ask for things that I didn't 268 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 5: think that I should have been asking for. Good. 269 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 3: Are you friends with your exes, Kelsey? 270 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 4: I'm not friends with my exes, but I respect my exes. 271 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 5: I don't think that you should really have that, like, 272 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:49,439 Speaker 5: you know, best friendship with them. 273 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 3: Oh wait a minute, since then you've been the one 274 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 3: that says you're really good friends with all your exes 275 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 3: all of them. 276 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, but not like best friends. Yeah I'm not Christmas. Yeah. 277 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: So what dating advice, if you will, would you give 278 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: your younger self, if you had the knowledge that you 279 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: have now, would anything be different? 280 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 2: Because I think you are young, so. 281 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think that I would do anything different. 282 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:23,959 Speaker 5: Well maybe, like I think that in my early relationships, 283 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 5: I was like I loved the drama, you know, like 284 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 5: I loved like arguing and things like that. 285 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:33,199 Speaker 4: I would say, maybe don't do that, it's not cute. 286 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 3: But about you, see, we we finished each other crazy, 287 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 3: I think for me, I uh, the advice I would 288 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 3: give is just believe in yourself, you know, believe in 289 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 3: myself more than I believe in myself a lot now. 290 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 3: But when I was younger, I don't think I did 291 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 3: as much. And so that's what about you. 292 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: I second that as well as and you taught me this. 293 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 2: I read flag is a red flag. 294 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 3: It's not going to change Kelsey truly, right. 295 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 5: No, my girlfriends were all talking about our relationships like 296 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:11,679 Speaker 5: our previous relationships recently. But one of my best friends 297 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,480 Speaker 5: she told me something whenever I was like dating my 298 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 5: college boyfriend, and I was because I was like, I 299 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,000 Speaker 5: kept having these feelings like I just don't feel like 300 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,199 Speaker 5: this is it, and I was like, I feel like 301 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 5: I need to end it. And I was talking to 302 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 5: her and she was like, well, like why are. 303 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 4: You staying with him? 304 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:27,680 Speaker 5: I was like, well, he's so nice to me, Like 305 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 5: he's so nice, and she was like, you should expect 306 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 5: every man to be nice to you. That's the bare minimum. 307 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 5: And whenever she said that, I was like, oh, you're right. 308 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:36,719 Speaker 5: I was like and I ended it, literally, I think 309 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 5: that week because I was like, you're so right, like 310 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:40,560 Speaker 5: that's the bare minimum. Every man should be nice to you, 311 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 5: and then you should have like these other connections and 312 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 5: you know, things interest that are alike. 313 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 3: But yeah, I love it. Okay, So I want to 314 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:50,600 Speaker 3: get back to your dad for a minute, because when 315 00:13:50,640 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 3: we met him at your finale, of course, you know, 316 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 3: Susan elbowed away in to see if she could maybe 317 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 3: date the. 318 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,359 Speaker 2: We were emailing long before. 319 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 3: That, See what I mean, nobody gets a chance, but 320 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 3: you know he suit your dad is a super nice guy, 321 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 3: and you know, how how do I Susan obviously already 322 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 3: got it done. How do we land a guy like 323 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:16,080 Speaker 3: your dad? And and selfishly does your dad have any 324 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 3: other single friends? 325 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: So, Kelsey, how would you feel if your dad got 326 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:26,840 Speaker 1: to have a similar dating experience just like yours? 327 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:28,320 Speaker 2: Like, how would that make you feel? 328 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 5: I would fully support it. I want my dad to, 329 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 5: like get out there. I want my dad to date. 330 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 5: I think that my mom really would want him to. 331 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 5: My mom before she passed, always said like, I want 332 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 5: you to find somebody else. I want you to find 333 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 5: another love, because I think she always just knew that 334 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 5: she like before she even was six. She would always 335 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 5: say that she just knew that she was going to 336 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 5: pass before him. And she always said that, And so like, 337 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 5: I know me and all my siblings would support him 338 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 5: and want him to be happy and find a partner 339 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 5: that he can travel and do things with. 340 00:14:57,920 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 3: So so that brings up something for me because, as 341 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 3: you know, my husband passed away and my kids, my 342 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 3: sons were very very eager, you know, they want, but 343 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 3: my daughter was much more reticent about me dating and 344 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 3: finding somebody. And you know, I wonder what you would 345 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 3: say to those people that are your age too, you know, 346 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 3: sort of give their parents a break because we don't 347 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 3: want to be alone. You know, what do you think 348 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 3: about that? 349 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 5: I just I feel like my dad gave like all 350 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:35,480 Speaker 5: of us so much love, like growing up, and he 351 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 5: still does that. 352 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 4: And I just feel like my dad deserves love as well. 353 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 4: You know. 354 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:41,760 Speaker 5: I think that, you know, loving like your family is 355 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 5: different than loving like a partner. And I think that 356 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 5: like he needs like that support of like a like 357 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 5: a partner. You know that someone like that's not his kid, 358 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 5: and that's not his. 359 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 4: Brothers friend, sister in law. 360 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 5: Yeah, like his best friend, like I don't know, is 361 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 5: deserving of that. 362 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:57,320 Speaker 4: Yeah. 363 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 3: So much more that you that you feel that way, 364 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 3: because you know, I said to my kids, look and 365 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 3: I'm I can never replace your dad. Yeah, and I 366 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 3: hear you saying sort of the same thing. But I 367 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 3: deserve to be happy too. And it's amazing that you're 368 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 3: twenty five. 369 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just turned twenty six April. Thank you. 370 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 3: But it's just amazing that you have that. Are your 371 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 3: siblings in the same boat with you? 372 00:16:24,560 --> 00:16:26,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, I think that like some of my siblings, that 373 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 5: like took them a little bit longer to feel that way. 374 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 5: My dad hasn't really dated, like he kind of dated 375 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 5: like one or two ladies, but it was very like 376 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 5: kind of I don't think that he fully felt like 377 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:38,800 Speaker 5: he could date them because he always felt guilty about 378 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 5: it because he feels like, no one's going to replace 379 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 5: your mom. And it's like, we know that no one's 380 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 5: going to replace our mom, but it's going to be 381 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 5: a different love and it's going to be, you know, 382 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 5: something that you deserve that you know, we just wanted 383 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 5: to be happy and like find a best friend like 384 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 5: how he was with my mom as well. 385 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 3: That that's unbelievably perfect what you just said. 386 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 5: It is. 387 00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 2: It is all. 388 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 1: You've got a great family. I met both of your 389 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: brother your sisters. They're all beautiful people, and I think 390 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: they all encourage him. 391 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 2: I agree with. 392 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:06,400 Speaker 4: Yes, definitely. 393 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:08,280 Speaker 3: Okay, Susan, I'm gonna have to I'm gonna have to 394 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:13,439 Speaker 3: horn in then on it, so what I can go 395 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 3: younger Kelsey. The other thing that I wanted to talk 396 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:18,480 Speaker 3: to and I think I actually mentioned this to you 397 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 3: at your finale, but why would you remember you talked 398 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 3: about the butterflies coming during and that is the same 399 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:32,400 Speaker 3: thing when my husband died, yellow butterflies came and and 400 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,800 Speaker 3: you know that's I felt such a strong connection. I 401 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:41,480 Speaker 3: still do when the butterflies come. How do you how 402 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:43,919 Speaker 3: do you connect with your mom? You know? And how 403 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 3: do you find ways for Joey to connect with your mom? 404 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:49,399 Speaker 3: Which I know sounds a little strange, but you know, 405 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:53,159 Speaker 3: anyone I did, I would want them sort of to 406 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 3: know my background and be part of my family. 407 00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 4: Yeah. 408 00:17:57,600 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 5: I love telling Joey's stories about my mom, Like whenever 409 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 5: anything like reminds me of her, I love to tell 410 00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 5: him stories. I think that that's how I feel like 411 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 5: Joey kind of connects with my mom. He also got 412 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 5: me this little butterfly necklace of Valentine's Day. 413 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 4: Which is really sweet. 414 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 3: I know he's a keeper. 415 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 5: He was really sweet, but yeah, I think that I 416 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 5: think that Joey understands the type of woman my mom 417 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 5: was to me, just from like the stories and the 418 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 5: videos that I show him, and like of her just 419 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 5: dancing and making up songs and dance moves and all 420 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:34,119 Speaker 5: these things, like she was always laughing and very positive. 421 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 5: My siblings will say like that I'm like the most 422 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 5: like her in a. 423 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 4: Lot of ways. 424 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 5: I think that we all have like our little quirks 425 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 5: that are like our moms but are like our mom. 426 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,360 Speaker 5: But yeah, I definitely resemble my mom the most out 427 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:49,359 Speaker 5: of all of us too, so that's kind of it 428 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 5: feels special. 429 00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:53,440 Speaker 4: She's beautiful, She's beautiful. 430 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:54,440 Speaker 2: I love it. 431 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 3: Wow. 432 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:57,400 Speaker 1: I just love you and him together, and I think 433 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: your whole family is blessed and his family. 434 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 2: Guys, we wish nothing but the best. 435 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:02,880 Speaker 4: Thank you. 436 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:07,640 Speaker 1: So we have some fan questions to go through and 437 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 1: we give advice, and Kelsey here is going to give 438 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 1: her advice as well. 439 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,399 Speaker 2: Are you ready ready? 440 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 3: All right? 441 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:19,400 Speaker 1: This one is from Sean. He's forty four from Baton Rouge. 442 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 2: Hello, mad Rouge. 443 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:23,400 Speaker 3: That's close to close to you, that's sure. 444 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 1: Hello, ladies, I have a question. I'm looking for some 445 00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 1: advice on my wife and I have been together for 446 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: ten years, and she's eight years younger than me. We 447 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,720 Speaker 1: met when we were thirty four and twenty six, and 448 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:41,200 Speaker 1: now we're forty four and thirty six. When we met, 449 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 1: she thought she wanted kids and just said she wasn't 450 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:48,600 Speaker 1: ready yet. Now she said she isn't sure anymore about 451 00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: wanting children, but I still do. I know people can 452 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: change their mind, and she was young when we met, 453 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:58,879 Speaker 1: but this is becoming really difficult for me. As I 454 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 1: always saw myself as a dad. She is one my 455 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 1: person and we are deeply in love. So I don't 456 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: know if I need to walk away from a relationship 457 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 1: that makes me so happy, or if I can continue 458 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:17,360 Speaker 1: in our marriage and let go of the resentment. I 459 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 1: know this is a difficult situation, so any advice is welcome. 460 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 2: Thank you for your wisdom. 461 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:26,159 Speaker 3: Wow, Kelsey, we didn't say this was going to be easy. 462 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:27,880 Speaker 3: We were just y'all. 463 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 2: Your first one is. 464 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:33,359 Speaker 3: Okay. We can ask you that question, Susan, I can answer. 465 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 3: You can tell us how we have beautiful hair, can 466 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 3: get beautiful hair? 467 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:39,960 Speaker 4: No, I don't know how would I answered that. 468 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 5: I feel like that's so hard because you you know, 469 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 5: I feel like he's always going to think of like 470 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 5: the what if of like, oh what if I didn't like, 471 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 5: what if I had kids? 472 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 4: What if? Whatever? 473 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,480 Speaker 2: That's hard, But it's his. 474 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:54,040 Speaker 4: But if it's your person, you know, then how dare 475 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 4: you walk away? No? 476 00:20:55,119 --> 00:21:00,400 Speaker 3: You just yeah, Oh, guys, I don't know. I mean. 477 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,400 Speaker 3: I got Mary Kelsey very young. I was twenty, and 478 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 3: we knew we wanted children, but we purposely because I 479 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 3: was so young and we were traveling and doing my 480 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:13,679 Speaker 3: husband's in the military, a whole bunch of things. So 481 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 3: I was married almost eight and a half years before 482 00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:18,959 Speaker 3: I had my first child. But I can say that 483 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 3: if someone wants a child and they and the other 484 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 3: partner says no, that resentment is going to build. Yeah, 485 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:31,119 Speaker 3: and the person that you love so much today, maybe 486 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 3: the person that you resent, you know, two years from 487 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 3: now when you decided or she decides it's too late 488 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 3: and doesn't want children, you know, Susan, I was waiting 489 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 3: for your big s word. They have to talk about it, Nick, 490 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 3: I mean, that's what I would say. You really have 491 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 3: to talk about it, and. 492 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,960 Speaker 1: Absolutely that would be But Sean, I wish you the best. 493 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 1: But if you're that much in love with her and 494 00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 1: she's your person, just keep talking about it. 495 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,080 Speaker 3: Wait a minute, do you not think if he's asking 496 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:04,920 Speaker 3: he said, I don't know if I need to walk 497 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:08,240 Speaker 3: away from a relationship, he's obviously thinking about walking away. 498 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 1: I know that entered his mind because he wants to 499 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: be a dad so bad. 500 00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:16,400 Speaker 2: Well, okay, let's go. 501 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 3: On, go on, Sean. We wish you all the luck, Yeah, 502 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:30,919 Speaker 3: we do. Okay. This one is from Alyssa. She's thirty 503 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 3: one and she's from San Francisco. Hi, Kathy and Susan. 504 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:36,879 Speaker 3: Love you both, and I'm hoping you can give me 505 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 3: advice on this. I met my boyfriend last summer while 506 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 3: traveling in Europe. We instantly connected and it felt unlike 507 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 3: any of my past relationships. Since my trip, we have 508 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 3: been going back and forth, visiting each other in our 509 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:55,640 Speaker 3: respective cities, San Francisco and Rome. I know, really, I mean, 510 00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 3: sounds perfect to me. Okay, I am thirty one years 511 00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,639 Speaker 3: old and really think this could be my person. But 512 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,439 Speaker 3: we still feel a bit far off from moving for 513 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 3: each other because our relationship is still fairly new. We 514 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,400 Speaker 3: talk about it, but it still feels like a thing 515 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 3: in the future. I want to get married and have 516 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:17,479 Speaker 3: kids and worry that this could all implode. We really 517 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:20,200 Speaker 3: love each other and are both doing everything to make 518 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:22,880 Speaker 3: it work, but will the distance be the end of us. 519 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,120 Speaker 3: We have started looking for jobs in each other's cities, 520 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 3: but it feels like a long road and very difficult. 521 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 3: Any advice is greatly appreciated. I don't have any friends 522 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 3: who have been in this situation. Been loving the podcast. 523 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:40,119 Speaker 3: I hope it goes on forever. Well. Thank you listen, 524 00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:42,919 Speaker 3: so do it. Okay, come on, Kelsey, this is right 525 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 3: up your alley. 526 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 2: What do you say, girl? 527 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 4: Yeah? How long have they been together? 528 00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 3: Last summer? So you know, it sounds like it's coming 529 00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 3: up by a year, almost a year. 530 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 4: I don't see. 531 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 5: It's like it's funny because in normal situations, I'd be like, yeah, 532 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,399 Speaker 5: just keep doing in a long distance. If it's gonna work, 533 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 5: it's gonna work. I don't think that you need to 534 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:06,439 Speaker 5: like rush things. But at the same time, like, I 535 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 5: just got gig together, So I'm like, you know, if 536 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,160 Speaker 5: that's your person, like, you know, make the big move 537 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 5: if you feel like that's your person, you know. 538 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,640 Speaker 1: I think they should decide what they want more San 539 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:22,320 Speaker 1: Francisco or Rome. Because they're young, they have to work, 540 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: they need careers. 541 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,880 Speaker 2: So decide what you want to do and who's going 542 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 2: to do it. Yeah, but don't give up on it. 543 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, we give up on it. 544 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,879 Speaker 3: Wait are you? I'm sorry I blanked out it the 545 00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:37,360 Speaker 3: first second. Are you guys saying like I would say, one, 546 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 3: if you pick up and move and I don't care, 547 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 3: I mean personally i'd go to Rome. Yeah, but but 548 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 3: I mean a year doesn't seem like an unreasonable amount 549 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 3: of time for them to make that decision. Does it 550 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 3: to anyone else? 551 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 4: No, I don't think it's no. No, I feel like 552 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 4: that's a long girlfriend. 553 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:54,399 Speaker 3: Go for it. 554 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 5: And then by the time you actually probably have everything 555 00:24:57,320 --> 00:24:59,159 Speaker 5: together with a job and like where you're gonna move 556 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 5: and everything's probably be year and a half so. 557 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 2: And they are starting to look so yeah, keep that 558 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 2: baby keeping. 559 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 3: All right, Well, good luck to you, all right, I 560 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 3: think we have time for one more. Hi, Kathy and Susan. 561 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 3: I'm twenty four and I got married this year in 562 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 3: Michigan to my absolute best friend and the man who 563 00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 3: is always in my corner. It was a small courthouse wedding, 564 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,919 Speaker 3: but we're planning on doing a big wedding in the 565 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,879 Speaker 3: near future. He's not a citizen, so we have to 566 00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 3: work on green card things first and foremost. My friend 567 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 3: that I have asked to be my matron of honor 568 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,480 Speaker 3: was not happy about the wedding and thought I needed 569 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 3: to take more time to make my decision. She tends 570 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,200 Speaker 3: to think I can't make my own life decisions because 571 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,160 Speaker 3: I'm human and have made mistakes. Ultimately, she just wants 572 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 3: to protect me because she was there. She didn't smile 573 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,120 Speaker 3: the whole time and didn't say a word to my husband. 574 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,200 Speaker 3: I don't know how to tell her that I didn't 575 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 3: appreciate it and that I understand that it was from 576 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,119 Speaker 3: a place of love, but I don't know how to 577 00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:00,639 Speaker 3: start the conversation. It made my husband really mad that 578 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,160 Speaker 3: she did that to us and said he doesn't think 579 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 3: she should be at our next wedding if she can't 580 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,159 Speaker 3: be kind to him or support us. Please help me. 581 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,719 Speaker 3: I love your podcast and the both of you, and 582 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,720 Speaker 3: I think you'd be the best equipped to give me 583 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:14,360 Speaker 3: this advice. 584 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 1: Oh I know what to do, baby, yep, Okay, well 585 00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 1: let's go ahead. 586 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,680 Speaker 5: So I'm like, if she's your best friend, she should 587 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:23,439 Speaker 5: be happy for you, right, Like I mean, if you 588 00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,560 Speaker 5: had your question, if she had said something to you 589 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,239 Speaker 5: and you were like, you know, no, like I'm going 590 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,200 Speaker 5: to continue with this wedding and did it. I feel 591 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 5: like she should just support you with that. I mean 592 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,679 Speaker 5: like with my girlfriends. I remember we didn't like one 593 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 5: of my girlfriend's boyfriends an ex that they had, and 594 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:42,639 Speaker 5: we told her and then she was like, well, I'm 595 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 5: going to steal date up and then we're like, okay, 596 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 5: you can make your own decisions and that's that, and 597 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 5: then we became friends with him. 598 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:48,960 Speaker 4: It was cool, but we like, initially it was like 599 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,480 Speaker 4: we didn't really feel that way. I told her. 600 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,399 Speaker 5: She was like, I don't care, and she could make 601 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,000 Speaker 5: her own decisions, you know. But I think that your 602 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,199 Speaker 5: friend should support you and be happy for you, especially 603 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 5: on your wedding day. 604 00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,679 Speaker 1: Right, And she's afraid to say something to her, So 605 00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:04,280 Speaker 1: if she's your real friend, then you should say something 606 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: to her. 607 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 3: Well, Susan I thought, she said, I don't know how 608 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 3: to start the conversation. I thought of you, Susansane, just 609 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 3: say it. 610 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, get to the point came here. 611 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:14,680 Speaker 4: You know, I would write it out. 612 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:16,600 Speaker 5: Maybe first you think about the point you want to 613 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 5: talk about. 614 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good idea that you can try that. 615 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 3: I think the most important thing, though, is you have 616 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 3: found your person. Make sure you put him first and 617 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 3: foremost in your life. That's that's the most important thing. Hopefully, Yeah, 618 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 3: retain this friendship. But golly, how lucky are you that 619 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:40,600 Speaker 3: you found your person? Congrats? 620 00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 2: One last question? 621 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 1: Do you have a best for Kathy and I? 622 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 5: I know you are so fun and I mean, you 623 00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:50,320 Speaker 5: have been putting yourselves out there so much. 624 00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 4: I just continue to do that. 625 00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 5: I like it seems like such an amazing experience for 626 00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,840 Speaker 5: you ladies that I think that's it's like kind of 627 00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:00,560 Speaker 5: like a new you get a new on life. 628 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:00,880 Speaker 4: Right. 629 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,200 Speaker 3: What would your advice be, feared Dad, Because that's where 630 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,119 Speaker 3: I was. I thought, that's a question. I want to know, 631 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 3: what's your advice here? At you? You know you were on. 632 00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm like, do it all, you know, be yourself 633 00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,000 Speaker 5: and experience it all. Be true to yourself. I feel 634 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:14,480 Speaker 5: like that's how I went through. It was just like 635 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,240 Speaker 5: step by step, but I just was very honest about, 636 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:19,159 Speaker 5: you know, what I was feeling. I wasn't like I 637 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,840 Speaker 5: love Joey the first day because I didn't. But whenever 638 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:23,640 Speaker 5: I did feel those feelings, I said them. 639 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,120 Speaker 4: But I don't know if. 640 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:27,399 Speaker 5: I just want him to be open to all the 641 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,760 Speaker 5: experiences that come with it and be open with his. 642 00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:34,919 Speaker 1: Heart and be true to himself, be himself authentically, you know. 643 00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:38,360 Speaker 3: I think that's all great advice. But I also think 644 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 3: if we're being honest, you have to remember there isn't 645 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,960 Speaker 3: that much time always, right, Yeah, you have to jump 646 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 3: in pretty quickly. 647 00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you just embrace it all you know 648 00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 5: what I mean, Like you go through it and you 649 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 5: embrace it all, like every single step, and you like 650 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 5: give it your all. I feel like you talk about 651 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,880 Speaker 5: all the things that are pressing and that like the 652 00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 5: big things about yourself. Joey and I always talk like 653 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 5: we literally dated and verse. You know, we talked about 654 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 5: all the big things, and then now we're finding out 655 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 5: all the little. 656 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 2: Things, which is the important thing. 657 00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just have to ask one more question. What 658 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 3: was the first big thing you told Joey. 659 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 5: I told Joey about all my all my like my family, 660 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 5: and oh I told him. 661 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 4: I think the biggest thing. 662 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 5: One of the first big things I told him was 663 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 5: that I really wanted to adopt and that was a 664 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 5: non negotiable for me. So if he wasn't open to that, 665 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 5: then I couldn't be here. But interesting, yeah, so I 666 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 5: was like, that's a non negotiable for me. I just 667 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 5: feel it, like in my soul that I have to 668 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:38,120 Speaker 5: like adopt at least one kid. 669 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 1: And you had that one as well. Yeah yeah, okay, 670 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 1: but YE want to adopt one. 671 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I want like a million kids. Joey 672 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 4: only once like two. He's like, it's easier to travel. 673 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 3: So I'm like, okay, it is no, no, no no, here's 674 00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 3: the deal. Here's the deal. 675 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 2: Adopted families. 676 00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 3: No no, no, he'll get this. He will. He's a 677 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,720 Speaker 3: sports guy. You tell him that. It's you go for 678 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 3: three kids, because is when you have two kids, it's 679 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 3: a manned a man defense. When you go to three, 680 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 3: it's a zone defense. I'll tell you you go to 681 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,239 Speaker 3: zone once you have Once you have two, you can 682 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 3: go to three or four. It's perfect, you'll get. 683 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,440 Speaker 1: I feel like it was harder with three because I 684 00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 1: had twins after my first my daughter, and then I 685 00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:21,440 Speaker 1: had twin boys, and five is so much more difficult. 686 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 1: Not everybody gets to sit next to mommy one on 687 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,600 Speaker 1: each side, or dad. You know there was always that. 688 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, there were seven in my crew. 689 00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:35,360 Speaker 2: Well that's like beyond yeah seven, you have seven. 690 00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 4: You have six siblings, Kelsey, I have five siblings. So 691 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,200 Speaker 4: like when my mom was aro out, yeah. 692 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you. 693 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:44,920 Speaker 3: Didn't you love the big family? 694 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 4: I love it. Yeah, I love everyone yelling over each other. 695 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:50,840 Speaker 2: You're like Italians down there. 696 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 3: Listen up, Joey, while you're drinking your Cafe Dumont. You're 697 00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 3: having more than two kids. 698 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,080 Speaker 1: So one of the things I saw out there on 699 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: our Instagram and such. I love how you make Joey 700 00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 1: war the eyepath not make him, but he's. 701 00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,200 Speaker 2: Joining you with the ie gel patches. That was so cute. 702 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 4: He like wants to do all the skincare stuff. I've 703 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 4: been like helping him. 704 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:16,720 Speaker 5: He's like, do I use this because of like my 705 00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:18,800 Speaker 5: skin's like this, like and I'm like, yeah, babe, or you. 706 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,800 Speaker 4: Can do this and you can try this serum, and 707 00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 4: he's like so into it. He loves it. 708 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:27,680 Speaker 2: I love it and care take care of his skin. 709 00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 4: Yes, right. 710 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,480 Speaker 3: The biggest thing is using sunscreen, right, he knows. 711 00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:33,760 Speaker 4: Yes, I've been telling him, but he thinks that. He's like, 712 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 4: he's like, I don't get so burned. I don't need it. 713 00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 5: I'm like, that's not even one. Yes, he literally gets 714 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,520 Speaker 5: some burnt so bad. But also it's like you need 715 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:44,200 Speaker 5: it because it's gonna like, I don't know, prect your 716 00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 5: skin and. 717 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 1: Get like this because I never used it until later 718 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 1: in life. We get a little pink and then it's 719 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 1: instantly brown. 720 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 4: Right, yeah, yeah, I'm the same way. 721 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 5: I mean, like he has like his Italian jeans, I 722 00:31:57,920 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 5: have my Hispanic jeens so like we're both pretty so 723 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,080 Speaker 5: our tans by Yes Tony Sunscreen. 724 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 2: Always do yes. 725 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,640 Speaker 3: All right, Well listen on that happy note. That does 726 00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:10,960 Speaker 3: it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. 727 00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 3: Thank you to our lovely and gorgeous woman friend Kelsey 728 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,920 Speaker 3: for joining us and dishing out some great advice. You 729 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 3: are wives beyond your years, Kelsey, Kelsey and you so much. 730 00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 2: Thank you for coming and chatting with us. 731 00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:28,920 Speaker 3: We love you, Kelsey, We love you and your gorgeous hair. 732 00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for joining us, and be sure 733 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,720 Speaker 3: to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes 734 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,040 Speaker 3: coming out every week and we don't want you to 735 00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 3: miss even. 736 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,479 Speaker 1: One, absolutely not. Make sure to submit your questions to 737 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,600 Speaker 1: us so we can talk about them. 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