1 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: Does anyone else find Jennifer Lopez so much more interesting 2 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: because of Ben Affleck, Like she's the big, mega, glittery, 3 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: shiny pink diamond star, right, But for some reason, he's 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: that to me in their relationship, like he's the one 5 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 1: behind lurking in the shadows that for that reason, my 6 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: eyes are all on him, just his unbothered misshaven zero fox, dispassionate, unflappable, 7 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: usually persona that seems really authentic, the Boston of. 8 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 2: It all, the Duncan of it all. 9 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: You know, he's that guy in college that just doesn't 10 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: give a shit that the girls like because he's like 11 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: half a mess. I just love it and it's so intriguing, 12 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:08,759 Speaker 1: and I know firsthand, like I know firsthand that since 13 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: they were broken up, that he was always the one 14 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: that got away, And it really is an amazing story 15 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: that they're back together. And I'm sure it's flawed and imperfect, 16 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: just like every relationship, particularly in our fifties, Like that's 17 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: when you really realize that every relationship has issues and 18 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: is flawed and requires therapy and work, and it's just 19 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: like a different mold than when you're young and everything 20 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: is supposed to be so pristine and perfect and fairy tale. 21 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 1: And so when the road doesn't take you right on 22 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: that fairy tale, you give up because it takes so 23 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 1: many years to realize as an adult that with divorce 24 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: and kids and imperfections and careers and loss and money 25 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: and in that case, addiction and all that, that like 26 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: life is just beautifully flawed. And I've heard a lot 27 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: of people talk about that. I recently heard Neil Patrick 28 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: Harris comment on his secret to marriage, which is kind 29 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: of saying that, like, if you think it's going to 30 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: go in one direction, then that's not for you. Like 31 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: the secret to success is that it's not necessarily success, 32 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: that it's imperfect, and that you have to ride the 33 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: roller coaster, which was something in the movie Parenthood. There 34 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: was a movie Parenthood, a Ron Howard movie with Steve 35 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: Martin and a bunch of great actors, and the grandmothers 36 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: explaining that she likes the roller coaster and she's kind of, 37 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: you know, it's an analogy. 38 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 2: To life, like that the life is life is a 39 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 2: roller coaster. 40 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: And so Neil Patrick Harris was talking about the secrets 41 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: to his eighteen year relationship and basically, you know, letting 42 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: us know that it's imperfect. And recently Pink was talking 43 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,519 Speaker 1: about her relationship and the twists and turns and when 44 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: she got together with her husband, how she didn't know 45 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:59,239 Speaker 1: anything about commitment or honor in relationship or probably fidelity. 46 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: And you know, they've been on the road together and 47 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: it's a choice. You just made that choice. So j 48 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 1: Lo and Ben kind of are imperfect. And I like 49 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 1: that you sometimes see them seemingly argue on the street, 50 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:13,679 Speaker 1: even though they're probably not really arguing. I saw Kurt 51 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: Russell and Goldie Hawn recently in an interview saying basically 52 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: the same thing, that like, you're gonna cry, you're gonna laugh, 53 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: you're gonna hate each other, you're going to swell, you know, together, 54 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: and then you're going to pull apart. And I think 55 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: it's the people that have all these high expectations and 56 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: think that it's supposed to be perfect and it's supposed 57 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: to be easy. They're the ones that fail and the 58 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: ones that realize that success is knowing that a relationship 59 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: will be fraught with heartache and some failure, and that 60 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: it's about commitment and stick to itiveness if it's what 61 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: you want and if you're on the same path and 62 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: if it's a common goal and if you want to 63 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: be sitting on the bench next to that person, you 64 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: know when you're lucky enough. 65 00:03:57,920 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 2: To be in your eighties. 66 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: It's really that. So there's something about the ben and 67 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: Jen of it that I really like. Like I'm just 68 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: more interested in her now because of him, which is interesting. 69 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: She's always been the peacock, but to me, he's the 70 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: peacock for me in the relationship. I'm just always watching 71 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: what scruffy, you know, sloppy imperfectness he's throwing out there. 72 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 2: I just like it. 73 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: I just think it's also completely hilarious and ridiculous that 74 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: now he's a recovering addict, she's with him. 75 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:35,679 Speaker 2: She's never been a drinker. 76 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 1: Now she has an alcohol brand, and now she's doing 77 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: tequila shots on the Golden Globes red carpet. It makes 78 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: no sense, like either she's doing the shots because she 79 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:46,040 Speaker 1: wants to prove that she drinks, because she's selling a 80 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 1: cocktail or it's just a great time to start drinking 81 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: when you're in a relationship with someone who's an addict, 82 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: which almost ruined their career even though you never drank. 83 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 2: And that was one of your main secrets. 84 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: It's called who the hell knows? Well, we're back in 85 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: the swing of it with twenty twenty four. I do 86 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: feel more renewed than usual. I think it's also getting 87 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:27,720 Speaker 1: older and wiser and just realizing what's important. But this 88 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: was definitely a positive holiday. It made me want to 89 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: slow down, It made me grateful, It made me really 90 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: appreciate being in the moment with my daughter, loving travel. 91 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:45,279 Speaker 1: I have so many different New Year's resolutions, which is 92 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: great because I usually have none. I usually don't believe 93 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: in them, but I just feel that I'm in the 94 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: spirit of just wanting to do better and be better. 95 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: And I would say that I want to work less. 96 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: That means working smarter, not harder. It doesn't mean just 97 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: sitting around. It just means sometimes we flap our wings 98 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 1: and get our feathers all ruffled and get crazy over 99 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: things we don't need to and exhaust ourselves and we 100 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:16,479 Speaker 1: don't really get more dumb that way. In fact, we 101 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: just exhaust ourselves. So just to work more efficiently, I 102 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: was impulsive over the holiday season. I first took my 103 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: daughter on a trip snowboarding, which was planned, but then 104 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: just in the moment realizing how much I had worked 105 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: this year and how I just felt like I wanted 106 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 1: to reward myself and her and just be present and 107 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: be grateful and do something really special for us. I 108 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: just said, let's just go you and I to somewhere 109 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: that is clear water. And we ended up going away 110 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 1: to Turks and Caicos, and I've never really planned a 111 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 1: trip like the day before. In that manner that was 112 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: really special, and it was kind of like I was 113 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: celebrating my success and being able to do that beforetune 114 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: enough to do that, and that I really am about 115 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: the experience of my daughter more than the spoiling. 116 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 2: I refuse to have a spoiled. 117 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: Child, and I'm very much on the case of keeping 118 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: her in line and trying to keep her grounded despite 119 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 1: the amazing opportunities that life with me as a mother 120 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: does provide. 121 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 2: We were an Aspen. 122 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: I saw the first lunch that Brennan and I had, 123 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: or one of the first lunches, we ran into Kyle's daughters. 124 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: Farah Alexia Portia wasn't there. Sophia was there, and it 125 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 1: was really nice, Like it's just crazy to run into Farah, 126 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 1: who's a grown woman who was engaged and has a 127 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: business and is successful, and that I really did know 128 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: when she was four years old. And I can picture 129 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: her with her little short, cute little haircut, giggling and 130 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 1: thinking I was so funny. When she was four, she 131 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: used to giggle at me because I used to be 132 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: just as crazy as I am now with Kyle, and 133 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: like I was the entertainment committee. 134 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 2: And I just remember Farah in. 135 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 1: The back seat of Kyle's big, gigantic Mercedes, like a 136 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: like a big boat that choose to drive, which was 137 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: just funny even then, and Sarah was in the back 138 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: seat and we used to laugh, and we were in 139 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: our twenties, and I think my car at the time 140 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: was a Ford Probe, and oh my god, I remember 141 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: Kyle and I like just going out to nightclubs and 142 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: I remember meeting more Reese and it's just crazy to 143 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: hang out with Farah and then her sisters, and I 144 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 1: really like all of them. They honestly are sweet, They're charming, 145 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: they're nice girls. They were so sweet to Brin like, 146 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: they have a good energy. It's infectious. It made me 147 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: proud of Kyle as a mom. Like I just I 148 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: like it. I love when I'm an Aspen and I 149 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: run into Kyle and the girls because it's like not 150 00:08:54,640 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 1: labs or New York BS, which means probably housewives, BS. 151 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 2: And entertainment industry. 152 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: It's just like seeing them in Aspen is just a 153 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: different element. It is superficial because it's Aspen, and Aspen 154 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:13,200 Speaker 1: has a superficial aspect, but in a very fun and 155 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: the best possible way. And so I just like when 156 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: I see Kyle and like, it's just about us as 157 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,319 Speaker 1: women and how many years we've known each other and 158 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: the history, and you know, we both have our guard 159 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: ups sometimes in life because we've both been in this 160 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 1: space and we've been on different sides of it. And 161 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:33,840 Speaker 1: she's stayed in this genre for such a long time, 162 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: and as a veteran, and I was, you know, in 163 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: and out and fickle and flippant and obviously rebellious about it. 164 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: I was there earlier than her, but she's stayed much longer, 165 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: and we just come from different sides of it. But 166 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: we have a history long before that, which I find interesting. 167 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: And I think that when we're in the nonsense of 168 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: the media and Instagram and TV shows and talk shows 169 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: and press and nonsense, then it can get into our head. 170 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: But when it's just us and we see each other, 171 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 1: we always really care about each other, connect with each other, 172 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: and definitely trust each other. 173 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 2: Like I always am moved by the. 174 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 1: Fact that I know that Kyle trusts me no matter what. 175 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: There's nothing she wouldn't tell me. And you know, over 176 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 1: the years since we were in our twenties, there's probably 177 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: almost nothing she hasn't told me. 178 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 2: And I'm of vault. That's one thing everybody knows. 179 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: And I've said this over and over again, like there 180 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: are people that I've been on the Housewives with that 181 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: I definitely do not care for that. I know things 182 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: about that I would never share, and things about Andy 183 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: and the entertainment industry and the powers that be, And. 184 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 2: I'm just old school with that. 185 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: I'm not one of these people that would ever show 186 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 1: someone's texts or dms, Like I don't believe in that. 187 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: I don't believe in screenshotting something someone sent you. I 188 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:52,440 Speaker 1: just have like a code that is just very very 189 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 1: old school, maybe growing up at the racetrack. Maybe you know, 190 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 1: I don't fuck around and snitches get stitches. So yeah, 191 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: and we know a lot on each other and to 192 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:07,079 Speaker 1: that end, Mauricio was also in Aspen, and it was 193 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: nice to see him. And I'm just, you know, like, 194 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: what goes on between someone and their spouse of several 195 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:17,800 Speaker 1: decades is really no one else's business. Yes, they're on 196 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: reality shows, Yes they've chosen this path of entertainment. Yes 197 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 1: they live in LA Yes they're an Aspen and so 198 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,680 Speaker 1: people speculate about them. But I am definitely moved by 199 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: the fact that they have a history together and that 200 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: they together have raised these amazing girls, and that they 201 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: as a unit despite all the individual elements that unit 202 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: is comprised of, they are a family unit, whether now 203 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: traditional or non traditional, which for a long time, I 204 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: haven't really believed in traditional that much. I think it's 205 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: evolved and changed so much because people are realizing that 206 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 1: they just want to be happy and find their own happiness, 207 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: and people have to be on their own journey while 208 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: realizing that they're in relationship with someone else who's on 209 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: their own journey. So it's sometimes hard for everyone's journey 210 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:11,200 Speaker 1: to align, and sometimes you get off the road and 211 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: get back on and you know, have differences or find 212 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 1: each other again, et cetera. 213 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 2: But I just really like that they are away. 214 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 1: As a family unit. You know, they glued to each 215 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: other every second. No, but they're grown ass women and 216 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: men with grown ass women children, And I like that 217 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: they will have a family dinner, and I like that 218 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:36,839 Speaker 1: they have. 219 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:37,560 Speaker 2: All this history. 220 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: And you do not ever know what's going to happen 221 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: in life, like you really just don't. Who knows what 222 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 1: happens with Kyle Maurice when they're in their eighties and 223 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:51,079 Speaker 1: nineties and their kids have their own kids, and Kyle 224 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: and Maurice have grandkids, Like I just respect and honor 225 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: the fact that they've been together for multiple decades, also 226 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 1: on reality TV, also in LA also in the entertainment industry, 227 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:06,559 Speaker 1: with high profile families, and they have nice kids who 228 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: I like and who I like to run into. So 229 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: that was something that was really nice for me, just 230 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: to see Kyle and talk to her. And also for 231 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,679 Speaker 1: me like I it's very obvious to everyone around me 232 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 1: that I just have nothing to prove and there's nothing 233 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: that anybody has that I want, and there's no money 234 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 1: that can buy me, there's no deal that can buy me. 235 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: I'm really at a place in my life where I'm 236 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: just doing exactly what I want and Kyle and I 237 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: were very honest with each other about different circumstances in 238 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: our lives and careers, and it was just a nice moment. 239 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: So that just felt like really good and clean and connected. 240 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 1: And like I said, I loved seeing Maurice and proud 241 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: of him and his dancing with the stars and just 242 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: proud of all of that. And it was also nice 243 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,439 Speaker 1: to be there with Brynn because Kyle and her daughters 244 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: love seeing Brynn, and it's just crazy that we both 245 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 1: have daughters that, you know, minds my younger, but still, 246 00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: I mean, Portia is only a year or two older 247 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: than Britain, But you know, I just think there's something 248 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:09,839 Speaker 1: about that knowing someone for so long and both of 249 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: us having daughters. So it was really nice to see 250 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 1: them and nostalgic, and I've spent other Christmas Holidays getting 251 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: to spend time with them, and that was definitely a highlight, 252 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: as was the Bomby and me trip to Turks and Caicos. 253 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: And then Paul and I had a really nice grounding 254 00:14:28,520 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 1: trip to Puerto Rico, which is also really meaningful for 255 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: me because I did I think it was like fifty 256 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 1: three planes in and out of Puerto Rico, and I 257 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 1: did myself so many missions between rescuing people and rescuing 258 00:14:41,280 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: dogs and being in the mountains and seeing people up 259 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: to their you know, ankles in disgusting, filthy water and 260 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: they had no electricity and they had no clean water, 261 00:14:52,000 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 1: and it was a real disaster there, and Hurricane Maria 262 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: decimated that island and they are survivors. And it's nice 263 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 1: to see the island, albeit a more privileged part of 264 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: the island and at a resort, but just see the 265 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 1: place in general as a place that's got a spirit 266 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 1: and a soul and that is thriving and that you know, 267 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: I had to intervene with myself and say it's okay 268 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 1: to this time enjoy this island for personal reasons and 269 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 1: you know, like pleasure versus relief work, and to be 270 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 1: proud of Puerto Ricans for being resilient and fighting back 271 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: and rebuilding and being proud. 272 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 2: That was a nice finish to the vacation. 273 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 1: It was really a very indulgent vacation and I just said, 274 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 1: we're doing it. 275 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:44,440 Speaker 2: I'm enjoying it. 276 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: And I had so many different aspects to it, Like 277 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: there was Bret and I and there was cold and 278 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:52,560 Speaker 1: there was snowboarding and you know, working out, which I 279 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: never really do, and like doing something that exerts yourself more. 280 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: And then there was just pure like three day impulsive 281 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,680 Speaker 1: indulgence with Britain. And then there was connecting with Paul. 282 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 1: And you know, I'm going to travel. 283 00:16:04,840 --> 00:16:05,920 Speaker 2: More and I'm going to enjoy more. 284 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: And I'm unapologetic about wanting to work less, work differently, 285 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: work smarter, not necessarily harder. I have a couple of 286 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 1: new developments this year, not only in business but in 287 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 1: personal and real estate. 288 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 2: I got a place in New York City that I'll 289 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 2: tell you guys. 290 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 1: About, and I'm changing locations in the Hamptons for a 291 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: different lifestyle that I'll tell you guys about. But just 292 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: kind of really in the era of doing exactly what 293 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 1: I want to do and what makes me happy, and 294 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 1: sticking with my original resolution of not controlling anyone or 295 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:47,400 Speaker 1: anything else besides myself and of course my daughter, and 296 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 1: not participating in anything that is soul crushing, like we 297 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: do so many things for other people out of obligation, 298 00:16:56,880 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 1: and doing things that we don't want to do that 299 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 1: are obligations doesn't really serve anyone, certainly, not us, but 300 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,440 Speaker 1: it doesn't even serve other people because you're not doing 301 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:08,879 Speaker 1: it out. 302 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 2: Of authenticity and integrity. 303 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,360 Speaker 1: And so to do things out of integrity and with intention, 304 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 1: to me is something that is really really important. Doesn't 305 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 1: mean you're selfish and running around not doing things for 306 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: other people. It just means that if you are doing 307 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 1: things out of truth and not obligation, you'll just be 308 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: a happier person, and the contribution of being happier is 309 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:35,400 Speaker 1: way greater to society.