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You know, we're 42 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 6: going to be around people all the time, and we're 43 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 6: going to have people in our life close to us, 44 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 6: and some of those relationships can bring us great joy 45 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 6: and satisfaction, and sometimes some of those same relationships can 46 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 6: be a source of frustration, and they can be a 47 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 6: challenge in our life. We've got to learn to balance 48 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 6: the two extremes. Have you ever been in love with 49 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 6: someone a moment and then they say something you don't 50 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:23,679 Speaker 6: like and you're mad at them. 51 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 4: That doesn't make sense. We got fickle feelings. 52 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 6: We've got to learn how to balance these things called 53 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:36,239 Speaker 6: relationships and learn to bring out the best in each 54 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 6: other and enjoy relationships. Listen to what the apostle Paul 55 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 6: teaches us in First Corinthians thirteen five. He says, love 56 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 6: keeps no records of wrongs. Love keeps no records of wrongs. 57 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 4: You see, the. 58 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 6: Apostle Paul was telling us, if we're gonna balance out 59 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 6: our relationships and we're gonna enjoy them, we're not going 60 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 6: to be frustrated and irritated. We're going to have to 61 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 6: learn to keep records of the good things. We're going 62 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 6: to have to learn to find the good in our relationship, 63 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 6: the good in the people that we are connected to. 64 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 4: See it's easy to see the worst in people. 65 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 6: Let me tell you that takes no effort, and it 66 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 6: certainly takes no faith. But when we begin to keep 67 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 6: no records of wrong, and we begin to look at 68 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 6: the good. We have a grateful heart. Now think about this, 69 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 6: Love keeps no records of wrong. The only way that 70 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 6: we can accomplish this is to let love rule. 71 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 4: See God is love. He is the very essence of love. 72 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 6: When we think about this for a minute, about God's love, 73 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 6: we think, now, God, if you were to have recorded 74 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 6: our mistakes, if you were to have recorded all the 75 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 6: things that we've done wrong, would you ever have given 76 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 6: us the very best Jesus Christ? Would you have sent 77 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 6: your only son in place of our mistakes. See love 78 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 6: is the essence of Almighty God, and He's put that 79 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 6: love on the inside of us. And the only way 80 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,599 Speaker 6: that we're going to be able to balance out relationships 81 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 6: and certainly enjoy them, is to let the love grow. 82 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:25,039 Speaker 6: I was several years ago. I was right down here 83 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:28,159 Speaker 6: at prayer time, praying with a woman. And she came 84 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 6: to me and she said, Victoria, you need to pray 85 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 6: for me. My husband has disappointed me so much. He 86 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:35,919 Speaker 6: does all these things that I don't like. 87 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 4: Then she pulled. 88 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 6: Up these three sheets of paper that she held in 89 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 6: her hand, and she opened them up, and I began 90 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 6: to look at the offenses on the pieces of paper, 91 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 6: and I noticed that they were written in different color 92 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 6: ink and some were written in pencil. And I thought, well, 93 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 6: why are they written in different color ink and in pencil? 94 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:00,600 Speaker 4: And she said, do you know why? 95 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 6: Because as soon as he does something I don't like, 96 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 6: she says, I'll grab the closest pen or pencil that 97 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 6: I have and I'll write it down as quickly as 98 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 6: I can because I don't want to forget it. And 99 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:22,479 Speaker 6: I thought, okay. I prayed for her. There's only so 100 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 6: much you can do at the altar. Sweet woman, Sweet woman, 101 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 6: you know, she came up for prayer. She was giving 102 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 6: it to God. When I got back in my seat, 103 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 6: I was thinking about it, and I thought, Lord, you know, 104 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 6: if I see her again, I'm gonna tell her, you know, 105 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 6: and then I have all this download what I'm gonna 106 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 6: tell her? 107 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 2: Right? 108 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 4: But I thought to myself. 109 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 6: Wouldn't she be much happier if she would just tear 110 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 6: that list up? 111 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 4: If she wouldn't keep. 112 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 6: A record, a running list of the things. 113 00:05:55,400 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 4: That she sees that's wrong. Wouldn't her life be bad 114 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 4: at her less frustrated? 115 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:06,599 Speaker 6: Wouldn't she operate from a position of power if she 116 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:09,599 Speaker 6: would just tear that list up. Because the truth of 117 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 6: the matter is, the greatest power that we operate in 118 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 6: is when we trust God, is when we say God, 119 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 6: it doesn't matter how many things they do wrong, doesn't 120 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 6: matter if they don't affirm me, It doesn't matter if. 121 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 4: They do the things that I like or dislike. 122 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 6: That doesn't change who I am, doesn't change my destiny. 123 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 4: Because I trust you God, you got my back. I 124 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 4: can love, I can let it grow. That is a 125 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 4: position of power. 126 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 6: When we're frustrated, when we're always looking at what's wrong, 127 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 6: we're at a position of weakness. We're running at a deficit. 128 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 6: Because that's how we're going to operate. We're going to 129 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 6: respond to people in our life from that place. You know, 130 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 6: some of us don't make physical lists, but some of 131 00:06:56,360 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 6: us compile a mental list of the things that people 132 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 6: do when they hurt us. They don't make us feel good. 133 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 6: They do things their way and not our way. We 134 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 6: compile this mental list, and when it happens again, we 135 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 6: add it to our list again. And then when it 136 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 6: happens again, we have this automatic recording in our mind 137 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 6: that says, well, there they go again. They're always going 138 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 6: to be like that. They're never gonna change. There they go, 139 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 6: that's who they are. And you know what, that is 140 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 6: not a healthy place to be because. 141 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 4: You know what happens. It hurts us. 142 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 6: I mean, it not only hurts the other person and 143 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 6: damages our relationships, but it frustrates us. 144 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 4: It hurts us so God, I mean, it's saying. 145 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 6: Through the apostle, Paul, one of the ways you can 146 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 6: balance all this out is to clean the slate every day, 147 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 6: to let people off the hook, to understand the best 148 00:07:57,160 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 6: help you can be to them is when you're operating 149 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 6: of a place of wholeness, happiness, and strength. 150 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 4: Keep no records of wrongs. 151 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 6: Listen, nobody's perfect, No relationship is perfect. Now can I 152 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 6: stop there just a minute, because I've heard that a 153 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 6: lot lately. 154 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 4: Nobody's perfect. 155 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 6: Some people say nobody's perfect, and you know that's why 156 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 6: I do that. 157 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 4: But the truth of the matter is. 158 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 6: We serve a perfect God and his spirit is on 159 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 6: the inside of us. So we should at least set 160 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:34,559 Speaker 6: our sights on perfection. We should at least set our 161 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 6: sights on developing everything that He's put on the inside 162 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 6: of us. Can you imagine walking this earth being soulful 163 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:47,079 Speaker 6: of love, soulful of faithfulness, that nothing shakes you, nothing 164 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 6: rocks your boat. When your child says something or he 165 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,439 Speaker 6: does something that you don't particularly agree with, that you say, 166 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:55,319 Speaker 6: I love you anyway. 167 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 4: Tell me. 168 00:08:57,320 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 6: Can you imagine the response that the people in our 169 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 6: life would have when we love them anyway? Can you 170 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 6: imagine the meaningful conversations that we can have when we're 171 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 6: operating of this place a pure love. 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